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>>17379159
Get out more.

Doesn't matter where or what you do. Just go outside and people will talk to you. No excuses just get outside even if its scary.

>>17379159
Bump

I have the same problem

>>17379159

>cant
>cant

sounds like this is your major issue.

>i get rapidly friendzoned

you need to stop thinking of friendzoned as the rare negative option you keep receiving. the default for people who know each other is 'friends'. you are not being zoned. you are simply approaching women and they are not returning interest for a variety of reasons.

its normal to be just 'friends' with someone you get to know. women are not obligated to date you.

>>17379179
>Just go outside and people will talk to you.
I wish it was that simple. When I go out I go out alone... and it's literally useless.
Also I have no hobbies

Small talk is fucking stupid desu. I don't make it if it feels forced, but if you want to make more friends or date, that's not the best idea. Therapy will help with anxiety, but not with the ability to make small talk itself. If you don't have friends or hobbies talk to cashiers and shit.

>>17379201
no it really is that simple. There are a gorillion threads about this every day. There is no shortcut. You get good at talking by talking. You find a girlfriend because you look for one.

>>17379179
This.

If you go out more to just do something, you'll build conversation pieces that most people can relate to.

Walking in parks, going out of town, taking community college classes. Learning new things is another thing that can be a good conversation piece.

Common things that almost anyone can talk about:
>Food and cooking
>Nature
>Travel
>Music, concerts, and plays
>Either watching or playing sports. Doesn't have to be team sports. Can be one on one things too like fencing, tennis, etc.

A lot of these topics are fairly good because at most you might come off as a hippy, hipster, or a jock depending on how you approach things.

After you get some pieces built up, you should go out of town to practice talking to people randomly. Try to approach anyone who looks remotely interesting and say hi and tell them something nice that you noticed about them.

I learned how to talk to people by riding the trolley.

>>17379201
>>17379218
Having no hobbies is a problem. You NEED something.

On top of what's suggested here, another thing you can do is learn how to make things.
>Wood working
>Metal working
>Painting
etc

My Grandpa builds beautiful wooden boats. It gets everyone's interest even if they're not into boats.

Another thing with being "friendzoned" is just because they're just blatantly not attracted to you.

It's probably a strong combination of things. Judging how you write this is what I see:
>No confidence in yourself
>You don't take care of yourself
>You give up too easily on the wrong things and try too hard on the girls.
>You have very little life experience and it shows
>You're too dependent on others.

A lot of your problems would just be fixed by getting out.

Go to a doctor to judge if you have genuine aspergers or you're just an internet-browsing faggot who forgot to use his mouth and subconscious for talking instead of sucking dicks.

Jokes aside, I am genuinely pissed off that I'm being lumped together as normal with the rest of you anxious nerds when I do in fact have real, untreatable autism.

>>17379159
You probably can't think of anything because you have a mind-block in social situations. To fix this you'll have to fix your anxiety.

OP here, thanks for the replies.
The problem is I'm being this way since I'm a kid, and the older I am, the worse it gets.
I never had real interests. I'm often interested at something for a short time, then I just become bored and want to do something else.
I'm even sick of being on the computer but it's my only way to pass time when I'm not at work.

Currently I think being a volunteer in an animal shelter might be a good thing.

Girls let apart, my main problem is to make friends. I lost all my friends from college except one. I try to make some at work but they seem to be already good with their own circle of friends.

I know this is kind of related to my anxiety problems. A lot of members of my family, including my mother, takes antipsychotics.
Due to something wrong (let's call this a burnout) this late December I went in a psychiatric hospital for 3 weeks.
And they found nothing better (I specify that I never had any demential crisis or anything) than giving me Xeplion (Invega Sustenna)... This thing literally turned me into a vegetable, so after that I immediatly stopped taking it because even taking a shower was incredibly difficult, but my body hasn't recovered yet.

I'm literally lost and don't know what to do. Because of my mental illness I only find suicide as relevant option.

>>17379289
>search for fujoshi on google
>spanish everywhere
What the fuck

>>17379390
Try different doctors. Nothing we're going to say is really going to help if you have mental issues.

Practice, maybe go see a psychologist, build up your confidence, start practicing small talk and stuff online if you feel that you can't really start a conversation face to face with someone. Online you have much more time to think and wait before to reply, and it is kind of less stressful

First thing to build up your confidence is to think that it could be much worse. I mean, your awkwardness is just a mental thing, surely nothing far from displeasing yet fixable comparetively easy.

Talking about much worse, one example are speech impediments - linguistic problems, I have one , and it has really fucked me over, a lot. I've lost so many to it yet I'm keen on fixing it via long and stressful therapy both with a specialist and at home, because I've fixed most of the other things, despite that I've had a gf, you can only guess why I wrote it in past tense, anyway, just overcome that shit, it's nothing.

>>17379159
>Can't create small talk or anything

>small talk on a date

You barely need to talk on dates, senpai. You simply keep on asking questions and let the girls to 90% of the talking. Just listen

>>17379159
u need to have a life if u want to have a conversation with people