ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

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Going to a music festival for a few days soon, can i pull off the bandana? Im usually pretty shy and not good with girls but i think the amount of drugs, music, alcohol, and sleep deprivation will change me.
Should i get a better bandana, do molly, and talk to festival girls?

>>17212206
Doesn't look too bad, but with full hair like that I wouldn't hide it if I was your stylist or your mother.

anyone else has anything to say about >>17212172

>>17212213
My hair is actually thin and pretty bleh, i think it helps make look full

>>17212217
Pretty bad luck there anon.

Try to start from somewhere easy like old people or people that do the same things you do or something I don't know really.

I guess since I asked it late I should direct people to my question

>>17212073

>>17212359
You're a girl, so at least getting laid is a choice for you and not really a question of 'if.' A relationship, on the other hand, is probably completely different. Honestly it's probably a plus, except for the fact that you're going to be awkward as fuck

How can I overcome/forget about frustrating crushes ?

>>17212359
What do you think the reason is you haven't formed a relationship with anyone. I'm trying to have sex with a 19 year old once kiss less virgin atm

>>17212359
I'm a girl and I was a KLV until 21. I have friends who haven't been in serious relationships and are definitely virgins at 23 too. It's not a big deal, I don't think.

>>17212160
I figured, though I wouldn't date someone who is an awful person, regardless of them fitting in my shallow tastes.

Is there any way I can address this?

>>17212477

Well... if there's a legitimate reason that they can't date you (they're with someone, gay, said no when you asked, etc.) I'd recommend letting it go. Easy to do this by reminding yourself it's pointless and a waste of time, and ignoring your feelings for them (or pretending the feelings or the person don't exist, if possible).

>>17212478
>What do you think the reason is you haven't formed a relationship with anyone


I never really tried desu
I was only friends with a couple of girls and a gay dudes in school and didn't go out to socialize much

>>17212484

I'm not sure this is super shallow, actually. Are there other important factors you think about? Because what it looks like is that you thought you had a problem and presented it like that's the only thing you think about when it comes to relationships. If not true, then not shallow.

Girls, how do I not suck?

>>17212489

Sounds pretty similar to the girl I'm seeing, it's definitely weird at 23 but not pathetic if you are content with where you are.

>>17212496
Well, I think my process would go like this

>check if a girl has a big butt
>is she friendly and approachable?
>do we have similar interests, or can we be ok even if our interests are different?
>Will she be an emotional and financial drain?

Even though the big butt portion is actually the objectively least important aspect to consider, I would only think of these other more important factors in the context of a relationship if my first in the checklist is checked.

I'm sorry if this is weird and stuff. I am a broken human being, though those specifics dont fit in this thread.

>>17212509
At what?

>>17212519

Not weird. It just sounds like a strong preference. I wouldn't worry about it so much. I mean, since you are considering other things, it's clear that you won't date/get into a relationship JUST because there's a big butt.

>>17212488
Well she and I are together in almost every course. She answers every time I write her in 10min at most but she's totally ignoring me iRL and only talking to me if she wants something from me. I still like her and it's hard to ignore her when I'm seeing her everyday. + she's abit taller and 2 years older than Me.

>>17212528
being a guy

>>17212551
This is very comforting, thank you

>>17212585

How can you suck at being a guy? You're either a guy or you're not. You can be a sucky person I guess.

>>17212569

Then it seems like she's being a shitty person and you don't have any business doting after her. Confusing that she talks when not IRL though.

>>17212591

No problem, Sir Mix-A-Lot ;3

My boyfriend and I have a good sex life. He's wonderful at giving head and although I'm also pretty good at this, I'm really looking for something else I can do to really turn him on.

The problem is, I have very little confidence in my body and have massive hang ups, which means I'm extremely self conscious about being on top and also being taken from behind. I prefer to cover my body up if possible because I'm convinced it's so hideous that he will be completely turned off if he sees me. He seems to love me but I spent a lot of years with a pretty shitty body and I'm finding it hard to get out of that mindset.

So what can I do for my boyfriend to really impress him and turn him on during sex?

Bonus question - how can I feel better about my body and gain more confidence during sex?

>>17212676
You can put on some sexy lingerie, surprise him, tease him, indulge in some of his fetishes, moan during sex (but only if you're holding them back, fake ones are not hot), ect. to turn him on.

To gain more confidence you can just remember how much he likes your body the way it is. To go the extra mile you could try improving your body by dieting and exercising.

I'm not a very appealing guy at the moment. I've got dandruff, some minor acne and acne marks, skinny fat.

I'm joining the Air Force and I'm hoping it's the impetus I need to get my shit together.

Will my confidence and game improve if I start taking better care of my hygiene and losing weight?

Also I have some fucking coarse wiry hair, is there like a way to make my hair soft and not stiff? It's like having pubes on my head ffs

>>17212716
Use a hair mask
Looks for things with "nourishing" in the name

>>17212689
>- how can I feel better about my body and gain more confidence during sex?
Try asking your bf what he thinks about it, in detail.
If he didn't love your body and want to see it, he'd just turn off the lights.
Don't need to be good enough for the imaginary judge in your head, you're not having sex with it.

Guys, girls, if you read, but don't reply to the close person who've wrong you, it means that you don't care about him/her anymore?

>>17212856
No. I could just be too busy to reply and forgot about it, I'm just mad at them at the moment, or any number of things.

>>17212856
>the close person who've wrong you
Repeat this in decent english.
But generally, no response means... nothing. At least to me.
They might be too busy to answer, might be in a public place with someone looking over their shoulder, might have bad social anxiety, etc.

Personally, I don't assume shit. I just wait for them to respond.

>>17212856
Depends on the person and situation. Also not everyone baby sits every digital conversation. I ignore a lot of stuff people send me, if it was actually important they'd call or talk to me in person.

>>17212905
Ok, if you do this for a month or longer?
It's obvious, that you have more important things to do.

Girls:

How would you feel if your serious boyfriend that you loved told you that he regularly has gay fantasies but doesn't intend to act on it?

>>17212963
Weirded out and confused. I'd try to be supportive as much as possible but from then on I'd always worry if he's actually gay, if I'm keeping him from being himself, if he's missing out staying with me, etc

Why do women tend to hate their boyfriend's social circle?

My girlfriend and I stay home most nights, watch movies, and do our own thing. It's nice! But the one time, every couple of months that I want to go hang out with my friends, she says things like, "I wish you'd stay home" and "You seem to be more excited about hanging out with them than me".

What is this petty shit? Why has every woman I been with been like this?

>>17213103
Maybe you have shit friends

Girls:

How often you do you guys have lesbian thoughts/fantasies?

And when did you come to the conclusion that you were bi-sexual?

My girlfriend had recently told me she was bi-sexual and I'm still trying to deal with it

>>17213109
What would be some characteristics of "shit" friends?

My friends are all general well mannered and pleasant to be around. They have a dinner party on occasion, and all have their own social lives that they keep up with.

>>17213103
Doesn't sound like she hates your friends, sounds like she wants to have fun with you. Maybe go out on a date night or something. Always staying home together sounds like the reason you aren't excited to do things with her. That's likely what she wants, unless you're leaving out anything negative she said about your friends.

>>17213103
I've seen my female friends do this. Personally, I like my boyfriend's friends. But we've been together for years, and I've gotten to know them well. I join their bro nights every once in a while.

I'm friends with one of my boyfriend's friend's girlfriend. And she dislikes most of them. I see her reasons. Most of them are worry. A few of the guys in my bf's friend group are kinda fucked up. Like they cheat on their girlfriends and do a lot of drugs.

She worries a lot that her boyfriend will get dragged into it. But she refuses to get to know any of them better.

From what I've seen hanging out with them. They just like to drink and talk. Sometimes some of them bring coke over. They don't really ask anyone to join.. And the guys that don't do it, just decline but are tolerant of being around it. And my bf is one of those guys that will be around it but honestly not try it. So I trust him enough to not go crazy and start using.

Other than that, she just generally gets upset over them going to bars. In case they meet women or something.

So yea, the main fears I've noticed in my female friends are: obsessive drinking, drug use, and cheating.

Yet from what I've noticed, my boyfriend hanging out with his friends is just a big sausage party.

>>17213122
I haven't really had any fantasies in a long time. I've been in a relationship with a man for several years, and I don't really fantasize about women I know in real life.

However, I only get off to lesbian porn. But it's generally because I like watching porn with oral given on a female or with toys, and heterosexual porn doesn't emphasize that. I actually just watch the lesbo porn, but imagine my bf doing oral on me. The porn is just to enhance visual stimulation.

I remember first feeling sexually attracted to a girl when I was 11. And I would catch myself glancing at my best friend in grade school. I didn't really like her that way, but it was just the closest I'd been to a female peers body.

I started having sexual relations with girls on and off when I was in high school. And didn't come out to friends until I was 16 or so.

>>17212484

I'm going to guess you've never actually been IN a relationship?

Because, no offence, but this sounds like a virgin fantasy/idealization/line that you think is reasonable when yo/re young and have zero experience, and then once it's actually relevant and you have any experience, it's a whole lot less important and you're just like.... did I really think that? Boy was I cringe worthy.

Girls: if you had to choose between a boyfriend who owns a fleshlight/onahole/plastic pussy, or one who has bought prostitutes in the past, which would you prefer?

>>17213260
fleshlight

>>17213260
Toys. I have toys too, but I'd feel outright disgusted if he's paid for sex.

I just started dating this guy that I've known and been friends for about 8 months. I really liked him when I first met him, but we ended up becoming super platonic friends, still hanging out even though I still liked him. Well he asked me to be official about a week ago, but the problem is I don't really feel that different or even that happy to be dating him. It's almost like we're still just friends. I enjoy hanging out with him and I like him as a person, but now when we cuddle or he gets really close to me it actually makes me uncomfortable, and I don't really find him attractive like I did before. He's not doing anything wrong, I think I might just prefer being friends. What would be the best way to end this?

>>17213144
This is pretty accurate

>>17213277
>>17213290

Fugggggggg
Oh well, I'll keep that in mind.

>>17213425
But if you've been to a whore, don't tell your girlfriend I guess? It's not like she'd randomly meet her in a café and tell her.

>>17213359
Just tell him there was no spark in the relationship. Condolence sex or setting him up with one of your friends would be an appropriate parting gift.

>>17213425
I'm a guy but is that really that big of a surprise dude?

Think about it:

One of those is buying an aid to self-satisfaction (which most women use on themselves anyway and can empathize with). In a way it's almost utilitarian and practical because it's something you can keep using.

The other involves paying for a sham of intimacy.
>It's basically a cheap and brief replacement for something that you're apparently too inept/lazy to obtain otherwise.
>On top of that you are putting yourself at risk for contracting all sorts of nasty shit (because the perception of prostitutes--whatever the reality--is that they're disease ridden.
>Even further than that, there even exists a pocket of women who get trapped in to what's basically a literal slave trade and have no choice, which basically makes you implicit in rape (I'm not saying all women are, just that ones who are definitely do exist. And even normal women who voluntarily opt for prostitution are never exactly really seen as clean/stable/etc. There is a social stigma against it)

A toy does not put you at risk of STD's, nor does it have all that negative shit behind it, nor does it imply you can't get it any other way, it's just an inanimate object that enhances what you already do.

That's not to say some people won't object to toys, but there are guys who think dildos are the creation of satan and anyone who has them are cock-gobbling sluts or whatever, soooo net null.

>>17213359
>I just started dating this guy but I don't really find him attractive like I did before. What would be the best way to end this?

Just say it's not working out, that you like him, but you don't feel any chemistry or spark between you guys. It's better to be upfront and give him a run around. If you put a solid reason in front of him, most guys will get that and find it easier to move on (I say most guys, but some guys will flip their shit no matter what). Maybe he's already feeling the same.

Girls, what the hell do I do on a first date? I am visibly nervous usually and I don't know what to do or say. I don't want to be an autist when I know I'm not bad looking and not too dumb. I don't want to throw it all away because of my fear of women.

How do I take advantage of a girls daddy issues?

Are black guys really bigger?

>>17213609
Yes, they're also dumber.
CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS NIGGERS!

i think I've stalked my crush/friend without realizing it.
i flew to another city months ago for a festival, when really I think i just went to see him. He didn't know i was even going, i showed up to an event he was at unannounced. Im just now starting to feel weird about this and its hit hard. other times i would go to certain events he would say hes at on social media, this went on since last year but i think it got more obvious when i flew to another city for the festival. I guess he couldn't have been too weirded out yet because he stayed at my hotel afterwards. After awhile i started talking to his ex, and talking lots of shit because he was treating me badly, of course he never found out about that. we've been fwb for 7-8 months. I'm pretty aware of the possibility that even if he knew all of this he wouldn't care because he just wants to fuck.
But i think i did too much. i did way too much. what have i done. this isn't really a question, i just feel stupid and cant tell anyone

>>17213490
>>17213436
Okay, that makes sense. Thank you anons.

>>17213609
According to the study on this I've seen blacks are the biggest and east Asians are the smallest. Blacks are 14.75 cm and East Asians are 12.9 cm, so it's not really a big difference.

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>>17212191
ITT:OP is a fucking faggot

my ex was texting me today and said my dick was small but she lied because she was my gf

Shit broke my soul.. Now I just feel like all she told me was a lie

Fucked up desu I never shitted on her for having a chest flat as a washboard

It's okay to shame small dicks but it's cool for women to have titties smaller than a millennial 12 year old?

Okay

Fuck you women

>>17213823

Ouch, but don't respond to her with the flat chest, you'll look like a bitch.

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>girlfriend of two months is pregnant
>she was told and even has medical documents saying she is infertile due to an ovarian disease
>she wants to keep it because doctors say it's a "miracle" and might be the only time she could get pregnant

The risk was like 0.01% and I just had bad luck. What do I do? I didn't see a future with this woman due to some ideological differences but it looks like I'm stuck.

>>17213842
Claim she cheated on you, break up and refuse to sign the birth certificate?

>>17213842
>The risk was like 0.01% and I just had bad luck. What do I do? I didn't see a future with this woman due to some ideological differences but it looks like I'm stuck.

Dude, even if you're selfish as fuck and don't want anything to do with this kid, on some level you gotta be happy for her.

This was something she thought was literally impossible, and probably something she thought she'd never have in her life. Now she gets it.

You're not stuck with her. You can always choose to opt out, and your involvement isn't even necessarily a requirement.

However you still have to take responsibility for sticking your dick in her. She didn't tie you down, force you to get hard, and ride your dick 'til you came in her against your will. Even if it was a .01% chance, you did it by your own volition, so you've got to be prepared and own up when it happens. That is always the risk and part of why they set and age limit on having sex--so that both parties can be responsible adults and own up when the act of procreation, actually procreates.

Stop being a fucking man-child and at least help finance the kids life if nothing else.

>>17213870
>Stop being a fucking man-child and at least help finance the kids life if nothing else.
kek

>>17213831
I'm the one that gets insulted and I look like the bitch? What logic is that

I don't even fucking care, just shows how trash women are

Grils,
what kind of porn do you like and how often do you watch it?
be as descriptive as possible.

Is there any general consensus on what girls think about feminine guys ? Or at least your own opinion.

Probably got this one before, but it's been three days without contact, should I try again?
>date
>Shitty start, amazing midway through
>already planning next date during current
>get text thanking me and telling me that she is looking forward to next
>get texts two days later asking how I am and how the rest of the weekend went
>was at work and cannot respond
>get off at midnight
>give reason for detail, explain and ask her about hers
>no response for three days now

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>>17214129

- bestiality
- selfsuck
- mmf
- straight up gay
- hentai

i watch the first two the most, but it's not often because i almost exclusively masturbate in the shower while fantasizing about those subjects

>tfw vanilla porn just won't cut it anymore

should i sell my canon rebel xti. i really like it but i dont really use it that much

>>17213823

Some people are cunts, more at 11.

Also size is pretty objective, you know how big you are.
Plus, it was good enough for her at one point, so even if it is objectively small, obviously you've got enough good qualities to compensate.
If someone eats at a fancy restaurant religiously for months/years, then one day walks out saying the food has always been terrible, that person just looks like a fucking idiot for eating there for so long.

Don't let some bitch poison you against women in general. Just find a woman who's better than her. She's not a cunt because she's a woman, that's a copout letting her off easy. She's a cunt because she, specifically, is a cunt.

>>17212689

This is a very common question among women.

You should not cover up. Neither should you point out to him that you are self conscious or what you are self conscious of. The thing about men is that when we are in love with you, the chubbiness, body freckles, folds, weird ribs and other things that you could be self conscious about, are the quirks that we find attractive. Mentioning how you feel about these things highlights them as flaws in mens brains and will eventually make them unattractive to your boyfriend.

We also want something to look at. I can't climax unless I can see my wife, and my wife was very self conscious for a very long time.

Stop reading women's magazines and visiting such websites for about three months. The pictures of the slender women with the nice, flawless (and heavily photoshopped) women which they put in the articles are casting a subliminal message to you which is making you think that there is something wrong with the way that you look.

To answer your question, ask your boyfriend about what he thinks of your figure, (don't tell him that you don't like the way you look to him) and ask him about something new that he may want to try when you are having sex. You could also try changing the location (the bedroom isnt the only place to have sex).

watch a sex tutorial with him and expand your sexual repertoire.
http://www.xvideos.com/video7320907/best_sex_positions
I know it's a common porn site, it's what a quick google brings up.

It's actually pretty good. I'm downloading it and I'm going watching it with my wife tonight.

>>17214442
http://www.xvideos.com/video438806/sex_positions

This one is even better. The other one is far too advanced.

As a high functioning autistic, it can be safely deducted that my success with women is all but nonexistent. I'm 20 and the farthest I've ever gotten was a cheek kiss before she moved. I was 17.

I've been doing my best to try and work with my condition, but sometimes it seems debilitating. I don't let anybody know I have anything wrong with me, learning wise, unless they have to know.

Unfortunately, I'm a wholly unattractive character as I'm not physically attractive, not very bright, and have a boring personality with few hobbies. I've been rejected around 7 times and the last one really stuck with me, and that's because she flat out told me that there's nothing to get out of investing herself with me, romantically.

It's cold, but probably most honest answer i've ever gotten before.

Ladies: Would you ever consider dating a sperg heavily focused on self improvement, even if it meant he was a good deal below you, financially and socially? Or, is this just one of the biggest turn offs ever?

Inb4 "fokus on urself first". I am focusing on myself, I'd just like to experience what romantic intimacy is like, even if it's just a hug or a kiss.

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>>17214442
>Mentioning how you feel about these things highlights them as flaws in mens brains and will eventually make them unattractive to your boyfriend.
Wait what? Personally i think most of those flaws are cute no matter what, and being embarrassed about them makes them even cuter.

>>17214129

>Anything that makes people lose bladder control due to sexual arousal - because I have a fetish
>het gangbang stuff, preferable with lots of anal
>gayporn with guys that look good to me (don't pay attention to how they look in het porn)
>weird hentai - the more freaky the better. I'm at the insect-impregnation stuff atm but that's something everchanging.
>mmf

>>17214129
>>17214514
>mmf
Would you go for it in the real world if your bf said it was okay?

To those guys who are into older women (5 - 10 years above your age):
Is there any specific reason why you are into them? (How) do you approach them?

To any guy:
What would you do if a decent looking girl came up to you and asked you if you'd fuck her if she paid you? Would you do anything different if you agreed compared to other sex you had (if you had any :P)?

>>17214517

my boyfriend already said yes, he's bi himself and I'd die for a mmf, but goddamn it's hard to find the second guy for this -_- we sadly don't really share a taste in men..

>>17214521
I might agree if she just asked if I wanted to fuck her, but the offer to pay me would make me extremely hesitant to accept.

>>17214521
>What would you do if a decent looking girl came up to you and asked you if you'd fuck her if she paid you?
I'd try and negotiate a higher price to make more money.

>>17214522
That's because while most guys love threesomes we prefer ffm threesomes.

>>17214527
Personally I'd prefer a mmf but maybe I'm just a closet faggot.

Guys, what's the deal with gangbang porn? Isn't that like... really gay? Why is it such a staple compared to harem stuff?
Meanwhile, ffm threesomes are always the way to go while mmf seems gay. Isn't that a contradiction?

>>17214473
There's an exception to every rule.

I'm the same actually. I also find it cuter when she's insecure about it.
It does get annoying sometimes though. When she's on top and riding me while sitting up. I really enjoy looking at her. It's such a huge turn on being able to see her riding me. Then she ruins my experience because she starts getting embarrassed and gives me this goofy smile bends forward and my nice view is gone, so is my enjoyment.

Ladies - please don't do that. Next time that you see him looking at you top to bottom during sex, instead of moving yourself from view, still make the embarrassed smile, but ask if he likes what he sees. When he answers that he does, rather try to highlight certain parts of your body that you know he likes (by taking his hands and making him run them up and down your waist, or have him squeeze your breasts).
It will help you gain more self confidence, and he him enjoy himself more.
Please don't be shy.

>>17214129
I can't watch porn with actors that aren't white, girls that look like bimbos and bad acting.
Other than that
>Normal lame sex
>Anal stuff (both sex and fingering/rimming)
>Threesomes (mff, sometimes mmf if the guys are bi)
>Lesbian

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Hey,
Why do girls (well one in particular) feel the need to hurt someone as much as they can, all the time? We are friends, platonic. I want more, she does when we meet up (live in different states). She gets mad upset and jealous when she sees me with women, but we won't kiss or fuck.
We are supposed to be friends, but she just drunkenly told me she fucked a guy, and loves him. I kind of had enough of this shit already.

Should I just not care anymore? I wasn't even hurt by this message desu, just disappointed.

Thanks.

>>17214555
Anon, you're an idiot.
If you want more and she doesn't, don't hang out with her, don't talk to her, and get over her.
She uses you because she wants to get your validation and your affection, and you're an idiot because you play at her game.
Stop talking to her and move on.

>>17214521
>What would you do if a decent looking girl came up to you and asked you if you'd fuck her if she paid you?

Even if I weren't in a relationship, i'd probably raise an eyebrow or two and say, "excuse me"? followed by an "uhh...That's flattering... but no thanks"

I don't look down on those who do it for money, and I've had my share of fwb's, one night stands, and the like, but uhh... I'd rather choose my own partners because I want to be with them (even if it was only for one night).

>>17214539
>Guys, what's the deal with gangbang porn?

It's one of those things that are about other things. It's not about the guys, it's about the girl, probably about the degradation, and also the sexuality of the situation. It's kind of like... the naughty innocent schoolgirl, or bad preaches daughter, or whatever else situation that shows a woman flagrantly flaunting her sexuality.

>>17214471
Straight dude here, but i wish there were more female spergs. My best friends growing up were autists and i wonder what it'd be like to date one.

>>17214555
>gets mad upset and jealous when she sees me with women
I don't get this shit either. Why the hell do girls get jealous when they're not actually interested in the guy, or have a boyfriend, or are married, etc?

>>17214590
>Why the hell do girls get jealous when they're not actually interested in the guy, or have a boyfriend, or are married, etc?
Because you're not giving attention to them anymore.

>>17214129
I've always preferred imagination to porn, but when I do watch/look at it, it's almost always hentai/doijins.

I'm still pissed that they got Queen Bee to adapt Secret Journey. They ruined one of my favorites.

>>17214521
Older women have fewer insecurities.
My wife won't be checking my phone everytime a message comes through. She doesn't phone me every five minutes to check where I am. An older woman is also more stable mentally and (there is an exception to every rule) is far less likely to cheat on me when compared to a twenty something year old. She also knows what she wants out of life.

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Femanon who has fallen for another girl back again.

I figure I'd update since I know there's at least one anon who was interested in this mess (thank you for all your advice and kind words before)

So I found out a bit more about how she feels. I forget what prompted her to say it but, she said she liked everything about me and she loved me. I told her when she says stuff like that to me it makes my heart race. And she said I made her feel like that too more often that she wanted to admit. I couldn't believe it. Like literally couldn't I thought she was just fucking with me. I asked her if she liked it and she said yes. Throughout the entire conversation I felt like I couldn't breathe. She is just as madly fucked up in love as I am with her. I don't really know what to say or where to go from here. I feel like this can't be real. It's like a dream. I want to take things super slow so I don't wake up from it.

>>17214539
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGFNg62-A1c

girls - have you ever had a teacher crush?

>>17214614
I had a huge crush on my 8th grade math teacher. He was so funny and smart. And it was the type of crush where I did not at all want anything to come of it. Even the thought of that revolted me. I simply wanted to admire him as he was.

>>17214609
Anon here who asked about your story.

I would still really like to read your correspondence from day 1. I know that it's probably not possible, but I'm still very curious as to how all this came about.

>>17214612

Very interesting, thanks!

>>17214618
We started talking in a general. We ended up having so much in common in regards to our hobby we just would post back and forth to each other ignoring most of the other anons half the time. Then one day she asked for my email. She was afraid of losing contact with me. Then we kind of continued talking about the same kind of stuff, but even more topics since we weren't limited by 4chan anymore and we just clicked so well about so many things. She was actually the one at first who said she felt close to me and that we were becoming friends. But I think even back then I had tender feels for her they just weren't so intense like they are now. I mean I pretty much started going to the thread just to talk to her, I just thought she was so cute and cool and I loved talking about stuff with her.

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>>17214609
Happy to hear that, anon. Hoping it works for you two!

>>17212585
Start by not asking girls questions about how to be a guy.

>>17214213
Send ONE text asking if she got your earlier message, then drop it.

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Need answer from opposite gender:

I'm hungry… sticks hand into food basket, feels something long and soft… thinks a banana would be a good snack… pulls out a rolled up wet dripping pad soaked in menstrual blood.

Leaves kitchen, closes door, hand feels wet… WTF??? Hand is also painted red? Why are there blood soaked clothes hanging on door handles?

Goes in bathroom to vomit… finds tampons on top of toilet seat dripping… looks in the trash can right next to it… is empty… didn't even bother.

Sits on bed with hands on head asking what evil have I done to God to deserve such punishment? Wait, didn't know we had leopard spot blankets… why are the leopard spots hard? Not dried blood, please.

Repeat ad nauseum, month after month after month.

No, not a 12 year old girl… a 30 year old woman.

Ask /adv/ What can do?

>>17214710

i'm so confuseddddddd. What?

>>17214710

Move out and stop living with an unhygienic nutjob?

>>17214710
Stop, we've seen this pasta enough. I kind of laughed the first time, but come up with something new please.

any femanons up at this hour?

>>17214725

Just ask your question, faggot.

I don't know where else to ask this and a lot of kind anons here, gave great advice when I just felt lost.

I thought my bf was a good guy, he's been my best friend for many years.but
>6months in I find out he's messaging other girls. Confront/argue make up etc.
>few more months it's the same thing but these messages have clearly intensified. Massive argument, I want nothing to do with him etc etc. Somehow we sort of get past it. Therapy etc says it's something to do with low self esteem.
>during all this strangely enough I had my normal high sex drive.
>now months after, it's dried up.completely. I don't even want to masturbate. It's like I've been sterilised..
Any thoughts?

>>17214521
>What would you do if a decent looking girl came up to you and asked you if you'd fuck her if she paid you?
I'd assume there was a good reason she needed to pay instead of getting laid the normal way.

>Would you do anything different if you agreed compared to other sex you had (if you had any :P)?
Not stay behind and cuddle (that's extra).

>>17214764
>Therapy etc says it's something to do with low self esteem.
Whose low self-esteem? His or yours?
>it's dried up.completely. I don't even want to masturbate. It's like I've been sterilised..
Has anything changed health-wise? Started or stopped any medications, birth control?
Any major life changes? Stress at home or work, etc?
If not, consider asking a doctor, they can check hormone levels (thyroid, estrogen, androgens, etc) and tell you if that's the problem.
If that seems fine too, and you do seem sexually attracted to other men than your boyfriend, then consider whether the passion in the relationship is dead and gone, in which case a breakup is in order.

>>17214794
Sorry I could have written that better.
>His self esteem
>I stopped birth control a month ago, I wasn't on it long though.
>Stress.. Hmm, he recently quit his job and currently looking for work, he was stressed out about it, but he's had offers etc.
>will head to the docs too just in case ..it's just strange because it's not just my bf but all guys, hell I could even appreciate women but there's nothing now - I don't get that tingle or that fire. It's as if someone cut a wire.

Men,

Is my bf cheating on me?

He keeps picking fights with me lately. He wants to keep tabs on me when I'm out doing things without him. So he'll pick fights if I dont send him pictures and updates about what I'm doing. He told me I make him unhappy when we're apart because I don't text him enough. And he is really into his appearance lately, going to the gym all the time.

I feel like I'm being really manipulated and my gut tells me something fishy is going on with him.

so im a colombian girl studying abroad in the states. this guy who is my close friend said he saw an article with the title "how dating a colombian girl lets you learn about a new cultre". is he into me?

>>17214826
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

Read the OP.

>>17214826
That's not much info, but YES.
But, if you're long-time friends, he probably won't make any move (or he'd have already).

>>17214809
I don't think trying to randomly guess if people are cheating is healthy. It looks like you're experiencing difficulties in the relationship and you're looking for something or someone to blame. It doesn't have to be anyone's fault.

>>17214809
Try walking a mile in his shoes - what would you do, in his place, if you felt your gf was getting more distant?
>talk to her, and tell her you're unhappy
>do something to improve your sex appeal
that's what he's doing.
It doesn't sound suspicious, he might want more attention from you.

>>17214832
>Nothing significant
>>17214833
>That's not much info, but YES
eh? so does what he said suggest anything?

>>17214840
It's a reasonable assumption.
You're friends, he's joking about dating you.
It might mean nothing, but he's at least thought about it - still, you're probably overthinking it, he's not going to make a move anyway.

>>17214840
To me, no.
It's more related to the country than the dating, to me.

Like I have a friend who studies medicine, I read an article about "10 reasons why you should date a doctor", linked it to her. It's not because I'm into her, but because I thought she might find it funny/interesting.

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Ladies.

If girl so equal, why come girl no invent anything?

>>17214809
>if I dont send him pictures and updates about what I'm doing
He sounds crazy. I don't know if he's cheating, but he's definitely being controlling and mad uncool.

Third date today, I haven't kissed her yet though the second one was great(it was a simple walk, yet we walked and talked for 4 hours straight all over the city, I suppose that means it was good right?) but I for some reason hesitated.

How do I pick the right moment?

Also, I haven't kissed in a while, how not to fuck it up too much?

>>17214848
Well he doesnt live in the states so maybe he is not interested in dating me because of that
>>17214849
I was thinking it may be that as well

>>17214836
>>17214838
Thank you for saying that, I guess I'm just freaking out because I haven't seen him in a while (he is away with his family) and there is a girl from his work who I have been feeling jealous of too.

>>17214852
Yeah, he has been controlling since we first got together. I think its because hes almost 10 years older than me so he is afraid that I'm going to go wild and he'll lose me.

I'm a transwoman
How do I tell my current 'fuckbuddy' female friend that I want them to peg my ass and sit on my face rather than me always being on top

Serious question

>>17213103
Third answer is right. Even if they're not doing drugs or shittalking their girlfriends, most guys adapt a different persona among brotype friends than around their girlfriend. Girlfriends are often uncomfortable seeing this side of the guy who is so sweet and thoughtful with them.

That and other reasons can include: being more introverted and not understanding your desire to spend time with more different people, jealousy and possessiveness (what if they talk about the perks of single life or want to talk to girls with you?), feeling excluded from the group and insecure by you having a place among them.

>>17213122
Hard to say exactly how often. I'd say at least every other day I have a (fleeting) thought of it.
I told myself for a very long time that I was sexually open towards girls, but exclusively wanted to be with guys romantically. Then I befriended a girl who is not just stunning and sexy, but also sharp, witty and bold and made me feel all weak in the legs around her.

>>17214129
Prefer fantasy over porn by a landslide, but I do watch it.

Some stuff I like just to get in the mood, or if I'm very aroused I just want to see people go at it and it excites me to watch. I do not particularly like masturbating to this and usually just do it as "foreplay" before fantasizing.
This is tame regular stuff - pictures of cute girls and guys, oral, analingus and penetration gifs. I watch amateur videos occasionally but am really particular, it doesn't take for me to find it more fake or uncomfortable than sexy.

Apart from that I have a thing for stuffing (overeating) and watch videos of guys (and girls, depending on my mood, but I do prefer men) eating/getting their belly rubbed/burping etc. It's embarrassing but really gets me going, although I still prefer fantasy because it turns me on as much (and more if I'm really in the mood) and makes me feel better afterwards. Porn always leaves me with a bit of a gross feeling, even the sweet loving stuff with attractive people, not sure why.

>>17214858
It's the right moment when it feels right. You have these moments where you can just sense the chemistry, or sense that you are both lingering and wanting to part. Signs are a lot of prolonged eye contact, especially if mixed up with not meeting your eyes, fumbling with her hands/clothes/hair, blushing, lip biting, accidental/innocent touching, lots of short silences like you're both not sure what to talk about but don't want to say goodbye either.

Don't rush it, start with just a sweet, soft kiss on the mouth, no tongue. If you go slowly you offer her the chance to set the pace or take initiative and you can follow her movements. If you have to start, similarly, go slowly, give her lips a light lick before going in and so on.

>>17214899
If you ever talk about sex already, bring it up then. If not you can throw it in during dirty talk, when you're heated enough to not feel too shy tell her you fantasize about these things. If she responds normally, follow it up with confirming afterwards that you would very much like to give those things a shot.

Both:
>watch porn often when masturbating
>think it might be a neat idea to watch it with bf sometimes
>try it twice but meh
>we don't really get in the right mood and usually end up laughing more than being horny

how can i improve that? Or should we just stop and proceed as usual?

>>17214946
Did you try it before or after being aroused? Maybe it helps if you throw it in during sex and not expect it to be the initial turn on.

>>17214953
Nah, we watched after we where already a bit horny. Maybe we can try waiting till we're REALLY horny

>>17214955
Yeah, that might make a difference. I don't know what else to recommend, anything is subjectively a turn on or not depending on individual preferences. Maybe this is just not what work for you.

>>17214946
I'm kinda in the same boat, I like porn by myself but somehow it seems ridiculous with my girlfriend. I mean, she likes porn on her own as well but together we just laugh at how bad/weird it is. Dunno.

i just realized how hypocritical it is for guys to give women the advice to be blunt about things and less subtle when the guy they like isn't showing interest. yet when this type of thing happens to us in real life and she goes a bit too far it turns us off because it makes her seem like a slut and want nothing to do with her

never really thought about this before

>>17214978
Good to hear at least someone realizes it.

>>17214978
>it turns us off because it makes her seem like a slut and want nothing to do with her

Wait, what?! What the fuck, guys?

girls, is it always a bad sign if you don't reply to texts or wait so long to do it when you're online?

>>17215009
well i mean obviously guys like to fuck sluts but then they peace out shortly. i'm talking about relationship material girls

>>17214941
Thanks.

>>17215013
No. People have other things to do besides texting all day. I was at work the other day and had my phone unlocked and WhatsApp open beside me after a call and didn't pay attention and some guy chewed me out for taking so long to reply when he can see I'm online. Weird shit imo.
People survived without constant nonstop communication.

>>17214978

No... See...You're being hyperbolic... there's a pretty obvious gap between having a girl take the lead, and having a girl throw herself at you in a repelling and grossly inappropriate way.

Examples of the former:
>My girlfriend asked me out first (technically she beat me to it by seconds, but she still asked me out first lol)
>My first kiss was to a girl, I told her I was falling for her, she literally stopped me mid sentence with her lips on mine.

Examples of the later:
>"Oh you're an Aquarius? I've never been with one of those before"
>"So, how big are you?"

Respectful and appropriate is pretty much always well received and that actually goes for both genders. Even if the feeling isn't mutual or reciprocated, at the very least, it's not repulsive (unless you're not ACTUALLY being respectful, or they're just a plain asshole).

>>17215058
i just meant that girls have to dance much more of a fine line. guys can hound a girl pretty hard and get away with it.

>>17214978
I have attempted to "take the lead" in the past and some guys don't like it. They're put off by it. Granted, I'm not sure if they just didn't like me as much as I liked them. Or what...

With my current boyfriend it was successful. I asked him out first. He said yes. We dated for a few months (still exclusively), then he was the one to officially ask me to be his girlfriend.

>>17215069
>i just meant that girls have to dance much more of a fine line. guys can hound a girl pretty hard and get away with it.

And i'm sure there are guys for who that "So how big are you" line works too... I'm fact i'm pretty sure there are more guys that works on, than catcalls and the like work on women...

Most women I know are pretty adamant about not at all being impressed, and being pretty turned off, disgusted, and sometimes even intimidated by that shit.

>>17215095
Honestly I think that's because we get it so much. If men were the hesitant "waiting" gender instead we'd value the few who go out of their way to show interest highly.

>>17215095
i guess you're right. i posted because i had been thinking how i've given advice to women before thinking "it worked for me as a man to get women so it will work for a woman to get a man" when in reality that just isn't true.

>>17214978
>yet when this type of thing happens to us in real life and she goes a bit too far it turns us off
I have never been turned off this way, and have never met a guy who said he was turned off by this, in my entire life. In contrast there is vast evidence of the opposite. Just for example:
http://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/
>The majority of women don’t send the first message in online dating conversations.
>The research, published by dating website OkCupid using data from the site, also suggests that the women who message first are more likely to chat with more attractive men.

girls, if you got abandoned in a desert then some smuggler that looks like harrison ford took you to a bar in the middle of the forest and got you drunk then offered you a 'job', what would you do?

>>17215013
Not at all. Even when I'm not busy and hanging around on my phone or online, I walk away from my phone or laptop and just start doing other stuff at home. While still appearing online...

It's not like I'm intentionally trying to ignore people, I'm just not really glued to the phone waiting to reply.

If it goes like over 72 hours without a reply and it was read, then maybe that's a little bad. I usually start ignoring messages after a conversation goes stale. Then I'll respond once something has happened that I want to talk about. Or I come up with something to talk about.

>>17215148
Depends. Does he look Arc of Covenant or Force Awakens? This is important.

>>17215160
he looks like han solo from a new hope. but with the return of the jedi bank account

>>17215172
Then I'm not interested.

>>17213823

It's your ex, she's probably making shit up just to spite you. Don't reply.

>>17215191
>Arc of Covenant
you know thats not a movie right

>>17215235
Raiders of the Lost Ark, sorry. In my language the title got translated to "Ark of the Covenant".

Guys,

I have a friend (21) whose fiance (20) is in the marines. She found out on from a girl in a different country that he was sexting. Before they got engaged, he's been caught hanging out and talking with his ex girlfriend on the phone also.

My question is, is this a red flag? They're supposed to be getting married next year, but I think they're way too young, and he seems to want more freedom. To anyone who does this, or experienced this kind of thing with their partner, how did situation turn out? Is/was it a phase, or did things get better?

Thanks in advance

>>17214978
No. You're an idiot if you get turned off.

>>17215267
Big red flag.

Friends, my crush seems to be too good for me. What do?

Like, this girl told me she admires my hair, she always waves at me and I started crushing on her. We haven't chatted much, so we're not friends yet.

>she is extroverted, I'm intro
>she's everyone's friend, I don't have any
>her job isn't that good, but I work for my family

Grilleroonies

How much do you like guys playing with your nips/boobs? I like doing stuff with them but i always feel awkward, like i'm doing something just for me. (i also have some trouble enjoying getting a HJ or BJ)

Reassure me of one or the other pls.

Girls,
this girl at my work place tried for literal months to get my phone number, going as far as asking coworkers for it, then she texted me and we started talking.
She seems to like me a lot and has told me that I'm a "cute", I think she is really cute too.
The thing is that we don't really know each other and we hardly have anything to talk about, and even worse, I'm a really busy guy, got a full time job and a part time job afterwards, and when I'm not doing any of those I'm usually study to improve my skillset.
So, how do I approach this situation, I'm not really much of a social beacon, hardly have any friends and I like to be along a lot. She seems really social and outgoing, which is fine, but she seems to expeect sthe same from me.
I don't know if I want/could get something serious with her but I just feel bad that almost every time she tries to talk to me (via texting), I'm just doing some other stuff and texting would just distract me, so I keep on giving short answers. The few times we had long talks, we exchange some lines but I make a real effort and feel that I'm the carrying the convo all the way, which is exhausting too.
My question basically is, how do I keep in good terms with this girl without seeming like an asshole (she's been really nice to me) or that I'm uninterested (I don't really think that is a good time for me to get in relationship, even if is just casual)?
For reference she is 21F I'm 26M

>>17215469
Not a girl, but you gotta prioritize, mate.

Grilling isn't something you do in your spare time, you have to make time for it.

>>17215438
Love it a whole lot, but I have very sensitive nipples, to the point of hurting sometimes, padded bras and all that. But in a sexual context it's awesome and gets me super tingly super fast.

>>17214978
>i just realized how hypocritical it is for guys to give women the advice to be blunt about things and less subtle when the guy they like isn't showing interest. yet when this type of thing happens to us in real life and she goes a bit too far it turns us off because it makes her seem like a slut and want nothing to do with her
Is this bait? If so, 9/10, good work.
Pissed me off pretty effectively.

If any girls are actually worried about this, i have a simple solution: don't ask out mongoloids. They're not very good in bed anyway.

>>17215267
>getting engaged at 20-21
That's all the red flag you need, they're doomed.

>>17215535
Coolio

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(20M) In which glasses do I look better? Any other tips also welcome.

>>17215651
holy fuck, start lifting some weights

As a guy I wonder about a thing. What if I am genuinely not interested in the life of some girl, but just force myself to just because. Do girls notice this? I am not even impolite. Its just that the realm of men is usually so far away from the realm of women, with the science, politics, economy, industry, tech and more. That I at least dabble in. I long learned that no woman out there really cares for these things, so I try to care about the things that women do, but frankly its kinda disingenuous. It doesnt give me much real joy as I would get from reading news articles about those things.

The problem is that it doesnt matter if its in real life, or outside of it. How the fuck do I deal with this if I dont want to die alone haha?

>>17215651

I'd say the first. The second are fine, but kind of generic hipster. The first specifically complement your face and give you a bit more personality.
But either work.

>>17215685
I don't do that shit.
Ain't wastin my time pretending to be interested in the latest trends in women's footwear or whatever.

>>17215690
agree with this

>>17215651
nice face shape tho

>>17215693
Yea but there is an upper limit to things that you can talk about with women, I mean societal stuff, things that you share with humans in general, like the weather.

But what if as a guy, you are so extremely disinterested with even common things like that, that you are so far above this upper limit. That you just cant really feel joy in talking to them?

Like how the fuck do you recover from being too immersed into fringe (not autistic and singular, just rather too far away from the norm) interests, that you genuinely enjoy with others? I mean, we have these very specific communities here on the internet. Somewhere, some place, someone will want to know and to share information on how to avoid pm2.5 pollution (rough example). And a person like me may actually find loads of joy and interest to immerse myself into these kinds of things.

But good luck trying to connect with other people, normal people, when your interests are a diverse cast of these many fringe interests.

>>17215706
>But what if as a guy, you are so extremely disinterested with even common things like that, that you are so far above this upper limit. That you just cant really feel joy in talking to them?
Then you talk to only the few who feel the same, basically.
Only person i talk to right now is a chick. So yes they exist.

I don't want to make small talk with normal people anyway, that shit's boring. Got better things to do with my time.

>>17215706
Basically, you're being a picky faggot.

Meet more people, you'll surely find someone you'll connect with.

I happened to find a schizotypal druggie emo non-bi girl, just gotta look harder nigga.

Why do some girls like giving blowjobs? What do they like about it?

>>17215715
>>17215716
Fine, il keep on looking. Its not like I have been long back in the saddle anyhow. Its just fucking annoying. I am doing my best to not to appear too smug and try to approach things with interest, but its so goddamn hard. Even when I turn my ego off "reee normies etc.", some parts of my brain just give me the "social death" command where I just want to be at home, browsing some news website for some news bit that says that plants can feel touch, and then when I type out a comment about fucking them tenderly...

Somehow this specific news seeking behavior and/or weird posting is supposed to lead me to vagina's. If there was a map on these things, putting a pin on the area's and connecting it with string would be quite far away kek.

Friends please: >>17215344

>>17215751
What do you think you should do? Isnt it pretty obvious? If she likes you, you try to go further than just acquaintances.

>>17215726

It's a power trip, deciding when to allow him to come and knowing that his dick is between my teeth, so I could ruin his life any second. Plus, I love my bf, so I enjoy it when he enjoys it.

>>17215344
She decides whether or not she is "too good" for you, not you. You're presumably a straight dude, you can't judge how sexy you are or aren't. Let the one with the pussy judge here please. You never know what other people see in you. There are a lot of immature people online who seem to think that attraction is some system of points that can be easily broken down, but there is so much to appreciate about someone especially in a romantic relationship. Just something as being able to make her feel comfortable and at ease, like you're not going to get pushy on her or flip out over something, can be a big factor in growing to like someone. Give yourself a fucking chance here.

>>17215438
I like it, mine aren't supersensitive but especially licking I really enjoy. Not my favorite thing (neck licks ftw) but it feels quite good and I miss it a bit if it's not involved much.

>>17215469
What he said. Be upfront with her, say you don't want to lead her on and this is the situation, but you think she's quite cute and are flattered. Then leave it to her whether she still wants to be friendly occasionally or not.

>>17215726
It's really sexy to see someone you like a lot enjoy the shit out of himself because of something you are doing to him. Also the smell and taste of (clean) genitals can be really good, tender skin... It can also be seen as both a dominant (you are in control of the pace, easy orgasm denial) or submissive (serving the master idea) sex act. And you can just enjoy the sucking itself, most men like sucking on boobs right?

>>17213103
Women are selfish and immature.

They need to be the center of your attention constantly. They are irrational and succumb to emotional imbalance.

Basically children.

Ive convinced two close friends (not single handedly though) to drop their bitchy, leaching girlfriends and they are much happier with their new, older girlfriends who actually want to hang out with the group

>>17215908
Are you trying to rationalize this, or is this what you personally feel?

>>17215935
Most of it, just not really into dom/sub stuff.

Do I chase the girl and do some grand romantic gesture or let her go/give her time

>>17215952
Don't bother, that stuff shouldn't be necessary in real life. Spend your time on someone who reciprocates your efforts.

>>17215863
Thanks.

>>17215895
Thank you. You're so direct and nice at the same time.

For girls, how bad is it that I have a pantie fetish?

My closest female friends thought it was normal, but it got me instantly excommunicated with a person I liked.

>>17215980
You're welcome, good luck!

>>17216007
That would be a plus for me. Someone to appreciate my expensive taste in underwear, fuck yeah.

What does ":) xx" mean in an Internet conversation context?

>>17216442
smile kiss kiss

>>17216450
Oh. What the hell

>>17216007
i think this would be kinda hot desu

Signs a normal and non-sleazy guy is flirting with you and not just being friendly/funny?

>>17216502
spends quality time alone with you when he doesn't really needs to.

Does anyone here deal with having fear of intimacy?

How do you take steps to change this?

I have been lonely for about a year and it just dawned on me that my own fear of intimacy is why I am alone. I have ruined every chance I've had by not allowing myself to be comfortable with another person even though that is what I want more than anything.

I'm a really slow mover when it comes to women. Personality is at least 50% of attraction for me, and so I don't really get into a girl enough to make a move until I've gotten to know her decently. The problem is that this often gets taken as a lack of interest - I've heard through the friend grapevine several times that women who I'd be interested in getting to know were frustrated that I didn't seem to be interested - and I'm not sure what to do about it.

When I've tried to talk to people about this, they always seem to think that I'm some kind of purity weirdo who's only into super-romantic sex in long-term relationships or something, which isn't true. I'm totally down for hookups, FWBs, or whatever, it just has to be with somebody I like as a person.

Any advice for what to do about this?

>>17212191
>>17216794

Please respond

What is your best rape story?

>>17216811
It could be the fact that you want to really get to know a person, and also be down for whatever, which can make people feel you've invested in them only to lead them somewhere that's a hookup, and perhaps it feels bit meaningless to them if they're into you - also knowing you're hooking up with various others might be a turnoff and seen as a lack of interest in them

>>17215952
Let her know how you feel?

>>17216763
If you fall in love, accept it, surrender to it
A beautiful thing, I want to surrender

>>17215726
It's hot AF, big turn on if he's into it
Not so much if he's always take, and no lick action though

>>17216821
Being raped were the worst times of my life, there is no best - worst rape

>>17216878
Did you orgasm?

Sex is great because we want to fuck each other so fucking much, fuck! Because we"re in love! Not wanting to hurt each other, or make each other do something the other doesn't want to do, it's our life, fuck off!

>>17216881
Not from that. Fuck off!

>>17216902
I wasn't trying to be a dick I was just curious

>>17214175
Generally, girls like more masculine guys.

>>17216842
I'm not really leading anybody towards a hookup or anything, though. Only way I'd do that is if I liked somebody enough to date them but they only wanted a hookup, if that makes sense.

Also, I'm not hooking up with various others - totally to the contrary sadly, I got out of an LTR 3 years ago and haven't had anything since.

>>17217026
Ah, I see! Fair enough. I know what you mean, when there's someone you just really fancy so much, and it's more than physical, it's chemical bliss, only happened to me once I'm still in-it to this second, and I'm not complaining!

Do you hate or enjoy receiving anal sex?

>>17216924
masculine guys with soft hearts.

if you act too much like a faggot, that's going too far. If you act too much like a bro then that's too far.

Girls: femanon here: aside from masturbation I can no longer cum unless there at least two others present. I masturbate at least once a week and I used to be able to cum with one person in about one hour. When there's two people I can cum three time in half an hour. How can I fix this?

I have a male onlne friend whom I have known for years. When he was 16, he said "I think you'll be an amazing girlfriend... I mean... Hmmm, it's not that I think of you as my girlfriend but that was what I actually think of my "perfect girl" based on my hobbies at the moment. I'm sure perfect girls can be different and my image of what a perfect girl is like will probably change over time."

He was talking about what his perfect girlfriend was like (listing how she should share his hobbies) and I said I don't fit in the category then as I didn't like some of his hobbies.

Is he into me? Nowadays he sometimes say stuff which makes me suspect that he may like me, such as asking if I like his Whatsapp photo when I mentioned it.

So I got back into contact with this girl I stopped talking to a couple of years ago. Now shes assuming I'll be loaded shortly after I graduate and is flirting about being my french maid. She's my type physically to a T but my brain is telling me this is a bad idea.

Why is life so difficult

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>>17216763
>Does anyone here deal with having fear of intimacy?
Hell yes.
>How do you take steps to change this?
You quite simply just force yourself to do it. That's kind of what courage is about, after all. People who are naturally confident aren't brave, they're just goddamn stupid. Courage is when you're fucking terrified but go and do it anyway.

Find someone who's curious about you and likes having uncomfortable conversations and open up to them. Pic very related.
Actually talk to them. Reveal shit that scares you to say. The kind of shit that, after you press send and put your phone back in your pocket, makes you feel like you just pulled the pin on a grenade and jammed it down your trousers.

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Girls:
Do military men turn you on more

>>17217922
nothing sexy about a welfare queen. We all know you're a desk jockey when you wear your fatigues out in public.

virgin here and possibly looking to go to a prostitute to get it over and done with. do prostitutes care if their client is a virgin?

>>17217775
Probably.

>>17218000
No.

>>17218011
would you tell them that before you book with them or when you meet?

>>17218018
You wouldn't bring it up at all you awkward motherfucker.

Girls, do you find it pathetic for your ex to tell you they miss you? Currently feeling that type of way. Wanting to message my ex and see how things are, but I don't know if that would come off as weak/clingy/needy.

>>17218018

Althoughhhhhhh, there are prostitutes that are okay with "first timers" but that means paying for sex, not actually having sex.

You would benefit from expreience though, you might make it super akward, but at the end she's still getting paid.

>>17218029
where did this "you're paying for sex, not having sex" meme come from
If you're sticking your dick in a prostitute of course you're having sex with her even if you paid for it.

Men: Would you leave a current girlfriend (short term, not serious) for a girl you used to have strong feelings for?

>>17218043

I meant the term 'first timers' meant people contacting a sex worker for the first time, not that they specialized in men who never had sex before. Poor wording on my behalf.

>>17218292
The answer to a question that general can only be maybe. You need to give more context. And even then, every man is going to react differently. Some might stay with the sure thing purely out of laziness. Others are impulse driven and would want to chase after the greener grass. Some might want to just let the past stay in the past. Etc.

>>17218292
If the girl I had strong feelings for were into me all of the sudden then maybe.
Never been in that situation before.
I'd be seriously tempted.
I'd be sure to talk to the current gf though.

>>17218024
No, I'd love to get a message like that.
But that's because I miss him too and I think of him daily.
If we broke up in different terms, then maybe I would find it pathetic.

>>17218292
Maybe. There's a lot of different factors behind that question.

>>17218306
Thank you for your response.

I asked him out a couple months ago and he said he still had strong feelings, but because he was moving for work he didn't want to start something he knew would work only to have it hurt in a few months because of distance. He said it was the hardest decision he's ever made.

He started dating a girl a month ago. Now my work is moving me much closer to him (same company actually) and I feel like there could be a chance, but the girlfriend... Will probably just say something for closure.

How popular are ginger women really? I want to date one but that can obviously be hard to achieve if she's got a lot of people chasing her already.

Guys, do you think he'll respond to my offer at all? Or did I fuck up? I don't know how to deal with these things

i had a complicated thing with a guy that ended abruptly and badly for reasons out of both of our control and we didn't even get to say bye. I reached out to him recently to apologize and wish him well, and he responded saying that we should meet up if he's in town or if i'm in town (most likely to talk). So i messaged him an open offer to come visit my city(not too far from him) and hang out. He's seen the message but hasn't responded with anything.

to the women:

circumcised or uncircumcised, what do you prefer?

i've always felt ashamed for having an alien-dick, but i'm also proud that it's "the way it was made". what do you women think?

>>17218340
He already said yes didn't he?
Cautious optimism advised

t.pessimistic guy.

>>17218351
Don't care, though I'm from a place where circumcised is pretty rare and only really done for religious or medical reasons.

>>17218024
Yes

>>17217922
No, why would they?

>>17216811
>Personality is at least 50% of attraction for me
You're not a special snowflake for this

>so I don't really get into a girl enough to make a move until I've gotten to know her decently
That's what dates are for - getting to know someone.

>>17218366
god, i wish i lived there. i'm in USA and a lot of women think it's "dirty".

feels bad man.

>>17218360
Thanks. I feel cautious optimism too. The thing is, do I 'wait' for him? This opens a can of worms. I don't know how long he is going to take to respond if ever. I met someone new but if he asked me too i'd be with him in a heartbeat. But I guess that's my answer?

cautious optimism...maybe he could still want to be with me and thats why he wants to talk. Maybe he's so angry at me he wants to tell me to f off in person. I wouldn't blame him

Girls, why would you talk about your sexual fantasies with a male friend ?

Hard mode : She is my ex, we broke up several months ago and stayed friends

>>17218386
>Girls, why would you talk about your sexual fantasies with a male friend ?
No
>She is my ex
Maybe, depends on what our relationship is and was like

Girls, any of you here have that "I never fall in love" and/or "I don't want any relationships" attitude? Can you provide some insight on that? Like, where does it come from, how do you feel about it honestly, how does it align with your idea of your future, etc.

>>17218397
I don't know if it really counts, but until I started dating my boyfriend, I wasn't particularly fussed about relationships.

>>17218397
Yeah this is me. I just don't need that sort of drama in my life. I don't want to have to answer my phone when my bf calls me, or to make time for someone or text them back. I want to do whatever I want, when I want. If I want to lose my phone and drop off the face of the earth for 3 months(I've done that a few times) then thats what i'll do.

I had a relationship with a guy who broke my heart so that's where it came from I suppose. I just realized that I was too dependent on him and would have dropped everything for him which I'm not ok with. And i don't like feeling annoyed with people when they don't do dishes or laundry, because those are silly things to be annoyed about.

I want to do a lot of different things in my future. I don't think marriage is for me. I'd get so bored and I hate kids. Also I just really love dropping off the face of the earth too much. I think it might be sad as i always dreamed of getting married, but I realize now why every relationship I have was doomed to fail. Some people aren't made for things that others are

>>17218340
it was his idea to meet up, so its strange that he doesn't reply. maybe he changed his mind?

Women; can this be fixed?

I have dissociative identity disorder and at least two personalities that I am aware of, one is extremely shy and introverted with no self esteem and the other is confident, methodical and aggressive.

Four months ago I became friends with a very cute Jehovah witness after she and her friend came to my door to tell me about their religion. (I'm not religious) and we became friends, soon our friendship blossomed into something more and I felt like I was falling in love with her, we went on a few dates, nothing special I'd just have her over for dinner or we'd watch and movie and I'd always attend religious events with her, her family and religious friends became very accepting of me so I was really happy. Everything was going extremely well up until I met her non religious friends at a party, most of which know me because I went to highschool with them, everyone was really awkward around me and it only made me more awkward and self concious so I bailed early, she obviously knew something was up.

And this is where everything went to shit. The party was exactly a week ago and she hasn't responded to any texts or calls from me since I left that night. She would always text a hello every morning but I haven't had one since. Her home phone rings out so I think it's safe to assume she's dodging my calls and is cutting me out. I've texted her friends, the ones that bother to reply just say "leaver her alone"

I've been a drug dealer (not user) and all round immoral person since I left highschool over a decade ago. Most of her friends at that party knew about me and the stuff I've done and have obviously told her.

I've considering going over to her house but I fear if she has told her parents her father will confront me about it and if that happens my other personality won't hold back.

Aside from that I think I will buy her a new car, I had been helping her to learn to drive and this way she will know I actually did really care about her.

>>17218428
I think it's because he'll only contact me when he has a set date in mind, and if he doesn't, he'd just never message me again. But it's been a few years so I could be wrong about him.

But thanks! I'm glad to see i'm not the only one who thinks this

>>17218441
Leave her alone. You know that's what you have to do.

>>17218410
Hmm, I mean more like, actively avoiding people who show any interest in you.
>>17218416
Hmm I see, I'm asking because I'm curious about a friend with that attitude, but unfortunately, seems like she's quite different than you. She likes people, makes time for her friends, always answers the phone or calls back etc. and also she said she'd like to have a family in the future.

As you can guess I have a crush on her and I'm wondering how should I exactly treat this attitude (take as natural and give up, or something else). To be honest she's not even avoiding me, nor is she cold; she's a good friend, even though she said she's cold to people who get crushes on her so they stop it.
She also said she believes love is a feeling you feel with your whole self, something striking (and something she never felt before, I suppose, since she said she may be aromantic). She had one boyfriend, and she said at first she wasn't attracted to him at all - she just went with it when he asked her out. But she also pointed out how they liked each other a lot while in the relationship, which ended because the boyfriend cheated on her (when she talks about it sometimes she seems like she's been hurt by that, sometimes not so much. I think she was way more hurt about a long-term friend suddenly cutting her off, which also happened to her).

I wonder if it depends on how you view "love". I never really got that "striking" feeling myself, it's more like, after being friends with somebody for a while and finding them attractive at the same time, if we get along better than I usually get along with others, I'd end up caring about them more and more, starting liking their weird traits, finding their company comforting and something I'd love to have in my everyday life, feeling the need to support them or help them out when they have any, even minor, trouble, this kind of stuff. Maybe I'm the one who's wrong. WHAT IS LOVE?

Have any of you ever dealt with Traumatic Brain Injury? I was hit by a car a few years ago and was concussed/lost memory of the event. I'm still dealing with depression, anxiety and focus issues with it to this day. Is there anyway to help fix this? I'm honestly suicidal on a daily basis.

>>17217590
Wait, you mean you need a threesome to orgasm or what?

>>17218386
>why would you talk about your sexual fantasies with a male friend
Well if he's a good friend and I trust him, why not? Sexuality is an exciting topic.
With an ex, though, I can see how this could send the wrong signals

>>17218454
Hmm. I do have those values too--i have friends I like and my family will always be in my life. but my friends and family understand what i'm like (dropping off the face of the earth thing). But I don't want a husband who would be ok with that.

She is right about love--one kind, at least. Love for me gave me the feeling that i would kill for that person, like they'd taken root in my soul and being around them made living different and good.I felt slightly sick to my stomach around them. i wanted to hold them and never let go. My mind kept singing their name and voice.The first time I saw them, it felt like something hit me.

The thing my former love did to me was drawn out and painful over some years so it may have killed my emotional reactions.

She sounds young and like she's still sorting things out, so maybe give it some time and think about what you want too. But you get zero of the chances you don't take.

>>17218397
Well I don't think you can just choose not to fall in love, if it happens it happens, but since my last/first relationship (heart broken, cheated on blah blah) I don't actively pursue any sort of romance. It's not very important to me right now, I have other stuff going on in my life and maybe I'm afraid of getting hurt again but I just don't care much for relationships for now.
Which regrettably also means I'm not having any sex but oh well.

>>17218444
Why should I?

Knowing her religion and morals, she knows what she is doing to me is hypocritical;
>judge me by my actions
>without looking at my motivation, intentions or ideologies

You should judge people based on their actions while understanding their motivations and justifications. In other words, the context within which they take action.

She told me that, so how can she now cut me out?

>>17218477
She doesn't owe you a place in her life. She's made it clear she doesn't want you in her life, don't be that creepy persistent guy who thinks women owe him something. You're not the sort of person she wants to associate with, leave her alone.

>>17218480
>She doesn't owe you a place in her life
She owes me closure.

>She's made it clear she doesn't want you in her life
Not once has she clearly stated anything.

>don't be that creepy persistent guy who thinks women owe him something
Don't treat me like a beta, I could call up multiple drug addicted 7/10+'s and have them here within half an hour.

>You're not the sort of person she wants to associate with, leave her alone.
So why won't she say it?

Please, tell me where you got any of that information from.

>>17218486
I am a different anon. She is freaked out and scared of you being a drug dealer and your psychiatric disorders and just wants to forget everything and move on.

>I could call up multiple drug addicted 7/10+'s and have them here within half an hour.

This is not helping your case.

>So why won't she say it?

She is scared of you now. You've obsessively tried to contact her when she's tried to block you from everything, so she's scared. Are you going to show up at her house? If she wants to she'll call the police for harassment, so be careful

>>17218441
She needs more time

>>17218475
Well, I've went "crazy" about a person before as well, but it was because that person was manipulative and made me dependent on them. After a few years, I had a realization that it had nothing to do with love, even though it was amazingly strong feeling - it had more to do with myself than herself, actually. Sometimes she'd push up my self-esteem a lot. She made me feel as if I was the king of the world, I felt like I could do anything for how she makes me feel. But then she could make me feel like the worst piece of shit. I ended up valuing stability much more.
>But you get zero of the chances you don't take.
Yep, that sounds right. Sooner or later I'll have to just confess to her straight, I guess, if it keeps going like that (we've known each other for some months and from a little crush I was unsure of, it went to seriously liking her as I got to know her more)
>>17218476
So you've had situations where you felt somewhat attracted to someone, but chose to not pursue that because you've got more important stuff and also close relationships can be bothersome from your experience?

>>17218497
Yeah so to speak. I mean I haven't been heads over heels in love with someone since that relationship I mentioned earlier, but of course I'm attracted to people sometimes, I get horny, people ask me out etc, but I honestly just keep away from it for now. Sometimes I think it's wrong and that I'm missing out but right now I have so much other stuff going on in my life anyway that I oftentimes don't spend much time thinking about love in any case.

>>17218497
Ah. Hm. My former love wasn't manipulative, on the contrary they encouraged me to go out and do new things. We would sit and relax doing nothing for hours. But it was the wrong timing in our lives, i did not know how to deal with loving someone this much. They especially did not know how to deal.

The thing most people fail to learn but it seems like you're catching onto, is that you can also choose someone you want to be with, and that can have more meaning than a fairytale starstruck romance. Good luck

>>17218492
She was helping me with my mental problems, that's why she said this to me; You should judge people based on their actions while understanding their motivations and justifications. In other words, the context within which they take action.

We were talking about my other personality and past criminal convictions.

I honestly cannot see her ever being afraid of me, I thought about it but she knows I would never harm her, she once told me she feels safest with me because I can talk my way out of any situation.

If anything it should help more, seeing how I've only ever slept with one girl, the girl who took my virginity. I have self control, is why I'm not a user.

>You've obsessively tried to contact her when she's tried to block you from everything
I've texted/called her phone 3 times each and called her home phone twice, I've contacted 3 of her friends in a week, that isn't obsessive it's what ANYONE would do if someone they cared about suddenly disappeared. How is that harrassment?

Neither of us have ever used social media so no she's not trying to block me from anything, stop making these assumptions.

>Are you going to show up at her house? If she wants to she'll call the police for harassment, so be careful
No I'll wait for her to contact me, if she decides to block me out I'm going to target her "friends" who I know would have spread bullshit lies about me.

I could careless about a harrassment charge, I'm pretty much unaccountable because of my history.

I'm going to see this QT for the third time. I think I should try to kiss her already, shouldn't I?

>>17218517
Yes. But you know her better than I do. At least hold her hand and hug her.

>>17218386
Met a girl online, we talked about EVERYTHING. Really, everything, her sexual fantasies, things she actually wanted to do with me, our masturbation rutine...

Then we met and now all that is taboo

>>17218515
I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find the right meds that will help you. I know what it is like.

>>17218502
Well, wouldn't say you're missing out. There is a lot of people you can potentially be happy with so if someday you change your mind, you'll be able to find somebody you like anyways.
When I read that stuff I get a feeling she'd tell me something similar if I asked her out and got rejected. That'd be more comforting than assuming she's not attracted to me at all because otherwise she'd make some move. If you don't mind, I'm gonna ask another question, have you had a close friend ask you out while you don't want a relationship? If yes did it make you start avoiding them or something? I value the friendship a lot, like, we help each other out quite a bit and nobody can make me laugh as easily as her etc. so I wouldn't want to lose that.
>>17218510
Sitting and relaxing doing nothing a best.
>tfw get to do that with the friend sometimes and it's comfy as fuck
Yeah, I developed that attitude about dropping wanting fairytale starstruck romance. Guess it's just a bad luck that the girl I like seems to want that romance herself, I think I'm not charming enough to make anybody feel so strongly about me off the bat. When girls get crushes on me, it's after knowing me for some weeks at least, that's not the kind of romance you get in fairy tales already ;_;

>>17218526
Did I poke too many holes in your argument?

The last thing I will ever take is meds and fyi there are no meds that "fix" this, anti psychotic injections every week are the only thing that come close and they have their own side effects, starting at hallucinations and ending with serotonin syndrome. I'd rather commit suicide then be mentally forced to suppress a part of me.
I'll be able to retire in 3 years so I'll work on my mental problems at that time.

>>17218534
I've had one of my best friends come out to me and ask me out in one sweep basically (back when I was a teen though) and she was really sweet about it and I felt incredibly bad because I couldn't return her feelings (spoiler 2012 me, you're actually super gay too) but we stayed close friends all the same, maybe even closer. She kind of became an ideal for me, like how I wanted to be, comfortable and confident in my sexuality and just this femme fatale kind of girl that doesn't give a shit and just does her thing. Oh well.
I think if you're really good friends, a love confession won't ruin that. It might make things awkward for a while but that's it

>>17218340
He's probably still mulling over it. I guess he's not all that eager but doesn't want to be on a bad footing either. Like, actually going out of his way to visit you, and also hang out with you is a little more involvement than he really had in mind.

>>17218292
Nah.

>>17217775
Probably he thinks you're sweet independent of being attracted to you. Like, uh, seeing a nice car without necessarily wanting to drive it. But he might well also have some level of interest in you.

>>17218548
Sounds pretty comfy. Maybe I'll ask her before I go to some vacation, or something, so we'll have some time for awkwardness to go away (we see each other too often, especially since we got mutual friends).
I feel kinda stupid for wanting to ask her out while being 99% sure I'll get rejected (betting 60% of that for her simply not returning the feelings at all, 40% on not returning feelings strongly enough to go out with me, heh), but it'd be nice to sort out that 1% of possibility before I tell myself to move on, I guess.

>>17218587
Yeah I'd say go for it! I mean who knows, better to have certainty or closure than wondering forever what might have been.

Why would a guy date me 2 months, tell me that I'm the whole package, go on about how I'm way out of his league, admit to loving me.. and then just friend zone me?

I was infatuated with this asshole and he never seemed to truly believe that I was. Are some guys really so insecure that they can't have relationships?

>>17218618
Because he wanted to have sex with you?

>>17218618
>Are some guys really so insecure that they can't have relationships?

Yes.

Bullied in school, was that wierdo everyone picked on because he was an easy target. Was the "creep".

In the long term it fucked with my head. I cannot interact romantically with women.
I can love, but I cannot show it.

I've straight up had girls ask me if I were gay because I hadn't made a move on them, full on tell me they like me and shit... It's just always feels wrong, like it's some sort of set up to fuck with me, and now I have this mental wall blocking me from making a move.

So yes.
Some guys are so insecure they cannot have relationships.

>>17218627
It hurts me he never believed I could love him. Should I just give up hope?
>>17218620
We never even fucked. He did eat me out probably 5 times if that counts.

>>17218618
Maybe he just wanted to fuck you? I don't know if you're aware but guys will do and say almost anything to get laid.

>>17218627
the first time you have sex u will make this disappear

>>17218638
Well then you just dated a retard I guess

>>17218546
>>17218441
I seriously doubt the diagnosis of DID is accurate in your situation, anon. From reading your entire description, BPD (borderline personality disorder) sounds far more appropriate (ie you cycle between the classic cluster-B dominant type and the BPD/avoidant subtype, sounds exactly like how you describe your 2 different personalities).

Unfortunately, yes this means medication will only reduce some of the symptoms at best, and I wouldn't personally go with antipsychotics. Mood stabilizers (ie medication for bipolar) stand a good chance of helping though (and are far more tolerable, some have only minor common side effects). They don't suppress any part of you, the goal of the treatment is to help you integrate the two separate personalities into a unified whole, ie no more 2 people in 1 body, just 1 person with different sides of a single personality. These meds help by reducing mood swings and evening out the unpredictable shifts between them, and helping you get into and maintain an in-between/combined state. Have you tried any? Topamax, Tegretol, Depakote, and Lamictal are often used, for example.

>>17218515
>I'm going to target her "friends" who I know would have spread bullshit lies about me
Don't do that. Let it go, it's healthier. You have your own problems to worry about, and trust me, it won't make you any happier. Remember that catharsis does not work well for people like you (ie your dominant personality), it often just makes you want more and more of it, and eventually NEED it, like a drug. You know the story of Jekyll and Hyde, don't you?

>>17218618
>Are some guys really so insecure that they can't have relationships?
Nope, a relationship is never truly impossible except with people that physically cannot participate in romantic attachment (eg sociopaths or hardened schizoids). That said, deep insecurities often make relationships much, much more difficult. Maybe too difficult, in your case.

>>17218638
>Should I just give up hope?
With him? Probably. Either he just wanted the sex (like other anons said), or he's got deep-rooted issues to work out (with mental health professionals).
Just move on.

>>17218627
Work on your fears. I know how you feel, i'm >>17217907. See that pic? It took me 6 months to work up the courage to message that girl (had to fight all those feels about how i shouldn't be talking to her, she's amazing and i'm a fucked-up lunatic, she must only want to talk to me out of pity, should leave her alone, etc). But I eventually managed. You can too.

I want to be single for the rest of my life (female, 23). Are there any tips can I make non conventional social circles work as a support system for me when all my friends/room mates pair up? I'm getting lonely at my age. Are there dorms/villages for people who are too old for college but too young for retirement villages?

>>17218849
>I want to be single for the rest of my life (female, 23)
>I'm getting lonely at my age.
Usually people fix loneliness by not being alone.
Why exactly do you want to die single? Not a fan of men (or women)?

How true is it that in general the AVERAGE woman just lays there during sex?

>>17218876
I'm aromantic asexual. Ideally, I would like a "family of friends" as my closest relationship in life but most people just see that arrangement as a transitional lifestyle between college and getting a serious relationship. I'm looking to find a place to live that also acts as a social support because I know getting my perfect asexual lifestyle is not likely to happen.

>>17218018
Either. I went to a "massage clinic", so I told her when I met her.

>>17218332
From my observations, I think they are AT MOST as popular as blondes. All redheads are crazy, though.

>>17218834
After doing some reading you're probably right about me being borderline.

>the goal of the treatment is to help you integrate the two separate personalities into a unified whole
That's the goal but drugs don't do that, drugs chip away at small parts of you, typically the negative side, replacing it with fake emotions and thoughts. That isn't at all desirable to me, I've been this way since I was young, I'm come to rely on both my personalities at different stages in my life and I don't see any reason to give that up.

Before I stopped seeing my doctors and shrinks I was on injections. I've never heard of any of the drugs you've listed but after stopping they tried to put me on oxprenolol, xanax, remeron and effoxor, I sold the xanax but I still have the other scripts.

>Remember that catharsis does not work well for people like you
That's for the reminder. Are you an actual shrink?

>>17218441
>I have dissociative identity disorder and at least two personalities that I am aware of, one is extremely shy and introverted with no self esteem and the other is confident, methodical and aggressive.
>Four months ago I became friends with a very cute Jehovah witness
Okay, I'm stopping there, this is clearly the plot of a cheap romcom.

>>17218880
I don't think very true at all, but I can just speak for myself and friends/exes, but sex is way better if I'm "participating" so to speak, which I thought was true for anyone.
Now of course there's girls who have sex simply as a duty to their husband or something who don't have much of a libido at all so maybe it's true for those.

>>17218849

Dude wat
25 forever alone here and you're doing it fucking wrong if you're lonely already, just how? Why even strive to be alone at that point?
My only concern about being alone is what I'll do when I'm too old to take care of myself, and who will look after my future garden and dogs if I ever go away or get sick.

Go take a fucking cooking class or something if you want some more friends, you don't need a fucking hippy commune.

>>17218946
I think you just need to stop watching TV, leave the internet and learn about the real world.

>>17218981
The thing is I already make friends at my hobby groups for sports and art. It's just that those friends don't have the time to be the close kind of friends because they have a relationship (bf/gf or married) to keep them busy. The loneliness mainly stems from not being able to have a social life like I did in college and I want something similar without having to compromise my needs.

So I am a girl and I told a guy friend that I think my coworker is kind of cute. He doesnt really react. Is this a sign that he is into me?
>inb4 this is minor

>>17219038
No.

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>>17219038
Eh, I'd brush something like that off because it's not much to go on. If I'm talking to a gal I'm friends with about some girl I'm keen on I'll give more details than "shes cute", because fuck 80% of women are at least kinda cute if they take care of their body.

>>17218849
>I want to be single for the rest of my life (female, 23).
> I'm getting lonely at my age.
Why though

>>17218641
Losing virginity is not some kind of cure all

>Wana meet internt frind for the first tiem
>He said he wants to brng brother along
>Stil hasnt asked broher even though this wsa a month ago
Is this a red flag? Shuld I not meet him? (Am femanon btw)

>>17219076
Yes. And why does he want to bring brother along? Is he into double penetration?

>>17219085
His brther is a hitory major so he knws more about the historiacl attractions
You thnk he wants sex? He may not evn be attrcted to me

Any advice for a shy guy who went from ugly to good looking and doesnt know how to handle female attention? I can see women want me to initiate and talk to them but Im like crippled and cant. Some of these girls are fucking hot too 8/10 looks wise. Girls have caught me mirin them and some will flash a smile and I had some come over and talk to me.

Why I need help example: I was hanging out with my friends and group, so i went to go sit down because i got tired. Then 9/10 in the group, one of the prettiest girls i've ever seen. This girl comes over to me and sits down and goes looks like you need someone to talk to and my mind just blanked out and i think i ended up being kind of a dick which id imagine she isnt use to.

>>17219156
let yourself enjoy the attention dude

>>17219073
>Losing virginity is not some kind of cure all
It is if all you can think about is losing your virginity.

If you aren't a guy you wouldn't understand.

>>17216455

Wut. You sure? It's not just acquiring panties for the sake of panties, it's because what is done in and how dirty they are.

Why did I listen to my friend and give myself mutton chops?

>>17216007
It wouldn't personally turn me on but I'd appreciate a guy who understands the awesomeness of expensive lingerie.

GIRLS:

If you and your boyfriend broke up after a fight, but still have feelings for each other and both want to get back together, but the girl is being very stubborn and trying not to accept that it was wrong to break up...

How would you feel if your ex-boyfriend texted one of your female best friends asking about you? Like how you're doing, if you're seeing anyone, why she isn't reaching out to you, etc.

I'm considering doing this, but I'm afraid it might be a huge mistake.

>>17219454
Don't do it, she sounds immature and I'd advise you to move on to someone who can actually handle a relationship but if you love her and want to repair it I wouldn't ask her friends, they'll go straight to her with it.

>>17219454
that's kinda creepy and weird dude, i wouldn't do it

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>>17219495
Appallingly bad advice.

>>17219499
>>17219493
>>17219495
Nah you guys are right, except the anime guy.

Definitely talked me down from that one. I'm just getting mindfucked by my ex's behavior lately. It's like she's turned into her High School self again.

I guess I'll just give her space and try to move on.

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>>17219505
I'm the anime guy. >>17219493

Don't like it leave my thread faggot otherwise I'll continue to be the only person here giving actual advice.

>>17219511
You're not giving advice you're just a weird weeaboo kid with no friends who has nothing to do but shitpost

>>17219518
Kek. Loving it. No friends but a loving wife, sounds right. You're right about me having nothing to do, I'm an insomniac so I'm up all night.

Lets turn this into a pissing match, post your bank account for me.

>>17218469
Yes, one on one doesn't do it anymore.

>>17219847
I've never heard of that, is it just the extra amount of stimulation or whatever? I mean if you can get off fine by yourself that can't be it, right?

How do I get a MILF?

>>17219404

Kek, I wish we could go pantie shopping in person.
What are your favorite pairs?

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>>17220352
I've got this white lacy pair with high garters and a matching snowflake bra, so it's kinda see-through but not quite. It's super cute.
kinda like pic related, but white and two part.

>>17220374
That's hot as fuck.

>>17220508
The picture or my lingerie or both? Because I agree anyway.

>>17220523
Both.