I WILL FIX YOU #2

I want to find a nice girl to marry and have lots of kids with. What do I do?

find a girl then retard

>>17401299
Easy. Go to a place with nice girls like coffee shops or gyms or general hobby places and be a nice guy. Maintain your dignity by not humping her leg or putting her on a pedestal with the usual "I want to do everything for you" or "I want to make you happy" approaches and go into it with the mindset that you want to be with someone that isn't necessarily this girl, and eventually you'll find someone and things will come together. Work to fix the issues in the relationship, be open about yourself, and don't stop trying. You will be successful if you just try.

Should I give in to constructive criticism and please people?

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>>17401306
Thanks op

How do I last longer in bed??

I'm 32f, and fat. That's my only issue, other wise I'm pretty good. Face is good, good job, own my own home.

I'm married to someone, who doesn't work, treats me badly, and doesn't fuck me. I stay due to being fat, and being indian (my culture looks down upon divorce).

Should I divorce, try to lose weight and maybe find another guy? Or just shut the fuck up and deal with it and try to make it work? Or some suggestion you have?

>>17401322
You should always take constructive criticism for what it's worth. Remember that in life, there is no right or wrong, but in careers and goals and futures there are paths that better accomplish what you want and paths that don't. Having an outside perspective can be very helpful, and if it sounds to you that they're right and you're wrong, then yes, you should 'give in' to constructive criticism. If you're caving on your morals just to please people, remember where your priorities lay. Is it more important to please people or is it more important to be true to yourself? You must decide that. Having balance in staying true to yourself and using criticism to adjust yourself is key in life. Prioritize and remember that it is your hand that moves the sword on another, not your master's hand.

>>17401322

Whats the criticism?

I need a perfect letter of intent for grad school

>>17401299
Get a good job to afford all those kids and a stay at home wife. If your religious go to your church/Masjid/temple and try to find a nice girl their.

>>17401345
Just a bunch of off-hand remarks and busting my balls to make me ridiculous to other people.

>>17401358
You know if they are really constructive. If its something really constructive, they try. if its bs, then dont

>>17401328
Easy. Don't rush to climax when masturbating in your off time. Get your mind into another place or slow down when you're getting close to it, or do something that pleases your partner (but doesn't please you) to turn back the defcon a bit.

>>17401340
Easy. Lose the weight. I could pamper you by telling you that 20 minutes of running on a treadmill or biking 3 times a week is enough, but I know you've got it in you to go hard and really lose the weight fast. That's the human condition. Bring up your issues with your partner as you're losing weight, use the weight loss as leverage to try and get sex or good treatment from him. Give it a good old college try and if it's not working then say you're unhappy and consider divorce. With everything, it's important to try to fix things than break them or ignore them. But if that doesn't work, and you have to break something to be happy, then so be it. Weigh all the options, be honest with yourself, and don't lose faith just because the road is a bit rocky.

>>17401349
Easy. If you really need it to be perfect, you'll do the research and put in the effort to get it right. You can hire out the job to a professional but I'd recommend putting in the effort on your own. You'll feel better later down the line about it too if you do it yourself. You just gotta sit down and make it count. Don't let failure even be an option. If you do fail after your hard work, you will always be strong enough to press on and get your career going. But you're not going to fail because you're gonna do it right.

>>17401350
Tig welder is a good job, right?
I am not particularly religious

I'm staying for a couple of weeks with my boyfriend and a few nights ago I peed myself while sleeping, today it happened again (I ran to the toilet so it was just a bit).

This is making me extremely embarrassed and uncomfortable because I feel that I cannot hold it in, not while I sleep and not even during the day, and it's especially bothering because it's always been the opposite.

Can sex be the cause? We've been having sex 2-3 times a day and that's the only change that's happened in my life lately.

>>17401297
Should i try to go for her if she knows me since 4 years, me trying to hit on her could back up on me because of our common friends, she's a 9/10 with experience in dating a such (probably not even a virgin) and i've always been a weird 5/10 shy beta (even tho i'm trying to improve this)?

I told my best girl friend I had feelings for her. She didn't reciprocate. I told her it's probably for the best that I take a step back and focus on myself.

Should I cut her out completely and be honest, saying I don't think I'll ever see her as just a friend?

>>17401388
Easy. Bring it up with your partner. It is probably related to sex, see if having it less fixes the issue over some time. It might be good to try new things that don't involve penetration to keep the libido from going nuts while testing to see if peeing yourself is solved.

>>17401392
Easy. You have to analyze the possible outcomes of your actions. Will trying to date this girl make you lose friends? If so, how will it make you lose friends? Are these friends not too close and unforgiving for this kind of action? These are questions you need to ask and answer yourself. If the answer to these questions is yes, then are these friends of yours really worth keeping? Maybe you can score with this girl, who knows. I'd just tell her you think she's cute or whatever. If all else fails, you can get new friends, right? Not like your family will disown you for trying. Be rational but stay ambitious and fortune will come your way. Maybe this is a step towards a new you.

Recurring lower back pain from a lifting injury. Nothing works to rehabilitate it and my body has atrophied and I've grown depressed from not being able to do one of the few things I enjoy in life.

>>17401404
How do I bring it up with him? It makes me extremely embarrassed and self conscious. He only knows about the first time it happened and the fact that it's normally the opposite for me.

pls respond

>>17401424

>lights will guide you home
>and ignite your bones

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Ive had feelings for my best friend. He's already in a relationship though. However, we've had sex while hes been in the relationship (Im aware of the wrong Im doing) we're very close but I dont want to admit my feelings for him cause I know he won't feel the same. I love the sex but it hurts emotionally after. I feel like a retard and I dont know what to do

>>17401397
Easy. Find someone else. We all can get emotionally transfixed on one other person pretty easily but finding someone new to focus on will practically eliminate your anxiety or whatever that came from her rejecting you. All will be forgiven if you find someone new because it means you're making a commitment to someone else, not this girl that pushed you away, which shows this girl that you're not going to continue trying so all will be well. And don't be the guy to compare what could have been to what actually is when you actually get with someone new- you won't be getting with this girl, it's that simple, compartmentalize that feeling of desire or trying-to-fix-things or whatever by stepping on a new path.

>>17401408
Easy. Find a new form of self-refinement that satisfies you and doesn't wreck your back. You might be able to work around that injury to get that same satisfaction from lifting without the pain but I'm not sure if that's possible. I definitely recommend trying. If not, go get better at other stuff. Maybe you're looking for the mindlessness of lifting heaving things and putting them back down again. Getting good at something like a musical instrument or learning a new trade like auto repair and restoration will yield that same satisfaction of mindlessness once you get good enough at it. But at the end of the day, depression as it stands is defeated by willpower and steps in the right direction. For me, I just choose to be optimistic about everything, even when shit goes sour. The sun never fully hides behind the horizon when it comes to hardship, you just gotta climb that horizon to see it fully again.

>>17401429
>gay people
>monogamy

pick one

>>17401429
>kill yourself
>be hetero

pick one, degenerate

how to into confidence and self-esteem

>>17401453
Develop an internal sense of of personal meaning/validation and intrinsic self worth. No easy roadmap to this though, I cannot teach you to become zen, you must become zen, the journey is the destination.

I dropped out of college a year ago and blame my girlfriend for making college an overall terrible experience (long distance relationship problems).this past year I feel like I've reached a new low and just want to get back to being myself again. How do I let this go and move on with my life? Breaking up is not an option for me I love this girl to death, I just want to find a way to forgive her

I lived an amazing life when I was young, some time around 2011 my life spiraled out of control, dealing with addictions in the family, getting my first debilitating injury at 19, and not being able to work made me feel really depressed which I think eventually lead to feelings of inadequacy that still sort of persists today, I also never really had parental figures who were sober or responsible adults so I have a deep seeded sense of anxiety as a result of basic things never being taken care of(I think that's the core at least) that I just can't seem to get away from. Would leaving my home town help?

>>17401385
you don't gotta make millions, u gotta make enough to afford rent.

>>17401422
Easy. "Hon/babe/[name]/whatever I've been having bladder issues and I think it's from the amount of sex we've been having. I haven't had this kind of issue before we started having sex several times a day. I think we should tone it down a bit." Something along those lines. Be honest about your worries.

>>17401426
Easy. You don't have vision. "I can't think of how to enjoy life without having to work", "Nothing to rebel against or fight for", "no capacity to be productive online" etc. are all clear indicators that you're letting your situation get the best of you. There are endless possibilities in life, and there are many paths untraveled because of how few ambitious people there are. I challenge you to find a way to enjoy life without having to work (a steady, in-one-place job), to find something to fight for, and to be productive online. It can be done. It has been done before by many people. Maybe it's time for you to get serious about this.

>>17401429
Easy. If you're not going to be with him then why bother worrying. Stopping the sex will help with that. Just remind yourself it's fact that you and him won't be together and find someone new to pursue. Quit feeling like a retard and analyze the situation.

>>17401453
Easy. Goal-setting and hard work. Set goals for yourself and achieve them, with this you will feel confident in yourself and have self esteem. I'm not joking. It can be any goal really. Self-improvement goals like working out or learning something new are really good ways to become confident. All it takes is hard work. Hard work is really important.

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ay fix me up senpai

tl;dr version of it:
i don't feel at home where I've lived my entire life and in my life in general
i hate my friends and i hate my home town and i hate a lot more about my life such as my job, my projected future and my love interests.

This was longer than expected, sorry.

I have no clue about my future, but I made something up that might make me happy. Thing is I'm just not sure about it.

I don't feel like going to college to do a music/human sciences (a thing we have in quebec just forget about it) course. I have no fucking clue what I'll be doing after it and whatever I choose will probably not help society advance whatsoever becaue I'm an extreme-right /pol/tard. Human sciences is like a history/philosophy course for you americans.

If I'm employed as a history teacher I'm probably going to get fired because I'm too opinionated. And I'm not going to become a musician. Fuck that noise.

My country is a lefty socialist shithole and I just don't feel like I belong here. Everytime I see Trudeau's face I just feel like shit. Next time I'll see some dumbass decision I'll probably go full Breivik. Joking (and politics) aside though, there are other reasons I don't feel comfortable here. My friends are all complete idiots, except one who's slowly turning into an alcoholic because of parental issues. Anyways, none of them ever want to do shit with me so I guess they can fuck off.

I'm 18 now and I'm thinking about cancellng the whole college thing and becoming a forestry engineer or a lumberjack or something. I've always been fascinated by the forests of my beautiful cuntry. I'm strongly considering this but I'm a weak lazy manlet who can't do jack shit with his hands.

I've had one girlfriend in the past but she was a fucking whiny, simple-minded idiot with only her problems in mind. No consideration for anyone else. I'm rambling here. f you want more info ask me bud.

>>17401466
Easy. Move on to new ventures. Having a rough time in college was a mistake, a mistake you're not going to make again. Let it be a lesson learned and use this as an opportunity to do something new with the understanding of how to deal with long distance relationship issues so you don't have a terrible experience again. Don't let it be anything more than a lesson, with time and new things the feeling will subside.

>>17401467
Easy. Trust yourself. Making a decision like moving to a new city, as a way to solve your issues, is the thing that will make you feel better. Not the actual decision itself, but the fact that you're making a decision to improve your situation is going to put you on the right track. Don't feel the need to ask for validation, just go for it. Fall on your face, make a new career, whatever. It doesn't matter. Just try, and trust your instincts.

>>17401505
Easy. Follow your dreams. At 18, you have so many options. I'm 23. I dropped out of college for civil engineering and joined the military, and even though I'm tied to a contract, I feel the most free I've ever been. I've just made it a point to enjoy work and find new things to do. I'm rebuilding a 1965 Impala SS because working on cars is something I've wanted to do. Throwing your life away for a new one can be a really good decision. For me, it was the best decision of my life. Maybe forestry stuff is your way to be independent and make yourself into something. You'll stop being a weak manlet too if you do (well, the weak part at least).

OP here, going to bed, will come back to thread in the morning, feel free to ask while I'm gone

I want to find a conservative, old-fashioned, traditional girl to marry, but I'm not religious and generally can't stand religious people. I also live in an extremely liberal area where everyone does nothing but party and sleep around. I'm open to LDR at this point because I can't meet a girl I like around here.

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>>17401488
>1488
nice win

>I challenge you to find a way to enjoy life without having to work (a steady, in-one-place job),
Life IS more enjoyable without having to work. Only people who think otherwise are boring and depressed people, the kind who win the lottery and then still work full time another 20 years because they have no drive of their own and don't know what to do with themselves given unstructured free time

>to find something to fight for
By this I was referring to something like a communist revolution, right wing coup or other to overthrow the current state of capitalism in America. I actually had such thoughts when I was an edgy 16-18 year old. But I don't see any realistic way to fight the system, hence my obsession with winning the lottery as the only way to overcome it and not be a victim of it like 99% of people.

As far as social issues to fight for, one thing I have recently felt passionate about is banning infant circumcision in USA and Canada, and there are plenty of other things to feel passionate about, but none are actual crafts that people would pay money for, quite the opposite, as they require both free time not having to work and money to really pursue them in the real world. For example, to fund legal battles through human rights organizations suing governments to ban infant genital mutilation.

>and to be productive online.
Similar to the above points, while I consider my prsonal use of time online to be productive much of the time, not in a way that can be profitable, because have too many years of screen fatigue and dumbed down attention span to do any proactive tasks beyond writing short posts as I am doing currently.

>It can be done. It has been done before by many people. Maybe it's time for you to get serious about this.

Not quite sure what you mean. But I welcome your further insights based on the above information provided.

I can't get over a girl, and it's nearing the year mark. I keep going to the gym and indulging in my hobbies. I meet loads of girls, but they bore the shit out of me in a few minutes at the most. I switched jobs twice, moved towns, and completely rearranged my life. I've gone through a period of heavy drinking and subsequently sobered up completely. Now all I do is work all the time to keep myself distracted, but I still can't get over her. What the fuck do I do?

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I know I made a thread but I'm looking for any advice really.

How do I get rid of introvert narcissism? I feel intimidated and depressed whenever someone one ups me either intentionally or on purpose. I hate this because it causes me to fall back on a academic level.

>>17401525
thx mate, but I don't feel like I have any dreams. I feel like I only exist in the present and past. It's strange. I'll do what I can.

>>17401545
That's like finding a needle in a haystack. Good luck my dude, I'm stuck with the same problem.

>>17401625
Dude
I've had a girlfriend just like you but worse. She couldn't think about anything else but her own problems and how she would fail and everytime I complimented her she just brushed it off. You're not a lesser person than others. You have tastes, ddreams, hopes and all that shit. When someone ups you, like you said, it's that they like you. They APPRECIATE you. Wake up, my dude.

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>>17401653
That doesn't really make sense. Because somebody could be trying to one up you out if sheer despite. Also, when I say intentional I meant unintentional. For example if somebody gets a better score than I do I lose hope for my academic future and give up. I completely acknowledge this but I don't know how to deal with it.

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I used to get paid money to hurt people very badly and I hate myself for it, and it now bleeds into other aspects of my life- it's ruined a relationship or two because as soon as the girl found out what I did, they run off screaming (not that I blame them)

How do I come to terms with what I've done, and how can I learn to forgive myself? Therapy helps a little, but I worry about telling people too much about what I did because I'm scared I could get into some serious trouble

How do I deal with a masturbation addiction?

I'm seeing my ex this weekend, I still love her, I wanted to talk to her, and just tell her how I viewed what happened, and tell her why I think everything happened. I wanna show her how I've changed, and how I'm not the same person, do you have any advice for me?

>>17401741
Think about your grandmother before climaxing. Since I said this you'll already begin to do it naturally

>>17401297
I'm neurotic and self-destructive and I can't stop it

>>17401763
Great now I have a masturbation problem and an Oedipus Complex. Thanks anon

How do I properly stand up for myself and stop being walked on when my girlfriend makes passive-aggressive remarks that are subtle enough that I'd look like an asshole if I blue it up but obvious enough that I know "she's complaining to me about something stupid yet again and will continue to do this until I 'fix' it"

>>17401785
Blow not blue

I hate myself, I hate everyone who I have ever made contact with. I have severe abandonment issues, I have no real friends, and my therapist said I will never have a real sexual relationship because of my fragile ego. I will most likely die alone and the only thing that keeps me from killing myself is my extreme narcissism which is the result of my sensitive inner self. I'm a piece of shit, I've never in my life had any real affection from anyone and I've never actually fit in with anyone. I don't feel as if any of my reasons to be depressed are justified, this whole entire time I feel as if I was just born as one big cruel joke on someone. I have retards for parents who are stuck in their developmental years and it's most likely that I am too. I was born Hispanic so that makes me the biggest burden in this whole entire world. I'm nothing to anyone...

What do I do after realizing all of this? I don't want to live in this world anymore, its filled with pain and with a sick twist to any happiness that I get to experience. I want to fucking die already, someone please lend me a hand I'm fucking lost and I can't figure out where it all went wrong.

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>>17401625
Bumping this question cause I'm a desperate cunt

How do I stop being bitter?

Whenever I hear about men that have bigger cocks, or are better-looking, or are wealthier, more successful, more interesting than me, I feel nothing but complete and utter bitterness, envy, and self-loathing.

A girl I know told me about how she got laid tonight. Described him well. He was handsome, hung, and make her cum buckets. I don't want to fuck this girl, but I feel complete envy over how she described him. To top it off, he's several years younger than me.

Obviously I'm a virgin from /r9k/. How do I get over the bitterness?

>>17401849
Do you really got time to worry about stupid shit like that dude?
Life's not unlimited dude

>>17401849
You stop comparing yourself to others and you look at yourself and find satisfaction.
Or, if you're really that unsatisfied with yourself, change something. But do what you want to do, not just do something to impress others or meet somebody else's standards.

>>17401709
How did you hurt those people?

>>17401834
Additional note: my therapist is a fucking sadistic fuck. I have not visited him in months.

>>17401762
Easy. Don't.

>>17401879
Did some stuff in the army with the typical equipment, then got out and got in with some bad crowds and it was mostly with fists and stuff like that

I really don't want to get into details

I have this problem where I can easily get a girl to fuck with me but when it comes to the bang bang part. I have literally no sexual drive or desire. This is causing me to lose all self value because it's like I'm cock blocking myself from getting any. Who's had this problem before? I'm the only one cock blocking myself.

>>17401683
See below
>>17401871
And for fuck's sake, stop worrying about that shit. Somebody spites you, so what? Why do they matter? Even if they're somebody you think is important, why does it MATTER?
It doesn't, at all. You need to look at yourself and learn to love what is there, and if there's really something you want to change, do it.
Its all in your head because to most people, you really aren't more than an afterthought unless they have some kind of really important relationship to you. You aren't their primary focus, they are to themselves. Do the same for you. Be what the fuck you wanna be and do it because YOU want to do it, not for some arbitrary shit like "I need to be better than everybody else or I feel bad" because thats what you've convinced yourself of. It's all perspective. Change yours and you'll find way more happiness.

I'm a socially inept faggot who wants a bf but is too scared of the social consequences of asking out some rando and hoping they're into men. I look kinda attractive but I don't look gay, and I dunno if I'm the kind of guy that most gays would be attracted to. Not really that fat, kinda underweight in fact. Are all of my problems a result of me being a social autist who doesn't go out much?

>>17401914
Just go out to a bar/club and let some gay dude hit on you and let him smash. There thats how you know if youre the type that gay guys want.

>>17401923
Might do something like that. At the same time I'm kinda scared of meeting up with Omar or something.

>>17401297
Years ago as a teenager, I grew my hair super long and wore wierd clothes. I went abroad too like that. Sometimes I see people at airport security laugh and I think its cause of old photos of me during this time. How do I get over this anxiety?

>>17401953
It's in the past bro, just let go of the feeling.

Do this right now. let that moment relive inside of you, just let it take over and let that feeling go. You might start breathing heavy depending on how bad your anxiety is.

>>17401984
Its also to do with even now when I travel far and taking the security photo in passport check, a lot laugh and I cringe thinking so its a constant reminder. Like, reliving is one thing but reminding is another. Sorry for following up like this and thanks for the initial reply.

>>17401935
It's your mindset dude, just bring or make gay friends so you can have people to relate to. Perhaps going to the bar might be too much for you right now so I suggest just joining a club like a gym or something to meet people.

>>17401993
Bro people will always judge you, I'm judging you right now and so are a bunch of other people in this thread. Think about it, people will only remember you for such a small amount of time and look at the big picture, you get to travel far.

>>17402019
Thanks anon. I needed that. May help too for me to laugh with them.

>>17401297
I currently make over 100kpa in finance (Self employed).
Lately I just want to quit and do something else, but the things that interest me (like Dog Training/Animal behavior) tend to pay very little in comparison.

What do ? Go back to being a noodle eating poor man or keep working for the $ ?

>>17402036
Ask yourself what you value more. Weigh the choices and make yours.

Just broke up with my gf of 3 years for a pretty dumb reason. I want to make it work but i dont think it's going to happen. I know people ask this all the time but how do I move on? It feels like I'll always have feelings and that will make it even harder to find someone else

Am I pretty much screwed for life?

>>17401429
Are you me?

I'm leaving home and the people I'm living with are all 4-5 years older than me so it's kinda intimidating. I'm just really nervous and part of me wants to just never show up and just not move in. Help?

Hello! Need a relationshit advice, guise.
>So, I'm kinda betafag (although not a virgin).
>Meet a girl at a party hosted by a close friend.
>Don't really notice her, but a few days later she contacts me through that friend.
>We start texting, the convo is pretty good.
>After a while I notice that there's never initiative from her side, i.e. I always write to her first. If I don't we can go silent for 2-3 days in a row.
So, the question is: although I pretty much like her, is it worth to continue texting (and ask her out directly, maybe) or just drop it ?

>Had crush on girl in 6th grade all thru junior high
>Never talked to her though
>Recently messaged her on FB (its been 10 years now)
>Have friendly conversation, get her number
>We text generic "how are you" bs every now and then
>Also talked to her on phone
>She seems interested i guess (told me she remembers me, says ive grown up and look handsome - idk if thats a flirty thing or something someones mom would tell them to feel less like a loser)
>She also mentions she's gay, but wants to end up with a guy and implies shes into girls atm I guess
>I don't know if this means she likes dick or not; confused as to whether or not i should try
>Havent really made any moves but would like to get with her

Im a bit of an aspie, people in general think Im weird, and I dont know if she can tell yet (so far only texted and talked on phone briefly - basic shit like "whatre you majoring in" and everyday bs nothing flirty)

Should I ask her out or will I embarass myself

how 2forget about a gril you see almost every day irl and on social media
already deleted her on snapchat but i cant being myself to stop visiting her tumblr
i already tried to ask her out, but she showed only very little interest and after no real reply i just told her that i dont want to run after her anymore
since then i have the feeling but i am not sure
i just want to get over it my man

>>17402217
i have the feeling that shes trying to talk with me

I am attracted to men who are emotionally withdrawn, and i'm afraid i'll end up trapped in toxic relationship at some point. I usually had no issues with telling them to gtfo when things got bad but i don't know if this will last.

>>17402202
Just ask her out. She went out of her way to contact you. She's interested.

Some people are bad when it comes to texting or she could just be distancing herself in case you never ask her.

>>17402071
Time heals all wounds mate.

I have 30 days to finish a final project about big data for my post-grad school and I don't have one page done nor motivation to do it

>>17402244
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

>>17401297
No matter how much I wipe my ass is still shitty and I get skid marks.

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My love life is ultimately making me feel a little miserable.
Most of the time i'm very happy about myself. At my best, i'm very charming. Everyone has told me I have a very magnetic personality.

The thing is that sometimes I feel like I'm something that's not really popular in the scenes I move around. It's like, everyone around here has tattoos and messy hair and rock bands. What I am is nothing like that. What I am is me, I don't follow any trend. My friends tell me I'm very authentic. But sometimes I feel like this city I live in, people are just too damm frivolous. Girls want to date guys they can show around. Sometimes I feel that i'm just something girls don't want at this moment of their life

I'll continue on the next post

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>>17402253
The last saturday I went to a huge street music festival and I went through 3 girls, and I felt that every girl sort of simbolized something related to my love life. The First girl thought I was ultra gay, even told me that I must be a Fashion Stylist, wich I thought it was very lame from her. We kissed, but she tried to convert me into her "soft, gay friend who listens to her problems". I bailed out.
The Second Girl was the crush one. I just saw her at the crown and she looked at me and she gave me the impression she knew me. So we talked and turns out she's a big fan of my work and we had a few laughs, some chit chat, we exchanged FB's, and when I thought about asking her out she tells me she's leaving the city this same Monday to pursue a new life in Manchester. I must admit, that made me feel kind of sad. I wished her luck, gave her two kisses, saw her later in the crown dancing and we just glazed into each other and laughed.
The Third Girl: We met in another concert. The moment we saw each other, something kind of happened. We started to dance very passionately and moments later, we kissed. Even though we spend the night together, I lost her in the crown in a moment I went to grab a beer for me.
I didn't found that sad, I even had this feeling like "well, she maybe wasn't for me". There was a lot of chemistry between the two, but I believe it was purely sexual.

It's been days since Saturday and I still find myself thinking just a little about that Second Girl. It's been 2 years since I felt that feeling with someone, and that sort of makes me feel miserable

how do i turn a friend with benefits into a steady girlfriend?

>>17402265
you don't

>>17402238

Thank for the advice, bro! I will.

Is it normal to have almost nothing to do at work somedays? Im in a really big company (300.000+ employees)

OP is back.
>>17401545
Easy. Find a girl and turn her into one with the values you desire. Most girls are malleable under a dominant male, all you have to do is set the standard and hold her to it. This way, you can avoid the religious aspect of things and just have a traditional girl. It'll take time but with a bit of finesse you can change her to your liking.

>>17401555
You misinterpreted me. I'm telling you to make it happen, to do what you want to do, that it is possible to do all of those things. I'm not arguing with you and I'm not here to discuss your take on things. Everything you mentioned can be done, and should be done. It's that simple.

>>17401562
Easy. If what you say is true, doing the same will eventually yield happiness. It takes time and steps in a new direction to get over things. If you're lying to me or not being totally honest about things like meeting loads of girls (meaning you haven't engaged in a serious relationship but are trying to prove to me you've done the footwork) then I can't give you good advice. Getting into a good relationship with a new girl will kill those feelings towards the girl from the past. Maybe you should just stick with a boring girlfriend for a bit, you might have a change of heart.

How do I turn from the nice/quiet guy to dominant?

>>17401625
Easy. You need to indoctrinate yourself into a new way of thinking. I was a lot like you a few years ago and I hated that shit too. What I did was every time I had nasty thoughts, I told myself to shut up, and started thinking about something else. I constantly told myself (and still tell myself) to be optimistic about everything. You need to work your way towards a more humble lifestyle, one that's willing to apologize even if it isn't your fault because it defuses situations. This is a lot to ask and will take some time, I know. It's been a rough time changing. But I'm very happy with the results and definitely recommend it if you're unhappy with the uncontrollable reactions you have. Mine have completely subsided. Give it some thought.

>>17401709
Easy. It was just a job, and it was all in the past. Your feelings of regret are your brain's way of reminding you of the lesson you learned. You can't go back and change your past, so why look back? Take the experience solely as a lesson learned and an excuse for change, and don't speak on that shit with other people. Change for the future. With time, you will improve. Never forget what you have done- always remember what you did, and never do it again. You're better than that now.

>>17401741
Easy. Set time goals to ween yourself off masturbation. Personally I've found that once a week gives me more energy to date and actually feels much, much better than once or more a day. If you're feeling ballsy (pun intended), you could simply stop masturbating forever and get a girlfriend that loves sex. But the important thing is to lessen the frequency, over time expanding the amount of time between sessions, and eventually stopping. That's how you kill an addiction, but wanting sex is normal. Just limit yourself a bit.

>>17401683
I don't know dude I might not understand that phenomenon thoroughly, but that almost never happens IRL.

>>17401385
Hells yes TIG is a good job.
I'm a goddamn fabricator apprentice and I could support a family, not a huge one though. I ain't even allowed to look at the TIG gear.

>>17401762
Easy. Think back to when you broke up with your ex. Were you happy? Were they happy? Would anything you or they have changed make things better now than they were? What exactly are those changes? Have you or they actually made those changes? I'm going to tell you now, the relationship is much more likely to fall apart after it fell apart once. If you or they haven't actually changed things, you will probably end up breaking up again and might regret going back. I'd recommend not going back, and just moving on, but sometimes breakups aren't that serious. Sometimes.

>>17401768
Easy. See the first post of >>17402858.

>>17401785 >>17401810
Easy. You point out the fact that she's being passive aggressive. Don't fall into her word traps or even engage the traps. Engage her as a person directly. Passive aggressiveness only works if the behavior isn't directly combated. Telling her you don't like how she's being passive aggressive will put her on a hard defense like "I'm not being passive agressive", for which you tell her she is, maybe listing how exactly she's being passive aggressive to support your argument, then telling her to quit that shit. She will likely try to change subject, for which you use that as leverage against her, saying the passive aggressiveness has really been bothering you and you don't appreciate her ignoring your requests to have her behavior adjusted. Pushing directly on this and not letting her get away is the solution.

I am depressed. I've started a new job that I neither enjoy or am good at,my coworkers either are ambivalent or nonexistent to my situation. The woman training me has no patience and shouts at everything I do wrong, which plays with my anxiety and I get more wrong, rinse repeat.

I'm also lonely in my friend group. All are settling down, having kids, buying houses with their significant other. My best friend is now engaged and will soon disappear into wedding mania.

Oh, and my tablets are no longer stopping the suicidal thoughts in my head, even if I would never act on them.

Cancerous post of 18 year old kissless virgin.

I liked to think it was due to lack of trying, but lately I've been trying and nothing's changed so I guess it's due to lack of something else.

My problem isn't "getting out there" thing is that due to my life right now I don't get to meet people.
Most people tell me to just add random girls on FB and text them but it feels so damn fake.
And thing is even if I went out with someone I had never met before I'd probably derp it the fuck out.

I don't want to do anything. I don't want a future goal because I know it's futile. I want to be sealed of from everyone else but I still live with my parents and I want to get the fuck out of there. I want to live in a forest or in a cave and never leave. I want to be completely secluded but fate won't let me because I don't know how to get the fuck out of here. I live in the UK right in the middle of it with all the corruption and people. I don't want to be near anyone. I hate my home town and I don't know how to escape it. I shouldn't exist but I'm stuck with this life I don't want but forced to live through.

>>17401834
Easy. Choose to be optimistic. Most of what I'd say is in the first post of >>17402858 but I need to reiterate that solving your situation requires you to be an optimist rather than a pessimist. You situation is complicated, but changing your outlook from pessimism to optimism, and importantly, sticking true to optimism through hell and high water, is what will help you recover. Optimism in everything will lead you to new ventures and away from the pit you currently sit in. You'll find friends in all sorts of places as an optimist. All it takes is a conscious choice to be optimistic and the willpower to follow through.

>>17401849
Easy. You either stop letting it bother you or travel down the self-deprecating road of trying to prove yourself. Doing both of these is possible but you really have to be careful. Work out, be ambitious, strive to be someone better, be vigilant and don't quit- this is the self-deprecating road. If you travel this road while doing your best to be humble in everything, you will not become a monster looking to prove itself to the world, but you will pick up all the aspects of the people you admire.

>>17401903
Easy. Masturbate less. Get your release from sex and not from your hand and you'll find yourself ready to go when the situation arises, so to speak.

My boyfriend is 2 years younger than me. I know it's not a big difference, especially as we look the same age, act the same age and are in the same stage of our lives. I'm still irrationally bothered by it though. How do I get over it?

>be 21 year old kissless virgin
>"just pay someone to have sex with you they said"
>pay for sex
>couldn't get it up
>didn't know what to do
>Leave without fucking and cumming
I should just give up, I mean I don't want to give it another chance just to waste my money. It just proves that if I was able to get a women into bed and pretend to be confident I would just turn her off because I wouldn't know what the fuck I'm doing and just be a big disappointment. If I can't fuck a whore, I definitely wouldn't be able to fuck a woman from a club. It's all pointless. I'm hopeless right? I don't deserve to have sex. I deserve nothing. I need to be executed so that natural selection can work.

>>17401914 >>17401935
Easy. This guy >>17401923 >>17401996 basically said what I would have said.

>>17401953 >>17401993 >>17402023
Again, the other anon said what I would have. Maybe you can get the photos changed, too. Or use it as a talking point to break the ice. Life is what you make of it.

>>17402036
This other anon is on a roll. I recommend trying to do both, maybe you can swing the serious job and work the other part time, or even just do it as a hobby by getting an animal to work with in your free time. Sometimes the easiest solution is to just add more onto your plate rather than make room between a rock and a hard place.

>>17402071
Easy. Just find someone new. Like the other anon said here >>17402241, time is important. Steps in a new direction are equally as important so find someone new and you'll feel much better.

>>17402187
Easy. Worst case scenario is you don't make friends with them. Best case is they bring you along to do tons of cool shit. Remember that 100% of decisions in life are temporary since we all die in the end. You could just find a new placer if shit goes sour. I think you should give them a shot, it could be a lot of fun.

>>17402974
That sums up why I haven't gone to a brothel yet.

>>17402202
Easy. The anon here >>17402238 is right. Give her a shot.

>>17402210
Easy. See the above post. You'll never get anywhere if you don't try.

>>17402217 >>17402227
Easy. Find someone new. You'll forget all about this girl when you find someone new to be with, and she'll see your change of focus. Everything works itself out when you find someone new.

>>17402233
Easy. Just keep doing you. And have some faith that if that day of being in a toxic relationship were to ever come, you could get out. Don't plan your escape route ahead of time, that would put a pretty big damper on any possible long-term stuff. Just be mentally on point about sketchy guys and you should be fine.

>>17402244
Easy. Not doing it is not an option, right? So you have to eventually do it. If you procrastinate you'll have recurring stress over doing it, but if you do it now, you can get it out of the way and cruise to the end. Start it early and do it right and you'll feel motivation to do other things you've been putting off like other course work or doing cool stuff you've thought up or learning something new.

>>17402252
Easy. Only wipe your butthole. Don't smear the shit up your crack. Shaving your ass will help clear you of dingleberries and residue, too. When you shower, throw your hand down there and wipe it with soap, too. Doing the above 3 should clear you of skid marks and leftover shit.

>>17402253 >>17402255
Easy. You're fantasizing what could have been. It wouldn't have worked out, the gears were set in motion already and you didn't have a chance to see this girl for who she really is. Me personally, I feel way more open and present when there's nothing on the line, like she probably was around you. She knew that whatever happened, she was leaving and would never see you again. So she was more friendly. But if you were to get into a relationship with her, she would have been like 95% of the girls out there. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. They're just girls. Continue doing you, and know that the feeling of what could have been is pretty unjustified.

>>17402265
Easy. You slowly start treating her like a girlfriend. Then she either accepts you, or, more likely, she gets super put off and no more FWB for which you go find a new girl and become bf gf with them.

>>17402308
Yeah. You're basically just a cog in a giant machine, sometimes you're stressed like crazy, sometimes you're standing completely still. It all depends on the situation. Use off time as a chance to improve things in the company or do things you want to do.

>>17402767
Easy. Trust yourself. Nice and quiet guys are critical of themselves and willing to bend to maintain the status quo. Becoming inflexible on your beliefs and your actions by not giving leeway to others is dominance in a nutshell. Make decisions and stick with them. Accept the consequences of your actions and continue moving forward. You'll find your way.

>>17402910
Easy. Get good at your job so the woman stops yelling at you, or find a new job. As you get to know your coworkers, be available to hang out and stuff. When you get to know them, see if they wanna go chill. For home stuff, it's all just a part of getting older. Your coworkers will become your friends. You can also join clubs to meet people with the same interests as you and make friends that way. For the meds, stop taking them. You don't need them. What you really need is to get out and enjoy life. Force yourself to be optimistic and eventually you will just be optimistic and feel loads better.

>>17402922
Easy. If you're trying to make friends, you won't make friends. Find excuses to hang out with people, because in your mind, hanging out with people in general is important, but don't place too much emphasis on certain people, especially in the early stages of friendship. Diversify your friends- don't place all your eggs in one basket. The facebook thing is kinda silly, you're right. You could try Tinder. Just get out and about, and don't try to make friends with certain people.

>>17402948
Easy. You solved your own problem, you just haven't realized it. You DO want to do something, and that something is getting away to a new place. You can get away from the corruption you speak of by moving to a rural area, like a small town. Small towns are distanced from the nonsense of the world. Not disconnected, but distanced. Move out from your parents' place and make a career somewhere new.

>>17402966
Easy. Bring it up with him. Sharing the burden is the benefit of relationships. Maybe he can help you get over it.

>>17403123
The kissless virgin here.

My question was a bout girls, not friends BUT either way you advice is solid.

>>17402974
Easy. Stop trying to please other people so much. Consider your will to deprecate yourself as a useful tool for something down the line where, say, defusing a situation requires self-deprecation instead of a benefit you give to everyone. When you stop trying to please people, you focus more on your feelings of the situation, and ultimately, your feelings are the ones that matter. Trust yourself and stop trying so damn hard to please others. If you combine these two with a mindset of optimism, you have a recipe for purebred confidence in yourself.

>>17403131
Easy. He's just trying to continue bullying you. Don't let him get to you, and get a restraining order. Get a new job and don't let people walk all over you. I get confrontational when I feel people are trying to walk all over me. You should too. Seriously consider the restraining order, too.


Looks like I've caught up. Woohoo!

>>17403123
Houses are a rip off in Britain and I woudn't even know how to find the right area. I would have to travel miles aimlessly not knowing which place is right without a place to stay and find somewhere the next day. I want to camp somewhere or build my own house somewhere but people are greedy and expect you to use land of someone that claims they own it, like they can own natural space. It's sickening

>>17403141
What? I'm a kissless virgin that just wanted sex, why would I need to please others. They only person I care about pleasing is myself.

I haven't had any social media for about two years. I really didn't enjoy being apart of it and it felt like a waste of time. But I'm starting to get worried that I'm being deliberately antisocial and missing out on meeting new people and girls, especially since I'm in college. Is it worth getting new accounts?

I'm 22, I'm handsome but inexperienced with girls and awkward and I have never had a gf or sex.

Who are you? What do you do in life? How do you have time for all this?

>>17402758
How exactly am I supposed to get into a relationship with a girl who makes me want to blow my brains out after a few minutes of her pointless boring "conversation"?

>>17401297
How do I let go of someone i love? Our time together sort of ended, and I know now we're in different stages of life and the relationship wouldn't have worked.
But I can't let go of fear and sadness and sometimes anger for the way it ended. I keep clinging on.

>>17403149
Well if that's what you would have to do, that's what you have to do, right? Don't let the footwork put you off from being happy. You can make it work. You could find a hotel to bunk up in for the night if you can't find anything. I'd say give it a shot.

>>17403157
"I wouldn't know what the fuck I'm doing and just be a big disappointment" is the entire foundation for why you're unable to get it up. Your mind is tuned to pleasing others. Stop trying to please others and you won't care if you're a disappointment and you'll be able to get it up. Make sense?

>>17403174
Easy. Prioritize. Maybe social media is the solution. Are you willing to put up with it to be social? Or could you actually be social without it? (more of a rhetorical question, of course you could be social without it) At the end of the day, hard work can make a lot of things happen that probably shouldn't be possible. You just gotta do the legwork to try and win on all counts rather than giving in here and there.

>>17403181
Easy. Get out there and try. Relationships aren't miraculous occurrences that happen out of thin air.

There's a girl I know at college who I've grown very close to as a friend. She's told me things about herself and her life that she says she's never told anyone else, we have a lot in common in terms of the way we percieve life and the world, and a few nights ago she texted me at midnight because she was having trouble falling asleep due to anxiety. So I reassured her to the best of my abilities that she isn't a terrible person (long story short, she can't cope with being alone so she's been semi-regularly hooking up with a guy over the summer, but her friend has been crushing on the guy for two years and she feels like shit).

I was a little sentimental and mushy about it, and according to her, the things I said made her cry with happiness and she told me twice afterward that she "loves me so much" and that she wants to see me when we both come back to college.

Is she actually romantically interested in me, or is she just using me as an emotional tampon/see me as some kind of autistic younger brother figure that she spends time with because she feels bad for me? Should I ask her out?

>>17403347
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>inb4 the inevitable ebin cuck/slut memes

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i need a job. i got second degree education, licences etc. but i cant make it past the interviews and get the contract they just always say they´ll keep me in mind and never call back

i dont have much job history but am willing to do almost anything. hell i´d just wanna work in construction yard to feel like an adult.

so what do /adv/? please fix me. white good looking fit guy btw.

>>17403215
I see myself as an equalizer. This place is a focal point for people that just need to get over a hump to see the green grass on the other side. The effort I put in here might change someone's life for the better, you know? I want people to be happy and I know I can help with that.

>>17403236
Easy. Lead the conversation. Her boring conversation is just a natural reflex to silence. You can talk over her and even almost completely ignore her to talk about what you want. She will see you as dominant and follow your lead.

>>17403260
Easy. Find someone new. I've said it multiple times throughout the thread, but I'll say it again: time and steps in a new direction heal wounds like that.

>>17403347
Easy. Go for her. Don't push too hard for a relationship but don't let her shrug you off. If she legitimately wants to be with you, she'll be totally down for it. If she shies away, she's using you. It's super simple.

>>17403362
Easy. Make yourself attractive to the employer. Say that you like their company and stuff. Be proactive and make the impression of a guy who has the skills and wants to work there. You can't ride on a resume alone. I'm not accusing you of riding your resume, but maybe you just need to put a bit more oomph into the interviews to bridge the gap. You should be able to find work in your field if you're persistent enough and willing to look really hard. I'd consider working a temp job somewhere just to get you by. Don't abandon your degree.

How do I keep conversation up with people that I have no common interest with, like most women

>>17402899
Thanks anon, I really do feel I have changed, I've been working hard on myself, maybe there will still be something there, maybe not, but if I don't try I feel I may regret it for a long time

>>17403406
Easy. Ask the other person random personal questions. Use their answers to build conversation through personal stories, opinions, etc. and flirt with them. Poke fun, talk yourself up, be mysterious- all of which can start with a question.

There's this 17 year old girl I like and I think she likes me as well, the problem is, I'm 21. What do?

>>17403763
you wait until she's 18

Im 18 and there is this girl in one of my classes who is 4 years older, we have great chemistry and even my professor thinks something is up because we are always talking during lectures. Its sort of eerie how similar we are as people. How do i approach this if im interested?

been with girlfriend for 6 months now. in my mind ive started to check out, knowing I need to get a legitimate career im happy with instead of this handyman nonsense I do now. when we first started dating, she pretty much sidelined me for other fun and then came back. i thought a second go i would get over it but it just bothered me more and more thinking I was that safe bet, second choice. am I being rational here or just really insecure?

I don't care about success or anything the earth and humanity has to offer.

I lack passion for something and I can't find said something. I have all this energy to do something extraordinary but don't know what. Want to do good, want to change something significant, but I honestly lack passion because nothing interest me. Even as a child I didn't like anything specific, as an adult I truly felt like I've tried most things and still can't find my passion. Fix me.

I suffered from really bad depersonalization. I couldnt look at people or things because of how absurd they looked to me. I'm pretty much over it but feel like I still feel a bit alien to everything. How do I get back to being 100% comfortable

>>17403763
Easy. Don't engage sexually until she turns 18. Continue doing what you do without sex until then.

>>17403805
Easy. You see if she wants to date by seeing if she wants to hang out a few times. If not you can always find someone else and restore the relationship with this girl to just friends.

>>17403820
Easy. Get into a serious career and spice up your relationship by specifically going on dates with her again. I'm not sure if you two are still dating in the true sense of the word but if you aren't, you should go places and have fun again together. Might just need to be refreshed a bit.

>>17403822
Easy. Become the paragon for what you think is right, or cool, or interesting in the world. Don't follow others, don't follow the norms- cut your own path through the jungle and be the role model for others to find a sort of enlightenment.

>>17403827
Easy. Jump in to something completely new, with the intent to master it. For me, that was my car. With no experience, I bought a rustbucket 1965 Impala SS with the goal to get it running enough to drive halfway across the country. I started working on it 2 months prior to the trip and still made it. Find a new trade that you can truly plunge into and work hard at to achieve something cool. Hell, maybe you should get a project car, I don't know. I love it personally. Just something brand new that will shake up your world. Buying that car opened my mind to a lot of possibilities after being in the same situation you are in now. Devote yourself to something brand new that you can learn a lot from.

>>17403833
Easy. Hang out with people and give it time. You'll get over it with more time and more exposure to others.

>>17403873
>Easy. Become the paragon for what you think is right, or cool, or interesting in the world.

I don't find anything interesting.

If he treats you bad dump him. Being fat and not having sex can be cured. Abuse cannot. I would take you in a heartbeat.

I have medical conditions that can not be treated that I will have the rest of my life. I can not work in normal jobs because of this. I have tried remote jobs but thwe are far too many scams. I rwally want to do something for my life to have an impact to help society.

26, girl, good looking, smart, easy to talk to if there are topics, not a bad personality as much as I can help it

Lately I´ve been getting more and more lonely, realizing I don´t belong in my friends´ "group" circles - more of an outsider like "see you once in a while" with everyone. It gets very hard to meet new people, too (out of college, not much money to spare for paid activities right now, no idea where)

And to add to that, I was reminded about a week ago what I miss about having a partner/relationship (I was okay alone for the last 2,5 years, but now I´m suddenly not)

Just... getting more and more lonely, beginning to feel desperate and depressed. I hope there´s some advice about this arouond here

>>17403895
My point exactly. You need to blaze your own trail and be interesting since the world is void of interesting things. The fact that you look to the world for satisfaction is pathetic, childish even.

>>17403909
Easy. If you really want to be someone and make an impact, you'll find out what exactly that means and find a way there. Hardship breeds willpower.

>>17403936
Easy. Your issues boil down to 2 things: not spending enough time with others to maintain and establish friendships, and not having enough money to go out with friends. You need to remedy both these issues, likely through finding a way to hang out with them on the cheap, in order to end your loneliness. Finding a partner is simply a matter of getting out and socializing, and you can do so with your old friends.

how do i not have emotional affairs?

>>17404054
Easy. Don't open up to people that aren't your partner, and open up to your partner. Keep constantly vigilant about possible avenues for cheating and remind yourself often that you're committed to your partner until the desire to open up to others and get involved disappears.

>>17404047
I agree wholly about the money - I´m actually planning in that direction (it´ll take a month or two only), but that is a problem for meeting new people since my friends now don´t require it to hang out with.

But the time is a problem since it´s a two-way thing. I bend my plans to fit other people, but they don´t. For example I had mostly a vacation last week and in that time, noone of those people found it to spend some time with me (or visit me since the first two days I couldn´t walk - twisted ankle), despite half of them them having holidays/vacations themselves (and staying in the city, with free time), even though they say to be close/friends. It´s something I´ve been seeing for a long time now (months, in some cases years), not just this once.

There are birthdays forgotten about and not celebrated because the date is inconvenient, meetings canceled way too often, promises to go somewhere/hang out with them (then I see the pictures of a group outing) and so on, no matter how I try to spend time with that (each) particular group. I´m simply not considered a part.

Thing is, I came to a conclusion that I either give up on them or I probably need to meet different (kind of) people to connect with, but the things I stated before still apply (including not knowing how/where and being a little older) and lately, I´ve been getting scared to meet someone new since I don´t want to go through the same ordeal again and again. After things like this happen with a few different (groups of) people, it gets harder to put oneself out there.

Alright then. How about this little cluster:

1. I can't really empathize with people, and I'm generally awful at showing emotions other than plain old anger and joy. Even as a child, I never felt particularly bad when other kids cried or got hurt, and it didn't really change from back then. Unless it's someone I already care about, it doesn't bother me nearly as much as other people, and it's just... weird. Other people's problems are more annoying than anything. I've never spoken to a shrink about it, because to be honest, I'm afraid that if it was some form of disorder rather than me being a self-centred prick, I would end up in an institution or on some sort of unofficial blacklist. The real problem, though, is that it's really hard to get along with people like this, and social interaction is the basis for success in society. How the fuck do I manage that?
2. I find sex largely unappealing. The reasons for this range from finding sexual organs somewhat disgusting to the simple fact that on account of my physical disabilities, I don't actually have any feeling in the relevant parts. Easy to see how it would alter my perception. I still feel attraction, which is the issue - because I can't really imagine how to start and manage a relationship that is completely devoid of, if not sex altogether, then intercourse. Just brings all manner of cheating-related scenarios to mind and fuck that noise.
3. I lack ambition and drive. Not interest, so much - I have things I enjoy, and enjoy quite a bit at that. None of them are particularly useful, but people made it work with worse hobbies and skills. What I miss in order to get anything is the ability to force myself to actually put in sufficient effort to accomplish something meaningful, and the ambition necessary to actually set myself a proper goal - because as it stands, when asked where I see myself in ten years, or what I want to do after I finish university, I genuinely don't have an answer.

>>17404107
Look, I understand your plight because I was in the same situation. I would recommend trying to build old relationships back up. Extend the olive branch unconditionally by accepting any offer to hang out, by apologizing for some wrong doing or neglect in the past, or by asking to hang out for old time's sake. If you've tried and failed to make old friends, it's time to make new ones. From your perspective, you don't even know where to begin. Which is fine, you don't actually have to know where to begin. You should consider joining clubs, or getting a gym membership, or hanging out at coffee shops. You can easily socialize with random people in these places, and elsewhere. It's easier to make good friends with recurring meetups but saying someone is cool and asking if they wanna go hang out at a bar after a first meeting is fine. You've let the old bonds fall apart so now it's time to take them as a lesson learned and make friends that will stick with you (because you stick with them and don't blow them off).

>>17404168
Easy. Don't let people get away with unloading their problems onto you and you won't have to deal with it as much, which will turn you into a more emphatic person when the rare occurrence comes along of someone with issues needing someone to talk to. Remember that relationships are essentially bilateral agreements to help one another, so for sex, have it when your partner wants it for their sake even if it doesn't please you. For ambition and drive, that's built wholly by hard work- you have to work hard and achieve your goals before you will even begin to feel ambition and drive. Setting a goal is easy as fuck, you could do it in 10 seconds about some generic thing, like 20 pushups every day. The more you stick to your randomly-set goals, the more ambitious you will feel, and the more you will want to do. Remember that you're not forcing yourself to do anything, that you WANT to be ambitious and do cool things, that you ARE ambitious, that you will meet your goals because you've set them in front of yourself, and that it is purely as simple as that.

>>17404218
Yeah, that about meeting new people is exactly what I have planned, I just hope I find places like that here.

About the old friends, I haven´t let them fall apart, they were always like that, even at its best, from the start until now. They never were better or closer, otherwise it wouldn´t be so hard for me right now to think it through. I don´t argue with people, don´t have bad habits, don´t forget my promises etc., so there are no apologies to be made either. No negative feedback, nothing. But still here I am, sixth day alone, even though I asked to meet up. Honestly, with how its all going, it gets harder to go between them these days (but I still take the opportunities whenever they come).

Seriously, the new people way might be worth a big try. I just hope I´ll be able to do it.

>>17401297
I have no friends, and nearly no social contact, wat do?
27, been NEET for six months, have an engineering masters degree, getting autismbux for legit (diagnosed by a psychiatrist) autism.

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My problem is a constant loathing of myself and most of the people around me. I don't have many close friends because most of the people I meet seem boring and I can't find people with the same perspective on life. I've been abe to camouflage myself well, so I have a good job and seem like a positive, well-to-do citizen, but that is a facade. I have had many serious relationships, but the idea of settling down for a lifetime and procreation seems very offputting. I don't feel as though I belong here. I don't feel like I belong anywhere.

>>17404322
Man... I don't even know how to approach giving you advice... find a job and make friends with coworkers?

>>17404579
Easy. Reinvent yourself and push your existing friends to do the same, while looking for people who are already pushing themselves. Think about the coolest person ever, what do they do, what do they wear, what do they know, what do they not do? Then become that person by acting like that person. And try to get your friends active once you realize being active is cool. You'll feel like you belong once you start taking up the profession of being cool, trust me, I did.

I was intimate with a guy, I enjoyed it but it was against my religion and personal beliefs. It ended because I had to leave the country.

I still find myself thinking about him, and don't think I could ever be intimate in the same way with someone else again. At the same time, he's not of the same religion as me, he's a bit of a slag, and it would never lead to anything substantial.

However, I will have a chance to return to his country and he said that I can have a rent reduction if I'm ever around. Should I reach out to him and stay at his place again, even though it might lead to us being intimate? Or forget about him completely and not tell him that I'll be coming back?

Alright /adv/, here's my personal dilemna. I know this seems stupid and not worth caring about, but bear with me here.

So, sometimes I have these dreams. No, they aren't wet dreams, in fact, I NEVER have wet dreams. Maybe this is due to my asexuality, or something, but I've always thought it strange anyway.

Anyway, in these dreams, there's always a girl. Always a different girl, but through some event or another I always end up with a romantic attraction to this girl. We do some stuff (never sexual) and then the dream ends.

When I awaken, I am absolutely FUCKED UP. I mean, devestated. Deep feelings of loss, regret, and depression slam into me immediately, and to each dream a varying degree of intensity.

Like I said before, I'm asexual. I've never met a girl I've been interested in, and I probably won't for a while. I don't want sex, but I don't ever feel romantic attraction either. Thus, these dreams confound the hell out of me.

And I just had another last night.

What do I do? How do I deal with this?

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Hey, /adv/.

Let's assume for a moment, that I had the password to a steam account that doesn't belong to me. Let's also assume this account has some CS:GO knives, that would sell for a decent price.

In this entirely hypothetical situation, would I be able to sell the knives? Or are there security measures for this exact situation?

>>17404848
Email confirmation i think.

>>17404848
If the owner of the account has the steam app and mobile authentication, you'll never be able to put it up for trade without the code from the mobile auth. Otherwise, if they don't there will be no problem. The credit, of course, would be on that Steam account, and not yours, though.

>>17404880
What about email confirmation, as this Anon pointed out >>17404877 ?

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Sup bro, good on ya for doing this. Just want to get some input here.

Greentexted for your pleasure:
>work with a really cute/nice girl for about six months
>find out she has absolutely no friends, raised in a very sheltered christian family
>never become "bffs" because she's pretty shy and doesn't text/call anyone all that much, but become pretty friendly
>hang out with her alone and in groups several times
>finally ask her out to the city on that special 1 on 1 all day session
>day goes damn near perfect. her favorite restaurant, shopping around, walk on the beach, all that


Then as I'm dropping her off, I say:

"Hey Anon, did you have a good time today?"

Her: "An amazing time :)"

Me: "Would you ever want to do something similar again, but call it a date?"

Her: "Yeah..I-...I'm sorry but I just don't want to lose you as a friend. You're really my only friend"

Me: "I understand, I was just asking. If you'd really like, things don't have to be awkward because of this, we can still be legit friends"


A few weeks later and this is hurting me way more than it should. I mean, I'm pretty much the only one that's given her romantic interest in assumingly years, she's even said that she's never had a boyfriend.

Everything was going pretty well. Not "incredible" but I took it slow, played the long game, executed that one big day well, then... nothing.

Where do I go from here? I don't know if I can be friends anymore. It's not like she takes much initiative and communicates to me or anyone else for that matter (I know because her circle of friends/acquaintances is mine).

I know this whole thing is *probably* dead in the water but I can't seem to shake it off, man. It's one of those things where I put so much effort into, felt like I performed well, and just fell flat on my ass. It's got me fucked up

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I have a question.

There is a woman that I started having feelings for and I hope the feelings are mutual.

I want to ask her out and i'm afraid to throw the "d word" (date) because I don't want to scare her or I just don't know..

Some info
>we started talking the beginning of July
>same age (middle 20's)
>we text everyday or every other day.
>share some of the same interest (games, comics, anime, movies)
>cute personality type

Input? I have a sort of plan but I'm too full of self-doubt.

>>17404809
Easy. You have as much information as you possibly could. Just make a choice. Why fret about it? Who knows what will happen if you stay with him. Maybe nothing will happen at all and you'll save on rent. Maybe you'll enjoy a different place. Can you predict this? No. So just make a choice.

>>17404821
Easy. Stop masturbating and get with a girl. You're only think you're asexual because you've probably a) never been with a girl, and b) you masturbate so much that you don't have any libido. This would explain the complete lack of wet dreams too, you fuck your hand too often. Maybe your brain is telling you to get with a girl in your dreams and quit being dumb. Yeah, I had a small phase where I thought I was asexual too, don't act like I don't know. I do. It's easier to self-reject yourself from relationships, isn't it? I bet I'm cracking the entire shell right now, aren't I? Take my advice and quit calling yourself asexual, you don't bud to reproduce.

>>17404848
You could always trade them to a random steam account then trade them to another account then sell them then delete all involved accounts to cover your trail but Valve will still have the info of what account the money went to so good luck trying.

>>17404909
Easy. Give her a shot, go for the relationship. I obviously have less information than you do, and maybe your gut is telling you something while your brain is telling you (and me) another thing. Go with your gut. If that means not trying with her, then whatever. Find someone else to be with. People aren't special and you're compatible with more people than you know. It just takes some time to build a relationship, that's literally the only hurdle stopping everyone from being a foreveralone. Seriously.

>>17404962
Easy. Just don't use the d word. Hang out with her someplace, and when you feel the time is right, make a move. Then you can start calling it dating without fear.

OP here, going to bed again, if you want advice post itt and I'll help out tomorrow

>>17401297
here we go..
>start working with a friend at a place where he's been at for a while
>I start falling for a girl there that is cute as fyk and actually hard working
>my friend doesnt know and tells me he approached her to fuck and after deliberation she said she wasn't up for it with a colleague
>i tell him i think im falling for her
>ask him if he's ok with it and he says he doesnt care

I'd really like to ask this girl out in the next month because I expect that she'll be gone soon as the summer is almost over (4 month summer cuz uni fag) and I haven't asked her yet but im assuming she'll leave when school restarts

so I really just want to know if someone who's not obese but not in shape can get in shape in the order of less than a month and if you think it's likely my buddy will try to bang her again as soon as the summer is over. It's a kinda shitty situation as I feel like I have no chance and it really hurts when I think about her.

tl:dr out of shape and afraid my friend will bang a girl i like as soon as he gets a chance even though he knows i like her and I would accept it if you just agree that i'm fucked.

>>17401297
im becoming a manipulative asshole. i dont know what i wanna do with my life. i dropped out of college few weeks ago. i manipulate people to get what i want. and when i get it. i either tell people to fuck off or just disappear. im becoming an asshole, a part of me hates it. and another part of me loves it.

>>17405807
what do i do

How can I finish my dream project? It will take a long time and I keep falling in and out of it yet I think about it all the time but rarely work in, how can I stick to it?

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>>17401340
Not OP but his advice was shit so here's a better answer:

Learn to separate your two issues of 1. You feel down because of your weight and 2. You feel down because your relationship is shitty.

It's important to separate them because in all likelihood fixing one wont fix the other.

You probably know how to lose weight, if not let me know and I'll give you what worked for me.
As for the relationship, never let culture, religion or tradition have an influence on choices relating to your mental wellbeing. It's your happiness and life, not mom & dads or Vishnus or whatever, the only persons attitude and choice who matters is you.
Personally I'd highly recommend you break up and find someone who makes you happier. Fixing a dull/boring relationship is rare and he sounds like he doesn't care enough anyway.

I'm lonely. I'm also married. My wife passively demands that I do things with her more than her doing things with me. Also whenever I have feelings that don't match up to how she thinks I should feel, she just tells me she just doesn't understand me and goes about her daily business.

tl;dr I may be married, but I'm not happily married.

At least we're not fighting I suppose, but I can't help but think that I could find someone who could make me happier.

>>17401388
How long has he been your bf? Sounds like he might be making you piss yourself during the night (with your hand in water or whatever) Either that or it's just sex related like you say.

He already knows about the first time, so it's not as big a deal as you think. He probably knows already but even if he doesn't there's no embarrassment unless you don't tell him. Just tell him you think fucking is giving you bladder dramas and you'd like to not fuck for a few nights to test the theory, proceed from there.

>>17401297
I took too much Adderall and now I'm freaking out

>>17406014
Fall in it more than you fall out of it.

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I'm terrified of rejection and approaching girls and I have really intense feelings of inferiority

but I have lots of friends, have a job, school, hobbies etc., just nothing girl wise

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I am a junior engineer with mild anxiety/jealousy issues, when ever I talk with people who I "think" are better than me I have trouble keeping the conversation going and most of the time try to end it quickly.
I also think I am not knowledgeable enough in my field even though most people tell me this is not the case (you can't be #1 in everything), plus I work on small projects in my spare time (electrical engineering) but still think they are not as great as what other people are making.

Guess I just need to start thinking more valuably of myself but can't really get into this mindset...

How do I figure out what I want to do with my life