Hey /adv/. I have IBS among other problems (tinnitus, depression,

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>>17440443
I forgot: I'm adopted, I've known my real mom for about a year or so now, and I recently fucked up relations with my biological family after they caught my sister cracking a dick joke. This lead them to yelling at my sister for about 2 hours because they thought I was a pedophile that wanted to fuck my sister. My stepdad tried to put on this tough guy act, so I told him to, in short, fuck off and quit pretending like he plays a part in my life, and to quit pretending like he knows how to treat women (he spanks my sister 'jokingly', verbally abuses her for just about anything, her weight, her taste in music, etc. I've seen it in person) and my bio mom threatened to call the cops on me. This gave me a huge panic attack, and even after trying to tell my mom about my condition, she and I haven't talked since then. How do I go about re-establishing a relationship with my biological mom?

I'm going to pass out now so if this thread 404s by the time I wake up I apologize for not answering questions.

And if you've seen a post on here about a guy with IBS before and it sounds oddly similar to my situation: Yes, I am most likely that same guy.

>>17440443

honestly I had no idea IBS could be this bad and effect a person's life this much to the point where they consider suicide

shouldn't the hospital just give you a prescription for pain medication at least?

>>17440487
That's the problem with IBS. It's extremely tricky to deal with, it might make my pain/symptoms worse. I'm trying to get antidepressants soon, but it coukd fuck my stomach up.

>>17440443
Bump.

Do you think your current psychologist is helpful? I have an incurable illness as well, and my psychologist helps me keep hope. Think about what questions you can ask that are at the root of your depression, like how to come to terms with the pain. Tell them you still feel depressed despite the therapy and want to know what to do next. I wasn't hospitalized after saying I have suicidal thoughts "with no intention to carry them out", but I don't know how your therapist would react if you've had attempts before.

You might also feel happier if you can do something to feel like you have more control over your illness. I'm doing something to help myself- exercise. Exercise will not cure me, but I just feel better mentally if I address my illness in some way. It doesn't matter how you choose to help yourself, there are many ways. For example, I'm also writing to researchers that I know are researching my illness. I might not receive an answer, but this stalls the despair until the next thing I try. The only caveat is not to fall into the desperation of trying dodgy "cures" that could make you worse.

Joining an IBS forum might also help. Maybe you can find one other young person with the same disease and exchange emails. It's comforting to know you're not alone. Maybe you could swap recipes and supplements you've tried with them. Someone who doesn't make you feel sadder would be ideal, as this is to make you feel more supported.

Sorry you're dealing with this Op. I hope others can give you better answers.

>>17442117
I've known my current psychologist since I first discovered I had depression/anxiety when I was 13. He's a great guy, and he was also a pharamcologist at one point, so he tries to prescribe me meds that wont fuck my insides up. I have been placed in a mental facility twice before, and here in Florida if you even mention that you want to hurt yourself, most of the time they'll just auto-Baker Act you. So I can't confide in him, as much as I want to. I'll ask him how to cope with the pain and such next time I go, and how I feel depressed despite my therapy.

I try to exercise when I can, but the thing is that not only am I in pain, but the pain adds to my anxiety. I'm scared of going outside because I'm afraid I'm going to have an IBS attack and have to run to the bathroom in extreme pain, or have a panic attack. They're constant thoughts that never go away. Exercise helps take my mind off the pain, and walking around at some points has actually made my pain go away completely, but for some reason I'm so scared of trying to exercise more. And yes, I know what you mean by dodgy "cures". My mother took me to a hollistic medicine place without telling me anything about the doctor other than "they specialize in IBS". The woman would put tubes on my stomach and press against my arm and diagnosed me with a bunch of stuff. I looked it up later and they had links to Scientology. What a surprise.

IBS forums have hurt me, I've found. Everything there is negative. Every time I try to talk with people about it, it's the same thing. They talk about how they've never found a way to stop the pain, and how they're effectively out of action for the rest of their lives because of it. I hate googling anything medical related anymore.

I have a friend with IBS, he was born with it whereas I was only recently diagnosed, and he's trying his absolute best to support me but it feels like I sink lower each and every day.

You gave me some good suggestions. I appreciate it a lot.

Same deal with symptoms. It's stress nigga. Does that shit to your body. You need to simplify things. Drop the LDR, it's nothing but psychological stress. Hit up your friends. Drop the shitbag and block their numbers. Had the same shit going on, and I'm used to a high stress occupation. Dropped a girl who'd been fucking with my head and like magic the symptoms are gone.

>>17442522
Some doctors say it's stress, others say "Oh no you actually have IBS."

Just stresses me the fuck out either way.

And my girlfriend supports me the best she can, it doesn't really cause me stress.

Thanks for the advice though.