How to accept reality

>>17430551
Now, the thing that surprises me a bit is that, for an avoidant type, he was able to be vulnerable with me, and we had an amazing relationship. Now i keep thinking that maybe if i could help him, he will realise what he did and we could somehow overcome this, even if not as a couple. But i know this is selfish and i should also try to not give a fuck after what he consciously put me through.

I try not to blame him that much, though, because he did what he thought was best for himself at the moment, but i kind of want off this rollercoaster of feelings. I thought that figuring out what happened would help me accept and move on, but now i don't know anything anymore.

I know that he can't be 'the one' if he cracked at the slightest taste of adult relationship hardships. I know that no matter how much i love him, if he loved me he would have returned by now. I just can't comprehend it and accept it fully.

Partially i wanted to write this down and put it out there.
How do i accept that it happened and just stop thinking about the why's and how's?
How do i really let reality sink in and stop torturing myself?
Please talk to me

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>>17430552
>>17430551
He did the right thing. Long distance relationships don't work and you would have cheated on him with some foreigner eventually. Women can't help themselves. You rea opportunistic sluts to your core.

Move on and go ride the cock carousel.

>>17430578
You cheat if you're insecure and have no self respect for yourself or your relationship. You always have a choice.

>>17430552
live abroad sometime in the future for what reason and when did you tell him?

Sounds like he knew the relationship was a dead end and at some point you would end it or you two drifted apart. He did the smart thing and decided to be proactive instead of stand there and let the truck run over him. Saved you the hassle later and both of you time and future angst

>>17430551
love it when a woman tries to rip a guys balls off him and she believes they are firmly in her purse to do with what she fancies and he steals her purse. Fuckin awesome. What a shocker a man that won't let you get away with it

>>17430705
for studies. he knew of my wish for 6 months or so but it wouldn't have happend until next year.
why couldn't he tell me he sees no future with me though?
we got along really well, it just seems weird for me to give up like that at the first sign of hardship...

>>17430723
i don't get what you're getting at

>>17430551
Your boyfriend isn't aware of what he had, so why even bother? Just move on, you'll find someone who's better. It's hard at first, but it'll get easier later.

>>17430990
But how do I let go? I keep on obsessing about all the things that we could work on and it's fucking with my self esteem. :(

>>17430578
And all you males are cheating scum too! You all eventually cheat because you can't control yourselves once another woman is around. Get off your high horse and geg that stick out your ass :)