ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Girls, what are some red flags about guys in your opinion? Also, is being tall THAT important?

>>17420142
>tribal tattoos
>gauged ears
>fat, or hungry skeleton
>treats people in the service industry poorly
>doesn't like animals
>smokes or vapes

Being tall isn't important to me, I dated a 5'4" dude for years.

20 year old female here.

Is it wrong to cut off certain friends in your life because they were from a life phase that you have moved on from? In my case I was a weird outcast who hung out with a group of friends who didn't initially find me interesting but let me tag along and finally grew to like me. That group of friends still invite me out to things but I see that group as a reminder of occupying a low social position. I've since developed better social skills, have a few more hobbies and as a result made new friends who I feel closer to. Am I being insecure for wanting to ditch my old friends because they remind me of being a weird kid in school or do people naturally leave friend groups when they find a new one that fits them better?

Just curious question, are there prostitutes for women?

>>17420168
Ofc. They're called call boys. Pretty sure you can also go to female prostitutes as a girl if that's your thing and she's not homophobic

>>17420174
>go to female prostitutes as a girl
Yeah that's what I meant, sorry for not clarifying. I figured most prostitutes would be against that but I've no idea honestly.

>>17420178
Oh well. I don't have any experience with prostitutes either.

>>17420159
People drop friends all the time. It's perfectly normal, especially at your age.

>>17420168
Yeah, typically hot men who cost a fortune. The women who order them don't pay money for sex as much as they pay for being pampered. Being eaten out and massaged for lots of time having sex all night etc.

>>17420178
I'm sure there are prostitutes who are so grossed out by women that they won't do it, but normally women just go to the same ones as men. It's not like they're attracted to most of their clients to begin with, why would it matter whether it's a man they're not attracted to or a woman they're not attracted to... it's their source of income.

>>17420213
I can't wrap my mind around needing to pay for that. It's not that tough to find a guy willing to go down on you... and anyone who loves you would be willing to give you a massage. To each their own I guess. sounds like bad life decisions if they can't find a partner to do those minor things.

>>17420213
Yeah that makes sense I suppose. I just figured prostitutes are hetero or gay like anyone else and would pick their clients accordingly.

>>17420215
I'm not hetero so my opinion on male escorts probably doesn't count for much but I figure it's more about just being able to shamelessly demand whatever you want from them, the way I imagine it? Like you can just tell him, eat me out for three hours, and he'll do it without expecting anything in return or some such thing? Dunno.

>>17420142
I want to specify that these things aren't deal breakers, but just red flags.

>Poor habits
Doesn't exercises. Smokes, does drugs, drinks a lot/alone. Eats a lot junk food. Doesn't clean after himself, isn't able to cook or do laundry, doesn't sleep regularly. Doesn't shower.
>Stereotypical
Fits perfectly in a group (or makes a conscious effort to be a contrarian). Adheres to an ideology and talks through slogans.
>Overly emotional
Gets upset for everything. Feels like he has it worse than anybody else. Takes everything personally. Can't take criticism, even if it is thoughtful. Gets jealous for nothing. Isn't able to have a discussion. Gets angry easily.
>Passive aggressive
>Treats people poorly/feels superior
>Talks shit about his family or his ex
>Gossips
>Sleeps around
>Gets attached easily
>Compliments me about unspecific things (you're beautiful, you're smart, etc)


> is being tall THAT important?
No. I prefer tall guys, but as long as he's taller than me I don't care. My ex was 5'6".

>>17420215
They are mostly used by middle aged women who are not especially attractive. They typically have limited dating options because of that and the limitations of their life (children, for example). Is it possible to find a good guy? Sure. But a guy who is okay with your kids, likes you a lot, meshes with your lifestyle, is not terrible with money and/or addicted to something, is reasonably groomed and in shape, is reliable and honest and can talk with you easily and make you laugh, AND will go down on you regularly (and not just a few licks as foreplay)? That's another story. The issue is less that they want someone to go down on them and more that they want certain things they prioritize more, and him also being a generous and attentive lover is one thing they cannot afford to also expect.

Not to mention that if you have a busy life, it is a lot easier to pay money for a night of being pampered than it is to throw yourself in the dating game and sift through countless men looking for that specific one. It's easy in practice, harder in theory.

Also of coure these are well endowed, young, muscular men with great stamina that they would never have a shot with in real life.

>>17420240
Or incredibly busy women. I have a friend who spends basically half her life on planes and the other half in meeting rooms and she just sleeps with prostitutes in whatever city she might be. No attachment, no problems, all that stuff.

>>17420207
On the topic of leaving friendships, is it better to do it slowly by responding to their texts/invites less often until we drift apart permanently or to pick a day where I decide to never reply to them from that date onwards? Just asking because I don't have a lot of experience deliberately leaving friendships.

>>17420159
>Am I being insecure for wanting to ditch my old friends because they remind me of being a weird kid in school
Probably.

>>17420159
Your reasoning is incredibly childish and insecure.

>>17420142
Red flags incoming;

>doesn't like kids and/or animals
>rude to people he perceives as below him (be it waiters or another race)
>shittalks his exes
>screaming, name calling and/or breaking stuff during arguments
>doesn't make a fair attempt to get along with my friends or is outright dismissive of meeting them to begin with
>shows a lack of insight in himself when talking about his interaction with others (in his stories, people victimize him for no reason all the time)
>habitually dates women significantly younger than he is
>lots of friends, but zero long term friends
>considers himself to not be responsible for things he did when drunk or otherwise fucked up
>cold, rude or dismissive towards you around his family or friends
>"you're just too sensitive" or a variant is his default reply when you ask him not to do/say something specific
>is a selfish lover
>doesn't respect your no and/or always takes it one step further still before stopping
>uses insecurities and vulnerabilities of yours against you during fights to invalidate you or optimally hurt you
>changes hobbies and interests all the time; does not have consistent life goals or areas of interest throughout his life ("chameleon")
>gives back handed compliments, compares you to other girls and/or points out your physical flaws (including if it's followed by "but I don't mind")

Can't answer for everyone but I don't care that much about height. It would suck if I fell for a guy who was like a head shorter than I am, but my ideal is more or less similar to my height. I never understood what's so great about neck cramps when kissing and awkward sexual positioning.

>>17420159
I can only answer through an example:
I have a few friends remaining from a phase of my life that is long past. These friends are the people who moved on. I have no contact with the people who still live that life. Keep the ones who grew with you, ditch the ones who won't grow.

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Am I being put down nicely? I was kind of iffy on seeing this girl again anyways but I'm just curious

Part 1

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>>17420382
Part 2

>>17420382
>proposed a new date and even a time
She's genuinely just busy and still interested.

>>17420414
Seconding this.

Guys, I realized that I hit/whack people when I'm excited about something, is this annoying and should I stop? Like if I'm bantering with a friend and he says something funny then I'll really lightly whack him on his arm while laughing and he'll be laughing too. Like, I make sure it's a really gentle whack. Or I pick up an empty plastic bottle and whack him with that. No one ever told me to stop but maybe it's awkward to and is it abusive?

>>17420414
This, Jesus.

>>17420447
Nothing wrong with it. I've bruised girls before with that same sort of playful hitting and they never object to it. Just a personality quirk, I suppose.

Serious question,
How do I order a buffet? I am going to a local restaurant with my friends and ill be paying for their buffet. At the restaurant you first have to pay before going to eat. Please form a grammatically correct sentence so that I can say the same to the cashier.

>>17420524
Why do you think you'll need to say anything?
Am i missing something?

>>17420535
I should be saying something like "buffet for 4 people" right? How else would the cashier know

>>17420546
Oh ok.
>Hi, good night, i would like a buffet for 4 please?
I'm assuming you get to the cashier before sitting.

>>17420546
Yes, presuming this is something they have/do every day. If not, you may need to order in advance.

Protip: call the place and ask.

>>17420142
General douchebaaggery and pettiness is a huge redflag for me, bitch guys i have no tolerence for. Also if they take themselves too seriously and have no sense of humor. In terms of looks, im gonna have to go with >>17420151 and say that gauged ears look disgusting, along with unkempt beards and a disgusting odor. Height i dont care for as long as they're taller than me.

>>17420105
Guy here.

>Do girls check out guys on the street? How often? Do you like anything specific?
>When you have a crush on someone do you always give some kind of signals? Do you ever just hide it?
>What's your opinion of guys who aren't shy/socially anxious in the slightest, but generally prefer being alone?

Women what do you like about muscular men? What makes them sexy over a average men that doesn't have muscle?

>>17420159
People drop friends all the time because they grow and find new people during new phases in their life, its completely normal. Im just saying this though becaue Im sort of in the same boat here. Sure your reasoning is a bit shody, I'll admit, but feelings like this are personal and you're just responding to your own sense of personal growth.

>>17420584
>Do girls check out guys on the street? How often? Do you like anything specific?
Sometimes, if they are really my type - tallish, dark hair, green eyes, well dressed, beard.
I try to not make it super obvious.

>When you have a crush on someone do you always give some kind of signals? Do you ever just hide it?
Yes, I always flirt in a pretty obvious way. But I got 5 crushes in 23 years.

>What's your opinion of guys who aren't shy/socially anxious in the slightest, but generally prefer being alone?
100% my thing. I love it.

Ladies: would you go back to your ex boyfriend of a few years and pretend to be "friends" again just to brag about your life?

>>17420587
They feel so big in comparison to myself, which makes me feel very feminine, which i like. It's also so different from touching my own body, which makes it exciting.

>>17420382
>>17420386
You're thinking too hard about this anon like she genuinely seems interested but shes just busy. Just be patient until she has free time.

>>17420593
No thank you. But i know people that do that. So it's a possibility

>>17420587
I am not a HUGE fan of muscles.
They look manlier. They make you feel safe around them. They make you feel small and cute.
Muscular guys are also more aesthetically pleasant (Greek statue level).

>>17420584
Yeah, but little details. If someone looks cute I'll try to glimpse his face. If someone is coming towards me and I like his look I'll try to make eye contact to see what he thinks of me. If a guy stretches or something I'll try to see his happy trail. I'm a bit of a chubby chaser so if I see a guy with a shirt sticking to a pudgy tummy I basically can't help but at least glance.
I don't just stare at random guys' asses or something.

I hide it when I know they're taken, otherwise I give signals. Signals are basically lots of smiling, grabbing every chance to spend (especially one on one) time, trying to make him laugh and teasing him, subtly pointing out things we have in common.

It's fine, nothing wrong with it. I guess neutral.

I'm a guy, my fiance and I are both 23 but we are long distance. She frequently says she wants to finger/peg my ass when we meet, but even though I'm bi I never thought it would be good. I let her finger me once and hated it, so she suggested I buy a toy and try it at my own pace. Months later I did exactly that and it was still fucking awful. The worst part is I have pretty bad anxiety and called her to admit what I did because she might know why my innards were so messed up. Turns out I'm fine but I really regret telling her, even though she said there's no shame, it's hot that I tried it etc etc but I still feel embarrassed to have admitted it.

The worst part is I hadn't previously considered doing it, just one day I had a compulsion to and I don't know why. There was no motive or thought I just felt like I had to.

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My bf told me he wants another tattoo and showed me what and asked my opinion. My opinion is that it's cringe af and he will regret it someday. I just tried to change the topic because i didn't want to tell him what to do and what not to do, but he will ask again and i will need a clear answer. What do you say if someone asks you about your opinion on something they think is awesome enough to have it on their body for the rest of their life whilst you think it sucks?
Pic related. Couldn't reverse search a better resolution cause phone

Girls: What are your favorite haircuts for men?
Give me your general thoughts on male hair too, what you like/don't like.

>>17420684
When he shows you it, laugh. That shit should not be permitted.

>>17420685
A short and clean one who fits them well.

>>17420685
Totally depends on the guy.

Also, read the FAQ.

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>>17420685
I don't like it when you can clearly see that it's a cheap ass cut or diy (everything one clipper Length is horribly obvious...) Other than that it depends on his hair texture and what fits his facial structure. Generally speaking, groomed and well cared for. Personal preference is thick, wavy, dark brown and long enough so i can burry my hands in it. I also like the sides to be short cause it feels awesome to run my fingers trough
Anyways, as a guy i would probably just get pic related

I don't like too sticky products in it since i like to play with a guys hair

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>>17420703
I contained myself. Althought, the tought of him having that on his body made me not want to laugh at all. I asked him if he's sure that's a good idea but he's pretty convinced. Worst thing is he already has pic related (not him
But exactly the same, even placement). I told him it's pretty weird to get the same
Thing twice... I had the idea to find some "tattoo tier" infograph to show him just how bad of an idea this is but then i felt pretty mean. After all, it's his body and he has to live with it

>>17420769
Video game tats indicate he is stupid. Would you trust someone that dumb to do anything important?

>>17420769
>videogame tattoos
I'm amazed you're still with him. Tell him you "don't really like it". The "really" is important. I don't know why but it always has more success than a blunt "I don't like it." He should get the message.

>>17420811
Actually, i have hoped that he sees that one as some kind of silly thing he did whilst young and stupid. The fact that he wants another one of those really made me question his intelligence...
He's a very awesome guy otherwise. I don't know what demon posses him to get such tattoos


>>17420817
I'll have to think of a good translation for that to REALLY get my point across. I tried to find out why he likes assassins creed so much and why that phrase. But he doesn't even have a good reason or won't tell me. Basically he just "thinks the game is neat", which i think is a HORRIBLE reason to get it inked

help me... He has other tats, but i don't even want to tell you, it just gets worse

>>17420223
There are lots of guys who would go down on Attractive women for three hours.
Male prostitutes are rare, I checked back pages near me in a major city. Scores of female escorts and literally one male escort. He was bi and pretty jacked. I imagine it's almost all fat/old women and dudes. If a woman is even a 5/10 she could just go on Tinder or craigslist casual encounters and find a guy to do anything she wants

>>17420863
But a call boy would be 'safer', no?>>17420850
It isn't about intelligence; it's about poor decision making and short sight.

>>17420873
In his case, it is. If it was a one time occurence, i would have said "bad decision making and short sightedness" too, but he's bound to make the same decision again, years later, which points do idiocitiy...

>>17420889
Only if there is regret.

Posted this in another thread but would also like male opinions.

Is it acceptable for a girl to ask her male partner to use a condom during oral sex for fear of getting herpes?

>>17420903
If there was regret it would be "bad decision/short sighted". There's none. To not get to the conclusion it was a bad decision after a few years seems like a symptom of a simple mind

>>17420850
As long as you express dislike in a "kind" way, you should be okay. It would genuinely give me pause for thought though if my significant other asked to get a videogame tattoo but I'm also VERY conservative.

>>17420925
I'm not that conservative, but i had some "getting over it" to do to even start with. I didn't expect there's more to come but probably should have.
I won't make him feel bad about it and choose my wording carefully. I just hope i can do so without making him feel bad

>>17420142
>smokes
>is dickish to other people
>history of bad behaviors (drug problem, cheater, criminal, etc)
>Has a lot of tattoos, namely poorly done ones. (shows he's impulsive and stupid with money)
>over compliments/gives gifts inappropriately (or is a "try hard" in general)
>Has unprotected sex frequently/wont use condoms and relies solely on the girl for bc.

To name a couple.
I don't care as long as he's taller than 5'4, which is most guys anyways.
>>17420447
I'm not a guy but I'd find that incredibly annoying.
>>17420679
What the hell is your question? You tried something you didn't like and your gf was cool with it? Idk why you're embarrassed telling her about it, she was the one who suggested it to you.

>>17420922
I agree with simple mind, but i disagree with it being the opposite of intelligence or incompatible with intelligence.

>>17420943
>is 5'4

Fuck

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I hope this isn't a common question, but how many non-virgin females in this thread take the initiative for sexual intercourse?

>>17420984
First time with a guy or in a relationship?

>>17420989
any situation. I just have no idea how that shit would occur without discussing it first.

>>17420248
That sounds so sad

>>17420996
Well, it's pretty mutual with my bf and me. We luckily have a pretty similar sex drive. Usually we cuddle before sleeping or when watching a movie or just whenever. It's actually a bit more often me that escalates things, but simply fondling him a bit when cuddling/making out is enough of a "hint". We don't often discuss if we are going to have sex now or not. We only do if we have to discuss if there's enough time or where we want to fuck. Normally we just go with it.

>>17420555
>Hi, good night

>>17421024
Looking back it sounds bad, forget about the good night.
Hello sounds less personal too, right? Not my first language.

>>17420105
Any liberal men/ women who prefer conservative women/ men? In terms of politics.

>>17421043
Are you looking for a numale to peg or something?

>>17421043
I lean more to the left because of social issues, but I have conservative stances on finance/economy related things. So I'm fine with conservative guys as long as they aren't the crazy religious type of conservative. The moment anyone starts dragging religion into politics is the moment I nope out of interacting with them. My dad is a staunch republican who thinks religious people are fucking bonkers, so I know there have to be similar dudes out there.

>>17421036
Lol "hi" or "hello" are both fine, but "good night" is what you say when you're going to sleep. You were probably thinking of "good evening".

>>17421057
So is " I would like a buffet for 4 people" a grammatically correct sentence?

>>17421066
I think so. I'm still not entirely sure how whatever you're describing works, but that sounds right.

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Uhh should I rethink my proposal?

>>17421075
No one here is going to read all of that, jesus fucking christ. Ask a question of substance.

I'm 35 and while drunk on endorphines I told a colleague to give my number to a 18 years part timer girl, because it was her last day until september and since I was out I couldn't say goodbye.
The fact is, she actually contacted me.
How should I proceed?

>>17421077
TL;DR sexless marriage

>>17421075
I read all of that earlier. It is very likely someone fantasising.

So, theres a girl I like, but the problem is that she will be my classmate and I'm afraid if things fuck up things will get awkward. Should I find someone else?

>>17420921
Sure. Doesn't mean he'll be happy about it but it's not wrong.
Maybe don't be specific about herpes (or whatever) unless pressed though.

>>17421057
So "hi, good evening, blablabla" is fine?

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Would you ever date a NEET? (To Women)

>>17421114
No.

>>17420142
Red flags:
>Gets upset with me if I don't text back fast enough
>Gets dramatic if I have to cancel
>Won't listen to smaller/nonverbal no's (eg If he teases me and I try to politely show that it makes me feel bad, if I he won't listen when I tell him to stop tickling me, etc)
>Has mental issues but has hever been to a therapist

On tallness:
I have a fetish for height (I like DDlg and age gaps) so height is a bonus. Generally for the average joe I'd like him to be at least 5'5". If shorter, then I'd want him to be fit and strong.

>>17420251
Drifting tends to be less painful than ghosting

>>17420447
I do that sometimes with friends that I am touchy feely with. It'd be good to learn how to control it if it's too subconscious.
It can be interpreted as flirting, since it's an innocuous way to breach the touch barrier. Beware if you're doing this to the opposite gender.

>>17420584
>>Do girls check out guys on the street? How often? Do you like anything specific?
Yep. I usually see 1-3 guys that I check out on my commute in the city. I look when they have good style (I'm a sucker for preppy guys), if they are tough looking (leather turns me on), if they are very fit, or if they look unusual.
>>When you have a crush on someone do you always give some kind of signals? Do you ever just hide it?
I give signals and flirt if I'm toying with the idea of getting with him. I hide it when I know it would be a stupid idea to be together.
>>What's your opinion of guys who aren't shy/socially anxious in the slightest, but generally prefer being alone?
How does he feel about me being social? Is he gonna feel a little left out? Will he ever go out with me?

>>17420921
If he's a one night stand, sure. If you're in that awkard stage of knowing each other, but not quite well enough to trust him to not lie when you ask him, he might get offended.

>>17420984
Yes I do

>>17421100
"Good evening" without the "hi" is more normal, but yes.

>>17421146
Makes sense, thanks bruh.

>>17420962
Hah sorry m8, theres probably a number of really short girls you can go for.
>>17421086
Dude worst case you put up with her for a semester. Don't live your life in fear man.
>>17421114
No. Gotta have ambition with your life, I aint gonna support your ass like you're my child.

>>17421075
At least those bitches show signals.

>>17421056
>I lean more to the left because of social issues, but I have conservative stances on finance/economy related things.

sounds like based libertaria

Ladies, do you enjoy 69'ing?

It seems to be something I only 'like' or 'enjoy' doing I'm feeling super horny/kinky or just want to dominate grillz.

Anyways, do you like it or just think it's akward?

Which it is, in my opinion.

>>17420921

Deal breaker for me; I'd tell her to hit the bricks.

Visually my cock is clean, well manscaped and healthy as a horse (which is weird because horses are super fragile; but I digress) and I allow them to see it in the light before any action takes place.

Just as I'd check out her pussy.

But it's your mouth so eh, your call.

>>17421486
I like the 69 setup; an amazing guy I was once with told me that I didn't have to do a thing, just sit on his face and he'd eat me out. I just massaged and teabagged his balls.

Otherwise, actually sucking a guy off whilst he's doing the same in 69 is just weird and a bit uncoordinated.

>>17421505

Exactly, it's hard to enjoy the pleasure and also focus on giving it.

Unless you take turns like a see-saw; suck me off for a bit then I eat you out...rinse and repeat.

Face sitting is hawt and mouth fucking is just as good, if not, better.

God Bless America

I am male and two women and a gay guy have told me I have nice legs. Could anyone explain to me what that means? I can tell if a woman has nice legs or not, but I guess my heterosexuality prevents me from understanding this.
What is a nice pair of legs to you, femanons? And gay anons, I guess.

>>17421486
No, I prefer focusing on my pleasure or on his pleasure.

My now ex-gf broke up with me almost a month ago. She originally, apparently, pushed some guy away that she was previously dating to be with me. Now, 7 months later, after what was seeming like a perfect future, she tells me about pushing him away, felt bad about it, and dumped me. Less than two weeks later she's with him

I asked her about it, we talked. I was civil, wished her the best, hoped for a good future between them, but in the end she didn't even tell me much about him, probably due to fear that I'd go after him or something. In the end, she was cold as all ice, didn't let any info on the relationship slip, didn't even tell me much about him other than "I feel like we're made for each other (a line similar to what she used with me when we were together)." Yet, she still said I didn't do anything wrong, she was just obsessed with him and went back to him. I never upset her, apparently, she's just cold as fuck.

Honestly, would it have been better if I was an outright cunt and called her a succubus? Using me as a rebound, and all that. If it helps, she's bipolar, probably schizo, and she's probably gone through stockholm in the past after a history of abusive boyfriends.

Kinda convoluted, I know.

tl;dr probably mentally fucked ex-gf jumps boyfriends. Would it be better if I had called her a cunt, or was it a good idea to try to be civil about praise her new relationship?

>>17421546
civil about it and praise*

>>17420984
Pretty much 80% of the time with my ex. With my boyfriend is pretty mutual, I guess I initiate 50% of the time.

Guys.. A couple of days ago I asked if I should message this guy on FB.
Today I did it. I found out he had a girlfriend and they've been together for years. Took the rejection kindly and all that, but then he kept writing me, and I assumed we maybe could become friends instead, since we have a lot in common.
We were chatting for like 8 hours, and by the end we talked on the phone. Thinking back, maybe his mind where somewhere else than "just friends".
Did I fuck up?

>>17421546
Drop contact, she'll be back for you because you make her feel like blablabla.

>>17421496
But you can't see STIs, so how could I be sure? It makes me particularly anxious if I know the guy has had multiple partners.

>>17421514
God bless men who enjoy going down. Best thing was when he'd grab my arse when I was sitting on his face.

>>17421557
Already done that. I ended up asking her if she ever loved me as much as she loved him, and despite all the 'I love you more/you're perfect' shit she would spout when we were together, she told me a blunt "No." in response to my question.

After that, I basically told myself I'm having nothing to do with her, and if she ever does come back, I'm going to straight up tell her she's gonna be jumping through a lot of hurdles to get my affection back. As far as I'm concerned, if I mean as much to her as I imagine she'd say when she tries to make me a rebound twice, if she does come back, she'd be willing to jump through all the shit I did for her. If not, fuck her.

>>17421555
if his mind is elsewhere he might attempt to cheat. Don't ruin the girl's relationship, if he attempts to do that immediately get out and don't bother pursuing him after he inevitably breaks up from cheating because if he cheats on his current girlfriend he is likely to cheat on you.

>>17421580
You should have moved on without needing to talk to her.

>>17421586
>>17421555
Basically this.
As far as I'm concerned, if the guy can show proof that he's asked his girlfriend if it's fine if he is still -friends- with previous girlfriends, that's fine.
But, as a guy, if my girlfriend was talking to ex-boyfriends and she didn't ask me if it was cool, I'd be suspicious. Don't put his new gf in that position.
After all, if you can remain friends after a relationship ends, you either never really loved them, or someone is still in love/has feelings.

>>17421591
In hindsight, yeah, I agree. Heartbreak and feeling led on makes people do stupid things, though. :^)
Can't change the past, though. All I know is I don't plan to have any contact now.

Guys do you think it's weird to see agirl go to a stripclub?

>>17421496
I told them in the other thread that condoms dont actually protect much at all against herpes anyways, but you know that most people who have herpes don't even know they do, because it rarely shows symptoms.
Just sayin for your behalf too, when you're checking pussy you won't always see it. But more than half of the population has some form of herpes anyways. It's not that big a deal.

>>17421601
Hindsight is 20/20.
Learn from the past; that's why we are taught history.

>>17421606
Stripclubs are weird by nature, never understood why they love it so much in murican tv shows.

>>17421606
Sort of.
On one hand, I'd find it hot as fuck. As a person seeing it from an outside perspective, not knowing anything about her, I'd probably assume she was bi, gay, or there because she was incredibly sexually active and looking to pick up guys.
On the other hand, I'd find it really fucking weird if she was there but not looking to be sexually active with people she meets there.

>>17421486
I love it personally, but it's harder to cum from

>>17421486
I hate it. I always end up queefing if I arch my back.

Women, would you date a guy who can't get a job, but is actively searching for one, yet has been unable to get anything even remotely decent in two years?

I've studied a strong field in the past, just find it impossible to get work related to it where I live, and all the part time jobs in my small ass town are filled. Even in nearby towns, as I have a car, they seem to be filled.

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>>17421646
Sorry I lol'd

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>>17421646
>I always end up queefing if I arch my back.

>>17421626
Yeah, I guess so. I just thought it'd be interesting to go to one.

>>17421628
To be honest, I want to go to one because I can. I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but maybe a little bi-curious? I dunno. Kinda wondering what it'd be like to have a stripper do stuff to/with me.

>>17421656
>can't
not really can't m8, just trying. Everyone has down time and ruts, shit happens. Its good that you have a plan and are actively trying, but if it's been that long I think maybe its time to get out of that small ass town.
And also
>remotely decent
Mcfats job is better than no job. Take what you can get until you can move up, you gotta have some income man.
But to answer your question, yes I could date a guy like you, but I would get kinda fed up if it went on for too long. Especially if I had to foot the relationship financially on my own with no end in sight.

I'm suppose to hang out with a girl tomorrow at her place and have some drinks. Is there a good chance that something sexual might happen?

>>17421558

I'm 30 and slept with 60-70 women in my life.

I'd say 60% of them didn't want me to go down on them; usually because they were self-conscious about the smell, if they hadn't showered recently or just never had a guy go down on them.

Personally, I enjoyed fucking them until I came inside them then I'd go down and lick their clit until their had an orgasm and I'd lick their pussy too.

I don't know how or if I should feel about doing that. I mean, it's MY cum inside her pussy or her mouth after I make out with them if they've swallowed.

The one thing that girls seem to enjoy or even love is if I cum on their on their face, tits or stomach and then lick it up and kiss them.

I guess that could be considered pretty gay or even shocking to a lot of the girls since I doubt a lot of guys do it.

Not a fetish for cum, I think I just like to see how the girls react to me doing it.

What say you ladies:

Gay or just strange?

>>17421670
For me stripclubs are for people who don't have enough courage to go to a hooker.
The fat kid who was too afraid to drink a beer so he drank RedBull instead.

That said i don't think we have them here, the clubs we have are a coverup for prostitution.

Is it normal to always compliment your girlfriend if she says she is bad at x/her x looks bad? My current gf has low self esteem and does this a lot. at times I definitely overcompliment at times but I'm working on reducing that. This is not about my girlfriend's self esteem or anything I am just wondering about proper time to compliment as I fear I have gotten into a bad habit developing on my own.

>>17421688
yes but look for signals

>>17421688
probably, i mean I have no reason to invite a dude to my place unless I wanna fuq. But be careful, especially with drinks. Less you """"rape"""" her.

>>17421697
Oh yeah of course. I only plan on "trying" anything unless she is blantly making signals (aka like touching me in flirty ways etc) but at most I would probably just make out. I would feel uncomfortable doing anything more than that if we had both been drinking.

>>17421690
I don't want cum anywhere near my mouth desu. I'll tolerate a little precum while sucking, but I try not to let a dude blow his load in my mouth.
I would also find it kinda gross to see a dude consuming his own cum too. Would def kill my lady boner.
But maybe that's just me.

>>17421676
It's not a case of trying; I apply for every fast food/babby's first part time job every second week.
I worked 6 months in a place, and I only got the job because I settled for borderline illegal means, as they had no positions otherwise. I got paid like.. a quarter of minimum wage doing work that could fuck up your back for life, half my hours were considered unpaid volunteer. I did it for the work experience, as there aren't even internship options available here. I quit as I could just make more money with neetbucks from the government if I really wanted to and the job wasn't getting me anywhere.
I plan to move out of town at the end of the year and go live in the city with some friends if I can't find something here, but I can guarantee it's not a lack of trying.

>>17421676

Let me ask you this:

You have a good job as a Compounding Pharmacy Technician (that's about as high as you can go in pharmacy without become an actual Pharmacist).

And your boyfriend is a full-time college student; he's majoring in accounting. When he's not at school then he's a stay at home boyfriend.

He keeps the condo immaculate, handles the bills/finances, maintains the cars and handles any issues or logistical issues that come up.

The idea is that once he become an actual accounting at a firm and has a good salary, he can be the bread winner so you can quit your job and go to school to focus on becoming an actual pharmacist.

Does this arrangement sound appealing to you? Or would the lack of him working bother you?

>>17421710

Yeah, it's hit or miss.

I do it once to see their reaction and some go crazy while the others do not.

>>17421692
>For me stripclubs are for people who don't have enough courage to go to a hooker.
Oh, okay. To be honest, I don't think I do have the courage to go to a hooker.

>>17421712
Alright, again though I wouldn't phrase that as "I can't get a job" makes it seem like its literally impossible and you're throwing your hands up.
Def get out of there, if there are no jobs then there are no jobs. And you should have sued that last place man.
>>17421714
Nah that sounds perfectly fine to me. It would bother me if he was out of work AND not in school AND not doing any of the housework though.
Like I said, I have no issue as long as we're both pulling our own weight in the long run. Sounds to me like she's just making an "investment" for lack of a better word. I get its hard having 2 people in school at once, so she helps you get through school, then you help her. Sounds fair to me, I would just be skittish about breaking up sometime between then lol. Like it would be a reallll dick move if she helped you get through school and then you dumped her after. But that's a different hypothetical.
I don't care about breadwinner/being taken care of. I just don't want to be the sole earner and have to financially support another human being completely. I always say that if I wanted that, I'd have a baby. And I think it's completely reasonable for my partner to feel the same way. If hard times come and someone loses a job, the other should definitely support them short term while they're down on their luck. But it should never be anything but temporary, unless both parties are specifically ok with this fact and agree to that arrangement (IE, the at home parent/homemmaker).

Do you consider a guy gay if he constantly talks to you but nothing indicating anything more

I just want a gf who plays videogames, or doesn't give a shit if playing videogames is my main hobby when I'm not working, and doesn't need sex 24/7. I used to train in martial arts as a hobby, but I moved from the place I trained and have no desire to start something new. Also want someone who doesn't cheat. Idgaf about what they do otherwise.

What are the chances of finding someone who fits that shit?

>>17421915
What kind of videogames? Does she need to be gud or are casual plebs okay? What's your experience in judo choke holds? What's your meyers briggs type? Where are you located?

It's probably because I only recently started really paying attention to dating but I never before realized how God damn tiny women are. I'm definitely taller than average but it's hardly like I'm a giant, yet a lot of the girls I'm matching with on dating sites are almost a foot shorter than me if not more than that. I know we're not supposed to ask "how do wo/men feel about X?" questions, but is that a difference in height I can expect girls to be down with? There's a chick I'm hitting it off with right now who's a foot and two inches shorter than me and I'm half wondering if she simply hasn't noticed the height on my profile or if she's just cool with being basically eye level with my nipples.

>>17421975
trust me, their used to it.

>>17421975
I THINK TALL GUY A HOT
I want to feel small. A tall guy can often pick me up and fuck me against a wall. A+ fucking.

Honestly though, sometimes I see a ridiculously tall man and I just can't take my eyes off of him. If he's even halfway decent, I just drool and imaging him making me completely subservient.

guys: do you wash the inside of your penis or just the skin is fine and how do you get cream cheese on your dick?

>>17421998
How tall are you talking

>>17421962
It was more of a joke question because I didn't take anyone to take it seriously, but..
Doesn't matter to me. If she plays videogames she's less likely to bitch about me wanting to play them. She could be Korean godtier or asstier shitter, I usually just play casually with friends, unless I have an MMO or something that I feel like focusing on at the time, but overall I'm competitive and tend to play at high level in whatever I do. Whether she's the same or not doesn't matter in the slightest.
I trained 8 years properly in a style of TKD, but it was specialized to be closer to MMA once you got past the basics. Grappling is good.
ISJF-A, apparently. Did some long as hell test just then.
Australia, so I sure as hell know I'm not finding anyone here. It was more of an overall question than actually looking for people.

>>17422011
I am 5'4".
I put "ridiculously amazingly TALL" range in the 6'6"-6'8"+
Lip lickingly good is 6'3"-6'5"
Attractively tall is 5'10"-6'2"
Is good tall range is 5'6"-5'9"
I consider you an equal range is 5'3"-5'5"

>>17422020
ISFJ-A, I meant to say, my bad. Also says it's a Defender or something.

Girls: can you really get unlimited orgasms? and can you go crazy from those orgasms?

>>17422005
>inside of your penis

where do you find women who want to leave the big city behind and live a quiet life in a rural area?

>>17422005
If he loves himself all of it

Piss, cum, sweat i guess, good question

>>17422005
If you're asking about foreskin, I dunno man. I have a mushroom dick without foreskin.
I just wash everything profusely, especially if I had gotten shit like that.

>>17422040
she means the foreskin man. you know that.

and to answer her question, lots of guys don't discuss whether they do or don't have it.

I personally do not and didn't even know about it till my adult life, having never seen any dicks with it till one day on accident.

apparently its not uncommon to have it removed even if you aren't religious by doctors for safety. who knew.

do girls poop?

>>17422005
>>17422046
>Smegma (Greek smēgma, "soap"[1]) is a combination of shed skin cells, skin oils, and moisture. It occurs in both female and male mammalian genitalia.
That's what wikipedia gave me
Apparently you have cheesecake too, we should join forces and open a bakery!

Women- What goes through your mind when a scary looking person passes you on the street?

Girls

How are we suppose to know if you're single or taken if you won't tell us?

if girls like fisting, why not just get a big dick to do you?

I've got a girl who agreed to a date who it now occurs to me probably makes way more money than I do. She's a software engineer of some sort whereas I'm making like 32k per year on a doctoral student's stipend. I wouldn't be surprised if we live in really different worlds but I'll probably go for it anyway.

Women

are you really more horny when you are on your period?

and why do you have period?

>>17422052
This is only true in the US. Nowhere else on the planet do non-kikes slice their dicks unless a medical issue arises.

>>17422036
No. I've gotten a maximum of 2 masturbatory orgasms. Sex gives me different sort of mini-orgasms. Maybe it's the equivalent of being edged. But I can get a buuunch of those.

>>17422070
No! How dare you!

>>17422084
Depends on the situation. Are there other people around? How close are people if I screamed? Did the person notice me? Are they walking towards me?

Sometimes guys do this goddamn chicken thing where, when he's walking towards me on the sidewalk, he directs his path closer and closer, and I'm forced to step into the street to avoid a collision. Usually accompanied by them saying something under their breath as we pass. Luckily I haven't been able to really tell what they're saying.

>>17422086
What is the context to talk about being single/taken? Is this a girl thing or a societal thing? I'm not gonna lie, that's for sure. I tend to use facebook to tell if people are single.

>>17422087
What? 1. I don't like fisting. 2. There is kind of a person who is attached to that penis, who I may not like.

>>17422098
Cool story. What's your question?

>>17422101
I haven't seen correlation personally, but I've heard of other girls who get horny on their period.

Periods are due to the uterus building up a big bloody blanket to craddle a baby. The ovaries release the egg, it hangs around, and then the uterus goes: "WELL?? ARE YOU GONNA HAVE A BABY OR NOT? ...........WELL I GUESS NOT!" And then proceeds to commit seppuku and rips all the blood and mucus from the uterine wall, and shove it down the vagina.

Fun fact: Did you know that the cramps from pumping this blood out is the same muscle contraction as childbirth labor??! :D

>>17422120
>having a period is the same as childbirth labour
thats rough

>21
>no sexual experience
>introverted neet
>start talking to this girl online
>love talking to her
>she gives me the biggest emotional boners
>I want to fuck the shit out of her
>she's in a different country

Is it just the fact I've never been in a relationship?I've never felt such strong emotions before. I am wondering how long until it disappears. I just want to have a nice female friend to talk to.

>>17422101
Definitely more horny, for sure. I think orgasms also feel better.

The blood from period is the womb lining being flushed out, because the ovary releases the unfertilsed egg into the lining and removes it.
Google for more detailed explanation.

>>17422120
i'm just wondering why i get treated like a leper when i go out. a few people have told me i look scary or whatever

i'm just confused

>>17422136
>s it just the fact I've never been in a relationship?
most certainly
try not to make an ass of yourself, my son

women

does a titjob do anything for you?

you're a big girl why can't you just put the toilet seat down yourself?

>>17422036
I didn't really understand what multi-orgasmic and all that jazz meant before I had my first sexual experience. I relisted what the refractory period was, because he couldn't go again even though I was ready to continue.

When I masterbate I can come over and over again. The maximum I have ever came in a session was 8 times, and it was bizarre. Had shaking legs and difficulty standing up and walking after that.

If a woman calls some guy you don't know when she is drunk is that a red flag

what does it say about a girl who wants to stick a finger in your ass during sex?

>>17422142
What's your walking body language like? Are your shoulders relaxed? Are you looking up at the world around you? Do you have w slight smile on? When you pass people do you make eye contact, give them a smile or pic related face, a nod, and look away?

Do you slouch? Are your shoulders tense? Do you frown? Do you keep your hands in your pockets? Do you stare at the ground in front of you? When you pass people, do you avoid eye contact? Or make eye contact and look away quickly without changing facial expression? Or make eye contact and frown or widen your eyes?

women

does sucking dick do anything?

why do women find it ok to get their kitty litter clean but dont want to spit shine my doorknob

>>17422200

She's a faggot

>>17422208
i just walk normally? maybe a little swagger

i used to smile and make eye contact with people, ask them how they are doing and stuff, but i stopped that pretty quick after folks were shying away from me or ignoring me

now i just keep a neutral expression and eyes forward unless i forget and accidentally act freindly

granted, i am 6'2" 335#, but still, when i smile and say hello to a young woman walking her dog, it's shitty when she just looks down at the ground and quickly walks away without saying anything

Whomever has gone to prom (or something similar in other countries),

Do you think you will ever forget your prom date? Do you think someone could forget theirs?

GUYS

does foot size really reflect penis size?

my feet is like a 9/half - 10/half but I have wide feet so go to go one size bigger

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I've reached a crossroads at my life, I'm 22 and I've been skirting with calling a hooker to finally lose my virginity.

I've got just enough money to make and have some left over but I dont know how to drive and I dont have car, I barely go out as a result and when I do go out with friends I get plastered to drown the sorrows away.

At this point I'm telling myself I just want to know what it feels like but another part of me is telling me I'll regret it.

Porn or masturbation just doesn't cut it anymore, I want to know what the real thing feels like.

Wat do guys?

>>17422272
Only the biggest dumbass believes that. And I'm not quite sure what makes you think that a guy, who has probably only seen his own penis, is well-placed to answer that question

Quick question from guy: a girl invited me to go swimming last week at a new water park place, just with her. it was pretty fun but is this the sort of thing girls invite guys to in order to get closer, or is it usually platonic? I realise it's context dependent, but generally speaking is inviting someone to a swim water park thing an excuse to get some alone time to go towards a romantic relationship?

Also: I want to ask her on a day out in a city, but I was the one who started a text conversation last, few days ago. Should I delay inviting her so as not to come off as needy? I'm also a little worried about how to ask her to spend the day out without it being too forward/obvious

>>17422280
>Only the biggest dumbass believes that
this is why we ask questions. to learn

>And I'm not quite sure what makes you think that a guy
you have a point there should have asked the girls

>>17422272
I don't know, but I have 10.5 5E feet and a fairly small penis for my body size.

>>17422286
We have no fucking idea what her intentions are and what they mean. I have two friends, a guy and a girl, who do things like go to the movies together and it's completely platonic.

If you're so concerned about where you stand, just ask her out.

>>17421915
Bumping this question

>>17422237
Prom is literally the lamest, most over rated event ever.

Ladies rate my hobbies

>long walks in the street while listening to music
>reading
>anime & manga
>finding new music and old music
>playing chess or checkers(KING ME BITCH)
>gaming
>card games
>making memes
>eating
>breathing
>watching porn
>jacking off to porn
>edging my self for day for when I do jack off
pretty good hobbies right?

>>17422343
3/10. I'd guess you're 18 based on your hobbies

>>17422349
ok what if you ignore everything from Eating and on?

>>17422355
Everything above it was what made you a 3/10. My guess that you were 18 was based on a combination of your hobbies, plus the fact that you thought it'd be funny to throw in eating, breathing and masturbating as hobbies.

>>17422343

It's all perception. Personally, I think your hobbies are shit. But that's just my view. Others may really relate to you.

>>17422343
hey this is a good idea


r8 my hobbies too /adv/ i know they are great i just wanna brag

>board games
>shooting and collecting firearms
>obsolete/'vintage' electronics (mostly ripping VHS these days)
>cooking
>supposed to have metalworking on the list but I don't have any studio space set up

>>17422363
Boring/10

>>17422237
Already forgot about her and its been 3 months. Prom sucked

>>17422363
does cooking count as a hobby if I youtube most of recipe?

>>17422222
It's pretty uncommon where I'm from for people to say anything. There's a balance between doing the polite nod and looking away quickly and actively engaging them.
What it's saying is "I acknowledge you, I am not a threat, you are of no interest to me"
Women in particular are always wondering about a guy's intentions when they're approached.

I realized I forgot my "pic related" from here >>17422208
http://i.imgur.com/xnIbSsg.gif
It's too big for 4chan's file limit, I guess.

You shouldn't take it so personally that people don't trust you. They don't know you. You're some random stranger.

How do i get girls to talk to me? If I have to start a conversation or text every is she just not interested?

>>17422370
yes
a hobby is a hobby

>>17422366
thanks senpai, what are your hobbies?

>inb4 weed

>>17422222
Btw there is no "walk normally". Everyone walks a little differently. Of course you walk normally for you.
I'm surprised that even after laying out how body language plays in, you don't have the self introspection to be able to analyze how you're coming across to people.

But I guess someone with introspection isn't going to have your problem to begin with.

>>17422359
what if I add cooking and learning new language?

Hey girls, what do you think of my hobbies?

They are:
>playing videogames
>killing myself

>>17422384
If those were truly hobbies of yours, you wouldn't have neglected to mention those. Don't add them now to try and redeem yourself.

>>17422392
You're a shit scrublord at both.
Get gud.

>>17422383
>arms at sides, swinging back and forth
>shoulders back
>if something catches my eye i look at it
>otherwise i usually look at the ground 5-15 feet ahead of me

It's not like a shuffle around with my hands in my pockets, bent over like an old man

>>17422394
>Don't add them now to try and redeem yourself.
you rated it 3/10. just wasnt even sure those were hobbies
I am learning a new language because I am sure someone is talking about me in their native tongue. and cooking....who doesn't like making their own food or trying those recipes from tasty

>>17422396
I'll have you know I've gotten gud at being shit at videogames, and I'm already emotionally and mentally dead.
Only one small step to go until I've mastered the latter, too.

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If I ask a girl out like a week or two in advance and she makes an excuse and doesn't suggest another date, that means she's not interested right?

I figure if she doesn't want to make the time then she probably isn't attracted to me, and it's very unlikely that will change.

Sometimes I'm worried I'm not establishing a sufficient "base" acquaintance to ask somebody out. I've asked out like 5+ girls using the same "get to know on the surface then ask out if interested" method.

ladies

wheres the fourth hole?

>>17422272
>does foot size really reflect penis size?
I wish
I'm a 13 double wide, but my dick falls into the average camp.

>>17420105
>Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

Why on earth would a girl have a problem with a virgin guy?

>>17420447
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02qmZyY8bI8

women

would you ever do a 3some with your mom? if as long as she is passable.

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>>17422525
would you have a threesome with your dad and a girl?

>go on son cum inside her, I'll come in her ass
>i'm proud of you son

>>17421114

Why would anyone date a NEET?

Advice for guy here. There is a cute receptionist at my gym. We seemed to get along well, so I decided to ask her out. She said she had a boyfriend, but is looking to make new friends. I figured what the hell, why not? As I had already changed (I leave my phone in my locker when I go to the gym) I gave her my number. It's been a week and I haven't heard anything. What's going on here? Am I being put on?

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>Met girl on dating app
>we talk for two days before spontaneously going out two days ago
>eat dinner and (her choice) watch a movie
>still texting
>notice she blocked me on the dating app
>she's still texting me, and wants to hang out again this week

I'm confused as to why she'd block me from checking her profile. Do I run a risk of getting played? I like this girl so far and want to see where it goes, but if she's talking to or seeing other men, should it bother me? We're not official after all

>>17422368

>The girl I'm seeing is a HUGE fag-hag.
>Goes to prom with a homo.
>I don't go because I'm cheap.
>Homo drops her off at my place after prom and we fuck like those couples in their cheap motels.
>She goes home afterwords.

Why can't the world be like it was 12 years ago?

So simple and carefree.

>>17422044

Wasting away on the internet with the curtains closed as a means of escapism...

But for real, why do you need a girl who wants to move from the city? Why not go rural and meet a girl?
Plus, if you plan a big move, that should well open up your options with online dating, since distance will be less of an issue if you both move to the same place in the long term.

>>17422513
I dated a guy who was a virgin and had to break up with him. He was great except he assumed that all his problems would be fixed once he started to have sex. So he would consistently ask if I was ready yet. Then he got mad because he thought it was because of his penis size we didn't have sex yet. I just wanted to wait and get to know him. There was a lot of pressure. From him and society. Males are looked at to lose virginity young or something is wrong with them, like they can't be notmal. It's bullshit

>>17422210

The last girl I dated LOVED giving oral.

It made her wet as hell.

If I played with and pinched her nipples during the oral she went off the deep send; the oral stopped and I had to fuck.

But she came in like 15 seconds and then the oral resumed; she could suck for like two hours.

That's what I miss the most about her; easy to please and very eager to please me.

>>17422084

Nothing really. Just ignore them, allow myself space, and stay aware in case I need to react to anything. Not really any thought process, just instinct.

Question for everyone I guess. I was in a very long term relationship (10+ years) how do I move on and open my heart again. I'm not sure if I can. I've been single now for 3 years. I just don't know how to date or love anymore.

>>17422574
JUST DO IT

>>17422574
i'm in a similar situation right now i dont know if i even want to open myself to that stuff anymore

so just give up like i did

>>17422549

Have you been back to the gym since?
She may have just been being 'polite', or maybe she figured "eh, anon's here all the time, I'll see him whenever."

>>1742256
As a virgin myself, I'm curious myself, why didn't you have sex with him?

>>17422591
she wanted him to spend money on her but didn't want to put out like she does for chad, so she had to dump him once he wanted sex.

>>17422574
My boyfriend was married for 10 years before we started dating, I had a boyfriend for 7.
We met while volunteering and became good friends first. Things escalated slowly, we spent time together and after a few months we decided to date.
I think that the best thing you can do is to not really think about it. Spend time around new people, and wait till you meet someone you really like.
It is scary, but worth it.

>>17422588
No. I'm not sure how to handle the situation if I go back there to be honest. I don't think she was being polite, we talk a lot. And she seemed...playful? Idk, I could be wrong, I am on 4chan after all.

>>17422551
If you guys are still texting and seeing eachother then that's a good thing. You two aren't in a monogamous relationship yet. When the time comes talk about it. Say you want to be exclusive and get rid of the online profiles together.

>>17420382
>>17420386
>Girl is busy, but offers to set a different date
Control your thirst, man, Jay-zus.

Girls, I fucked this chick *once* almost two years ago, and I just wasn't feeling it, and tried to let her down easy before telling her it's time to part ways.

Every four or five months she texts me out of nowhere trying to reconnect and I couldn't possibly be less interested, and I'm tired of telling her to leave me alone, it's exhausting.

How do I get a girl to piss off in the permanent sense?

>>17422630
Block her number? Just don't reply?

>>17422630
fuck her again, but really badly

>>17422622
True. I just wonder why she felt she had to block me from checking her profile.

If the dates continue, I'll bring it up eventually. Thanks.

>>17422635
And if she attempts to add me on facebook?

I'm meeting up with a guy that I'm pretty sure has a kink for the slutty schoolgirl/ submissive bdsm type of stuff. Would he appreciate it more if I did braided pigtails or just regular pigtails? Or just a ponytail? And what exactly should I wear (ie how revealing should it be?)

>>17422666
Is he open about his kink? Is the a date? Are you 100% sure about this being his thing?

>>17422664
Don't add her. You do not owe her a reason.

>>17422674
I guess what I'm hoping for is for her to hear, understand, and accept that I don't want her in my life, I don't want her thinking about me, and I don't want her thinking that will ever change.

>>17422671
Well we've hooked up a few times before, and he always says stuff like "I like your socks" whenever I wear knee highs and things like "good girl" whenever we are actually hooking up, so I think there's a pretty good chance that he is. We're strictly sexual so it's not really a date.

>>17422630

Just ignore her.
Same sort of situation with a girl I went to school with. I knew her for exactly 1 year over 15 years ago, and I was openly cunty to her for most of that time trying to make her leave me alone. But she still tries to contact me every couple of years for some fucking reason.
I tried being a cunt, I tried humouring her, I tried explaining to her, and now I just ignore her existence. Seems to make no difference, but the lattermost is the path of least resistance on my end. Haven't actually interacted with her in any way for over 10 years, and the last time she tried to contact me was last Christmas.
She's harmless, just fucking nuts. And I didn't even fuck her or anything, we were just innocent young girls who were kindasorta friends for a brief period.

So enjoy the next couple of decades.

What do guys think of PDA (public displays of affection)?

I got a new bf and I still feel super awkward with hugging and touching in public...
Any ways to ease into it?

I really like him but I'm scared that I still seem to be friend zoning him...

women

random two girls on the street saw me walking and they like my (forgot what It was) while smiling. did I get a legit compliment. or they were fucking with me to give me a false sense of security? I"m fat so that made me suspicious.

>>17422762
I don't do PDA. Don't like seeing it don't like doing it. If I do it is very rare. Tue question isn't about us it's about you. Do you like PDA? If not that's fine just let them know that you aren't into it. If so then just forget about what people think.

>>17422762
Anything more than hugging seems weird to me. But if it's something you want to do, go for it. Unless you're going at it heavy people probably won't care.

>>17422771
no woman will ever compliment a fat man, under any circumstances

sorry anon

My gf shits really loudly. Every time she takes a shit the walls echo with the sound of farts.

Question; how do I contain myself and not make fun of her for it?

>>17422868
People shit man. Some people shit loud. I'm sorry.

>>17422877
People shit, yeah, but I bet most off them don't sound like they stuck a trumpet up their ass.

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Hey girls (also guys with experience desu, but i'd rather like it to be the girls answering)

I'm 18, turning 19 next month, currently in high school. There's this girl i like since i was 16. Last year i finally got to know her thanks to common friends. The problem is i never went one step further because of my shyness: i always thought of myself as a 4/10 and she's like a 8. I'm a Kissless Handless Virgin, while she had several boyfriends (she had at least one, but i don't know if she does anymore because she jokes about having a "boy toy", so it doesn’t look like anything serious). Whenever i was alone with her (we take the same bus to go home) and she approached me i always acted somehow uncomfortable (looking on the floor etc...). I don't know wheter she knows of my feelings for her or just sees me as a wierdo and i don't even expect you to know it. My only question is: have i dun goofed? I feel more confident now and i'm also less gloomy than i was 4 months ago. Is the first impression that important for girls or can they accept that a person has changed?

>>17423067
Guy here.

The greatest thing you can do for yourself is work on getting better confidence in social situations, and otherwise learning how to "roll with it" when you're not sure where a conversation's gonna go or how to direct it. It's an aptitude that will help you enormously in college and in your career as well as your love life.

The second greatest thing is to develop more self confidence and self esteem. Expunge the phrase kissless Virgin from your memory. The reason people might care about it is really because they might try to use it as a sign to deduce something else about you, like you're neurotic or a creeper or whatever. But avoid bringing it up when making your first impression where they're still forming their first understanding of you, and if it comes up sometime down the road, explain it with a straight face in a non self-dismissive manner, not treating it like it's a big deal, and confident that you have already established you're a good guy and not a neurotic creeper NEET. At that point, if there's a problem, it's HER problem.

The third greatest thing to do is to not be a neurotic creeper NEET.

>>17423089
As a follow up, so far as social anxiety is concerned, it doesn't matter if she believes people can change. If you get confident, relaxed, and practiced with conversation, it's going to register a change in anybody's perception.

>>17423089
TL;DR: Don't bee urself.

Ladies:

Does penis girth matter to you? I have a 6.5 inch penis and the girth is not great. Will that be a deal breaker for women? Also, because of my penis size, I've been told that I may have trouble having sex with bigger women but the person never explained why. So... why?

>>17423109

As someone who used to be so socially anxious he would sooner buy new electronics than call customer support to make use of the complementary warranty, I would hardly consider getting more relaxed with people as somehow untrue to myself, unless you want to consider genuine self improvement as a kind of inauthenticity.

>>17423114

Guy here. No, it's not a deal breaker. Relationships work between entire persons, and you are a package deal, and things like your personality, physical appearance, and general compatibility (with them) will matter far more in the long run, and are far more likely to present deal-breakers.

>>17423114
i hope you have a great personality

>>17423125
I have social anxiety too, and I tried to get over it by talking to people more. All that happened was I realised I really, really hate talking to people.

My gf has been shitty with me for most of the day. She opened and read one of my messages on messenger but the app glitched and I didn't get her reply. I know it glitches as its done it before but I jokingly sent 'no reply huh' with a wink emoji. She then assumed I was annoyed (despite this happening before and telling her I was joking) and got shitty. I explained to her that I was joking and not annoyed at all. She has been grumpy ever since and I asked her what was wrong. She said 'just the comments today and you getting really defensive'. I once again explained that I was joking and that my defensiveness was simply explaining that I was not annoyed (I literally said 'I'm not annoyed and I know you wouldn't intentionally ignore me'). Is she being shitty or am I at fault? I really feel shes just being grumpy but would like a 3rd person perspective on it

how do you (both sexes) cope with not being absolutely physically attracted to your SO?

>>17423202
You don't. Physical attraction matters. You don't date people you find repulsive.

>>17423204
Not repulsive, but average. Like, my gf gets me hard and gets me off, but I don't feel the same excitement like when I see a 10/10 chick in leggings when walking the street. There are varying degrees of attractiveness obviously.

>>17423208
Is it something you have to cope with?
I mean - I don't date my boyfriend because he's hot, but because he is an awesome person and my personal 10/10 mentally and emotionally wise. Even if he doesn't look amazing, I don't particularly care. I think he is great. I wouldn't masturbate on the pictures of a guy who looks like him, but who cares?
If you date your girlfriend just to fuck, it might be a problem. But if she has other qualities... What's the problem?

>>17423210
She does have qualities even though we are not that serious yet. We are exclusive, but it's still very early. But even before in serious relationships with girls who were mentally perfect and who catered to all my fetishes, I still wouldn't feel right. I mean, they are right for me and I don't for one moment when I'm with them think 'weeeell this could be better you know'. But when I'm doing some random shit out and about and some truly god tier looking girl passes me I can't help but feel like I'm missing out. I imagine it's some kind of (male?) vanity thinking how when I'm 90 yearas old I would look back on pinnacle of my youth and feel like I really could've done better personally. Like I'm not good enough for it right now. But there is also the sheer attractiveness unmistakenly. When I see a chick with a really well shapped butt I don't think how I want to fuck her, nor anything like that at all. I admire the shape, that's all. However it does make me a bit sad inside because I absolutely can't help but feel like sex with someone like that would be better.

>>17423188
It sounds like she's being irrational. Don't date children.

>>17423089
Anon, i don't have confidence problems anymore (at least not as much as last year)
What i'm asking is, will i always seem a spineless slug to my crush despite me changing

I have personality and relational disorders I'm and fucking dying of loneliness.
I learned how to be natural in social contexts but in private I'm still awkward, so everytime I manage to approach a girl I end fucking it up some way
I'm fucking dying holy shit. I don't even have a family. recently I got so fucking desperated that I prayed, even if I don't believe in god
What the fuck have I done to deserve this barren desert in my fucking heart holy shit
fuck

>>17423247
This doesn’t look like something you specifically ask to a girl/guy. Make a thread about it.

>>17422374
Text her and show her your interest. I'm always paranoid that I'll look too eager and clingy, and that the guy isn't interested in me, if I have to start the text convo.

>>17422549
Maybe she's just changed her mind considering the fact that she's got a boyfriend.

>>17423114
Compensate by eating her out for 30 minutes.

>>17422429
Not necessarily. Give it a week or two and ask again.

Girls, is it weird if a boy has absolutely zero interest in getting off himself, despite masturbating whenever he needs to, and is solely devoted to getting his partner off?
I don't have any sexual desires at all outside of making my partner happy, and I'd much rather spend my time down low than getting my dick sucked or being pampered.
I'm basically a blank slate for sexual fetishes, and I'd rather just make it my goal to fulfill my partner's, which, I guess, is technically my fetish?

Ladies:

What do you think of guys being frank and direct?
Like saying "I like you and I'd really like to meet you again" after first date, or inviting to a date after meeting you a day ago or so?

Would you like that or would that creep you the hell out ?

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>>17420105
I am asking this question assuming there is at least one muslim woman here.

Don't you feel warm inside the burkha? I mean you are all covered in and black's a color that absorbs most the heat. That must mean arab woman in Middle East must be suffering a lot of that heat inside the burkha? I don't know how this works and I'm curios.

>>17423317
Muslim woman here.

It's a misconception that excess clothing makes you feel hotter. It's also a misconception that people in the middle east wear BLACK burka niqabs and abayas (yep, there's different terminology for each part). It's actually Muslim women in western countries that choose to wear black.

When I went for Hajj in Saudi Arabia, I wore linen or cotton, colourful abayas and headscarfs. Linen keeps you incredibly cool, even in a dark shade.

And also, living in the uk wearing the headscarf is pretty neat since it protects my ears from the cold and wind. So it's all about materials.

>>17423254
I'm not even asking anything.
I just don't know anymore.
are women really so petty that they place formality over meaning? or its me being too obviously fucked up?
I don't know. I don't even care anymore.
I just want to feel loved man. Because I see people togheter everywhere, like if it was something you can do easily like buying groceries
People say love this, love that, but where the fuck is? why there isn't any for me? am I such a horrible fuck to deserve to die and be forgotten like I never existed? am I such a defect? trash? a monster?
I don't fucking know anymore, just tell me to fuck off because that's the only thing I can get from anyone I'm sincere with.
I wish I wasn't born.

>>17423307
100% depends on how i feel about that guy. But it would make it pretty clear if she's interested or not pretty fast so that's a plus i guess

>>17423317
What about the touareg? Living in the middle of the desert, both men and women covered from head to toes?
Sometimes, being covered is not a bad thing, you avoid sunburns, you can be naked under it and since it's large, you have some neat ventilation.

>Meet a girl online
>Seemed to actually like me, complimenting me and showing what we've got in common and the like
>Talk for a week and a half then ask her out
>She happily agreed
>Date seemed to have gone nicely, she laughed a lot
>Didn't make any physical advances, though
>Message her that I really enjoyed it and think we should meet again the day after
>No response
>The following day ask her out properly
>No response
That was a week ago. Should I message her something or should I just not bother? I really thought we had a good thing going there.

>bad at dating and approaching girls
>supposed to practice by trial & error and fail all day every day and take notes and learn from my failure and what to do and what not to do the next time

And yet I'm still afraid that I'll be framed as a rapist, I know its retarded and irrational, but it's lingering in my mind every day.

I was taking some photos at the beach and this guy with a group of friends ask if i need his help. Was he flirting with me?

>>17423466
Don't accept it, it's the C.I.A., your life is in danger!

>>17423366
She probably just wanted some fuck and you failed to deliver. Move on

>>17423451
What's your question?

Why should I have one of those modern hairstyles to impress you females?

Is it not cliche and stereotypical?

>>17423067
>>17423236
Bump?

>>17423353

Its a cultural thing rather than a smart way to dress (no matter what Muslims say about it being smart desert wear).

Although im no Muslim, i know people say they get very fucking hot and uncomfortable.

People do crazy things for religion.

>>17421078
Set up a lunch/dinner AWAY from where you friends/coworkers/family live.
Have cash ready to pay for a hotel, just in case. And rubber.

>>17423512
Just use any variation of short on the sides and longer on top and it's gold.
It's the most consistent cut in modern western civilization.

>Girl starts liking all my shit on fb out of no where
>Message her because she got my attention
>Eventually see she made a new dating profile on okc
>Ask her out seeing as she's looking for dates and wanted my attention
>She asks if it is a date date or chilling as friends
>Tell her date
>She starts to show reluctance

I offered for it to not be a date after, but then she said it would still feel like a date. I've ignored it since then because of her indecisiveness. Should I still attempt to chill with her?

Girls: If you're having sex with a guy for the first time do you want him to ask you where he should cum? And when should he ask this?

Basically, cuming etiquette advice requested.

>>17423289

>Text her and show her your interest. I'm always paranoid that I'll look too eager and clingy, and that the guy isn't interested in me, if I have to start the text convo.

I hate this dynamic. We may well both be sitting at opposite ends of the computer not initiating contact because neither wants to look clingy. If I initiate, she seems happy to talk. I don't even care if she's just passive, it's all the dumb unknowns involved in this kind of interaction.

>>17423594
This
Do what you want because it will give the right perspective for both of you
Read Moby Dick too, you'll understand what i mean.

>>17423592
I usually tell him where to spray it because I have a thing for guys cumming on my stomach. I don't think its necessary to ask, she'll say if she's got a preference.

Otherwise the guy I was with just came wherever, on my thigh, my side, didn't really matter. Found it hot when he'd wipe me down with his t shirt.

>>17421606
No

>>17422005
Proper rinse under the foreskin all the way around, preceeded with a mild soap if available.

Never had knobcheese, so i don't know how to get it.

>>17422771
I used to be really self concious about it, but now i don't mind. I rarely initiate, but i'm up for a heavy make out session if she wants. I used to dislike even hand holding.

How do I know if I'm annoying and if I should back off? It's more a female friend than a gf thing. when I talk to this girl she never really gives me one word answers and always says at least something nice.

>>17423782
thin you replied to the wrong person

>>17423592
You cum in the condom, you walking STD

Asian American girls: do you want to get a tan or keep your skin pale?

>>17423592
For starters I'd never have sex without a condom, so I wouldn't exactly mind where he came since he's not actually cumming on anything (provided the condom isn't broken), however I'd prefer he pull out too before he cums for added protection.
But I normally don't vocalize that because it isn't that big a deal.
Now if this is oral we're talking, my only rule is not in the mouth, face, or pussy, and I always vocalize that. You don't even have to ask.
That being said, I feel this is probably more on her to tell you beforehand than you needing to ask, but its thoughtful that you would. I'd ask before any sort of penetration at all what her preference is.

>>17423836
If her bangs are left sided tan, right sided pale.
C'mon, anon, everybody knows this...

>>17423873
What?

>>17423880
You didn't get the memo?!?

>>17423586
Nah, sounds like she ain't interested.
>>17423512
I don't notice hairstyle that much. As long as it looks good on you.
>>17423307
That's ideal. I hate the dating game of trying to pretend to be indifferent. If you're into me, please tell me I will never know otherwise.
>>17423297
I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but I'm probably biased because I'm the same way, I could really care less if I get off, it's nice but I'm one of those "Get off to you getting off" kind of people. That being said, you and I wouldn't work out together lol, and some people do feel uncomfortable with a one sided relationship like that (even if it's to their favor), so it just depends on the person you meet.
>>17423202
You realize that there's no such person as the perfect 100% compatible in every way mate. You have to make compromises. If it's bothering you that much, then you compromised too much. Dump her and go for one of those 10/10 legging chicks you love so much and see if they'll give you the time of day. I just hope you're a true 10/10 yourself m8.
>>17423114
Not everyone wants a big fat cock. I personally am very tiny and most cocks are nothing but pain. I prefer the smaller ones, otherwise I just feel like I'm getting split in half and not in a good way.
>>17422868
If she can laugh about it too, then make jokes. If you really have to try that hard not to be an asshole to your gf about bodily functions we all do, then I really hope she finds herself someone without the mentality of a toddler soon.

women

do you guys have ass hair too?

>>17423926
Of course they do, barring exceptions. Just like guys have chest hair—except for the few that don't for whatever reason.

>>17423937
girls have chest hair??? woah

>>17423519
Another bump

>>17423926
Yeah, I do in the crack at least. Not so much on the cheeks tho. I'm sure some girls certainly do though. There's varying degrees of hairiness among us all. I only have to shave to the knee, whereas my own sister has to shave her whole legs because her leg hair is just much coarser and darker all over than mine. I get an occasional chin hair, some chicks have none, or more.
And as stated before, some dudes grow glorious viking beards with no issue, others struggle to get a soul patch. Some dudes have hairy chests and backs, others don't. Just has to do with our particular genes man.

>>17423926
Hairy guy here.

You can guess the rest.

>>17423926
Not to hop on your question but i guess this is for both sexes.

I'm a dude with a fairly hairy ass. Do girls give a shit about that? And guys, do you shave it? I have a slight feeling it's starting to give me a few problems.

>>17424015
I cut the hair that shit touches, they spread the shit when you use TP.

>>17424015
Body hair isn't a turn on for me, but I recognize how much of a pain in the ass it is to shave so I usually overlook it.
I don't like it, but it's not that big a deal. I know if my dude expected me to shave my vag all the time I'd drop him because ain't nobody got time for that bullshit, plus my skin is just to paper thin to handle that kind of maintenance anyways.
Therefore I would never ask the same of my guy. I did have an ex once though with a small amount of chest hair, just like a little tuft in the middle, who expressed he wished I'd shave my legs more often lol. I tend to let them get a little more stubbly than the average girl before I take a razor to them again. So I did make a compromise with him that I'd be more diligent with my legs if he kept his chest clear. That shit was fine.

>>17424051
>>17424015
what about hair that goes form the pubic area to the stomach a little?

>>17424063
The "happy trail" or whatever? Same as anything else really.
Like I said, I'm not a fan of any body hair at all really. Just in my personal preference. Leg/arm hair is the only thing I don't care about provided you're not like, bigfoot about it. Even armpit hair is a little gross to me. But again, it's not so big a deal I'd ever ask my dude to do anything about it. If you're comfortable with your own skin that's all that really matters.
Like, if I had to put my preference for that kind of thing on a scale from 0-10, 0 being I don't care at all and 10 being deal breaker. Body hair would be like a fucking 1 maximum lol.
If I lived in a fantasy world, dudes would have ken doll bodies but with an actual penis. But I really don't care all that much about it.

Okay ladies, I need help.
My gf just asked me a question that feels loaded.
I know can be honest with her but I'm not sure how to say it without sounding like an asshole.

"Would you like me to workout, or I'm okay the way I am?"
The fact that she's asking if "would you like" feels more loaded than "Am I getting fat?"

I'm extremely fascinated with oral sex and I don't know why.

What could cause this?

>Inb4 chicks can get pregnant that way to with a one in a gorillion chance

>>17424130
If she's childish enough to get mad at the answer you give her when she's the one that fucking asked, dump her she's actually 4 years old. Just tell the truth, do you like her the way she is? Would you like her to be a little more fit?
However if you want to dodge the loaded question altogether, respond with "Why do you ask?"
Does she want to go to the gym but is too scared/intimidated to go alone? Does she want you to be her gym partner? Is she just feeling insecure about something, and how can you alleviate that?
>>17424177
A fetish is a fetish m8. I like oral because it's a little less committal and risky than vaginal sex. Like you said, you gotta worry about the pregnancy, but also contracting STD's from oral is also a lot less likely. It's kinda hard to get them from oral sex (though you certainly can.)
Plus I don't personally have to feel that kind of personal connection for oral. It's slightly less invasive you know? I don't feel nearly as vulnerable sucking dick and getting my clit tongue punched as I do with another human being putting a piece of himself inside the most sensitive part of my body. I reserve the latter only for people I'd trust with my life, the former, eh it's not that big a deal to me.

girls

does it make me self conscious if i once in a long while worry about my gf with other girls? she's bi. i never really get worried about guys but with girls, once in a while

what makes a hobby?

>like playing chess but haven't played in a while
>like cooking but dont have ingredients to cook even a quarter of the things I want to
>reading but haven't read anything most read based on rec.
>making videos but computer is such a potatoe makes me frustrated
>gaming. potato and toaster for a computer so limited and im a scrub
>card games
>browsing 4chan
>making memes
>still trying to learn spanish

>>17424254

There's a common standard of excellence shared among a community of enthusiasts towards which practitioners of the hobby strive. People for whom chess is a hobby are interested in getting better at chess, and those for whom cooking is a hobby are always trying to improve their skill as cooks. When you say you have something as a hobby, you are essentially saying something about how invested you are in further improving at, learning about, or otherwise exploring that thing.

>>17424037
do you do this with a razor? disposable? scissors?

>>17424254
>An activity DONE regularly in one’s leisure time for pleasure

>>17424271
so tl"dr something I would like to get deeper into and better at?

>>17424274
Scissors

>>17424280

Yes but also better at something that's shared with other people who would consider it a hobby.

How would you guys react if a grill you only know online and met two times asked you for LDR with you? When there's no chance of you two moving close to eachother soon? (were both in college)

>>17424320
Depends. Is she future wife material? How often could you reasonably see each other irl? Do you have good options irl or is it her vs nobody?

If a girl I got along with well and was cute/athletic and open-minded for sex (read: willing to peg me and sit my face), then I'd certainly consider doing LDR for a couple years, see each other over breaks, and then move together.

>>17424320
LDR?

>>17424063
That's fine, just clean out your belly button. Getting belly button lint pretty gross.

>>17424247
Maybe a little, but not any more than the average person is anyways. The difference is recognizing it's a fleeting pang of worry, and you're not telling your gf who she can and cannot see, or letting it overwhelm your relationship.
I think it's normal, just remember you trust your gf (assuming you do) and that you're worrying for nothing and move on.

>>17424344
I am the grill, i'm asking if it's a good idea to ask him.
>>17424345
Long distance relationship

>>17424539
Well then. Are you a catch? Standards for that would be higher for me but otherwise I would be open. I might settle for an average looking girl normally, but for LDR would probably only do it for a girl in really good shape. I'd also want her to be somebody that I liked talking to a lot.
And of course pegging and facesitting.

If he already met you then he probably would at least consider it, just know that his standards would probably be higher than if you lived near each other.

>>17424601
okay, thanks. I'm pretty average, so idk if he would be up for this. Still won't hurt to try.