Am I ready?/Is it possible?

Why are you in such a rush to get married?

>>17409426
I really would like to marry her. Living my life with this girl would be the greatest thing that could happen to me. Being able to wake up next to her, support her in her life and she in mine. But she is 26. And we do love each other but I don't want her to leave if she doesn't see a future with me. It would be a lot easier if we were closer in age but she doesn't want to be stuck in one place in her life for too long.

>>17409443
What? There's nothing stopping you from being in a committed relationship if you don't get married right away. And what if she doesn't want to get married? If she doesn't see a future with you, there's nothing you can do about it. You can't get unilaterally married

>>17409416
Marrying her while you're still in school and unemployed is a terrible idea. What's the plan, you get married and she takes care of the financials for the next two years? Is she in a position to do that? What does she do for work and why is she in such a hurry?

>other than this there aren't even any serious issues with our relationship

If you're seriously worried that she will leave you because you're not in a good place to get married, this is not a solid relationship. At all. It's not even close.

You're 19. Your focus should be on finishing your shit so you have a good foundation for the rest of your life. And stop being so fucking melodramatic "give up on relationships", wtf. Try imagining being with someone who has enough patience to consider what is best for BOTH of you.

>>17409450
Well, I mean we've talked about it and she definitely wants to get married. I just don't want the one thing to screw it up is me not having things together.
>>17409453
Well even though I'm unemployed im looking for work and plan to be working in and out of school. She works retail. Maybe she's just saying this kind of stuff because she's stressed about her finances right now.
Yeah, that's true. And I don't think she'd leave me now, but if in a few years for some reason things didn't go as planned. But it's true that that's still unreasonable.
Yeah, that's true and she wants that. She's worried about the pressure that it would put on me. She's just told me what she wants.
And you're right. That's not true, I'm just tired and stressed. Sorry about that.

>>17409416
Why is she in such a hurry?

>>17409488
She doesn't want to feel like she's stuck in the same place in her life and is stressed about not having something more tangible for a promise financially I guess.

To be honest as I think on it more it kind of hurts to think that she has like a time limit on me but at the same time I understand that she doesn't want to feel like the relationship isn't gonna go anywhere. I mean basically from the start I had wanted this plan to work and told her that's what I'm going for. From the way she's talking though it sounds like she can't wait that long though. I mean, I would like to be married to her but I definitely don't mind being in a committed relationship with her.

Would I be asking too much to ask her to wait until I'm done with college and can get a full time job? I'm honestly not sure. Should I ask her about it? I'm honestly afraid she will lose interest if I asked that. Which is scary and kind of hurts. It makes me almost wonder about her caring about this in the first place...

Getting married is not that big of a deal, it's not a life-changer and nowhere it says that you have to buy a house and two cars immediately after getting married. Not much is going to change, whatever has been keeping your bills paid will be still there after the wedding.

That being said, the fact that you're a 19-year-old being pushed into marriage by a 26-year-old is a major red flag.

>>17409416
Dude, you need to calm down. I'm in almost the exact same situation as you, except my gf and I are being patient and not rushing into anything.

She's 22 and I'm 19, her money situation isn't exactly great and neither is mine but we're making it work without marriage. Getting married won't make you have more money or keep her from leaving dude, if she will leave without being married she'll certainly leave if she's married.

I was worried about that same thing with my girl but she said it herself that she's willing to wait and it's not a big deal if we aren't independent and together for awhile, in fact she said it doesn't even matter if we get married (although she does want to be my wife). If your girl is pushing you for this, its not a stable relationship. If you're just stressing yourself out like a retard then you need to take a deep breath and look at your situation.

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>>17409416
DO NOT get married until 25 minimum. Not being married is not stopping you from staying together with that person.

It doesn't matter how many bullshit stories you hear of "we had our first kid when we were 16 and have been happily married for thirty years".

>>17409736
Also, don't have a child until you're at least 45. There's so much you should get done before you're tied down with an offspring.

if you're not able to formulate a plan on how to have steady finances, you're not ready for marriage. you don't see it now but as you grow older your mind changes. everything you're saying right now is a huge red flag - you're panicking about marriage at fucking 19 years old - this is like a 10 year old being worried about getting a boyfriend.

Alright. Thanks everyone. I mean, in the beginning thread I was definitely freaking myself out but I don't think it's just me. I'm gonna talk with her about this, see if I can clear some things up.

>>17409751
Really? Nobody's gonna call me out on that bullshit? Fucnkig /adv/...

>>17409950
Yeah, I'm not too sure about that, haha.