Last night the girlfriend, well I guess ex girlfriend, hit me

It's impossible to say without knowing the type of person both of you are and the context of things that were said.

From the outside, I'd guess that you just didn't take the relationship seriously enough. When people complain about petty shit, a lot of the time they have a deeper reason as to why something bothers them.

She wasn't bothered you didn't ask about her shitty day in particular, I'd imagine she felt like you weren't putting in any effort to the relationship and you were letting it stagnate instead of being proactive.

Did you ever organise anything with her or did she do the work? If the idea of visiting someone for an hour then coming home again isn't pleasurable to you, you have to ask yourself "am I taking this relationship seriously?" and "is a relationship something I'm really able to commit to right now?"

let me know how you feel about these points because I may be off the mark.

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>>17378963

I literally know EXACTLY how you feel, last week I broke up with my girlfriend of three years because I couldn't take it anymore. It takes me thirty minutes to see her as well and I work from 6 in the morning until 10 at night and she still expects me to go see her, pay for her dinner, and listen to her talk for an hour to thirty minutes and then she gets tired and says goodbye.

Honestly do yourself a favor if you haven't and cut ties you'll be a lot happier. I'm still kinda depressed over things, but I feel my spirits lifting.

>>17378963
She sounds like a normal chick and you sound like a normal dude.

The problem with that, is that you think normal dude behavior is acceptable to normal chicks. It's not, and that's why those kinds of gripes are very common. Relationships are give and take. There are times you have to set being a normal dude aside, and turn on female empathy. Do those things she called you out on. Similarly, there are times she has to scale back her female idiosyncrasies and understand that you need time and space to yourself, and to not nag you.

This seems like a simple case of two people who are young and largely inexperienced. It's not a huge deal unless you make it one. As you get more experienced and you grow older, you get better at navigating these sorts of problems. You get better at perceiving your partner's feelings, wishes and desires. So it's no longer a game of 20 questions, because you automatically know what you ought to do/say.

>>17378969

I'd come up with things to do, hikes, whatever. Said hey, I have this day free let's do this, oh no I cant, I'm going out with so and so. After a while I just let bring things up

When I can get another 1.5 hrs of sleep in, and not be a sloth by mid morning, I'm gonna take it

>>17378998
In that case sounds like you don't have compatible lives and that a break up is for the best.

I wish I only had to drive 30 minutes to see my girlfriend.