Am I a bad person if I don't want to be there for my friends' bad times because I wouldn't want them to be there on my own because I wouldn't want to bore them?
You know the answer to this already.
Aka, don't be a shitcunt.
There are people DYING for their friends. Now, I'm not saying you have to go that far. But just being a shoulder and an ice breaker is enough support and friendship solidificaction.
Just keep that in mind.
>>17273428
What I'm saying is: since I don't like people minding my business and trying to "help" me when I'm down, I wouldn't want them to expect me to do the same thing for them.
>>17273431
Ah, I get you.
>Jetlag is a bitch
Still, the shoulder bit I posted. Your friend will return the favour, and you'll be hard pressed to stop them.
You're not a bad person for being stubborn, everyone does it. But don't completely dismiss your mates and their desire to support you.
>>17273443
Okay thanks. It's just that I have a great paranoia that people are constantly saying shit about me behind my back and I'm afraid they'd use the information I give them as a weapon against me.
Hope you had a nice flight btw.
>>17273453
It's not really paranoia, people will talk behind your back, doesn't mean they are smart enough to use it against you. People are too emotional for that 90% of the time.
You just sound like a shallow friend honestly.
>>17273486
I'm projecting myself here so i might be worng.
He isn't a shallow friend, he's just not confortable with his friends; none of them are close to him so it's hard to be open and potencialy get fucked over.
It's hard to trust someone you are not 100% sure if they will betray you.
If he finds someone he can trust he'll be more receptive.
>>17273502
That's 100% right. You described me well.