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How to end obsessive behaviors

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So I have a problem where I'll tend to get kind of obsessive about a certain girl at a time. Realistically, it's nothing more severe than "social media stalking," but I'm getting worried about what it's doing to me.

Right now it's with that model with the heterochromia that people have been sharing a lot in the past year. I found out about her last October, and ever since, not a day goes by where I don't check her instagram, twitter, and tumblr pages multiple times a day. That's obviously not fucking healthy, and made considerably worse by the fact that I'll never meet this person, let alone communicate with her in any fashion, and any girl I come across I instantly find myself comparing them to her.

Now it's not totally bad. I have used her as motivation to hit the gym when I'm feeling less than energetic about going, and both her and gym have helped me clean up my diet some too (thinking about her judging me for eating disgusting fast food as stopped me from popping into mcdonalds a number of times). But that's still no justification for her constantly being on my mind.

I've been working to try and disillusion myself about her (i.e. how the eye colors are faked, how calculated her personal social media tends to be, etc.) in order to break the thought patterns, but that hasn't been too effective. I was wondering if anyone else had some advice on what to do outside of seeking professional help
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Am I on my own on this one?
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>>17388709
I never stalk people who will never know me. Focus more on women you know, that's more healthy and should divert the obsession and dilute it into multiple girls.
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>>17388222

>I was wondering if anyone else had some advice on what to do outside of seeking professional help

No. There is no home remedy for obsessive disorders. Seek professional help or continue to watch your life deteriorate. Those are your choices.
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>>17388721
>Focus more on women you know
I don't know any

>>17388723
I can't afford to get professional help, though. And free help is at least 2 months away
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Desperate bump
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>>17388222
Not here to give advice, but I had a weird similar celebrity obsession, too. Idk what the fuck it was because I am honestly 100% normal outside of whatever weirdness that was and I felt like a stalker.
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>>17389306
What actually ended my obsession was the person reminded me of my cat and then that cat died suddenly of like stage 4 cat cancer, and then all of a sudden, I didn't give a fuck about this person anymore. All of it was pretty weird.
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>>17389342
I mean I wouldn't call myself normal, but this shit is too much for my taste, and the compulsion is unnerving.

>>17389385
Sounds weird. Good on you for being able to break that though.
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Gurl wears lens. Go outside and stop being a stupid fuck.
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>>17389446
Yeah. It's bizarre, not just you, but me, but I understand you 100%. Like it was weird to me, I had never been interested in anyone like that ever. Like other people don't really interest me, but this dude did. Just remember this shit is all in your head, and just avoid meeting her. Then you actually become a stalker and not just a social media stalker.
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>>17389463
I know. I've done a fair amount of research to try and convince myself to stay away from her. And I'm living a fairly regular life otherwise. It's just this shit that's been coming up despite my trying to end it.

>>17389488
I can't meet her. She lives on the exact opposite side of the country from me and I'm incapable of moving anywhere near that way for a few years.

There's still a girl I'm interested in that's actually around me, but it's just a crush with her that I'm not too concerned about. Though it was interesting that I showed the model to a friend of mine who knows about the crush, and the friend pointed out some similarities between the two that I didn't really pay much mind to before.
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