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How to stop thinking about other people when you are in a relationship?
I've been in a relationship since last spring. He's a sweet guy, keeps to himself a lot, we haven't had 'the conversation', though I am not seeing/doing anyone else. Once his friend asked if we are together and he nodded yes.
Now I am abroad for 2 months, possibly 3 weeks more, and he doesn't talk to me much but that's how he is, and I like him. Nevertheless, I keep thinking about another guy I met here. We haven't been anything more than friendly, and he has a girlfriend, yet I keep thinking about this guy in the wrong way. Even when he's simply around, I keep looking for any kind of signals. I know he has a girlfriend, he knows I have a boyfriend.
I have never cheated during this or previous relationships and I have condoned others who do, so what is happening and how do I stop it.
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>>17382257
As long as you don't do anything about, dream away. You should probably see more of your current guy.
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>>17382257
>what is happening and how do I stop it.
You still find other people attractive, surprise! You can't really stop that.
Now whether you act on this feelings or not, that's something you can easy influence.
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>>17382273
My boyfriend isn't into talking/skyping or responding to the usual "I miss you". He's just not that kind of person and I can't ask him to be. I know if he was around I wouldn't think about others, since it hasn't been an issue before, but I'm staying here at least 1 more month and that is 1 more month of me being awkward about an innocent human being.
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>>17382278
The problem isn't that I recognize that this guy is attractive and nice, it's that I fantasize about a chance to flirt with him, that at some point he would nonchalantly say he just broke up with his girlfriend as a pick up line, etc. The poor man can't walk in a room twice without me seeing it as a sign.
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>>17382293
Well, that's expanding on "seeing the other people attractive", but practically it's the same thing in the end, and again pretty normal; many people just wouldn't admit that they do it too.
You can't control your thoughts, at best you can add another layer to it and seeing the stuff more "movie-like" and separate it more clearly as a fantasy. (Hope it makes sense)
You didn't actually DO anything, so no need to lose your head over this stupid shit.
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>>17382311
I guess what I am scared of is what would I do if that guy made a move. But now that I think about it, it's nothing I should worry about it, it's just a theory in my horny mind, it's a slim chance I will ever have to actively withhold myself.
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