People, is being attracted to sense of humour, speech defects,

People get too hung up on classification and compartmentalizing this shit.

If you are ONLY attracted to their sense of humor, speech defects, and gestures then yes it's PROBABLY infatuation - but these attractions can obviously also exist if you really do love someone.

IMO the line between love and infatuation comes when you can come to really understand and accept someone's flaws yet still care deeply for them and when you can honestly think "This is my partner (in life)." Marriage and all of that other stuff is when you formalize it, reinforce all the bonds and ties, and make it official.

>>17200534
Okay, next question then
Am I still not gotten over if my heart instantly warms, when I see a different person acting similar?
Is it simply because of good memories?
>The person I talk about was the first to be truly nice to me
Or is it some duckling syndrome?

what is infatuation

>>17201114
Crushing hard on someone, seeing bits of them in everything, focusing on all the qualities that attract you

I think you need to split the problem in two. Infatuation typically refers to having a short term crush. Shallowness typically refers to being attracted to a superficial trait. That's two different subjects to discuss. Someone can be infatuated by both shallow and non-shallow traits. Whether something is shallow is, of course, quite subjective. Typically, traits which depends on physical appearance are considered to fall on the shallow side.