I met a girl in a ballroom dance class we were taking together, went out with her a couple times, took her back to my place, and she dropped the bomb that she had genital HSV-1 that she contracted from someone giving her oral sex. When we were about to get it on, I went flaccid and let her know I'm going to educate myself adequately before I make a decision if I'm going to pound town, or not.
I probably should've just cut her loose on the spot, but I think I genuinely like her? Since then she went to San Diego for an internship (we both go to UCLA), so our physical relationship has been on hiatus.
She's pulling hard for me to come visit her this weekend, and I'm scared if that happens I'm not going to be able to control my dick and i'll take the splash.
Does anyone have any personal anecdotal experience on how easily HSV-1 is spread asymptomatically? I've done a pretty extensive literature search via pubmed and NIH, so I'm aware of clinical statistics.
That being said, I'd like to hear from real people on what you think I should do. Please anonymous you're my only hope.
>>17357533
She's a stand-up girl for telling you. Must have been hard for her. That being said, HSV is for life. Are you ready to be a carrier and have to tell all your future partners? Or worse, not tell them?
You're still very young op. And what if you guys don't work out. You're going to run into plenty of women afterward and you're going to have to explain to each of them how you contracted HSV...not fun at all. That's if you'll even be able to get another woman after her with the huge crater that something like HSV puts in your self esteem
When you said HSV-1 I though it`s on her mouth and that`s socially less of a big deal, but her vulva? That`s a different story. Think well if you`re willing to go on with this. Kudos to showing responsibility.
Thanks all for the commentary.
>>17357678 pretty much hit the nail on the head as far as my concern ranges. I could deal with a blister on my cock, but carrying around a "Scarlet H", explaining that to new girls in my life, and putting them through the mental turmoil I'm going through right now???... Man, not so much.
I'm feeling down on myself for leading her on, knowing all along in the back of my head that sooner or later, I was going to have to crush her self esteem even more than it must be.