ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

What temp do I pre heat the oven for my pizza?

>>17270795
200 C

Girls, how do you deal with height differences in relationships?

Girl I'm interested in is 5'0" flat, and I'm 5'9". I would have to stoop for everything and many sexual positions don't seem possible. Plus, 5' is only 2" above legal dwarfism so I'm concerned for her genes.

I know this is a shallow train of thought but it's important to consider everything I believe.

girls

How would you feel about hanging out with a guy with a rape fetish? I don't do anything in person that would indicate that I'm into it, nor would I ever actually do it but I was introduced to porn through hentai so I guess I was predisposed to be into it.

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Open question.

I lead a pretty adventurous and exciting lifestyle, and have done lots of pretty awesome things, my work colleagues usually ask me for advice on where to go or holidays.

But my major con is I am about a 5/10 and pretty shy and quiet.

What can I do to improve? "put myself out there" so to speak. I'd like to start small.

Guys

Why are you all so gay holy shit

>>17270796
Seconding this. I sometimes go 225.

>>17270815
Boyfriend is 6'3 and I'm 5'6.
In everyday life everything is cool. We don't kiss a lot because it hurts his back, but we hug often. That's literally the only problem.
We never had major problems during sex (just doggy, but we figured something out). I stay on top a lot.

>>17271266
It's mainly attractive ones who are gay.

And boy am I thankful.

>>17271277
No there are tons and tons of fat ugly gays too. They are fucking everywhere, I feel like the little boy from the sixth sense.

I can't think of any guy as not gay. Its a problem.

>>17270796
get out of here brit bong

>>17271252
Try to improve your appearance - work out, have a decent hairstyle and facial hair, dress nicely, smell good.
When it comes to personality, all you can do is put yourself out there, sadly - talk to people, smile lots, make them laugh and tell them about the awesome stuff you do.

I honestly like people like you, I'm too introverted to deal with super-extroverted-always-enthusiastic people but I have a pretty active lifestyle and I travel lots.

>>17271282
>I can't think of any guy as not gay

What exactly do you mean? Whenever you look at a guy, do you just always see things that (to you) scream 'GAY'?

>>17271290
Yes. I've checked my gaydar, it's not broken. It's learning.

>>17271293
Maybe you're gay?

>>17271297
Why would that make sense, even remotely?

>>17271299
If your not attracted to guys because you think all of them are gay, maybe you're attracted to the other sex? Also I'm a bit drunk lol

>>17271304
I AM attracted to men, that is the problem. I used to think it was endearing.

>>17271293
Ask any guy if he wants to fuck, I'm sure that most will tap that pooch. Or maybe your not attractive to guys and they ignore you.

>>17271306
Just because they fuck women doesn't make them less gay.

Girls: If a friend of yours asks you out for coffee, does that itself automatically make it clear that he wants a date?
Or should the guy also explicitly tell you he's attracted to you?

>>17271322
Its corny to just come out and call something a date. But it's shitty to accept the coffee knowing it could be.

Girls: could your period affect when you're flirting with someone? (ie. One day you're all joyful and flirty, and the next you turn dull and boring)

>>17271335
If you're asking if women on their period are aware that their mood swings are being caused by it, no, that generally doesn't happen.

It's more like you wake up and see blood, and go "Oh, THAT'S why I cried because a bird pooped on my car yesterday."

Girls: My family has a summer house, and the girl I likes home is close to the house, like under 2 minutes away.

But I live 3 hours away from the house. But a weekend or two every summer we go up there. She knows this and mentioned we should hang out when my family is up there.

It's in upstate New York so it's all woods, however what type of stuff would be good ideas for dates? (Fishing, movies, lunch, etc)
Also should I ask her on a date or take it a bit slower and start it as just fun activities as we get to know each other more?

>>17271371

I was asking if there was any relation between those suddenly mood changes and the period, but your answer was pretty helpful.

Also, which is the average time this mood swing can last, and what can I do to make her feel right?

>>17271287
Any advice on how to be a good conversationalist?

>I honestly like people like you, I'm too introverted to deal with super-extroverted-always-enthusiastic people but I have a pretty active lifestyle and I travel lots.

Cheers! I speak from experience; there are more like us, but obviously being shy and introverted and all.

Guys: How do I respond when a guy asks to see me naked or wants to do stuff but I'm on my period? It feels really embarrassing to just say it outright and gross him out but I don't want him to feel like I'm just giving him the cold shoulder but denying all his advances.

I dumped my cheating ex almost four months ago. Then I started seeing this other guy but he dumped me a month ago.
I've been feeling like shit because I felt I wasn't good enough for the last guy but today I understood that I wasn't good enough for my ex of two years (he cheated on me for the entire time) and I wasn't good enough for the last guy. But that's okay, I am good enough for myself and I am not a bad person because those relationships didn't work out. I am kind of sad but at the same time I feel relieved. Just crying about all the lies I believed and how badly I was treated. Even if I weren't good enough for someone I shouldn't have been treated that way.

Does it sound like I am finally starting to get over these things? Or mainly just the cheating ex since the other one was a rebound that lasted for two months.

>>17271488
If it's a problem I would say wait a day or two. It's important that you are comfortable. Once it's over, you should initiate it to make it up to him, great him with a few sexy photos and ask him if he's horny. It may be cold for a day or two but once you're done reward him.

>>17271313
So use the word effeminate instead of gay you confusing retard.

Girls, what would you think if your bf busts out in tears in front of you?

My last gf dumped me after I cried infront of her because some terrible things happened

What is up with that?

So, I met a hardcore Christian chick on Tinder. She seems reasonably smart and well adjusted. I'm just wondering, why would a kiss-less virgin, much-less a religious one, use an app such as Tinder?

I've already been her first kiss and am going over to her house tomorrow. Just a bit concerned that if we fuck, she is going to regret it. I mean, when your religion is your life, and you've grown up surrounded by those kinds of people, what does it do too you? I just worry that perhaps sleeping with her will be worse for her in the long-run. Sure, it will feel great, but I'm just not so sure on the whole, taking her virginity front...

>>17271467
>Any advice on how to be a good conversationalist?
I think it's a skill you acquire mostly through trial and error, but in general
>be genuinely interested in the other person - ask questions about what they just said, make comments, share related stories, etc
>take the mood light - don't say bad shit about yourself, don't say bad shit about them, don't judge or argue with the, joke about things.

I'd give you more advice but I'm an introvert fuck who hates 90% of mankind and can't small talk, so...

Been talking to this girl on a dating site. How long should I wait before asking her out to like dinner or something, and hell, how would I even go about it without sounding creepy?

Girls: when you tell a guy that "it's not you, it's me" line, do you actually mean it, r are you just saying it to make him feel better?

>>17271545

Prettty much this, try to recognise light from serious moments, since in some of them a joke would come in handy and in others you could just listen, since its a great way to know someone (just don't turn out to be an emotional bag)

>>17271622
Same as when a guy says it - to just try and end the conversation and get out as quickly as possible

>>17271622
sometimes it's actually true. but most of the time it isn't. i'd say 10/90

>>17271604
don't wait too long. leave some nifos to be exchanged irl. if you have already talked about everything, you waited too long. just long enough to decide if it is worth a try, iow if there is some common ground. just ask her if she's up to talk about "that" further by a coffe at xyz next weekend at z'o'clock.

>>17271371
>"Oh, THAT'S why I cried because a bird pooped on my car yesterday."
this example

>>17271488
maybe it's because I'm german but I like to be treated directly and honestly

so I would prefere to be told why you're not in the mood e.g. the period

on top of that periods are nothing disgusting for me, it's how humans work...
also there are men who find it sexy and would like to try "kinky" period sex

Girls:
Is it really bad to ask you out via text or facebook?
I mean obs it's better face to face but I mean if your only way to contact the person currently is by text or facebook.

>>17271681

We've really just discussed only a common hobby and I'm not sure how to steer it in the direction of asking her out.

>>17271530
wow, I am a guy, but this is just wrong...
what kind of monsterous bitch would ditch her bf for showing that he's get an emotional life...

girls... is this really a thing?
Do you really disprove of men showing their emotions and opening up seeking your comfort?
Why do you then even want men to be emotional?

>>17271702
I can't believe any woman would do this. In the past when my bf has cried I've been there for him, comforting him and hugging him and telling it's all going to be okay. Can't believe someone would dump a guy for showing emotions especially since women always talk about how important it is for a guy to have a sensitive side too.

>>17271708
I almost thaught I lost the last fraction of faith for humanity in me I did not even know havving

>>17271488
I'd just tell him
I've had period sex and it wasn't my thing (while it was ok for him), so I'd be open about it, it's understandable

>>17271698
>Is it really bad to ask you out via text or facebook?
No

Do women sometimes just wanna suck dick?

>>17271722
Yes

>>17271722
Yes

>>17271722
>sometimes

>>17271722
and lick ass

>>17271725
>>17271726
what about deepthroat?
what about cum swallowing?

>>17271731
Some girls do, some don't. Why do you ask? Isn't this pretty clear?

>>17271730
agreed

also this
>>17271731

>>17271730
Is it common for women to want to lick ass? I thought that was a niche thing.

>>17271731
>what about deepthroat?
I personally don't
>what about cum swallowing?
I always do it, but I've only had sex/given blowjobs to my boyfriend

>>17271738
can only talk for myself but i'm going to tongue that ass with the force of a thousand suns

Any recommendation for what to do for a girl in her period?

She is rather bored and a little bit cold when she is in her period

>>17271708
>I can't believe any woman would do this
You may find it impossible to believe a reasonable woman would do that, but there are plenty of vain women. Goes both ways though.

>>17271135
Don't talk about it, and they won't care.

>>17271500
>a day or two
If only

>>17271702
>>17271530
My boyfriend has cried in front of me multiple times, and it's only made me feel closer to him.

It's true that most girls want a strong man who is emotionally stable, but that doesn't mean never being vulnerable and showing emotions. A balanced girl will want a balanced guy.

>>17271722
>>17271731
Yes yes yes

Ladies, what does it mean when you say you like a guy as more than a friend, romantically, but not as a boyfriend?

When is it normal to introduce someone to your family? My extended family generally goes out for dinner together every week with some family friends invited. I invited this girl I had been seeing for a couple of weeks to one of them, and apparently it made her feel like I was rushing things. I was honestly interested in taking things slower, I just didn't think it was a big deal.

>>17272015
Maybe she has commitment issues.

>>17270625
Anyone have any general advice on asian women? I very rarely see them in bars, and occasionally in coffeehouses. Sometimes I'll try and talk to a waitress at a restaurant, but can never seem to get an opportunity to ask one out.

>>17270625
For women, if you found out the guy you've been dating has a futon or anything more of a bachelor pad style apartment, how do you feel about that? does it bother you at all?

>>17272017
After a few months you've been serious and committed.
You definitely rushed things.

>>17272038
I could understand if it was just to meet with my parents, but even if its a larger thing, with 12 people? I figured that would have removed any pressure on her part.

>>17272051
It put even more pressure on her

>>17272051
To me it would have been much more stressing to be honest. You don't have to impress two people, you have to impress 12 people.
Met my bf's parents after 4 months, the extended family after 5 years at a marriage or something.

Fellow guys and girls I guess.

Why make fun of people because they don't have sex?

At work today, before our shift started. People were taking about their weekend and all, people asked me what I did and I said I went to the gym, baked some fish, and watched COPS all weekend. A few other people talked about getting laid. And were making jokes because I didn't get sex. When our supervisor was reading us the info for the day. He asked me "hey do you have anything for us? Because we know you didn't get anything last night" and everyone laughed. I just went along with it, because I know they are just having fun. But it's a little annoying. I'm 25 years old, and yah sure, i don't have sex. I haven't been with a girl since 2011. But I don't know why this is so entertaining. It just doesn't make sense.


And no, I'm not going to report them. Because I know if I did, they'd all get fired. And I'm not the type of person who's going to do shit like that.

>>17272063
Fair enough I guess. I'll keep that in mind in the future. My family has been pretty welcoming to anyone I invite so I forget how stressful it can be for some.

>>17272024
What am I supposed to do then?

GRILLS
>match on tinder
>think the guy is gorgeous
>give him number
>barely respond
>never ask questions
Whats with girls like this? She agreed to go to a party next week if circumstances allowed it.

I just don't know what to think, or how to proceed.

Why give a guy so little? Is she just shy?

>>17272069
Because sexist male gender roles demand that men live up to unrealistic sexual expectations. When men fail to have sex with lots of women they are accused of being gay or unmasculine, because masculinity in our culture is tied to how many women you sleep with. Of course, there are other ways to be a man.

If you think these gender roles suck, consider feminism. We think they're as stupid as you do

>>17272092

It's Tinder. She's probably not being serious.

Most girls use Tinder as a meme. They don't actually care to meet. They just like to flirt and tease.

>>17272084
There's nothing you can do really. That's all her.

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>Text girl
>she can take like 6 hours to respond but will apologize for taking so long
>will only send a couple texts back
>send her a message on snapchat
>she replies almost immediately and we talk back and forth for hours

I was kind of afraid she was intentionally avoiding me. I don't get it and I feel like it's almost rude to ask.

>>17272095

>consider feminism

Well, 1 I'm a guy. So that doesn't even make sense, and 2. I think femanisim is retarded.

But yeah it sucks. Because they make gay jokes too. Even tho I'm not gay. It's really unmotivating to be honest. I try to not let it bother me, and just go along with their jokes. But after a long time. It gets annoying and old.

>>17272100
But she's not even flirting or teasing. Not talking for shit. She even initiated the convo on le meme dating app.

I could always just send her random shit to pique her interest more. Not right now though, had a convo with (or "at" i guess) her last night.

>>17272106
Your coworkers are retarded. There's nothing you can do about that. Except pity them for needing validation from others for their miserable lives

>>17272112
Even still. It's Tinder. She's probably not taking it seriously. Like 99% chance. And I'm not making that up.

Girls literally just do it out of boredom, and are not actually trying to meet people. Think, she probably matches every single guy she swipes right. And ALL those guys message her. It's too much

>>17272120

Tbh, they sounds like they are having a lot of fun. A lot of them take trips, have BBQ, have sex with girls, drink and just enjoy life.

>>17272101
Well, the reason I asked is because she wants to take me out when I get off work (school closes the week after next ) so I find it really confusing. I also forgot to mention she told me this in February because I'm retarded.

>>17272122
Again, she messaged me. And i look, i quote, gorgeous.

If what youre saying is true then meh, im not giving up yet. I barely swipe right so i tend to take shit p seriously.

>>17272128
It's really something you should be asking her and not us.

>>17272092
Guys do this as well, shit pisses me right off. You wanna get to know someone but they show zero effort, just delete her and move on till you find someone actually willing to make an effort.

>>17272069
They're immature idiots. So what you didn't get laid on the weekend, i'm a girl and haven't had sex since last year, i don't really see why it matters at all. Next time they say something liek that, just say "so?"

>>17272036
Good for him having his own place, its a step up from most guys i come across. If we're only dating i'm not gonna make stupid possessive demands since theres no commitment

>>17272017
everyones different, in the uk i see meeting family as a step up in the relationship when things are getting serious.
Others might think differently and see it more as some casual social gathering.

>>17272015
They don't want to commit or just not interested in you. Don't get your hopes up for anything

>>17271855
Do something nice, watch a film and cuddle, cook a meal. Everyone's different but i'd say don't push sexual stuff, but at the same time don't let her be a bossy bitch

>>17271722
yes

>>17271698
id be put off but if you cant do it face to face, at least do it over the phone

>>17271530
Nothing wrong with it, makes us feel closer and i'd just wanna hug and comfort him, i like it when guys show their emotional side

>>17272130

Yeah I hear you. But girls are stupid. Don't be surprised if she doesn't really talk to you It dies off. It's just how they are. ESPECIALLY on Tinder

>>17272136
Yee i guess.

>>17272134
People do tend to suck a good bit of the time.

>>17272069
They were just making some immature jokes. I think you're taking their ribbing a little too seriously.

Are all dating apps bad for meeting women? What are better online routes? Or is meeting people outside still the best option?

>>17272147
Maybe. It just sucks having heard this same shit for the last few years. From everyone.

>>17272218
This has been going on for years? Have you told them to stop making those jokes?

>>17272264

It's not just here. My previous job too. I guess people can tell I have little experience with sex because whenever the topic comes up for discussion, I tend to leave the area or just be quite since I have little to contribute. Or when they've asked me about things, I don't have anything I say.

It's because I'm a male. And I'm expected to have regular sex. because I don't, I'm abnormal. It's shitty.

>>17271498
Only you can know if you're over it

Guys:

Me and my boyfriend started out as FWB and I told him it would be short term, he asked a week ago if we could be exclusive. I don't have strong feelings for him but I said yes. Even before being exclusive he was already controlling / possessive / jealous. I am his first girlfriend and I took his virginity as well.

How can I approach him about his behavior? So far I have been staying by his side and canceling activities with friends because he feels uncomfortable. He has only one other friend and they are fighting so now he says i'm his only friend too. I want to break up with him but i'm the only person he has and I feel stuck - is is possible to help him lessen his control over me without making him feel like i've abandoned him?

Did it bleed when you fingered your pussy for the first time?

Girls:
Is it rude if a guy who's friend of yours asks you out in front of your fellow mutual friends?
I have friends that won't leave me the fuck alone with the girl I like, who's also friends with them.
Alternatively... is it a turn off if a guy friend tells your mutual friends to fuck off and leave you two the fuck alone?

>>17272596
Yes. Not a lot of blood though, like a few spots- I was like ten or eleven and didn't understand why I was bleeding.

what happens to your hymen if you shove a dildo up your vagina?

So this girl, let's call her X, we've been buds for 6 years now.
I kinda liked her but I was young at the time so I didn't try anything funny, there were other girls at play.
Years pass, it's a year ago from now.
By this time I'm falling hard for her, listening to romantic songs on my balcony and everything.
Getting really wiled up about outing myself to her.
Decide it's been too long past my chance to come clean, hide my feelings
3 months pass
Talk her best friend up (also friends for quite a while, although not as close as X), go out, have a friendly chat.
Let's call her Y.
Snap, delude myself thinking that she's the best woman in the world.
Crush hard, go out on a few occasions.
Tell her I like her a lot and I'm sorta obsessed with her.
Chat up on skype, tells me we have a big past together and it's wierd.
Blabla go out one more time, blabla tells me it's not that we had a past, it's that she straight up doesn't like me (I already picked up the hint, just tried a few tricks, was just me grasping at straws).
Really depressed at this point.
Already going through tough shit.
Best friend trying to talk me into convincing myself that X is who I want.
I kinda thought so as well 6 months ago but I've tried to put my mind off of it.
Not even sure if I want her any more.
I definitely love her in a familiarity sense of the word.
I do love her,
I'm not sure if I should sacrifice that love to the shrine of awkwardness.
Also X and Y are estranged now because of reasons, Y feels betrayed by X and X is trying to make up, nothing to do with my person.

Femanons, if you were X what would you do?

Please help. I need 4chan right now in the way 4chan never needed me.

>>17272615
It breaks of course.

Exercise or anything that causes some shock to the body can tear and/or break the hymen.

Ladies:
>girl sucks at texting/messaging
>but she's keen in person
Does she like me? Also she knows I like her already and she's keen for our second date this week.

>>17272692
Sorry I'm not a girl but I why are you wondering? I mean she wants to go on a second date, isn't that proof she likes you enough? I know girls who suck at texting.

Girls:

How to you get involved in online long distance relationships? It seems like girls, especially online, are really good at distancing themselves from guys, and it seems like girls get so much attention online that it would be weird to get into a relationship with one

I understand how guys get involved since they will obviously go along with pretty much any female attention they get

Girls.. 25/yo male here
How much does receding/balding/thinning hair put you off a guy?
Always had really great hair, medium length, lots of complements
Pretty sure it's starting to recede
Should I just give up now?

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Girls, halp.
So I'm a girl and a virgin. I'm pretty shy but always felt attracted to both girls and guys, but I'm also not super sexual (as in, it wasn't a priority for me) so I didn't care much really.
Last night I very nearly hooked up with a girl, but chickened out, and then proceeded to cry myself to sleep because I chickened out. Because I'm a mature, emotionally stable adult like that.
So anyway, question is how do I stop being such a pussy? I mean, I did want to sleep with her, but then again also not because I have this idealistic stupid fantasy of how my first time *ought* to be, even knowing its totally retarded.

I'm sorry if that's a really stupid thing to ask, but I've been lurking in these threads for the longest time and there was some lesbian anon here who chimed in occasionally and I guess I thought maybe she's around.
Anyway cheers.

Is it a faux pas to compliment a woman on her beauty in public, specifically while she's working?

girls, why do you stare at a guys face when he's not even looking at you?

>>17272731
I had one, started when I was really young (15).
He was amazing - smart, funny, sensitive, kind. Clicked perfectly.
We dated for 2 years LD, 5 years living together .

>>17272750
You should stick to what you're comfortable with

Just try to think about why you backed out instead of saying you "chickened out"

>>17272740
Surely a turn off, but nothing too important.
My boyfriend is almost bald, but I think he's attractive.

>>17272798
Well I don't know really. I mean she was cute and apparently into me and we really got along super well. Like, I felt like I could just talk to her about anything and everything. That sounds kitsch as fuck but y'know.
I'm not sure what made me "decline", I guess I just didn't feel ready and was all nervous all of a sudden and felt like I'd muck it up.

>>17272750
Can't help too much since
>be male
>be straight
but I feel the same way about that virgin fantasy. I was so worried about getting laid for a while until I realized what I really wanted was sex with someone I love. I'm going to try online dating soon with this in mind; perhaps you backed out because you didn't have strong enough feelings for this girl?

>>17272595
Tell him that you're loyal but he needs to stop being a little bitch about things. Sounds like he needs you a lot more than you need him. No need to be a bitch, but remind him that a relationship is comprised of two people.

>>17272816
Maybe yes. I don't know as I said. I did feel strongly about her but obviously we didn't really know each other so maybe that's what kept me.

Ladies,

I like this one girl, and I think she likes me. She told me she want's to take things slow with me.

Am I fucked?

Girls (and guys with advice)

Does one have to be immediately clear that he wants to hook up on tinder? I try being as interesting and as non autistic as possible, yet conversations usually end up going nowhere and I never hear from the other person once the first conversation ends, regardless of we agree to make plans or not

I have no idea what I'm doing wrong, I just want to get laid before I leave town

>>17272615
It breaks, why would you assume otherwise? Hell a womans hymen often breaks just from being physically active. My friend had hers broken when she hit a tree skiing for instance.

>>17272595
>How can I approach him about his behavior?
Be upfront about it. Tell him you understand he has his insecurities but if he's going to have them dictate the terms of the relationship its going to end up being a self fulfilling prophecy.

If I feel like a woman has insufficient boundaries with a friend of hers, I explain why I feel so rather than telling them what to do. I generally have much better results with that.

>>17272105
she has a bf lol

>>17272692
not everyone has timeto text all day

>>17272782
always felt put on the spot when i heard that. feel like its kinda awkward but im sure some girls might be into that.

>>17272792
i dont know, just taking a look. i stare at girls too. just trying to figure them out i guess

>>17272782
Don't compliment her beauty. Compliment a specific thing that isn't her flesh. such as her hairstyle, shoes or glasses. Be sure to say what you like about them too,. & maybe ask where she got it. This is a pretty smooth way to kick-start a conversation.

>Asked a girl out during the school year
>She says naw
>Both go away for college
>Starts texting me
>Says she wants to visit me
>Asks if I wanted a date to my sisters weddings
>Texts me today saying she hopes I'm not lonely living alone this summer
>Says that she misses me

Is this enough evidence to suggest, even though she wants into me when I asked her out, she is now?

>>17273523
It's enough that I would heavily consider asking her out again.

>>17270795
Kek

>>17272782
>>17272782
>Is it a faux pas to compliment a woman on her beauty in public, specifically while she's working?

I'm a dude but, it's a good rule of thumb is:

Don't compliment or bring attention to things about people that are not active decisions or possible to change.

I.E. Do not compliment someone on their physical beauty, a specific body part, whatever semi-static/inherent qualities.

Instead compliment them on the things they've actively chosen to be apart of their appearance.. I.E. You love their hair style, shoes, bag, whatever.

This goes the other way too. If it's not something that can be fixed in a couple of minutes, don't bring it up.

I.e. It's ok to point out when someone had spinach stuck in their teeth or TP stuck on their shoe because that's a quick fix.
But it's NOT ok to point out crooked teeth, or blemishes, or weight, because that just makes you an asshole.

>>17272595
>How can I approach him about his behavior? >is is possible to help him lessen his control over me without making him feel like i've abandoned him?


You can't change how he is, only he can do that. Honestly, bail. You told him what this was from the start, he's the one who's being a spaz. You can let him know why, but he needs to learn to grow up on his own and there's no way you can coddle him in to doing it, or to soften the blow.

He's either going to continue being insecure and possessive or he's not. You can't change that and his negative attitude won't ever get better for you trying to help.

>inb4 some lonely froganon screams YOU DON'T KNOW. NOT EVERYONE IS PERFECT. HE CAN BE FIXED!

There is no such thing as a Manic Pixie Dream Girl to fix a guys problems. There is no such thing as someone else who will fix anyone else's problems. There are only people who are ready to be helped, and people who can help them along.

Neither of you sound like either of those. Save yourself both some even BIGGER drama and bail before it's gotten too deep.

Im going on my first date with a girl since getting out of a 4 year relationship about a year ago. Any tips? Were going bowling and playing poool. She had a huge crush on me in elementary school and she seems like she really likes me. Kinda nervous. Last time I went on a "date" type of date I dropped spaghetti.

>>17273214
Why would you be? It sounds like she's just the kind if person to take things slowly and not rush, which in my opinion makes for a better partner.

>>17270625
>Im going on my first date with a girl since getting out of a 4 year relationship about a year ago. Any tips? Were going bowling and playing poool. She had a huge crush on me in elementary school and she seems like she really likes me. Kinda nervous. Last time I went on a "date" type of date I dropped spaghetti.

definitely make sure to constantly talk about your ex. especially all the bad times, and what a cunt they are. this will show her that you only want good things for your future.

don't pry into her life too much. let her ask all the questions.

okay one for the people who are attracted to men:

i have been in long-term relationships that stemmed from my social circle. meeting new people is not working. for a long time I blamed my looks but apparently I am actually good looking. 8/10 according to strangers.

so my flaw must be my attitude or personality. I get matches on tinder, numbers from girls i meet, some first dates etc. but nothing beyond that.

why can't I hold anyone's interest?

>>17273665
Well from my experience talking about my ex is what drove girls away. Are you being sarcastic?

>>17273670
We're not going to be able to tell you across the internet from one post.

>>17273671

Very Sarcasm

>>17273674

i dont know why I asked, it's impossible to answer. my friends just tell me to keep trying. I dont get it.

>>17273375
She doesn't, although I don't know what difference that would make to use snapchat as opposed to just texting.

GIRLS:

How significant would you say the sexual experience is to your life? How does it affect you personally? How do you past experiences make you feel about your current boyfriend or sexual partner? Do you feel like losing your virginity changed you significantly and if so how?

>>17273861
I haven't lost my virginity yet. My ideal guy is someone who makes me feel desired and is willing to take me through it gently, step-by-step. I think this is partially because, after a certain age, still being a virgin makes you feel undesirable. It's not that I have a powerful urge to have kids, but a lot of women find their attractiveness "validated" through sexual attention, and when someone who wants it doesn't receive it, it can be distressing over time.

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/pol/ coming through with a daily reminder that sex not in the missionary position for the sole purpose of procreation is sin.

>>17273861
>How significant would you say the sexual experience is to your life?
Not really
>How does it affect you personally?
I enjoy it, but I wouldn't say I NEED it, like some people here seem to
>How do you past experiences make you feel about your current boyfriend or sexual partner?
I'm still with my first partner, so I can't really say I have 'past experiences' in the sense of previous partners
>Do you feel like losing your virginity changed you significantly and if so how?
Not at all.

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>>17273868
Daily reminder that girls like this end up being the sluttiest ones imaginable

Why do so many guys seem to have trouble talking to girls?

>>17274009
Beautiful girls are intimidating if you have low self-esteem

>>17274012
What about normal girls?

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>>17274013
Sounds harsh but in my mind you're either attractive or not

Maybe its different for other people, probably is

Talking to unattractive girls was easy for me

>>17274033
I think that's fair enough, but there's always some guy here talking about how they can't talk to girls at all, regardless of whether they're interested or not. It's this phenomenon that I don't understand

>>17274045
its called desperation

Female contact is inconsequential once you get enough of it

>>17273861
>How significant would you say the sexual experience is to your life?
Very.

>How does it affect you personally?
I really like sex. It relaxes me, makes me feel better about myself and my partner, makes me feel more intimate to him. I also feel like I "fulfilled" my duty as his girlfriend. It's a moment we take for us. It's the way we say that we are crazy about each other. It's the best way to release the tension between us after all the flirting and teasing. We have been having sex twice a day for 1.5 years. I expect it to slow down a bit as we keep going, but this far it has been great and we are very happy together.

>How do you past experiences make you feel about your current boyfriend or sexual partner?
I have had sex with two guys, both of them were long term partners (6 years with the first, 2 years with my current bf).
I learnt from my relationship with him - I know how important sex was to keep the relationship strong. I know how much being constantly seductive and flirty helps.
My boyfriend is much more into me (and sexual in general) then my ex was and it shows.

>Do you feel like losing your virginity changed you significantly and if so how?
It didn't.

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>>17273496
>>17272782

If she's working, maybe try complimenting her work?

>>17273868
>>17273895
Can confirm. Currently sexting a girl just like this and she's a freak.

>>17274045
For me it's because I don't want to accidentally look like I'm interested or send the wrong messages.

>>17273861
>How significant would you say the sexual experience is to your life?
It's important, but I have other priorities.
>How does it affect you personally?
I left a part of me with a man I was with, I'm still trying to get it back.
>How do you past experiences make you feel about your current boyfriend or sexual partner?
Everyone offers something different. Past partners are completely separate from current, there really is no comparing.
>Do you feel like losing your virginity changed you significantly and if so how?
The physical act of losing my virginity? No. But I had to lose my virginity to accept my sexuality, and that helped me gain confidence in myself (not slutting around, rather I was really prudish and got really scared and withdrawn when people talked about sex and relationships)

Girls, what are some lewd things that you enjoy your bf doing to you? Something atypical, like placing you on the kitchen counter and then going down on you, that kind of specific stuff/situations.

>>17274073
>high libido
>apparently not keen on casual sex

Damn son. Sometimes it feels like that's mutually exclusive in a woman.

I'm wanting to get a female perspective on this:

So I work with a girl I have a huge crush on and we got off work around 1:30 am. She was working on in a different part of the building and messaged me in a group chat that we're both in, asking me if I would drive her home. She lives probably 10 minutes away by foot. So I thought that was kind of weird. Anyways, we go down to coat check so she could get her bag and then she made a reference to a date we went on several months ago. The club we went to lost her jacket so she made a joke that coat check had lost her bag.

I fucked up hard on that date though. At first, things were kind of awkward. I was nervous as hell and the conversation was kind of quiet but then we went to a club with her and her room mates and then everything was going great. We started making out for a while and then she took me back to her apartment. On the way there, her room mate offered me some vodka, which I accepted and then promptly got way too drunk off. I was trying to show off how much I could drink even though I'm rather skinny and just ended up getting stupid drunk. I can't really remember what I said but I think I made a rape joke which pissed her off. I also think that after I apologized for the joke, I might have tried to make amends by telling her an embarrassing secret. I think I told her that I was a cuck and would like for another guy to fuck her. Obviously I wouldn't want that to happen but I go on this stupid fucking website too much and thought it would be funny to say that. A lot of that is speculation though, I tried to piece that night together as best as I could. I might have said that I wanted to steal a girl away from someone else too because someone stole a girl away from me once and I was very angry about that and cut myself over it. Again, I don't know and I don't really want to ask her either.

>>17274138
Worse still, the night before we worked together, I got very drunk and messaged everyone about stupid shit. (we're all fairly close) she told me to stop saying stupid things and to go to bed and then I replied with "I love you" (I cringe when I think about that) Nobody else from the chat knows about our date so I don't think any of them actually realize that I probably did mean that.

Anyways, on the walk to my car, she said that she was hungry and we ended up going to subway. On the drive there, she was telling me about how her boyfriend owes her something like $700 and she isn't expecting to get that money back any time soon. I've heard her complain about him before saying that he is a psycho who punched a hole in a wall. I don't know if that's all coincidence or what.

Honestly, I think one of two things happened.

Either that crazy story where she is cucking me and I'm supposed to try to steal her away from the other guy or it was 1:30 am and she was scared to walk home alone.

I have a hard time believing any of that myself. The only reason I think she would have done that for me is if I said that I would get her a pet otter because she absolutely loves them. (I inherited my dad's house so I actually have enough money to do that for her).

>>17274138
You made an ass of yourself on the date and she's not interested but she asked you for a lift because it's fucking 1:30 in the morning. What's there to get a female perspective on?

>>17274138
>told her that I was a cuck and would like for another guy to fuck her.
>>17274143
>her boyfriend
Not a girl: So basically, the 'other guy' fucking her would be her boyfriend. Yeah, everything you did was cringe-worthy. There's no repairing that.

>>17274114
Having sex without me getting undressed (for example when I'm wearing a dress just pulling my panties on the side), he can either tell me not to take my clothes off or just go for it without giving me time to do it.

Not lewd but I love it when he caresses my face/touches my hair.

I can try to think of more if you want.

What are lewd things that you enjoy your gf doing to you?

i frequently dream about cheating on my SO, and it's tearing me apart. i love my other half so much and i wouldn't even think about doing it, yet for the past few months i keep having this dream where i'm in some secluded spot having sex with an acquaintance, and it's a different person every time.

someone please help me out, these dreams are making me feel like a piece of shit, and they're not stopping ;_;

>>17274116
I think that having a high libido and not having casual sex are pretty related in my case - I have tons of sex with my boyfriend because it is amazing to have sex with him. Sex with him is so good because we are crazy for each other, because we love pleasing each other, and because of the intimacy and how comfortable we are.
Doubt I'd be half as much into it with some random dude I don't give a shit about.
Also, lol, he was in a sexless marriage before dating me and I'd kill myself if I made him as unhappy as his ex wife.

I'm a 19 year old guy dating a 26 year old girl. She's great and I love her and our relationship. We've been dating for about 3 months now but have been friends for a year or so. I'd give it time (like wait until about a year from now probably), but I think I want to marry this girl. Even though I want to be with her, thinking about this scares me. Is this normal? Is it my inner self telling me that it's not a good idea? I'm currently living two friends and in college, but I feel unprepared. Is it because of the age difference? To be honest it's hard to put into words how I feel but I just feel scared right now. Advice?

>>17274288
Diagnosis: honeymoon period.

>>17274114
It's not really "him doing it to me", but things I enjoy:

>Him touching me in public
Hand under the dress when we're at the movies, feeling his boner when I'm sitting on his lap, etc.
>Oral while we're busy doing other things
Giving him head while he's watching tv/working, him giving me oral/fingering me while I'm at the phone or working at the laptop.
>Sex on the couch
>Sex in the kitchen
Me bent over the table/kitchen counter, especially
>Dirty talking while we're apart or when we're in public

>>17274292
If that's the case when does that usually end?

>>17271371
>It's more like you wake up and see blood, and go "Oh, THAT'S why I cried because a bird pooped on my car yesterday."
kek, this so hard.

>>17271855

Chocolate, hot water bottle, massage

>>17272106
>Well, 1 I'm a guy. So that doesn't even make sense, and 2. I think femanisim is retarded.
Are you fucking serious? How ignorant can you be?

>>17272615

The people saying it breaks are wrong. It only breaks if you're not warmed up properly.

>>17274138
>She lives probably 10 minutes away by foot. So I thought that was kind of weird.
Dude, it's 1:30am.

>I was trying to show off how much I could drink
Jesus christ.

>I might have tried to make amends by telling her an embarrassing secret.
Oh no.

>I think I told her that I was a cuck and would like for another guy to fuck her.
WHYYYYYYYY?!

>Either that crazy story where she is cucking me and I'm supposed to try to steal her away from the other guy or it was 1:30 am and she was scared to walk home alone.
Gee, I wonder.

>I said that I would get her a pet otter because she absolutely loves them. (I inherited my dad's house so I actually have enough money to do that for her).
Do not get pets as gifts, do not get exotic pets, do not get exotic pets for people who have no idea what they're doing.

I have to go lie down now, these posts were quite a ride and I'm left feeling torn between being desperate to go on a pub crawl with you and desperate to get as far away from you as physically possible.

>>17271530
It depends on how you cry. No one likes serial criers but for her to just dump you over crying is pretty fucked. Be glad, because she was a total bitch

i went to edc by myself because I don't have any friends. i think everyone thought I was an undercover cop. what do?

I met a girl online last week, she's great and all but I don't want to seem clingy by texting her too much
I didn't text her yesterday, hoping she will
In the end, she didn't

I have something to ask her, it's important but not urgent
Should I wait another day or can I text her tonight ?

>>17274300
It's different for everyone, but I'd say date seriously for at least 3 years before you marry to be safe

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>>17274138
It depresses me that an absolute mind midget like you gets dates and I'm still a virgin.

If I'm smart academically would it be better for me to meet a girl at work or when I go for my masters ? I probably wouldn't find what I'm looking for at a common bar?

>>17274883
I thought so, but then I met my SO in a bar.
And he was also ridiculously drunk.
He's the smartest and most amazing person I've ever met.

Just be open and try to give a chance to every person you meet. If someone impresses you, get to know them and see.

>>17274897
Haha I might try but I'm dumb as shit socially. I swear I'm only tolerated by girls for my above average looks.

If I'm a 7 to 8/10 and my cousin is a 9. I seem to go invisible almost when I'm around him with girls. This normal ?

>>17274904
Try to improve your social skills and socialize more.
But at the end, really, sometimes you just click and things work out.
I'm sarcastic, aloof, introverted, annoying as fuck and no one can stand me, my boyfriend is even worse than me. But when we met, we couldn't literally do anything but be together for months. My friends didn't see me for 2 months because I spent every night with him.

> This normal ?
Pretty much. I mean - if you're trying to impress them with your looks and your cousin is much better looking than you, they're going to be more interested in him.

I want to go to a movie with a girl I like. We are sort of friends. Should I make it clear from the start it's a date to me? What do I say if she suggests bringing her friends?
She may just reject me from the start but just getting ahead of it in case she doesn't.

>>17273395
ьлюьд дю южю бю юблбжбьбю дж

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Why the fuck are you such whores
I spent my time in high school being a shy dipshit beta while everyone kept slapping girls asses whenever they wanted

>>17274921
>sometimes you just click and things work out.
A man can dream, eh?

>>17274943
"I just got a russian keyboard look at me reddit"

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>Meet girl on Tinder
>Talk non-stop for about a week
>Meet up at Starfucks for coffee
>Chat for 2 hours then leave
>Few days later asks if she wants to meet up again
>"Sure lol"
>Kinda weird that she answered like that but whatever
>Asks when she's free to meetup
>"idk"
>Week later
>She seems super uninterested in our conversations
>I could just be overthinking things but whatever
>"Hey, are you going to be free at all this week"
>"I don't know lol"

should I just take all this as a sign she's not interested and leave her be.

>>17274982
Some people are just busy, mane.

Just ask her if shes free next week

Why would you dumbasses take advice from girls in here?
Most of them are probably men acting like girls, probably including a transgender too
or they're losers too, since they're on 4chan, perfect match for all of ya right?
Really what the fuck are you expecting?

>>17274982
Can't make your decisions for you (and I'm also a man so shouldn't really be answering this I guess but w/e) but I wouldn't put up with that shit if it were me. If she's not interested enough to pursue it and make time for you, the hell with her. If she comes whining about it later just explain that her cavalier attitude certainly expressed total disinterest whether she meant it to or not, and refuse. Maybe she'll learn better for the next guy. I doubt it, but...

>>17275007
Good question. You forgot one more reason though:
-What if they are actually average women but they just give you bad advice because women are not capable of answering honestly or honestly wanting to help a guy with his guy problems, and just want to breed white knights?

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Who of the two men do you think is more attractive?

>>17275011
Fuck she was so cool before too

I can't help but get too emotionally invested too quickly. I hate it.

>>17275007
>or they're losers too, since they're on 4chan, perfect match for all of ya right?
This sounds like a reasonable answer, actually.

>>17275034
right

but both are not my taste, right is just objectively better looking

>>17274982
At this point you might as well straight up ask her whats going on

Do any of you girls know the odds of getting pregnant off of pre-cum 2 days after your period? I know the odds that she'd be ovulating right after it are low and pre-cum doesn't always contain sperm, but I'm still worried. I'm also worried since emergency contraception apparently doesn't work for women over 165 lbs

>>17274873
Well I think she's thinking about marriage around a year or two from now. Is that pushy? Is she just getting bored of me because I'm young? Or is she scared of that?

>>17270625
How do I find female friends? I don't get along with most other men, but if I want to be friends with a girl it always seems like I'm desperate or trying to get in her pants.

>>17274859
Shameless self bump

>>17275332
Yeah, you can text her tonight.

>>17275326
I talk to them like
I talk to guys. But every time I try to make a female friend they try to fuck me.

>>17275375
>But every time I try to make a female friend they try to fuck me.
That sounds like a nice problem to have

>>17275375
Fuck you sexually
Or manipulating you ?

If it's the first I'm with >>17275393

>>17275393
Not that anon, but it can really suck if your platonic friend develop feelings for you.

Double suck if she's fucking crazy.

>>17275199
Bump

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>>17275401
>Double suck if she's fucking crazy.
I'm a magnet for bipolar women in general, so its all the same to me. It's deal with crazy or become an ascetic monk

>>17270795
Just heat the pizza at 600 for 10 minutes rather than 200 for 30, since it gives the same total temperature

>>17275464
Does that mean I can hit it with a blow torch for 1 minute?

>>17275484
Yes, as long as total temperature is around 6000-7000°C

>>17274116
Not her, but I actually thought, on average, most girls would prefer a stable partner, for quality reasons, which makes more sense for women with a high libido still.
At least I'm the same, but who knows.

>>17275484
a blow toch can only hit from one side. Only things that say cook by broiling can be subbed with a blowtorch. Even then, Broiling is infrared radiation and not straight gas fire.

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>>17275464
>since it gives the same total temperature
You're hurting me anon. 300 and 600 Fahrenheit are not double the temperature.

GIRLS:

Do women laugh about dick size? What're girls thoughts when they find out a guy has a tiny dick?

How do girls decide on which guy they want to be their boyfriend?

Do you sleep with different guys until you find someone you like whilst still showing interest to others?

Do you talk to multiple guys at the same time .etc?

After looks, what is the most important thing for you? I've not had problems with my looks, but there's something related to my personality that always fucks up when I'm interested in a girl

How mean are women to each other?

How much backstabing do women do?

Me and my friends found a backup of a conversation on a Whatsapp group where them women would bash some other girl who was dating a friend saying shit like
>she is slow
>she must 'sit' slow

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>>17275393
Im this guy>>17274883 and I was also an ugly duckling growing up and picked on without mercy. I have BDD now and feel like a 3/10. It's more like a cruel joke especially when you overthink everything. I had a few girls that were 9's start chatting me up, but I couldn't take it I had to dismiss myself.
>>17275398
sexually.
>>17275401
It never got far enough for them to be good friends. Originally it was the funniest because when i became good looking i was never hit on before so i dont know what that entails. So maybe a few weeks go by and some would just flat out tell me i was hot and if i didnt do anything then they got fucking pissed.

I dont know what people think i look like, but im a shy introverted computer science nerd.

>tldr im a socially inept its not funny just sad.

>>17275516
I know that's a clichée but I've never discussed the sex life of my friends (or their boyfriends) in all that much detail, and frankly I really wouldn't care to know anyway.

>>17275516
>Do women laugh about dick size?
Nope. Unless he does some really mean shit to me, like cheating on me or whatever.
In that case, yeah, I'm going to make fuck of the tiny dick.

>What're girls thoughts when they find out a guy has a tiny dick?
"K". If I see someone's dick willingly, I most likely like him enough to not care.

>>17275652
my dick is pale and veiny, not good?

>>17275527
>How do girls decide on which guy they want to be their boyfriend?
This is just retarded. How should we decide?
We date a person, see if we like them, and then if we do we become exclusive.

>Do you sleep with different guys until you find someone you like whilst still showing interest to others?
Some do and some don't. I don't have sex outside of a relationship, so personally no. In general, no one I know fucks different guys to decide if they like them, most people like people before fucking them.

>Do you talk to multiple guys at the same time .etc?
Some do, some don't. I personally do. But I talk to guys even if I'm in a relationship, like - I have friends.

>After looks, what is the most important thing for you?
Intelligence and sense of humour - being able to keep a conversation, not being a boring shit, not getting offended for everything.
Being nice and polite, kind.
Being affectionate, caring, loving.
Not being mental.

>>17275673
Pale and veiny might be good. I mean, I like pale guys, they usually have pale dicks.

>>17275540
>How mean are women to each other?
>How much backstabing do women do?
Like men and being an asshole, it depends on the individual. You can't say that women as a whole are one a certain level of meanness.

>>17275527
>How do girls decide on which guy they want to be their boyfriend?
We hold auditions, but you have to be invited to one. We only invite guys that are smart, good looking, dress well, have a big dick, earn loads of money, and are sensitive and charming. That'll explain why you haven't been invited to one.

>>17275694
>ywn find your Prince Charming at a boyfriend audition where they're all lined up naked like in that Mel Brooks movie
Feels bad sis

>>17275694
But they don't behave like men, which is why i asked the question.

>>17275748
No, they don't, because they're not men. Surprisingly, men don't act like women either.

>>17275758
No shit? I asked how women behaved in general...
Jeez

After having a thing for this particular girl for years (and I literally mean years) we finally met up by chance a few nights ago and we were both pretty drunk. She was pretty upset so I was keeping her company and mid sentence she just stopped me and insisted I kiss her which I obliged, of course. Afterwards she mentioned how she had waited so long for that moment and I kinda echoed those sentiments. We then both went on to express how we've had mutual feelings for each other for a long period of time which was great to hear, I haven't felt the way she made me feel in years and everything about the whole thing felt perfect.

Fast forward a few days and she isn't answering me at all, what gives man? Just so disheartening to have that moment then it almost feels like everything is taken away again. Almost makes me feel like the whole thing didn't even happen.

Genders

Should I just ask her if she wants to do it? I'm pretty worthless relationship wise so I assume she just wants the sex.

>>17275540
>How mean are women to eachother
Apparently this is actually pretty accurate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1JGi3qQf35k

>>17274281
>i frequently dream about cheating on my SO, and it's tearing me apart.
>someone please help me out, these dreams are making me feel like a piece of shit, and they're not stopping ;_;

the more guilty you feel, The more you think about it, the more credence you give the thought, the more it happens, the more guilt it makes.

Stop putting yourself in a feedback loop and stop feeding the guilt and making it grow.

Dreams are just dreams, they don't mean jack shit all unless you turn them in to more.

>>17274009
>Why do so many guys seem to have trouble talking to girls?

So many is relative.

"So many" appears like A LOT when you're looking at 4chan. But 4chan is also basically a hyper specialized epitome of a very small niche of the individuals/personality types. On the grand scheme of things, the amount of guys who have trouble talking to girls is relatively low, and probably somewhat equivalent to the amount of girls who have trouble talking to guys.

The default is that girls are taught to be more social and empathetic, so they generally have an easier time crossing the gender boundary, but that's not necessarily always true. Guys don't even have that though, so they may be a step behind.

Even so, the amount of people who have trouble talking to the opposite gender tend to be in a very small pocket, and they tend to be individuals who were poorly socialized.

For that pocket of people, think of it like dogs. If you have a dog who's been around both humans and dogs, they're generally pretty chill with either. But if you have a dog that's only ever been around humans, they're instantly going to get defensive and not know what the fuck to do when you put them around a dog.

Same theory applies with cross-gender relations.

>>17276025
>the amount of guys who have trouble talking to girls is relatively low

So I'm even more of a freak than I thought.

>>17276077
Life's ruff, anon...

>>17276077
>So I'm even more of a freak than I thought.

Regardless of being niche or not, you're still a human and not a dog.

You have these things called intelligence, sapience, and self-awareness.

Those three things allow you to change near anything about yourself with enough effort. The only things holding you back are self-pity, fear, and laziness.

>>17276025
>On the grand scheme of things, the amount of guys who have trouble talking to girls is relatively low, and probably somewhat equivalent to the amount of girls who have trouble talking to guys.
I strongly disagree with this estimation.

>>17276144
>The only things holding you back are self-pity, fear, and laziness.

I'm aware of this, but I feel absolutely helpless in combating these things

>>17276144
>The only things holding you back are self-pity, fear, and laziness.
While all those things are indeed potential factors, it is more likely that the things holding him back are anxiety, social expectations and lack of positive reinforcement. I recommend that you mention these factors foremost and not just factors which amount closely to negative judgmental value. I always recommend the positive approach "you have it hard but I believe in you" over "you are lazy and a coward and full of self-pity".

>>17271293

Blame Bailey Jay for being a sexy 'woman' and white women for being man-haters.

It...

It has blurred some lines.

That's for sure.

yep.

>>17276155
That's alright, everything starts with tiny steps. If an obstacle feels impossible to overcome you right now then that's okay. Reduce the obstacle, make it smaller and smaller, until it is something you can handle for your first steps. For example if talking to a member of the opposite sex proves too difficult then start by socializing with someone of the same gender. Challenge yourself to talk with one new stranger every day. Once you achieve your goal then reward yourself with your favorite activity or you favorite food in order to create positive reinforcement. Once you feel more comfortable with socializing then you can move to a slightly more difficult challenge and keep going from there. I believe in you. When you approach everything one day at the time, there is nothing you can't do!

Ladies,

When you flick the bean, is it to porn? Or do you have a certain person in mind, a crush perhaps?

Girls,
How weird/creepy for you would it be if a guy told you he has a facesitting kink? (Him being sat on, I mean.)
Considering the rest of him is 'fine' and no other deal breakers.
Would the answer be different if he told you that on a one night stand, after a few dates or a few months/year into a relationship?

>>17276166
>While all those things are indeed potential factors, it is more likely that the things holding him back are anxiety, social expectations and lack of positive reinforcement.

They help, but you can always push past those if you want it enough (and I speak from experience here)

More toxic is when you set yourself in to a mindset of, "it's everyone else's fault, and none of this is in my control".

It is ALWAYS in your power to change almost ANYTHING in your life. You just have to want it enough to get off your ass and put in the actual effort.

The important thing is to take the first step no matter how big or small, then force yourself to take the next, and the next, until before you know it, you've actually gotten somewhere.

>>17276152
>I strongly disagree with this estimation.
I think the ratio is like 1:4 at most.

Anecdotally, I've definitely dated enough girls to where it's pretty clear there's definitely a number of them who have absolutely no fucking idea of what they're doing and are as terrified as some guys are--as I was before. In fact I came across them with enough frequency that I started to recognize and learn almost exactly what to do to coax them out of their shells and get them to relax.

And no i can't tell you how because there's no formula for making people comfortable, there's just certain things you watch out for and address. Generally, if you're around someone who's relaxed and comfortable to be around, you start to take that up too.

A large part of confidence and being able to talk to anyone without getting nervous, is being comfortable and confident enough in yourself that you don't give too much of a fuck who else is around you or what they think of you, because you know you're you, and their estimation of you doesn't change that fact--at the end only your opinion of you really truly means anything, and validation from others will never do anything about your personal fulfillment or regrets

I met a guy who's a friend of a friend while we were out drinking. Long story short I kissed him and danced with him and was just super affectionate for a lot of the night. The problem is though that he didn't seem to initiate much of it but he reciprocated when I initiated things. He also added me on facebook and we chatted for a while the day after we were out and he mentioned I should come to shows with him and we should do it again sometime, but he didn't actually ask me out on a date and we haven't talked since.
I don't know if I'm overthinking it but I'm worried that he's not interested so I'm hesitant to ask him on a date, but on the other hand my friend who's known him since the start of the year told me he's shy and was excited about the attention I was giving him. Idk what to do, should I wait for him to ask me out or do it myself?

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>>17276193
Almost exclusively fantasy, most porn is hilariously bad or bland to me, and I need some sort of emotional connection to get off, anyway.
Occasionally erotica or something like that, though.

>>17276204
That's one of the tamest kinks ever, I wouldn't worry about it.

>>17276228

If you want to take the initiative, take the initiative.

It's way better than the alternative, which is you don't, nothing happens, you forever after wonder "what-if" and you just fee shitty about it all.

This is DOUBLY true because you already have not only heard from others that he's shy, but you've already experienced it FIRST-HAND.

You know the score. Stop doubting yourself and thinking about dumb shit.

If you want to do it, do it. Stop psyching yourself out.

>>17276238
But in your fantasy, do you think about a guy/guys you actually know and like?

>>17271282
You're literally retarded lmao

>>17276216
>You just have to want it enough to get off your ass and put in the actual effort.
I understand that you want to stress the importance of confidence and putting efforts. It is a noble goal. However you are unskilled at voicing your thoughts in the correct angle. You cannot say that people only need to want something enough and they will have it. There are many sources of social distress that do not come from lack of confidence. People cannot fix mistakes in the future if you insist that mistakes in the past where they fault even in situations where they are not. People who listen to your words will only fall in greater despair. Your words, which you believe to be geared toward motivation, will not help their circumstances. It will actively hurt them. You are not qualified to give advice on this particular subject and I recommend that you stop. If you ever suffer from anxiety and self-doubt in the future, I pray that you do not meet anyone who believes to be helping by saying it's all because you are weak, lazy and useless.

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Guys, and girls, what the hell does it mean when people keep calling me cute and adorable?

Are you just humoring me? I get told I'm cute or adorable almost every day and it makes me feel like a child. Are most people being sincere when they say things like this or do you throw this word out?

Sorry if that sounds like a stupid question, I most likely have an inferiority complex about my height and build.

>>17276184
I live in a small town, meeting people is really hard (Unless I wanna start chatting up geezers)

This is gonna be something that has to wait til my college starts back up I guess.

>>17276306
People do throw out this word quite often, at least where I'm from.
Generally it's a good thing, but if it makes you feel really bad you should talk to those who call you that.
They mean well and they'll listen to you

>>17271498
I feel you anon. I've played relationship tag for years with a girl who always said she wanted me around and blamed me for not being closer to her, until I push more than just unofficial dating. She always had no problem jumping on the next dick or cunt that came along and used her as long as they let her do to herself whatever she wanted. I'm still fucked up over it considering how close we were, but once they go meth whore, no. Just no.

>>17271544
Don't do it bro! You hit that and you better be ready to marry it or she'll go pscho-ex lesbian trucker-bitch after a mental breakdown. Just do foreplay or oral. Don't fk with Christian chicks.

>>17272665
I'm somewhat confused and thinking of Pokemon now, but my shared experience wisdom is: leave it be and go on. My childhood friend/crush of 10+ years and I started talking seriously; she even invited me to her house, then to her bedroom one night. After 10 minutes of cuddling and kissing she pushes me away and confesses her love for my old high school friend, who happened to be cheating on his girlfriend with her. FML. Best thing you can do when girls play head games to the expense of your heart, is to get the hell away from it.

>>17273868
That's really cool. My moms only advice was to not throw it away, which I did anyway, and it was horrible. Save it until you're with someone you like in a safe and comfortable place. You really aren't missing out otherwise.

>>17275922
She's confused.

>>17276484
If she thinks she's confused then what does that make me?

>>17276228
If he's shy, kissing you back, adding you on Facebook, and inviting you to go to shows, he's already halfway to engagement. XD

>>17276306
Cute usually means "I'm interested". Adorable means "not dateable". Both, er, means both?

>>17276503
Deepthroat

>>17276495
The lighthouse or the fog. Dunno which. Probably still your move, just as soon as she comes back from estrogenland.

>>17276508
How deep we talking?

>>17276306
When I call a girl cute, usually that's a reflection of her physical qualities.

When I call a girl adorable, it's because I find that both her physical and personal quirks make her unique, refreshing, and desirable.

It's not meant to be condescending, it's just the only way that I feel I can get across how I feel about a specific person.


Though, sometimes I'll say it to tease close friends.

Guys&Girls, Ive already had 2 partners in my life, but I feel sick and utterly turned off when I find out that someone's had more than 5 sexual partners in their life. Women and men both. Doubly so if more than half were one night stands. Am I in the wrong for being this anti-promiscuity?

>>17276526
As deep as you thought

>>17276496
I'm just kind of worried that he's not actually that shy and he's just not into me, like he seems fine talking to everyone else and I don't really see him as shy. I dunno! Fuck.

Is a LDR acceptable if you know that you will eventually be near your partner?

>>17276566
Maybe he's shy around you BECAUSE he likes you

just message him, there's a good chance he's afraid you were just showing him affection because you were drunk. You won't know either way unless you just straight up talk to him.

>>17276593
yes. ldr's are much more likely to work out if you have an end-point where you'll both end up being together.

>>17276633
Okay, okay, that's a good point. Thank you, I'll psych myself up and talk to him.

>>17276593
Depends on when 'eventually' is, but generally that's the only time an LDR actually works out

>>17276544
Wrong? No. Possibly unrealistic? Yes.

>>17276306
It means you're cute and adorable. It's a good thing unless they say it in a condescending tone

How unattractive are stretchmarks? Do you find its something easy to ignore or do you actively force yourself not to focus on it during intimacy?

My inner thighs are riddled with stretch marks from the groin to about halfway to the knee and I'm always self conscious when wearing shorts or having someone "down there".

Opinions please?

Notes - I'm not fat but was when I was 8-10 and developed stretchmarks. I've also been trying bio oil which has reduced redness but not much else

>>17276777
Are you male or female?

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>>17276790
The fact that you don't already know tells me you're a hardcore virgin

>>17276790
Female but I'd appreciate both/all genders opinions

>>17276800
I generally don't care. Honestly, they'd have to be pretty bad just for me to notice them.

>>17276798
Sometimes guys get self conscious about that kind of thing too.

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>>17276813
>I'm always self conscious when wearing shorts or having someone "down there"

This is the most female sentence humanly possible

>>17276777
look up tea tree oil and shea butter for treatment to make them go away a bit more. In reality, everyone has stretch marks, boys and girls can develop them pretty easy. Weight loss and gain cause them in everyone. Muscles can too. If it really bothers you, tattoos are a pretty easy option.

>>17276827
I never thought of the tattoo option, thanks! And I'll definitely look into tea tree and shea

Male here

Are white women legitimately attracted to "non stereotypical" black men? I am a 21 yo KV so I know insecurity and inexperience are relevant. However, I feel a subtle sense of inferiority when I talk to some white girls because of the time I've spent on this shit site for 4 years along with never really getting significant female attention. I do have a preference for black women but it could also be a slight sour grapes situation. Anyway, whenever I talk to a lot of white girls, I feel like all they're thinking "doles this black guy really think I have a chance?" I know this thought process is self defeating but it's become quite a habit. I also think the same thing with women that are generally hotter than me.

But yeah
Are white women legitimately attracted to "non stereotypical" black men?

>>17276826
>The Legend of Korra
Always knew you had shit taste Pegasus.

>>17276544
>Am I in the wrong for being this anti-promiscuity?

No. As long as you don't go around trying to slutshame and look down on people for having other preferences and beliefs--they're as entitled to their own as you are to yours.

>>17276777
>stretch marks
No fucks given really.

I think I have a thing for my friends bf who I was friends with before I met her. How do I not show this. A mutual friend sorta confronted me one time, asking if I had a thing for the guy based on my happy? face when i was chilling with the friends bf. I wasn't aware I had such a happy face near him. I laughed and denied because I believed I didn't have a thing at the time. I don't have actual feelings, I'm just sexually attracted to him and I enjoy his company a lot as a friend. I'd call him one of my favorite people because he's so smart. I'm fine if he marries his gf as I like her a lot too, I just don't want people to think its so obvious that I like the dude

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Is there any way to ask my friend if I could eat her out without ruining the relationship and making things creepy?

>>17276863
>Are white women legitimately attracted to "non stereotypical" black men?

I've got two black guys in my social group. One is a programmer (one of the premier java programmers in the country), young and cocky as fuck, but he lives in a house with a bunch of Asians (they've got their own programming hive or whatever it's called), and that's more what he acts like.
The other is tall, one of the chillest guys you know, kind of a video game nerd, basically always there to crack jokes, make people smile, and be everyone's friend.
Both are absolutely swimming in women.

You have a complex is what's a bigger turn off. Stop going on here letting shit posting fuck up your real life. Half of everything said on here is people just dicking around/coming from people who are in some fucked up vacuum of self-pity/hate and lashing out.

>>17277003

No.

But I think you know that.

I told my friend I liked her or that I thought she wanted more because I thought and other people thought she was interested in me. We were physical but had different thoughts going in. I'm fine with being friends (seriously) but would you hold it against me at all or what would I have to do differently?

>>17277003
"I wonder what vagina tastes like. Hey, you got one, right? Help a brudda out?

>>17270625
Realistically, how are the chances for a fat guy (average face) to have sex with a non-fat girl or guy? In terms of standards that's all I have, just not fat.
And what are the chances for a relationship? What would be beneficial or help compensate for the obvious physical flaw?

>>17277031
Not impossible, but unlikely. Relationship is more likely than just sex.
>What would be beneficial or help compensate for the obvious physical flaw?
Lose weight, you fat fuck

>>17277038
>Lose weight, you fat fuck
That doesn't answer the question and you know it.

>>17277048
Yes it does, you lazy retard.

>>17277056
No it doesn't, read the question again.

>>17277059
Stop being lazy, it's unattractive

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Is it normal for women to become suddenly empathetic and concerned with a guy friend'said well being way beyond do normal? A friend of mine, let's call her S, found out I'm going to have a surgery and suddenly offered the world of whatever she could do to support/help me.

This shit doesn't seem normal. Or am I wrong?

>>17277078
Uh no? That's normal friend behaviour

>>17277068
>lazy
When it comes to physical activities, yes. In all other aspects I'm not lazy and I don't have a weak will either.

>>17277083
Not in my experience. Any time I have had something rough happen, my friends are always hands off with me and just wish me the best of luck. I've never had anyone offer to do "anything you want me to/I can" in my entire life. Not only that, but S in particular has no reason to be so interested in my well being. Never has been before. She's been acting odd lately besides this, too.

>>17277098
>anything you want me to/I can
Just ask for a blowjob.

>>17276974
>I think I have a thing for my friends bf who I was friends with before I met her. How do I not show this.

*shrug* it's biology, who gives a fuck as long as it's obvious you won't act on it.

I think my best friend's (now) ex is a pretty awesome girl. She's sweet, charming, fun as hell to be around (and she's not bad to look at). She thinks pretty much the same as me and when we're around each other it's like a cavalcade of compliments and sweet natured jokes and flirts (not like "your ass is so fine I want to take it" shit, more like "you look stunning today! that dress is amazing!").

My girlfriend can always tell when she's texted me because apparently I just smile differently when I get something from her.

Thing is, I think of her like a little sister now. I adore her and she has a special place in my heart, but I just can't at all ever see us being in a relationship . I know her too well (i've thrown her in showers to washed puke out of her hair too many times no to) and I think she's pretty and charming, but the reality is I'm old enough to know that just charming/physical attraction is not at all the basis of a good relationships.

It's pretty obvious from both our actions that we can acknowledge each other as interesting and attractive individuals, but that we have different roles in each other's lives than as potential sexual partners. (I think we're closer to like family that's not related, and can therefore pay compliments/flirt for a boost, without it being weird, committal, or biased in any way like sometimes happens with actual family or total strangers).

P.s. if you're wondering about my GF she's not jealous. She kind of was at first when she first met her, but then she got to know her and loves her almost as much as I do. They talk more frequently than we do now actually.

>>17277098
Then you've never really had good friends

>>17270625
Girls, what would you response be if your bf told you he like going down on you more than actual sex?

>>17277120
Not a girl, but let me just tell you that you're not alone with that.

>>17277098
>Not only that, but S in particular has no reason to be so interested in my well being. Never has been before. She's been acting odd lately besides this, too

Sounds like you're doing the same thing most all other posters do when asking questions of this nature, and trying to lead /adv/ in to an answer you want to hear. Regardless of if it's true or not, It's kind of really annoying.

>Any time I have had something rough happen, my friends are always hands off with me and just wish me the best of luck.
You have kind of shitty friends, and/or this is a reflection of the type of people you choose to associate with, and the precedents you've set with them.

Stand-offishing people will tend to associate with stand-offish people.

But empathy is normal.

>>17277013
>But I think you know that.
I'm laying subtle hints, lucky I'm pretty open about how creepy I am. I'm hoping for the best. But we're both weird, she calls me "Daddy" sometimes and I'm not sure if I should act on that or not.
All this would be easier if she didn't have a boyfriend.

>>17277120
Kinda weird, but whatever

>>17277098
>She's been acting odd lately besides this, too.
>Ask me more about this so my wishful thinking that she likes me will be validated!

is it ok to ask a close girl friend to take my virginity? i dont wanna be a virgin and i cant get girls so i havd no other option

>>17277132
>She has a boyfriend
What the fuck are you thinking?

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>>17276669
good luck anon

>>17277137
>is it ok to ask a close girl friend to take my virginity?
How do people even steer a conversation towards that sort of thing?

>>17277129
>>17277136
I didn't mean for it to come across as wishful thinking. The intent was to say that shit's just strange these days. Everyone is being weird with me: people invite me for dinner, share their stock of drinks, welcome me into their homes, have me help them move. Nothing is making sense. Is this just what real friends are like?

>>17277149
>prude americans
Talking about sex is normal, especially with good friends. While talking about sex you could bring it up. I'm not saying it's a good idea, far from it, but steering the conversation that way would be as easy as that.

>>17277180
I'm not even American, just awkward.

>>17277197
Damn it, it's correct 8/10 times. Anyway, for normal people it wouldn't be an issue it's just a stupid idea.

>>17277110
Thanks. I'll let it not bother me. I wouldn't act on it anyway, unless they broke up, then I probably would, but its not like I'm hungrily awaiting that day.

>>17277139
I love her.

>>17277159
It's also around summer solstice time, and the seasons do indeed effect the way people interact with one another.

Ladies

What do you think of men who share an apartment with their parents?

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>>17275552
OH MY FUCKING GOD!
I'm not alone!

>>17276863
Why do you care about white women so much? I have never ever thought to myself why don't latina girls like me, since they never hit on me. They really are not that great and i know all i get is white women.

>>17277224
You want her to cheat on her boyfriend and then be with you?
Sounds retarded. Why would you expect not to be cheated on if she cheats her boyfriend with you?

Girls, it is possible that you could fall in love with your 5 years friend, or any long term friend in that matter?

>>17277949
No that's friend zone for half a decade.

>>17276969
I don't really try to "slutshame", but I can't come close to hide my utter disgust when a friend or a date talks about their 7th or 8th SO or lay. I have to end conversation and physically walk away at that point to not make them feel bad from my reaction. It's probably the biggest deal-breaker next to intelligence.