How do I get a gf

>>17392979
Dude, I know exactly how you feel.

It feels like a lesson that everybody else learned/figured out.

>>17392979
Post what you look like and I might have the answer to your question

>>17392979
You can't keep waiting for it to come, you gotta go out there and nitpick. Experience, experiment, and understand, my dude.

>>17392979

You seem like you're less needy than most people. As in you're good with being alone rather than being with someone you don't like that much. Most people are just afraid of being alone, because they equate alone = lonely, which is not the case with you.
One day you might meet a girl you like so much that your thirstiness will drive you to all the right places. Or you might die before that. Idk, life's a risk nigga

Just don't get with someone you don't really like.
The bad feelings will keep lurking there in the back of your mind, flaming up from time to time, making you say shit you shouldn't say and make your relationship go from bad to worse.

Unfortunate for you, you're gonna have feelings for this woman when she finally breaks up with you, and it's going to hurt for days multiplied by the number of weeks you've been together.

You're going to want to call her, but you know it's a dead end. It will just lead you back to the situation you came from, if she will for give you this time.

Eventually she won't forgive you anymore, and that's when it's over for sure.

>>17393065
Problem is, when you start approaching 30 and everyone else is having kids, and you haven't even had your first relationship yet, then you start feeling terribly our of place.

And what's the purpose of working so hard, and doing all these things, saving money, living a bachelor life, spending very little on comforts for yourself.

It's all meaningless. You can't take it with you to your grave, and you have noone to share it with.

Noone cares about you.

You think your friends care?
They have their own lives, their kids, their wives, their mother in laws. They don't have time for old pricks like you.

>>17393046
Im like 6/10 attractive so Ive had girls tell me im attractive and message me and shit online but most of them drop out when they find out how short I am so I havent been very optimistic with the online dating thing.


>>17393062
I understand but I also understand how much of a faggoy loser one looks when they try to go get em alone. I feel like you really need a wingman or a friend group for this kinda thing which im lacking. My bipolar makes me hate myself every other day so I go ghost on people more often then they can tolerate.

Idk man I dont feel like im that fucked up of a person, people worse off than me have a girl, but here I am without a chance.

>>17393080
This is probably part of your problem. Stop being such a pussy. Women like confidence. Whether it's true or not, if you come off as a confident guy, it'll help your chances. Don't be such a downer, would you want to be around someone who always goes on about their own faults?

How tall are you?

>>17393084
Im not a downer around people thats why I go ghost so they dont have to hear my shit. Im actually decently confident when im not hating myself and people would probably say im a fairly happy person. People dont even know I have bipolar they just think I like being alone. I think thats some of the problem. I spend too much time alone, but I dont know how im supposed to meet people by myself? How is it that deadbeats with no jobs and shit meet girls? It just seems so effortless for some people

>>17393084
Oh and 5'4 so an actual manlet. I know that realistically cuts my dating pool in half but even still, guys worse off than me have girlfriends

>>17393080
Listen, my dude. This wingman deal you speak of isn't an important factor you should care much about. You gotta do you, confidently though. Even if you're not a very confident person, put on a confident persona and you'llsee that after a while, even if you get nowhere, you'll actually become confident by nature, without trying. And stop saying you don't have a chance, my dude, that's just you beating yourself up without reason. Are you legitimately diagnosed with a bipolarity disorder?

>>17393099
You need to find a social setting that clicks with you. These fucking shithead losers are finding shithead loser chicks like them because they're hanging out in bars or alleys or wherever shitheads hang out. If you stay alone in your house, you'll remain alone in your house.

>go ghost
What the fuck does this mean, Phantom? And I didn't get the height question I asked either.

Think very carefully before you decide to go out and attempt to get a gf. First of all - you're 24, and any girl you'll attempt to date will have had experience. At your age she'll reasonably expect you to have a stable career, a home, a car, hobbies and interests that you excel at. You'll need to maintain conversation and plan and pay for interesting and fun dates.

If you don't have all this, or aren't capable of it - don't bother. Live in ignorance rather than having your shit shot down because you're a man-child stuck in arrested development

>>17393124
Wow thanks for making me feel worse about it all buy you arent wrong

>>17393191
It's just how it is. I was in your shoes once. I was even older, actually. I was 25 when I first started dating and it was a steep fucking learning curve. I eventually got the hang of it, but it's a brutal awakening if you're prepared.

>>17392979
What you have to remember is that other people put themselves in situations where they're able to get a gf. In most cases relationships are formed due to knowing something within the inner circle of friends.

So reality is you'll have to go out to social situations. You won't meet anyone sitting at home and online dating is a hit/miss that doesn't work for *most* people out there. It's not about looks or confidence, or anything like that. It's about putting yourself in social situations and mixing with other people. You don't have to have a million friends to meet a girl, you just have to put yourself in social situations and you'll eventually manage to find someone.

That's the truth. Of course, there are outside, edge cases where people meet someone differently but in nearly every circumstances out there, people met someone through a social situation and within the context of friends (friend of a friend of a friend, etc).

So just put yourself out there and you'll eventually find someone. And if you don't , then don't stress it. Just continue doing what you're doing.

>>17393191
Lol he isn't right at all this is bread and butter r9k garbage

How is it that there are plenty of unemployed losers in relationships?
you're not a man child for not paying a mortgage this is why robots are actually just retards

>>17393246
If you're going to higher tier women - women with careers and houses of their own, etc. they expect the same from the man they're dating. It's not an unreasonable expectation.

If you're happy to settle for some casual or part time retail working gf who sponges off you and has no ambition - then sure, go for it.

Maybe this is why robots have such warped views of women - because the only women they can attract are garbage... just like them.

>>17393261
Yeah dude
If there's one thing there's plenty of it's established, independent, well-off, home owning 24 year old women

Have you gone outside recently dude

>>17393261
>If you're happy to settle for some casual or part time retail working gf who sponges off you and has no ambition - then sure, go for it.
>Maybe this is why robots have such warped views of women - because the only women they can attract are garbage... just like them.

Most people do nothing with their lives. Being married doesn't mean you'll magically build up a ambitious lifestyle and most relationship fails.

With that said, it's not about figuring out what is attractive. It's about putting yourself out there. You are no different than the millions, upon millions of other men out there. The only problem is you're sitting at home thinking of all these creative ways to get a non-existing girl. You don't know who you will meet or where until you go there and meet her.

>>17393238
Fuck dude you are right but what can I do? Im lucky if im invited out once every two weeks. Ive tried going out alone but I just feel awkward and out of place.

>>17393283
I'm a 26 year old with my own home. The girl I date is exactly 24 with her own home. Essentially the same career trajectory - grad high school at 17, uni at 18, grad 22 - 2 years working in your career is plenty of time to save a deposit for a home.

I really don't understand people who think it's beyond someone in their mid-20s to own a home.

Lift your game

>>17393297
I mean it's not a easy task at all that is going to happen in a day. Remember you are no different than anyone else out there. You just have to expose yourself to be found.

I recommend joining a club or something. Not to meet a girl, but just to build up a set of friends. Perhaps go to a church, or maybe people at work or do anything that is considered a social gathering. Pick a social event that you like, and go to it. Don't go there specifically to meet a girl but instead just go there to chat with other folks on a common shared subject.

Remember, you're 24. You won't own a damn house like that chump above said. You won't find a girl who owns some damn house. Chances are she's just as broke, just as down as you are and is just as desperate to meet someone. But the guy next to you will get her 10x faster because he's out there and you're here.

>>17393296
>Most people do nothing with their lives.

I agree. But this is often parroted by people who have no ambition or drive or really even the mental competency to live any differently. So to those people I'd just say "like you even have a fucking choice."

>Being married doesn't mean you'll magically build up a ambitious lifestyle and most relationship fails.

Obviously. I don't believe in marriage, I don't ever see myself being married. But marriage and a meaningful relationship are mutually exclusive. You can have one without the other. And that is worth striving for.

>With that said, it's not about figuring out what is attractive. It's about putting yourself out there. You are no different than the millions, upon millions of other men out there. The only problem is you're sitting at home thinking of all these creative ways to get a non-existing girl. You don't know who you will meet or where until you go there and meet her

People already know what is attractive to them. The problem is, they're not attractive options themselves. Get your shit together.

>>17393300
So the both of you put down payments on separate houses in your early 20's while single with no children

please don't talk about what "high-tier" is and isnt

>>17393319
You do bring up points, but a woman attracted to your "ambition" is not a good woman to begin with. She knows what she wants, and you think you know what she wants. You try to be attractive to her, and just as soon as you fall, which you will, she will leave. If ambition trumps in relationships, then celebrities/execs/etc/etc would have a much lower divorce rate.

Lasting relationship builds upon a stronger bond. You disliking marriage already puts you outside the reach of women who owns a home and wants to start a family. I'm fairly convinced, based upon what you said, that you are very superficial and have a possessive view of women and will fail, multiple times. I'm not entirely convinced that you even have a gf and that you made up the entire bit about "getting your shit together" because owning a home or career will not cause you to instantly get a woman. How would a woman know anything about your home ownership or your career if you do not go out there and meet her in social situations? She won't.

>>17393331
Single, no kids, never married, two degrees, her own home in her early 20's.

What, to you, defines a "high tier" woman?

I'll wait...

>>17393335
Ambition isn't a sole reason to be attracted to someone, like home ownership, high education, nice body, social status, etc. are either. These things, you're right, are not foundations to building a long term relationship. However, they are manifestations of the type of personality the person is. Would you rather ambitious, or apathetic? Built, or fat? Educated, or uneducated? Driven, or lazy? You are, exclusively, what you do - not what you think you are. They tell someone whether you'll be compatible, have similar goals, see yourself in similar places 20 years down the line, have the same values, respect the same things. They speak to a higher compatibility.

You may see superficiality - but someone like minded - therefore compatible on a deeper level with you - will see someone they can be with.

Much in the same way that obese girl on the train, with cheeto cheese stained fingers screams familiarity to you where I just see a disgusting slob that needs to be put down.

>>17393347
Not something in such consumerist terms because I still have a penis

>>17393373
AKA you're a broke NEET who hopes a woman will see him and his "penis" for more than the sloven, parasite he is. "I'll reject a commercially competitive society because I can never compete anyway - but I'll make people it's my choice, even though I know I never had a chance."

Go peddle your contrived 'anti-consumerist' bullshit to people who don't see you for what you are - with your internet connection, computer and smart phone.

Hypocrite.

>>17393383
>Buyer's Remorse: the post

>>17393402
>Parent's Remorse: the child

>>17393309
I started airsofting with some guys but I have my doubts ill meet any girls from them and I feel it isnt enough, but there isnt shit to do in my town.

And im not really trying to find "high tier" girls but I dont want like shit tier juggalo trailer trash or something. I dont have very high standards but im not willing to date a single mom.

>>17393407
The folks are dead but at least my kids are more financially saavy than you

>>17393427
Yeah, property is a hell of a bad investment, renting forever is where it's at. Especially for the "anti-consumerists" among us.

In all honesty though, you've gotta be a troll. I refuse to believe anyone could be this pathetic. Even on /r9k/

>>17393300
Not OP but a decent home costs around 500k+ to buy. Most fresh grads wont be able to afford this. Hell most people will never be able to afford this.

Girl here,

I'm tired of you thirsty betas complaining about not getting pussy. It's a real turn off. I'm considered a very direct woman, so let me give you these crucial steps to at least get a 6/10

>Be attractive
Now being attractive isn't everything, but if you don't at least 8/10 looks, women will not even pay attention to you. Take care of your face and work out. If you're still ugly, get surgery or settle for some landwhale

>Be rich
The bare minimum is exactly $100, 000 a year. That's the economy for you. Just the way it is. We want to be taken cared of. Even you do get a girl, she'll just leave you for the next rich alpha

>Social status
Chicks love it when you have connections & actually know how to talk to human beings. Not lonely social autist that can't even say two things to anyone. Having connections can come in handy in the future & doesn't hurt to be a person lots of people know.

>Nice car
All we want is to driven in a car that's not shitty. Just get a $20, 000 car. It's not too much to ask for. Oh, if you can't drive, consider suicide.

>Be tall
HOLY SHIT PLEASE BE TALL!
Why would a girl want to go out with a manlet? Theres plenty of tall men for us you are not even worth the competition

>have big cock
Yup, size DOES matter. The whole "ocean" thing is bullshit. This is why we let black guys do us.

>Don't be a virgin
Virgins are disgusting! They should be condemned to death. How are you still a virgin? Girls don't ask for much you know.

>Get rid of your pathetic interests
No more vidya, comics, anime weeabo shit, no porn, no more cartoons, MLP, and stop coming to this stupid Filipino image board. You're grown ass men, act like it.

>Be an asshole
We don't show it, but we love to be treated like stupid children. Why do you think women would stay with their abusive cheating boyfriends? But hey, if you're really nice, maybe we'll let you be our official orbiter.

That's it. Pretty easy if you ask me.

Don't forget -- Just be yourself :)

>>17393115
This is a good tip OP.

I met my first gf at the age of 21 in an anime club, of all places. No shame. She had similar interests and was just as autistic as me, but she was cute.

>>17393596
real girl here
Don't listen to this, we love nice men :)

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>>17393614

Whoops, meant for >>17393611

>>17393596
I agree with the stop coming on here and giving up porn.

I swear men older than teenagers spending all day here must be those types who think they are still adolescents.

Had enough of these whiny, childish "men"

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>>17393621
Fuck off.

>>17393621
How's your first day on 4chan going?

>>17393078
>And what's the purpose of working so hard, and doing all these things, saving money, living a bachelor life, spending very little on comforts for yourself.

Actually, alone you can spend everything on yourself rather than supporting children/wife.

>It's all meaningless. You can't take it with you to your grave, and you have noone to share it with.

I'm sure "sharing" will be fun when your ex-wife takes half of everything. Even worse, states like New York still have alimony, so you get to support her deadbeat ass with an allowance (how 1950s!).
>Noone cares about you.
>You think your friends care?
>They have their own lives, their kids, their wives, their mother in laws. They don't have time for old pricks like you.

It's up to us all to work out our own salvation for ourselves, and caring what pussy-whipped "family men" think about you is a waste. You think kids will take your side; care for you when you are old? That's not a certainty.

People still care, even if you never interact romantically. What about platonic and professional relationships? I know an MD physician in her 50's who has probably never had sex and lives with her elderly mother- she has plenty of money and friends in the community.

The point is, having a girlfriend/wife etc. is not some magic bullet that will make you the world's most popular person and each of us must walk our own path, alone or accompanied.

>>17393124
>At your age she'll reasonably expect you to have a stable career, a home, a car, hobbies and interests that you excel at.
Or simply be hooked up with drugs. I know a 30 year old metal/punk type who was kicked out of community college after a "freak out" who peddles prescription drugs, and always has a girl. Shit, he actually gets stuff from them and works menial labor and food serving jobs.

So it goes...

>>17393261
And yet "low tier women" also expect you to have a good career and car and house even if they don't. In fact they demand it even more, because they want to leech the benefits of those things off of you.;

>>17393300
>dude this 1 anecdotal example I have (which I probably made up anyways) TOTALLY proves that they're everywhere lol guess u just suck if u dont have 1

kys

>>17393699
They're rare, but not impossible to find. My sister is a year younger than my gf and in the same situation. They're out there, but if you're their age or older - they're going to expect you to at least have what they have.