Next Steps?

>>17408504

lol you're kind of in new ground here. people arent this lazy with setting people up generally. if you want you can always reach out to her on facebook and be fun about it.

or you can wait.

whichever. no matter what you do some people are going to thikn wahtever they want to think. have a 'mind your own business' atitude about it and just do what you actually want

>>17408504
Add her, and talk to her, i know you want to hear that its pretty much fucked and its in her hands now, but no, you will have to talk to her

>>17408511
Or ignore me, im drunk and just giving random people the advice i needed 3 weeks ago, your case is probably different but if you want to hook up/gf her you will have to communicate sometime, why wait for a random social event when you are clearly interested in each other (if her friends told you you were a nice match they were even more hardcore telling it to her)

>>17408511

I don't want to hear that it's fucked, I just... want to see what's going to come of it? I anticipated last night to be a chance for me to see if she's cool or not, and instead just got 20 more people saying "oh my god we SHOULD hook him up with X."

As fun as that is to hear, I'm not the kind of guy to wait around too long.

>>17408522

Yeah, I don't want to seem overeager, and I don't know if I'll like her. I'd just like to open that door and shut it quickly if need be.

>>17408605
But thats the thing you have to either rely that your mutual friends to pair you up again or take the matter into your own hands, its easier to cut contact if you are the one taking the initiative if thats the thing bothering you. Imo its easier to think of actions like a way to get to an objective, there's two available options and one is clearly better than the other yet you still want to go with the worse one so if it fails you get to say your friends were the ones fucking up, dating is about you and her though, no need to be ashamed if it doesn't go well, no one will think less of you.

Still drunk, stil a grain of salt with my advice

>>17408605
Also not seeming overeager is a meme, girls like people taking interest in them, no need to play it cool, wish i could slap myself the last time i didn't want to seem overeager, could've fucked her that same night, it was so obvious, god damn it.

>>17408504
> Ask them to set us up on a date?
Man up and pursue what you want in life. Don't wait around for other people to wipe your ass for you.

Contact her asap. Invite to dinner/lunch/whatever.

>>17408678

The only way for me to contact her at this point is to add her to LinkedIn or Facebook. I have no phone number or anything.

The thing is, this isn't something I "want." It's something I'm willing to explore if the opportunity presents itself, but I also don't want to wait a long time for it.

It's like... expensive concert tickets to a band you like a few songs of, but don't know much more about. Would you spend $100 at the door? Probably not. If a friend had a spare ticket, sure.