ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

For girls, how do you feel about your date paying for you? Im 22 and this girl Im seeing and the past girl I was seeing both don't like me paying for them, as they don't want to feel like Im owed something etc. etc. Which I understand, cause guys can be pieces of shit. But I actually enjoy paying for them and taking them out?

>>17225779
Not a fan. I don't know if I've been here too long or what, but I don't like the idea of a guy going behind my back later and whining that I didn't kiss him or put out or whatever and how it's not fair because he bought me dinner and that somehow entitles him to sex.

>>17225779
>cause guys can be pieces of shit.

I'm a dude, but funny/sad story

One of the dates my gf went on before she met me, guy came in for a kiss at the end of the night, and she turned away. His response, "What the fuck bitch. I paid for your dinner. You owe me."

That combined with the fact that she comes from a poor household growing up means she wants to feel she has control over her own enjoyment.

Consensus from all my female friends:

It's nice to offer once, but if they decline, don't try force it, because then it becomes sketch.

Other women:
When I'm done masturbating I feel contractions, but it isn't pleasurable, it just feels like nothing. It lasts a couple of seconds and I'm not aroused afterwards. Are these orgasms?

>>17225818
Not clear as to what you mean. These contractions are the result of your orgasm and will keep happening for the duration of your orgasm. You can keep touching yourself to try and prolong your orgasm while this happens, also known as having multiple orgasms. But if you stop you will likely experience the feeling of numbness or "nothing". After I masturbate my clit is too sensitive to touch though so I've never tried it.

>>17225832
Thanks. It's helpful to know that I am having orgasms. I was just confused because they're supposed to be euphoric, amazing, etc. whereas that has not been my experience at all.

>>17225779
Generally not into it. If I like the guy enough and it makes him feel better, I might humor him.

Ladies, how do you feel about having male close friends? I have a close female friend who I've been friends with for eight years. I've been with her through countless boyfriends and her marriage/divorce. Every time she gets a new serious boyfriend, I always wonder if this will be the one that will be insecure about me. Is this a rational thing to think? Will I have to expect the day where she had to push me out of her life because of him?

Let's be clear, though, I love this woman with all of my heart but not in the romantic sense. I could never be the man for her and she couldn't ever be the right woman for me. I don't want to think of a day where I don't get to be part of her life. Am I crazy?

A girl I haven't had contact with for the last 2 years suddenly messaged me out of the blue (she even asked around for my new phone number), we have a weird history (used to always go out together in bars and clubs, she'd sleep at my place and I'd sleep at hers, we'd share a bed and fall asleep in each others arms but never actually had sex or even kissed) and there also was a weird thing with another guy. Anyway, I'm pretty sure she has a boyfriend for over a year now, why would she contact me? They haven't broken up judging by her social media stuff, I'm pretty confused. Also, she's way out of my league, has been back in the day and definitely still is.

(Woman here)

So, I'm a 20 year old kissless virgin. I'm really, really embarrassed of this. One of my biggest fears is people finding out. Most of my girl friends have already had sex, many of them multiple times, since they were teenagers. But they're all rather outgoing but I'm shy and didn't learn to socialize until like senior year of high school. I know this sounds pathetic but I actually cry about it a lot because I need some kind of validation that I'm not some ugly hag, but I hate myself more for wanting that validation. I have no problem with pleasuring myself sexually, but when people touch me (even in a friendly way, non-sexually) I panic. IIN?

>>17225931

I have a close male friend in my life. He is a very understanding person and we've helped each other through hard times. If a guy told me to push him out of my life I'd break up with him because I have basic decency and I'm not a fucking doormat.

>>17225940
Most men around your age will think that it's cute or even be attracted by that "innocence" and inexperience. There is no real reason for you to panic, at all. And if you really want to get experience at any cost you could always find a man in a similar situation and you could learn together.

>>17225940
I think it's normal to be a 20 year old KLV, just kind of uncommon. I was a KLV until I was 21, and I don't think I was abnormal or anything. The way you feel about it and how you react doesn't seem to be normal though, perhaps some sort of therapy might be helpful?

>>17225945
This I agree with too. My boyfriend thought my inexperience was the sweetest thing. I don't know how useful hearing this would be though, it seems like the problem is something deeper.

>>17225943
Even if it was deep into the relationship? Like married/engaged levels?

So, my self esteem is nonexistent. I'm the type of guy who offers to repair something for someone for free and then apologizes when I didn't manage to do that, that happened to me and I seriously told the guy that I would replace it as an apology. My time and my existence are worth absolutely nothing in my eyes. How can I find a Dom woman who I can devote my life and my entire being to? That's all I want in life, someone who gives me clear directions and has a use for me.
>inb4 join the army
They won't take me, I tried that.
>inb4 therapy
No money.

>>17225940
There's nothing wrong with a girl being a virgin.

How much money do I need to earn to remain fat and ugly and still get a cute GF? Alternatively, should I just get a prostitute or escort to get it over with?

>>17225931
I don't keep "close" friends of either gender, just friends. You're not crazy, though.

>>17225936
>why would she contact me?
How are we supposed to know?

>>17225991
Get a job at Microsoft, those guys all have trophy wives.

>>17225959

Sounds like me anon. I've wanted to date someone that can use me for their liking. Force me to get a job and do things solely for her. My money, my energy, my thoughts all devoted to her.

>>17225959
There are therapists that help people with no money, do some research. Otherwise, fetlife.

>>17226029
It's my biggest wish, I'm sure I could accomplish tremendous tasks if it is just for someone else, not me.
>>17226031
>fetlife
Isn't that mostly hookups and stuff like that? I need a partner, someone who I can devote my entire life to. Not some random girl who thinks it would be funny to dominate a guy for a night.

>>17226039
Right! I don't give a shit for myself, but I'm sacrificial for anyone else. I don't mind being used for someone else's gain, as long as you know what to make off my strengths.

Btw anon, what would you say to therapist if you were seeing one?

>>17226051
I have no clue, I doubt that I'd actually visit one even if I could, probably something along the lines of "fix me please".

Not really a question for the opposite gender but I think it applies here.

I'm talking to a woman I met over tinder, she is great. Very sexual, same kinks as I do.. We got a long great. She is just very busy, a professional woman.. Manager in a big company stuff like that. I'm just an IT guy that has a lot of spare time on his hands. I'm on 4chan at work, if that's an ample example of how much time I have.

I'm always the one that initiates texts, and I'm getting annoyed by it because SHE is clearly being annoyed by it. She told me she thinks I have "way too much time on my hands" for texting. Seeing as I have a job and a kid, I shouldn't be able to do it (well fuck you cunt, I can).

We are basically both in it for the sex though, no feelings involved but I don't want her to get the wrong impression. I'm laying low now, haven't texted in a few days but my mind is killing me. I keep having the urge to text her, then I get reminded by the fact that I shouldn't. I can go for 30 minutes without thinking about it, and then I get the urge again.

So here is the question: how the FUCK do I turn off my mind, how do I stop myself from texting her? I just need to lay low but whenever I'm bored I think about shit I could be texting her, some sexting shit but then I get reminded she probably doesn't care.

I don't want to throw away a good deal here by coming over too needy, but it's just how I work. I love talking to people/chatting with them and I can't help it being there 100% of the time.

Women,

I recently had a friend blow up her feed on facebook with anxiety/panic driven posts. I messaged her to figure out what was going on and she responded by lashed out at me in an extremely hurtful way.

I even waited a couple hours after she was done so that I wouldn't be putting extra pressure on her during the episode.

Is trying to support my female friends in distress a mistake 100% of the time?

>>17226081
>Is trying to support my female friends in distress a mistake 100% of the time?
No. However I'd say it's *generally* a mistake to help someone in distress if they're making said distress known by blowing up any sort of social media feed.

>>17226089
It just seems like a completely broken social structure. I justified it either to her wanting someone (not me) to help her, or just venting and wanting nobody to help her.

But the former is what text and private messages are for, and the latter actually works against helping with chronic anxiety/depression, but just making me not want to talk to her at all.

>>17225931
If she'd drop you for the sake of a guy, I kinda question how close you guys really are desu.

>>17225955
I would never want to hitch my wagon to someone who trusts me so little and thinks their insecurities get to determine who my friends are, especially when my friends have been around a hell of a lot longer than they have.
Anyone who would try to come between me and my friends, pets, or family can fuck off.

I'm not saying it won't happen to you, but if it does, I reckon she fucked up.

>>17225818
Are you that girl from the male hooker thread from last night?
Anyway I'd say if you can (ie if you don't get too oversensitive clitorally) keep stimulating yourself after what you think was an orgasm. Even if it's just to make it last longer, or even cum again.

Hey ladies
A female friend of mine left me a voice message saying she loved me (after a few drinks though lol). I asked her about it when she was sober and she said she does love me, just not on a romantic level like her boyfriend. What exactly does that mean? Does she have some feelings for me? If not for her boyfriend could she develop romantic feelings for me and we hook up?

>>17225940
I was a virgin until nineteen (I am introverted but not so much, but it took me quite some time to realize I'm not actually attracted to guys) and was pretty much the same as you, kinda scared, nervous, lots of tearing up and being a little bitch about it generally, but my first partner didn't care at all besides "we're gonna take our time with this" and it felt really comfortable and relaxed and I wasn't much scared at all really.
I'm pretty sure most people won't care, is what I mean.

>>17226158
That's impossible to say without knowing her, but really people say stupid shit drunk all the time. I tell a lot of my friends I love them, as friends.
The more important question is, do you want her to? Are you into her?

>>17226164
Yeah, I care about her a lot and think about her all the time. She says she's naturally flirty and maybe she is, but I felt it was kind of genuine but maybe that's just wishful thinking. She sometimes does things when we aren't chatting and what not that makes me think she is thinking about me too.

She's also done things before that I don't really deem relevant as friends, like asking me what type of girls am I into

>>17226169
Of course that might be, but as you said if you're into her you'll see a lot of of signs and hints that may not all be there. Are you good friends, do you do stuff alone together? Or any sexual history even?

>>17226175
Good friends, yeah she considers me one of her best and she'll happily talk about quite personal stuff.

I've known her for a few years but we only got chatting like a month ago and she messages me virtually every day. Only hung out once so far but we are supposed to be meeting up in the near future alone. No sex but she did tell me that she told her previous boyfriend when she was with him that she thought I was cute lol

>>17226177
Well, then who knows, could go either way honestly. It's hard to judge people's intentions by a few lines of text.
But if she's got a boyfriend it's not a problem for today anyway, I suppose.

>>17226183
True, thanks anyway

>>17225931
I have a few male friends. One in particular stayed by my side through a lot of shit and is probably the best friend I have right now.
If my boyfriend asked me to stop talking to my friend, I would immediately dump him.
You're not crazy for thinking something like that, but if she loves you, she'll stay.

how do I stop loving her?

I only scraped by for a little while on pure rage but that has dissipated and now I'm feeling again

>>17226194
In a few years you'll not care about her at all.

>>17226203
>in a few years
Why is this allowed

>>17226204
Break ups are shit, welcome to the other six billion people on earth.

>last year
>have intense summer fling with girl I've known for long time, and have really always liked
>spend pretty much every day together in bed for like two months
>suddenly goes completely cold
>never wants to meet
>doesn't text me sweet little texts anymore
>wonder what the hell
>go to party
>she shows up
>suddenly has a bf and had said nothing to me

This is a fucked up thing to do right? How do I pick myself up, I don't want to try again

>>17226211
While it's not exactly a nice thing to do, did you do any "relationship stuff" except fucking? She might have simply thought it was just some friendly way to wind down and nothing serious.
Obviously it's still a bit of a cunt thing, but there you go.

>>17226212
Went to dinner, drinks, walks, spent all day just talking in bed, she was texting me all the time etc.

There wasn't anything spoken but it felt like more, to me at least

>>17226215
Well that's kinda the problem with feelings, you might have thought of your arrangement completely differently than she did.
So yeah, better to talk things through and have some clarity and an understanding of what either of you wants from a relationship, but she's still pretty cold just going to the next guy without as much as telling you. I'm sorry Anon.

>>17226219
Well anyway, how to I stop feeling like last weeks garbage and pick up again?

More of a girl question but anyone who knows anything about this is very welcome to answer:
So I've never been a very sexual person I'd say, as in its not been a very important thing to me, and I'm not often turned on etc.
For the last few weeks I've somehow been crazily turned on basically constantly though. For no reason I can think of. I have sex dreams, I just want to get it on constantly etc, it's actually distracting me from studying. I meet people and can't really think straight.
I'm 22 if that matters, so I don't think it's some teenage hormones-on-the-rollercoaster thing. I'm not on any birth control (I'm lesbian), I haven't had a partner in some time but before that's never been a problem for me. I do take light antidepressants (Doxepin, 20mg) to treat migraines but I was assured that small dosage wouldn't have any side effects and either way I thought antidepressants did the exact opposite.
Should I talk to my gyno maybe?

>>17226222
Honestly, I think you just have to give it time. I know that's a cliché as fuck answer but I think that's the only thing that really helps, time and distance.

>>17225779
Girl here. I prefer paying for the first date because it's shows I want to treat the guy and show him some cool restaurants/bars/cafes. I let. The guy pay if it's a cheap date though.

Question for the experienced, girls or guys.

There's this girl that I have been seeing for a while about a month. We've had one date so far and kissed multiple times. What's the next step after this?

>>17226290
benis in vagine B----D

>>17226290
Take the next step if you feel comfortable with her? Most girls expect the guy to take the lead. No need to rush things but if you get along well and you feel like you're ready for that, go for it. If she'd rather take it slow I'm sure she'll tell you.

>>17226294
That could happen
>>17226296
And yeah I'm comfortable with her and I showed her now much I liked her. What is the next step? More dates of course and then what?

>>17226306
More dates, invite her over to your place, for some drinks and a movie, that kinda stuff.

Girls:
what is a the meaning/difference when a girl says kiss instead of kisses?
I know there's a difference, not just what it is.

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LADIES:

I recently asked my female friend if she wanted to hang out and she agreed. Before I could suggest where we would go, she suggested we get drinks.

We've always hung out one-on-one, but this'll be our first time drinking together (coffee/breakfast/movies are our typical activities). Do women view going out for drinks one-on-one with a guy as a more intimate activity? Could she possibly be trying to set up a romantic type of mood?

I fully understand that she could just be very comfortable with me as a friend and has nothing but platonic intentions, but give me your gut instinct.

>>17226453
I think she's counting on alcohol as an excuse for whatever might happen.

Femanons, suppose you used to have chemistry with a guy that didn't produce anything, you both split from each other for college, you each are in relationships but yours ends before his, would you make an attempt to rekindle any chemistry you had with him?

Male here in this sort of situation, used to have huge crush on the girl but never made a move. Now been with my gf for 6 months with serious intentions of staying with her for a long time if not marrying her eventually. Other girl started texting me again the other day, nothing directly flirting or anything.

Girls or guys:
1.How does one read body language.
2. How do I read a girls in terms of how she feels around me.

>>17226474
Easily.

>>17226077
ask her are you interested in a serious relatopsiophsip

>>17226077
Find another woman to use as your texting outlet

This one is a bit off for a blue board but I'll try to keep it simple:

Every guy I've been with sexually has gone out of his way to say (some cases repeatedly) I'm very good at fellatio. I'd like to believe this, because I put a lot of effort into it.

However, I've noticed sometimes no matter what I try the guy just doesn't ejaculate. My latest guy rarely does, though we get together frequently.

Why is this? Is it normal not to always ejaculate? Am I maybe not actually doing that good of a job?

Thanks penis havers of adv

>>17226493
How exactly

>>17226429
Could you give more context?

I can't say there's a huge difference

If you mean as a parting word like, 'ciao xoxo
Kisses'

I'd say kisses is more friendly with gfs type thing and kiss is more formal in a still casual sense but...

Not enough to read into it

>>17226474
Body language is learnt with practice and observation, I don't think you'll master it just reading a text post. I'd try googling a few examples if I were you.

I'm essentially emotionally color blind so I've come to depend on reading body language to discern things. Largely in the face/eyes. But even then I couldn't rightly explain it, it's kind of like asking: 'how do I run fast?' -- obviously you'll need practice.

As for how a girl feels about you via body language - it's going to vary. If you aren't familiar it might be harder to discern if she's expressing shyness or awkward disinterest, for example. A better indicator might be if she goes out of her way to talk to you, initiates or tries to continue/engage conversations, doesn't just give short or end of discussion answers.

If she makes lots of eye contact, or looks down when talking to you, she might like you. If she looks upwards/away or to the side, she might be disgusted or annoyed by you. If she touches or bumps/brushes against you she probably likes you. But there are other little details in the face that give these things fuller connotations that can't easily be verbally explained.

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>>17225759
Women

If a man comes up to you and says "please excuse me, I don't mean to be rude, but tonight, I'm loving you!"

How would you respond?

>>17226513

Well, I was texting this girl and she was being all nice but I said goodnight and she said kiss and goodnight.

Girls usually say kisses, instead of just kiss

The only person who ever said kiss (instead of kisses) to me was my gfs.

>>17226506
Do you finish every time? Do you finish every time from just one position or movement? As the answer is probably no....then it isn't about your skill. Oral sex is its own thing--it feels good, but isn't necessarily an end.

>>17226542

Nod in polite, bare-minimum acknowledgement then wander away from the crazy person.

>>17226506
Porn. Masturbation habits.

General desensitization.

I usually find it very difficult to get off from a blowjob if I've been masturbating a lot lately. Guys tend to have pretty rough hands, and you can only imagine how well that bodes the the more sensitive areas of our bodies.

Though, good mental imagery can go a long way. If you really play into it and make him feel like you're desperate for his cum, then I doubt he'd be able to stand it for very long.

>>17226542
Laugh, tell him to fuck off, go away.

Girls

Would you still accept and keep a guy as a friend even after he tried asking you out

>>17225759
I often see asian women on dinner dates with 2 men...
Whats the deal ?

>>17225940

You're only twenty, come on

>>17226546
Probably likes you but without further evidence it can't be said for sure

You could try to be cheeky and ask jokingly if she says kiss to everyone - but only if you think she'd be receptive of that kind of thing and not misconstrue it?

>>17226542
It would take me off guard and I wouldn't think they're serious. I think most people would find it awkward.

>>17226594
Well, I'm going all cloak and dagger about it instead of straight up asknig her out because I have a gf and don't want to read the situation wrong. I like this girl and would like to hang out, but if she actually likes me, then I think something amazing would happen that would ruin this relationship. You feeling me? I can deal with having a bit of a crush on a friend but just being friends. However, if she also has a crush on me...

>>17226553
As long as I didn't feel he was still pineing after me

If he was I'd probably end the friendship in favor of not giving him the wrong impression, which I'd assume I must be doing if he was still clearly romantically interested

That said though I think it's always better to ask. If it does ruin the friendship it probably wasn't that great of a friendship, you know?

>>17226546
Kisses is like "hugs and kisses xoxo." Kiss is like a single romantic kiss.

>>17226608
Ah, I understand

It might be better to confront her, though. I mean, is your current relationship really that fulfilling if you're fantasizing about leaving with this friend?

If she knows you're in a relationship she could be hinting at her own affections but not want to be openly rejected knowing you're not available. So she'll probably not make any big moves due to your relationship...

If you're particularly buddy-buddy she might just feel comfortable being affectionate like that with you, though. She might see your relationship as a reason you wouldn't take it romantically, hence feel comfortable saying it as a friend.

Really no easy way to tell based on such little information. I'd still say try her.

>>17226226
Anyone?

>>17226613
True. I think I should just act as I have prior to asking her out , not mentioning about when I tried asking her out. Unless she brings it up

Guys, with the amount of effort it takes just to get a girl to hang out with you, how do you get the motivation to look for another one to date after losing a girlfriend? Are girls worth the effort?

It's against human nature to ignore them, but the payoffs for claiming one is so minuscule you just find yourself wasting time and assets. Is a sex buddy the only thing you need?

>dating a virgin girl
>her texts and words are hot. She says she wants to have sex
>every time I initiate I get blown off.

This is extremely frustrating, especially seeing as I'm as patient as I can.
Mentioning sex with her makes me want to do it, and she says she wants to as well, but she always stops me.

What do?

>>17226684
She's probably just nervous as hell, first time is a big deal for most girls. Even if she wants it very much. You gotta be patient.

>>17226684

It's always easier to talk about sex than to actually have it when you're a virgin. She's probably just a bit worried and uncertain about it still, even if she seems confident. Giver her time. Make out and fool around, but don't pressure her. Ease her into it and make it an easy playful situation so that she doesn't get too stressed about it.

>>17226625
I guess the only way is the old way: straight up communication.

Female friend I talk to daily (she always initiates) is away with her boyfriend this weekend. Messaged her briefly the other night just to wish her well but she said her battery was dying, and she'll chat soon. We haven't spoken for like 3 days which is unusual for us. Should I leave her be or message her?

Kind of can't tell if she just doesn't give a fuck, or if she's hoping I'll message her. Meanwhile I'm hoping she will message me as she always has done before.

She has told me she considers me a close/best friend before. Kind of a bit down that she doesn't seem to want to take a few minutes just to say hi or something.

Hey, I've posted here before. I'm 18, gf is 17. If anyone recalls, she broke up with her 24bf of a year to be with me and I was concerned they still talk.

Paranoia got the better of me and I checked her phone once, the other night at around midnight they were texting about how they ended.

She kept saying it doesn't matter to talk about because he's over her and he never agreed. He asked if "are you over it or does a part of you miss us?"

She replied with "I'm not quite sure"

What do I do

>>17226226
I don't know about your particular antidepressant but I have read that girls are more likely to have increases sex drive from antidepressants

It could be a hormonal thing too, though. Lots of things can affect them

If it bothers you, I'd talk to your doctor, but I wouldn't be overly concerned I don't think. If it's something just recent I find I get much more sexual upcoming certain cycles of my period, and since antidepressants can have an affect on a girls time of month, I can imagine they could cause a slight hormonal/libido change too? Even if your Dr said there shouldn't be much in terms of sides, everyone's bodies are different

Prozac 20mg made me hornier, personally

Guys, with the amount of effort it takes just to get a girl to hang out with you, how do you get the motivation to look for another one to date after losing a girlfriend? Are girls worth the effort?

It's against human nature to ignore them, but the payoffs for claiming one is so minuscule you just find yourself wasting time and assets. Is a sex buddy the only thing you need?

>>17226707
She's away with her boyfriend, chances are he requested she isn't busy on her phone, or she has the decency to realize that this is shitty to do when you're supposed to have quality time together.
Don't message her.

It also sounds like she's emotionally cheating on him (though not enough info) and you have feelings for her.

>>17226719
Thanks. I have quite bad anxiety so going from talking every day, with her not even being able to go like 5 hours without messaging or asking me if there's a reason I'm not talking to no contact at all for days just made me feel a bit off. Yeah, fucking Sherlock Holmes right here haha, I do like her a lot.

>>17226716
Thanks for the answer. I do have normal slight swings in horniness in regards to my cycle, ie I'm horny when I'm ovulating but that's it really.
I never heard of antidepressants increasing your sex drive, I thought it made it more difficult to orgasm, that's all.
I mean, it doesn't bother me much, it's just very unusual for me. I'm seriously considering buying a vibrator.

>>17226711
Please respond

girls, can you easily tell if a guy has a crush on you?

>>17226812
No. I'm hilariously bad at that or maybe the guys have been hilariously bad at hinting at it. But I've had guys call me a bitch or ice queen for 'ignoring their advances' when I wasn't even aware of any.

>>17226711
Well if she's not sure then your not sure it's going to work.
Put your foot down man.

>>17226784
Look man I'm not trying to make you feel bad about yourself. What you describe is completely normal with a person you have grown fond of, who has opened up to you and you have almost constant interaction with.
But realize that long term this is not a situation that is going to make you happy.

>>17226812
Completely depends. I got a lot better at it but when I was younger I sucked. What I have learned is that people express romantic interest in many different ways. The kind of guy who has the classic strategy of trying to sit next to you and touch knees a lot, giving out compliments and showing interest in every little bit of info about your life, that's pretty hard to miss. But some guys distance themselves from a girl or become spiteful and mean when they like someone, or they act less warm and friendly than with other girls because they freeze up and don't dare to. It took me much longer to realize that's also a thing, that not all interest looks like straightforward enthusiasm.

>>17226830
haha sorry. but that made me lol xD

>>17226882
Yeah I'm apparently not good at romance, haha.

>>17225779
offer to pay, but if they refuse just leave it at that. Some girls prefer to pay for themselves. But pretty much everyone will at least appreciate the offer anyway. Just don't push it.

>>17226930
Are you naturally distant or just oblivious?

>>17226660
Yea, I think I'll just act as I always have, and see where that goes.

If she mentions me asking her out, then I'll say something, otherwise I'll act as if I never did that.

>>17226939
A little bit of column A, a little bit of column B.

>>17226867
>But some guys distance themselves from a girl or become spiteful and mean when they like someone, or they act less warm and friendly than with other girls because they freeze up and don't dare to.
can confirm. I'm that kinda guy. Which isn't cool cause I come off as indifferent and whatnot when I actually want something to happen.

>>17226947
Hmmm I gues acting more warm won't necessarily help if you can't realize guys are hitting on you. Can you give and example of how a conversation went between you and X ?

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How to tell if a girl might be interested in you. I am a total autist regarding that so I couldn't tell.

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So my friend is caught in this weird lesbo love triangle. Basically my friends roommate/friend has been getting jealous of their boyfriend, has been acting progressively more snarky whenever he's around. I think he's a bit of a manchild but it's not like he's a bad person, this reaction is totally undue.

Now that roommate is stringing this guy along that she knows my friend hates, just to try to upset her. She's also been sending barbed and insulting texts at my friend lately in some plea for negative attention I believe. I personally think that girl just has a crush on my friend, and is acting incredibly immature about it. My friend has also been admitting my perspective is starting to make more sense. Whenever that girl is criticized she blames her "depression and anxiety". I think that's absolute nonsense, she obviously has both but it isn't some free pass to act like a snot.

We were going to be meeting up later to get some coffee and talk about what's going on with this roommate. I'm tempted to strongly suggest she tries to find some new living conditions, and gets some space from that friend of hers for a while until she grows up. Admittedly however I'm inexperienced about these kinds of situations and I was hoping I could get some input/criticism, like maybe my perspective is fucked somewhere.

>>17226812

I can't even fucking tell when someone's outright creeping on me.

>>17226963
Well, usually I meet someone nice and we hit it off and talk all through the night and just get along great, but I never quite realize someone is into me. I just think they're being polite which is probably to equal parts self confidence issues and being a retard.

>>17226968
Get drunk and talk together.

You fucking bitches have the most banal problems.

So I'm kind of confused. There's this girl in my class (I'm a senior in high school and we still haven't let out yet for summer because my school district is fucking stupid) and sometimes I tease her and she does that thing where she smiles like she's interested. I'll call her nicknames like "baby carrot" and she calls me an asshole because she's short and doesn't like that, yet she still smiles a bit and gives that look, like the "you're such an asshole but I fucking want you" look, know what I'm talking about?

Anyway, she gave me her number, and it seems like this is all good, but I asked her to go bowling and she straight up said no. Could it be that she's not interested? Maybe I was being too cocky (we've played some games together and I always act cocky when I win, so maybe it was getting too much for her? After all, before she said no I basically said "yeah I would totally win in bowling.")? Maybe she wants to do something else? I didn't have much of a chance to ask because she had to leave right after that (she was just getting picked up; 18 years old and still doesn't have a license ffs) but now I'm wondering if I should text her or if that was a straight up rejection?

>>17226676
I don't look for girls, I do stuff I wanna do, sometimes there are girls there

basically, don't go out with the expectation of finding a relationship, it comes off as desperate and it will probably come out in your body language, I dunno, girls can smell desperation I swear

>>17225940
Don't worry about being a virgin, a lot of us guys actually think it's cute and appreciate that we aren't sticking our dick where hundreds of others have already been lol

>>17226987
Fuck that bitch and hit up another one.

I met a girl through an online game we both play.

I like her a lot. But I'm pretty sure this is unhealthy for me. And based on recent conversations with her I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me back. What do I do?

>>17226995
Forgot to mention that when she said no that she was doing that smiling thing again, so maybe I didn't make it clear that I was being serious that I wanted to go out with her. Basically, I still had on my cocky persona and she had her "you're an asshole" persona because I said "yeah there's no way you could beat me at bowling", also she was acting salty after I won another game (nothing too competitive, just a mobile game called Astro Party, kek.)

>>17226977

I'm a guy and can't really help you on "advances" since I too am autistic. But I think most are trying to get close to you. If you like them a bit, try and test the waters and lightly pass your hand on their forearm. I've noticed women sort of do that once they are getting close to men. Or just ask flat out, "Are you into me?" Or "do you like me, X?"

>>17226989
All the things I wanna do are individual things, so I have to. Luck you though, I guess.

If a girl tells you "I love you" drunk, out of the blue and without any context, how deep in the friend zone are you?

>>17227040
I'm probably too much of a bitch to be so forthright. I mean I wouldn't mind having a relationship but it's not a priority to me anyway.

>>17226986
Unless it's the worlds longest ruse, the roommate is allergic to alcohol so it's not like we can get her to open up that way.

>>17227055
Hard to say. Some people get extremely mushy when they've had too much and she probably meant that she sees you as a beautiful soul and yeah, she sees you as a friend or fellow traveller in the struggles of human existence.
But it could also be that she has a huge huge crush on you and only now mustered up the courage to take the leap, that's not exactly unheard of. Did she seem interested in your response?

OMFG I can't believe the amount of SHITLORDS in this thread. I identify as a demigendered trainsexual. Please tell me what exactly the opposite of that is? Can't do it can you, you CIS-gendered priveliged shitbirds

>>17227065
Actually explain that to me. You said you get called a bitch, but are you really? Or is that the best way to describe your behavior/manner of speaking?

I don't get it. There's this girl in uni who goes to the same courses i do. We share glances quite often and I can tell something is going on etc. She added me on fb 2 days ago. I saw the request some hours later, accepted it and saw she was online so i sent a casual hello message and all i got was a "Seen". She's never replied yet. And today I met her at uni and she was all 'HEY HELLO XD HOW did you do in the exam haha blah blah!'. Jesus.
I can't tell what's wrong but it's obviously me, cause it's happened in similar ways with other girls in the past.
I'm p sure it's not about looks cause --impossible not to sound cocky but-- i've had several people suggested me doing modeling before.

>>17227079

Just don't so casual or small talk. Bring something of interest.

>>17227067
>Did she seem interested in your response?
I can't remember really but I'll guess no

>>17227073
0/10
see me after class

>>17227073
Omnigendered planesexual. Though it could be boatsexual as the opposite of trainsexual. It depends on what mode of transportation you identify as opposite of trains.

>>17227092
If I were you I'd keep this in the back of my mind during future interactions but I can't see a possible realiable conclusion drawn from this. sorry.

>>17227099
I might add that she usually gets very touchy the more alcohol flows and also usually only towards me. But that's about it - and only drunk.

>>17227091
Good point.
She actually replied much later. And we talked about uni (a convo of like two messages long). The latest message was mine.
I know she's probably bored but I don't think she's giving me any chance of kinda building up to a more interesting conversation.
I suck at online convos, that's probably the problem. I'm too practical or something. Real life chatting is much easier, I mean there's more to read about someone than some letters on a screen.

>>17227075
No, I don't think I'm a bitch, honestly. I think they use bitch more as a general description for anyone who doesn't sleep with them. I'm more oblivious which is probably oftentimes misunderstood as being bitchy and distant.

>>17227107
Hmm. Still don't think they are conclusive but combined I would vouch that it's worth to try to throw some hints her way. If you're a bit drunk together, initiate talking about sex, ask her flirty questions about what she likes to fantasize about, what's on her sex bucket list, stuff like that. Create opportunities where her body language and way of carrying herself will likely give away how she feels.

That is, if you are interested in being with her of course, I thought that was the assumption.

caught a girl staring at me and she quickly averted her eyes

is she okay to approach? do you femanons display interest this way?

>>17227125
>That is, if you are interested in being with her of course, I thought that was the assumption.
Nah, not necessarily. I'd just like to have the facts straight.
But thank you. I'll try.

>>17227130
Sure, approach away. One time staring is too little to go by, but in general yes, looking at someone is the most reliable indicator that there's interest. People can't help but look at what captures their attention.

>>17227136
I'd love to help but it's too complicated. As I said I think the fact that both those things happen is telling, but in itself getting touchy while drunk is not necessarily that weird. You might be the only person she trusts to not blow up on her for "teasing" and not going further. Or she finds you physically attractive and acts on that when drunk, but feels no emotional connection for something romantic when sober and deems some casual sex not worth risking your friendship for. Or she's the kind who gets really thirsty for attention and excitement when she's had a bit too much and you're the best person to give it to her at that moment.

Girls

How do you act sooooo interested one day and then completely oblivious to our existence the next?
Was it something we said?
Was there in ulterior motive?
Do I have autism?

>>17227130
>>17227137
this often happens to me. I feel it's an obvious queue that i should approach but rejection feels amazingly awful

>>17227186
REEEE 2bh

Also I wouldn't say it's perfectly normal, but I also don't think women should have vibrators and also should have their clitorises cut off, so I might be a bit old fashioned.

>>17227186
I'm not a hot dude with a lot of success with women, and I don't own a fleshlight, but I don't see how it's weird. I'm actually thinking of buying one.

>>17227186
You really have to dig to find things to complain about don't you

>>17227186
He can't sleep with a woman every night. And on those nights he wants some high quality masturbation. Nothing wrong with that.

>>17227186
>also should have their clitorises cut off, so I might be a bit old fashioned.
Inshallah brother

>>17227186
Pretty normal. i wouldn't mind a single bit if my bf owned a fleshlight (don't know if he does.. Might need to ask him)

>>17227225

Not really, that's the whole point. I'm not complaining and I don't see an issue with it myself, I was just surprised.

>>17227231
>i wouldn't mind a single bit if my bf owned a fleshlight (don't know if he does.. Might need to ask him)
if you don't mind why would you ask?

>>17227111
That's more 'understanable' (not really we can be man babies with a lot of insecurities). But don't call yourself bitch femanon, if they had any balls they'd try to reach you again. If you didn't flat out reject them, you should still be at a not-so unapproachable level.

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I don't do anything with my free time other than read and shitpost and everyone's always saying "get a hobby to be interesting"

I don't really care what since eventually women force you to give up your hobbies anyway, so if I was faking it from the start it's not like I lost anything

And don't give me that "it doesn't matter what, it's how passionate you are that's attractive" - because that's not true. Video games, anime, magic cards and things like that are unacceptable but sports and motorcycles are so hot.

But I'm also on a really tight budget, I work full time support myself and that, I'm not some high school kid. Not like I can just go buy a fucking mustang to "tinker" with.

So what's a cheap, masculine hobby to get into? I was thinking football, my state has an NFL team so I could start following them, read about the players and watch the games next season... what do you think?

>>17227280

You could also go for the psuedo intellectual. Art or guitar.

My boyfriend and I have a lot of sex but I'm starting to worry that we're falling into the same habits. I know how to make him cum, it's normally me rubbing his cock for a bit, going down on him, him fucking me and then cumming. He's great, I love having sex with him but I really don't want to bore him.

How can I spice things up a bit? What kind of things can I throw into the mix to really impress him? The problem is that we're both so in love at the moment, any sex together feels wonderful. I just don't want to risk him getting bored.

>>17227270
Yeah I know what you mean, I just feel like I'm being accidentally mean kind of, by not getting their advances basically.

>>17227186
Some guys use a fleshlight to cure themselves of deathgrip, or enjoy the "naughty" aspect of buying yourself a toy. It's not completely common, but absolutely normal. And, in my humble opinion, quite hot.

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When a girl has stopped initiating conversations via messages etc, and only replies with extremely short messages back, or just ignores messages, there is no much point in continuing messaging her, right?
I though we were friends, seeing how she said that we were, but during the past month, she hasn't contacted me even once, and just ignored over half of my messages to her.
Ì am tired of trying to reach out to her, and only face a cold shoulder.
Is it time to just forget her, and start ignoring her like she is doing to me?

Girls: Where did you meet your boyfriend?

>>17227310
I met my last boyfriend in a Church, oddly enough. He plays in some orchestra, I had tickets for a Verdi concerto, there were drinks later and we got talking and yeah.

Average response time ITT is 00:06:32 in case anyone is as obsessive and expectant as me.
It's surprisingly fast 2bh.

>>17227282
I'm too dumb for that shit

>>17227310

Through friends. I was friends with him too for quite awhile, before made a move. The wisest thing I ever did.

>>17227372
I think that IS a compliment. I mean I would think masturbation is boring compared to sex most of the time but who knows.

>>17227310
He was a suprise +1 when friends invited me to get some drinks on my birthday. Best present ever.

>>17227282
>tfw won large ai competition
>tfw art and drums
Feels good. Chicks love drums, and so do I. Too bad neither of these get you very far, and I'm too much of a robot to be able to take what I can get anyways.

TLDR; get a masculine hobby these don't work

>>17227306
That's what I do. If you don't care about dignity keep trying, it's not like you'd need to showcase any of it when you ignore her anyways.

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I'm 26 year old male and I have experienced a lot of negative reinforcement from women in the past.
I was wondering if giving dating another shot after 8 dry years makes sense anymore. I started working out a while ago to make myself look a bit better but not sure if it even makes a difference at this point.
Also wondering if meaningful relationships even are something that is common these days.

I've gone from missing my boyfriend a bit when we're apart, to thinking about him all the time and feeling a weird sensation because of how much I miss him. It's making me worry because I'm not used to being this aware of it.

Nothing in particular happened, we've just spent a lot of time together recently. What gives?

>>17227494
This is what I feel all the time. Have fun girl, you are just at the beginning of the life of clingyness.

>>17227503

Well I still want to live my own life and I'm not going to play into this feeling. I just get the impression that if he said "hey anon come over" I'd be over there every single day. Trying my best to remain sensible though, as nobody likes a clingy gf.

>>17227514
>nobody likes a clingy gf
I would but I'm insecure and clingy myself. Try to do things to get him off your mind I guess but you know what happens when you try to do that.
>THE GAME
>Try not to think about penguins
You're in some thick tar lady

>>17227474
I'm 30 and started dating again after a 7 year dry spell. I dedicated myself to work and have tons of money saved, no debt. Though this relationship didn't last due to her work commitments and not wanting a LDR, things are looking better.

Girls, I can pay for meals, movies, drinks, and gifts. Though it doesn't feel like I should be given this thread.

>>17227474
Of course, you have changed, haven't you? Look, the main issue guys have with girls is that they cannot keep their cool. (No resentment here, I can't either with guys I like.) They grow nervous and antsy and read too much into everything. What girls want is a "normal", balanced guy. Someone who is sweet and attentive towards them, but not a doormat too afraid to call her out on her shit if she's way off. Someone who is confident in who he is but not full of bravado and empty boasting. Someone who will both give them security by communicating (through actions and words) that they matter when it matters, and be playful with them, tease, flirt and pry for their playful and passionate sides. Someone who is able to talk to them seriously from one human being to another without looking for her tits or just going through the motions, but does not hide his sexual side and his attraction to her either and never apologizes for them.
This might sound complicated but it is pretty damn close to how most people would normally treat someone they are really taken with and impressed by, but also respect enough to hold them to standards and respect themselves enough to take their relationship needs and dealbreakers seriously.

All I want is to feel like I'm not unlovable.

I can't just "stop caring" like you're supposed to.

How do I deal with this?

Girls: at what point of intimacy do you consider it cheating?
Guys: at what point of intimacy do you consider it cheating?

>>17226788
Hahaha I'd say go for it, have some fun at the toy store

>>17227781
Girl: Cheating to me means sexual, not necessarily actual intercourse, but sex. Blowjobs and whatnot count.
I'd still be pissed if my partner "just" made out with someone else, of course, but I wouldn't call it cheating.

>>17227798
Never been to one honestly, I'll probably die of embarrassment.

How come women go crazy for me when they find out im smart? I don't want to sound arrogant, Im not brilliant, just above average intelligence. Im just a shy introverted nerd and some how I got these hot women wanting me.

>>17227781
There's no straight line for me. If anything I feel a difference between pecking someone's lips and making out + anything beyond that, but that doesn't mean I'd be cool with someone I was with kissing a girl on the mouth. More that I would still be more receptive to it being a drunken fuck up that means little. I'm also pretty sure that I would feel more heartbroken to find out that someone I loved had been exchanging day to day updates, victories, funfacts and observations along with sexual fantasies and romantic longing for years with some woman he never met, than if he'd had a drunken fuck with someone at a party.

To cut myself off, I'd say that making out and anything more is definitely cheating. I just think it's too complicated to break it down in a simple formula, it depends too much on the entire context and what you've grown to accept as normal within the relationship.

Is aromanticism... a thing? Or am i afraid of commitment? Dating the wrong people? Being stupid?

i feel sexually attracted to people and have dated people before but I never cared about being exclusive, taking things further, or if we broke up. it just felt like we were fwb but actually friends.

I don't have any emotional needs that my friends can't fulfill so that might be it. i've never met anyone and thought 'I want to ask them out'' I always think that i'd like to fuck them. I've been on dates before but everyone else always initiates that. i have fun and it's nice I guess but it doesn't do anything for me. i don't feel it's different from hanging out with a friend besides the kissing part. i don't have a desire to treat people differently...I treat my so and friends the same

>>17227762
Rework your definition of being lovable, either with a therapist, introspection/books or through life experience. It seems most likely to me that you have this fixed idea of things you need to "succeed" at before being "worthy" of love... which is far from reality.

>>17227814
Intelligence in itself is attractive but I'd wager that you're not just smart but opionated and/or capable of expressing yourself smoothly and accurately. Girls love when guys are confident/competent enough to make a public display of something they are good at and shows their character, even if that's just telling a good story or phrasing an interesting opinion in a sharp manner.

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>>17227781
If you have to ask, it means you know you're fucking up. It doesnt have to actually be defined as cheating to be something you consider off limits.

>>17227280
>Video games, anime, magic cards and things like that
I never had an issue with that kind of stuff actually. Do you let it dictate your life or something? For me it's something I do for a couple of hours to unwind, rather than something I spend all day on. I've seen a lot of guys complain about their gf having an issue with their video games when they were legitimately spending 8 hours or so on it daily.

>>17227816
Most people who declare themselves "aromantic" are just focusing on the symptom of some more significant and unresolved baggage. Maybe you're the magic exception, but if a friend told me that I'd figure they were diddled as a kid or something honestly.

>>17227835
Hahaha I wasn't diddled as a kid or anything. I was involved in a horrible emotional relationship a while back that took a bit out of me but that's really all I can think of. But i think about since i was a kid and i never felt romantic about anything. i just wanted to kiss people. After i got 'my fill' of them I'd look at them and have no desire to really keep going with them, especially if another person I felt sexually attracted to appeared. I think if I was raised super christian I'd marry someone only so I could fuck them.

My girlfriend and I bonded over the fact that in our first semester of college, before we met, we were both loners with few friends and almost no human interaction. We also both had limited sexual encounters. I felt that this was good, not because of a "muh pure gf" type of thing, but because we both grew up and went through high school/super early college as lonely people. We had a shared background, and I felt instant understanding of each other that, say, the captain of the cheer squad wouldn't have in regards to loneliness.

However, my dad's work employed someone from our school, and I found out that in that first semester, she had a couple strings of sexual encounters with a bunch of different guys ("but I didn't have sex with any of them", she claims). This kind of damages our relationship because we aren't as alike as I thought. I always had problems talking to people, getting to know people, getting anybody to want me in any - and I do mean any - capacity - as a friend, acquaintance, lover, sex toy, etc. Nobody wanted me at all, and that kind of loneliness, I don't know, informed? created? the person I am today.

But her idea of lonely is to be lusted after by a bunch of guys whose advances she reciprocated.

I don't know where I'm going with this. I just feel like I need to vent. We're long distance at the moment, but want to make this long term, so I just wanted to get this off my chest. Thoughts?

>>17227855
How were you involved in a horrible emotional relationship if you don't feel emotional about particular individuals?

>>17227865
I feel emotional about my good friends but I just feel like it's normal to care about good friends. i say it was emotional relationship because they were my best friend, got into drugs and I was trying to get them out and failed, and that just takes a lot out of you. Looking back i don't think I was in love with them

>>17227862
loneliness is a state of mind.

>>17227862
For one part, I absolutely understand that when you get zero attention, it seems impossible for people to feel unacknowledged or alone when they do get attention. But realize that the core of this loneliness is feeling like you as a person - as a soul - are unseen by others, or glossed over on purpose because you are not worthwhile. This is a very deep feeling of loneliness that is not going to be washed away by a guy wanting to grope your tits, especially given that many drunk young college guys would be down to touch literally any (or literally any reasonably slim) girl, so you are not being held/touched as a person with a family and dreams but rather as someone with a cunt who did not reject the guy so now he can go to town on her.

Having said that, you will never find someone who has lived exactly through your experiences. You find out now through a very objective way that your girlfriend's loneliness was not 1:1 your loneliness. If that revelation had not happened, she still wouldn't have lived your life. Even if all the exact same things happened to her it would have been different. That does not mean that you did not experience it in a similar way or that it did not shape you in a similar way.
At the end of the day you felt compatible to the person that she became, who is shaped by her experiences just like you are.

And having said all of -this-, I do think it is reasonable to not be happy that she did not inform you of her whole sexual past, especially if you did ask about this.

>>17227855
>Hahaha I wasn't diddled as a kid or anything.
Just personal experience kicking in. I've known three women who were molested, and they pretty much behaved in a similar manner. Often hyper sexualized, avoided personal relationships.

Anyways as I said you might just be the magic exception, but I'd still think you should talk to a therapist and try to root out any potential reasons for your behavior.

>>17227862
I don't know too much about her, so I can't say too much. But some of the loneliest women I've known were the easiest to get into bed. Tried to find validation and company by providing sex easily and all that. Then they remember the man is just interested in their hole and they feel lonely again because they're not being desired as an actual person.

The failure to disclose her history is something I can understand being upset about, and it's up to you on how you want to approach that.

>>17227904
makes sense. I guess it wouldn't hurt to see a therapist. i don't avoid personal relationships per se, I'm alright with them. just don't feel the closeness/connection I think you should feel for someone even if I open up. Yeah, i'll try to see a therapist. Sometimes i think it'd be nice to find someone I'd want to be married to

Ladies what if I just grabbed your face and kissed you like I could never kiss you again? Like you were talking and I just said shut up and started sucking your face

>>17227893
>>17227904
Thank you for your advice.
Never thought the most poignant-reading advice I'd receive in my life would come from 4chan.

I don't know, in addition to this I'm dealing with the fact I'm sexually inexperienced and am off my anti anxiety pills till some insurance shit gets sorted out

I just have the awful recurring thought she's gonna realize she never needed me since she's 2000 miles away and start fucking other guys in the club or some shit. I think reading too much /pol/ and /tv/ is bad for the brain.

>>17227950
I'd first kick you where it hurts and then get away from the crazy person who thinks he's living in a Sandra Bullock movie.

>>17227950
You watch too many romcoms. This becomes sexual harassment and creepy if she's not into you. Think about if some buff dude did this to you suddenly? I'm guessing you're not into guys.

>>17227956
You're welcome. I also wanted to add that I completely agree with >>17227904 as well, exactly because sexual interaction is the one type of closeness easily (if not instantly) available for a woman, this is very tempting if you are yearning for contact.

As for the fucking guys in the club... Personal angle, I've been with one guy and that was now two years ago, more or less exactly. I have quite a healthy interest in men - I occasionally masturbate up to ten times a day, but that can't take away what I feel when I then walk out and run into men with their different bodies and smells and way of moving, and realize it's been two years since someone held me and touched me. I am now at the point where pretty much 90% of men look appealing enough for me to fantasize about. That is talking ages 15-70. I do this all the time and imagine their hands running over me and their breath on my neck and just thank the stars that I'm not a guy having to hide an awkward public boner on top of everything else.
The thing is that I feel this way until it gets close. I had the chance just two days ago to fuck a guy from my university, nice guy, cute, pretty much my type too. But from a distance I can feel the sexual longing, and when they get close to me and it starts to feel "intimate", all I can think about and feel is that there is no emotion there. That more than anything else I miss being cherished and loved by another person and that has little to nothing to do with some one night stand with a virtual stranger. And I actually feel like if I go through with it and he were to do something remotely tender, I'd probably start crying not because it had been so long but because it had been so long only to be confronted with still not having what I want, for someone to see me and care for me and want to be close to me for who I am.

>>17228018
I fully believe that casual sex can be fun and exciting and a good experience overall. But there is a MAJOR fucking difference between going out to get laid because you are seeking out that experience, or turning to a stranger because you are desperate for anything remotely resembling love. I am not capable of doing the former because I am too desperate.

I can't talk for your girlfriend but I hope this gives you an idea of what it can be like from the other side. Not everyone is looking for casual sex and it does not fulfil all needs by a long shot. It is just glorified in the YOLO media/society aimed at young folks. In fact, one night stands don't even make for good sex, because that comes with willingness to please and attention for each other and practice. Most of my friends I hear about one night stands have the same old stories about guys trying to gloss over foreplay, expecting oral without giving it, and being indifferent about their orgasm. There are things to find in that world if you are the type of person who loves the rush and the mystery factor and the nightlife. There are also a lot of things not there at all, that are to others more meaningful and valuable. The very fact that your girlfriend did not relish in the college experience and sought shelter in a relationship makes it doubtful to me that she'll suddenly turn around and go, huh, I could be bouncing on random ass dicks now too, what was I thinking?

Of course this is a kind of trust that needs to be established over time. If your relationship is healthy and blossoming she should be treating you in a way that reassures you that she values you and cares for you and is not restless for something you can't offer.

>>17228018
I agree 100% with this Anon, I'm exactly the same. I haven't had sex in quite some time and I get horny a whole lot but there's never a romantic spark so I just masturbate it away.

>>17227956
I'm going to go on a limb and guess she has low experience herself. Sex is a mutual act, but when you try to use it as a tool for validation as I mentioned it becomes a one sided affair, where that person becomes a glorified masturbation aid. If you guys become intimate, you'll still be learning together.

As far as fears about her going out and fucking a bunch of people go, just consider that if she actually is that kind of person she wasn't one you could have built a life together with anyways, it would have ended up tumbling down sooner or later.

>>17228018
>and just thank the stars that I'm not a guy having to hide an awkward public boner on top of everything else.
Sometimes it pops up even in non sexual scenarios. It can be frustrating.

>>17228036
We're legion, uncounted and unseen, masturbating furiously behind closed doors. But seriously, I hope you meet someone with the right spark soon who was worth all the waiting.

>>17228038
I bet it can, I am awkward enough about bodily function slip ups without that element of surprise.

>>17227310
In school through a mutual friend

How important is physical dominance/height in a man for a woman? I'm a very slim guy, and I'm basically incapable of looking imposing.

And what if I'm utterly autistic and struggle to follow basic instructions when it comes to sport?

>>17228077
Bwaha, what an oddly amusing picture, scores of anons just diddling themselves behind closed doors. But yeah thanks! It's odd I'm not even particularly looking for a new relationship, but at the same time I'm seriously 'lusting' to have one, which is turn can't be satisfied by just casual hook-ups (admittedly I haven't even tried, the sex is probably bad and I get way too easily involved emotionally anyway) so I guess I'm just weird. But thank you all the same Anon.

>>17228122
Physical height or strength isn't something I particularly look for in a partner, but if a man has a kind of...presence, that can be very hot. He doesn't have to be tall or muscular or even particularly good looking for that, it's just an aura of power/dominance whatever you might call it.

>>17228123
If we'd make it mixed gender and include r9k we would definitely be intimidating in number...
Ah yes, that's definitely a winning combination to work with there. But I'd say that there are many young people struggling with these kind of feelings, it took me a long time myself. Conflicting feelings are still legitimate, just harder to navigate.
Thank you!

Girls
>she's confiding in me about a depressed friend that's manipulating her

What should I be taking out of this?

>>17228122
Everyone has different tastes. I like slim dudes.

As for the autism, if you can laugh it off instead of letting insecurity destroy you, it's all good.

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>>17228137
now is your chance to fuck her

>>17228132
I'm honestly not sure I want /r9k/ aaaanywhere near me, much less when I'm masturbating.
And yeah, I'm sure there are. Didn't mean I'm special weird, just weird, haha.
But oh well, I'll survive it. That's what vibrators were invented for. Well, nearly.

>>17228137
Don't try to take anything out of it yet, just be a good listener for now. She should be able to feel like you're there for her. Give her your time and attention and don't try to push things.

If you can get past this, better doors might open up.

>>17227959
>>17227970
It's funny that you guys say that. Several douche chill moments come to mind with this girl I knew, she definitely liked me but I restrained myself too much until finally I decided to pull some movie shit like leaning in slowly like I'm in a TV show or running to her car and trying to kiss her through her open window lolllllll fuck I cringe thinking of that now

She still came around for a while after that, weirdly enough

>>17227762
Disassociate. Negative reinforcement and plenty of rejection; but not by women, society as a whole, friends, family, pets even.

>>17227862
It's unfortunate, i also wish i could have that instant, deep connection with girls that i always had with other socially-handicapped guys (autists, socially anxious, etc).
I also wish I'd appreciated those connections more, i took them for granted at the time.
Now i'm in a career path with a bunch of goddamn raging extroverts and probably won't make a connection like that again, with either gender.

>>17227893
>But realize that the core of this loneliness is feeling like you as a person - as a soul - are unseen by others, or glossed over on purpose because you are not worthwhile.
Let's be honest, there's a difference between feeling unwanted and being unwanted. Drives different paths of personal development, usually.
>to the person that she became
This though. Very much this. At the end of the day, it's not the experience that matters, it's how it shaped you as a person.

girls

how is it possible that in year 2016 some of you dont know how to stick your ass out for doggy properly? I dont mean some autistic ideal back arch or whatever, I mean just placing your ass in a position where its actually physically possible for my dick to reach you without bending it into 90 degrees so that it penetrates from below?

>>17228227
Because some girls dislike doggy, I guess? I wasn't aware it's something you can fuck up, but as always just tell them.

>>17228256
She literally made a hump with her back. I told her to try arching it and she literally said "uhhh how".

Good luck explaining something that retarded, I gave up and sent her home

>>17228261
Alright, lesson learned, don't fuck special need children.

>>17228261
>put 1 hand on small of back
>pull on hips with other hand
>push down with first hand
>????
>profit
Learning by doing is the only way to do it with this half-wit female race

>>17228153
That was my plan, just didn't want to somehow spin this into me being friend zoned.

Girls,
let's say you liked a guy and you tried to confess and all but he kind-of rejected you for ambiguous reasons.
Would you be open to his approaches if he was the one that was after you some time after the rejection?

Women, what do you think about gender roles? Are they helpful or not? Should a guy be expected to initiate and lead a relationship? Should women pay half on dates? etc.

>>17228282
Would probably depend on why he rejected me the first time, but if I was really into him, I'd probably give it a try, although I'd wonder why he'd changed his mind.

>>17228289
Some can be helpful/useful or are justified, others aren't.

Guys,
Recently my guy friend talks about his dick, anus, and poop in lurid detail. Why the fuck does he do this? Is he trying to deter me from being attracted to him?

>>17228348
Haha he's probably just being RANDOM XD

>>17228348
Sounds like a top lad desu

>>17228348
if you are a dude, he wants your dicky in his pooper.
If you are a girl he is entering the trusting zone with you, probably expecting to have the same kind of liberties towards him.

Obviously this is subjective but for the women here, how many rings can a guy wear before it's seen as tryhardish? Also the rings aren't shit either, all worth over a grand.

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Every now and then this girl texts me pictures of her. Nothing intentionally lewd, sometimes with face and usually it's to show something off with a "what do you think?", but it makes me wonder. On a cold morning I'd wake up to a pic of her covered in blankets with only her eyes showing through them. She'd happily send pics of her feet if she dropped by a parlor or whatever place you get your feet shined up at. In the evening she'd play with her hair a bit before bed, make up some weird hairstyle and show it off in her pyjamas before bed. On a sunny day she'd show off her thighs and the tan they got.
Not that I don't like it, but she shot me down a few times already. Never explicitly, but she rarely responds to flirting and when I ask her out, she drops the idea when I hint I mean it as more than just friends. Weirder is that whenever we text she's not even that responsive. She ignores most of what isn't a question or refers to her. If neither of those is in a response or what I hit her up with, I sometimes won't even get a reply from her. Like she's using me for attention, but from what I hear from friends she's a lot more trusting and personal with me, and she rarely is that with anyone. I don't know what to think.

Anyway, tl;dr question
Girls, do you send pics to guy friends of yours? How often? What's the furthest you go in the pic if you want to keep things friendly?
If you actually bothered to read that wall, does it seem weird to you? What's the best thing to do here?

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virgin autist girl here
Recently I've been contacted by a guy who I was frenemies with in childhood. In the middle of our conservation, he said "keep this between us but I always thought you were sexy as hell". Then he asked me if I wanted to hang out, but I spilled my spaghetti and told him I needed to think about it.
What does he mean by "hang out"? Does he want to fuck? Or just actually hang out? I wouldn't question it if he didn't blatantly admit he thinks I'm sexy.

>>17228482
Fuck your image

And I think it could easily go either way. He might just be out for a lay, but I think it's also possible he's interested in dating you.

>>17228482
>>17228491
>could easily go either way
This.

Girls:

I'm incredibly bad with women. I mean, incredibly bad. I'm always getting made fun of and shitted on. I have had sex before, but I'm scared of getting what I want and think I'm pretty damaged emotionally. I just don't know how to be confident because I've been shitted on since I was born. How can I have a healthy self esteem? How can I date without being labeled "nice guy"? I harbor so much hate for myself I'm scared that one day it'll all come out and I'll hurt someone.

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I moved to a new town and met this girl, we've been hanging-out/having sex, but she just broke a long term, so she told me she didn't want to make it serious rn.

So I've been playing it chill, given her space.

The thing is she has been in trouble lately, her car got stolen, other day she lost her phone, and today she put on fb "that she was hving a pretty bad day and the world is against her lately"

I don't know if I should play it cool ignore it, because last week she was kinda distant with me (I don't like to play games but they have to be played), or write her and talk to her about it, maybe offer some help.

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>>17226542
At least use the original version:
https://vimeo.com/18957041

>>17226711
Stop fucking spying on her. Nothing she says in private, on her phone, has an effect on you, you've never been uncertain before in your life? If you start to see actions from her that directly affect you, (e.g. being distant, acting less affectionate, picking fights) then address those actions with her. Now you're just causing more drama than actually exists.

I just had a weird epiphany, okay this maybe isn't a proper question for 4chan girls, but when you're dancing with a girl sexually who is a stranger (i.e. grinding), are they actively feeling with their butt your dick size?

i.e. are girls paying attention to boners when grinding?

>>17228671
HAHAHA??!!! When you are grinding and shifting around the only thing you can MAYBE tell about his dick is if he has a stiffy. And you'll probably be drunk as well so good luck guessing anyone's dick size. stop worrying about your dick size anon.

>>17228122
If you have that, it's attractive, but if you don't it's not unattractive

>>17228671
Boners are the point of dancing like that

>>17228597
Let her come to you when she wants to. You're not a close friend, and I'm sure she has other people to talk to. You're going to come across as an orbiter if you hang around like that

>>17228542
I don't quite understand what your question is. If you want to improve your self esteem, try therapy. If you don't want to be labelled a Nice Guy, don't be a Nice Guy

>>17228467
>do you send pics to guy friends of yours?
Yes
>How often?
Whenever. I couldn't say an exact timeframe
>What's the furthest you go in the pic if you want to keep things friendly?
Nothing in my underwear, if that's what your novel was about

>>17228453
Guys wearing rings at all is weird

>>17228289
Depends on the gender role. I can't really give an opinion on them as a whole

>>17228282
Probably not

>>17228677
Nah I'm not worried about my size). Instead, all this time I've been actively trying not to get hard in that situation because it's public and it may offend the chick. I've only gotten semi at most. But I realized maybe I've been in the wrong this whole time and I should be trying to boner. Not that I'm going dancing/clubbing anytime soon.
>>17228686
>Boners are the point of dancing like that
The raw truth?

I asked this on /adv/ before but my bouts of depression is pretty bad

How can I stay hopeful for the future of getting a job? I contemplate suicide every day and it's getting tough for me to handle the hopelessness

>>17228701
I am a girl. If a girl gets offended that you popped a chub, while she was grinding on that chub, she's either an idiot, 15, or both. Just wear thick jeans. She'll still feel it and you won't get a tent

>>17228717
You need professional treatment

>>17228724
I know how psychological quacks work, not all forms of depression is a mental illness nor does my case require meds. Im depressed because of no job and constant rejection. I just need to know how can I keep my head up high with hope because I want to hang myself almost on a daily basis

Hey, how can a girl be good at sex? Generally in porn they sort smile and choke on sausage

>>17228717
I'm in the same situation right now to be honest. Keep trying and keep yourself busy is the answer? I don't know anon, I don't know. Maybe exercise or keep a routine is the answer. Keep a strong timed regimen?
>>17228718
Oh kek I am totally going to think about what pants next time I go out. I mean all this time I was all mr. nice guy "I shouldn't boner" but then it hit me 10 minutes ago maybe grills pick partners based on boners... Nah that's stupid

>>17228731
A healthy person can cope with disappointments in life without feeling suicidal. You lack these coping skills, either because of a chemical imbalance, or because you never learned them. Regardless, you at least need to meet with a Psychologist. No one else is qualified to give you advice.

>>17228743
No. you have it all wrong. If I am grinding on a guy and he gets a boner and he's got his hands on my waist, I am flattered and know that he finds me attractive and feel like it's a green light. If he does not get a boner +I am drunk I may feel confused, think he's not into it or gay and leave.

Don't be silly. Girls pick sex partners based on if they're good looking, nice smile, and other things, not on if they have a nice boner or not.

>>17228766
Just because a guy gets a boner, doesn't mean he's attracted to you, you know.

>>17228772
Did you miss

>and he's got his hands on my waist

So if the dude's dancing with me with a chub and not pushing me away, I'm pretty sure it's gonna be a thing

Hey, petite women of /adv/:
It is difficult to come up with sex positions with my petite (like 5'2") gf. We can do doggy, cowgirl, and missionary (with modifications like me pinning her down/spreading her legs/on the floor/etc) but that's pretty much it.

Also I'm not in the best shape so it's hard to maintain the ridiculous thrusts that make her eyes roll back and cause her to call out. Is that kind of normal?

Also during missionary my knees slip all the fucking time so I have to try to re-adjust with myself in her. It's awkward.

Basically, how do I fuck? And do you have any specific things you like a guy to do/have always wanted a guy to do? We're both inexperienced, relatively (she took my v-card, I'm her second [sigh]).

>>17228766
Shit anonette, so you're telling me that if I just let it happen and full on bonered I would have had more potential sex partners... I'm gonna boner next time kek. I've had some weird club experiences though, when everyone is drunk shit is random and unpredictable, experiences I guess...

>>17228794
>I'm gonna boner next time kek
This is one of the best sentences I've read on 4chan.

Every gahdamn time i'm interested in a girl, i always find out or they tell me "i don't see him/you in that way" or a variation of that. Shit is a cycle. What am I doing wrong?

I try not to be friendly and flirt more to make my intentions clear, but it seems not to be working.

>>17228810
>let's post a two line post on 4chan and hopefully they can tell me what I'm doing wrong from next to no information

>>17228794
Probably yes. i'll break it down. If you pop a chub, the girl will know what you are a sexual being who can sustain a hard on probably long enough to fuck and it has an added bonus of turning her on as well. 'be a man' pop that chub, put your hands on her waist, be assertive, it's ok if she doesn't want to dance with you, don't be weird about it and move on.

For everyone who gives advice itt. Do any of you actually have a significant other?

>>17228820
What else would you like to know?

I have to make it two months long distance.
We think we're in love - we both confessed that to each other before we parted - we're very close - etc.
However, I have no idea how long distance will work. The bigger problem is she's gonna be in a suite in a guy's dorm - all female suitemates - but that shit just seems a bit worrysome.

Anybody have tips for keeping the flame alive and burning bright?

>>17228835
She's going to slut it up m8

>>17228838
A little more constructive, lad

>>17228831
Uh, everything? I barely know anything about what you're doing, I'm not a mind reader.

>>17228829
Yep, the best SO I could wish for.

>>17228835
>two months
That's fucking nothing. Try skyping her or whatever, the general LDR stuff.

>>17228829

I'm a married oldfag. I stopped giving advice in these threads because nobody believes we exist.

>>17228840
You want details? Fine. She's going to suck a lot of dick that's not yours, she's going to fuck a lot of dick that's not yours. When she comes back she'll pretend that nothing happened.

>>17228841
>That's fucking nothing. Try skyping her or whatever, the general LDR stuff.
Well, what IS the general LDR stuff? Sending her cute cards n shit?
>>17228844
I believe you exist.
>>17228847
A little less shitposty, lad?

>>17228841
Well, the closest I got actually dating a girl was this past January. I'm still a kissless virgin btw and she ended things saying "she didn't want to have a thing with anyone right now".

I've been told im too friendly when it comes to trying to get girls by friends that happen to be girls actually. I'm just beginning to think girls only really care about guys that don't give two fucks about them and guys they can't have (which makes sense in some ways) but i'm not sure.

>>17228852
>Well, what IS the general LDR stuff? Sending her cute cards n shit?
Talking to each other when you can. Keeping each other in the loop with what's happening in your lives. Making time for each other. Maybe streaming a movie and 'watching it together' or playing an MMO together or whatever. Communication is the main thing in an LDR. That said, 2 months is not very long and it'll be over before you know it

>>17228859
You sound like a doormat or Nice Guy in disguise. Are you?

For girls, preferably any that has ever been in an LDR where they met with their partner

How long did it take for you to become comfortable with meeting them? When did you discuss this and if you're currently in an LDR why haven't you moved in yet / how often do you meet if at all?

The larger the distance the better, me and my gf do not live near each other at all.

>>17228882
I haven't done it myself, but my friend did. I can try and answer what I can, if you like?

>>17228891
i'm open to any experiences people can share, regardless if it's their own.

>>17228872
Oh i used to be a doormat for sure, but i think it's more Nice Guy in disguise then.

>>17228901
>>17228882
Okay, here goes

>How long did it take for you to become comfortable with meeting them?
A few months, they met on an online forum and chatted a fair bit through the internal messaging system, and then moved on to Skype and whatnot. I think it was three or four months before they met in person. He lived about 5 hours drive away so he came down to our town one day and they met up briefly. He was working full time and it was the summer after the end of high school for us, for context. Then the stays got longer and whatnot.

>When did you discuss this and if you're currently in an LDR why haven't you moved in yet / how often do you meet if at all?
She went to a uni about 3 hours from his town the following year, so they met up a lot more often after that, probably at least every two weekends, if not every weekend. She dropped out after a semester and moved back home, but he got a job about 30 minutes away from our town a few months later so he moved down here and they weren't LDR anymore. They moved in together a year or so after that, I think?

>>17228908
Well then that's what you're doing wrong. Women don't owe you anything, don't fall into the toxic mindset that they do.

>>17228686
>Guys wearing rings at all is weird
Tell that to my wife.

>>17228852
>A little less shitposty, lad?
>the bigger problem is she's gonna be in a suite in a guy's dorm

You're in denial m8

I was a fire fighter for 10 years, and I used to be in really great shape, then I suffered a severe career ending injury and because of all the surgeries I couldn't go to the gym or workout at all and gained 50lbs of fat. I just started going out again and the doctors just cleared me, after 2 years, to go back to the gym. Women still tell me I'm a handsome guy though are they lying to make a fat fuck feel better?

Nice guy anon, how often do you ask girls out? Do you ever try to fuck?

>>17228921
Ok so how do i try to change myself to attract more girls? I'm willing to try anything at this point. I'm incredibly desperate.

>>17228953
do the opposite of whatever your instincts tell you to do

>>17228953
Again, I don't really know because I don't know much about what you're like irl. This isn't me trying to be difficult, nor is it really your fault, it's just something that we can't help you with much over the internet

>>17228955
Don't try to fuck girls? Don't try to talk to girls? But i'm tryna get laid. Would like to know what you mean in more detail please.
>>17228961
Yea that makes sense. Thanks for your help tho. Very appreciated.

>>17228949
Probably not. Just to be sure, what's your BMI?

>>17228916
Thanks for this. Never been in an LDR this serious before so I'm looking anywhere I can for advice people can give or experiences people can tell to give me a better idea about things. Of course, our situation isn't exactly the same as that but it still helps a bit.

For the record we live in different countries, separated by an ocean about a 9 hour flight away from each other.

>>17228969
32, but bmi doesn't really calculate anything correctly. When I was nearly pure muscle 50lbs ago my bmi was still in the high 20s even with 6% body fat

>>17228976
>separated by an ocean about a 9 hour flight away from each other.
If I'm being honest, the chances of this actually working out are next to none unless one of you is okay with moving in the near-to-mid future

>>17228982
That's essentially every LDR

>>17228984
Well yeah, but especially so because of the extreme distance. We're talking months between the two of you seeing each other, minimum, rather than seeing each other once a month or something.

>>17228996
You're right. We're actually quite dedicated to this though and are aware of the risks / problems and what have you. I only came here to ask for advice because I feel like the time for our first meeting might be coming soon. Believe me I'm well aware of the difficulties despite this being my first truly serious LDR.

>>17228482
He wants to go to places with you 1-on-1 and see how it goes.
Sex is the goal but is not required.

>>17228952
>Nice guy anon, how often do you ask girls out? Do you ever try to fuck?

Is this a specific anon you're asking?
Are you asking Nice Guys™
Are you asking guys that are nice?

I'm a guy that's considered nice (literally every girl I've ever dated has called me some variation of it), but i'm also not a Nice Guy™ and have a spine.

I'd ask girls out (have gf) maybe once or twice a month (I have like a built in cooling down period where if I date too fast, I just confuse and mix up names/places/events).

I think I've turned down more girls for sex than I've actually perused so my history isn't particularly voluminous. But that doesn't mean i haven't had FWB's and one night stands. Other than my first time, I'm glad of it all though.

>>17228829
>For everyone who gives advice itt. Do any of you actually have a significant other?

Sure.

>>17228793
>Inexperienced, how do I fuck?

I'm a dude, but basically the main limitation for sex has nothing to do with body type or strength, it has to do with flexibility. Yes, some positions are harder if you're mismatched in size, and some are harder to keep going if you're not strong, but if you're flexible you can always find a way to use leverage or find different angles to accomplish a similar thing.

Google this shit if you're actually curious. The posibilities of sexual positions are only limited by your imagination and flexibility, and you can get more flexible as you practice. There are basic "forms" when it comes to sex, but everyone is different and everyone has to apply small tweaks and learn what works for them (like if you're slipping doing missionary, maybe you learn to close your legs up and lower your body a little more so it's your weight doing the thrusting and not your hips, or whatever).

Practice, experiment, raise your basic stamina.

>>17228736
>Hey, how can a girl be good at sex?
Kind of see directly above. Even as a female, from the bottom, there are tweaks. From the top, that's just practice.

does it mean anything if a girl sends you pictures of her in different clothes for you to pick out?

right now i'm feeling like the shes treating me like im gay.

To nobody in particular, do you prefer approaching someone or being the one approached?

I got a fucking eating disorder (eating LOADS of food in one sitting then vomiting it out again) and i'm going to move in with my bf soon. What the hell do i do? I really hope i can just stop out of embarassement to do that with him noticing. But what if i can't? And yes, i already go to therapy but it doesn't help in the slightest.

>>17229258
Girl here. I prefer to approach because I feel like I have more control over the situation, and I hate to reject people.

>>17229258
I'd rather be approached. Really takes the pressure off.

To anyone; is it shitty parenting to lock a child in the bathroom as punishment for 1-2 hours?

>>17229473
I want to say definitely yes, but I suppose it depends on the child's age and what they did.

>>17229478

Between 6-10 years of age. Nothing tremendously outrageous, but a bit of everything. Mostly attitude of talking back, or not doing his responsibilities.

>>17229483
Locking a child in a room is not a good idea, but confining them to a room without physical means is acceptable. I'd say 1-2 hours is also too long a duration.

Is massage envy a good place to get a massage from?

>>17229095
I don't know, I'm not in her mind

>>17229258
Both? It really depends on the situation

>>17229473
I say so.

>>17229275
It sounds like a very bad idea to move in with a partner who you aren't even comfortable disclosing your mental health issues with and who is unaware of what's really going on with you.

This isn't really specific to this thread, but when someone doesn't respond to a text, what's the socially appropriate response?

Ignore it and send another text as if the last one never happened?
Wait for them to respond (if so, how long)?
Acknowledge the non-response somehow or apologize for doing something wrong?

>>17229597
Depends on what you sent last, but generally the best thing to do is none of your options: go about your life as if nothing happened

>>17229604
Normally i would do just that, but i'm trying hard to be less asocial and start engaging meaningfully with people, ie i have to give a fuck about this.

Wasn't some drunk rant or anything, just a casual exchange. This is probably going to be a recurring situation when talking to people so general guidelines would be good.

>>17225940
A lot of people actually like it when a person's a virgin

>>17226081
It's only a mistake if you try to help before they've recovered enough to regain their composure.

>>17226471
thanks anon now i have to fantasize about being asked by a girl to have drinks with her

I recently "broke up" with my sugar baby. I told her I'd be willing to be "really, really good friends," but I can't pay her an allowance anymore. Basically, I have reason to believe that she was using the allowance to pay for drugs/drug related debt (her ex is a drug dealer. She's only told me his name, but I know the name). I know this isn't a usual relationship issue, but I'm just looking for an opinion.

She's texted me back saying she wouldn't mind being friends, but sex is off the table. Here's the thing; she said she enjoys "hanging out with me," and all we did was go out for dinner, chat a little, sometimes I'd buy her a gift and then we'd have sex. There wasn't a whole lot of "hanging out" as we never really spent more then a couple hours together and the majority of the time was spent either having dinner or having sex.

Anyways, does she still want the D? Is it simply that she doesn't want to feel like a slut, and she's saying no sex to scare me off if my intentions aren't true? I genuinely do enjoy spending time with her so it isn't like I'm just looking for easy sex; although, I am still looking for sex.

I'm thinking about waiting a date or two, and then seeing how she reacts to a sexual advance; is that the best course of action, or should I just drop her now and save myself the hassle?

Girls and maybe boys as well

My gf keeps sending messages and telling me very cute and sweet things. They just warm my heart.
But I'm afraid to be "cute" with her since I feel like I could be cringeworthy and i'm paranoid that she could get bored of me if i give her too much attention and affection.

It's strange, I feel like the principle "just be yourself" shouldn't be applied to me.

>>17229734
Encourage her cuteness without directly engaging in it. Something as simple as a smile, or a peck on the cheek when she points out, or does something cute well you are together is enough of a reward for her to continue doing it.

When's a good time to confess if you fall for somebody who was just a friend initially?

I've met a girl around the beginning of the year, by joining a group of friends she's in. I found her cute from day one, but the more I get to know her (and hang out one on one), the more I like her. I'm wondering if it isn't too early to confess. She seems like a type to take it slow. Also feelings can fade, I suppose, though it wasn't a case that one time I felt like that about a girl, which was almost 2 years ago. It feels like a teenager thing to confess so early, even if I don't let go of feelings easily, but she doesn't know that so I'm afraid she'd think I'm immature for confessing without knowing her for a long time.

Girls

I had a long distance friend for awhile. I used to be a huge autistic fuck and said a lot of stupid shit, but she always stuck around and I love her for that. She'd always call me with problems with the guy she loved. One day one of the stupid shit I say finally broke the camel's back, and she stopped talking to me.

Its been a couple years since then, and I've matured a lot, and I really miss her friendship. Would it be inappropriate to message her? What's the best way to go around it? I don't even know what to say, except apologize.

>>17229083
What kind of tweaks?