my marriage is failing

>>17436556
Seems that the answer is pretty clear OP.

What are you really looking for here?

Please leave him before you have children together. I know you think divorce is a bad thing, but it's better than going through 35 years of unhappiness, debt, and children.

>>17436558
I am just hoping to see if this is normal in a marriage. Divorce is high in my family and I didn't want to be another failed marriage. I don't have any kids (which at 28 is a record in my immediate family)

>>17436556

> another fight

your marriage is worth fighting for

1) you should let him know that it is your intent, as his wife, to be the person in his life that meets all of his sexual needs, and all of his intimate emotional needs. you would like to have the opportunity to do this. He needs to stop sharing himself with other women, and he needs to help you understand how to meet his needs

2) you need to make him understand how hurtful his behavior is.

3) if he doesn't care that it is hurtful, or knows that it is hurtful, you should ask him why he is hurting you. you should let him know that he can not weasel his way out of his marriage by being a jerk to you until you give up. tell him that you were serious about not getting divorced.

As said elsewhere - do not have children with him yet. He needs to get his act together.

This is unacceptable behavior on his part, but you should honor the commitment you made to yourself and to him and see if he will stop being such an idiot.

>>17436569
>I am just hoping to see if this is normal in a marriage

it's not uncommon. many men don't think that sexting or trading pics or extending chats with other women is really cheating/infidelity, but it is.

again, tell him that it hurts you, and, that it isn't how a man properly cherishes his wife. Also remind him again that you think you are up to the challenge of meeting his needs and satisfying him, but he has to be willing to work with you to help you do that.

>>17436556

also, you should ask him if his is satisfied / happy, both in his life and in the marriage. I have to imagine that he is not.

ask him then, if he's willing to take steps to improve your mutual happiness? if he is unhappy, he should be willing to put forth effort to improve the situation...

I'm just getting tired,Depression hit hard shortly before my birthday and this isn't helping. I am doing almost everything he asks me to looks like his ideal girl. Tonight we went to see that suicide squad movie, got home and I mentioned the Bottoms of her shorts made her butt look rough and that immediately turned into "You need to lose weight and do squats" I work 8+ hours a day on my feet and am too tired to do anything else. I've been so stressed out that I've lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks.

>>17436598
Probably going to ask that tomorrow after work. because I am worried.

He's not sexually attracted to you and he's banging other women.

Work out or something.

>>17436614

that stinks about being depressed. downer attitude/depression is often much more of a problem for a guy than any imperfections in your body.

what a guy wants is a woman that makes him feel awesome. If you're a bit heavier than you used to be, that's not great, but it's not a deal breaker.

If you're depressed about it (or anything else), that can be a huge problem for him.

he sounds like he is being really mean to you. is that what he specifically says, or is that how you're hearing/interpreting things? There's often a huge difference...