Making friends in adulthood

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All my life I've been popular, but I recently realised I have pretty much no friends anymore and it's making me feel lonely. All the friends from my childhood have been moving out of my hometown and away to various places around the country. That's ok, because I'd been drifting away from them while I was at university anyway, but I've also lost all of my friends from there. I had a relationship, and then a bad breakup which hit me hard, with a girl in my friendship group, and I pretty much cut contact with all of our mutual friends because I didn't want to be reminded of her at all. Now I'm trying to start a new life with a completely new friendship group, but I'm finding it pretty hard now that I'm out of university and into the real world.

I get on well with all of my co-workers, but I wouldn't say we were good friends and I don't feel particularly close to any of them, Other than that, I just don't know where to make new friends - everything was much easier in university. If I wanted lots of new guy friends then I can just join a sports team, and I might do that, but truthfully I'm looking for more female friends. I've been >tfw no gf for far too long now, and am still depressed about that breakup from years ago. But I really hate the whole Tinder and dating scene, and would much rather have a relationship that progresses 'naturally' (i.e. from friends to more than friends). The problem is I'm pretty shy/unconfident, so it works better for me if I've already had time to get to know the girl and relax around her. But it's not just about girls - most of all I miss just having fun with people and chilling out.

So how do I make more friends?

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I never was popular but I am interested in this thread. I am in the same point in my life. just getting a internship and have one class left which means I have to look for people in the business world.

You said in college you will join sports teams. I think you can do that but join a coed beer league. You will meet other girls and guys who like sports too. I guess you can try finding concerts to go to(I have never had much luck in the couple of concerts I have been too) or go find events that are happening at bars.