How do normies view sex in general?

Like what does it mean to them?

>>17439955
Sex is just sex. It's good, but it's not what all the fucking r9k virgins work it up to be

>>17439955
it's nothing compared to those DUBDUBS

>>17440049
how high does it normally rank in importance compared to other shit in peoples lives for most people

>>17439955
Its nice. But the real magic is when you get the chick you really want in bed. You'll ask yourself if this is real life several times while plowing the fuck out of her.

>normies

Go back to /r9k/.

>>17439955
Well I'm a cripple so YMMV but to me, it's intimacy with my wife and a shitload more exertion for a shitload more of a payout.

It is more than the sum of its parts but, at the same time, it's not the be-all end-all in our relationship. She gets me. I get her. That's why sex feels so goddamn good with her. That being said, we've got shit to do and I fucking hate my libido. It's WAY too damn active.

For me, it's a way to feel close and connected to my bf. Especially good for re-connecting after some time appart. Since we only see each other for a short while every week, we fuck like rabits

>>17440049
This.
So much this.

Sex isn't the holy grail /r9k/ makes it out to be.
Sure its fun but its not the be all and end all of life

>>17440139
Meh, not that high really.

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>>17440308
Do you think people become developmentally stunted if they fail to experience it past a certain point in their life?

>>17440314
Yes. It's natural for humans to have sex, we're wired to do it, and if you don't ever do it, weird things will happen as you become sexually repressed.

>>17440322
How old do you think someone has to be to have that stuff start happening

>>17440314
Nah, it's never too late. I lost my virginity at a late age (26). I had to play catch-up but managed with persistence, and now I have a normal healthy sex life.

>>17440325
sometimes i just feel like im perma fucked
that i missed the boat and its over forever and no matter how hard i try it will never happen
i have to constanly try to bury that doom feeling with keeping myself occupied and constantly trying to self improve because i just dont see any point living anymore if i were to ever think that it was really 100% over

>>17440324
I'd say 30. It's not really about the act of sex itself, it's the fact that you'd get super depressed, jealous, and start thinking weird because you never had sex, and for some people this means creating a fake life with an anime waifu, cuz they can't get real girls. For others it means going on redpill and shooting up a school. But if you have an alright mental state and get along well with others, you should be fine.

>>17440330
How old are you? Don't let it get to you. Once you have sex you will realize it's not this strange mystical thing and become used to it.

>>17440338
19

>>17440330
Just the fact that you're improving yourself sets you way above a lot of other people. It's ok if you fail a few times, just learn from it and keep talking to people. Go to concerts and bars. Try tinder

>>17440314
I was 26 and my wife was my first (not too much pussy clamoring for a cripple in California) and I think I'm relatively normal aside from the obvious shit.

Turbo, go away.

We've already said this to you in a million different ways. It's not that big of a fucking deal. It feels nice. It's fun. But it's not like summiting Everest and having the ghost of Teddy Roosevelt high five you on the back of a yeti. It's just a thing.

Stop obsessing and it'll come. Literally.

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>>17440341
>19
psch, I'm already 26 with no possibility of losing my virginity anytime soon. 19 is young.

>>17440358
>no possibility

How come?

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>>17440356

Still assuming you're Turbo. The patterns are all here. But I feel a nice streak tonight, so whether you are or aren't that guy that reposts this kind of stuff, stop freaking out about this. Stop posting the kind of dark, depressed picture you just did.

By all accounts, growing up, I was a good looking guy. I was just too hard on myself. I ended up losing my virginity to a college cheerleader when I was 20 years old while my friends looked on. I was so concerned about "muh virginity," and when I lost it, I realized it meant fucking nothing. Experiences will vary, of course, but there is no reason to be angsty about it unless you really have something going against you.

>>17440362
Because I'm a huge fucking loser. I have no friends, no interests, no self-esteem, no ability to hold a conversation, no anything that makes a person worthwhile. Why would a girl ever want a man like me?

>>17440370
yeah its me
the picture is way better than any words i can type
its hitting me really hard tonight
a lot worse than usual

>>17440374
Is that how you want it to be? If not, you have to start working towards not being such a loser.

>>17440370
how old are you now

>>17440374
also this guy isnt me hes the 26 year old

>>17440385
No fucking shit. Every time I try I end up falling back to my default state of misery. I pushed myself all the way to getting a masters degree to give myself discipline and a sense of achievment, I forced myself to talk to people every day, to go to shops on a regular basis and overcome my social anxiety, I started exercising on a regular basis as well as eating well in order to be a healthy person, I force myself to try new things so that I can find my interests, I fucking listen to the radio and mimic what people say just so I can figure out how to inject emotion into my voice. I get out of bed every morning and force myself through the desire to tie a noose around my neck because I tell myself that one day I'll see some improvement, but I never do. I'm just a miserable person and I can't seem to change.

>>17440413
basically him but 7 years younger no degree and no noose urge yet

im terrified that ill be like him that this wont end

>>17440408

I turn 30 a week from today. It's been a little under 10 years since I lost my virginity. I've had plenty of success stories since, but I was honestly angsty about this shit too. It wasn't until I stopped panicking about it that it ended.

>>17440413

Man, that really sucks. You've written some stupid shit in the past, but no one deserves to feel shitty or unwanted. It sounds like you're forcing yourself to grow self esteem in the wrong way though, by mimicking people and forcing to pretend you like things you don't like. Most "cool" people don't listen to top 40, they have a genre of music they're into, and they own that shit. Don't force yourself to have emotion just because you think you have to. Emotion will come.

People say "be yourself," which is true advice, but be your best self. Improve upon what you can to make yourself happy - don't fake it.

I'd buy ya a beer and take you out to meet girls if I could, Turbo. Feel better.

>>17440430

Just realized I wasn't replying to Turbo, but the point still stands. Sorry guys.

>>17440434
its fine
like i said hes basically an older more suicidal version of me anyways

i think the worst of the soul crushing depression has passed for now

ive made threads off and on talking about what ive been doing and its all really similar to what hes doing

went from 270 to 214
arms are becoming visibly vascular
dress normal have normal hair walk normal talk as normal as i can
the other day these guys invited me out to join their little boat rowing club and we were at the gym
wasnt even trying to impress them just wanted help with gym equipment

i dont really feel like typing out everything but anyone who is on this board semi regularly should get what im saying

the other night i was talking to some british guy who basically told me im fucked no matter what
some time before that i talked to some guy from i dont know where who told me I was golden

i dunno

>>17440511
>>17440434
also some guy i had class with last semester saw me the other day at the gym and told me i lost a fuck ton of weight and he could see it

i didnt even ask about it he just told me
also another guy ive known off and on since last semester told me im changing and he likes me a lot more now
still feel like shit

my younger brother is literally making himself go to the gym just because he wants to be like me because of how much weight ive lost and the muscle im building
he wont admit it and he still talks shit to me half the time but I can tell, plus my mom told me that he told her that my arms were getting vascular and he could see it
my brother is actually trying to emulate me


why would anyone want to emulate a 19 year old virgin just because of veiny arms

>>17440049

This.
In high school it was a race within my peer groups to loose our virginities. But after the first 10? times it starts to be generally tedious and annoying.

Unless you are doing it for a reason (Like to impress a date, or as some kind of payment/service) I'd rather just touch myself, You get to watch/think about what you want, take it at your own pace and you don't have to worry about your skills and stamina or annoying/dissapointing your partner/s.

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>>17440521
even making myself get a tan so that people dont dislike me for being too pale

>>17440544
the same people that mocked me for being a virgin in highschool werent virgins

>>17440341
meh, you're still really young. so many people i knew where stil virgins at 19. if you're so desperate, date a fat girl for a bit and fuck her.

Everything is a subjective experience. Not even everyone loves music or food equally, so it's the same for sex.

Having said that, there's sex and sex. What is amazing about sex is acting on a strong attraction with someone you're compatible with. Penis in vagina is no magical thing.

If you're talking about being a bit drunk, picking up a girl you're reasonably attracted to, and then awkwardly going for it - that's not going to be great. There's all the pressure and awkwardness (you'd be surprised at how much noise sex and moist skin slipping makes) with just the egostroke that you got the girl to spread for you (if you can even enjoy that right in the middle of everything), and other than that it's a wet, soft hole that doesn't grip you as tightly or precisely as your hand can. You might fumble around with (lack of?) eye contact, how to navigate her body and so on.
Some people are cut out for this. Some people love the thrill of the strange body and the power of having scored. Most people feel some level of discomfort there.

Then amazing sex with someone you love and feel ridiculously attracted to... there is no comparison. It's like the difference between great literature and fanfiction.
There is no worldly sensation I know of that I would pick over it.

>>17440413
have you tried actually dating a girl though? most people dont know how to talk with others really, most people just talk shit. the only difference between you and other people is that you lack confidence. i always see people on here saying shit like "meh, i need to be interesting to get a gf".

There's sex, there's great sex, and then there's bad sex.

Sex is okay. Usually you get off. Nothing special. Once in awhile it's better than expected.

Great sex is few and far in between, and usually when it's on the table, you're capable of moving mountains to get to it. Memories will last forever, vague ones at least. I.E. She sucked amazing dick, or best pussy I ever had.

Bad sex is just that. Some incompatible meeting between two where it just doesn't work. Pussy is loose, dick doesn't get hard, yadda yadda, usually a one night rebound type of stand.

Jerking off though.. Oh man. It's only as good as you want it to be. Whether it's a quick 30 second rush before the roommate gets home, or the dim the lights, rick james in the background, full screen just warmed up for 2 hours on /gif/ hunting for the perfect video type shit.


Over all, the consistency of jerking off is the GOAT. And there's never been a chick that could do exactly what I want, when I want it like my hand can. But, damn some of those great sex tier blowjobs if I could order those on demand that would be where it's at.

t. 24 year old with 20+ women under his belt who is in a committed relationship for the past 3 years.

>>17439955
sex is decent although i have had better orgasms from wanking. in ways wanking is better because you can go at your own pace and you dont have to think about pleasuring the other person but sex feels more alot more fulfilling. sex is best when its with someone you actually like. porn makes it seem alot better than it actually is.

I can't ever see how much I actually cum when I cum down a chicks throat, or deep in the pussy, but I know I cum GOATloads when I'm having erotic roleplay with my internet waifuu.

>>17440255
This. Getting the girl you've been lusting after for months is a nice feeling

>>17439955
Sex is sex
Getting laid is over rated, once you lose your virginity and get semi regular sex, you realise it is pretty average.
You can enjoy wanking more, because you know what you like, you know how firm to grip, fast to move and how much movement you do, and you can do that at any time.

>>17440139
>how high does it normally rank in importance compared to other shit in peoples lives for most people
I wouldn't be late for anything because of it, same goes for most other people that I know, at the same time you won't stop it because someone knocked on the door.

>>17441490
Are you seriously telling me you wouldn't skip a meeting or any kind of obligation if doing so meant sex?

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>fap
>oh god I want sex so much
>get sex
>first it's awkward, than it's good, then you get into relationship, get bored
>it's too tiresome, hand is faster and easier
>relationship falls apart
>still fap

>>17441503
>Are you seriously telling me you wouldn't skip a meeting or any kind of obligation if doing so meant sex?
Yes, you will discover this when you are old enough to have a job.
If I have a meeting at work, I'm not going to be late because that doesn't look good, if your manager asks "why were you late?" and you say "I was getting laid" they won't be impressed.
If you can get laid before 9am, you can probably get laid after work too.

I also wouldn't leave a friend waiting for me because I can get my dick wet, your girlfriend won't die if she doesn't get your dick on the regular and if you are worried she will fuck someone else if you don't, she probably isn't relationship material.

>>17441543
When your a virgin any possibility of sex takes total priority over everything else

I would drop everything if I thought doing X instead might actually get me laid

>>17441549
>When your a virgin any possibility of sex takes total priority over everything else
I lost my virginity age 20, getting laid wasn't a priority for me
>I would drop everything if I thought doing X instead might actually get me laid
You don't get laid by doing X unless doing X is paying a prostitute or drugging a girl.
You come across as not really being socialised, try joining a hobby club or something, when you can talk to people and make new friends, talk to women and accept that you won't die if you get rejected.

Also, pick up artists won't get you laid, they might give you a false sense of confidence, but remember that they are getting attention from women either because they are actresses or BECAUSE A FUCKING CAMERA CREW FOLLOWS THEM ABOUT SO THEY MIGHT BE A B LIST CELEBRITY.

>>17441562
No an example is like you made a commitment to do X but you just found out a party is gonna take place at the same time, so you can either go to the party and try to pick up girls or you can do the other thing that has 0 possibility of sex (like get food with a friend or something)

In all cases I'm gonna go to the party or whatever

>>17441579
Doing X to get you laid, but my example is wrong?
Your example of X is a commitment which you flake on to get laid.
In your own words so you don't get confused
>>17441549
>I would drop everything if I thought doing X instead might actually get me laid

Also you won't have many friends if you fuck friends off to attend parties where the only people getting laid are those with SOs.
Seeing as you haven't ever gotten laid, you aren't really an authority on what can or can't get you laid, you don't know best and would live a very boring life, then when a girl does talk to you and ask about your friends, you can say "they don't talk to me because I fucked them off to go to parties because I was desperate to get laid".

Get a hobby that is a physical activity and talk to people.
If you have basic social skills then you can approach women.
If you get rejected a lot, then you are doing something wrong, work on chatting up women until you find a way of approaching them that doesn't result in you being rejected.
There is no quick fix for getting laid that doesn't cost money or involve taking advantage of someone.
Good luck getting laid, you really will need it.

>>17441596
are party hook ups not a thing?

>>17440330
You'll get laid man, just find the right girl. Or a hooker. Not a cheap one though. You deserve better for your first time. Wear a fucking condom though m8

>>17441623
>are party hook ups not a thing?
Yes they are, but the people who partake in them tend to have someone in mind before they go.
If you are going to fuck a girl but need somewhere to meet up that doesn't make it so seedy, then you go for food/to a party then go home and fuck.
Girls don't just fuck someone they have met that night.

>>17440049
>>17440308
This attitude pisses me off. Sex isn't important in the same way that water isn't important. It's fine when you have, hell when you don't.