20M, I feel like I'm married.

*love her to death

>>17454695
>Is it just ‘grass is always greener’ syndrome?
Pretty much. But people like you will always feel that way, no matter who you're with, until you realize how good you have it.

>What should I do? What should I say to her?
There's nothing to say that won't make this end in heartache and a broken relationship. These are thoughts and feelings that you need to figure out for yourself.

>I feel married. Domesticated. I’m not old enough to legally drink for Christ’s sake: I shouldn’t feel like my romantic life has reached its peak!
Routine and lack of spontaneity are the death of any relationship. You both need to put forth effort into keeping things alive. I've been with my guy for over 15 years (he's my first and only) but we still feel like young kids in love. We're always doing silly, fun things, going on dates and exploring new and different things together. When we're at home, we make new food together, watch movies, or play vidya. But we're always having fun together.

How's the sex life? Is she your first? Those can be contributing factors to feeling bored or like you're missing out.

I started dating my soon to he wife when I was 18 (going to be 22 in a few days). She's older (27) and had her early 20s to date (only one sexual relationship before me), so she worries about me feeling like you. She's always held the door open for me to explore sexually as long as I am open and honest about who it is and when it's happening (offered to join in too). It's not an open relationship per se because she has no interest in anyone else, but she doesn't want me to feel like I "wasted" my youth being "chained" to someone else. I haven't taken her up on the offer because I believe that I'm not missing out on anything. The sex is mind blowing, so I don't believe I'm missing out on anything but anal, and even then we're experimenting with that slowly. I really think that if the sex was bad then I would be feeling like you. There's only so much that sweet cuddling could cover for a male.

It's a true treat to grow together, and I wouldn't want to change anything. Hopefully you find your answers.

>>17454695
The grass is greener where it's watered.

What is the problem with your gf? Not dealbreakers, but what is that you're looking for in other girls? Just a different girl? Or someone less clinging and more outgoing, or something else?

You're idealising a relationship with somebody else because you only see the fun appealing outer shell of a different woman.

Whereas with your wife you're dealing with the real implication of a relationship, which I really do not recommend you ruin.

Every woman is insecure and clingy compared to a man, women who aren't don't care for themselves.

1/2

Thank you all for the swift replies.

>>17454734
The sex is alright. I'm her first, and she's my second. We text each other dirty stories (not pre-written, and thus sort of clumsy ones though), pictures, and drawings, and we've done some light BDSM (choking, collars, improvised restraints, spanking). She likes to be dominated and has been dropping hints about slaveplay and rape scenarios in which I actually surprise her, which I would love but am obviously very cautious about. I have a lot of trouble finishing and think I'm going to quit porn.

Perhaps more important is that the sex happens, very predictably. Week of tough classes, sex on Friday or Saturday, rinse and repeat.

On top of this, she's also a little low energy and has weight like the OP pic, and she's really bad at giving head and riding. I pretty much have to guide her completely when she's on top or it's painful

I think better prepared stories, sex on different days, surprise encounters, exploring slaveplay, and dropping porn would be helpful.

>>17454739
I think a lot of it is the idea of novelty, yeah. But I would like it if she were more outgoing and had a little more confidence, yeah.

>>17454875
2/2

>>17454734
Just to elaborate: we've basically been doing an LDR this summer. She lives in Ohio, I live in Kentucky, and I studied in Germany for almost two months. In one of her letters, she said something about not minding if I slept with another woman, kind of in the same vein as your fiancé's offer. But I don't think she meant it. She apologized profusely for saying it, and when I reassured her, she said "I'm glad you're not interested". I want to talk with her about that incident: I don't know what to make of it.

We got to spend a week together around 4 weeks ago. We'll both be back on campus in about a week. Maybe these feelings will clear up when I see her. Thank you again for the advice...

>>17454695
I don't understand you people
>I love my gf
>but I want other women

And this is from someone who's been in a relationship for 8 years. Yes there are fleeting emotions from time to time, but it shouldn't be this bad. That's what it means to not be ready for a relationship. You aren't ready for long term commitment if this is a problem. It's nothing bad, you just aren't ready for that.

>>17454728
gives me hope. I've only had one gf too and I'm afraid I'm feeling bored of her for reasons. But I don't know if my mind is coming up with these reasons by itself and if this same thing would happen even if she was the most "perfect" girl in the world. I will try harder for her.