Does lingerie turn most men on or no? :(

Maybe he likes boners

Sometimes guys need a break from sex but feel weird about that reality. Just cool it and let him start initiating when he wants to again. You initiating might actually make him feel inadequate which can make the problem worse. That is, if he's feeling that way.

But don't wait too long. A couple weeks. Just chill and give him space, don't smother him. If he doesn't come around then have a conversation about your relationship being in trouble.

Don't ask if everything is ok, tell him it's not. You have rights and needs.

>>17121455
Are you saying he's gay or that I need to give him a boner or what?

>>17121464
I'll let you decide ;)

>>17121463
How would me making the first move make him feel inadequate?! That doesn't even make any sense.

>>17121469
Why are you yelling?

If he doesn't want sex, but his gf wants him to want sex, and he's socialized to think all guys want sex all the time but for some reason he just doesn't right now, it can make him feel even worse for not wanting sex like his drive is too low, which will make him feel inadequate which will make it even lower.

I'm not saying never initiate, but if he's not responding well to your initiation then continuing to do it can make the problem worse. When it's well received that's great, but right now it's not so stop doing it.

Men are simple. You could dress in a potato sack and we'd go for it.
He's watching porn.

>>17121490
Everyone watches porn dipshit

>>17121490
Also kissless permavirgin detected

>>17121490
Underage detected

Why would it turn men on? They've already seen your goods, seeing half of 'em behind a neglige isn't somehow sexy.

>>17121509
Oh my sweet summer child

>>17121487
Ever wondered if he makes ME feel inadequate because he never initiates sex with me anymore...?

>>17121514
It's always about you, isn't it? Isn't it?!

Leave your homosexual boyfriend alone

>>17121514
You know that makes you a chore to be with right?

>>17121522
...because I want my boyfriend to want to have sex with me?

>>17121515
This actually made me kek

>>17121528
No, because you feel inadequate that he doesnt initiate sex with you.
The fact that you want sex isnt the problem, its all the arbitrary nonsense and meanings you attach to it that make you a bother.

The fact that he loves you and is still with you isnt enough, he needs to meet this "sex standard" you have built up in your head to prove somthing to you?

Get over it or break up with him, because he aint the problem lass.

>>17121528
Good lord, if he doesnt want to leave him alone
Talk to him about your problems and either fix them or replace him
Its not really that hard, here ill get you started:
>Honey, sit down i have something on my mind
This way you avoid the dredded "We need to talk" intro which to most guys means "I want to break up"
Which it sounds like you arent at yet so try talking first and see how that goes

>>17121536
OP is retarded too but to say he isn't the problem is a joke. In a normal relationship he should be initiating it at least some of the time.

But yeah discuss it and try to find a solution or break up. You'll only feel worse as time goes by.

>>17121536

You're wrong though. Unless she's a nymphomaniac, which doesn't seem like the case. Leave my board, /adv/ is for the advisors and you just got your license revoked

>>17121449
Go fuck other men, if you're really that insecure.

Post pics.

>>17121542
>>17121543
So, its his fault she hasnt talked to him about this and came to 4chan with it first? It would be one thing if she talked to him first and after nothing changed she came here.

You fags need to quit babying OP just for being a woman.

He's feeling obliged to do it because you are literally making him feel obliged to do it. You're turning it into a chore instead of a loving sensual experience. Maybe he's tired or not in the mood. Men don't just get unattracted to their partner without any significant changes, so unless you gained 10+lbs I doubt that's the case.

Stop forcing it for one.

>>17121548
You need to stop acting crazy and giving shit advice just because it's a woman.

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>>17121449
You are beetch and you know itzz!! Beetch!

>>17121552
Yes. Clearly the reason he doesn't want to have sex with her is because SHE probably gained 10lbs.
I was in a thread last night about how a guy was frustrated his gf wasn't into having sex with him and everyone jumped on how she should be obligated to as his gf.
Now it's the other way around.
She's clearly an annoyance and a bother.
Heaven forbid she actually feels insecure because they used to have a regular sex life and that's suddenly changed.

Sorry OP but I would say he is probably either in a bad place in his life, maybe depressed, that affects your libido.
Certain medical issues can as well.
Or he doesn't feel the same way about your relationship anymore.
That's what happened in my last relationship. The sex just slowly died out because I didn't feel anything for her anymore.

Don't jump to conclusions and try to have a very open conversation.

>>17121566
>Yes. Clearly the reason he doesn't want to have sex with her is because SHE probably gained 10lbs.

"Yeah unless an atomic bomb dropped on you you'd probably surv-"
"YEAH CLEARLY AN ATOMIC BOMB IS GOING TO DROP ON ME"

>I was in a thread last night about how a guy was frustrated his gf wasn't into having sex with him and everyone jumped on how she should be obligated to as his gf.

OP's boyfriend DID have sex with her though.

>Heaven forbid she actually feels insecure because they used to have a regular sex life and that's suddenly changed.

No where in the OP did she state they don't have sex. She's complaining she has to make the first move.

>>17121566
Yeah, just try talking to him about it without making it like 'you owe me, so let's fix this' or something. Also don't come to 4chan for advice

>>17121566
>she should be obligated to as his gf.
To be fair though the main motivation for guys to go into relationships is the prospect of sex or atleast knowing he has an edge in competing for sex with his gf
If there is no sex in the relationship then its the same as being single but with less freedom and more nagging

I'm in sort of the same situation with my girlfriend. Initially, everything was great with our relationship. Over time, our intimacy sort of diminished. My lust for her never died, but more and more I started to receive excuses. Every time I would try to initiate, it wasn't convenient for her. "I'm just not in the mood right now, can't you understand that?" "Oh, I'm sorry that I'm sore, what do you expect me to do about it?" Eventually I just got so pissed that I stopped trying. It took about a week before she started trying to make advances on me, but I denied her. I was so pissed, she spent all this time making excuses to not be intimate, and didn't even put in any effort towards finding ways we COULD be intimate. Well guess what, of course she gets pissed at me. "What, are you not attracted to me anymore?" "Do you still love me?" "Why do you never want to do it anymore?" "What's wrong with you?!" To which the only thing I can fucking reply is, "How do you think I felt?" She didn't even realize that she was doing this. The entire time, she sat there trying to blame me for a problem that SHE was creating.

... I guess all I'm getting down to is, be considerate of your partner. It's easy to get carried away when you're hot and bothered, but you've got to realize that there's always a reason for it.

Sounds like there's a problem in your relationship in general. Sex usually is just a symptom. Find out what's wrong with your relationship and fix that.

I'd agree with the whole "obligation" thing.

I work a shitty warehouse job and I'd be too exhausted after work to have sex...
But if I had a girlfriend, who I cared about, and got home, saw she'd put so much effort into being sexy, I don't think I'd have the heart to reject her advances...

It absolutely would be a chore, and I wouldn't be into it.

Why not talk to him?

Also, ask him about his work. Stress can easily affect our ability to get it up.

If it's that, then it might be worth having a little vacation. Go somewhere nice and romantic away from the stress.

>>17121566
He often rather play LoL than have sex.One time I dressed up like that and he ignored me to play...He says he loves me and all that, but we have very poor communication skills. I don't want him to break up with me. I just wish he showed more interest in me is all...

>>17121596
Is this a regular thing?

I mean yeah, guys don't want sex 24/7. Sometimes we'd rather do other things. How often do you two have sex?

>>17121594
He works at a call center, there's no strenuous labor involved in that. He gets to sit down frequently but walks around. I work at a beef jerky plant in the cold all day standing and moving as fast as I can, even then when I come home I still want to have sex with him. I don't get it. He seems to like his job and has a lot of new work friends, so I don't see how he's that stressed out. Maybe the calls are stressing him out, I don't know.

>>17121599
Sometimes we will go for a week and a half, two weeks without sex. Other times it'll be every 3 days, 2 days. Either way it always seems like I have to be the one to initiate it.

>>17121605
>a lot of new work friends

He probably isn't into the relationship anymore or met someone else.

>>17121596
>lol
Theres your problem.
Get him to stop playing assfaggots and find a real game, he'll stop being depressed and want to lay you again.

>>17121612
Then why doesn't he just leave me already for her instead of wasting my time while I'm still young and can find someone else?

>>17121625
Because people are selfish cowards. He doesn't give a shit until he has secured the other girl. Develop some self-confidence and leave. Stop acting like he's the only ones whose decisions matter.

>>17121509

You don't understand the point of sexy lingerie at all. Sexy lingerie accentuates her femaleness and that's hot. Why do you think stockings are so sexy? They're covering her legs up but it's sexy because only women wear stockings and it reinforces her femaleness.

>>17121634
I have no way to find out for sure if there is another girl...

>>17121634
>He doesn't give a shit until he has secured the other girl
its usually the other way around...girls are known more for monkey branching but whatever
Youre putting shit into OPs head, stop that
There probably isnt another girl involved and you have no proof, right now youre just fucking things up
OP for the love of god, talk to your fucking man about the fucking. dont listen to people online assuming the worst

>>17121449
Depends on what is under the lingerie.

>>17121449
I love lingerie. I think stuff like that pic can be a bit frumpy though, although the fact that it's pretty much transparent helps.

Super tiny lingerie bras and panties, though, those would have me dry humping the bed if I couldn't jump onto my GF.

>>17121693
C-cups and a normal body weight.Not stick thin but not chubby either. My weight has been pretty consistent, I've lost weight actually.

>>17121706
Can you post examples? :(

>>17121715

Not him but I agree and IMO you can't go wrong with a thong + stocking combo. Image is too lewd for a blue board so I uploaded it

http://imgur.com/Y0pOxXt

OP is either fat and or ugly.

>>17121729
>http://imgur.com/Y0pOxXt
I don't think that's too lewd for a blue board, I've seen worse things posted here. I don't know if he's into thongs, I never asked...

>>17121731
He's going bald and his teeth are rotting outside his mouth. He's still very handsome to me and I dig the balding look, though.If anything his imperfections make him more attractive to me.He's had very ugly gfs in the past who were ham-planets. I'm no stunner, but I'm a goddess compared to them. I have moderate acne that doesn't seem to go away, but my face shape is fine. Maybe he wants me to be fat? I don't know.

>>17121515
Lol

>>17121515

Fucking kek m8

>>17121449

When he was actively initiating, it didn't take lingerie, so the lack of sexy clothing clearly isn't the issue.

You're probably just not turning him on like you used to anymore, and after reading this thread I'd probably say it was your attitude.

Either break up, and both go your separate ways or give it one more go.

Drop the attitude, and make him want you, then he might initiate more, and you'll feel better reinforcing both of your satisfaction and you can go on from there, if that doesn't work, break up.

>>17121752
>his teeth are rotting outside his mouth
What?

>>17121973

You'd be surprised how many people have fucking terrible oral hygiene. Genetics also doesn't help, but I wonder if white people just have a culture of never teaching their kids to brush.

>>17121752
>Pretty girl
>Dating someone who's ugly, inside and out
These kinds of things make me wonder how many emotional problems you have.

>>17121464
of course

Has OP even said if they are a guy or a girl? I'm not seeing it.

>>17121990
Why do you people continue to force the hypergamy meme? It is almost as if you want 80% of all men to serve females having sex with 20% of the most atractive men. Females are not somehow entilted to the most attractive men. Anyone who would state that is a vapid cunt.

>>17121449
>I waited for him to get off from work
What does he work as? Probably unrelated but when I get home from work after an exhausting day out in the field I just want to eat dinner and relax.

I'm all down for sexy time later in the evening/weekend though.

>>17121981
>white people just have a culture of never teaching their kids to brush

why with the race card? why is that important?

>>17122032

It has nothing to do with hypergamy, you dumb cunt. 1/10's go with the 1/10's. If there's a gap, especially a noticeable one, then it's the biggest advertisement for your self-esteem issues.

>>17122119
>self-esteem issues
Yawn, obvious buzzword is obvious.

It is not only an assumption, but also not even relevant as I wan't talking about myself. The self-esteem meme has been promoted by delusional sluts whom needed somekind of sophist weapon to use in their failing battle.

Also, concerning the league meme, look at asia and the west. People create whole new faces with plastic surgery getting far more attractive partners then, according to you 'They deserve' (actually believing determinism memes, kek).

Therefore, you are either a failed normalfag white knighting sluts or just an angry vapid and superficial slut.

>>17122092

Because this is 4chan and it's alright to point out the obvious without worrying about le downboats.

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>>17122137
>meme meme meme meme meme
I have zero information about what your actual argument is.

>>17121449

How fat are you?

Serious question

>>17121449
>lingerie
i have some but mostly bras and panties that match and i ask my boyfriend for his thoughts but more often than not, he just says "well they'll be coming off anyway"
>sex
have you tried talking to him? he's not telling you on his own and if he seems like he's disinterested, just doing random stuff hoping it will work probably won't.

>>17121449
I think you guys really need to talk about it. I can see both of your perspectives (you feeling frustrated over the lack of intimacy and him being exhausted from work) and no one is wrong here, but you guys should be able to solve it by talking about it. Perhaps he can take a break from work so that you guys can fuck like rabbits.

I wish you nothing but the best of luck.

Honestly there could be any number of things that which could be the root cause. That's no way for us to really know besides just throwing Ranson things out there and send what sticks. You really need to have a serious conversation with him and ask what how he's feeling in the relationship without throwing any blame around.

It's hard for me to truly empathize with the situation because my gf and i don't have sex very often by your standards. Usually it is about once a week since we both work and live about an hour away from each other. I also don't ALWAYS want sex with her either, but i still like teasing her and grabbing her fun bits. She's objectivity hot, too - 5'1, extremely cute, slender, shapely legs, and if she wears anything remotely form fitting in any way her gigantic natural tits look like they're about to explode out of her clothing - but even so it's not like i want my dick in her 24/7.

I mean maybe it's just because I'm getting older or we've been together a while i don't know - but I'm definitely still very attracted to her. I mean i guess time is the other issue. We've had sessions end up taking the entire afternoon and these days we're often trading trips or don't other things that don't land much fun for sex besides a little bit in the morning or evening.

>>17121449
Post pics
It'll make me happy

>>17121449
If he's anything like me, sex isn't what I would want right after working 8 hours and spending the last hour in traffic. I'd want to chill for awhile before getting frisky. On top of that sex everyday isn't as fun or when the both of you aren't in the mood. Probably an issue on timinig.

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>>17121487
In other words he is a low testosterone beta.

OP dump the faggot and find a worthier man.

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>>17122401
>working 8 hours and spending the last hour in traffic

>>17121605
Call center work is one of the most stressful jobs there is, because you constantly have to meet metrics, constantly have to be friendly, and constantly have to figure out problems.

Yeah sure, he gets to sit down all day, but his mind has to be at 100% at all times.

>>17122517
Why is that always the solution everybody spouts in threads??? I don't want to break up.

he has low test or is in the closet about being gay

>>17123220
Because people are lazy. People who make threads here aren't willing to work on their problems most of the time, they want /adv/ to present an immediate solution. In the case of relationship threads, that answer is "break up." This is also why the other most common advice is "kill yourself." It is a permanent solution to temporary problems.

In this thread, the actual solution is talk to your significant other about it. Don't try to do things to MAKE them want sex. That's causing this whole issue in the first place. Sex is becoming an obligation, it's something one party gets from the other instead of something you mutually engage in and both benefit from. You can keep trying to figure out how to force your way into getting sex, or you can talk with your partner and see what can be done to make it mutually beneficial again.