BDSM Scene for a young guy?

Hire an escort and ask her about bdsm. Quickest way to get into it and make it a reality. It can be private and the girl will be devoted.

If you don't like it after one experience you can quickly move on with no baggage.

I think the most natural progression is getting some real life experience first (some things can be hot in your head but not in your bed) to get a more refined idea not just of what you like but also of your Dom persona. Then you can join an online community to hear stories about clubs and get an idea of what you're getting into, get some tips etc, before you take the plunge and really go there.

I think the most important part to remember is that you have this conceptual idea of what a "Dom" is like. It's not porn, you're not trying to pretend you're some one dimensional Christian Grey type. You are simply in control and whether you can pull that off has more to do with your power over the person (through their submissiveness and your dominance) than whether you look/sound like the idealized Dom you picture.

Also, if it's any encouragement, subs are much more common than Doms, so you should be welcomed in those places.

join fetlife
find a way to socialize with people from there
try it out
see how you like it

I tried it once aswell, because i imagined i couldl ike it, because im pretty kinky. Went there, looked for meetups and found a bondage course, wrote them, that i had nobody to go with (they are super strict in not letting any single guys go anywhere, touch or sometimes even talk to women) and when there was a girl with no partner wanting to go there aswell, he matched us. Was pretty nice, but nothing too special for me. but I later had a ONS with that girl and found out, that i dont get any pleasure from causing pain or commanding.