Hey dudes, so I'm in a situation.
>7 years ago
>have girlfriend
>first love, head over heels, ect.
>breaks up with me
>never get over her
>improve life, get fit, get education, get job ect.
>she contacts me
>misses me, she never got over me
>we meet
>she is abusing alcohol, smoking a ton, talks about changing but doesn't show it
>I still get along with her base self, but don't like all her problems
I'm thinking abandon ship, right? Like I can't wait around and hope that she fixes her shit, like she claims she wants to. Time to drop the torch? Or do I stay and help her, and go for the fairy tale ending? I got my own problems too, but I don't think they are spilling over onto anyone else. Anyone think I'm making a mistake by moving on?
>>17436284
>>17436284
Well, well logical choice would be to abandon ship , but really it all depends on the strength of your feelings for her and how much of your precious time are you willing to spend on one person.
Do you have the will to help her even though it might (often does) fail ?
Age is a factor as well, how old were you when both of you met ? How old are you now ?
Anyway, stay strong and congrats on getting fit !
>>17436284
yes bro, just dump her and move on since you've already basically seen how much better your life has been without her
Take her. Mold her to your liking.
Do not fuck up your second chance. What I would give to have a chance with my first love again
CLAIM HER
>>17436284
>ex girlfriend
Stopped reading there
Anything to do with your ex is automatically no.
>>17436547
THIS,
Mine read the same as yours except the abusing drugs and shit. Dragged me in for emotional validation and then fucked off to another state to be with some rando.
Listen to >>17436547
>>17436284
If she had her shit together, I'd say okay, give it a shot. Instead, she reached out to you when she hit bottom and stuck.
Two most likely ways this goes:
1. She doesn't unfuck her life and is just a parasite in your life.
2. She does eventually unfuck her life and leaves you for an upgrade just like last time.
That said... well, it's one of those things you'll regret if you DO just cut her off now, huh? Try a relationship if you must, just don't become her enabler.
>>17436284
>do I stay and help her, and go for the fairy tale ending?
You're kidding us right? Fairtale ending takes a princess not a drunk ass nasty troll
>>17436284
>>7 years ago
fuck me