Self Esteem

>>17149176
yes i have my own story

>in in highschool
>late bloomer
>shorter than everyone
>weighed 100 lbs as a freshman
>shit on constantly, but laughed it off
>time rolls on
>friends start losing their hair
>they're all fat now
>me looking better by the day
>start to realize i'm better than all of them

and here we are

I did things that made me feel good about myself.

I got a job, made some friends and am now learning how to gain real confidence in my actions.

i did, but then it all fell apart and got even worse when i started hanging around with horrible abusive people. no idea how to fix things at this point.

>>17149176
Had puberty late, so I was a skinny lanklet for a long time, now I'm 6'7", athletic while doing shit and deep bass voice.
Also getting a gf was pretty important for my self esteem, she thought I was out of her league, while I thought the opposite

You'll hear it again and again but work out. It doesn't really matter too much what you do but make sure you get some serious exercise regularly.

Exercise=better body, better mind and more energy at the cost of time and maybe a small amount of money. It's one of the best investments you can make for yourself.

Sort out your clothes and your look. Ask female friends for advice or research what looks good. Make sure you're up to date with what you wear because it leaves a lasting impression.

Practice. Try chatting to people you see in your life, maybe quick conversations with people in the street (may not be appropriate depending where you live), the people serving you in shops.

Recognise what your personality flaws are and either change them, or accept them and work around them.

For example, I thought I came across as a loser when I chatted with people so I watched a lot of videos of interesting people and confident people and picked up small tips here and there. I incorporated a lot of their techniques into my own speech and practiced with people I met.

On the flipside I'm massively narcissistic and I hate being around people for too long, which I've accepted and so I let people know that I need space if they start to bother me and I don't give away to people just how self obsessed I am, I do it in private.

Baby steps.

I started lifting and got a job that required me talking to a lot of people. The combination worked like a charm.

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Age

I think one big important thing to know is that confidence is built from successes. You see that you're succeeding and that improves the image you have of yourself, witnessing these improvements more indepthly builds confidence.

Also, aging. As you age you experience more and more to life, so you're bound to view some accomplishments as "triumphs over yourself" - this witnessing of these things builds confidence as well. So be patient.

Reduce neuroticism by ways of asceticism. Meditation made me quite confident, for example, by helping to reinforce a sense of control over emotional impulses. However, it takes quite a long time to even "notice" benefits from meditation - been over a year now for me and it's been hell. Forcing control over yourself is hard, meditating is just one method (a very difficult one) to do this. Emotional control basically combats negative feelings which cause negative interpretations of the self, which cause low self-esteem/confidence. Look into meditating and asceticism if you want to go "above and beyond" yourself.