how do i get a gf? i've been alone all my life.

>>16992392
Don't be unattractive.

>>16992392
Go outside more.

like everyday.

not just for basic needs.

Try to make friends.

Be uncomfortable with it.

This is how you meet girls.

How often do you leave your house? How often do you meet/hangout with girls? How often do you meet new people? How often do you shows interest in women? Start doing all of these things more often and you'll get a gf.

>>16992392
believe it or not, every person went through a period of discomfort and awkwardness with the opposite sex. Most people just go through it when they are still in their single digits in age.

If you aren't willing to go through that period of shy awkwardness and mistakes, then stay lonely. dank meme btw.

Look at your life through the perspective of someone you might want to date. Would they be happy with your life? There's a good chance you need to spice up your life anon

>>16992392
change your personality and life for people that treated you like shit and would never sacrifice or devote anything for you

advice

>dont just hit on a woman

its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.

give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.

doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.

>>16992508
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.

dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in

so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.

they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.

if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.

you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.

it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.

Just be yourself and don't be afraid to talk to people. If you happen to be overweight or unattractive, then try going to the gym or eat healthier. Besides, what is the worst that could happen if you talk to a girl?

>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.

effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.

the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.

so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.

go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.

you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.

its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.

>>16992511
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!

and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.

Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.


for more help, please post a picture of yourself as well as information on your hobbyies, life, weekly reoutine etc.

>>16992510
If not bait, I'll answer: you actually don't get used to rejection and humiliation if you experience them a lot. You''ll get mentally fucked from it.

>>16992516

>humiliation

unless you are walking up to a girl in the middle of her clique and asking her out and her being a bitch, how is it humiliating? the fact that you thikn that post was 'bait' shows just how much you've lost touch with reality.

even 10/10 chads get rejected all the fucking time. its not humiliating for someones interests not to align with yours.

rejection is just someone saying 'sorry, but i dont feel an inherent interest in you that comes from chemistry'. thats not a judgement, there is no man with a cloak keeping track.

what matters is the connections you do make, not the millions of people who wouldnt give you the time of day for whatever reason.

>>16992531
no normal people and "chads" are sometimes rejected
sad fucks like Op been rejected, treated like shit or at best like they're invisible, they never succeeded, never felt happiness, acceptance
all they learn is anxiety because for them trying=losing

>>16992553
not everyone who has never had a gf is a "sad fuck" rejected all his life

>>16992553

are often rejected. you arent a chad so how woudl you know just how much they are rejected?

>treated like shit

being turned down isnt being treated like shit. if a girl is a bitch to you when turning you down you either did something really inappropriate or you were hitting on a bitch to begin with, and if shes a bitch why would you care what she thinks to begin with?

>never felt happiness

ow the edge

>>16992569
you still missing the point, like many others trying to give advice
it's like people imagine some average dude that they're trying to help, meanwhile OP is probably that weird, friendless kid who was bullied by everyone
you think your advice make any sense for that kid? I'm sure you remember him.

>>16992585

yes, i was him. went to 5 highschools and tried all sorts of ways to be different than before, but ultimately i was the same kid at each one, and an easy target.

what worked for me going into adult hood was namely
>not using dating apps (this slowed me down a fuckton)
and what i outlined in
>>16992511
>>16992512

if that advice is considered too impossible to take, literally doing what you enjoy in a setting where other people who enjoy it can interact with you, then you arent asking for advice, you are asking for cheatcodes.

>>16992589
naah, you're just a troll that is copypasting shit from other threads
sage all the way, OP is not even here anymore

>>16992598

>its trolling to give advice on how to meet people

uh huh

>copy pasting stuff from other threads

it was my own advice, its long, so i save it to copy paste.