ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

What was the hair color of the first girl you raped?

There's a girl who I'll call A, who I've been studying with every once in a while at school, who is not in any of my classes, but we know each other from high school.
We went out a couple weeks ago for some beer and food, had a good time just walking around the city.
I'm in a relationship, and I don't really hold a true attraction to this girl, I just see it as friends hanging out.
Thing is, I think A might like me. A sends me snaps almost every day (is that a sign? im 25, so I dont know if thats common) and she recently broke up with her boyfriend.

Today A told me to come meet her and her friend she's told me about beforehand (who just broke up with her BF last week) at some food place at school, so I did, her name is M.
M and I made a lot of eye contact, I definitely felt more attracted to her, and I even ended up inviting her to a hangout with me and A.

How do I explain that I will go out to drink with 2 girls to my girlfriend? My GF and I have been on the rocks a lot lately, calling breaks into session and basically just acting like yo-yos, which leads me to my special bonus question:

***DARK SIDE QUESTION*** BEWARE***
How do I get a threesome out of this?

anyway to win back a girl who's lost interest?
met girl, mutual interest
we werent able to date much because of school work schedules. talk/text/sext for about 3 months few dates here and there
4th month in we start talking less.
i ask "whats up, did i do something wrong/ something happen?"
tells me she was depressed, and shes not the same person when we met
now she's spending time with her friends mostly, but theres this guy i can see she's getting close to.

i still like her and i dont know what to do

He called me his sister's name by accident while we were talking about something

does this mean I'm doomed and he doesn't see me in a romantic light? We're just friends right now

>>17156317
No, it just means he's comfortable with you. Stop overanalyzing a Freudian slip.

>>17156339
Ok thanks anon. i'm just an easily excited person and jumped into overdrive

>>17156306
Read the FAQ, fucktard

>>17156254
Why do you girls string guys along up until we meet somebody else, and only then do you decide you're interested

It's like you fucks just relish in watching us struggle

>>17156380
Guy here. Stop struggling you giant pussy. If she liked you it would be easy.

>>17156254
If a girl asks ME out on a date, should I be prepared to pay for my own or assume that she's paying?

>>17156466
The same as what a girl should do if she's asked out. Offer to pay if they don't say in advance what's going to happen, but accept it if they want to pay.

asking out friends..

>friends with girl for about 6 months
>initially asked her out when i first met her, but the date never happened (got busy, etc)
>now in summer course together at uni
>i drive her to/from class (we both live in off campus apartments, she would be taking a bus that runs only every few hours if i didnt offer to drive her)
>lab partners
>pretty much the only other person we know in the class

i want to ask her out again and be more concrete about it..but im afraid she'll say yes just because she kind of "relies" on me in small ways to get through class. i don't want her to think that if she says no i'll stop driving her or stop helping her with labs..

am i overthinking it? she's 20 so it's not like shes a child or anything

Guy here, what do women think of a guy who doesn't drink?

>>17156563
idk offering to drive a girl you're interested in- is gonna make things really weird.

I'd move on to other girls and give some time between the summer and fall classes, to come back to asking her out again.

A lot of college guys have been in your spot but if you don't follow up with asking her out a second time before the summer class, I'd just follow what I mentioned above.

>>17156563
maybe preface it by saying that she shouldn't feel obligated and you're happy to keep driving her if she says no/you still value her friendship. but honestly... i'd probably leave it unless there are some definitive signs she's into you too.

>>17156639
the summer class has already started, and i've been driving her for 2 weeks now.

my main qualm is the labs typically run 6-9:30 and the city buses don't even run that late during summer, so if she was afraid of me just ditching her it would be a legitimate problem for her.

i'm afraid that waiting will just solidify my position in the "friend zone" even more. i want her to say yes or no just so i can move on with my life, in a way.

For the ladies here, would you tell a guy you want to adopt a dog with him, get a key to his house, ask for back rubs, talk about how we're gonna spend every day together, talk about going to beauty school together (I'm not serious about it but she thinks I am), try to get matching t shirts, and all kinds of other "couple" stuff with a guy if you just wanted to be friends? This girl is throwing me off so hard and I don't know how to handle it.

>>17156644
Honestly, you're in a spot a lot of guys fall into - I do stuff for this girl, so her being nice over times means interest level. I've fallen into that as well, when I was younger.

I would just say to move on for now because if she said yes way back ago or (obviously) hinted at it heavily then you would not be here.

She's gonna say no, and you're gonna feel like an idiot for putting her in an awkward spot and you hearing an answer you expected.

You got your no when she said no before 'busy' a few times without offering trying to negotiate is a 'no' to a date. Ask a girl out twice, and two iffy's or no's = move on.

I hate sounding direct and possibly negative, I want people to find love and happiness but stop being stubborn and tunnel vision on one girl. Hundreds of single girls in you area, take out 75% of them because you picky and still have a ton of girls to talk to.

But do follow the two asks and if iffy's or nos and move on. It works pretty well, well for me.

>>17156653
>talk about going to beauty school together
You're her gay BFF

Guys, how much of an impact does sweating have on your attraction to a woman?

>>17156671
we've been friends for 6 months and never really get on eachothers nerves so i'd reckon she's worth the "second" shot

she did say "yes" the first time and we even talked about date ideas but that was during winter vacation while she was away from school and then classes started and i think it's reasonable for her to be too "busy" to go on dates and stuff

i'll try to get a straight answer out of her tomorrow. i kind of want her just to say no so i can move on, but my fear is that she wont.

>>17156672
nah it's not like that. She brought it up one day and I was just like "oh yeah that sounds pretty fun I'm sure you'll enjoy it" and she flipped out and was like "you should totally go with me!" and I just kinda agreed cause it would give me an excuse to hang out.

I can see how it'd look like that from the outside looking in though.

After slowly drifting farther and farther apart from one another because of a fight we got into, a girl I used to be really close to finally cut all forms of contact from me. I still have her skype in my contacts, it's just not registered as mutual. Should I just leave her be for good or try to keep the relationship alive. For the longest time she made an effort to message me every once in a while to try and start talking again, but it was mostly just to check if I "still hated her" which I didn't and always reassured her of. I don't think she ever believed me though because whenever she messaged me she always seemed a little sadder than the last time. Now that she finally removed me from every form of contact, I just wonder if I should go back one last time and at least properly say goodbye.

TL;DR
Should I try to get back in contact with a girl to properly say goodbye

>>17156694
Six months and friends? You're gonna make this hella embarrassing.

If she's given off no indication like her talking about being single, a lot of free time, etc - you may be just a friend. A lot of girls make it OBVIOUS if they want to go on a date, if she hasn't done it in six months you're oblivious or she has not done it.

But hey, go for it. You're not really look for advice, you want someone to tell you to go for it. Go for it, whats the worse to lose.

>>17156706
That's not really convincing me that you're not her gay BFF, all that did was give me an origin story of where it came from.

>>17156710
Meh. It's not like that and we're both very aware lol

>>17156691
Not much
If you keep yourself clean and all of that its fine

What would you talk about to someone you have just met ?

>>17156882
Our interests, funny stories about our lives, plans for the future.

Girls.

Why dont you arch your back properly during doggy? Its literally the worst thing you can (not) do.

>>17156380

Reverse happened to my girlfriend when she met me. Dude she had a crush on friend zoned her. We met, he changed his tune (we were on our first trip as a couple when he started blowing up her phone), she told him to fuck off.

Guys do this shit too apparently.

>>17156691
>Guys, how much of an impact does sweating have on your attraction to a woman?

I imagine the same as it does on guys; As long as you don't smell like the inside of a comic convention, whatever. In fact there are times it can actually be kind of attractive (like when working out and whatnot).

>>17156707
>Should I try to get back in contact with a girl to properly say goodbye

And what exactly would that accomplish, except to open wounds and drag up old shit?

>Men

I did something awful. I went to a website to ask people what I should do about my husband's roughhousing. They all replied and told me to get out, divorce him, that he is an abuser, and so on. My husband found the site in question last night and is in deep shock over what people are saying.

Now he's saying that he won't touch me anymore and looks afraid of me. He and I just hugged and cuddled, initiated by him, but I could tell its not the same, like he is holding himself back.

It wasn't my intention to put something like that out there just to have people tell me that I married an abuser. All he did was roughhouse with me a bit too hard sometimes and I wanted advice on how to get him to lessen the severity, not how to divorce him.

I am so sad of what's happened and wished I never asked online about it. What do I do? I am racked with guilt and hurt somebody I love very much over something really stupid.

Girl likes my like for inbox status, proceeds to message for a bit and she just one word msgs me. Why?

>>17157147
I've watched enough porn to know that my back needs to be arched and my ass needs to be up.

However, this does get painful over long periods of time. And I do have to straighten my back momentarily during the act every once in a while.

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>>17157233
Why didn't you just talk to him? Go apologize and give it time, he will eventually get over it

>>17157239
Nothing to talk about?

>>17157147
I do... or at least I think I do? What's the proper way of doing it?

>>17157233
What kind of roughhousing are we talking about? Is he trying to wrestle or something?

>>17157252

I apologized to him and we talked about the limits of playing physical in the house. He still seems sad and a bit shocked, but I told him that it wasn't me who called him an abuser, it was a bunch of faceless strangers who did and don't even know who he is as a person to make such terrible statements.

I told him I was sorry and that I won't go online for this sort of thing again. I feel terrible, I won't do it again.

>>17157267

You know, wrestling, play biting, grabbing my waist, pinning me down, etc. Supposed to be playful but he underestimates his own strength sometimes. He's no body builder but I am a weak person.

>>17157284
Does he stop when you tell him to? Did you ever try to tell him to be easier on you?

>>17157284
Have you ever once told him to ease up? Or did a bunch of internet strangers know before he did?

>>17157286
>>17157288

I did tell him to be more careful next time, but I guess he forgets. We are okay again, and I'd like to thank you both for the advice.

Do you suppose he just needs a physical hobby to get rid of all that energy he has? He gets very hyper and almost violent, not in a scary way, but he likes to run around and make noise. He especially gets like that if he consumes sugar.

Maybe I should get him to take up boxing or something?

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Ladies(only ladies) what do you think about men with long hair? Is it cute, sexy, and attractive?

Or is it too girly?

As seen in this thread >>17157338

>>17157253
no i ask her questions but she just gives me one word responses and never puts any effort to make convo. She might start covo "Hello :)" but after that no real responses

>>17157408
I think "boy", not "man".

>>17157408
I like it if they can pull it off, if it actually flatters them. If they have hair that doesn't look good long, or it doesn't suit their face (for example if they have a long, narrow face), it looks bad if they insist on wearing it that way.
Well groomed, nice looking long hair is a plus because it stands out and, depending on the crowd, shows some guts.

>>17157408
Ugly. It's a huge turn off. I can't help it.

>>17157430
Not trying to argue just adding as a discussion.

I never saw kids, teenagers, or younger men with long hair It was always the sex symbols or celebrity men that had long hair. Now more than ever. Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Chris hemsworth, Christian Bale, Ashton Kutcher, Johnny Depp, Keanu Reeves, Orlando Bloom, Curt kobain(and literally every other rocker), Jake Gyllenhaal, and of course Fabio. These are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head.

I always thought the big "heartthrobs" and romantics always had long hair. I don't know though, that's why I'm askin! :D

>>17157454
Long hair isn't what makes them heartthrobs. Already having heartthrob status is what enables them to pull off just about any look they want.

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Girls and guys, what are your thoughts on pic related?

Is my gf autistic or something?

She's naive, trusting and obeys rules to the letter. She's a very picky eater and she's particular about having the softest possible clothes, bedding, etc. She's extremely adept at shutting off thoughts she doesn't like. She's a self-confessed prude and can't say words like "sex" out loud. She's a very shy, anxious and indecisive person with low self-esteem. She's also lovely, but I worry about her so much.

>>17157505
Seems like a lazy graphic made by a teenage redditor. Go back there.

Men and women are not the same and cannot be held to the same standard. That's just common knowledge.

>>17157505
I agree that these double standards exist, but I don't think they have much to do with attempting to accomplish gender equality, other than that obviously it's not ideal (yet).

Also a few of these boil down to the stereotype that men are not choosy about sexual attention (provided it's from women) and are in general highly sexual creatures. Obviously that comes with undesirable outcomes and beliefs, but I think this issue will be a difficult one to tackle because it is upheld not just by the media and women, but also very fiercely by men. There are many men who pride themselves in an extreme way on their hypersexuality and will be quick to call men who are more nuanced on that gay, guys with apparently low testerone etc. These are also happy to confirm the stereotypes and spread the idea that men think about sex 24/7 and want it from any available woman.

That does not detract in any way from the gravity of male victims of sexual assault not being taken seriously, it just stood out to me that multiple of the situations in the picture boil down to this belief. And as I said I think that one will be particularly difficult to challenge.

>>17157505
It is stupid (and annoyingly pixelated).

Most people do agree that violence is always out of question. If they justify women violence, they're idiots.
Giving someone unwanted attentions (kisses, staring, touching, etc) is always disrespectful.
No one really cares about splitting the bill anymore, I splitted the bill at most of my first dates (but if a guy asks me out I expect him at least to offer to pay, heh).
No one thinks a dude is perverted if he inadvertently walks in a women bathroom.
Women doing work is as natural as men doing work. Offering to help someone weaker than you is normal courtesy - I am a girl and I offer old ladies to move heavy weights.

Men, are you actually happy to see a girl/talk to a girl when you get a boner?

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Is there a way to notice if a girl just likes playing with guy's emotions early?
Because I don't want to fall into that trap again.

>>17157531
If she's good at it and/or you're easy fodder, no.

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>boys
What does it feel like spooning a girl?
>girls
what does it feel like being spooned?

>>17157541
Then what the fuck should I do?

>>17157542
Makes me feel small and safe.
I loved doing it with my ex (he was 35 cm taller than me). It was so sweet. I can't sleep like that, but we used to watch lots of movies.

>>17157542
Pretty much as great as you imagine, if you like cuddling in general. Warm, safe, comforting, intimate. I only did it with a guy around my same height and it felt so natural too, like fitting together like two puzzle pieces. Also really nice to have my bum fit right up against his crotch. Really good to fall asleep like that then wake up and having his morning boner against your ass be the first thing you become aware of.

Being the big spoon is nice as well.

>Text her " Good morning sunshine" in the morning (obviously)
>She answers "Good afternoon sir" in my language in the afternoon (obviously)
>asks me why I'm so joyful today
>proceed on a lengthy rant about busy day full of hyperboles she sends to find amusing
>asks me if I'm going tonight since I study late and start the next day early
>say I dunno. Ask her if she has plans of her own
>"Going to the club with a guy named [my name]"
>answer she would need to rescue him from his classmates
>replies with :/
Is this just friendly chat? We always party together for context

>>17157542
I always try knifing a girl before spooning her. She doesn't struggle as much this way.

>>17157542
It's nice for a bit, then you get sweaty and/or clammy, her hair is in your face, your arm goes to sleep and you end up either holding in farts or ruining the mood.

>>17157561
:/

What can I do to improve my confidence in approaching women? I get laid via tinder fairly regularly but I think I would quite like to find someone worth dating now. Where should I be looking and how do I go about it?

All the women in my university classes are all very average looking and 'basic' or have boyfriends. I've tried asking out female friends before but my reputation of sleeping around isn't doing me any favours.

So if you confess feelings to someone and they don't reciprocate, is it selfish to cut contact? Do you really not care about them enough as a person to stay friends or is it really just too painful not to be with them and hear about their crushes/relationships/etc.?

>>17156691
Sweat is ok, so not much.
Smelling of unshowered sweat is entirely different

>>17157517
Boners are random. Doesn't mean anything alone.

>>17157561
We aren't mind readers. It isn't obvious one way or another.

>>17157690
k thanks

>>17157654
Maybe it is selfish, Maybe its a sign of immaturity some would say it makes you a lot of bad things but, I honestly don't care. Think of me what you will. I have cut contact numerous times over this shit.
but, fuck it. That shit hurts to much and just like they are free to reject your feelings at a moments notice. You are free to cut contact with them.
I'd rather be all of those bad things then be stuck to someone who causes me emotional pain intentionally or not.

>>17157649
If you don't want an average woman, go to places where average women don't go. Lectures that charge a small fee, for example. Bonus if there's a discussion part or drinks afterwards are officially included.
If you personally have a hobby that lends itself to a specific club (like a reading circle) that is also great. You get to hang out in an environment without pressure, multiple times, and if you are knowledgable and passionate about the subject matter that instantly makes you more attractive. Also, you have at least one thing in common. Downside is that there's likely a limited amount of people and if you have to resort to the social circle of someone you meet there it turns into a very long term strategy.

Stuff like cooking classes or dancing classes (where guys are usually also in the minority) are also very good. It breaks the ice to do an activity together and you have to pair up.

Most people meet each other through friends, at parties or social gathering. This is also an option. Sift through your guy friends to find the ones with good connections/parties.

And, of course, if you want to attract a beautiful woman who has a lot going for her, you better be able to bring a lot to the table yourself.

>>17157654
>Is it selfish to cut contact?
No.

Unless you two are actually good friends. Really good friends. Most of the time these women offer "friendship" but don't intend to follow through with it. They just like the idea at the time.

But if you can actually hack it, friendship is not a bad idea. Done properly, friendship is an incredibly valuable thing, and severely underrated especially between men and women.

Girls, is it sexist of I want to be the only guy in a threesome/orgy?

>>17157713
I think any man who wouldn't even consider experimenting with another man is a bigot.

>>17157542
Cuts off circulation to your arm but it feels pretty good regardless.

>>17157730
I think you need to pick up a fucking dictionary.

>>17156317
No
Hell my ex and sister have similar names and we were all talking together and i mixed them up
Im bad with names

>>17157506
On the spectrum maybe yeah
Similar to me and my female friend
Its not bad as people think shes just different but yes you will worry about a person like that a lot

>>17157542
Love it, its soft, warm and just relaxing but it kills your arm circulation
Thats also why i love short girls
And i got too used to it, now i cant sleep at all

>>17156317
Yes, it means he want to give his sister the D.
because he's a siscon

Guys:

Do your balls float in the bathtub?

Also, three good ways to tell a guy I like him discreetly?

>>17157713
Nah but you should expand your mind because you just may find you like dick in your booty hole.

>>17157831
Haven't bathed in a bathtub in forever, mostly showers where I live, but no, my balls don't float.

And if you like a guy, literally tell him.

SO same question to you girls, except instead of balls, do your boobs float?

I bought my boyfriend several new shirts last Saturday and I haven't seen him wear a single one yet even though I've seen him every day since then. When I confronted him, he said he hasn't washed them yet but I know he did laundry on Sunday. Should I confront him again and take the shirts back to the store for a refund?

>>17157846
They're brand new shirts, he probably doesn't want to dirty them too soon.

Do you know what his wardrobe is like?

>>17157831
>Do your balls float in the bathtub?
No.
Do your breasts float in bathtub?

>>17157852
Yes. Fat is buoyant.

>>17157855
Have you ever used your boobs as pillows?

I like boobs.

>>17157831
>Do your balls float in the bathtub?
No.
>Also, three good ways to tell a guy I like him discreetly?
Ask if you can see his balls float in the bathtub.

>>17157846
Maybe he only did the dirty laundry breh. Or he didn't think it was a priority but realized he'd hurt your strange woman feelings somehow when you asked and just bullshitted.

>>17157517
Sometimes, but sometimes it's a random boner.

>>17157859
A pillow for myself? No, not big enough for that. Others have used them though.

>>17157831
No idea

Just tell him "i like you" and then yes for real and yes like like you

>>17157831
Dicks float, but balls don't.

Girls: what is your cup size and do you wish your boobs were bigger or smaller?

>>17157878
B or C depending on the bra. Honestly, I am more happy with them now than I've ever been, but occasionally I'll find myself wishing they were bigger

>>17157878
Normally D cup, but currently F after two pregnancies back-to-back. I'd like to eventually get back to where I was before.

>>17157888
Do the just keeep going if you have more pregnancies?

>>17157891
I don't know. I don't plan on trying.

>>17157878
D. They're pretty cute, but they hurt my back. Wish they were a bit smaller.

>>17157713
No, the only thing I'd consider sexist in this regard is to naturally expect the girl to be up for some girl/girl action while you shudder at the thought of being with a guy yourself.
No one picks their turn ons.

>>17157310
A martial art could help with that. Learning discipline and body control. Perhaps an art like Brazilian jujutsu in which most gyms spar.

>>17157878
Ds, but 28D so they are not that impressively big, they feel averageish to me. I'm fine with them, but if I had to choose between one cupsize bigger or smaller I'd go smaller. More practical and you know they're likely going to grow with pregnancy anyway...

>>17157542
It feel heavenly. yeah cuts off circulation to the arm but, it feels so nice, the way a female body curves. I miss that feeling so much.

Guys

I slept over at a guys house last night. I've been talking to him for about three weeks now. We drank some wine, smoked some weed, and listened to some music. Pretty chill date. We didn't have sex though, I just fell asleep in his bed. And I'm pretty sure he didn't want to anyways, which is cool, just hanging with him was really enjoyable. I'm not sure where to take this now. Should I message him? Should I get his number? (We only been communicating through snapchat) He mentioned he isn't a texting person so that's why I haven't really asked for his number. I haven't added him on any social media either. I haven't dated in awhile so in unsure what steps to take next. Would like to hangout with him again but I don't want to seem too desperate.

>>17157994
Guys are better than girls when it comes to that crap
You just ask away
Hey can i get your number or text him if he's free sometime soon or whatever and hang out you really cant fuck up

Im not a texting person and im not on social media but i use as a means to talk to people i cant see or hear from easily

>>17158000
Okay I'll just ask away then. Maybe I'm overthinking this, but if a guy is interested isn't he usually the one who makes the move to ask to see the girl again? I'm the one who asked him if he wanted to hangout. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind asking, but I've been told that if a guy likes you he will make it obvious.

>>17158009
Well not really because well take a look at your post
See how many thing you listed?
Now imagine how many you can think of in general and how girls play mindgames with guys
You dont want to push it or leave it for too long as well

Both girls i dated made the first move and i never made a move so i wouldn't know to be honest but some guys ask first some wont

>>17158020
Yeah makes sense. I'm at the age where I don't want to play the whole "let him wait" kind of game. I want to know straight up and not play any of those mind games anymore.

In the past when I've spent time with guys at their house like last night, it's almost always ended in sex. I'm wondering what his reasoninga were to not having sex? I guess I'm just surprised that a dude who has a girl on his bed wouldn't take advantage of that.

Girls

Does it actually feel different/better doing it with a guy that's not using a condom as opposed to using one?

My current girlfriend told me this yesterday after we did it without a condom for the first time and it kind of took me by surprise. I never actually thought about it and just kind of assumed that there's no difference for you.

>>17157994
Just casually ask him out again, say you had fun being around him. This would get the message across that you're actually interested in him, and not just wanting to hang out as friends.

>>17156707
Leave it. The relationship died and she's made that pretty clear.

>>17158031
I had a night with a girl i liked like thst without weed and shit but talking all night and sleeping next to each other and there wasnt sex, nothing's wrong with that
Sometimes you would rather spend time with a person thsn just having sex for the sake of sex

And making a guy wait or playing hard to get abd al those games is plain stupid
You cant go wrong with anything really

Ask away, text him, call him. Whatever you do wil be fine and just get closer to him over the night and try a kiss or cudde or tell him bluntly and it will all be fine

Sorry if i wrote that like crap but tgey updated my google keyboard thing abd i cant fing my settings and its different so yeah im lost now

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>>17157860
>>Do your balls float in the bathtub?
>No.
>>Also, three good ways to tell a guy I like him discreetly?
>Ask if you can see his balls float in the bathtub.
I had a good laugh

>>17157542
>what does it feel like being spooned?
Good. And I like feeling his boner against my ass.

>>17158034
For me there is no difference. The thing that makes sex better without a condom is the thought of there being no condom. Feels naughty and risky which makes sex more exciting.

Is it common for women to lead men on until the point where they'd be together? Then disappear?

I had a girl add me on Facebook from work and she showed all the signs of wanting to be together (without me trying to move things forward). We had a good night out and kissed multiple times. She told me the next day she was too scared to move this fast with someone because she's been single for so long. I tried to stress that I'd take it slow. We haven't spoken in over two weeks. I saw her in person the other day and she smiled and waved at me. I hardly had a reaction. So confused.

>>17158034
>>17158055
>The thing that makes sex better without a condom is the thought of there being no condom.
Agreed. I'm on birth control so not much risk.

>>17157510
Deluded. Get out more.

>>17158044
Unfortunately we weren't laying next to each other talking but eventually he decided to fall asleep long after I did. Cool then I don't have much to worry about. Thanks for advice I just didn't want to seem too pushy by asking to see him again.

>>17157730
If he doesn't like men then he doesn't like men you fucking moron. I'll agree he shouldn't expect the girl to automatically be okay with adding another woman (because she may well not be bi/gay herself), but fuck, you're stupid.

>>17158067
Nah you cant be pushy by asking or saying hey i had a great day and id like to do it again
Next time try to relax and lay really close to him and see where it goes

Im dense so my ex had to grab my hand pull me closer and tell me she wants to sleep next to me while i hold her

Girls, do you get turned on if someone you like intimately plays with your breasts/ nipples? And how does it feel to you?

>>17157831
>Also, three good ways to tell a guy I like him discreetly?
Discreet is bad. Be up front. You're only hurting yourself and him quite frankly.

>>17158082
I have large boobs and they're not really sensible. I like it, in general - I love having guy playing with them or sucking on them even if I can't feel much. I love watching him doing it, mostly because I know it gets him off.

>>17158082
I don't get turned on but I know most guys like it so I'm okay with it.

>>17158082
I like it, but only in sexual situations. If they call attention to my boobs constantly like in public or whatever it's annoying

>>17158082
I feel nothing, but it's nice thinking he's enjoying it.

Men, would you rather
>be thin and date a (really) fat girl or
>be fat and date a thin girl (who has a shit personality, and chances of you finding another girl are next to none because you're a lardass)?
Assume being single isn't an option, you have to pick one.

>ask girl out monday
>says she'll have to check her schedule
>today, ask her if she's had a chance to check it
>says she's been busy and hasnt had a chance to check it yet

she's just not interested right? i told her to not worry about it (meaning i was no longer interested), and ive been racking my brains wondering if there was like 1% chance that she was actually too busy for the past 2 days to check schedule and was actually interested..

>>17158335
Ball is in her court now. If she's interested, she will contact you.

Doesn't sound like it, though.

>>17158335
She'snot interested, and is making excuses. If she's actually busy and wants to date you, she'll get back to you.

>>17156305
>***DARK SIDE QUESTION*** BEWARE***
You know you have to be 18 years or older to post right?

>>17158402
>>17158392
ya that's my opinion as well.

i hated saying that because i actually am still interested but i think in some backwards way it would actually make me seem more desirable if i didnt seem like a dog patiently waiting for her to get back to me.

we see eachother every day except friday/saturday/sunday (work at same place, same shifts) so she has a lot of opportunities i guess.

A friend of mine is into the whole "friends with benefits" thing. We don't know each other very much, there are no feelings involved and I recently broke up with my GF, so I'm only interested in having sex. I know for sure she isn't dating/having sex with someone else. What should I do?

>>17158330
Date a girl who's a nice person
Fat or not

Got a friend who is considered to be better looking than the chaddiest of chad and he attracts the awful type you described but he would just like a normal decent average looking girl but wont turn down a fat one if she has a good enough personality

>>17158470
don't be a fucking idiot and try to "talk" your way into it.

invite her over to your place to watch "movies". at this point she probably knows whats up. and then make a move on her and if she's into it she'll be good if not then you know that she isnt.

don't be a fucking moron and try to text her "hey wanna fuck?" it just doesn't work unless you're crazy desirable to the person. you gotta do the standard backrub, hands down pants, feeling her up, let her feel your erection, playing around with her type shit. don't mention your intentions before she actually comes over, let your body do the talking.

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Alright, I don't even know what is going on anymore.

I'm that guy who had a basically nervous breakdown few days ago, with the whole girl I got a crush on, whom I had spent ton of time with, suddenly starting to ignore me utterly, and pretending that I didn't exist.

So basically, today, I was still feeling like utter shit, I talked to my therapist about this whole thing via phone in hopes of getting some advice to ease the pain.

Come about 5pm today, I'm cooking at the kitchen, and suddenly the girl comes there, and starts cooking with me, chatting with me as if nothing had happened. I was sorta reluctant to talk with her, given the fact that just a day before, she had acted like I was just air, but I still ended up chatting with her, because, fuck it, I like her. So, we end up chatting, sitting together at the sofa, watching tv, and random videos from her phone together, just like we did before.
And once more people started to show up in the common room, she leaves, and asks me to come with her to the laundry room, where we continued to listen to music from her phone/watch youtube videos together, while she was doing her laundry. It was a bit awkward to me, but we ended up having a decent time together.

So, what the fuck is going on?
Yesterday I thought she had lost all interest in me, and today, we spent like 3 hours together, 1 and a half of them alone in laundry room, listening to japanese pop music.

Picture related pretty much sums my reaction to this. Someone please, PLEASE help me understand wtf I should do.

Gf told me she needs a break.

She said she doesn't want to see other people, but she needs to take a break from our relationship in order to fix it.

How should I act when I go collect my things from her house? Should I cut contact? Any "need a break" tips are appreciated.

>>17158488
oololol I have had the "hey, wanna fuck?" thing work out perfectly.

One day I was just dicking around on facebook and posted "I'll suck your dick for a cheeseburger" and one of my friends replied "Damn, I'm all out of cheeseburgers". I sent her a message "That's ok. I' don't want a cheeseburger anyways but I'll eat you, wink wink"

And then later that day we fucked. I guess I might be seen as "desirable" to her but absolutely no flirting of any kind took place before that.

To both genders, I'd like different perspectives:

I'm so confused. I like a guy, at least I liked him SO MUCH a few months ago, I would only think of him all the time, I was infatuated. We exchanged numbers eventually, texted a lot. Never went out and stopped talking for a bit. Attraction faded a bit but I kept wanting him.

Now we're talking again I still like him but I don't know whether I like him or the fact that someone is talking to me because I'm really lonely. I feel like there was a lot of sexual tension but our worlds/future are completely different. I don't even know if I find him physically attractive anymore.

To top it off I have HORRIBLE anxiety so there is a lot of pressure and I can't imagine meeting him without having multiple panic attacks. Basically I'm confused, depressed, anxious, having a quarter life crisis and unsure of my feelings for him. Im certain that he likes me a lot though.

What do you guys recommend? I don't want to hurt him, but I don't want to jump in something that I don't really want or will add so much stress to my life.

i just bought a groupon for 105 to get 15% window tinting on 5 windows. if i want i can add 15 for each of these little fucking windows than are being covered by groupon cause some fucking technicality. so 135 total if i go with that. is this a good deal? its from a reputable show with 4 star yelp rating and hundreds of reviews

Question to girls:

So I pissed my girlfriend off a fuckton a while ago and we "broke up". Just recently we've been talking a bit more like usually and she's done two major things that make me think she's warming up to the idea of us again

1. In her snaps she sends me now, she's been wearing my clothes that she still has as pajamas and seems to be using a pillow case we made together. It's got a big fucking heart on it and our initials

2. She made a playlist of ~50 or so songs for "us" on YouTube and as of yesterday it was updated with a new video and the viewcount went up . It's private and we are the only two people who know of it

These two, coupled with the fact we've been talking almost how we used to when we were dating, has thrown me in to a complete tailspin. I'd ask her myself, but we had a row at the beginning of April of her telling me when she'll be ready and me not pressuring her so I want to stay in her good graces.

>>17158577
I know a girl like you

In short meet with the guy and see for yourself
Calm down and try not to panic too much
If you like him great if not be friends

>>17158577

It doesn't really sound like you're that invested in the person, more so in the idea of this person. If you no longer find him physically attractive, this is generally a bad sign.

I know it's difficult but I would focus on coming to terms with your own issues such as the anxiety before embarking on a relationship with anybody. As you said, you don't want to be stuck in something that makes you more unhappy in the long run.

>>17158577
be honest with him about your worries and anxieties, most people should understand and be supportive

>>17158674
>I know a girl like you
What'd she end up doing? I sympathize with her, I hate how my anxiety makes me seem like a bitch sometimes when it's just the only way I can cope.

>>17157505
uh most of these societal perceptions are caused by the fact that there is much more brutal violence perpetrated by men on women, especially rapes and to a lesser extent domestic abuse, than the other way around; also, on average men are stronger than women

that's why men hitting women can lead to stronger reactions than women hitting men, although desu I never heard anyone considering a woman hitting a man "brave" unless she was acting in self-defence

guys (and girls if you have relevant experiences),

I'm quite in love with a new boyfriend, while at the same time there are some (only superficial) things I would like to change about him - the way he dresses, walks, that he should exercise more etc. I really like his face and I think with relatively small improvements he could be at least an 8/10. But now he looks quite awkward and this, added to my social anxiety which made going out with guys before almost impossible for me, no matter how close to flawlessness they were (I always felt like people were judging them and me being with them), makes me want to change his style and lifestyle

Do you think I could go too far with it? Is it okay if I make critical comments about his appearance? I know I shouldn't care about this stuff but it stresses me out

>>17158545
Can someone give me some advice? I'd like to be able to get some sense of what the heck is going on before I go to sleep.

>>17158720
as a guy i would love if a girl made an effort to help me look better (as long as the stuff she chooses isnt too far out of my comfort zone)

if you want him to exercise though you should make it a group thing..dont just tell him to do it by himself. go with him and exercise along with him

>>17158720
You can easily take it too far, dont make it into insults as things can be quickly turned into seemingly awful comments

Id like it to be blunt and honest
But to be totally honest with you i wouldn't change my way of dressing even tho its too casual but i dont care
Id exercise more if someone would do it with me

>>17158690
She curled up in her bathroom and cried for hours
Then she called me and we went out, the next day she came over over dressed and after being really close to me she leaned in and kissed me

It worked out
Dont stress too much

A few hours ago, my crush asked me to come at her place on saturday to help her for her retakes
On the moment, I swore to myself I'd ask her out after we're done
But now, I've lost my confidence a bit and wonder if I should still do it since I'm not sure she will agree
Is it pessimism or realism ? Should I do it anyway ? Anyone had a similar expérience to share ?

To stay in subjectif, Girls, how would you react if you were her ? I think she knows I like her and, looking at what hours she want me to come, I'm sure she's going to cook for me as well

>>17158634
rls respond desu

>>17158811
How many others could she have asked to help besides you? There's a reason she chose you, generally.

Will cook for you? Good sign.

Read her body language and go for it.

>>17158821
>How many others could she have asked to help besides you? There's a reason she chose you, generally.
I think she chose me because I'm one of her only friends at school and also the only one that help her (she said that many times)

>>17158811
Expectations lead to disappointments
Expect nothing and gain everything, if you lose you're still the same

>be me
>24 years old, 6/10 looks
>meet solid 8/10 girl at party
>chatting and flirting
>things are going well
>invites me to her place
>YES!
>making out
>taking off clothes
>tits are perfect
>pussy flawless
>I go down on her
>best performance of my life
>she orgasms loud
>okay my turn, right?
>nope, she says she's had enough and it's getting late and I should head home
>mfw
WTF did I do wrong?!?

>>17158745
>>17158767
Thank you!

Any tip for exercises? We're both weak skinny people so I'd rather not go straight to a gym looking ridiculous, but I hate running and group exercises

>>17158891
go to fit

read the sticky

>>17158891
Well i actually lost 40kg over one summer and my skinny friend got some 10kg of mass
All we did was eat, play sports, walk, ride bikes, play video games
So yeah its not hard just keep it regular

But i bet someone else can give you concrete info on it

>>17158853
>Completely selfish one night stand

She got what she wanted so you got told to get gone. It happens. Guys do it too (in FAR FAR greater numbers i'd imagine)

You got hit by one of the more extreme cases, but selfishness is one of the main differences between casual sex and sex in a relationship.

>>17158720
>I'm quite in love with a new boyfriend, while at the same time there are some (only superficial) things I would like to change about him

See... I think this is kind of fine? Well meaning suggestions from your SO are always nice....

HOWEVER....
> added to my social anxiety which made going out with guys before almost impossible for me, no matter how close to flawlessness they were(I always felt like people were judging them and me being with them)

This kind of changes your motivations from well meaning to insecure, and tells me you need to deal with your own shit and not try to change other people because of YOUR OWN issues.

You're starting down a slippery as fuck slope where you transfer/project whatever your own shit is on to other people, and it's going to make any future relationships you have fucking hell if you try to go down this path (either becuase you'll start to become possessive, or demanding, or insecure as al lfuck about yourself, or never satisfied by your partner, etc).

Don't set yourself down this path unless you're willing to fix your own shit first.

>>17158853
You assumed sex was an unspoken contract, so you did something as an investment instead of because you wanted to.

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Men, what does it mean when a guy says "I think you're too good for me"?

Context: We were dating for a few months. It wasn't a good time for either of us so we split. He has been approaching me, being flirty, saying he wants to get back together, but says he doesn't feel like he's good enough. He also has low self-esteem. He's 23, I'm 20.

>>17158929
Honestly i dont know im a guy
my ex said the same to me and she ment it literally

She felt inadequate to be with me and it made her feel like crap and thinking id dump her over her baggage made her feel guilty and even worse

>>17158929
>Men, what does it mean when a guy says "I think you're too good for me"?

You answered yourself right there:
>He also has low self-esteem

My advice, walk away. This is shit HE has to deal with on his own, and until that happens, the same shit that broke you apart to begin with, will still be there.

I'm going to take a few massive leaps of deduction that could be totally off base:

>23 year old male dating 20 year old
>Sees girl 3 years younger as "better" suggests he's in a complete shit place in his life and is struggling to find a job/career/whatever where as she's doing fine in work/school
>On top of that he's at the age where he might be hitting his quarter-life crisis where he's starting to question the fuck out of what he's doing with his life
>He feels guilty like he might be holding her back or some such, because he feels like he almost doesn't want to grow up and evolve like she is

These are all things that could or could not be going on in his head, and NONE of them are things you can do anything about.

You guys broke up and didn't work for a reason, and even if those reasons aren't the ones I mentioned above, they probably haven't changed and you should just move on. If in 5 years you meet again and want to try again, sure, but as it stands now, move on.

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Fear of tying him down.

Ive been with my boyfriend since he was sixteen. I can't help but feel I tie him down sometimes, no matter how much he chooses to be with me, no matter how much we love each other. So I never stop improving myself. I never stop moving forward. But still, the love of my life wanting to move on from me and "Experiment" with others, simply because he's never gotten to do it before (I'm his first girlfriend) is really scary. I was a bit older than my boyfriend when we became together. I had already chosen to settle down with him. Based on all my failed relationships & dating experiences, I knew exactly what I wanted in a man. And he was everything I was looking for.


Dunno if I need advice, because I'll never stop improving myself to be the best for him, but, has anyone ever felt this way?

Theres this girl in one of my college classes and I don't know if she likes me or not. We joke around a lot and she laughs a lot at what I say/touches me sometimes when we are working on projects in close quarters.

I want to make a move or something but I'm not sure if she's like this with everyone or what. Any help

>>17158949
That's literally the perfect description of what's happening. He's starting college with me next semester, has worked in a grocery store for 7 years and feels pretty inadequate. We broke up because of the distance (30 minute drive, but he works 2 jobs).
I just moved to his city to start school. He acts somewhat meek and timid when we're alone, maybe because I'm the first girl he's dated. I just thought he would have tried harder instead of pushing me away.

>>17158982
Invite her to an activity outside of class. See how she responds.

>>17158545
Someone plz respond

>>17158956
>Fear of tying him down.

lol. To be honest, sometimes I worry about the exact reverse.

I'm 27, and in my first serious relationship... and I love my girlfriend, but some part of me wonders if at some point I'm not going to want to regret not having had any other serious relationships (I've had flings, one night stands, friends with benefits, casual romances etc but this is the first girl whose ever met my family and friends, who i've ever been with for longer than a few months, who i've ever considered moving in with) and if she's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with (probably compounded by the fact that in the last half year we've already been to two weddings)

But then I realize I'm freaking myself out over stupid shit that doesn't matter, and just figure if things change one way or the other (whatever I decide), why am I going to ruin the good experiences that exists now, for something that may or may not ever occur?

Relax, enjoy yourself.

>>17158997
>He acts somewhat meek and timid when we're alone, maybe because I'm the first girl he's dated. I just thought he would have tried harder instead of pushing me away.

And that indecision (the indecision that's causing him to not try harder) won't magically fix itself. Honestly, it may hurt him and send him spiraling if you shut this down (i suspect some part of him WANTS you to chase after him), but it may also be the kick in the ass he needs. Either way, realize that even if you stick around you're not going to help him grow--that's completely all on him (and maybe he doesn't realize that, maybe he's trying to use you as a crutch).

Weigh if you can deal with that or not and make your decision, because it sounds like he's not going to.

>>17159008
Just enjoy it.

If you ask her about her ignoring you, ask out of concern, not with accusations.

>NO: "Why have you been ignoring me these days???? Did I do something??? Do you hate me????"

>YES: "You've seemed kind of down and distant. Is everything okay? Do you want to talk about it?"

>>17159008
What's the whole nervous break down situation? I need some input regarding that to see the entire picture...

>>17158556


Can I get some help with this?

Besides cut contact, wtf do I do when you're on a "break" with your gf. How do I get her back

>>17159050
Check the archives. He makes like 20 posts a thread talking about this shit, kind of amazed no ones added him to the FAQ list yet.

>>17158956
Not much you can do if you want to keep him around outside of a threesome. If he wants to try sleeping with someone other than you and you're his only one, he's gonna want to see what else the world has to offer. Especially if you've slept with other people, you come into the relationship knowing what else is out there. He doesn't have that experience, and it'll probably make him insecure at the worst, or curious at the least.

Guys

So I posted earlier about whether I should ask this guy to hangout again. We just chilled out last night and I ended up sleeping over at his house; no sex though. Now today I was told just ask him to hang again and I did. We only communicate through snapchat and I haven't asked for his number yet. Here's what I sent
"Before I'm a slave to work we should do it again. Maybe eat. Or win. Or drive by"
Obviously the last part is a joke. But he said "drive by"
I responded but he hasn't. I'm guessing that means he's down to hangout again? I guess I should have been more specific? I was thinking maybe Saturday or Thursday I was going to hit him up randomly and see if he wants to hang again. But I don't want to be too persistent and annoying

>>17159076
"Or swim" he has a pool

It's the because of cases like >>17158853, cheating and other problems that I prefer prostitutes.

Small tits, what do you think about big tits?
Big tits, what do you think about small tits?

>>17159040
Thank you, this is excellent advice. You're right, he needs time to grow. Despite what happens in the end, he's going to learn a good lesson.

>>17157846
If you've had a conversation about it already, just leave it at that. He probably has his reasons for not wanting to wear them (including maybe he just forgot to wash them). When he does end up wearing one, compliment him on it (maybe casually say something like, "Oh is that one of those shirts? Looks good.") and then spend the day acting like he's 50% more sexy to you somehow, and he will be more likely to want to wear it in the future.

>>17159162
Big boobs (but not too big) are sexy as fuck. I bet they feel awesome to grope and I'm jealous of girls who can give proper titjobs. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't happy with my size though.

>>17158034
Condoms provide uncomfortable friction for me, as does almost any kind of lube (other than "natural"). My OBGYN said I have a narrow-set pelvic opening and stronger-than-typical pelvic muscles, so I guess I'm more sensitive to friction.

>>17158082
Not breasts, but nipples--YES. Easiest way to get me going.

>>17159076
I didn't really read your other thread but from the sounds of it, at this point, honestly, it's this simple and binary:

You either annoy him or you don't.

There is no line to skirt where you kind of halfway bother him or he kind of halfway likes you and one singular action tips you to the other side.

He either finds you annoying, or he likes spending time with you, and that is already set.

So stop freaking out, worrying about one action and it's consequences, and just do what you're going to do (you don't sound crazy and neither does your suggestion, so I'll assume you're not), because at this point, you've probably hung out enough that an opinion is formed, and all your actions are going to do is reveal what's already been decided.

>>17158556
Look her in the face and tell her in a serious voice, "I think you're making a mistake, I want our relationship to work. Can we sit down and talk about our problems?"

If she says yes, try and understand her point of view and ask her what would help. If no, say, "Sorry we couldn't work this out." Then act unemotional and get out of there as fast as possible. Give her a week to reconsider, then chalk it up as a loss and move on.

>>17158082
Absolutely. It feels amazing, both relaxing and pleasurable. I want to fall asleep feeling him sucking on them in the afterglow of orgasm.

>>17158634
Reach out to her, ask her how she's doing. After light conversation, ask if she wants to talk about your two's relationship.

>>17158720
You should watch this video and consider the message:
https://youtu.be/r1tCAXVsClw

You can talk to him about things you consider his "flaws", but don't criticize--ask him why he does certain things and listen to his answers. If he has things he wants to change, offer to help him, but if there are things he doesn't think are problems then you'll just make him feel bad or like he's being nagged.

Also, take time to think about whether your opinions are based on how you actually feel, or if they are only based superficially on other people's opinions. Over time you'll come to realize how little other people's perceptions actually mean.

Finally, lead change by example. If you wish him to be more active, start by changing your routine and invite (not force) him to join. Same with healthier diet, or more fashionable clothes. This is the difference between a "partnership" relationship and a "parentship" relationship.

>>17157408
I don't like it. Shorter is more masculine and almost always looks better.

>>17156625
Ideal

My long distance GF just ended it with me even though she even said I was perfect to her. She said she just wanted to be alone completely and doesn't know what she wants.

I am pretty sad right now and have already considered it OP, it was also my birthday today, so she leaves me on my birthday, buys me gifts and here I am alone with nobody. After all of the time and effort I put into it, she just wants to be alone. I really thought we were perfect for each other. I guess I was just stupid.

I want to kill myself.
Why shouldn't I?


Pls respond I have nobody else. It just blows my mind how she wants to be alone. Why is this, girls? She's 18

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>>17156254
for both genders

>see this qt blonde looking at me a lot
>every time I see her in the hallway she is looking at me right in my eyes
>like, its not like I am walking right next to her, I am about 5-6 feet away so I am not in her way or anything
>I dont look at her at first, but I catch her doing it all the time
>I dont know if she is miring cause I have been lifting for a year or if I am good looking facial wise or what
>basically a social autist cyborg, typical /fit/ cunt
>not sure what to do

>>17159319
Holy fuck, actual good advice. Too bad most of the OPs in this site are morons.

>>17159345
>My long distance GF
>long distance GF
>GF

Dude, you never had a girlfriend. Cheer up! Go get a real relationship and you'll forget about this bitch in 2 seconds. Mark my words.

>>17159162
I'm a guy, but from what girls have told me, it seems like the grass is always greener on the other side. Small tit girls think that girls with big breasts get special treatment/more attention, while girls with big breasts complain about discomfort when choosing clothes and exercising.

>>17159162
I don't care, because why should I?

How do I last longer. I come from a third world country and am going to be married to someone I have never met before. I tried masturbating to check how long I'll last and came in like 30 seconds. Don't want to disappoint the missus brehs. Have almost an year to improve.

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>>17156254
So I took my crush to go get ice cream just today and she really seemed to enjoy it. I want to do this more often, though I don't know how to bring it up, I seem to have a fear that she might see me as annoying to ask.
Whats a good way to ask a girl that you want to hang out with her more often?

Do girls enjoy being fucked after they cum? It always takes me a long time to cum and I end up fucking my gf for a good while after she cums. I think she enjoys it up to a point but then complains of a sore vaginia the next day.

>>17158407
Damn is this the only reply to my question? Thanks /adv/...

I said that because there's a lot of judgmental betas and angry women on here.

>>17156305
Anyone want to help out a bit? This was the first question of the thread

>Are you looking for a partner to have children with?
>Yes
Why.jpg

>>17159461
When it feels like my girlfriend is about to cum, I usually start getting a lot more aggressive and she responds pretty well. Cums twice as hard when I pound her while she's cumming. Usually doesn't want me to stop after she's done, either.

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Girls, when talking to a guy, what conversation topics do you often avoid like the plague? (Besides politics and religion of course)

>>17159461
It depends on what's making me cum. If he's pounding me hard while I'm cumming, don't stop until a few seconds after I cum. If I'm cumming while he's going slower, don't take that as an initiative to suddenly go beast mode. Whatever's gotten me to that point, continue doing that until I start pulling my body away because then I've gotten too sensitive. But if you greatly reduce the speed/stimulation after I cum, it's a pretty nice feeling

>>17159162
I used to have AA boobs. They were tiny, and I was really insecure about their size. I couldn't wear V neck shirts, couldn't wear other styles of shirts, had to wear tiny ass swimsuit tops that were children's styles. In my mind, I was gonna get plastic surgery if my boobs didn't get bigger.

I took birth control when I was like 19, and my boobs went from AA to a smallish C cup. I couldn't be happier. I wish my boobs were a bit bigger, but I already have boob sweat. C boobs > AA boobs for me, absolutely

>>17159527
Like a guy who I'm getting to know because I'm considering if I want to be his partner? I avoid nothing and talk about everything. I want to know him as completely as possible to know if we are compatible.

do guys like when girls make loud noises during sex?

I usually moan quietly but I feel to awkward to do anything louder/crazier

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>Girls
How many of you work out and exercise?

>Guys
How often do you fap?

>>17159622
I like average. Not too loud, not too quiet.

>>17159624
Nowadays, maybe twice per week. I'm 28.

>>17159624
I haven't exercised since middle-school. I wanna git stronk, though I'm afraid and lazy and keep putting it off.

>>17159624
i run everyday so yes I exercise

>>17159622
when i first started masturbating, my already existing shame towards it (and paranoia towards everything) made me terrified that i would be caught, so i quickly learned to masturbate and cum without a sound. i've literally been on skype calls with a group of people and nobody had any idea what i was doing.

i've had to teach myself to make more noise when getting down and dirty with my guy. he likes when i make noise, and so i try to make more noise when i'm with him. it's not totally natural yet, but it feels less fake than when i started doing it. but making sounds during an orgasm doesn't make it feel better or anything, it's just for the guy's pleasure

https://www.okcupid.com/profile/-clara/?cf=profile
This girl probably has STDs, doesn't she?
She looks "bangable", but I'm paranoid about diseases.

I'm set up to get beer with a couple of girls tomorrow.
One girl I've been hanging and studying with, the other is her best friend who I asked to come along.
I think the best friend is very pretty, while the girl I've been hanging with is ok but still cool/cute.

I'm generally a funny guy, I can get a group to laugh fairly consistently, so I'm not too worried about how I'll conduct myself.

My ideal outcome is: We meet up at the beer place, drink and get buzzed and then head to the OK girl's house to see a scary movie. Maybe from there I can possibly escalate things, but I literally do not know how and when to escalate.. They're best friends, so I doubt they'd be into a threesome if I were to pull that magic off.

What will probably happen: We all go out and have one drink and we all go home after an hour or two.

Has anyone been in this position? What were your goals? Did you achieve them? How?

>>17159622
Yes, it's a big turn on.

>>17159624
I masturbate twice a day on average, but I can not masturbate at all or do it five or six times depending on how horny I am.

There's been a couple of times where I've been talking to a girl on Tinder or IRL and decided to stop pursuing her early on because it took her more than a couple of days to get back to me.

Two convos stick out to me on Tinder that I keep going back to. In one instance I was messaging a girl back and forth and she suddenly went quiet. A week later she answered the question I asked her, I asked her (in a joking manner) what took her so long to get back to me. She explained that she was getting messaged too much and needed to step away from Tinder for a bit. I stopped responding, because it felt like she didn't care enough. Was I being butthurt and impatient, or was I right to feel like she was setting up to become really flaky and wasting my time?

In another instance (again on Tinder) I was talking to a girl back and forth for about a week. When I finally said we should meet up, she took four days to respond with "where are we going? I'm excited!" I didn't respond, expecting another flake. It just felt strange that it would take her so long to respond to a serious invitation, even after she would drop messages like "after we get in a relationship..." etc. Again, was I being reasonable, or unreasonable?

>>17159760
First was reasonable, but I would have given the second girl a chance.

A girl gave me her number last night. How long should I wait to call her?

>>17159767
Yeah, I dunno. Its been over a month since the last one. She actually messaged first and everything, which I'm not used to at all. When I started talking about us meeting up she seemed hesitant to respond, even though it could have been for a number of reasons. I was thinking of even following up after all this time, even though it probably wouldn't work out now that it's been so long.

>>17159364
bump for my question

>>17159622
As long as its noy faked its fine
Faking it ruins it for me, im pretty damn mute during sex so yeah

>>17159825
ask her out

>>17159827
would you rather have someone that faked it but sounded real, or someone who was completely silent during the entire thing even if they ended up cumming?

>>17159835
Me and my ex were silent but sometimes she would just let herself go and make a tiny bit od noise and it was cute
Its hard to put to words but she would make noise when she was close and even when she was being quiet at times sounds would break out of her

I don't mind one or the other but if she starts screaming like a porn actress ill stop and just look at her like a retard she is

Keeping it down to earth is okay, id appreciate if it was genuine but most guys would feel inadequate i think so a bit of faking is okay i guess

>>17159828
that's it?
are females really this goddamn simple or some shit

>>17157703
>If you don't want an average woman, go to places where average women don't go. Lectures that charge a small fee, for example.
Hoping I get can a little explanation on this.
I always see this type of thing recommended for meeting good, "wife-material" women.
>go do yoga
for example. Basically it's always
>go do X that you don't normally do, to meet someone
But why? Why is it that everyone recommends you to pick up a hobby, or pretend to have interests in a hobby that you don't normally participate in just to meet someone? Seems like you're just pretending to be something you're not so you can meet someone ideal, but what about after that? I mean what are the odds that the person you hook up with at these paid lectures, or yoga classes were just doing it to meet someone - instead of doing it because they actually like it?

i feel sad. Guys and gals, How do you deal with what-ifs? I had a thing with someone for a month before they had to move far away. We met too late. we were just hooking up but knew we liked each other more than anyone else.

I wouldn't have dated them because of some red flags like emotional issues that only a therapist should touch...but it was never displayed towards me.

The last day before we had to part, i don't know how, but they became the kind of person I could see myself dating long term. i think they knew it too. i just told them good luck. i'll never see them again probably.

>>17159940
Baggage isnt necessary so bad

Use this as some kind of how to on if its worth it

If shes greater than the sum of her parts
If a girl has emotional baggage but is a nice person and a pretty sweet girl with a decent sense of humor would you take the red flag as a deal breaker?
I wouldn't

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>>17156254
>TO THE GIRLS

Would you change your mind about a guy if he was attractive from the front, but not as good looking from the side?

I've been told I'm very good looking by women, but I've got a bit of a nose like pic related, and my jaw isn't SUPER defined because while I'm skinny I've still got a bit of puppy fat on my face. It doesn't show unless you see my side view, where some people say I look like a whole different person, and not as flattering (By the same women)

Say a guy like this caught your interest, would his not as good side view deter you from being interested?

>It sounds trivial and stupid, I love the way I look except my side view.

>>17159967
holy shit i feel the exact same way
attractive/10 from the front view
5/10 or less from the side view

>>17159940
>How do you deal with what-ifs

Just instinctively act and live in a way that leaves you with no regrets.

If you want to do something, do it.

If it's absolutely impossible to do it this time, learn from that and do it next time.

Do that until you either become the kind of person who lives with no regrets, or realize you're the kind of person who needs to learn to restrain themselves and be less impulsive (but at least you'll have disillusioned yourself and now know that what-if's are stupid)

>>17159955
Thanks. this helps a bit. I'm not experienced with relationships.

Erm, the red flags: 1, they had dropped out of college with zero prospects hence returning home to their parents far away (Maybe this is good they left because I have a future career and goals i am working to attain and they don't)

2: They stabbed someone a few years back because emotional issues

The 2nd one i doubt anyone else knows and I wouldn't believe it of the current them. But shit; nice, great sense of humor, also happened to stab someone...???

>>17159977
Stabbed as in randomly stabbed a guy because yes and why not or whst happened?

But dropping out for me isnt a big deal as im not looking for a career first then a girl behind it but a girl in general, if she has a career thats a plus

>>17159665
Anybody?

>>17159047
Alright.
I'll see how long this lasts. I didn't really intent to bring up her ignoring me anyways.

>>17159050
Basically I the anxiety and stress of her suddenly starting to pretend that I don't exist caused me to start falling back to my depressed state of mind, which made me a nervous wreck.
The archives have that shit.

>>17159061
Had she not suddenly changed her behavior again, I wouldn't have posted anything here.

As I said, I no longer have any clue of what is going on.

>>17159967
The nose wouldn't bother me at all, in fact I love a strong nose on a man (especially when paired with defined cheekbones). Dunno about the 'puppy fat' though.

>>17159994
Just stabbed the guy in the freshman dorms because the guy pissed them off. Not sure what happened beyond that. Had to take months off for therapy.

Hmm. I guess if you're not really looking for a carreer and just want to chill then it's not a red flag. But we both went to a top 50 university so wtf happened.i want to go to grad school and do research. I fear that being with a dropout with no idea of their future would depress us both. I guess it's a sign? Thanks man i'm learning a lot about myself.

For women.

Don't want to get too whiny but

Twenty years old

Developmental disorder, not learning disability, refuse to take disability payment.

Working my hardest at my capabilities, make about $250 a month (yes, it's not much, but it's better than nothing)

Live with mother, she needs me as much as I need her.

Obviously can't afford to drive, walk and bus everywhere

Are all of these extreme turn offs for many of you women out there? I'm asking because I talked to what I thought could be a promising lady today at the beach about a year older than me, and she started off interested but started to incessantly drill me with some of what I listed before.

"Wow, so you like, don't drive? That's kind of unfortunate"

"You don't live on your own? Shouldn't you kinda be moved out by now"?

"What's your job? Oh, you only work a few days a week...."

Eventually she disengaged the conversation and left me feeling like a put down pile of shit.

Pliss halp

>>17160129
>Developmental disorder
>make about $250 a month
>Live with mother
>can't afford to drive

Sadly yes this is an automatic turn off for most women. I get that you're trying you're hardest and that's great, but with all this going on, what makes you think you can even handle being in a relationship with someone right now? How can you handle supporting (emotionally, financially) not only yourself and your mother, but someone else?

>>17160129
She's not wrong. Those are so turnoffs. She clearly is the type of chick who has reasonable expectations of a man your age. You're at a disadvantage for multiple reasons. That means you're not the kind of man her expectations can be applied to. That means if you want a relationship, you have to hang out in your own league. Women who are similarly disadvantaged, or in such a poor state themselves, that they don't have high expectations of a partner. There are PLENTY of these women out there. They're poor and desperate, but they're out there. If what you want is affection/partnership, there are classes of women for you. But if you think you can land a high end woman with your life situation, you're sadly mistaken.

>>17160135
Ah shit stuff ate my post.

Basically, I think I could. I'm working towards getting better constantly, planning on taking on more hours, saving up to learn how to drive and get a car, and eventually moving out. I'd also just like to know what intimacy is like, as my life has been devoid of any romantic endeavors, on no fault of my own.

If the assburger's girl from high school that does nothing but play with transformers in her room can get a boyfriend, I think I can handle a relationship.

>>17160129
Jesus im 21 i dont drive hell i dont have a license and its fine

I wont move out until im 25 or older

Is moving out at 18 really such a big thing in the US?

>>17160145
She, in all honesty, wasn't that special but idgaf. She's a stocker at a grocery store and lives with her family (although this is apparently okay, for her). Only thing she has on me is driving and hours worked. She, however, initiated conversation with me, and she could have had more tact if she was utterly disappointed by me.

>>17160152
My father was kicked out at 16, mother at 17, brother was out by 18. I'm the oldest in my family TO NOT move out, and I'm 20.

>>17160091
Id want to know more on the stabbing but it wouldn't be a problem
Like if the guy was going all over her or something and she took a pencil and poked too hard?
Id call it fine by me

As i have trust issues i would pay close attention to her behavior just in case but i do that anyway

Look a career would be nice yeah but all my girlfriends werr futureless artists with shit schools and i dont need a college educated partner to share my life with when she's a decent and nice person

>>17160162
Ha?
Thats just irresponsible and stupid of them

Moving out does not equal maturity or anything really, if its forced it can fuck a persons life hard

>>17159624
My libido isnt very consistent so it could be three time a day or once a week

>>17159815
When you feel like calling her that whole "three days thing" you see on tv is nonsense

>>17160150
>I'm working towards getting better constantly, planning on taking on more hours, saving up to learn how to drive and get a car, and eventually moving out.

Not that any of the anons replying to you and not to put you down or anything but uh... Saying that is great and all... but where's the tangible proof?

Planning on taking more hours =/= taking more hours
Saving up to learn how to drive and getting a car =/= actually having the money to do either (especially on $250 an hour)
Planing to eventually move out =/= moved out

>assburger's girl from high school can so can I
First off, kind of an asshole statement to be looking down on someone else like that (which erodes any sympathy I have for you really) second, what other anon said holds kind of true, regardless of how special the girl your talking to was or wasn't.

Part time stocker at a grocery store still makes more, is more committed, and has more forward movement than $250 a month. It means she makes at least 3-4 times what you do and is steadily--possibly even gainfully--employed. Coupled with the fact that she can drive, it gives her at least some modicum of self-sufficiency.

You can't say that about yourself at the moment.

Focus on fixing your shit, and if you meet someone, cool, but you should have other priorities as an adult.

Women:
why do you bother to date betas? Can't you do better?

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cleft chin, good or bad?

Women:

As a daughter, do you feel obligated to take care of your parents?

My parents keep asking me for money for necessities (they have debt) and it's starting to stress me out. I've sent them more money than I've paid on my student loans.. And at this rate I basically have no savings. What's the right thing to do?

>>17160176
That's a just haircut

Theres this girl online we both play league of legends together, we play it very often together and in the beginning I absolutely fell for her head over heels, and I mean I cannot stop thinking about her I would do everything to make her happy as long as I know I'm not being used. My problem lies in the fact that we aren't really official, there are days where she treats me like we're dating and are seriously infatuated by eachother, and then there are days where she feels detached and distant to me. I usually drop everything I'm doing to play with her and I always initiate conversation which is a redflag for me usually but she doesnt start a game until i invite her usually. We haven't sexted or anything but we flirt constantly and last night she called another guy cute infront of me and then tried to turn it into a joke saying jk thats just me(her) I got really upset by this and didnt say anything the rest of the game, of course i didnt say anything to her either about it but what I'm saying is she seems really elusive and it feels like she only wants my love and affection when no one else is giving her attention and I don't know what to do because I really really care for this girl and it feels hard to bring up my feelings but she keeps on playing with me. Today was one of those days nd i asked her if she wanted to play and she said no shes going to play solo.
solo on normal games in league of legends
what does this mean
am i just terribly fucking lost
am i being toyed with
should i an hero for my inability to read people
shes a complete enigma to me...

>>17160177
Help them as much as you can, to the point where youare comfortable with your own life. That means if you make 1,000 a month, and 600 goes to rent/student loans, you set aside 200 for yourself for emergency and backup, and give your parents 50-100 dollars. Make sense? Assuming they have been good to you, didn't abuse you, and are just in a temporary bad place. If they've always been a drag on you, then fuck it. Tell them you can't do it anymore.

>>17160173
>Calling someone assburger's is rude
>Even when you're assburgers
Bro you couldn't handle special ed class banter. They'd tear you to shreds in their stuttering glory. Joking aside, re-fucking-lax.

And, well, i'm fixing my shit. Been fixing my shit since I got out of highschool. I'm not arguing that my situation isn't a turnoff, I'm just saying it's not inherently a disqualifier. Sure, i'm not pick #1 or even #20, but I'm not totally repulsive in my actions and general self. All I asked was if these were turn offs, that's a yes, didn't need some moral lesson here.

>>17160177
You dont owe then anything

If you can help them do it but don't let them guilt tripyou and use you for money

>>17160183
You will never meet her
You will never touch her
She doesn't actually give a shit about you
You are a sad loser
You need IRL friends
You need to turn your computer off and go outside so you can meet real people you may have a chance with

LoL is cancer. Internet crushes are retarded. Stop being dumb.

>>17160177
>>17160184
This. Give as much as you're comfortable with and if it reaches past that explain that you can't afford to give them more money.

>>17160183
Sounds like you're both imature you too wouldnt happen to be high schoolers? Because if you are i wouldnt recomend any serious relationships at that age

>>17160186
As a guy who is on the spectrum i call myself assburger and autistic and i make jokes about it

Why?
Because im not a kid and i dont take offense to everything and everyone


"Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you."
Also no amount of words will change what you are so why should you care?
-tyrion lannister

Good shit really, loving the books
I knew this would come in handy

>>17160190
But I have IRL friends that i trust greatly and I live with two of them
I've tried meeting girls in real life before and I had the opportunity to date them but I gave up those opportunities for her I'm still holding out hope for her because I really do care for her.
>>17160197
no we're college aged, and she's someone I've met off /vg/ but I don't think I can handle a relationship that's not serious, I get all the attention I need from friends and family I want something serious something that I can begin building a future with
I just want to be loved by someone as much as I would care and love for them and I don't know what to do

>>17160202
>using GoT dialogue as motivation

Well, yeah, you're clearly on the spectrum

>>17160202
Think you're responding to the wrong poster m8. Hopefully this doesn't come across as too off topic, but how does your tism manifest? Mine is far less social and more learning and motor skill shit. When I was a kid I couldn't tie my shoes until I was ten, and I hold everything weird. There's a veeerrry slight disconnect from what my mind says and my body does. Some say it's awkward, some say it's unique as part of my character.

>>17160207
He could be worse, I use the Dune series! However, many more females get into GoT than the arrakais series, I believe.

>>17160184
>>17160189
>>17160194
Thank you. I'll try to be more honest with them or maybe work on managing their finances.

My parents are simple minded but loving people, I didn't want them to stress so much in their old age out of fear that the pressure will drive one of them to suicide.

>>17157505
I think it's exaggerated but definitely holds truth. Double standards that harm woman are consistently challanged while the reverse is rarely and maybe never true.

>>17160163
Oh ok. Um, it was a legit knife stabbing. Not in self defense at all. Dude was just a dick or annoying from what i can gather

You are right. i think I care too much about appearances. I thrive off of other people being impressed by me. It motivates me. I need my partner to be college educated. I only really feel alive with people when we're debating/bouncing off each other legal loopholes, physics, just an overall desire to learn and push oneself to learn more. it's weird but i've never been more mentally attracted to someone than when they asked me to explain the legalities of copyright to them while we were in bed. I wish I could settle down nicely but i've got too much of a desire to go far, whatever that means

>>17160218
Im on a tablet so yeah

Well im good with physics and engineering and coding, i can see a pic and i understand it completely even tho i have no previous knowledge of it
I cant really control what or how much information i take in and i can struggle with it
Im objective and disconnected from any emotional or subjective biases
I cant read body language at all and i cant read people if im not a spectator but even then its hard
I dont lie, dont cheat
Big groups and loud noises make me uncomfortable well i cant put it to words but i have to go away or id fall appart
I was one of those too sweet and naive types but after being used a lot i dont trust anybody anymore
I just handle it as it goes, i got some problems i won't go into

People usually dont mind it, well people worth holding on to at least
And they same the exact same thing to me

The spectrum is large and words are hard

>>17160220
Dune is great man, need to read it again damn

But i got GOT from a friend and i like it so why not
The line is good and applicable

>>17159319
omg I really liked the video. Thank you for good advice; I think he's actually quite attached to his weird clothing style so I won't try to force a change
>>17158920
(reply to both) I understand other people's opinions are not important, and I'm projecting my own insecurities on others. But by now I'm pretty sure my behaviour is a result of an actual disorder which prevented me from dating in the past, and while I understand the "fix yourself until you get together with another person" approach, being lonely also didn't make me feel good desu. (That's not really directed at you, but whenever I hear this sentence, I'm thinking of people for whom it gets years to learn to deal with anxiety or depression or w/e - should they not date until they are 35 or older?) It's just difficult to follow the rational advice of "don't give a fuck what people think, especially because you don't know what they think" (so far the only actual reaction I got was a stranger telling us we look pretty together lol) if your irrational brain tells you otherwise, but I'll keep trying

re: exercise, I agree it's a good idea if I start just by myself, but I could also use some motivation desu...

>>17160259
*before, not until

>>17160248
You can do that with a high school educated person as well

Education on paper means little
Also yes, mental attraction weights out the physical for me and i found girls like my ex who werent as smart but interested in hearing new things great

Im actually a physicist/engineer at heart but im studying logistics and intelligent systems and i love talking about how stuff works
Just laying in bed explaining how light works or how space works to a girl in love with you and her being amazed and genuinely interested is something special
The stabbing would need a good discussion for me to be sure about dating her

>>17159319
That video+advice should be a sticky.

>GF/bf does thing and I love gf/bf but I dont like thing what do?"
>https://youtu.be/r1tCAXVsClw

Okay girls probably have the best grasp on the answer to this question. But is it ever acceptable to ask someone for their number at the least while they are at work?(specifically as a cashier at target or a waitress where they see a lot of faces everyday)

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>>17158545
Can someone help me make some sense of this shit? Why would someone flip flop between ignoring someone else, and dragging them to a frigging laundry room to spend time together?

Based on the behavior she showcased to me earlier, and the advice I got from here, I was ready to just cut my losses and accept that she wasn't interested in me, but her yesterday's behavior has mixed my feelings up again.
I don't know how I should act on this.

Are women complicated or are men thinking too much ?

>>17160264
I guess that's true, but it would just eat at me why they didn't go to college? if someone was interested in higher learning. why wouldn't they go to a good college and talk to professors? if they managed to get their higher learning elsewhere, that's one thing, but man. I dunno why I have this hangup about college education. It's as arbitrary a requirement as height or fitness level, maybe to each his own? . I think my idea of a perfect relationship would be with a research partner. I'm also chinese so that's probably part of it.

Yeah, that stabbing thing though...

>>17160276
It this still the same guy

I mean dude just do whatever for fucks sake
This wsy even if you hlget the girls you'll lose her immediately as you won't know whst to do ever
You got advice, tons of it, now do whatever

Ask the girl out or dont and shut up about it already

>>17160264
>laying in bed explaining how light works or how space works to a girl in love with you and her being amazed and genuinely interested is something special

This is so cute anon. I do this all the time, but it always ends with me laying in bed wondering about (currently) unexplainable things and dreaming up new answers in my sleep. A good relationship should have lots of tantalizing conversation like that!

>>17160285
For one i care little about education as its pretty shit here
Per year in highschool i had 18 subjects and you have more to go through than americans go through in 4 years
Im not even joking
And after that you know a bit of everything but nothing well if you do t focus on a type you like

College is more luck than anything here and its shit, 5 years wasted for a piece of paper really and i know people who are dumb as bricks but have a diploma

My ex was not smart enough to study something like electronic engineering and was interested in art
Art school gives you little room to do afterwards

I cared about her personality and our shared interests not her career potential or physical fitness

But yes to each his own

>>17160259

I didn't say don't get in a relationship until you fix your shit, I said focus on fixing your own shit first.

I say this as someone who first started dating at 24, and didn't have his first relationship until his mid/late 20's, who he grew up socially anxious and was on and off depressed throughout all of his adolescence (nearly a decade, due to a hormonal imbalance).

I'm not ignorant or unsympathetic as to where you're coming from. What I'm saying is watch yourself: If you invite him to join along with you in improvement and merely use each other to keep each other motivated it's fine, but If you set the precedent of engaging in the behavior of trying to one-sidedly change your boyfriend--without working on your self first--it's a slippery slope to doing it as distraction from ever actually having to deal with your own shit . Do not set yourself down that path.

And the way you stop giving a shit is you practice not giving a fuck. Forcing yourself to go outside of your comfort zone and do things that you don't feel like you want to do or feel against your nature, over and over and over and over and over until it just stops being a big deal and becomes second nature.

Is it a no no to ask a girl if she left me because there wasn't enough sex? (Long distance)

>>17160287
I am not looking for advice in regards to what to do.
I am trying to figure out why she suddenly started to act so differently again.
As I said, I had already sorta accepted that my chances were gone and that I should just forget about her, but now I don't know anymore.

My anxiety has turned into confusion. I simply don't understand what she wants with me.

>>17160291
And then she stares at me confused and tells me you know i didnt understand a thing you said
And i tell her i know and but its the listening that counts

Also she would get aroused when i get stuck and after staring at a piece of paper just write an ass long math equation proving something or figuring out how to solve a problem

Damn now i feel lonely as fuck now

>>17160312
People like attention
People have friends
Maybe she likes you maybe she doesnt

ASK HER ALREADY YOU SPINELESS MAGGOT

God every hour the same thing with endless bumps for mind reading and fortune telling from random people on a anime image board

>>17156282
Red, orange red

>>17160299
Ok, i understand it more. i was lucky and my piece of paper means a bit of something. I understand that's not the norm though.

I have the chance/potential to become highly regarded in my field based on positive reactions to my completed research. I think if i didn't have this chance, i would not screen for someone who could 'stand proudly by my side'. I may very well fail at my potential. My partner has to be intelligent and educated.. Some part of me wants to find a decent person. i wish things were more simple. More likely than not i will not find someone easily. I was told once that i had a simple dream of life and it was nice. but that was a very long time ago. I think you are very content usually with life and that's a rare thing

>>17160347
Well the degree means something on a formal level but a degree or grade doesn't mean you're educated nor educated well

But i hope ill be able to pull through like that

3 languages
Electrical engineering degree
Logostics and intelligent systems masters degree
Knx and cisco networking

Just need to finish college and the masters now and work a year or two to finally be able to move out, hopefully out of this country for good

>>17160315
Listening without comprehension and reciprocation is no fun though!

Space themed lunchboxes of your favorite foods. Valentine's day cards with calculus equations revealing cheesy things. Falling asleep at the desk because both of you stayed up too late optimizing that circuit board. Looking cute as fuck in safety goggles.

We're all lonely sometimes, good thing we are among friends here.

Bit of a weird question.

Do you ever accidentally text something that is not what you wanted to say but you actually mean?

I know it sounds strange, but for example if you're typing too fast and you accidentally send "I love you" instead of "I love yoga" or something (completely made up, couldn't think of another example lel).

I'm asking because I know autocorrect + multitasking + spelling mistakes can = wrong things sent, but in psychology we learned that sometimes when you accidentally say something, it's what you really mean even if you don't know it consciously.

>>17160324
No need to be that hostile.

I wouldn't call utterly ignoring someone to be behavior you would do to your friend.

In any case, I already have asked her if she would like to come with me to the zoo some day, to which she responded with a resounding "Maybe".
I could of course, ask her again today.

>God every hour the same thing with endless bumps for mind reading and fortune telling from random people on a anime image board
I got no-one else senpai.

>>17160368
It can be
Its the interest that counts
And when your partner learns stuff and makes an effort to talk to you about it even if they make mistakes and dont wuite comprehend the matter the willingness to try is beautiful and a real act genuine love

Talking the whole night about how to survive a zombie apocalypse with real world information and rules from what food to carry and which routes to take
Or explaining how stars are born or why is the sky blue or how electricity came from an idea to the current times

>>17160386
Yes ask her again
And look take her out get some ice cream and at the end hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek or tell her how you feel

If she wont go out or says she doesn't like you im sorry
But man spamming here wont help you there yanno?
Do something
Anything

>>17160387
>willingness to try is beautiful and a real act genuine love
This is so sweet and speaks volumes of your perspective. You are going to make some lucky soul exceptionally happy.

Would you endeavor to learn less functional talents if your SO has a passion for it? E.g. painting or dance.

>>17160389
Well, seeing how she might be staying here for the weekend, I could ask her if she wants to do something.

Anyways, if she hadn't suddenly stopped the silent treatment, and started to seek to spend time with me yesterday, I wouldn't be posting anything here.

The main reason I posted here was out of sheer confusion, because for the life of me, I couldn't figure out what she wanted from me. Her behavior doesn't make any sense to me.

>>17160395
I would try definitely but even if i don't make it to the end i would respect her all the way and support her passion

And thank you i hope so too but at 21 finding a person like that is hard

>>17160401
Look we dont know
Try spending time with her and if it works out it works out
You just have to do something
I sold my crystal ball recently sorry

>>17160406
You're quite young, there are many opportunities waiting for a bright mind like yourself. I didn't meet my spouse until I was 23, first and only relationship.

>>17160401
Despite the hostility, I know you just want someone to bounce feedback on and to get some courage. I would just go for it without worry, quell that curiosity once and for all and move forward.

>>17160414
Lets hope so

And no i didn't intend to be hostile but if someone asks if he should ask her out every hour of every day of every week id becomes annoying and there isnt anything more to say but to slap them and push them to make the first step

>>17156282
Was dark and i was drunk so don't remember. Dark i think

>>17160386
We don't know what she thinks. We have no idea. There's no Female Secret Society where they give us instruction on how to confuse guys.
She might have her own issues, and maybe she doesn't want to talk to you or anyone else.

Ask her out on a date and know if she likes you or not.

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>>17160406
I do intend to spend time with her, assuming that she suddenly doesn't start giving me the silent treatment again.

>>17160414
At this point, I guess that just flat out telling her that I like her just to get this shit over with, no matter what the outcome may be, would be preferable. I am sick and tired of this vague nonsense.

>>17160427
>There's no Female Secret Society where they give us instruction on how to confuse guys.

Sounds like something that a member of a Female Secret Society would say.
I'm onto you.

>>17160381
Bamp

>>17160381
I can't think of any examples where that specifically happened to me. If anything I'm more likely to go back and edit a sentence to change it, then not reread it, so it's half edited with some gibberish in the middle. Or uses the same phrase twice.

If you're thinking about ONE specific text with ONE specific person though, nothing anyone can n say will help. It's possible, but it's also possibly autocorrect.

Ladies and gent

what are your thoughts about PUA's? (pick up artists).
I know that in this board their are not well welcomed but to be honest I don't see why they receive so much hate. I think that some of their techniques can be quite effective to help a man with social anxiety and fear of women. For what I heard some of the techniques that they suggest are used by couch psychologists as well, on top of that some of these "professional seducers" actually studied psychology and have good references, not all of them are simple con artists.

>>17160556
I don't think every PUA suggestion is bullshit, at all. What I do think is that they are kind of a negative environment. I am sure that I never got to the top quality of PUA because it does not interest me (or is that relevant to me), but I have of course come across my fair share of it and I feel that what I've read often works with a very negative overall mindset.

This includes the notion of "game" itself. I mean, virtually every social interaction can be seen like this. We ask people how they do as a symbolic token of goodwill, not to hear the up to date state of their life, just to name something. That social interaction is a certain game or dance does not mean that it is fake/insincere, which I feel if often implied by PUA. They portray women as this sheep herd that can be cracked by a few psychological tricks, while in reality all people have knee jerk responses to many psychological cues. That and I think many PUAs have this cynical outlook on wanting to bed as many girls as possible without bothering with real connection or long term potential. A trick like negging will absolutely work when done right - on girls who are susceptible to that because they are insecure and looking for approval. So then you have the situation of a guy who is willing to play dirty and mean to get what he wants from a girl, who is fishing with bait that attracts the girls who will not make a good partner.

I have also heard from some accounts that if you become good at the player part of PUA, it is extremely hard to turn off that mindset and get into a genuine relationship. If you prey on girls to cheat on their boyfriends with you or go home with you while they barely know you, that won't become a more stable or happier person from that. You sure as hell won't have a better view of women.

>>17160594
> If you prey on girls to cheat on their boyfriends with you or go home with you while they barely know you, that won't become a more stable or happier person from that. You sure as hell won't have a better view of women.
I agree, practicing a hedonistic lifestyle like this can also be a gateway to depression. But in any case not all PUA's promote this lifestyle some of them even give suggestions on how to maintain a stable relationship. What they do have in common is "stop being a pussy". No wonder why all of them have issues with feminism.

>>17160556
Your sad attempts at seduction bemuses my homosexual presence level up bitch you aint got nothing on us, we dont even need to say anything and you'll wish you got hit on.

>didnt even bother to even leave the house to witness utter failure in the heterosexual community

>>17160601
I don't know about all of them, this is just the impression I got from what I came across, which is at most twenty explanation guides from different folks. I'm sure there's a lot more.

Should also add that from personal experience, I have been on a date once with a guy who tried this stuff on me and it was absolutely awful and extremely cringeworthy. I think if anything it is harder to smoothly and confidently pull of a lot of those moves than it is to stick to the usual half assed spiel (not that that means you can't be ambitious anyway, of course). In hindsight I am 95% sure that he was trying PUA, but during the date I kept wondering if it was that, if he was autistic, or just an asshole.

I found out 2 months ago that this girl i've been dating with a year slept with a former best friend 4 times

we opened up about everything, about our feelings, how things played out, etc.. leaving no stone left unturned.

dumped this girl have since and then tried to move on and had sex with 3 women multiple times off of okcupid. still currently seeing one...

anyways this girl still wants to date me and is begging me to stay. she bawls and had initially even attempted self harm (ate 30 klonpins). she's leveled out though and is in treatment.

saying i still don't have feelings for her would be a straight up lie. but my anger and resentment outweigh those.

what are your guy's general feelings on getting back with a cheating partner??

would getting back with a cheating person later after going ones separate way still make you a 'cuck'?

i've come along way but still feel angry and humiliated still.

just trying to get a general sense for personal reflection. ultimately i see no hope in this..

any experience here with cheating?
anyone take back a cheating partner

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How should I dispose of used cooking oil after I fried meat balls with it? I don't know whether to flush it down the toilet or pour it in a bottle and throw in burnable trash. Any suggestions?

Nearing bump limit but.

To anyone.

When you meet someone on Tinder, how much communication is "normal" after you got their number and planned a date?

Asking because since she's out of town we're gonna see each other next week, and she's been talking to me all day, every day for a while now.

Seeing as Tinder is generally the hook up app, I don't know how much people usually communicate, and if her talking so much is a sign she might actually really like me as more than a hook up. We get along pretty well.

Is it normal to lose attraction to a guy temporarily out of anxiety? Like I have a hugeee crush on him but when I think about actually going out with him and it becomes a reality I get so anxious I start thinking "do I really like him" and feel like I lose attraction.

Is this normal?

>>17161518
not sure if normal but it has certainly happened to me

just force yourself to go and don't think it wold be better with anyone else, you would have this problems regardless of a person, so don't blame him and just go