Would it be a dick move to expose a molesting cousin after 20 years? He's now married with a kid in the military as a consideration.
>>17091404
depends on the 'molesting' he did and why you want to expose it now.
tell us the story. no need to gratuitous sexual detail but the circumstances are required for us to know.
>>17091408
>no need to gratuitous sexual detail
Speak for yourself. OP got pictures?
I was 10 and he was 16 and he used ice to shove down my pants to retrieve it with his mouth, and happened more than few times.
Why now? No particular reason. I've just always wondered if should have brought it up.
>>17091420
Just confront them about it. I mean it does sound like a dick move right off the bat. And it doesnt seem like you have anything to gain from it either. like youre not even using it for blackmail.
Plus they were 16, which sure seems super weird and uncomfortable, but theyre at an age where theyre not legally responsible for that. I guess if youre still kinda fixated on it, it might be best to confront them about it and talk it out.
If theyre really creepy still, some people just are. I dunno. As long as they dont do it anymore i dont see much of a reason.
>>17091420
>im approaching this purely clinically
then dont do it
You can't suddenly be like "oh hey this guy saw my peepee when we were kids" 20 years later and play it off like it affected you in any significant way. Unless you truly feel like you've been negatively affected by the for the past 20 years, then yes, you are making a stink over nothing.
Consider what the results will be, and consider if you want that or not. You will start to hate each other, your family will take sides, and will start to hate each other.
"Expose" is a strong word. It will be a case of who believes who. You would not expose him, but merely accuse him.
If it's still on your mind even after 20 years, maybe you should go to therapy instead.