Borderline therapy?

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>>17398736
A lot of therapists won't take on bpds.
Those that do usually say stuff like
> the first essential step is to want not to be a rage monster
And will mention how few are able to do that.
Take from this whatever conclusion you want.

>>17398905
I mean HOW THE FUCK am i even supossed to do that?
I am aggressive to my surroundings, my family and friends. I know i am an asshole but i don't feel like i want to change that. the only thing that bothers me is the inability of forming a healthy relationship, and it's the only thing that makes me want to start a therapy.

>>17398924
I think its importan5 to note that self diagnosis does not mean you have it. Second, just cause that you cant form long term relations does not aitomatically mean you have bpd or a disorder, it very much vomes fown to the individual circumstances.

It sounds like you are just very immature and need to work on your social skills and temperment. Or maybe you are just frustrated with your friends as they dont satisfy you. We would need more details.

>>17398905
>A lot of therapists won't take on bpds.
>Those that do usually say stuff like
>> the first essential step is to want not to be a rage monster
>And will mention how few are able to do that.

>>17398924
>I know i am an asshole but i don't feel like i want to change that.

I don't know if this is funny or sad

>Quick research
Okay then, Dr. Anon, MD.

A few questions, have you looked over your previous relationships, and attempted to connect specific variables that caused them to fall apart? Identifying the key issues, and then figuring out ways to avoid or talk through them with your next attempt (should you get to such an impasse with her), can help prolong the life of your relationship together.

>>17398942
It's sad and it's annoying for me as well, but i list like being this way. I had a reason why i became aggressive BPD person, and i have to admit i actually worked for it. It's like giving up on all of the work i put into this, though i actualy wanted to be assertive rather than aggressive.

>>17398943
Whoops, wrote over question 2.
If you have any friends that saw your relationships, could you ask them why they think it failed?

>>17398924
>I know i am an asshole but i don't feel like i want to change that.
Then you're fucked. A healthy relationship requires compromises from both people. You have to give up certain behaviors or whatever else to add to your relationship, that's partly how you make them last.

>>17398943
When it comes to relationships i feel more like i'm hunting for a prey than actually establishing a relationship. When i "get" my "prey" i lose nearly all interest. The fact people tire me(im introvert) also plays major role. I tend to hurt people around me as well, without really meaning it, and i often don't even realise i'm doing this.
The main problem is that i'm female, and, from my experience, men tend to avoid talking about things that hurt them, so i never know, and keep getting frustrated about how they never tell me, so i can avoid this exact behavior. I'd probably hurt them in another way though.

>>17398963
Asked them, they mostly say it's because we gave up too easily(i give up nearly instantly if something's not right, i see world in black and white, either something's perfect or it's not worth my time)
I want to change that if it's going to fix my realtionships. My main question was, does the therapy help with that, because if it does, i'm willing to make the effort to fix myself.

>not posting mance rayder version of that pic
fag

>>17398976
I didn't even know who mance rayder is. I don't watch GOT.

>>17398964
You sound young. Very young. I think your issue instead is expectations. You want people or imagine them to be exciting or interesting. When they dont you drop them.

Being female isntva problem. At all. The fact you bring it up sounds like confidence issues. Sit your parents down and tell them what is addling you, cry if need be.

But sit down, think about YOU and what is addling you and why and stop thinking in silly ways like "prey" and other kiddy things. You have issues no doubt but its up to you to realize them proper.

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My ex was BPD.

From now on I'd just say that no therapy is good for your kind, just an oven in death camp.

>>17398964
>Predatory behavior
>Losing interest once you've got them
Hey, are you me?
You wouldn't happen to have a wide range of interests and easily slide into talking about various topics as well, right?
Then, once you know all you deem interesting about said person, that's it.
It's how I feel trying to mingle at parties. I'm just trying to get a frame of reference, it be convenient if it fit.

>>17398985
My parents know, and they suggested a therapy. my BPD is connected to confidence issues. I'm 24. I don't really cry, if i do it's for few seconds and then i'm instantly all happy again - not forcing it at all, that's how i work.
>>17398989
Ok thanks, time to spend my entire life as a NEET, with waifus instead of real relatonship. good thing 4chan is always here for me.
>>17398993
I tend to try lots of things and drop interest in them when i fail. I suposse you could call it a wide range of interests. I find it very easy to manipulate someone into relationship, because "oh look we like the same things, we match!", but it's not the only kind of relationships i've been in. I've had some more serious relationships, but they all still failed. I WANT to be able to have a long-term relationship, i just can't do it.

>>17398972
No you're not.
You'll have to leave your assholish ways behind, and you don't want to do that.
It's part of the disorder too.

If you don't get it, consider yourself an alcoholist, that understands how binge drinking is bad, but not why he shouldn't even drink socially.
It's pathetic, he wants to act like normal people, but he can't. If he does he'll fall back in the disorder.
After a long time dry, he could try, but it will be risky.

>>17399012
I'm willing to leave this all behind if it's going to be necessary to therapy which i'm willng to start if it's gonna allow me to establish a long-term relationship.

>>17398942
Funny as fuck, it's almost expected that she'll never change.

>>17399017
I've been telling you since the first post, it is a conditio sine qua non - and then therapy might work, if you find a therapist willing and able to work with you.

Rage, aggressiveness, being an asshole... No matter how you call it, drop it.
Our don't, and keep going as you are.

>>17399031
Will look for a therapist then. Wish me luck and determination, because i'll need it.

>>17399004
Sounds like its a case of modern parenting. Sad to hear that OP but, as someone who has studied Psych, bpd is essentially a person who never learned to grow up and crappy parents.

The issue, as helpful as it can be for some, with therapy is that it comes down to you and if you want to change. Not if you can, if you want to.

This isnt so much a disorder as it is a developmemtal problem. My only other advice os to take up a healthy lifestyle and drop your unhealthy or unproductive hobbies. Computer for one. If you are used to immediate pleasure i.e consumerism that can also play a part.

>>17398736
There are a lot more symptoms than bad relationships. I know BPD is the new meme disorder but please try not to grasp onto every little thing that could excuse why you'resuch a faggot, because in the end your excuses still make people hate you.

>>17399034
Good luck.
Channel your rage against the rage itself, you can do it. It's the only thing you can do, so do it.

Holy shit those BPD, when will they learn?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iihsbrwqZLU

Is there any case of BPD successfully maintained? I feel like there is no redemption for this kind of people and sooner or later they always break and reveal themselves.

>>17399038
Fun fact, my both parents are psychologist.
>>17399042
i know. I am diagnosed BPD, it's not just something i made up. I'm not one of those self-diagnosed tumblr cucks, i started a therapy with the psychologist who diagnosed me, but i didn't really care to continue it at that point.

>>17399051
Well fuck this is quite accurate at some points.
Expect the "porn is cheating" part, it made me kek. I even agree for my partner to sleep with other women as long as he allows me for the same thing. Of course as long as it's nothing serious between them, because i tend to be extremally envious about people close to my partners, and friends as well. I think "three's a crowd" and i hate when someone wants to meet me, and then brings abother person as well.

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>>17399089
My ex was also real about this porn part. Fucking ridiculous.

>>17399101
I know right? It's unbelivable for me. Like seriously, i am an asshole, but this just sounds like a joke.

>>17398736
no. there is no hope for your kind. you should relocate to a secluded, rural area and avoid human contact as much as possible. do not inflict yourself upon unsuspecting people who are likely just trying love you and/or be your friend. your only potential is to cause suffering. do the responsible thing, anon. become a hermit.

>>17399142
But i'm not wiling to give up on my happiness just for the sake of other people.

>>17399168
You're BPD, you're already unhappy

>>17399174
I was pretty happy until recently. I suppose i could go back to that if i wanted.

>>17399219
How many bridges have you burned down since then?

>>17399226
Not more than i usually do.

>>17399233
But more than zero.

You can't go back to how it was.

>>17399168
you do not have the capacity to feel happiness. you will come to understand this in time. you are a parasite- you feed on the happiness and good will of others. you consume these things until they are depleted, and then you leave your subject a broken shell of their former self. after this, you will return to your natural state of despair and hatred, and you will move on to find your next host. any emotion you think you feel is just a reflection of something someone else feels, a distraction from your own self loathing and insanity. you cannot give up something that you do not possess. there is no malice in my words, anon. i do not hate you any more than one would hate a tornado, or a wildfire- these things are terrible, to be sure, but they are mindless forces of nature. they do not choose to be what they are or do what they do, they simply are. and much like one would do in the face of these natural disasters, its is best to just avoid people like yourself.

>>17399243
Well but i don't want to? I just want to be an ok person like everyone else?

>>17399241
Well i can get more bridges

>>17399260
>I just want to be an ok person like everyone else?
you cannot. i know it sucks, but this is the hand youve been dealt. judging solely by the responses you have posted itt, you do not have the fortitude or willpower to "be an ok person". very few bpd sufferers ever learn to manage their condition, and the relapse rate of those that do is unsurprisingly high. you must accept your fate, anon. you must understand that you are a walking time bomb filled with ebola. why would you want to expose others to this? and i will answer that for you- it is because you lack the capacity to consider others, and this is a truly detestable trait. this is not your fault, but it is the truth.

>>17399326
If it's like this then it's unfair other people are allowed to be ok while i can't be ok then it's just fair i make other people not okay as well.

>>17399142
I'm with this anon, OP. As a BPD female this is what I did and now dedicate my time to learning the classics for virtue and volunteering with children. Better for all of us this way.

Are you also sexually impulsive like many other BPD women?

>>17399326
This is not true, a huge portion of people diagnosed with BPD do not fit the criteria within 10 years. This is especially true for those diagnosed at a young age. It's a disorder of immaturity, which many grow out of. If OP continues to not give a shit about being an asshole they'll likely continue to be this way until they reach the point where no one puts up with their bullshit and the pain is too high to continue living this way comfortably. Or forever. We don't know either way.

>>17399418
>If I have cancer it's ok for me to murder people because if I die, everyone else has to as well.

Fucking retarded asshole piece of shit.

>>17399418
based on this statement, i now advise you to kill yourself at your earliest convenience. your desire to harm others makes you dangerous. you do not decide what is fair for others. you do not decide anything for anyone other than yourself.

>>17399453
thank you for making the responsible choice, anon. i hope that you can learn to manage your condition and rejoin society.

>>17398736
I'd definitely be going to therapy. It can help a lot, especially with the right person.

>>17398905
Don't listen to this shit, that's just unambitious/apathetic therapists.

>>17398736
The only therapy that has a good success rate with borderline is Dialectic behavior therapy (DBT).

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectical_behavior_therapy