23 yo guy here and I think I'm falling for one of my best girl friends. We've known each other since childhood, we care for each other and I love her a lot as a friend. Most days this doesn't really bother me, other days I can't stop thinking about her. We hangout only a couple times a month and usually as a group of mutual friends.
I'm just wondering whether I should tell her I like her or not? The trouble is I'm not 100% percent sure I even do like her in a romantic/sexual way. Having pretty much zero female companionship in my teen and adult years I think has lead me to just look around for a quick fix and there she is. I'm a sociable guy and get out and do things regularly, but never do I really meet any women. I think I'm also really shallow, in thinking that if I hold off for the time being I'll find someone who I definitely find very attractive and will go straight for.
Our friends sometimes comment on us being a couple. I always thought that if we were to get together it would just happen, rather than having one of us have to blurt it out.
Whatever I go for I can see a few outcomes:
- I tell her, she reciprocates, we get together, all is fine.
- I tell her, she reciprocates, we get together and then I quickly realise that I actually do not like her in that way. We break it off. Both miserable. Friendship potentially ruined.
- I tell her, she does not reciprocate. Awkward friendship, me miserable.
- I don't tell her in hopes the feeling will pass. Sooner or later some other geezer will come and sweep her off her feet. Me super miserable
- I don't tell her, feeling passes. Meet someone else. All is fine. Friendship intact
Thanks for reading. Sorry for long post. Here's a hilarious picture of a cat
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Does the thought of here dating someone else upset you?
If yes you should ask about being a couple.
Quite frankly from what you have said you should at least take a swing. marrying a girl that is a friend is awesome and is claimed to be the best relationship. And from what you have siad you have feelings for her.
Remember regret hurts a hell of a lot more longer that rejection.
Why even bring it up just go hang out with her alone just the two of you, doesn't even need to be a date and see how you jive then get close and in the moment make the call on kissing her or not sheesh louiesh
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>>17269602
The thought of her dating someone else does upset me. It's kinda like a "damn, that could be me" kinda thing.
And about the marriage thing, I'm gonna open up my shallow, childish side here again and say that by the time I get married I would've liked to been with other women. The thought of only being with one woman ever makes me uncomfortable
And it is true what you say about rejection. I'm sure I could bounce back