So I told my gf I was into bondage and we tried some rope stuff, teasing, orgasm denial etc. She was into it, more than I expected. Later she asked me what kind of porn I watch. I told her mostly bondage stuff and she said she wants to watch some with me. Only thing is, the porn I watch isn't the gentle domination and control that we were doing together. It's more of the "damsel gets abducted and molested" variety. I also watch some shibari stuff but I think she'd find that kind of boring. I'd rather not freak her out when she's just starting to get interested, so which route should I go there? Not asking for links to NSFW sites but are there any good sources for gentler, more intimate bondage videos?
Have you tried typing soft core bdsm in the search bar at any porn site?
What I would do is go on pornhub, find the type of video that you can still get off on, but that your gf won't be freaked out by, and following the source of the video to more similar content.
>>17334201
Just tell her beforehand that it's more rapey than the stuff you've done and reiterate she's not in danger when you two have sex. She'll be more creeped out if you act all coy about it then it suddenly comes to light when you watch porn.
On the other hand, don't try to soften it up for her sake (she should be comfortable and accepting of what you're into), and don't say "it's just a fantasy/fetish", because that implies you wouldn't want to try harder stuff given the chance.
It may be awkward at first, but be brave - as they say, honesty is the best policy.
>>17334266
Yea do this. Just start with soft stuff that she'll be like "oh yea this is what we do." Then as you click links they'll get progressively more hardcore. And then she'll be like "Hmm, I want to try this too."