ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Girls, we (men) are just penises, why do you cry for penises? Doesn't this seem silly?

guys, how do i approach a shy guy

>>16984704
I don't get it. Just approach him. Do you think he will run away? You girls have it easy.

>>16984704
Say "Hi there, how are you doing?"

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This is weird, seeing guy names ask girl questions and vice versa

Rolling for cute girl name

Women, do women tend to care about social status more than a guy they like? I know a girl who clearly likes me, but I have a past which has made a lot of people who don't know me well now think I am a mong.

>>16984724
Traci is pretty cute senpai

>>16984655
>Clifford

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>>16984731
>Wood

Girls, what's the best way to comfort you over a distance if you're sick?

I can't exactly go visit her.

>>16984726
What kind of past. And don't confuse status with 'I was in jail a few times for stupid shit'.

do you girls like baby faced twinks? or is it a downside for you?

How would I ask a girl I've barely talked to out over Facebook messenger? All I know is that she's an artsy tumblr girl

>>16984716
y-yes, i dont want to mess up

>>16984779
I am in the last few months of school. I used to be very very aggressive towards almost everyone. I used to be a shutin. Now I am not but a lot of people still think i am like that when I know I am not and she knows I am not.

>>16984782
Ask her out in person.

If you don't know her in person, then at best you can "bump" into her at a party.

To be honest though, if you don't know her in person and you wanna ask her out, don't do it. She's not gonna fall in love with you from your profile unless its absolutely chock full of pictures of you with other girls.

>>16984807
She knows who I am and we have talked. I just don't see her often enough

>>16984786
What do you like about him? Compliment him on it and go from there.

>>16984812
Did you get on the times you spoke?

>>16984815
i like his music-y side. Would it be weird if i asked him to come over to listen to albums?

>>16984852
She wasnt absolutely disgusted by my presence. She initiated the conversation one time and moved to sit with me and a friend and one of her friends another time, she sat next to me desu

>>16984853
No way! Anyone would be happy to know someone is interested in their hobby.

>>16984774
Send her flowers or a tiny arrangement. Depending on how serious it is. I personally would just rather have you talk to me on the phone and be there for me

>>16984858
Then tell her to come with you to an event(Gig, night, movie etc) with you and your friends.

I'd say build up to the 1 on 1, don't go straight for the jugular. If you do go for the throat(Which wouldn't be disastrous if you're confident she finds you attractive), make sure you don't do that old thing of "What are you doing this weekend?"

And if she rejects you leave it at that and don't make a big deal about it.

Also,

>sat next to me

That's really not much to write home about. If she laughs at all your jokes and can't resist physical contact then start lubing up.

>>16984859
ty anon, wish me luck!

>>16984869
I will hopefully see her at a friend's band's gigs over summer, so ill connect with her then

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Goes for both men and women
If you experimented with the same sex in the past would you ever bring it up to your current partner? Also, have you had any same sex experiences?
I'm just genuinely curious along with the fact that I'm a 22 khv and am considering just sleeping with a guy to get some sort of intimate contact. I'm just wondering about the future if I'd ever tell my hypothetical gf about this if I go through with it

>>16984947

*shrug* I've kissed a few dudes, mostly because why not (was drunk and I generally am pretty DGAF about making out in general). I've told my gf. She thinks it's actually kind of hot to think about. Would never has sex with another guy though.

To be honest, your case sounds straight up desperate and kind of pathetic--10 times that if you're straight with no bi-curiosity to you.

Either way, you're better off being upfront, or it'll breed bad habits, and you'll end up with someone where you'll ultimately end up feeling lonely--regardless of the partnership (making you somehow feel even more alone).

>>16984947
In general, talking about your past just leads to bad things. Don't ask, don't tell. There's still people who think being gay or bi is wrong, so there's a possibility a future partner will take your confession the same way they'd take you saying you raped and murdered your entire family.

>>16984967
Yeah I'm not claiming to not be pathetic, I'm well aware. Hence 22 y/o khv. I'm not attracted to men, but if I can get a boner from the wind hitting my dick at a certain direction then I'm sure I'd be abke to get it up with a guy
>>16984969
True enough I suppose. I feel that losing your virginity would be brought up at least once in a relationship for laughs or something
Not that I'm an expert on these sprts of things

from a guy to women:

Why do some women fake orgasms in bed?

It always saddens me but not because maybe
I am too bad in bed but simply because she did not tell me that or if I am doing something wrong.... Also I know that you do not have to come every time... what is the big deal with faking it?

How would you feel of your partner had faked an orgasm?

>>16984981
>Yeah I'm not claiming to not be pathetic, I'm well aware. Hence 22 y/o khv. I'm not attracted to men, but if I can get a boner from the wind hitting my dick at a certain direction then I'm sure I'd be abke to get it up with a guy

Completely forgot to add the second half/point to my post.

Even if you go through with it, you won't enjoy it (especially if you're straight). Not only will you have the "it's another guy" thing in your head, but having sex with people you're not attracted to always feels like shit in general--especially if it's your first time and 100x that if what you're looking for is intimacy.

Sex is overrated to a degree. It can be amazing, but just because it CAN, doesn't at all mean it WILL be.

When a girl's dating profile says she is looking for "new friends", how true is it?

Generally speaking of course

>>16984947
I'm about to get married. My fiancee has no clue that I've had my dick sucked by 2 different guys and sucked 2 dicks in my life. But all 3 times (yes 3 total, one mutual and 2 one-way) I couldn't get hard and couldn't finish or anything and ended up panicking and crying after because the thought of it disturbed me and I didn't know why I did it. I was just a stupid kid and it turns out I'm not actually gay, at all. Hence why I'm not able to get hard with a guy even if I want to, but I was stupid and learned it the hard way I guess. All 3 happened in just really, really weird circumstances, one where I thought there would be a girl on the other end of a gloryhole, one where I was really little and didn't know, and one that was essentially rape.

No my fiancee will never, ever know and I have completely buried that. It could never happen.

>>16985000
>Why do some women fake orgasms in bed?

From a dude to another dude:

Because some (a TON) of guys really are that insecure and get butt hurt about feeling inadequate. Goes hand in hand as to guys who are insecure about their penis size, and even those guys who only want virgins--because they don't want to be compared to any other guy.

>>16985012
I'm this guy and what >>16985006
is saying is 100 percent true. It just doesn't fucking work if it's another guy and you aren't straight. It doesn't feel good like you kinda think it might possibly if you're desperate for sex. It's just fucking awful.

>>16985000
Because most guys, especially young ones, don't understand that you can enjoy yourself even without orgams, and they think they're really bad in bed or that we will stop liking them for that.
And because we know it turns you on and sometimes we just want to end, if we're fucking you without really being in the mood.

>>16985022
>>16985015

I see...
I am a 24 years old datless, kissless virgin myself...

But I do not undestand this still:
Can you not just tell him that you had enough?
I mean I am pretty unsecure about myself but I would feel really hurt if my gf would lie to me about such a intimate thing....

As I see it I would not be happy about being shit in bed admittedly but I would want to know at least...
Maybe i could change myself then somehow.
Also I would feel unthrustworthy if she would feel the need to lie to me.

If you would have been given the choice without consequences would you still fake an orgasm or just tell him the truth?

>>16985011
>When a girl's dating profile says she is looking for "new friends", how true is it?

That's the default setting on most everything dude. Don't read too much in to it one way or the other.

>>16985034
I lied to my bf about this a lot when we were younger because he was REALLY insecure about sex. He was always "I'm not big enough. I don't last long enough. I'm not good enough. I can't make you come."
It was really painful for him, he was so unhappy whenever I didn't come. So I just lied, tried to teach him how to please me without being too obvious about it and still pretending to be satisfied, etc.At the end he learned and now I don't ned to fake orgasms.

>Can you not just tell him that you had enough?
If we're halfway through it and he's really into it, I'm not going to say "Hon, you know what? I'm not really that horny, I just kind of wanted to please you, now... meh. Just pull out,go to the bathroom and jerk off".
I'm not the kind of person who turns down sex, I never told my boyfriend no in 6 years. But sometimes I'm not super into it and sometimes I just faked to end it quicker.
Pretty much never happens, now, tho.

>If you would have been given the choice without consequences would you still fake an orgasm or just tell him the truth?
If he wasn't hurt, I'd tell him the truth.

>>16985050
If you'd met a new bf would you appreciate it if he told you bevore your first sex that he wanted you to be honest about the sex?
e.g. just tell the truth and point out where I suck, etc...

What if the sex turns out to be bad and your bf loses his self-esteem or just does not want to have sex duo to his knowledge about his preformance... would you encourage him to still try or initiante sex by yourself?

>>16985073
I honestly don't know.
I am a fairly honest and blunt person, but some people get extremely butthurt about sex and don't understand that in a relationship you don't have sex for the "performance" but because you love each other and it's a way of showing it.
If I wanted to get an awesome orgasm, I'd get a vibrator. I want the experience with the man I love.

>would you encourage him to still try or initiante sex by yourself?
I'd do both. I do initiate sex a lot in general, I would have no problem encouraging him if it iss needed.

>>16985073
>What if the sex turns out to be bad and your bf loses his self-esteem or just does not want to have sex duo to his knowledge about his preformance... would you encourage him to still try or initiante sex by yourself?

Not that anon....

but you realize dealing with this exact insecurity is why girls end up thinking it's just better for everyone involved to lie right? You basically answered your own original question

>>16985089
Maybe it is just my personal preference.
I would rather lose my slef-esteem and will to initiate sex rather than get lied to and live in a fantasy world where I think I am good at something.

But honestly sex is not always about cumming.
Sometimes there is this physical need but sometimes the romance is in focus...

>>16985085
would you appreciate it then if your partner brought up the idea to involve sex toys like vibrators during sex. As in combining the romance with the posibility to orgasm even though he is not that good at doing it "manually"

I mean I would rather want romantic sex wihtout orgasm than just orgasm...but sometimes I feel at least some sort of physical need to do it.
Do you or women in particular share this "need" sometimes?

>>16985109
>would you appreciate it then if your partner brought up the idea to involve sex toys like vibrators during sex?
I'd prefer if he put some effort and learnt how to please me. It's not rocket science. Oral sex or fingering is fairly easy and I'd prefer if he put some effort into it than just being "fuck it, I'll get a dildo".

>Do you or women in particular share this "need" sometimes?
Yes, but eventually if I just need the physical relief I can masturbate. Sex with my partner is something else.

That feel when you don't know if she's ignoring you because she likes you so much or because she doesn't like you at all. Feels bad man.

>>16985141
>she's ignoring you because she likes you so much
If you're not in kindergarten, there's no such a thing.

girls, i posted a thread about this but ill also ask it here.
i know that my girlfriend secretly has my facebook password. also she wanted to go to a stoplight party dressed in green ( this signifies that you are single) to get free drinks. we are 2 hours apart (by flight).
what to make of this?

>>16985130
ty very much for your answers

you have braught me a new insight I from my probably only male perspective of view would have never gotten sadly

My idea about bringing up a sex toy would be about caring about her pleasure too. I would have never guessed in that context that it could get recieved as bad or lazy. Do not get me wrong I would never stop putting effort into pleasuring my gf but my thoughts would be how to make it better until I got good enough.
On the other hand I would not mind my gf to bring a masturbator or vibrator for men to our bedroom. My thaughts would be there about the kinky idea and that she thaught about me or us and how to "spice it up".


>Yes, but eventually if I just need the physical relief I can masturbate.
How I sad, men have this also. Actually quiet shockingly frequent.

So would you be upset if your bf would masturbate without you or to porn of some sort when he just wanted to "get it quickly off" like out of his mind?
I have it that the need of romance and intimicy are seperated from the physical or corporal need of an ejaculation...
It is sometimes really confusing and irritationg but that is how my body works... awkwardly I admit.

>>16985159
I've been with my bf for 7 years, we had sex for 6 and we still feel no need to "spice things up". If we needed to, a vibrator would be fine but I don't want it to be an excuse to work less on pleasing each other.

>So would you be upset if your bf would masturbate without you or to porn of some sort when he just wanted to "get it quickly off" like out of his mind?
No, I wouldn't care. It rarely happens because I never turn him down, but if I'm away from home or whatever I know he masturbates and I don't care. For me it's the same - If he's not around I masturbate, if he is and I am extremely horny I initiate sex and tell him he needs to put extra effort in oral sex because it's the one thing that always makes me come.
It's natural to be horny, as long as he chooses me over porn any time I will never care of his masturbation habits.

>>16985150
Shes obviously not your girlfriend

girls, upon meeting you, whats the quickest way for a guy to get his cock in?

>>16985196
Would you be rather offended if your bf would like to watch porn with you together e.g. to get in a hornier mood of sex?

From my point of view porn is somethinge very personal and a point where I am volnurable. So sharing it with my gf is kind of a way to open myself up to her, maybe give her a volnurable spot of me.
Personally I would feel very awkward about it but this would also be a point why to do it... sort of sharing my "shame" since porn is mostly socially rather badly seen.

>>16985213
>Would you be rather offended if your bf would like to watch porn with you together?
Nah. We sometimes did but we have super different taste in porn and we end up mocking each other and laughing of each other every time we watch porn together. Doesn't work hahaha

I am fairly open with my bf about sexual stuff and whatever he likes, whatever he's into, it's fine to me. It's normal to watch porn, most people I know watch it. So I expect my boyfriend to watch it and I don't really care.

>>16985232
Ty again for your answers. They are really helping me out.

Even though I have and never had a girlfriend before.
What do you say how and how fast should a relationship progress under the assumption that both partners get along very nicely.

Btw, I should mention that I am from germany...
So when and how would you progress to become more intimate.
Starting from touching like hugging over kissing to groping and finally sex.
Feel free to iclude more "steps" or re-order them as you like.

How would you initiate it or would like to be initiated by a guy?

>>16985034
>I would feel really hurt if my gf would lie to me about such a intimate thing....
Same here. Sometimes on this board I feel like the only shmuck who actually believes that "honesty is the best policy" shit. I wouldn't lie to a partner about anything, and I wouldn't want them to lie to me.

>>16985255
No worries, I don't mind giving advice or I wouldn't be here. Also, european too!

Me and my bf took things slowly, we had been together for almost 3 months before getting any sexual and for 9 months before going all the way. We were each other firsts and we were really young. Right now probably I'd do things differently, but I will (hopefully) never know.

Me and my bf were friends before. First physical contact we did was surely hugging and kissing on the cheek when we met with our friends group. He asked me out, we held hands after a couple of dates. Then we started kissing. Took us a couple of months to get to the house and some actual making out. We made out in bed for a while, groping. Started undressing each other, kissing each other bodies, touching each other, then went for oral sex.

I like both initiating or when he initiates. It's not a big deal.
Usually if I initiate I start teasing him, pushing myself against him, I dress sexy or I grind my butt against his crotch. If he initiates he kisses my neck, plays with my boobs, dirty talks, or smacks my butt. At the end the second we end up in bed or on the couch cuddling we know we're going all the way.

>>16984870
Good luck, tell us how it went.

>>16985212
"Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

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Girls, how would you respond to flirty texts from a guy you're not interested in, if at all?

>great chemistry with girl in person and over text
>hit each other up a lot
>both of us make plans to go out together, but shit's on the backburner due to busy schedules
>every once in a while drop a level in subtlety over text, send her a (somewhat) flirty text
>conversation goes quiet
>continues as normal one to a few days later, whenever either of us has something new to say

If I had to judge by this alone I'd say she isn't interested, but I don't know. Might be social awkwardness too, which is pretty big according to her.
What is a normal response to flirty jokes over text if it's not reciprocated?

Fell in love with a girl. We both admitted we had feelings but she's dating a guy. She said she thought about leaving him at a time but she picked him over me, and told me if only the circumstances were different then we could have been together.

My question is, if she breaks up with him at any point of the future, then contacts me, am I nothing more than the back up guy? The man she fell back on? We both care about one another and harbored feelings for a year, but she said she wasn't going to just dump her current boyfriend. That's cool with me. It is. But the idea that maybe she would message me in a few months or a year bothers me because she added the, "under different circumstances" line.

Would I be nothing more than the back up? The second best? The guy she would have dropped for him if the shoe was on the other foot?

>>16985406
What are the "circumstances"?
If you two can't be together for some serious reason, it's perfectly fine if she wants to move on and date someone else and eventually give a try to things later, but I'd suggest to move on as well and not think too much about it.

>start wearing a blazer and nicer clothes
>people compliment me and say i look good
>I actually can tell i'm feeling better in my own skin, and others pay more attention to me
>try to convince my friend to do the same if only for his self esteem
>he says no, and jokes saying i have a problem because of what i think clothes did to me

Can clothes really change things for you and around you or am I indeed completely crazy?

>>16985427
Your friend is deflecting stuff that makes him uncomfortable about himself.

You should also learn not to volunteer advice to people who aren't asking for it. Even when they do ask for it, temper your enthusiasm with humility. You may not know everything or even be right about what you do know. That fact is why you're here asking this question in the first place.

Yes, clothes can change things for you when it comes to social interactions and the way you feel about yourself as a result of them.

>>16985412

Me and her were friends, really close. Feelings were developing. Then she went back to her ex. I confessed my feelings, she was sheepish about hers. One night we got super close to fucking but both pulled back, we got into a fight. That was about a year ago.

Since then we've talked intensely off and on but never hung out. We did petty things like a game of tag back and forth. Recently we went to a bar to talk. And talked for 2 hours about everything. We admitted both our feelings, the games we played, how me made each other feel, and we apologized for a lot of shit.

But she also said she was happy where she was. She said she would take a day or two to think though, she did, and texted me saying while she has a lot of uncertainties with her current bf who used to be her ex, she is certain she loves him.

That's all fair enough. Then she added the whole. "If only we had met under different circumstances."

I told her I understood but I really need to move on then from all the games, which hurt her but she said she got it. I told her the night at the bar that I can't be her back up guy or fallback plan.

Now I'm just saying theoretically. If she was to message me or call me within say 6-12 months. Would that be all I am? A rebound? The safe guy? The back up?

>>16985442
Yes, you'd be.
She feels strong for the other person, went back to him even if "feelings were developing", and then when you gave her the chance (multiple times) to choose you over him, she always said no.
Move on, find someone who has the same feelings for you.
She probably does care about you but she's not into you as much as her ex.

What should a girl say if she is just sitting on a bench on campus and a guy comes up and asks for her number? I sperged out and said "no thanks..." Is that right or what? I have a bf but that might not be good enough to shut some guys down

>>16985453

Fuck, this hurts to hear. Deep down I always felt like if I could just get that chance then the feelings she would grow for me would be way more intense then the shit she has with him.

She automatically had feelings for him from before to build off of, while me and her were still developing.

But I just can't be the back up guy, the fall back plan. I'd always wonder, "would she go back to him if he gets his shit together?"

>>16985460
I am sorry if it hurts, it wasn't my intention.

I think that if she truly felt deeply for you she wouldn't think twice about leaving him for you, especially because you made it clear that you'd date her.
If she felt for you, if she was interested in tried to grow feelings for you, she would have tried, got closer to you, eventually choose you over her bf.
Probably the "status quo" mattered more than you.

Guy here. Is it ever okay to approach a stranger girl that's with a bunch of friends?

I usually meet up with some friends in a park, just to talk and maybe look at shops and so on. It's where the "geeky" young people meet in my city. Our group of friends is pretty closed and don't interact with anybody else.

Today I saw a girl that I liked so much in style, awesome hair, clothing, face. Everything. She was with a group of like 3 friends with bags, guess they went shopping, and then hanged out around the park all afternoon like us.

I really wished I could interact with her. But I think it'd just be creepy to just approach her and start talking. She had a backpack of an animu series I know, but I couldn't get near her in a way that commenting it would sound natural.

Was there a way I could've done it, or is every possible path a creepy one?

>>16985458
"I've got a boyfriend"
and if they still go on
"Listen I love my boyfriend, I'm not looking for anybody else."
and if they STILL go on, get the fuck out of there because they can't take a hint that you aren't interested and are probably the type of guy that would rape you given the chance.

>>16985458
I would say that's a pretty harsh way of rejecting, though not really in the asshole territory. He might take it personally and become bit sad if hes not used to getting rejected, though he probably was if he just randomly asked for your number.

>>16985458
Your answer was certainly awkward but perfectly fine all the same. Practice things like "I'd rather not" and "excuse me (followed by walking away)" if you want to get better at spontaneously blurting out more sensible things.

So I was at school doing this radio show in a glass booth in the cafeteria for my schools radio club, and after I finished and was packing up I noticed this cute girl with a smile on her face looking into the booth while sitting with her friend.

When I left she was looking at me and smiling. I made eye contact, smiled back, and kept walking.

Did I do it right? I have almost zero flirting experience.


It isn't in my nature to approach someone I don't know, but if this happens again with her or anyone else what would you do.

>>16985524
>kept walking
Next time just walk over and say hi. Talk to her about radio since you saw her watching.

>>16985528
Figured as much.

Still to shy to talk to opposite genital strangers but I have noticed a recent spike in girls talking to me or possibly glancing at me.

How much do I have to workout and finally get muscular before it's "enough" for girls?

>>16985533
I see noodly stick men with girls.

>>16985533
You're asking the wrong question to get to the information you want. What you really should be asking is "how low do I need my body fat to get?" Even with very moderate amounts of weight training, you'll have sufficient musculature on your frame to satisfy girls. However that makes no difference at all if they can't see the muscles. What you need most is to drop body fat %, and that's better accomplished through diet.

Eat clean every meal, every day, 365 days a year. Count calories like a maniac. That's more important than pinning down some exact amount of workout time because you'll be wasting your time otherwise.

>>16985478

Of course I'm not mad at you.

It just hurts to hear the truth. I appreciate the help. I just...you know. Love is complicated, it hurts, and there seems to be these weird rules that aren't written but are hardwired into us.

I won't be her second choice. And if her boyfriend leaves her, and she wants me in six months, twelve months, two years. I would have to weigh that past where she chose another guy over me, and I wanted an honest opinion on whether or not I would still be considered the back up.

>>16985540
what body fat percentage is acceptable?

I have a BMI of 26 kg/m^2 and a abdominal circumference of 103 cm

>>16985653
10%

>>16985675
so basically...
I weigh 93 kg now, what is too much obviously
and have a body fat percentage of about 28 %

you are telling me to lose 18 % of my weight in total...
that would be about 16.5 kg....
I would weigh then 76.5 kg on a height of 1.88 m

WTF...
I personally felt most comfortable when I had a weight of 85 kg
at this weight my abdominal muscles were almost visible...

Guys and girls: would anyone be interested in a self-improvement thread? Was thinking of trying to make them a thing as they're actually good for something contrary to most content I've seen lately on /adv/ but I'm a bit insecure.

>>16985698
>I would weigh then 76.5 kg on a height of 1.88 m
>WTF...
Are you fucking serious? For other Americans like me that's 6'2" 169 lb with only 10% body fat. That's not absurd, it's wonderful. You'd look like a walking sculpture carved from a block of lean muscle.

>at this weight my abdominal muscles were almost visible...
And you think "almost" is a good way to look attractively muscular? You severely underestimate how far away actual muscle definition is. If you care about looking attractively muscular you're going to need more than the faintest shadow on display, buddy.

There's too much fat in your skull I think and it's messing with your brain.

>>16985712
>There's too much fat in your skull I think and it's messing with your brain.

mfw you insult me over my personal preference on what is aesthetically attractive within a healthy weight range

BMI of 20 to 24.9 with a abdominal circumference of less than 94 cm according to the NIH Mr. America is considered to be optimal...

btw, I am not some US guy but from germany with polish heritage
even though I am not a body builder and certainly do not wish to become one I have quite an amount of muscle mass.

I will definetly continue to lose body fat but that anorexic standard you propose is straight away bullshit...
get your shit together you model influenced body building propaganda fanatic

>>16985050
>"I'm not big enough. I don't last long enough. I'm not good enough. I can't make you come."
Wtf? There are guys like this?
I'm ugly, but the only things that I am confident about are my dick (it's average and it works) and how long I can last.
What's up with my fellow men, these days?

>>16985735
apperently this:
>>16985712

>>16985734
>mfw you insult me over my personal preference on
Considering the question originated with what OTHER PEOPLE prefer, yeah, it's a retarded thing to interject. How desperate do you have to be about staying fat to react like that?

>I will definetly continue to lose body fat but that anorexic standard you propose is straight away bullshit...
So is jacking yourself off alone at home because you're too fat to attract women.

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>>16985746
trump bless 'merica

>>16985734
Uh dude, 6'2 and 170 pounds is pretty skinny. You don't have "quite an amount of muscle mass." Like, not even close. This is coming from a guy that's 200 lbs and 15% body fat at 5'8.

There is a cute girl I met at an anime convention (more specifically a maid cafe) and I'm not a shy guy but I had a difficult time talking to her and it's never happened before. I was trying to find things to ask but I couldn't think and I was stuttering. I'm pretty sure she was just really patient with me but she's going to another one next month and I was wondering how I should aproach her. I want to be her friend and build it up from there.

>>16985913
Say hi, tell her you remember her from the past convention and that you're happy to meet again. If she's friendly, ask for her info.

>>16985537
Noodly stickman with GF reporting in

>>16985913

I'm a dude but...

>cute girl an anime convention (more specifically a maid cafe)

So she was an employee there or just another attendent?

> I want to be her friend and build it up from there.

Sounds more like you want to friend zone yourself...

Girls who tend to go to those cons and cosplay tend to be of a particular type of personality, and they tend to have a certain opinion of themselves. If she's of that type, you're better off steering clear because it's not going to end well for you.

If she's just someone who works there, she works there and has to deal with tons of spaghetti droppers. The only real way to differentiate yourself is to not be one and seem like a genuine human being interacting with another genuine human being.

Just be nice, polite, and not a desperate sperg.

So this is a bit of a weird situation -
There's this girl I used to like for a long time right but she hadn't spoken to me in a while. Then one day, she saw me, and ran up to me and sat down next to me (pretty normal I guess), then told me that she was moving to another country in like 3 months. Why would she just run up to me, and show interest in me for this one time just to say she's moving in 3 months. Wouldn't it make more sense to say when there was like 2 weeks to go? It seems to me like it's because she wants me to do something for her, but I have no clue.
Basically I'm asking does she want me to hang out with her more or ask her out? Because that's not something I'm opposed to. But if she doesn't I don't want to make her uncomfortable.

>>16985817
>getting mad, scolding you, something like this
I don't get it. She does nothing of the sort, and the closest it did ever get was her play-punching my arm for teasing her.

In person she has never been angry, offended or even uncomfortable with anything I did. She's always eager to see me if we bump into each other, and even gives me a heads-up if there's a chance to.
Same thing over text, though she randomly drops the conversation. Not only when I say something flirty, but also 'weird' things that may be kind of offensive and insulting in hindsight with a healthy dose of paranoia. Sometimes she goes 'lol' or 'ehe' with smileyfaces, sometimes she goes dark.
She has moments of depression, where she spends the majority of her days asleep in her bed. She also explained a few times her depression is why she cancelled the plans she made herself.

Think it's likely that this whole lack of response-thing is because she's too tired/depressed to continue answering, rather than uninterested? I don't know whether to keep trucking or accept all this as a rejection. Should I stop showing romantic interest?

>>16985947

Maybe she's excited that she's moving.
Maybe she's dropping a hint to see if you'd get a move on and actually fucking do something.

Absolutely no way for us to know.

All we can tell you is get off your ass and go do it, because wondering, "What if" will always haunt you and hurt you more than rejection.

Dear /adv/, how do I stop loving a cheating whore that tore my heart out, stepped on it and never even apologized, who's also acting like nothing happened whenever I run into her. How do I stop having dreams about her every night and how do I stop wanting to call her all the time?

ps: It has been one year and I've also slept with 5 girls since then.

>>16985967
enter gym
google "zyzz"
adquire his lifestyle
you will be narcisist but you'll never feel this dilemma again

>>16985967
Watch Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

>>16985975
How is that gonna help?
>>16985974
No, I quit that after I realized I hate dance music, drugs, alcohol and all my old friends.

>>16985458
that's fine if this person is a stranger. and if not then they should know that you have a boyfriend, and then its still fine.

Girl sends me a picture of her getting creampied (fake or not, dunno?). She goes offline very shortly afterwards saying she's "tired", after we had a long conversation about sex. I left a message saying "I won't let you outslut me" with a dickpic. Did I respond correctly?

>>16985952
About the first, yes, probably because she's depressed.
Do you want to date a depressed person?

>>16985967
Embrace your cuckold fetish.

>>16986031
In my opinion, yes, but she might block you (50% chance).

>>16986059
I doubt this. We've been pretty good (online) friends for 2~ months now, very open with each other. I'll just act like I never sent it in the first place, and if she wants to talk about it then sure.

Girls and boys, what are your fetishes?

Please state if you are a boy or a girl.

I don't know if I have any fetishes. I'm a 26 year old guy, and I honestly can say I don't have one. Is it weird? I mean, I think girls in European schoolgirl uniforms are hot, but it's not like I'm explicitly seeking out that type of porn.

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I'm dating a marginally decent girl, and I'm a junior in college, I've been dating her since freshman year and she's my first gf. She's a good girl, she cares for me a lot, she depends on me, and the relationship is generally secure on her end. She's also pretty much there for me and I can usually rely on her for some things.
However, she usually rotates between acting like she's my mother, like a bratty, bitchy baby, and like an old lady. She has a beautiful face, but she just doesn't excite me as much any more. She's also one of the most unfortunate people I know (that isn't disabled or living in a box). And I've been constantly dealing with feelings of not wanting to be with her for a long time, but I stay with her because I don't want to be selfish, and me leaving her (I assume) would be really, really, REALLY fuckin bad for her. I do love her, a lot, but I can't help but feel like I'm in the wrong relationship, or I shouldn't be in one. I absolutely cannot imagine marrying her or having children by her. My family isn't too fond of her and my best friend just told me today that the relationship is a fail. I honestly can't figure out why I choose to stay and why I can't muster up the power to end it, I guess I just don't feel good about leaving her. I'm not asking for someone to make a decision for me, I already know, either stay with her and definitely be miserable forever, or leave and maybe not be miserable, or possibly be super miserable. What I want to know is if anyone else has had a similar situation that maybe has some sort of insight that would help me.
Because right now, I just feel like I'm waiting for something to go wrong and my heart fucking hurts right now. I feel like a terrible person.

>>16986098
Not only are you wasting her time but you're wasting yours, all the potential time you will have doing what you want to do. Also keep in mind that everyone out there goes through break ups, she's got to have hers too sometime, it'll suck for her, like it does for everyone, but also don't be sad because eventually, like it does for everyone, she'll get over you. Don't waste time doing something you don't want to do m8

>>16986098
Just do what.your heart wants man, id need more info on the situation but i would probably dump her, or talk about the problems, because at the end of the day its a relatonship and if you are not comfortable just say it.
Greetings from Argentina

>>16986098
Honestly, girls like that are tough. I was in a similar situation a few years ago (though it all deteriorated way faster). There are really only three options - If it is somewhat bearable, don't just rip the band aid off, if she is heavily reliant on you, then you just becoming friends with her or leaving her life is going to have immense social impact on her. Try to get her to talk to other people, and slowly withdraw. When texting her, talk in group chats etc, then send less messages or whatever.
Another situation is that she's ruining your life, and you are really hating it. I was sort of in that for a while, in which case just leave.
Finally, if you really don't mind wait it out, or talk directly to her about your issues with her behavior. But obviously try not to be abrasive. IE Don't say "I don't like you being my mum" out of the blue. The moment would need to be at lease somewhat right.
I only have experience with one of those, so my other advice comes from situations which my friends had been in, etc.

>>16986075
I may come back with more I forgot but
Female domination
Male domination
Bondage
Machine bondage
Exhibitionism
Voyeurism
Futa
Straight shota
Loli
Humiliation
Pegging
Edging
Lingerie
Uniforms
Short haired girls
Chubby girls
Fit girls
A little bit of cuckold
Chastity cages
Role reversal
Small penis humiliation
Lesbians
Post orgasm torture
Toys
Premature ejaculation
Cross dressing
Cunnilingus
Fellatio
Any kind of prostate stimulation
Hand jobs
Massages
Multiple orgasms
Female nipple play
Male nipple play
Oil
Omorashi

I'm a guy.

Is it normal to only be interested in girls that have a specific hairstyle?

>>16986075
Yeah, I consider that weird, but it seems like most people are vanilla, so we (fetishists) might be the weird ones.

>boy
I am a man, a penis.
Some of my fetishes and kinks:
>foot
>female shoes
>rape fantasy
>tickling
>food play
>exhibitionism

>>16986156
There are some fetishes like lingerie that are so widespread they're considered vanilla, but there are some seriously weird fetishes out there.

I read an article written by a guy that could only preform if he and/or his partner were on fire. (pyrophilia)

Gals:
What's the best way to ask a girl out? And I mean in a typical, average way, not some extravagant way. She's already my friend, so take that into consideration if it's relevant.

>>16986358
how old r u?

>>16986140
Hell yeah dude. Long hair ponytails.

I didn't know why you wanted a girl to answer your question there though, since how would they know?

Ladies : would a bad looking guy or an overweight guy put you off (attraction wise) even if you know he's an ok dude?
Also is it more important how a guy makes you feel than what he offers?

Girls would you be offended if a guy can't stay hard with a condom on?

this girl is posting vague things on facebook like responding to a picture of someone who posted things about "harmful people you should cut out of your life" with "thanks i needed to hear this right now"

and saying things about how shes upset but not giving specifics.

She just mad at her boyfriend or just broke up with him right?

I never understand why women do this.

>>16986402
Men are providers, protectors, and role-models. What you bring up isn't necessarily a deal-breaker with the average woman, but doing nothing to improve your self, your "portfolio" if you will, causes women to migrate to more active, "deeper" people.

Girls,

I'm recently single and heartbroken, but I'm getting myself out there and already been on 3 dates with 3 different beautiful girls.
Went home with one of them, and here is the problem. I can't seem to get it up on the first night. I need a little confidence and time, perhaps on the third date when I know her better. Dunno.
How can I go about this the best way? Just be honest?
I don't want to hurt your feelings cos honestly you're beautiful and the problem is in my head.

I slept at her house and couldn't get it up, but don't worry ladies. I fingered and licked almost 2 hours and she squirted like.. the entire bed was soaked. I like to think she wasn't too..

>>16986515
faggot

>>16986515
i think someone already answered your question
>>16986522

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>>16985458
>What should a girl say if she is just sitting on a bench on campus and a guy comes up and asks for her number? I sperged out and said "no thanks..."
Hahaha oh god, i do this too.
>some guy: got a light?
>no thanks

Girls;

will it be creepy if I suddenly make contact via Facebook with a girl I was brief friends with from 3 years ago? I think I'm in love bur I don't want to creep her out

thanks

>>16985967
Learn to hate her.
Imagine her thinking of how you fell for her lies while she loved every inch of dick she was railed by.
Make a list of all her flaws. Memorize it. Don't be afraid of adding petty things. Quantity is important.
Cut contact with her in every possible way, don't give her a chance to seem desirable. But before that, one last (and the most important) thing:
Phoner, or text her if it's easier, telling her what an utter cunt she is, how much she hurt you and that you're happy she's gone so that you can start something without her.
Burn all bridges.
Never reply to her responses.
Never answer her calls.
She's everything that went wrong in your life - time to be happy without her.

>>16986031
Sounds reasonable. It'd be better if your dick was inside someone, tho

>>16986139
Picky and prude

>>16986668
I get it! Sarcasm!

Ok apparently I am going to a speed date in about 30 mins.
What the fuck am I supposed to talk about to the women there? Am I even supposed to talk?


This is some new age corporate bullshit right here.

>>16986404
Fellow guy here, have you tried other condom brands/models? Skyn is very good.

>>16986789
Durex, as it's sold everywhere here. They,re OK but a little tight around the base

>>16985928
>>16985923
She worked there as a maid.

I couldn't talk properly.
L-like that sh-shy guy all th-the girls hit on in anime (except nobody hits on me). That never happened to me before. My goal is to be her boyfriend.
I'm gonna take some anxiety meds just for the initial stuff until we can open up to each other.

>>16986793
I'm guessing it's better than Trojan ultra thin? Thats the only one I've tried

Guys,

How would you respond if a long gone ex contacted you sayng that she had a child after you broke up, and that you're the father, and that she contacted you so that you could decide if you wanted to be involved or not. Let's say she didn't want you to be tied together, but the kid started asking questions.

>>16986797
Never tried trojans, so i wouldn't know. But the are pretty thin, yes.

>>16986755
:\ what are you doing

>>16986802
Involved in what kind of way?

>>16986807
I have no idea. Please send help i have never gone to a speed date before.

Girls, it's been already 5 months since my break-up, she never called or texted me again.

She's never coming back, right?

I don't know how to deal with this pain, i loved her so much. I don't find any purpose in life anymore, i'm depressed.

>>16986404
Probably not. I guess it would ultimately depend on the situation

>>16986802
Depends on the dude's character, really. I'd appreciate it a ton, and probably try to be involved at least in some way if there's no other man in the kid's life. And if you didn't want that or there was another guy in the picture, at least I could send Christmas/birthday presents, send genetic tests/family medical history for doctors, etc.

But with the sort of men the average woman on /adv/ apparently likes, I wouldn't be surprised if it turned into some Jerry Springer shit. Responsibility is not one of the qualities of an "alpha" manchild.

>>16986828
Eat some valium in advance to counteract the spped, and you'll be able to act cool while everyone else there is bouncing between the walls.

Seriously, tho: speed is of the essence (obviously), so use your time wisely:
(most) women like talking, often about themselves ("he'ssuch a good listener"), so use this to your advantage: set up the conversation ao that she might start doing just that. "What so you do for fun on your days off? Why do you like it?"
Other than that, make sure to give her a few very basic facts about yourself so that she remembers you. That way you'll be Mike the Mechanic instead of just Mike".

Another tip, not limited to speed dating: I've had positisve responses to asking simple questions right after them introducing themselves. "That's an unusual name. How do you spell that" or whatevwr. It also helps you remember the name, and you'll see if they're the kind of person who likes to talk. "You see, my parents named me that because...."

>>16986815
Whichever way you want: merely introducing yourself to him, or part time custody.

>>16986802

Honestly? I'd be kind of annoyed and a little hurt they felt like they didn't want me at all in the child's life in the first place--because I think I'm a pretty decent guy--but I'd respect that they made a choice and ultimately, the past is the past, and would want to be in the child's life if possible. Of course, I'd also ask for a test.

Hello ladies !

My gf is 2 days late from the 28 day usual. She has all the menstrustion symptoms, she feels it for 3 days that it's coming, and there is thickish goo coming out of the vag. We had only protected sex ( with no broken condom ).

Anyone experienced similar stuff ? She is mega nervous

>>16986874
My GF skipped her period a couple of times. Also, some birth control pills mess with the cycle. I wouldn't worry about semen quantum teleportation through latex.

>>16986882

Thank mate ! No birth control pills ! We only use Durex Extra Safe. She did binge eat this month tho ( Catholic Easter ), lots of food, sweets, chocolate, coffee, soda.. She went a massive 4 kg up in 1 month

She says she just wants to have fun before she moves back to England in may but when she's drunk she says stuff like she's glad she met me and she's never meshed with someone as well as we have and that I'm an amazing guy

Do I have a chance at making this into something more?

>>16986874
>2 days late
>She has all the menstrustion symptoms, she feels it for 3 days that it's coming
Sounds fine, i'd say don't worry. Little bit of irregularity happens sometimes.
Hormone regulation isn't perfect and a variety of things can interfere with it (severe stress/sleep deprivation, some drugs, hard exercise, drastic diet changes)

>>16986891
No. You're just going to get your heart broken

>>16986891
>moves back to England in may

Not really, but live it up n the month you've got.

I'm guessing she's an exchange student or something?

LDR doesn't work pretty much unless you both have the maturity+experience to know what you want in life, and the resources to actually BE with one another at a moments notice (not that you have to always do it--just that you have to be able to do it).

>>16986892
She's also caught a cold down there. Last time it happened, it came 5 days early.

Thank you so much for your answer !

>>16986860
Well first I would be shocked, and probably ask for some kind of paternity test. Since you said you're only contacting the guy because the kid started asking questions I'm going to guess the kid is anywhere from 4 to 10 years old and you either didn't want and/or need his help raising the kid. With that in mind I would not want to jump from no kid to suddenly a toddler at least with a mom who already has things handled so I would not want part time custody. I would want to see the kid at least once per year, probably for his birthday, but possibly more often depending on whether you currently have a boyfriend or husband and how currently busy I am in my life.

>Beta males are not allowed to be themselves
>alpha males are

Why bother?

beta males put in the oven when?

>>16986891
Sounds pretty obvious: she's into you and wishes you lived in the same country so you could continue dating. Since you're probably an ocean apart, it's unfortunately not going to happen.

I'd say keep in touch with her, and if she happens to visit your country again (or you happen to find yourself in the UK) and you're both still single then call her up and have some more fun.

>>16986909
>>Beta males are not allowed to be themselves
Why not? What's stopping them?
I'd say it's more accurate to call "alphas" the ones who aren't "allowed" to be themselves, since many of their instinctive behaviors are illegal or strongly frowned upon in decent company.

>>16986916
SO you'd rather date a very decent beta male than an actual literal asseholic alpha male?

>>16986888
That's probably your explanation right there. Besides, a couple of days off is very common with my girl.

>>16984704
How do you know him? Class, work, something - you have something in common with him. Make small talk over that, laugh at his lame jokes, and suggest doing something on the weekend.

>>16984947
I'm a guy I experimented with a few guys as a teenager, mostly just beating each other off, it's not unusual girls experiment too and no I have never told anyone.

>>16985427
Well, we're taught since we're young that "it's what's inside that counts" and people really want to believe that. Not to say it doesn't count, but appearance DOES matter. People who aren't willing to take care of themselves are usually very insecure and unhappy - think of those really depressed teenagers who show up to school in dirty clothes, bedhead, haven't brushed their teeth. I was that guy so I know.

When you're in that mindset you interpret it as insulting - "why should I dress well, if people like me more that just proves all women are whores!" He has to figure it out for himself. Maybe go to a department store together, tell him you need a new (something) and ask his opinions as you're browsing and make gentle suggestions for him. Try to get him to walk out with something.

And no it's not "gay" male friends do go shopping together from time to time.

>>16985711
I don't understand what you mean, like a general "post your goals and bounce ideas off each other" or something specifically for you where you post selfies and ask for help? Either way just fucking do it what's the worst that could happen?

>>16985967
>It has been one yea
How long did you date?
It will take that long for you to get over her.
Example: 3 year relationship, it will be 3 years before she's out of your mind.

>>16986075
I'm a guy and I like spanking, panties, and anal insertions/gapes. So basically butt stuff.

>>16986098
She's not your responsibility. You aren't obligated to torture yourself with unhappiness just because she wants to be with you. You have to look out for #1.

>>16986925

Thanks mate ! I probably shouldn't tell her that her binge eating is responsible / contributed to her delay. It's her first delayed period ( she's 20 ), so she is very concerned... She is also that sort of woman that worries about pregnancy all the time, 24/7... I read that some women just panick no matter what, that's their nature !

>>16986755
HOW DID IT GO?

>>16986802
I would feel a confusing mix of fear and happiness and shut down telling people I was "freaked out". I would not trust her word that it was my child and demand a paternity test.
>you could decide if you wanted to be involved or not.
I have traditional views of masculinity and would make every effort to reconcile with the mother and be an active part in the child's life. I would willingly pay child support if you sued for it and if you didn't I would still contribute as much as I was financially able. I may hate you but I'm going to be the best fucking father I can. I would want to make amends, date/marry you and give the child a traditional home as hard as that might be, but that also requires you to want it as well.

>>16986793
>>16986797
This might help you guys:
http://luckybloke.com/pages/find-your-condom-size
If you decide to buy there, yes, it's trustworthy.

>>16986802
That would never happen to me, so...

>>16986882
>I wouldn't worry about semen quantum teleportation through latex
lol

Whats a way to meet people with similar interest and not get a million dick picks im male asking females

Guys, do you often develop feelings for girls as you get to know them, or do you usually develop feelings right away?

>>16986920
You'll have to describe what you mean by "alpha" and "beta", but in my opinion decent people are pretty much always preferable to assholes (at least for anything more than casual sex).

>>16986931
Interesting note: from what I've read, narcissism is responsible for a lot of the variation between people in how much care/attention/work they put into their appearance, and thus how high other people rate them: more narcissistic people dress nicer, apply makeup more skillfully, etc. This might be the reason for the classic advice "don't dress up/makeup/exercise/etc for men/women, do it for yourself".

It's also interesting because it's considered one of the factors in the reproductive fitness of the dark triad: iirc the only reason sociopaths are rated as more attractive than average is because of narcissistic attention to their appearance, otherwise they'd likely be rated lower than average because the antisocial tendencies push weakly the other way.

Is an abnormally large penis appealing for women? (7inx6in)

>>16986952
Both. We're shallow - super hot girl shows the vaguest interest then omg I wanna marry this bitch. Ugly girl really really likes me then over time you start to think you could look past her looks. Meet a girl through a mutual friend and usually in a short time, depending on how much interest she reciprocates, can happen quickly.

>>16986952
Takes a time. I can recall at least 3 of my past relationships starting with only physical attraction in the beginning. I usually see if i can develop feelings with time (based on beaty, personality, chemistry, etc) and bet on that. Hasn't failed me yet.

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>>16986956

>>16986956
That's not abnormally large

>>16986951
Why would you get a million dick pics?

>>16986909
If by alpha we mean desirable males and by beta we mean undesirable males, you'd have to be a retard to see why it doesn't make sense

>>16986970
>tfw you moved in with your parents to save on college

>>16986970
>living with parents is worse than having no job and having small penis
The fuck?

>>16986993
Women care about social status.

>>16986993
>OKC
>representative of all females everywhere

>>16986909
>>Beta males are not allowed to be themselves
>>alpha males are
>Why bother?

That fact that you think that shit means anything is the reason you don't get anywhere.

Alpha, beta, if you let a label define you, guess what, you're a pretty boring person to be around and why should anyone bother with you?

>>16986952
>Guys, do you often develop feelings for girls as you get to know them, or do you usually develop feelings right away?

Depends on the guy really, and on the girl you're dealing with. Some guys go based purely off looks, A rare breed of guys are almost asexual and completely oblivious until shit sinks in. The girl in question also matters.

Personally, I'm usually intuitive enough that I have a sense for potential compatibility after just a meet or two. Their demeanor, personality, mindset, and way of interacting with the world creates a kind of flow in a person, and ours either matches or it doesn't. If it match is high enough, I notice it instantly and tend to act on it based off of potential because my instincts are rarely wrong about that kind of stuff. If it's just an average or slightly above average match, I feel things out and see how it plays out.

Only once has anyone ever really surprised me where at first I had a pretty so-so impression, but the more I talked to her, the more attractive she became. I think the curve-ball there though is that the first time we met her best friend was trying super hard to hook us up, and we both had the same kind of stubborn "fuck that" mentality.

>>16986995
Not living with parents is not social status. Any idiot working minimum wage can live in a shithole and still not be living with parents, but he'd still be an idiot working minimum wage and living in a shithole

>>16986996
Especially since this survey isn't listing the average age or even how many took the damn survey. Literally all we know about this is that a survey was given to an unknown amount of females with an OKC account.

>>16987004

No. Don't you know? Surveys and graphs without any data to back them up or support them are the end all be all!

It's the corner-stone of redpill!

Do you DARE refute the reality of how the world works

YUS LOGICS AND COM0N CENTS U CUK! ! !!1oneone!!1*angry robot*1!!1!!1

>>16987004
Unknown amount alleged females

>>16986874
Protip: a period is only late if it has been 5 days or more since the day you're expecting it, or if it's been more than 35 days since the first day of her last period. So her period isn't late.

Girls, what are your opinions on borderline-autistic hobbies? E.g. dorf fortress, CS, gunpla, differential geometry, etc. Do you have them? Do you hide them? Do you find it difficult to sympathize with other people's obsessions? Do you find it difficult to explain it to other girls or guys?

>>16987015
I probably couldn't connect to you. Nothing against those hobbies themselves, but I have no interest in them

>>16987015
If you're hot then it's cool

>>16987023
That's not really the point of the question.

Opinions on anime?
I've decided to start watching anime again to pass spare time. I consider myself above average looking, I work out often, eat healthy and all that. I feel like watching anime has a negative connotation attached to it though. What would your first impression be of someone (who could potentially ask you out) saying you watch anime?
but it's not the only thing I would watch though. I'm on Netflix a lot, watch other current airing shows to.

>>16987026
Honestly? It depends on what you look like. If you don't look like a weeb/neckbeard, then my reaction would be "you watch anime?". If you look like a weeb/neckbeard, I'd probably avoid you anyway

I'm a 21 KHHV and I just want to fuck a girl senseless.

I have no issues in life except meeting girls. Is getting a whore a good idea?

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>>16986156
>it seems like most people are vanilla, so we (fetishists) might be the weird ones.
In general, people who are "open-minded"/"open to new experiences" and have at least a moderate sex drive have the capacity to acquire unusual sexual interests.

See >>16986139. People like that anon (and myself) weren't "born this way", we acquired such tastes because we were curious and tried all these different things, and ended up liking many of them.
Sort of like how someone who travels around the world a lot will give you a lot more interesting answers when you ask them "name the most delicious foods you've ever eaten" than someone who's lived in the same place their whole life.

On the other hand, some people have problems because they actually can't get off any other way: these people are the opposite of above: they usually don't have many fetishes because they have a low sex drive and/or lower openness to new sexual experiences. Funnily enough, back in the day many greeks and romans considered gay and straight people to be examples of this, since they could only appreciate the beauty of one sex.

>>16987015
>>16987024
>>16987026
This is stupid. The problem is your self esteem.
No one cares that you like vidya or math or anime. What girls care about is that you're ASKING "is it ok that I like vidya math or anime?" That you don't have the confidence to just do what you like. What are you going to do, hide it from her? Stow your model train set away under your bed before she shows up? Stop caring and they won't either.

>>16986075
Female
I'd guess you could boil it down to a trifecta of 2D, BDSM, and clothing.

More specifically I love generally shotas and Christmas cakes. Manly men and lolis are great too. Power difference is pretty much essential. Someone has to be dominant and someone has to be the submissive. Forced pleasure, molestation, rape, degradation, restraint, commands, humiliation, violence, and more. Clothing includes panties, short skirts, high socks, and uniforms of all kinds. That also plays into the power dichotomy thing. SS is probably one of my favorites.

I also have a HUGE thing for monster boys/girls, specifically anything demonic.

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>>16987034
Uh, thanks, I guess. It's not really what I'm getting at. I'm more or less just curious if grills have weird hobbies that they hide in public. And 'weird' in an obsessive, technically-minded sort of way that you see more often with guy-nerds. Most of the grills in my stem department appear to be fairly normie (and that's fine too; not a value judgment). I mean, whatever, this is probably the wrong place to ask that type of question.

>>16987051
I'm a girl who loves picross and Einstein/grid puzzles, if that counts

>>16986952
>do you often develop feelings for girls as you get to know them, or do you usually develop feelings right away?
Usually only after getting to know them. Pure physical attraction is instant, but I'm not into casual sex so it's basically just extra points. Gotta know who they actually are before I can really be attracted to them.

Also, it can take a bit of time to make sure nothing's seriously wrong (eg for me, remorseless dishonesty, manipulativeness, sadism, etc are just not ok). This part probably takes a lot longer for guys who have been burned and have trust issues.

>>16987026
>Opinions on anime?
Literally mainstream at this point (at least among educated young americans).
>I feel like watching anime has a negative connotation attached to it though. What would your first impression be of someone (who could potentially ask you out) saying you watch anime?
Actually been in this position. I was kicking myself afterwards for somehow managing to post on 4chan for 10 years without watching any anime.

>>16987015
>borderline-autistic hobbies? E.g. dorf fortress, CS, gunpla, differential geometry, etc
>Do you have them? Do you hide them? Do you find it difficult to sympathize with other people's obsessions? Do you find it difficult to explain it to other girls or guys?
I find it difficult to understand how boys from english-speaking countries have so eagerly accepted the idea that there is something wrong with such interests and that they should be hidden away for fear that people might think they're (gasp) intelligent or introverted. It's almost impossible to explain these thoughts/attitudes to people from other countries. Believe me, i've tried.

Ladies, I known this chick for 4 weeks we chat and stuff in class, I know her name and I searched it on tumblr and found her blog. I can also see her fb because of the group we in but I don't want to add her

Is it creepy to follow her on tumblr without saying anything?

>>16987089
Just fucking add her on Facebook, you autist.

>>16987090
Nah she has 100+ likes on her profile pic alot I can see are men from 3rd world countries with abs and stuff.

I'd like to be friends with her but I think it's a bit weird if I followed her. My blog doesn't say my fucking name though

>>16987092
>Nah she has 100+ likes on her profile pic alot I can see are men from 3rd world countries with abs and stuff.
So?

And okay then, don't. I can't force you to do anything. I don't know what you hope to accomplish by following her on tumblr though, you're just going to look like a creepy stalker if it's ever revealed it's you. Don't go this shit and then complain you didn't get anywhere or that she thinks you're creepy.

>>16987085
>I find it difficult to understand how boys from english-speaking countries have so eagerly accepted the idea that there is something wrong with such interests and that they should be hidden away for fear that people might think they're (gasp) intelligent or introverted.
I'm not sure how true that is, but there is a noticeable difference in tone when I talk about school stuff with Americans and when I talk about it with my (mostly) slavic family. I guess slavs appear to be more reverent of academics, but that might also have something to do with immigrants in general. I don't mind it so much on the whole. I like that Americans are relatively unpretentious and this anomaly is just something that comes with the territory.

>>16987051
>I'm more or less just curious if grills have weird hobbies that they hide in public.
The girls I have met don't. This isn't because they don't have the hobbies you described (they certainly do), it's because most of them don't worry about guys thinking less of them for it.

No girl hesitates to say "i watch a lot of anime" or "i like to code for fun" or "do you play df?" or "combinatorics turns me on", because they don't think of themselves and each other as "neckbeards", "betas", "nerds", "normies", "autists", "aspies", "spergs", etc.

Of course, this doesn't mean they're just bystanders in this phenomenon. Unfortunately, many girls/women have bought into these ideas for inexplicable reasons (see >>16987027 for example), and that helps perpetuate them. That's the problem with cultural anxieties: it's hard to persuade an anxious person that their worries are unfounded and counterproductive when the genuine threat (rejection from stigma) still exists.

>>16987026
If no one asked you if you watched anime, why would you bring it up in a first impression situation? Generally when you're trying to get girls, you want to talk about them, not you.

>>16987015
Generally I hide my power level, but it's not because I'm ashamed or have a hard time explaining my hobbies.

>>16986059
>Do you want to date a depressed person
She's a great person beyond that. I can relate, honestly. I'm still too insecure to believe it's because of this. Mind if I ask for a few other opinions, see if they agree?

>>16985390
>>16985952
Gently bumping these to see what other people think

>>16985390
>every once in a while drop a level in subtlety over text, send her a (somewhat) flirty text
>conversation goes quiet
>Might be social awkwardness too, which is pretty big according to her.
Consider this a possibility. I've been avoiding facebook for a day because i have to respond to the flood of birthday messages and i have a hard damn time responding to any personal question, such as "so what have you been up to lately?".

>>16985952
>She's always eager to see me if we bump into each other, and even gives me a heads-up if there's a chance to.
>Same thing over text, though she randomly drops the conversation.
>She has moments of depression, where she spends the majority of her days asleep in her bed.
>She also explained a few times her depression is why she cancelled the plans she made herself.
>I don't know whether to keep trucking or accept all this as a rejection.
It doesn't sound like rejection at all. Sounds like she's being honest with you, she's just struggling with depression.
>Should I stop showing romantic interest?
Depends. Know that this probably won't get any easier for you.
If you just want to stick your dick in something, move on.
If you deeply want to be with her, keep going.

asked this in another thread but imma place it here too

> have a crush on girl for years
> overly romanticize and idolize her in my head
> feel like shes too good for me because of it
> try to get to know her
> she moves away before I get the chance
> when she moved, decided to better my life
> hit the gym everyday, gained 30 pounds of muscle mass
> develop interest in topics and spend time pursuing it
> girls actually like me and approach me now
> go on dates and shit
> never found a genuine spark with anyone though
> hear that shes coming back
> want to try to at least befriend her or something
> still have that mental barrier of being inadequate stuck in my mind


How do I get over this feeling of inadequacy and finally get to her?

>wanted to ask this girl out after we spent some time getting to know each other
>prepared to ask her out next time I see her
>suddenly she's constantly too busy for about a month
>finally she asks to meet me
>seeing her tomorrow

If I still feel the same after spending this time with her should I just go for it and ask her out at the end? Did I wait too long?

>>16987326
I understand. Maybe it's indeed just because she doesn't know how to respond or can't bring herself to.

>If you deeply want to be with her, keep going.
That's what I would like to do. One last question that's troubling me though is this: in what way should I keep going? Same as usual and put up with the sudden silences, or be more gentle with my messages and try not to put her in that position?

Maybe it's better to just be myself, but perhaps it's better to tone it down slightly if she can't 'keep up'?

>>16985653
>abdominal circumference of 103 cm
Bro that needs to go down by like 20 cm.

>>16986402
>Ladies : would a bad looking guy or an overweight guy put you off (attraction wise) even if you know he's an ok dude?
Counter question: what does being "an ok dude" have to do with a physical relationship? How would being "an ok dude" make girls want to fuck you? This is like ugly girls whining about how it's the inside that counts for some reason and so all men are pigs for not liking frumpy uggos.

just found out my girlfriend of a year has cheated on 4 multiples in the past month with my best friend

i was in a deep depression and she read my depression that i was breaking up with her soon.

we would be out a show for example and they snuck out for a quick fuck shit like that

she tells me she was blackout drunk everytime, she was sad and she was initiated enabled and led by him...

she's begging me to stay
she's threating to hurt herself if i leave
i don't know what to do
everyone knows
even our parents
her mom is sweet and supportive with me

the dude won;t even reach out to me. i keep calling him and ignores me.
he claims hes either at work or asleep

what should i do with her, him, everthing?

i've never been through something like this

>see girl for some weeks, we do everything a couple does except calling ourselves a couple
>chat her up a few days ago, she stops replying mid convo
>her only activity on fb is liking some guy's pic and an odd comment (no need for stalking, fb feed does it for me lel)
I'm about to be cucked, or already am amirite /adv/?

>>16986856
>>16986944
It didn't go good but I suppose it wasn't a complete disaster either.

Boss doesn't seem to understand that some of us come to work to escape the crushing loneliness and rejections of their life not to gain more of it.

>>16987455
Seek help for your depression.
Leave her and never talk to her again.
Never talk to him again.
Move on with your life.
You do deserve better people than those you have in your life right now.

I am sorry for all you're going through, anon.

For a guy is there a rule for not wearing the same exact outfit twice in a row? I don't mean one day after the other, I mean if someone sees you twice in a row wearing the same clothes (maybe after a week of not seeing you).

>>16987465
Talk to her?
Instead of making assumptions ask her if everything is fine and she's still interested in going out, because she seems to be less into it. Be calm, smile and don't be a pain in the ass about it.

>>16987469
we have so much history. so much good times
i'm weighing whether or not to throw this all away...

>>16987471
no guys don't really pay attention to a girl outfit.i think girls who change their clothes every day are trying to look cool and i hate that type

>>16987471
Oh sorry I meant if a guy is supposed to change his outfit :P thanks for the reply though.

>>16987478
What history? Dude, she cheated on you.

I doubt she was incoherent each time. Her guilt and selfishness is making her lie.

Come on man, you want to stop being depressed? Start with dropping shitty people. A year ain't shit. A year plus cheating, definitely ain't shit.

>>16986952
This is going to sound like I'm hugely into casual sex, but actually the opposite is true, I'm long-term monogamous as fuck: real feelings are a product of going balls deep, over and over.

The process for me is usually like
>I want to fuck this girl
>I want to fuck this girl to bits
>let's see if she's interested in a relationship
>okay, let's date and see if we're compatible
>okay, time for insane quantities of sex (at this point I still don't have any feelings but raging lust)
>damn, I be hooked, overflowing with love poem shit

Not to say I don't care about the mental or personality qualities of a girl, but if she isn't hot it never gets off the ground to step 1. I only care about her personality *after* we've already fucked a bunch (and before in an entirely cautious way, to make sure she's not a psycho).

>>16987455
Chuck them both out of your life and never look back.

Me and a girl are in a platonic relationship. We declared this because people kept bugging us about hanging out, but I wasn't ready for a relationship, and she had a boyfriend. Fully embraced it and all was well. I even remember her posting on Facebook that she loved that she had men in her life that were just friends, and weren't after her just for sex. Cut ahead a year, and I think I'm having feelings for her. We're very close, almost like brother and sister (we even call each other that), so regardless of what happens I still want her to be in my life even as a friend. She did once say that she could have been all mine if I had said almost anything after she broke up with her old boyfriend. She's with another guy at the moment but I have a feeling it won't last. If they break up and I wait an appropriate amount of time, would it be out of line to ask her out? Would she be offended or anything if she did just want to leave it at platonic?

>>16987593
If she was really into you she'd be chasing

@guys, how old where you when you had your first orgasm?? was it easy for you to figure out?

>>16987634
I don't remember the exact age but it was right on the cusp of puberty. Maybe a year or so before. I found my parents' secret stash of Playboy and Cinemax "after dark" VHS tapes and watched a few. It was pretty straightforward from there.

For girls

How much thought goes into your thought phrasing when you text someone new? Do you even give two shits about how your words are coming out like? also

Guy approaches you in a club or bar or something. You respond, some light conversation starts going on between you. You are genuinely laughing, this goes on for a few minutes. Guy asks to buy you a drink and to separate you from your group of friends. Do you ever say no for reasons out of simple lack of interest for the guy? Sometimes I can't help but feel like you just say no because you dont want your friends to think you are a slut, or some other bullshit reason. And it sucks because when you refuse, the only thing I can do is crack some kind of shit joke, and say how i have to get back to my friends, essentially ending the possibility. Clear my mind on this if you can.

>>16987648
Word choice, punctuation, how long/short the reply is, time in between texts... yeah, I think about all of that. The only reason I don't is if I'm either 1) really close friends with another girl or 2) being texted by a guy i hate.

If I'm genuinely laughing, I'm probably interested. It's more of a safety thing to not separate right away... :v Especially when you're buying me a drink while you want me to ditch my friends. They're kinda like my safety net in case the guy I'm talking to tries to drug me or something.

>>16987659
I don't mean separate as in take you home, I just mean move couple of feet away to the other side of the bar so that it's not awkward for your friends to have me uninvited over their table or whatever.

So it is possible that you say no but are still interested? What kind of reply is a guy supposed to give to that? I am a pretty smooth talker and can handle most situations, but my worst fear is to be misunderstood as some kind of obnoxious jerk who doesn't know when to stop.

>>16987648
I think about tone of the text, time in between texts, stuff like that. The only times I don't think about those things is if I'm busy doing something else at the moment and don't really care how fast I text back then, or punctuation, etc. Or if I'm being texted by someone I dislike - then I give really short answers.

And in that scenario I wouldn't go because I don't want to be separated from the group and get possibly Jeffrey Dahmer-ed

>>16987675
>I don't want to be separated from the group and get possibly Jeffrey Dahmer-ed
Wasn't Dahmer gay though, like didn't he only target other gay men?

>>16987028
Yes, it's worth it. Get a nice one and use a condom.

>>16987338
Therapy or stop idolizing her. She is just a girl, she might like you or not, but at least you put a lot of effort into improving yourself.

>>16987455
Kill them both.

>>16987465
This is why I don't use jewbook. Too many reason to get mad at little things.

>>16986985
>That's not abnormally large
That is statistically within the top ~5% of men. That is certainly abnormally large.

>guys or gals
How do I stop attracting/being attracted to the exact same type of girl? Literally every girl I have ever been with has turned out to be a cliche r9k post of lying, cheating, immaturity. First girl I was ever with basically wrecked my trust, and now it keeps getting worse. The worst is every time I realize something is wrong and I think "no, you're being paranoid, stop thinking every girl is like your first" and then it always turns out to be true. I'm not trying to bitch about women or anything, I really am looking for honest advice her because I am close to just going full "I am done with all women".

>>16987849
There's no way to "advice" yourself into better taste and more confidence in your intuition. There are always going to be some people in this world who make bad choices. You probably would be better off just giving up for now.

>>16986901
>>16986895
>>16986916
Thanks fellas. Normally I wouldn't consider trying for an LDR but my work allows me to travel and it also pays well enough for me to bring her to the states for a visit during school vacations if she wants. I'm still gonna keep it loose with her for now but I'll see what happens when may comes around

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>>16987634
@guys, how old where you when you had your first orgasm??
7 maybe, 8 at most
was it easy for you to figure out?
yes, it's pretty goddamn obvious
sexual pleasure --> big burst of sexual pleasure

>>16987659
>It's more of a safety thing to not separate right away... :v Especially when you're buying me a drink while you want me to ditch my friends. They're kinda like my safety net in case the guy I'm talking to tries to drug me or something.
>>16987675
>And in that scenario I wouldn't go because I don't want to be separated from the group and get possibly Jeffrey Dahmer-ed
every time i hear things like this it still makes me feel bad, like i'm personally responsible somehow
>why did anonette refuse to be alone with me
>safety reasons anon, in case you might want to drug, rape, and kill me
damn, i'd rather hear literally any other reason

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Girls...pls

>>16988024
>leaves bubble
Oh well

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I've been seeing this girl more seriously recently. We've known each other and been on good terms for about 2 years (her best friend is a good friend of mine), but only started becoming close when we started the same college class. We both knew that the both of us had strong feelings for each other (Our mutual friend has some pretty loose lips). I finally admitted to her that I have feelings for her. She told me she had a lot of feelings for me too. However, she just got out of a relationship that didn't go so well. I wouldn't call it abusive, but the guy was a real jerk and did a lot of things that pushed her over her explicit boundaries. Couple that with the fact that her only parent is dying of cancer and is slowly becoming demented, she decided that she didn't want to get into a relationship right now because her life has been an emotional roller coaster. I can understand her point of view, but at the same time am frustrated by it, of course. I want, more than anything, to be a positive force in her life, and I know I can do that without being in a relationship with her, but I wish we could try being together since we both have a lot of feelings for each other. I digress.
She told me that, looking into the future, she might be in a position where she is comfortable starting a relationship. I told her she can talk to me about it at any time.

My question is this: Do you think she might, in the future, be open to a relationship, or is shit like this a code I don't know about? If there isn't a real chance, then I'm just going to go full friendzone with her and begin the process of moving on, but if there is, then I'm happy to go at her pace.

Tl:Dr girl likes me back, says her life is too fucked up for a relationship, says in the future she may be open since she likes me a lot. Should I wait it out or begin moving on?

>>16987478

She threw it all away by fucking someone else anon. Leave with your dignity, in a years time you'll be glad you did.

To anyone.

How does one make himself a good candidate for hook ups and casual sex?

I'm moving out of town soon, and wouldn't be against that since relationships are out of the question.

I don't know how I should behave or how to make it known to a girl that I would be interested in that. I find it comes with a certain behavior but I don't know how to display it myself.

>>16988083
Move on.

>>16988024
The "if I could stay for a long time" was from me asking if she would drop everything and travel to where she wanted--i.e. Paris

>>16988083
>girl likes me back, says her life is too fucked up for a relationship

Just understand that you don't get to complain when she inevitably fucks you over. She warned you and shit.

my boyfriend recently learned that "the clitoris is homologous to the penis" and "that's super gay". Now he completely refuses to eat me out or even go anywhere near it

what the fuck do I do

>>16988183
Your tits are also homologous to his. In fact your whole body is.

Also he's a complete idiot.

>>16987455
Leave her. Don't believe her lies.

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>>16988183
I like this b8

>>16987466
>it wasn't a complete disaster either
Well that's pretty decently done, seeing as you didn't want to go in the first place.

>>16988183
Ditch him. If he's that retarded, there's no hope. Also, you should tell him just that.

>>16984655
I am borderline autistic, I have no clue how to react to what people do most of the time and I don't like going outside so I severely lack experience. What are some fool proof signs that even I can pick up when a girl likes me? Do those even exist? I had a girl sit on my lap, hug me all the time and all that stuff and she still wasn't interested in me romantically. Like, I was pretty sure you don't do that unless you're into someone but apparently that's not true either.
Explain body language and signs to someone like me please.

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>>16988183
what he needs is some solid dick, send him here

>>16988250
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw

Girls, have you ever taken a picture with a dick in your mouth? What do you think of girls who do this?

What does it mean when your gf says she has a crush on you
What is a crush if you're already together?

How off putting is a guy that may have smaller hands than you?

>>16988357
No. If she's not facing the camera I am uncomfortable because it seems likely that the guy took it without her realizing. If she faces the camera I tend to assume that she's going to look back on that part of her life as being young and naive and trying way too hard to please/impress someone she loved. Not that there's anything wrong with exhibitionism if that's your thing, but if there's any kind of footage of yourself you don't want possibly getting around...

>>16988358
Probably just wants to be cute and express how much she's into you, that you still make her tingle or feel nervous etc.

How can I ask my gf for nudes? We don't see each other in person very often.

>>16987497

Any perspective is appreciated.

both genders I need some help
my best friend is having some issues with his gf and i don't know what to tell him
idk if he's being paranoid or na, i mean i don't wanna just tell him his gf is no good

>according to him he's his gf's only friend because all her other ones were guys who wanted to fuck her and when they started dating her "friends" left her
>her ex is still in contact with her tho & wants to fuck her obviously
>my friend doesn't trust him at all, they both hate eachother
>but he's his gf's only friend and he doesn't want to make her upset so he doesn't say anything
>she recently left to go hang out with her ex
>he's worried because she "shaved her legs and wore shorts" and apparently she hasn't done that in months

he says she rejects any advances her ex makes but it all seems shady
what do i even tell him? i have very little relationship experience

>>16988551
Snapchat her a pic of ur dik senpai

>>16988578
Why's he with her?

>>16988578
My current girl is really close with her ex, and I don't completely trust him
I do, however, trust her entirely

Your friend needs to trust his gf
If he's feeling that insecure he should talk to her about it, see if she can help him overcome his insecurity
If he can't do that he should drop her and move on

>>16988551
Get her turned on. Talk about sexual dreams you had of her, say you are thinking about her amazing body, ask her how often she thinks of you while touching herself. Do not throw all your cards on the table right away. Under no circumstances send your dick picture without context. You want to warm her up, give her the time to desire you saying more explicit things, build it up slowly. Then when she's horny tell her how badly you want to see her, how hard you are for her etc.

If she is not at all a sexting person (which you should be able to figure out this way), there's no real alternative to just saying you'd really like to be able to at least look at her pictures when she's not around. It could help to stress that she doesn't need to show her face... I mean sending nudes can always fuck you over as a woman.

>>16988591
idk man
he likes her, thinks she's cool

>>16988599
thanks dude
he's talked to her about it and he goes "she knows how i feel about it. she knows i don't trust him but she still hangs out with him whenever she can"
i keep asking him if he trusts her and he isn't saying

>>16988578
>still friends with ex
Nope, nope, nopeity, nope, nope, nope. Literally never does anything good come of remaining friends with your ex (or anyone you've had sex with). Why would she dump her other guy friends who wanted to fuck, but not her ex who has made it obvious that's his intent?
>she recently left to go hang out with her ex
Tell him to dump her now. This isn't even a paranoia thing. His GF knows how hanging out with her ex makes him feel, yet she continues to do it. His GF knows her ex's intentions, yet still continues to hang out with him. She's literally putting her damn ex above her bf. That shit is not okay. Male or female.

I brought up to my girlfriend that I hate when she views my messages but doesn't reply. She got all mad and told me she gets busy with homework and stuff. But how am I ever to know she's busy, she doesn't tell me anything so I just assume she's ignoring me.

Am I in the right for wanting to bring this up to her? Any suggestions on how to further this discussion?

>>16988644
Eh, I don't think you're being wrong to bring it up if it bothers you, but I don't think you take a very reasonable stance here either. If you follow your logic she should drop what she's doing any possible moment to at least tell you she's busy. The whole point of not having a chat conversation or not calling etc is so that someone can answer the text when it suits them, and she probably opens it to make sure you don't need an urgent answer or have had something bad happen to you. I obviously don't know what the relationship is like but when she gets mad at you for bringing this up, that kind of makes it sound like she already thinks you are overbearing.

But it also depends on the context. If you send fifty messages a day, that's insane. If you send two and she goes three days without answering any of it, that's a bit cold on her side of the communication. Would it be a good compromise if she replied to your messages whenever it suited her, but made it more of a priority to spontaneously text you when it does suit her?
Also, you have to talk about the level of contact, ask her if she feels you approach her too often etc, to have a good idea of where she stands here.

>>16984655
I share an apartment with my sister, I never had a relationship so I have no clue how that works, but she and her boyfriend fight quite a lot. He usually starts yelling, which is annoying, and today he mentioned that he had to yell or otherwise he wouldn't be able to control himself and hit her. I was honestly thinking about kicking down the door and throwing him out at that point. Obviously that's a bit extreme, but is there something that I could do? Tell him to shut up because it's bothering me? I don't want it to seem like I'm interfering with my sisters life, I don't want her to feel like I'm over protective, but I know that he's afraid of me and that I could make him shut up if I told him to.

Does that sound like a good idea or should I keep my nose out of their business?

>>16988680
>he wouldn't be able to control himself and hit her
Wow... Saying that to her brother...

>>16988680
I'd tell him in the most neutral, polite way. Aka, hey man, I enjoy living with you but would appreciate it if the yelling would be kept to a minimum, especially after [nine pm or something]. As flatly and devoid of further emotions as you can muster. He can't shame or trashtalk you for asking to keep the volume down in your home, but because this is such a sensitive topic and you are her brother, chances are he'll go apeshit on you (to your face or behind your back, to your sister) if he senses that you think little of how he treats your sis. So keep it short and formal.

If you have a good relationship with your sister, as I assume you do given that you share an apartment, voice your concerns to her in a gentle way when you are assured to be alone and the mood is comfortable. Don't tell her what to do, explicitly stress towards her that you don't know what their relationship is like and all, you hold her judgment in high esteem, but you can't help but notice how he yells at her and want to hear from her if you should be concerned or not. That you want her to be with someone who makes her happy that she does not have frequent fights with. If she adamantly refuses it's like this, you'll have no choice but to accept that. She's heard it and she will remember it if things go bad again but you have to let her figure it out for herself ultimately. Your relationship with her is more important than short term relationship shit.

>>16988707
Didn't realize he said >>16988705 to you as opposed to you overhearing it from their fight... if this is the case, definitely bring it up with her. It is patronizing to not accept her thoughts and feelings on her own relationship, but not at all to be concerned when her boyfriend tells you something like this. Just don't jump to conclusions with her and try to stick to what's happening and that it worries you.

>>16988705
>>16988713
What? He said that to her, but I could obviously hear it because of the yelling. I barely talk to him.
>>16988707
Makes sense, honestly it's a bit complicated because he's Muslim and my mother (and basically the rest of my family) openly don't like him, it would probably come across as me telling her that I don't like him either. I'll just keep it as formal and short as possible and try to talk to him alone. The question is, what do I do when he ignores that and starts yelling again? Talk to him again later, or knock on the door and immediately tell him to quit it? I really don't want to be too late in case anything happens but I obviously don't want to sour my relationship with my sister by telling her what to do or making her uncomfortable.

>>16988737
That's always a risk, but I think you should take it. Stick to your own observations: I hear you fighting a lot, I hear him yelling at you, I heard him say he had the urge to hit you. If she flies off the handle, curb the conversation. Be very firm and calm and say something like "Okay, I am sorry to have made you upset, it was not my intention to mind your business. I just want to look out for you. I'll trust your judgment and when you ever do want to talk, you know where to find you." Then make it clear that this conversation topic is over.
If she does open up, it's VERY important to not jump to saying she should dump him or get visibly angry or anything. That will only make her more likely to feel like she should defend him. Let her talk, be as understanding as you can, try to leave your opinion and advice for when she herself reaches the point where she wants to hear it.

And yeah, I'd just knock on the door and tell him you're trying to study or sleep, or that you don't want to be kicked out of the apartment for noise complaints etc. You can make up that some other neighbor complained to you as well, puts less on you personally.

>>16988764
Alright, that seems to be a really good plan. But if I ever see or hear him hurting her or the dog I'll cave his face in. I think he knows that somewhere in the back of his mind but if he ever happens to forget that then I'll just forget myself as well. Seems only fair to me.

>>16987400
Meeting her in a few hours, if anyone has any thoughts.

>>16988635
The "it's impossible to be friends with an ex" meme is pretty fucking dumb
Not everyone wants to hook up with their ex, people break up for a reason
Sure there are many cases where it can cause issues, but if you treat it as a blanket rule you might miss out on a really good thing

If spending time with someone makes you happy you shouldn't let your insecurity and r9k paranoia destroy that happiness and don't let your happiness revolve entirely around being the only person in someone else's life

>>16988797
Yeah that seems fair. Good luck!!

>>16988813
Honestly, it's not. I'm not trying to pull the "I'm older than you so I'm right" argument, but as a person with some years over most of 4chan I'll say (in my experience) those types of friendships rarely work out. It's not a matter of people always wanting to cheat, even I'll admit that's absurd. However, it does mean that the person ALWAYS has a fallback for emotional support and a romantic idea of the past when things go south in their current relationship. If you keep your ex-gf around, you might have zero desire to ever get back together with her...until you and your current gf get into a big fight and lo and behold who is there to support you? Your ex. Who, when you're blinded by the honeymoon period of your relationship being over and you start to think back on the "good old days" of relationships past, suddenly doesn't look so unappealing anymore. You become fond for those first days of new love. More so it is definitely not "r9k paranoia" when the ex who your current partner continues to hang with (despite your objections) has openly voiced a desire to get back with you. In that anon's specific case, hell yeah he should have his suspicions up. He has voiced a concern, she has ignored it. Which wouldn't be a big problem if she wasn't also aware that her ex wanted to fuck her. Which is made even worse by the fact she hangs out with this guy. Hanging out with your ex, 9/10 times ends either with you cheating (or going back to your ex), or the friendship becoming awkward and dying off. It is incredibly rare that exes remain normal friends, even in cases of divorced parents and what not. It's not a matter of wanting to be the only person in your partners life, again that's an absurd demand of anyone.

>>16988578
>>her ex is still in contact with her tho & wants to fuck her obviously
>>she recently left to go hang out with her ex
>>he's worried because she "shaved her legs and wore shorts" and apparently she hasn't done that in months
Sounds suspicious as fuck desu (especially with the physical meeting, most people say that's a good place to draw the line), so he's not just being paranoid. He should tell her that he's not ok with it and see if she's willing to break it off.

>>16988813
>if you treat it as a blanket rule you might miss out on a really good thing
What, a threesome? In all seriousness, if you really think most people have this much self-control you have another thing coming.

>>16988737
Call the police and tell them he is an ISIS member.

>>16988853
I'll keep that in mind as a plan B.

Recently met a shy girl who doesn’t really have many friends (which is odd considering she’s extremely attractive) but she’s acting really weird. One week she was acting super cold towards me to the point where I felt she was straight up ignoring me. Yet when I message her she comes across as super friendly and I saw her in person the other day where smiled and said hello.

I kinda wanna ask her out the next time I see her but I’m a bit of a retard with girls so I was wondering if her behaviour towards me means anything.

Girls, is it true that your first time should be special? What if you're not in love but you're ready and have a safe choice? Have you had regrets?

>>16989100
>is it true that your first time should be special?
Depends on whether you think your virginity is special
>What if you're not in love but you're ready and have a safe choice?
Then I think you should go for it, but if you think losing your virginity should be a memorable moment that you should save for someone you love, then don't do it
>Have you had regrets?
No

>>16989103
I always pictured it being special, but I'm almost 30. I'm not as hopeful anymore. I may be waiting another 10-15 years if I don't take the chance. I want the life experience so that I can have more normal relationships moving on, but I'm afraid of regretting it later. Guys seem to think virginity is annoying to deal with past a certain age.

Girls, a bit of a gross question.
My vagina smells disgusting, sometimes strongly enough for me to be able to smell it when I go to the bathroom. I change panties once or twice a day, wash the area with lukewarm water and a soft washcloth every morning, but it doesn't seem to help. What do? Note that I don't have a yeast infection or anything.

>>16989148
What sort of pants do you wear?

>>16989148

You might want to take a look at your diet as well. Maybe even go to a doctor.

>>16989100
>Girls, is it true that your first time should be special?
when you place a high important on any single event, you are asking to be disappointed
>What if you're not in love but you're ready and have a safe choice?
I wasnt in love with the guy that took my virginity. But, my virginity didnt mean anything to me either, so
>Have you had regrets?
nooe. look toward the future and learn from the past. but dont develope regrets because they are simply wasted energy.

Alright Girls, I got a question here.

How do you feel about guys approaching you randomly? Example, at a library or some public place. They try to make chit chat, perhaps even ask for your phone number.

Is it off putting? weird? bothersome? or endearing?

>>16989151
Skinny jeans when I'm out, jogging pants at home, where I am usually.
>>16989152
I eat relatively clean. Lots of whole foods, especially fruits. No eggs or meat, hardly any dairy. Fish about twice a week, a bigger snack once.
I've heard eating yogurt can help, do you happen to know if it's true?

>>16989179
>Skinny jeans when I'm out, jogging pants at home, where I am usually.
Try ditching those skinny jeans

>I've heard eating yogurt can help, do you happen to know if it's true?
Can't hurt to try it

>>16989179

I've heard it does help, especially from word of mouth. I've also heard that washing a little too hard also causes smell. Might wanna slow down on the soap if you use any.

Is it too clingy to text a girl "can't wait to see you" forba second date?

>>16989177
I really can't give one blanket answer, it depends on so many things.
>inb4 hurr durr it depends on how attractive he is

>>16989148
do you wear tight pants? are your legs always crossed.
I know it might seem counterproductive, but wearing loose pants and letting your legs rest wide apart could help you. vags are not suppose to stay in damp areas. so opening your legs could help air it out and dry it up; thus, getting rid of the smell that the dampness creates.

>>16989193

Like what?

>>16989177
depends. does he give off that creeper vibe?
like don't go out of your way to interact with a girl that you meet whereever. if the conversation is organic and comes naturally though, then i dont really care.

like if you see someone checking out 1984 and youre a huge fan, then you can strike up a convo about that book and itd be rather natural. but if you randomly walk up to someone with out some connect to the situation, then it is strange and creepy.

>>16989190

A second date? Chill out before you come off too clingy. I understand that you're trying to be sweet, but it's still a little early. you don't want any potential monkey wrenches here. A simple "I'm looking forward to it" should be enough.

How do I break up with someone I've only been dating for 5 weeks? He lives over an hour away, but I thought it'd be better to break up in person than over text (we don't talk on the phone). He thinks I'm coming over for a date and has no idea it's bad news. Do I hint at it beforehand or not say anything until I see him? What do I do if he insists on driving to me? I don't want him to drive an hour to be broken up with. I've never done this before.

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>>16989214
Dating is driving me insane man.. That's the truth, I can't wait to see her. How do I relax, I'm full of anxiety and doubt, fugg

>>16989211
What I'm doing
If I'm busy
If I have other places to go
If I've got other things on my mind
If I'm listening to music with my headphones or reading a book or whatever
What mood I'm in
Who I'm with
How you approach me
Whether you have a good reason to approach me (no, hitting on me isn't a good reason)
What you look like - this doesn't mean attractiveness, this means how you present yourself e.g. are your clothes clean, do you look groomed etc.
Whether you look like you're trying to sell me something or get me to sign up for something
Etc.

I'd probably never give my number to a guy I randomly met though.

>>16989233

Just don't over think it. Don't make a plan. Let it be organic.

>>16989230

Well, you need to make it clear that it's not a date. If you feel bad about him driving to you, than drive to him, or meet halfway at a park or something. A public place (you never know).

State your reasons. Tell him you're sorry. Leave.

>>16989251
Thank you. Do I say "I need to talk to you"? How do I make it clear it's not a date?

am I justified in asking my girlfriend to stop talking to her ex?

Let me explain

I am not worried about her cheating on me with him or any of that shit. Theres no reason she would be with me if she wanted to be with him so I trust her.

My problem is he is a former friend of mine who resents that I am with my girlfriend. She dated him for a few months but things went nowhere and they amicably broke things off. I originally asked his permission for me to date her a while late, when I had no real obligation to, and he agreed. He has since changed his mind and caused a huge fucking riot over it. Going so far as to show up at her house, drunk, while I was staying over and causing such a ruckus he got arrested. The only reason she keeps talking to him is he keeps threatening suicide if he can't at least talk to her. He claims he was in love with her, in spite of making no indication of it while with her or for months after.

My biggest issue with it all is my girlfriend has depression and has recent come off her meds after starting to show a huge improvement since we've been together. I am not taking credit for that I just helped her make progress with some shit and get past a lot of bad shit thats happened to her. Him being like this is stressing her out like fuck and I'm already noticing a huge change in her overall mood and she broke down to me that she hates herself because she wants him to move on but she'd blame herself if she did stop talking to him and he did hurt himself or worse.

I want to just tell her to stop talking to him and let him get on with it. She can't be around all the time for him and even if she could it isn't fair on her. I just don't want to seem like a prick by going "you need to stop talking to him cause i said so." I just don't want to see months of progress come undone because hes a selfish prick.

>>16989255

The problem with that is that he's gonna know that something is up, so you might be left with no choice but to tell him the purpose of the meeting.

>Hey listen, I have something that I need to talk to you about.
>Oh no... It's bad isn't it?
>Yeah...
>You're breaking up with me aren't you?

This is more or less what it's gonna look like. You need to be prepared to answer that question.

>>16989265
I can answer that, but I don't want to be made to break up by text because it's rude. Should I still go there on the pretense of a date in that case? Or is there something else I can say that would be better?

>>16989264
>breaks the bro code
>calls his former friend a selfish prick
It doesn't matter that he said you could date her, a friend wouldn't pull that shit

>>16989264

Looks like you need to talk to him, instead of her.

You need to confront him and tell him "Hey, this shit is getting out of hand. You're causing more harm than good, and I need you to stop."

The main issue is him, and you need to tell him to fuck off.

I would pass this by with your girlfriend so there aren't any misunderstanding. Don't let her think she's the problem. It's him. He's the issue here, and you need to make it very clear to her so she doesn't think it's all her fault.

>>16989275

I know it's rude, but you may have no other choice. Honestly, you're better off breaking up with him by text and saying something like "Let's meet up at X so we can talk about it" and have him agree or reject that, than have him show up like a lamb to the slaughterhouse.

>>16989292
You're right. I'll try it. Thanks so much.

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>>16989279
>muh bro code


I think the age requirements for people giving advice should be a lot higher than 18

>either sex
Long story short, I started seeing this girl after her and boyfriend broke up. She confessed to me that, while she was with him, she accidentally referred to him as my name in bed. Flash forward to recently and I find out she told another guy about it, a guy who she swore was essentially a creepy guy who was interested in her and that she never talks to him. Only it turns out she talked to him a lot (mostly about me but still), I was talking to him and he told me that he not only knew about that, but that she went to him with lots of shit like that and he knew a great deal about her old relationship and stuff with me. I asked her about it and she not only denied it, she got outright pissed when all I did was ask "did you tell ___ about that?". I'm not angry she told him, or that she confided shit in him about me, I'm just concerned by her reaction to me finding out. It was denial mixed with absolute anger. I asked her in a text if she told him about it, she denied it at first and said "thanks for assuming I'd do that though", and then when I told her he told me she just stopped replying. Only reason it weirds me out is half her reaction and half the fact that she always denied talking to him.

>>16989302
If someone who is 'under 18' can tell you're a shit person, you're as shit person

>>16989319

Obviously she's trying to save face, but got caught doing something she isn't supposed to be doing.

If it doesn't bother you, hey, you do you man, but that doesn't mean it's something you should ignore. If that's the kind of girl she is, you might want to take another look at this relationship.

>>16989284

tried talking to him once. he threatened to kick my ass and when i said to him, literally, "if it makes you feel better go right ahead cause it wont change how i feel about her or how she feels about me" and then blocked and deleted me on pretty much all social media. i think hes blocked my number on his phone and shit too cause texts dont go through to him anymore and calls immediately go to voicemail

>>16986952
I generally get really into a girl or really not into a girl after having one or two conversations. But at the same time I'm a bit of a strange because I probably only get really into a girl like once a year, where I talk to girls pretty much every day.

>>16989331

And with all that, your girlfriend refuses to cut ties with this chode? I don't know man... I think I was wrong. I think you need to talk to her instead then.

>>16989330
It's just an odd situation because the guy really isn't an issue. He's a weird guy we know who is overly feminine and slept with (though he denies it) his male coworker so it's not really a matter of me being paranoid about her cheating or anything. It's just confusing as fuck why she'd outright lie about something that meaningless and then go full 12 year old and get angry.

>>16989352

She obviously has some sort of morbid attachment to this guy, but it looks like you might not have any other options but to start pressing for her to ditch him.

>>16989331
Your gf sounds like a dumb girl.

>>16989331
All 3 of you sound like scum.

On the train to see her. I'm gonna ask her to date.

Any last minute advice?

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>>16989190
>>16989214
>is "i cant wait to see you" too clingy?
>yes, say "i'm looking forward to seeing you" instead
man humans are complicated

girl anons:
i have a date tomorrow and i just got my period and i usually just wear some old pants and a hoodie during those trying times but now i need an idea of what would be comfortable but nice to wear (i suck at clothes desu)