I want to stop being a shy wallflower and be able to express

>>17420624
Alcohol

>>17420624
Alcohol and not giving a fuck. Seriously when you dont care about your inhibitions it feels so liberating and you can talk to people with ease because you feel more comfortable in your own skin. Just think of it this way, even if you "mess" up no one will care because they're too concerend about themselves and their lives as well. I personally psyche myself out into getting inscure about this by thinking that im selfish for making it all about me and my problems, instead of considering what they're doing and what they're going through.

Why would you want to? I personally hate socialising for the sake of socialising - I only like to do it when it's important or worth it mutually (for example, talking with friends.)

>>17420649
>>17420626
I'm in OP's position and alcohol does not help. When I get drunk, I get even more introverted. I'm also more likely to act on my introverted impulses and do something like lock myself in the bathroom and play with my phone for the remainder of the night.

>>17420626
>>17420649
Alcohol only helps a little, even if I drink until I feel sick (several pints of beer)

>>17420661
Because it leads to great life experiences

>>17420661
because its negatively affecting my life

>>17420750
>>17420662
Well then forget drinking alcohol and just try not to care about your shyness and inhibitions. It doesnt do you any good if you let your insecuritues take control of you and keep you from having fun.

>>17420764
If it was as simple as trying not to care I wouldn't need advice

>>17420768
It really is a simple concept, but working towards it is hard because these nagging feelings are constant and it sucks. I still feel this way when im out with friends sometimes but i just try my best to block them out and try to have a good time. Ive even made some friends this way, simply because i tried to think more positively about my situation and not let my negative thoughts get to me. Sometimes you have to grab in to an opportunity when you see it too, like if a friend invites you to dance with them you dance, no matter how stupid you might look.

>>17420797
The progress I'm making is way too slow.

How fat are you? the advice really hinges on the answer to that question

>>17421309
underweight, according to my doc

>>17421309
My weight varies a lot, I've been both skinny and fat.

>>17421286
yeah don't expect to be a social god right away, you're still gonna have hang ups. everything takes time and sometimes you're just gonna have to be willing to take risks. don't be afraid to say stupid shit either because like i said here >>17420649
no one cares anyways. in fact, no one gives a FUCK most of the time and won't think much of it anyways. so just try little by little, and eventually you'll just not care and have a good time.

>>17420750
>leads to great life experiences

Citation needed.

Every time I have tried (with an open mind) it has either ended badly or was boring as fuck. Being overly social doesn't add any spice to life. It just tends to lead to a lot of stupid risks.