So /adv/ let's have a talk. I recently got out of a relationship

File: chesterbrownmatthew.gif (17KB, 460x459px) Image search: [Google]

17KB, 460x459px

>>17191073
Bang her in the ass.

>You'll thank me later.

>>17191073
Yeah, I think a lot of people have made that mistake of getting into a new relationship too soon and being emotionally distant out of fear. And if they keep up the emotionally distant act it only ends in one way: hurting the other person to the point where they become emotionally distant as well and the relationship implodes.

There are two possible fixes to this: 1 - Admit to yourself that you're not ready to jump into a new relationship because you haven't worked on yourself enough yet, and you'll only unnecessarily hurt this person if you stay

or 2: Realize that your fears are irrational and as long as you hold on to them you will be a self fulfilling prophecy, stop being emotionally cold, and open yourself up to this new person

I appreciate the advice. Also, she is an extremely nice person, her ex keeps texting her and to my knowledge (i've seen her do this) she ignores or tells him she doesn't want to talk. However, she never really blocks him or deletes his number. Do you think this is something to be concerned about?

>>17191130
Yes but it is quite early in the relationship to ask her to cut him Out. If you think you two are close enough to do it, just tell her. Might as well find out now and not later right?

As for the heartbreak, I recommend just letting yourself fall completely in love and then getting heartbroken. I've done it enough that it doesn't even hurt anymore. 10/10 would recommend.

File: 1463464336750.jpg (191KB, 1280x720px) Image search: [Google]

191KB, 1280x720px

>>17191073
You are practically the polar opposite of me.

First long term relationship exploded violently, I've been emotionally flat and distant ever since. Also completely demotivated as far as dating is concerned, even had chick's be interested in thought were attractive and I lacked any desire to try.

And I know trying to involve myself with someone is only going to fuck them up emotionally, I pretty much feel like trying to foster a relationship with me is like trying to grow flowers in the Sahara.

But the problem is I don't feel like I'm entirely moving on without dating someone. Sure I'm more or less over my ex, but she was a huge part of my life during one of its most eventful times. And here I am during one of my life's most slow and boring periods, when relating with people you can't help but bring her up mentally at the very least.