ITT Ask the opposite gender

Girls

I have been seriously thinking of trying to seek a local girl after many years. This is kind of a height issue but it's less about "Would you date one" and more, what type of posture and body language would you think would be best suited for a small guy? 5'3 to be exact. I know that attempting to make postures similar to a 6'0 person can come across poorly, so during my interactions what should I try to be doing?

girls, how do you feel about pretty girls on comercials?

some friends talked about setting up impossible standards and all that jazz but to me they are just token pretty faces

>>17424577
I don't really care.
The biggest reaction they get out of me is "shit, this girl is really cute".

Girls: If you're having sex with a guy for the first time do you want him to ask you where he should cum? And when should he ask this?

Basically, cuming etiquette advice requested. Posted this in the last thread but I'm interested in more opinions.

Girls,
How much important is your first impression of someone? I've been a weird, shy person for way too long. Now i'm more self confident and social. There's this girl i like whom with i've always acted uncomfortable around. She probably got that i am (was) a weak person and that i like her. If now, after 4 months, i'll meet her again as a more, well, manly man, will she get used to it or will she always see me as a weakling?

this one is for both men and women

For Men:What is the acceptable amount of body hair on a woman?

For Women:What is the acceptable amount of body hair on a man?

Whats the best way to tell if a girl likes you?
I always have trouble with this and I can only bring up enough confidence when I have some kind of hint that she likes me back

For either: how do I deal with jealousy issues?

>>17424630
>What is the acceptable amount of body hair on a man?
I dislike hair on back and shoulders. I can deal with it tho. Any amount of hair is fine. Trimmed pubes, tho.

>>17424630
>What is the acceptable amount of body hair on a woman
Light downy hair on the arms/face/butt/wherever and a trim bush. No thick leg or armpit hair please.

>>17424602
Reading your post made me want to hug you. Lol.

First impression matter. If it's a noticeable, amazing improvement she might notice it and be happy about it.
I find people who work on fhemselces particularly attractive.

>>17424630
>For Men:What is the acceptable amount of body hair on a woman?
I have no problem with hair around the pussy and asshole. Some thin hair ont he forearms, armpits and legs is acceptable too, if it's not too fucking visible And if she's gonna shave it before it becomes visible.

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guys:
the balls. what do I do with them?

my guy led my hand down towards them when he was jerkin it to finish himself off (srs deathgrip syndrome) and I was kinda clueless. another problem was that they moved up due to him being close to finish, didn't know what I was doing desu.

I know I could ask but I I'd like to hear your opinion

>>17424692
Fondle. Watching a blowjob scene from a porno might actually help here. Do everything they do that isn't punching or squeezing.

>>17424577
they're too polished and I know about the magic if makeup. they're also kinda asexual to me.

>>17424594
don't know if that's an American thing but here in euroland guys usually cum inside a condom inside the girl. it's a nice feeling despite the rubber, kinda personal too.
if you're deluded enough to think pulling out is a legit form of contraception I guess go for the belly and good luck to you.

22 year old girl here.

I'm on my first professional job hunt and most of my friends who are close to my age know about it. Quite a few of them help me out by updating me on when their work is hiring or offer to lend me designer handbags, etc to wear to job interviews. Someone who I have long considered to be one of my best friends has a decent job won't give me job hunting tips or support. Are they a bad friend who doesn't care about me or am I expecting too much?

>>17424630
on a man:
I dig a hairy chest but I don't mind a guy who doesn't grow any.

coming from someone who dated a pro cyclist: I strongly dislike the feeling of shaved skin on a guy, anywhere. stubble is terrible on sensitive skin like mine and most guys practically have stubble a few hours after shaving.

trim your pubes with scissors or a dry shaver, also the armpit hair if you tend to smell, that's about it.

>>17424636
it's not always about you.
life was easier after I understood this.

>>17424577
I know it's not possible for me to look like them and now that I'm an adult i've made peace with that, but as a kid, preteen etc. I think certain types of media like that impacted my self-esteem to a degree. Currently I think the issue I have with it, is that it leads to men having high standards of what women should look like.

>>17424703
Alrighty. hetero blowjobs in porn are always too messy and fast for me. And a tad too degrading.
About the moving up type of balls: is the area at the base of the penis sensitive at all? I seriously couldn't find his balls

>>17424594
In the condom. If we're in a long term relationship and have moved onto raw dogging it then anywhere except my face.

Basically you can cum anywhere you want as long as you ask me about it first and I give the okay. Don't just shoot me with a surprise load of jizz in my hair or something. That's not cool.

>>17424721
Have you asked them for tips? Maybe they didn't feel like they had anything significant or new to share with you.

>>17424737
Google some sort of "art blowjob" thing. There exists sensual hetero porn, believe it or not.

>moving up type of balls
All balls move up depending on the situation. Not much you can do there. I mean, you can physically pull them back down with ease but I wouldn't recommend it just because you might squeeze his balls too hard when doing it. If his balls go up, he's close to cumming. Just back off and wait for them to descend and then get a (very gentle) hold of them.

>>17424721
that's such a passive aggressive girly thing to do.
you can't always expect people to know what you want while you keep silent and wait for them to approach with help - and complain because they apparently can't read your mind... geez.

Guys,

For those of you who have been unlucky in love/past relationships, or have come to think that the majority of women only like assholes, have you considered the idea that you might just have shit taste in women?

I feel like there are plenty of interesting, kind-hearted women out there, but you'd rather go for a psychotic 8/10 than a 5 or 6/10 with a good personality.

>>17424751
homo blowjobs are best blowjobs. art porn girls always look like they're solving math equations or pose for their portfolio instead of being legit sensual (and cock hungry).

good tip on the moving up balls part. was just confused that he moved my hands down there when he was so close anyway. I guess I helped in some way.

>>17424767
>homo blowjobs are best blowjobs
That opinion's a surefire way to lose the respect of any man you're with. I suggest keeping it to yourself.

>>17424770
lol
he knows. and appreciates.

>>17424572
I would think whatever makes you feel/look confident.

>>17424773
Then you've got yourself a faggot. Don't expect him to stick around long.

Single dad here of a beautiful little girl,
question for the ladies on this thread.


Recently my pumpkin has taken it upon herself to be my wingman, trying to set me up on dates with her little friends and at one point even tried to strike up a conversation with a bunch of moms on a park bench giving them a sales pitch about me.


I've asked her about wanting a mom with her antics and she confessed it'd be nice to have one.. Issue is though I honestly don't have the time to manage a relationship, aren't interested in dating at this time with a lot of things moving forward in our lives, and yet I can't help but feel bad at the thought of leaving a blank gap in her life without a female influence. I've asked my female colleagues about it but they don't seem to want to have a part to help out which they shouldn't be inclined to. I live too far away from my sisters and mom as well so that poses another issue.
I feel I'm left with the distinction to become half dad, half mom here. But, what can I be doing to fill that second role here? I'm always there for her emotional needs, always listening, lending support, and drive her to make the best of things.

>>17424776
so he's a homo because his girl watches homo porn by herself?
interesting logic.

lots of girls do it btw, they're tired of seeing potbellied old guys grunting and jack hammering dry vaginas.

>>17424795
He's a homo if he approves of it.

>>17424797
so your girl is homo if she approves of you watching lesbo porn?

>>17424765
You can't decide who you're into, nor can you decide when to fall in love, or who to fall in love with. A psycho 8/10 could very well look like wife-material 8/10 until 8 months into a relationship where she decides to stop hiding her BPD, put you through heartbreak and help you develop trust issues. Especially if it's your first love, as you'll rarely know how to identify what are red flags, what to stick around for, what is worthy of your love, and what you can take before you give up on someone.
You might get lucky with the next one, you might not, but in the end those trust issues have already been created.
The next girlfriend could be absolutely perfect, she might be dreadful, but you can't decide that beforehand. Your next relationship might only last two weeks before she cheats on you, because she lied about monogamy being her interest, and she only wanted to fuck a few times before leaving when you want to think about being serious.
In the end, it cascades. I was with a girl who had a history of like 8 or 9 boyfriends, all of which were utter assholes. One raped her out the front of her house, was stalked by another, some guy found her personal info during an LDR and tracked her down, etc. I didn't blame her at all if she had issues trusting me - after all, if you're only ever bitten by dogs, you're not likely to want to go near dogs, because those are the only experiences you have. You also don't have the experience to decide whether a dog is good or not just by looking at it, as you've clearly failed finding the good ones in the past. So you just swear them off. That being said, despite trying to be the good dog that would never bite her and did its best to make her happy, she still suffered from stockholm and went back to an ex-boyfriend after a random personality flip.

Long story short, you can't just magically find the good ones and weed out the bad ones. It takes experience. Sometimes the experience makes you say 'fuck it' and that's it.

>>17424804
Yes.

For reference: I don't watch any porn.

>>17424747
I did. She said some platitudes like "be patient" and "stay positive". Even the people who don't have any useful advice to give pointed me in the direction of books or things like resume templates which they found helpful. I don't know why it bothers me so much that this friend doesn't want to help me out.

>>17424785
Try doing some unashamedly girly things with her. Makeup, hair, dress up and the like. If even just to satiate her while you get ready to find a woman again.

>>17424785
in my humble opinion: seems like she's seen it in some movie and wants to hook you up because she thinks a single dad needs a woman, as portrayed in several rom coms.
It must not specifically be about her and about filling a second role she might be missing.
Kids don't always know what they want.

>>17424821
in my experience that's actually better advice than freaking you out with generic book tips, especially because you're only 22, it's not like you're applying for an executive position.

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>>17424735
>it's not possible for me to look like them
You know they aren't CGI, right? Lazy sack of shit.

>>17424821
But she still gave you advice. Just because you didn't like what she did as much as what other people did doesn't mean she doesn't care or wasn't trying to help you. And honestly that's perfectly good advice. It might be a little cliche but sometimes the best advice sounds cliche because it's tried and true.

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>>17424735
nvm, forgot something important

>>17424857
take that shit to /r9k/ and never come back.

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>>17424860
Why is everyone triggered by truth these days?

>>17424692
Bite them as hard as you can.

>>17424864
coming from someone who enjoys a fph thread on /fit/ once in a while and lost 20kg myself, I hope your infantile anger turns into something productive one day. like working on not being a spiteful and toxic troll so that people like being around you more.

>>17424563

I'm have a generic 'Boy next door' and can change my 'image' easily; based on my haircut, clothes, voice, mannerisms and persona.

I do this every semester at college and attract different types of girls across the entire spectrum.

Ladies, does this bother/scare you and would you date someone that does that?

>>17424881
I like guys who are at peace with who they are or at least working on becoming a stable and confident character if that answers your question

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>>17424870
>calling someone a troll unironically
But you didn't answer my question, fokken beta. :^)

>>17424765
No

>>17424845
I'm not a landwhale,I wasn't talking about my physique at all. It's that I'm black and a lot of people don't really go for that.

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>>17424935
Because 99% of your kind are degenerates. Yes you'd have it a little harder if you tryed, but you aren't trying, fucking beta.

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>>17424935
>It's that I'm black and a lot of people don't really go for that.
Being a certain race is rather different from having high standards. A black woman who has an attractive body is still attractive.

>>17424935
Why don't you like black women? You're black too so why not stick to your own people?

>>17424733
not them but i also have jealous issues

what the fuck do you mean?

Guys,

I like a guy and I'm almost always the one to message him first. Is that bad? I want to message him everyday but sometimes I feel like maybe I shouldn't. I feel like he should message me first too... I know he's a NEET and only really plays online games and sometimes helps a family member with work so he's not a busy person. What are your thoughts? Should I just not worry about it and message him whenever I feel like it?

>>17425096
I'm basically the guy you described and I think you should message him whenever you feel like it

even if he didn't like you the odds of him being annoyed by your messages are low, if it were me I'd appreciate a girl who took initiative

I know how you feel about the messaging first thing though, but the last girl I had feelings for I rarely messaged first as I wanted to avoid coming off as desperate, so it doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested in you

>>17425096
Ask him if you're messaging too much. How often does he reply, and how quickly, even if he's not messaging first?
Maybe a day or two without messaging would be fine, he might message you back. I had a really cold girlfriend at one point like that. We spoke every day, but she never messaged first until the day I said fuck it and didn't message her for like three days, then she started messaging first a tiny bit more.

>>17425096
Don't message him too often, and if after a while he doesn't start messaging first, it's time to move on. My girlfriend started messaging me first but as we got closer and more involved the person who texted first wasn't her, I started to as well. If he wants to talk to you, he will.

>>17425103
Okay thank you

>>17425109
Sometimes I ask if I'm bothering him and he says no. Sometimes he takes up to 30 mins to respond because he's playing something, but he's always responded eventually. I want to not message him but then I miss talking to him :(

>>17425112
Okay, thanks

>>17425096

He just sounds like a lazy fuck to me.

I mean yeh, if he is actually somewhat interested he should probably message you sometimes, even if it is quite rarely.

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Ladies, music during sex:

Yay or nay?

If so, does your mood determine the genre?

OR

If nay, why not?

For either gender.
I'm convinced porn fried my brain. If I ever had a real sexual encounter with another person, I don't know if it would feel special at all, or if it would even feel real.

And that makes me sad.

>>17425133
Lost my virginity with lotr as the backing track lol. It was slightly comforting, actually.

Any sexy music would work, right? The Weekend, Arctic Monkeys' AM, John Coltrane. Hard rock, maybe not.

>>17425141
this isn't a question but i would just stop watching porn for a while if i were you

i have the same problem and it's hard but that's the only thing you can do

>>17425146
>Hard rock, maybe not.
Power metal all day every day

>>17425141
Take a break from porn. I started getting kind of weird about BDSM and I took a few months off. After that point just passionate sex set me off.

>>17425146

A girl from the animal shelter I worked at invited me to 'get a drink' with me so we got a six pack of something and went over to her empty fathers' house (he was on vacation).

We had some drinks, listened to the radio and danced a little; it was fun.

I asked about the sleeping arrangements but she ignored the question; she suggested we watch a movie so we decided on either: Forrest Gump or Across the Universe.

We ended up picking Forest Gump and soon as I put the DVD in and laid on the bed she straddled me; then kiss and then sex.

I came at the part where Lt. Dan had just survived the storm on top of the shrimping boat and went swimming; he had made his peace with God.

Ah, to be young again.

>>17425163
How old are you?

>>17425156

>Power metal.

Are you a metal-head or just like getting plowed intensely to power metal music?

As a guy, I like:

>Guns N' Roses
>MSI
>Muse
>The Clash
>The Ramones
>NIN

And some top 40's shit but only if it's catchy.

That's how they get me, it's the hook.

See, Poker Face and Hung Up.

Or Black Eyed Peas.

I'm weak, I know.

>>17425179

I'm 30 and winter is coming.

This 'incident' occurred in 2009.

>>17425181
>MSI
I've done this with an ex. It's a strange feeling to fuck to "Faggot" or anything pre IF, but then again,IF is probably the only MSI album that I can fuck to without laughing

>>17425196

"How I Learned To Stop Giving A Shit And Love Mindless Self Indulgence" isn't bad; not their best but not their worst.

Witness
Fuck Machine
It Gets Worse

Are my favorites from the album.

If you want some TRULY intense sex:

Eurobeat.

Not only does it make your car go faster if you listen to it but he makes your guy fuck like a Audi RS7 Twin Turbo Stage 10 (Doesn't get much faster and badass than that when it comes to cars).

>>17425204
I personally love Ass Backwards. A la mode and Casio aren't bad either.

Can't imagine screwing to any MSI though. Too distracting.

>>17424721
>Someone who I have long considered to be one of my best friends has a decent job won't give me job hunting tips or support. Are they a bad friend who doesn't care about me or am I expecting too much?

Like another anon said, she has apparently given you some advice... and given that you're specifically mentioning her decent job... it kind of makes me think you were hoping for something in the realm of connections... and that's why you're disappointed.

In which case: You are expecting too much.

Personally, I'm probably one of the most generous guys around and have absolutely no reservations when it comes to spending for friends, going out of my way to help them, or giving them my time, even when I don't have any, but I have exactly two rules:

1) Never lend friends money
2.) Never mix friendships with business

I have broken the second rule for my best friend once, and he burned me. .I flatout told him I was going on a massive fucking branch and sticking my neck out, and breaking my own internal rules for him, and I gave him a job, and he flaked on me within weeks

I'm not mad at him, but our friendship is much more distant than it used to be because now, I can't help but just feel let down by him and--for the first time in having his back for 15+ years--can't help but feel.... disappointed by him... almost like I see him as a worse friend to me than I am to him, and he can't feel anything but guilty and awkward.

RESPECT OTHER PEOPLES LINES

If she has a line, don't cross it, because it's not one that's easily uncrossed

>>17424692
>guys:
>the balls. what do I do with them?

Having been on this board long enough... Ask him. it entirely depends on his preferences.

Some guys (like me) absolutely love it when they're fondled and squeezed a little hard, some guys find even the slightest amount of pressure to be absolutey ridiculously painful and hate it, some guys like it when girls suck on them, some guys think it's weird as fuck and are grossed out by it. It's too diverse.

Ask him. Because only he knows what he is or isn't comfortable with.

>>17425096
>I like a guy and I'm almost always the one to message him first. Is that bad?

I'll put it to you this way, if it annoys him now, it was always going to annoy him later anyway.

Your communication style is your communication style, and while you can bend it a little, you can't change it completely, no more than he can his.

>>17424692
Give 'em a little sniff.

For both genders.
Is this a good question?

>>17425325
Yes, it's obvious that your insecurities are showing

I saw a girl I work with on a dating site

should I contact her through the site or should I start talking to her in person?
if I start talking to her in person, should I mention I saw her on the site?

>>17425218

Isn't the bass player a chick who dresses up like a school girl and do back-bends and shit?

It's a proven fact that women aren't capable of brutality.

Hanging out with a chick tomorrow(4th date) at a show, how to make a move?

>>17425501

>At a show.

Seats or in the pit?

She'll know within 60 seconds if you're fuckable/dateable.

Physical contact, comrade.

Grazing her arm with your hand; see how she reacts. If that goes well hand on thigh if sitting.

No hand holding, too emotional and too soon.

Kiss on the cheek at end of date and gauge her response to it.; no Delta male tier hugging shit.

After date, wait a few days and text you a good time; ask if she'd to catch a movie with you.

Good luck, comrade.

>>17425493
Msi aren't brutal lol.

If you want to see a brutal female, check out the vocalist of Agoraphobic Nosebleed, Kat Katz. Petite blonde with brutal heavy metal vocals.

>>17425430
That's creepy as fuck if you mention that you saw her on a dating site

Just man up and ask her if she would be interested in hanging out one night

Or flat out ask her on a date if you don't want to pussy foot around your attraction to her

>>17425534
In the seats, it's not exactly a concert it's live concert recording followed by an after party also it's 4th date

>>17425575
the only thing is she is one of the managers of the department I work in, I need to be very tactful about this

>>17425580

Fourth date?

I want a Sit-Rep, soldier.

What kind of vibes you getting from her?

Any physical contact yet?

Any flirting?

Anything at all?

>>17425547

What is this garbage?

I've had girlfriends yell at me more brutally both during sex and outside of sex.

What's a guy gotta do to get a girl to fart in his face?

>>17425430
In person, but don't mention dating site.

>>17425679
Some physical contact

Idk about flirting I may just be oblivious or she could be putting out very subtle hints.

She leaves for school upstate in less than two weeks so she may just wanna get laid and have fun before she goes but idk

>>17425740

>Leaves for school.

Give her the dick, now; I'm not even joking.

If you Delta tier out and let her leave with her ovaries intact then you wasted your time, money and self respect (of any).

>>17425770
Alright man I'm not gonna puss out I'm just gonna go for it!

Any tips on making a move though?

>>17424765
>Men only want bitchy perfect looking girls who act like cunts. They won't even give nice, average looking girls like me with good personalities a chance

Wow it's literally female /r9k/

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>>17425872

At this point, time is a factor.

Be honest with her; tell her you had fun with her, think she's quite lovely and would love to go out with a bang.

OR

Next date, you gently pull her close to you and kiss her; slightly open mouth, no making out.

OR

If you guys are alone watching a movie at home, hand on thigh, slight rubbing, hand holding and kiss her neck.

The neck is almost every girls weak point.

Each of these tactics depends on how Alpha you are and what you feel comfortable with.

YOU need to be the one who makes the move and seals the deal, comrade.

Get it done.

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>>17424765

I had the best of both world; it just happened to be with two different girls.

Girl 1: Was 30, she was overweight, with for 5 years, good job, had a nice condo but didn't have a lot in common and she was horrible with money so I had to keep her in line. She also had a TON of medical problems so I was always taking her to the doctors and hospitals (hospitals give me mad anxiety).

Girl 2: Was 21, had a nice body and DAT ASS, met her at college, pretty, brilliant, was reddit scum but had a warped sense of humor like me, enjoyed spending time with her, had a lot in common, played WOW, nerdy.

So Girl 1 took care of my housing and financial needs but Girl 2 took care of my fun and intellectual needs.

Well Girl 1 found out I cheated on her then I told her about Girl 2 since I knew it was over.

Then Girl 2 got a restraining order against me because I was taking out all my frustrations on her and she got scared.

But now I'm stress free, live in a great house, have money and am finally happy after years of praying for the sweet release of death.

>>17424692

> the balls

I can tell you that personally what is most gratifying is when my partner:

a) asks me what I like and makes an effort to understand and learn how to do it
and
b) shows an interest in surprising me now and then with something new that I didn't expect

If you're not offended check out xhamster blowjob and handjob vids. There is a TON of material out there. Honestly the professional stuff is the least interesting.

For me there is no more intense orgasm than a slow, edgy handjob with lots of teasing, varied pressure, light scratching, oils, etc and that involves a lot of deep massage of the balls and taint....just sayin ;)