How does one ACTUALLY friends????

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4 months later now and things are still shit.
3 weeks into a new office job I haven't felt so alone in such a mundane atmosphere.
Come home and i'm simply not engaged. I can meet girls and whatnot through apps or whatever but i'm simply just trying to find people my age who are into music/art and i can make stuff with(i'm into the local punk/art scene here)
I haven't been to a show by myself in forever.I used to go to shows by myself all the time when i was 16 and was never able to make friends.
I know a couple of faces and will nod and say hello but i would never ask to hang out because i don't feel close enough to do that.
I only know one person that lives around who I consider a friend and actively hang out with but we're not close enough and I don't want to overstep in his circle and be this annoying overbearing douche.
I'm out of school and trying to find new similar people.


I know the reality that all people suck and what not. but i'm in a hole in this fucking city.

oof. get cucked right in the balls.

>>17457337
you're in NYC? go to the comedy cellar on their cheapest weekday.

damned, if you're looking for friends, just to have friends, you are doing it wrong.
Define a goal, sth that takes time and dedication. A marriage, a pilots-licence, building a boat. Now start your journey, and after some time see who can help you. You will experience stuff all the time and have someone to talk about. Maybe you can help someone out with their shit, once you've become an semi-expert. If you offer people a chance to feel useful, to have a purpose, they'll like you. At least the not so busy will.
Also most people have a latent alcoholism going on. Use that to your advantage. Invite some in for BBQ and give them a chance to drink. they will be thankful for that, if they're not total asshats.

>>17457368
fuck off.

>>17457333
if it makes you feel better. they don't sound like there were any friends at all. fuck em.

>>17457380
lol yeah. you got buds?? i'll be your bud

>>17457337
what's wrong with the people at work?

you can't be an elitist self-absorbed art jerk your whole life

>>17457408
nothing. they're nice but unrelatable.

>>17457380
I'm not looking for friends just to have friends. hell no. I'd rather be alone than force myself to hang out with some weird assholes. I'm trying to figure out how to find people and befriend people with the same w/o coming off as a weirdo.

>>17457474
same interests**

>>17457400

where da buds tho?

>>17457333
Join a hobby club and talk to people with similar interests, befriend people that way.
Struggling to figure out how to meet people?
Google meetup
Sign up
Join groups in your area
There you go.

>>17457620
>>17457333
you are that guy now op