ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

>>16881732
Where do you girls hangout on a saturday night? I've been to bars, coffee shops, creepy parks, but nobody is around.

Guys, do you think any less of a girl or think she's superficial if one of her interests is something to do with her appearance?

>>16881914
Can you be more specific?

>>16881914
From my experience girls who don't wear make-up and who aren't obsessed with clothing and their appearance are just better people and more compatible with me, so probably yes.

>>16881732
Girls, do you find it disgusting or pathetic if a man has been to a prostitute before? I'm thinking about visiting a brothel to lose my virginity and stop obsessing over it.

>>16881924
What's there to be specific about?

Why are women so noncommittal within relationships?

>>16881914
giving a crap about your appearance isn't bad
>>16881971
people say the same thing about guys. stop projecting

>>16881971
Cuz it's no effort on their part and they live in a fantasy where ~Prince charming ~ sweeps them off their feet.

>>16881971
I'm pretty sure the stereotype is that men are the noncommittal ones

>>16881939
I would never have sex with a man who has paid for sex. Partially because it does seem gross, but mostly because I would be afraid that I could never come close to that "experienced" of a woman.

>>16881998
You're right. After Googling my question sans "within relationships," there are a whole bunch of links to articles about non-committal "man-children."

I have no clue where I got this idea from.

>>16882009
Lol experience in what? Getting dicked, laying back and moaning? Experienced women are a meme joke

>>16881914
Not at all. Unless that's the ONLY thing she's interested in.

>>16881939
Please don't lose your virginity that way, you will regret it

>>16882009
That sound like nonsense, I mean not that I could tell, but you know.
>>16882032
And what else am I supposed to do? Just hope that an attractive woman just happens to be looking for a loser who is self conscious about his virginity?

Can't believe I'm asking this on an Australian hair braiding image board but here it goes. First a little back story.

I was at a party last night with a couple of friends and a lot of people I didn't know. Naturally I was getting drunk and hitting on ugly women. Thinking I'm doing alright these girls said something that just broke my spirt.
They said I try to hard.

So my question is what the fuck does this mean. Also this isn't the first time it's happened. It just doesn't make any goddamn sense to me. What am I not suppose to try? Or do I just have super shitty game?

>>16882050
No, use an online service to find a pretty but self conscious woman who is in the same boat, then you can explore each other's bodies together at your own pace.

>>16882105
Right, and while I'm at it I'll fly my unicorn to Hogwarts, cure cancer and end poverty. Why the hell do you think it's that easy? I have a 6/10 face with a 2/10 body.

>>16882111
Let me guess: you're fat?

>>16882113
Correct.

>>16882116
You know that losing weight is a thing, right?

>>16882024
Naw experienced women arent a meme. In places where prostitution is legal, they train so that they can squeeze down on a man and make him ejaculate from kegels alone. Think it has a name and is popular in the philippines. Imagine having sex with a vagina that was actually alive. Sounds amazing. Id probably ask my gf to practice doing kegels while Im in her just for that.

>>16882104
why are you trying so hard?

>>16882123
Working on it, already lost 20kg. It's not as easy and at the end I'll be a below average guy with loose skin. I'm not sure if that changes much.

>>16882111
Well fuck you then, dick head. I was trying to help. You're going to be humiliated by a prostitute. But you deserve to be a virgin anyway because you're a fucking asshole. If you don't chsnge your attitude you'll never ever get a girl.

>>16882128
>You're going to be humiliated by a prostitute
No, they treat you nice and are professional about it. Also, calm your tits and stop being an overly aggressive bitch.

>>16882125
To get laid.

>>16882134
I'm aggressive because you are being a dick. If we were in the same room I would cave your virgin head in.

>>16882116
Try not being fat. Sex isnt as good as you think. Its mainly just fun. If you remove the emotions and fun from it masturbating feels better. A good prostitute might be a good enough actor to give this to you though but its just an act and I doubt she could do this if you are honestly as disgusting as you think you are.
Just lose weight. Let your need for sex fuel you.
>I wont have sex until I drop down to 170
>I wont have sex until I drop down to 170
When you hit 180ish then hire a prostitute.

>>16882140
Fair enough, don't press girls that aren't positively responding it's obvious when someone is laying it on thick and you can usually get away with it if the girl thinks you're cute/funny

>>16882141
>If we were in the same room I would cave your virgin head in.
I'd love to see you try. I don't have an issue with defending myself against a woman, you'd get slapped around and hopefully stop being a bitch afterwards.
>>16882145
>Try not being fat.
>already lost 20kg
When the hell do you think I'm doing? I'm literally at the maximum rate of what is considered "healthy weight loss", if you could lose it overnight then there wouldn't be any fat people around.

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How much of a turn off if a guy is into kigurumi as a hobby?

>>16882157
Bruh I dropped from 195 to 167 in like 2 weeks. Also entered into the best physical condition of my life with all of my stats skyrocketing. Im talking 2 plate bench for reps. You ever go 24 hours without eating and still go for that 5 mile jog. You either want it or you dont.
After I did that you know how many girls were staring at me. Biting their lips at me. Literally telling me Im handsome randomly.

Guys, imagine you had a fling with a girl and she got pregnant. She wanted to keep the baby, regardless of whether you were in the picture or not. Would you, or would you not stay in at least the baby's life? If you chose not to, she wouldn't come after you for child support or whatever, you'd be completely free of responsibility.

Somewhat hypothetical scenario, btw. Loosely based on a girl I used to work with.

Women, why are all of you lying, cheating whores?

>>16882225
Rough day buddy?

>>16882211
A year ago I'd be gone as soon as I heard that she didn't want any child support, but after seeing my nephew being born I'm not so sure anymore. Thankfully I'm not stupid enough to knock someone up like that.

>>16882157
You sound so asspained. Losing weight isn't as hard as you think. I and a lot of other people on this board have dropped significant weight in a short amount of time by working fucking hard at it.

>>16882211
Yeah I would look after it.
I would look after it even if she didn't want to.
I'm Pro-Life when it comes to abortion and I believe that if you go around having sex with people you should face the consequence and the responsibility of having sex.

>tfw I will never find a girl in her early 20s who wants to have a family and be a sahm

Why has the world come to this?

>>16881732
Why are so many women basic bitches? I've spent the last few years without pursuing any relationships, I finished Uni, got in shape, got a great job, got decent at playing an instrument, studied music theory in my free time, studied Jazz and learned how to cook properly. And now while looking for a partner 99% of women just seem to be nothing but looks, they might have a nice body and a pretty face, but as soon as they open their mouth you realize that they're dumb, basic, without any real hobbies and talents. You can't hold a normal conversation with them, they either agree with everything you say and nod like a confused puppy whenever you use a word that they don't understand or they flat out tell you that talking about politics, history or music is "boring".
Thankfully I've made some great acquaintances at jazz clubs and it seems to be going uphill, but I never realized how depressing that reality is.

>>16882257
Because guys put the pussy on a pedestal

>>16882265
So, they don't have to achieve anything or be good at anything because it's good enough to just be thin and kinda pretty? And that stops the vast majority of them from from even trying to be a better version of themselves? That's a horribly depressing thought.

>>16882257
I haven't men many interesting guys. It's not that they don't have any interests or hobbies, it's more that their interests and hobbies are just things I'm not interested in. Maybe, just maybe, the way you're judging them because they're not interested in what you're interested in, is exactly what they're doing to you.

There are girls out there who are interested in what you're interested in. I really don't know why you're acting like women as a gender are awful. Your interests aren't really all that common though, you know. I know only a small handful of people who are genuinely and deeply interested in jazz, history and politics. It's not a gender thing, it's an age thing. If you're in your late teens/20s, chances are that people just aren't interested in that stuff. It's not just women, it's everyone.

>>16882257
Why there are so many basic guys?
Three guys approached ms in a bar last night and their main hobbies were stuff like videogames, getting drunk and watching TV shows.
Most people are boring. It is not a gender thing. Get over it.

I guess it's a question for both genders.

At what age do girls stop looking for Chad Thundercock and start looking for a guy that can provide for them?

>>16882316
Any and all ages.

>>16882322
That seems a bit of a weird answer, are you suggesting children are looking for Chad thundercock? Or grannies in their 90's

>>16882324
Assuming we're talking about adults, or at least people who had reached puberty, yes. STDs are a big issue among the elderly, and if we assume that they're all in committed relationships at that age, well, the STDs aren't popping up out of nowhere

>>16882316
Most girls aren't even looking for Chad Thundercock. Most of us just want a normal, fairly attractive guy with a decent personality to grow old with.
I am 22 and all my friends are, are looking for or have been in a long term with a nice guy.

>>16882330
I chuckled, really though, it was a dumb answer

>>16882332
What did you expect, it was a dumb question

>>16882316
> start looking for a guy that can provide for them

There are moochers at all ages

>be insecure faggot with 10/10 soulmate gf
>I go abroad
>fear that she is cheating on me although all common sense and mutual friends tell me I'm retarded and that she's crazy about me
>Fukken... I cheat on her
>3 months till I'm back home

If I told her now, it'd totally destroy her as she is in a bad mental state because of other things as well. I really love her, and let my insecurities get the best of me. I obviously am not mature enough for a relationship, let alone with a perfect girl like that.

I can't possibly tell her now and drop a bomb on her fragile mental state. I also really, really love her and regret my decision as much as one can, but this isn't about me.

tl;dr: I cheated abroad, what do?

>>16882348
This isn't the answer you want to hear, but I honestly think you should tell her. As your partner, she has a right to know that you were unfaithful in a relationship that both of you are invested in.

It might not end well, and it would be extremely hard to gain her trust back if she even decides she still wants to be with you. But just tell her what you did, why you did it, and how you just let your own insecurities take over. There might be a lot of pain, but you really need to take responsibility for your actions.

Good luck man

>>16882348
You say you love her but you don't trust her, are willing to hurt her while she's in fragile state, and want to lie to her for your own selfish gain.

I call bullshit. Be a man and fess up, you owe her that much.

>>16882355
Her family and friends have all fucked her up lately and she told me that I'm the only light in her life nowadays... I don't want to just hurt her in this period of her life, as well as it seems better if I could tell her face to face, otherwise she might never trust a person again and become a fuckhead just like me. Something just tells me to either tell her when I get back or just not tell her at all. Right now would probably make her kill herself, and she is a person that doesn't deserve that type of an asshole bf in her life. I'd never do it again as I am swimming in regret, but I feel like I should wait with telling her about it.. damn.

>>16882348
Break up with her, tell her that your crippling insecurities have made it so that you two cant be in a relationship anymore and youve passed the point of return. Tell her you love her and that you are sorry for hurting her so much but its better she finds someone else because if she really knew who you were, what youve done to her especially she would hate you. Tell her this is you breaking up on her behalf because she should be the one doing so but you dont have the balls to put her in that position.

>>16882339
It was a legitimate question

Ofcourse I could have expected a feminist to get her panties all in a bunch over it, hence your dumb answer

>>16882291
Mid 20s, from all I've seen it's worse with women, I'm aware that the sample size isn't big enough, but I can't seem to shake off the feeling that quite a few women think they can just "get away" with it because they're pretty while most men can at least hold a semi-competent conversation about many subjects. Thankfully I've met a girl who is a history major, a great bassist and into classical music and jazz, but she was literally complaining about the same thing and said that men (on average) seem to be less dull and uninformed on those subjects.
>>16882310
If most people are that way then that's just incredibly disappointing. I live in a city with incredible cultural background, we have one of the best orchestras worldwide, an amazing opera, a lively jazz scene and so much more, yet people seem to be absorbed by whatever celebrity X said last night and Heather or not they look fat in a photo.
You're also discrediting video games, they're another medium for art. I've met gamers who could talk for hours about the emotional connection they had to a character, about complex story arcs within a game, about mechanics and how they influenced a certain game and about the sheer beauty of some of them. It's not exactly my cup of tea but it deserves respect, and lumping it together with "getting drunk and partying" is a bit silly.

>>16882447
Question. Do you think that makeup and fashion aren't real hobbies?

>>16882348
Either break up with her now saying what >>16882376 says or make sure she never, ever knows about it and take it to your grave.

>>16882462
That depends, make-up that serves as a means for creative expression is, make-up that is purely used as a tool isn't. The same goes for fashion, if you buy stuff and then wear it then that's not exactly a hobby, if you know about fashion, know the theory behind it, maybe you're even involved creatively in some way, then it is.
Pure consumerism or utility is not enough to classify any of the two as a hobby, add more to it and I'd accept it.

>>16882480
So makeup and fashion are only hobbies in certain circumstances, but generally speaking don't count or deserve respect, and yet video games are legitimate hobbies that do deserve respect? Am I interpreting what you're saying correctly? Because a lot of what you say could apply to video games too, particularly the bit about pure consumerism

>>16881732
My first and last girlfriend dropped me because I am cynical a couple months ago (She also broke up with me because I like comiccs and star trek and stuff like that?0)
Should i drop the cynical coldheartedness of my own personality? Or are there many girls who like/are cynics and I just haven't met one yet?

>>16882485
Of course that applies to both, it also applies to music, movies, paintings and a whole lot of other things. Just like the consumption of said media can be both, a legitimate hobby or just media consumption for the sake of entertainment. People watch movies, but some people watch them, analyze them, inform themselves about actors, directors, cameramen, etc. and turn it into a hobby. I hope that clarifies it.

>>16882499
So what you said about that girl discrediting video games could equally apply to you here >>16882257 when you say girls are basic. You're discrediting THEIR interests just like you claimed that other anon was discrediting a traditionally 'male' interest

>>16882447
Most guys who are into videogames aren't like that and we both know it. I am sure that there is someone out there who can talk for hours about how deeply connected they feel to some One Direction member and about the deep impact that their music had on the pop scene, yet I think you don't want to associate with them.
Just find like minded people through your hobbies.

>>16881914
Depends. If the interest's wearing decent clothes, not at all. If it's shit like "getting tattoos and piercings" then fuck yeah, trash tier at once.

>>16881908
Home

>>16882505
Wrong, she discredited games in general by lumping them together with mindless partying and getting wasted, I never talked about make up or fashion until you brought it up, you're also implying that all women that I'd classify as basic are automatically deeply involved in fashion and make-up as a real hobby, I can assure you that they're not. I've tried bringing up subjects like that, but barely anyone could talk about any of these "hobbies" beyond "I look cute in it" or "it looks pretty".
>>16882506
No, many of them are not. But that doesn't change the fact that it's still a legitimate art form. As for your little example, of course I'd talk to someone who knows their part about pop music. It's a fascinating subject, whether you like the music or not, and someone who has deep knowledge of it is bound to be able to keep a good conversation about it going.

>>16882104
Why the fuck are you letting something ugly women said get to you?

Jesus Christ man.

>>16881939
Yes

>>16881939
Yes. Absolutely. I'd rather date a virgin than someone who had sex with a prostitute.

>>16882145
>Sex isnt as good as you think. Its mainly just fun. If you remove the emotions and fun from it masturbating feels better.
Don't just straight up lie to the dude to encourage him. (I sincerely hope you don't actually believe this yourself.) Nothing feels as good as a girl with no gag reflex taking it to the root, nothing.

>>16882245
Why not? I did

Guys.

>being that guy who girls almost always just want as a friend

Who is like that here? How do you deal, and what do you do?

I've tried that before and it just doesn't work so now I make my interest known very early and won't settle for less. The last girl who said she just wanted to be friends was evasive for two weeks before I told her to finally make a choice. We barely know each other (impossible to even see her face to face) but she insisted when i said I wouldn't be her friend. Still a no though.

I've had girlfriends, but those are definitely special cases in a sea of various rejections and i'm getting sick of it.

>>16882523
I have never questioned it is a legitimate art form, I am just saying that sitting in front of a console or a laptop and playing isn't really a better way to spend your time than watching reality shows on TV is. Of course some people will be interested in videogames as an art form, but if a guy tells me he likes "watching sports in TV, playing FIFA and partying" I won't think he will be into them in that way

>>16882558
You never specified that in your first post, but thanks for the clarification.

>>16882186
Out of the question huh

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This is me and i am wondering, do I intimidate people or look like I am crazy? I can talk to guys in classes but it doesnt seem like they want/can talk to me. I have to keep pushing and say 'whats up' a lot before they warm up and have normal coversations with me. I've had guys pointedly not even look at me at all for 2 months until I said fuck it and talked to them and then they started talking and joking around with me

The guy I like fucked around a lot before we met, and he was/is a bit of a "bad guy".
We have been talking for a little over a year and I know for sure he didn't have sex with someone else since. He met my parents and some of my friends and spends almost all his free time with me. He didn't get into trouble and turned his life around (went back to college, found a nice job, etc).
He is a great guy and I really like the person he became, but his past always stopped me from starting a relationship because I am scared he will go back to those habits.
Should I give him a chance?

Guy shaving armpits, yay or nay?

>>16882616
Yay, but I prefer if he trims them kinda short.

>>16882609

You look fine, very nice)

Maybe smile more?

>>16882611
One year without sex?

Definitely credible

>>16882257
The problem seems to be with you overvaluing yourself and judging other people before you really get to know them. Consider adopting some humility when meeting new people.

>introverted
>shy
>socially awkward
>made a lot of efforts to put myself out there and always talk to girls because for all i know they're not going to initiate anything (happened with an ex I met too late)
>it rarely works, get "I'd rather be friends" or evasive "sorry, i can't/busy" before I give up asking them out
>meanwhile be surrounded by guys who act like brutes and treat women like shit while bragging about how easy it is for them to bang and leave them

I'm losing patience and motivation. Should I just stop trying? I sometimes tell myself that, but the thought of passing by an opportunity to meet someone haunts me.

>>16882616
>yay or nay?
gay

>>16882641
Pretty much ye

>>16882609
Unless you're a) fat , b) smell bad or c) obsess over some weird topics at length when talking to people, I can't see a legitimate reason for straight guys to avoid you. Maybe you were talking to gay people?

>>16882641
You probably come off as creepy/too needy or are shooting above your league. Try being more casual about your approach and go for uglier girls for the time being.

>>16882616
Unless you enjoy the smell of sweat, definitely yay.

>>16882648
>You probably come off as creepy/too needy or are shooting above your league. Try being more casual about your approach and go for uglier girls for the time being.

Thing is I don't know what's considered creepy/needy. I don't harass them. I just casually talk and see if we get along. I spend more time with other people than with them in fact.
The last one was even the one coming to talk to me again and again at the party where we met, and gave me her number. But since then it's evasive messages.

Also, I don't give a care about leagues. I just go for whoever i'm attracted to and don't see the point in going "well better choose this one instead, even though I don't like her". Worked pretty well with my exes so I know it works.

>been with a girl for a while
>everything going great
>see her twice or three times a week
>talk everyday

>last two weeks
>see her once a week
>seems that I'm the only one initiating shit
>she keeps saying stuff like I miss you I love you etc but still seems distant
>says she is too busy but keeps going out with her friends

Is it pretty much ogre or what ?

I'm not saying we should be together 24/7 but seeing her for a couple of hours once a week is pretty much fucking unacceptable.

>>16882656
>Thing is I don't know what's considered creepy/needy.
You do realize not knowing that is a fucking big warning sign, right?

>>16882641
Why not just get to know girls as friends first? Yes it's the slow route, but it says a lot more about the guy if he can be friends with women instead of just seeing them only as dating material. Also, I hope you don't hate women because you aren't their type. Everyone's entitled to their own tastes.

>>16882659
Just let her take the initiative for awhile, man. If you don't see her for two or three weeks, yes, it's ogre.

>>16882656
You need to get more aggressive like an alpha wolf

Is there any hope of landing an average girl with a bald shaven head?

I'm fit, intelligent, have a good job, been told I have good banter but due to a shaved head, not that much in the looks department (5,5/6 if I'm being generous).

>>16882679
Yeah man.
First of all, hair > shaven head > balding.
You have a lot of other things going for you,so don't worry.

>>16882671
Guess you are right. I have no idea why people have to be this shitty, if you don't love me anymore just tell me and don't fucking waste my time.

>>16882685
Thanks

>>16882668
I mean I don't see what's supposedly needy or creepy in what I do. Especially since I'm not harassing them, nor did I ever receive any complaint or remark from anyone, girl or friend.

In fact I've been told things like >>16882674
precisely because I'm shy and not a brutish acting guy.

Funny thing is that's what my gfs liked about me so maybe I ought to just be who I am until i find someone new. The question is wether or not I can handle more rejections in the meantime.

>>16882689
Yeah, agreed, it's shitty and unnecessary, but fags gonna fag. If it doesn't work out, find a girl who at least isn't a coward.

found out froma common friend of my female crush's that all their friends approve me as a potential boyfriend. aka they like me (my apperances myself idk what really). Do you girls take into account your friend's opinions in such subjects ?

>>16882823
Yes, but mostly it's like "I like a guy, my friends don't, I'm probably blinded by attraction and can't see his flaws" more than "I don't like a guy, my friends do, I should fuck him anyway".

>>16881914
>Guys, do you think any less of a girl or think she's superficial if one of her interests is something to do with her appearance?

Nah. My GF is pretty obsessed with eye shadow and doing crazy designs with her nails. The rest of her is FAR from superficial and she's pretty low maintenance though. For her it's just a comfort thing.

I've personally got a thing about keeping super cleanly shaved and trimmed so I get it. Shaving and trimming is like a comfort ritual to me.

>>16882211
>Guys, imagine you had a fling with a girl and she got pregnant. She wanted to keep the baby, regardless of whether you were in the picture or not. Would you, or would you not stay in at least the baby's life?

Yes. I'd leave it up to her to decide what to do with it, but I'm going to be in it's life.

>>16882490
> Or are there many girls who like/are cynics and I just haven't met one yet?

No one likes a perpetual downer dude. Not even other downers. I've got a female friend who just yesterday was ragging on this motivation sign at a bar because it was too cheerful and she wanted to throw her drink at it. All of the people she's been in to have always been at least mildly positive.

>>16882609
>This is me and i am wondering, do I intimidate people or look like I am crazy?

Too hard to tell from one photo. It's maybe something in the way you approach them, maybe it's something in your eyes (like maybe you just keep them super wide eyed and are kind of awkward, and it creeps em out at first). No way to tell from one picture.

>>16882611
>Should I give him a chance?
People grow up. Go for it if you want, but only if you can get over it on your own. If you need us to tell you how to do that, maybe not.

>>16882833

She seems pretty curious on my interest about her. Alwyas shy and awkward when im around. This and the whole friends approval thing make me think im on the right way.

>>16881914
Its fine to care about say, fashion. It's when you waste significant amounts of time and money that my tolerance wanes.

>>16882211
Most likely. I'd probably have an emotional breakdown if a woman I was seeing had an abortion.

>>16882871
Then why don't you ask her out? Waiting won't make things less awkward.

Girls, I was talking to some girl I like at a party where we getting on really well but then I asked if she was seeing anyone (just to keep the conversation rolling) which seemed to piss her off and she removed me off Facebook the next morning.

Is this normal practice for girls, should I take the hint and give up?

>>16882929
That's a pretty strong hint, man. She isn't interested.

>>16882929
>just to keep the conversation rolling
>blatant interest-showing lines
Word of advice, these two don't mix well

is it true that hispanic guys flirt a lot?

>>16882983
Is it true that black guys steal a lot?

>>16882994
Yes

Guys,

How important is makeup ??
I don't usual wear a lot of makeup, but I try some now and then (mascara) and it make people tell me I look 'different'.

My question do you think a girl is better without makeup, a lot of makeup or little bit makeup?
How is important it is ?

>>16883032
It's important to look young, healthy and feminine.

If makeup makes you look more like this it's super important.

>>16883032
Only matters if she wears too much and looks like a skank. Ideal is natural makeup.

>>16883032
depends on how attractive the girl is. some girls look great with out make up or with a bit of make up. some girl are hideous with out make and need tons of it.

>>16883032
Well I absolutely do not understand why men always rant that girls should not wear makeup. If a girl looks good without it that's fine but to be honest I personally love makeup. Maybe it's because I have some interest in fashion and stuff but I like to know a girl is good with makeup if she is and I think it's a way of expressing yourself too so for me good makeup is excellent.
A LOT of makeup usually looks bad though, like eyeshadows in bright colors. But for example painting your lips bright red is awesome if it matches your face, even though I've met a bunch of girls who think that's stupid no matter what.
Again, I may be almost alone in this, judging by the internet.

TL;DR: Most guys will say they disagree but I think good makeup is as good or better than no makeup.

>>16883052
most guys are stupid and dont realise that most girls only looks decent because of make up. even a girl that is a 4/10 can look like a 6-7/10 with really good make up.

>>16883032
I sometimes wear tinted chapsticks and fill in my eyebrows a bit because they're blonde and weird. If I have any blemishes on my face, I might cover them up. That's it. I have a boyfriend, and he was attracted to me without makeup, though he'd probably like me either way. A guy I used to flirt with also liked me without makeup and said makeup was a "lie."

If you don't normally wear makeup and never have, I say don't. You want a guy who likes you for who you are, which isn't someone who wears makeup.

>>16883052
>>16883061

I think the hate come from feeling 'cheated' by makeup. Guys who think they get with a 8-9/10 find out in the morning she's a six or lower. Catfishing and all that shit.

Dudes, would you ever donate to a sperm bank?

Also girls, would you ever consider getting inseminated from some random dudes sperm from a sperm bank IF you wanted a baby without the usual way?

>>16883032
Very
A lot of makeup + alcohol + poor lighting = waking up next to a poorly shaven gorilla.

>>16883077
I wouldn't be comfortable with being impregnated by a random person's sperm. Preferably, I'd want to have control over what sperm I use and the hereditary genes.

>>16883077
>Dudes, would you ever donate to a sperm bank?
No. Poor pay for a lot of sacrifice and work. When you put it all together, you make better bucks flipping burgers.

>>16883094
>you make better bucks flipping burgers.

US?

Again?

Why are jobs so shitty there?

Is it because of the Hexagon Cultists?

>>16883032
>Guys,
>How important is makeup ??

Honestly, most guys don't really understand exactly what make up is.

Eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara, concealer, blush, bronzer, foundation, etc, etc.

There's so much shit that goes on, and half of it's there to make it look like nothings there.

Most guys who say no make up will unknowingly use examples of women who actually ARE (some of them even pretty heavily), but they just don't realize it because it doesn't fit the stereotype that they have in their head.

I'm always of the opinion that less is more so in general:

Light makeup => No Make up > Heavy Make-up

But if you do it right (or wrong) none of those distinctions mean a thing. Well done make up (be it next to nothing, or caked on) will always trump everything because ultimately, the ideal use of make up is simply to accentuate what beauty is there (not to mask or fabricate--like a lot of people seem try to use it for).

>>16883104
>US?
No
>Again?
?
>Why are jobs so shitty there?
IDK
>Is it because of the Hexagon Cultists?
Most likely

Would a person like Forrest Gump ever have a chance IRL?

>Inb4 accidentical alpha

>>16883115
Thank you) <3

Hey girls, what would make you incapable of saying I love you? Not just to your boyfriend, but family and friends as well.

>>16883302

I'm a guy, and the L word is not in my
Vocabulary

>>16882225
Men, why are all of you lying, cheating whores?

Females of /adv/, if someone were to try to talk to you after a year and they had pissed you off last time you talked, what would you want them to say?

Girls

If you liked a guy, like you actually do have feelings for him. And you know he likes you. Why would you turn down a chance to date him because you are scared? The girl told me she is scared she would hurt me, and that "you are too important to me in my life, I care about you so much. You have NO IDEA how terrible I would feel if i hurt you.. I couldn't live with myself.." She said that. But she has also told me she has feelings for me. I don't get it, it's like she's scared of the word "relationship".

It hurts because I really like her, and I know she likes me. But she won't allow me to actually make her mine so to speak, because she is worried for ME. Fuck

>>16883355
>>>/t/umblr

>>16883355

I'm not. Sex isn't something I care all that much about.

>>16883366
That's just womantalk for 'fuck off, I don't like you'.

Males,

How the fuck do I get it clearly across that I am not interested at all without being a complete asshole. I hate to put it into tumblr terms, but I identify pretty much as asexual. I do not date, I do not find people attractive, I do not do sexual things. But I am a very social person and a friendly one. I don't mind talking to people at bars or waiting in line. Men seem to take this as an invitation to flirt or (in some bad cases) to become an orbiter, even after I've basically said "Hey, I don't date/I'm not into this" (I've stopped saying I'm asexual because a few times guys got buttmad and started tirades about sjw culture/feminism/whatever and I don't want to deal with that).

I refuse to change my personality, but I also just want to somehow make it SUPER clear I do not want anything from men other than conversation. I've been thinking of just getting a fake wedding ring or something to immediately just cut anything off.

>>16883373
Saying you're not interested doesn't make you an asshole. It makes them an asshole for not accepting that. But if you're talking to them and they don't want to date, what's the problem?

>>16883363
Depends on what you did to piss them off. If it was something not too important or petty, I would probably brush it off and just initiate with a "Hey! Long time no see, how are you?". But if it was something they could still be pissed off about, maybe ask mutual friends if they are over it and then initiate? Honestly if it's been over a year she's probably over it or will get over it if you become social again and make sure to stay on her good graces.

>>16883366
She likes you but doesn't like you enough to gamble the friendship.

>>16883302
It could be she didn't really say it growing up and isn't comfortable with the connotations now that she is older or she just doesn't say it because she didn't use it as a kid.

>>16883391
No the problem is that most of the time they do the whole "Haha ok" and slightly back off but they obviously still do and are just waiting for you to change your mind. Or they just keep being really forward and don't get it at fucking all.

>>16883396

>she likes you but not enough to gamble the friendship

Then why does she like tell me how happy and safe she feels around me. she says I make her feel so safe and protected. And she's been away for a few weeks and said how badly she wants to kiss me, and she wants me to rest in bed with her with my arms around her so we both can sleep peacefully..

>>16883396
>isn't comfortable with it
I guess I can live with that.
Next question: if she says that she likes me more than a friend but not quite as a boyfriend yet, should I hang around or move on?

>>16883077
>Also girls, would you ever consider getting inseminated from some random dudes sperm from a sperm bank

No

>>16882225
>>16883355
Depends on dependent dependencies.

If I ever a GF, i'd never cheat on her.

>Inb4 polyamory/harem

Is going bowling just as a couple, no other friends or other couples, weird? My gf says she has never gone bowling not in a group of people and I proposed it as a date night idea with it just being the 2 of us.

Also, other date ideas for 18 year olds (so bars/drinking events are out of the question) are welcome.

>>16883430
Sounds fun m8. If she's bad at bowling, use the bumpers, or she'll get constant gutters and won't have a good time.

>>16883406
Well, being me I think I would get the hint, and if you said you were asexual I would just deal with it, so I'm not entirely sure what to tell you. If they keep being forward just cut them off though. Some people can't take a hint (including me) so just don't use hints. If they keep going just keep giving one word answers or short phrases until they fuck off.

>>16883355
Wanna talk about it?

>>16883410
Honestly? Sounds like an 18 year old that craves attention and drama. You can probably wear her down enough that she'll agree to date you but it'll be annoying and will probably end in flames. I don't know her so I can't be 100% sure, but this whole "oh I like you but I can't date you I'm scared but please cuddle me uwu" I've seen way too often and the girls are always more of a hassle than what they're worth.

>>16883414
If you can see yourself genuinely liking her, hang around. Just don't be completely hung up in case it doesn't pan out and you're the asshole who was waiting for her for 5 years. Basically keep pursuing her but if someone else catches your eye don't shut it completely down.

>>16883430
Bowling is cute, m8. Also maybe picnics, going to the zoo, fun nature places, alternative sport locations (rock climbing, horseback riding, etc.), cool or alternative movie screenings.

Guys how much makeup is ideal on a girl? I'm not gonna go completely no makeup because I'll look dead, but recently I've toned down the amount. While I used to wear foundation, contour, heavy eye makeup, lipstick, etc, now I just wear blusher eyeliner and mascara.

>>16883441

:(... She's 23 and I'm 25. But perhaps you're right.. I guess the truth hurts sometimes. But maybe she is too immature. It just sucks because we really do both like each other.

>>16883451
I'm personally attentive to detail so my eyes tend to get drawn to the "caked on" look of foundation and it immediately turns me off. I also don't like eye shadow or very badly applied lipstick for the same reason. It's too easy to do wrong and really noticeable when it is.

A little blush is fine if you tend to look like Casper. Eyeliner is great. Mascara is dangerzone if you have clumping. Lipstick is good if it's a non-casual setting and you took care in choice of color and application.

Is it normal to have sexual fantasies about your friends of the opposite gender? I mean, only them. I can see a girl with a great body and I will recognize it, but I'm unable to have fantasies about her. I'm only able to fantasize about female friends. Is this normal? I'm a male btw.

>>16883477
I'm a dude and although I can fantasize about strangers I get where you're coming from. Something about knowing someone well makes them much more attractive to me sexually assuming I like their personality.

Okay guys and girls:
There's a girl at work let's call her M, and she has a boyfriend who's basically sounds like the scum of the earth. She's a typical overly girly girl, likes flowers and chocolates and all that lovey dovey mush. The dude however is really manipulative and does just enough to stay in her good graces and M was too blind to see it until recently. However, since I'm the only guy under 40 at work (grade school librarian) all questions about guys fall up to me. I'm your typical "nice guy" I guess, but I seriously hate manipulative dicks like him so I've been advising her to break it off. The problem now is that I think she likes me, and her best friend is telling me that she might.
I do like M, a lot, and I suppose buying stuff for Valentines Day and her birthday recently (when her BF got her an ID band and forgot Valentines) could be seen as leading her on, when that wasn't my intention originally. But I would feel like the worst bastard alive if I broke both of them up to be with her. To me it would be just like making her cheat,and I wouldn't be any better than her current BF. But he's a huge dick and in my good conscience I can't let him play with her like that. I catch her crying sometimes. What should I do?

>>16883451
To be honest I never notice how much or little makeup is applied unless it's badly done. Eyeliner, lipstick and blush sounds perfect to me.

>>16883473
Nah I'm about looking natural now. I used to put a lot on and it looked good in my eyes at least -- but not natural and it was irritating my eyes, I couldn't scratch my face, etc.

Minimal mascara, some eyeliner, and a lip pencil because that stays on no matter what and looks natural.

>>16883451
I'm not a guy but I'm almost convinced that most men just don't know.

I've never worn any foundation or heavy make up and my boyfriend always thought I did. So I showed him a picture of a girl with foundation compared to me. He could not tell the difference without really paying attention to detail. When I point out overdone eyebrows he just thought those were natural eyebrows

My point is, that if it looks nice, it looks nice. That's pretty much all guys see unless you look like a clown or overdone drag queen.

>>16883477
I'm the same but I'm female. I can't fantasize about male strangers even if they look 10/10 because I need to feel an emotional connection lol. To me fantasies are more emotional. I want to feel/imagine closeness and you can't do that with a stranger or someone you know nothing about.

so guys...

say if you went on a date with a girl and before you two part, she asks if she can do something she's always wanted to do.. you say sure.. and she kisses you - where would be the least ... confusing? upsetting? I'm not sure the word I want to use here, but I'm sure you know where I'm going?

>>16883542
let me add, because 4chan won't let me delete just yet.. I've known this man since 2002-2003\ and have had a wicked crush on him ever since.

>>16883396
I talked to her for a while, told her I was attracted to her, and then we never spoke again.

>>16883542
>>16883549
On the lips? Why is this even a question?

>>16883557
> why is this even a question?

I'm an over-anxious autist, that's why.

>>16883366
either this >>16883372 or she does actually like you but won't date you for another reason to what she is giving you.

maybe you're friends and she doesn't want to ruin that.

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Help me guess here or humour me, /adv/.

Was flirting with this girl over text and she dropped the conversation the moment it got flirty. Didn't see or talk to her for a few days, then one day she suddenly hit me up with "check this out <link to something funny she saw"
Replied to that normally (so no flirting, I got the hint) with a funny remark of my own. And got no response again.

I don't get it. Why hit someone up if you're just going to ignore conversation? Multiple times?

>>16883563
I'd understand if this was really recent but..... 2003? You're way behind. If he's stuck around that long, you have nothing to worry about.

>>16882530
me too

>>16883581
Every fucking day, this should be part of the sticky.

A: she's not into you move on
B: she's busy stop thinking so hard into it

>>16883663
Not every fucking day, Anon. It's just a simple question that you didn't even answer. Stop trying to fit in so badly, because you're doing a horrible job at it.

>>16883687
Not that anon, but it does answer your question, even if it is in a brief and indirect way.

>>16883687
We don't know anon we're not her. Maybe she's busy and it's nothing, maybe she still wants you around for the attention, maybe she's playing with your heart strings. We're not her.

>>16883488
Give her a jolly good rodgering.

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You would never forget about your first bf, would you?

>>16883714
As a person? Probably not. As someone who had an impact in my life? Not just by virtue of being my first boyfriend.

>>16883714
LOL, once you get out in the real world graduate highschool get divorced with a vindictive bitch these silly little thoughts will dissipate anon-chan

>since I met her we've never seen each other face to face
>she knows I like her and apart from talking to me by text she's impossible to see or reach
>was expecting her to just let it die like other girls
>instead she keeps initiating discussions but still impossible to get her to meet me somewhere
>finally tell her to be clear about wether or not she likes me. She says she just wants to be friends
>not me
>I cut contact
>she keeps coming back insisting that i reconsider and that it's too bad to miss on a friendship because she likes me and thinks I'm nice

Why does she do that? We were never friends. We never even saw each other once and the occasional text discussions don't make friends.

Besides, I've tried being friends with someone I liked before, and it didn't work. And even aside from that, i don't feel like compromising my feelings anymore.

>>16881732
GIRLS: Would it be a turn off if a guy's butthole smelled like fingers?

>>16883758
Because she's a girl and needs the attention. Every girl needs a pet boy on a leash, don't be him.

>>16883758
Because she wants attention. You've got to be a retard if you can't work this out on your own.

>>16883761

What?

>>16883758
You should only be friends with someone if it's of mutual benefit. This isn't. Tell her you don't want to be friends and why. Don't give into her just because she's being pushy.

>>16883774
?

>>16883782

If a butthole smelled like fingers??

>>16883784
yeah, would that be a turn off

>>16883787

you're an idiot

>>16883761
What the fuck
>>16883712
So go for it? God this is so stressful

>>16883767
Well I did, but I sort of hoped for some better human behavior on her part I guess. Me being too much of an idealist (or idiot) I suppose.

>>16883776
I told her as clearly and simply as I could. I wont give into her either. Thanks to you guys.

I was discovered by someone else that my now ex who cheated on me had lost respect for me afterwards because i didnt dump her as i decided to stay with someone as disgusting as a cheater?

Someone bring some light into this kind of thinking

I've finally got a gf but I have no idea how to keep her. Tips?

>>16883464
with everything she's saying she seems emotionally stunted I actually was in a similar situation recently I'm 25 and she is 23. Eventually we got together and it went up in flames like the other anon said

>>16883807
you dun fucked up and had no respect for yourself

And now you do! Congrads next relationship will be even better!

Didn't want to make a new thread for this:

>recently started going out with a girl who seems really wholesome
>doesn't have a smartphone
>doesn't have any interest in politics, so no SJW bullshit
>never had a boyfriend before
>few friends, ones she does have are all female
>about 40 friends on facebook
>only negative point is she's less attractive than me
>not ugly, just not good looking

She deserves better and I can't break up with her because it would hurt her too much. Why am I so shallow bro's? If she was a point or two higher out of 10 she'd be perfect for me. At a loss about what to do.

>>16883807
It's not thinking. She's an idiot.

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>>16883807
>I could never stay with a guy who chose me when I made a mistake because he chose me when I made a mistake
What is this I can't even

>>16883824

>Why am I so shallow bro's?

everybody is shallow to some point, its sucks but its true, if you don't have feelings for her, let her go, you're just wasting her time and being an selfish asshole, she will get hurt but she will be better when she find someone who reciprocate her feelings.

>Women are allowed to cry
>Men aren't

Literally fuck you. I cry when I want bitch.

>>16883824
Is the problem that she's actually unattractive? Or is she attractive, but you feel entitled to more?

>>16883848
No i broke up with her after for other reasons. But she cheated then she was crying one night i asked whats wrong, she said she slept with another guy, i forgive her, and she lost a bit of respect for me after that. The break up was a little later

How many exes is literally too much?

>>16883824
You lack confidence to date someone ugly

>>16883863
It depends entirely on the person.

For both sexual organs: How often do you have sex/would you want to have sex?

Manly Man here, Once every two days for me.

>>16883859
Maybe she thinks you're too weak to compensate her weakness?

>>16883863
Age matters. If she has a ton for her age, I know we have nothing special and im not going to waste my tmie.

>>16882105
Any suggestions on what kind of online service?

>>16883887
Female, I'd like it every day (and other forms of intimate contact throughout the day).

>>16883816

This hurts.. :/

>>16883887
Dude, several times a day. I actually have hypersymia.

>>16883887

Guy here,

>how often do you have sex?
I have sex once every couple of Years. It's been 4 years so far.

>how often would you like to have sex?

I honestly don't care anymore. I overcame that wall of caring. If it's another 5 years, whatever. I guess it doesn't matter

>>16883859
>she slept with another guy
You forgave her
>she lost respect for you because you forgave her
You dodged a fucking bullet that's what. She was a 100%, Grade A class bitch. And you know what they say about bitches.
https://youtu.be/Kcf4yS5_aiI

>>16883887
0/1...?

f

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For the women: is it possible to be having sex, but without warning you begin menstruating? If it actually has happened, how did it go?

>>16883368
Why you don't say that to >>16882225 ?

>>16883440
No, thank you anon

>>16883938
Yes that's possible. The closest I've come is starting my period right after my boyfriend finished eating me out.

>>16883950
Wait, these things just start up suddenly? I always thought it was more like the oil leak on a car. First a little bit of sweatting and moisture, but gradually drops begin to form.

>>16883793
>So go for it?
YES

Also, punctuation. You're a librarian FFS.

>>16883893
Explain
>>16883929
I just want to know her line of thought, it was confusing as fuck.

>>16883808
In a basement.

>>16883853
>>Men aren't
That's bullshit. There is a set of conditions under which a man is allowed to shed a tear or two in public. A small set but a set nonetheless.

>>16883918
You're a hyper-simian?

>>16883957
That's kind of like how it is. The beginning and end of the period are usually the lightest.

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God damn I think that I am really starting to have a crush on this girl.
I love hanging out with her, and this evening, while we watched movies together from the tv, I sorta wanted to wrap my arm around her and hug her.
This is all so new, confusing, and weird for me.

We also talked about going to the movie theater again, probably next week.

I am just so unsure in regards of how she actually feels towards me.

>>16884052
Well, I mean, just because she's hanging out with you doesn't make it certain that she likes you.

But there's nothing wrong in taking chances, so if you like her, go for it!

>>16884077
True, which is why I am sorta uncertain about what to do.
We did go to see a movie together last Thursday, and she often comes knocking on my door at the student apartment complex we both live in and asks me to come watch tv with her. She also shows her drawings to me a lot.

I am not very used to interacting with females, let alone in a situation where I might be actually developing feelings for one, so I am pretty damn clueless on what the fuck I should do. I have never had a relationship or even really had a crush towards anyone before.

Girls and guys

How do I turn OFF feelings for a girl that I've fallen for? I can't remove her from my life because she is important. But I need to get rid of my feelings for her.

What do I do.

>realized my best friend is in love with me, because of something he posted online.
>asked him if we could talk about it and he said he wasn´t going to say anything about it
>told him it made me feel like crap because i feel the same way and i really want to be with him
>he just says he won´t say anything but that he always wants to be a solid source of support and always be there for me and that he wants to be that in my life
>i spent the whole fucking day crying because what the hell is going on

There is this girl I had a crush on but I said to myself I won't care about her anymore. But here I am, about to ask a question.
Girl is in a similar situation, she's basically madly in love with her ex, always hovering around him when she gets the chance. I am pretty sure she has realized by now that he doesn't love her anymore, since he told her that + he doesn't want to date her anymore, which was also stated by him at least once.
Last week, after a night of drinking, she called our mutual friend, sobbing, stating that her ex clearly doesn't care about her anymore. Still, she tries to be with him at every possible opportunity. Guy hangs around her too so I am not even fully able to comprehend the situation. I tried to distance myself from her, since we were just on friendly terms, but we used to talk about personal stuff. Is there a way to ask her, or maybe suggest, in a non passive aggresive way, when is she going to stop wasting time on her ex/that she should stop wasting time on her ex? I am well aware that I should probably just leave it be, but this seems like a win-win scenario. She will either do something about it or she will completely cut off ties with me, that would be probably the best outcome for me too (even though I might not get invited to some events organised by mutual friends anymore).

>>16884164
>I can't remove her from my life because she is important

You've got some explaining to do

>>16884164
fuck other girls
duh

>>16884168
hes playing games of some sort
youre better off waiting until he grows up

>>16884179

She's a close friend. I care about her a lot, she cares about me. We support each other a lot. But I understand we can't be together..

>>16884225

I don't want to fuck other girls

>>16884015
I make too much jizz
>>16884000
New phone, sometimes I miss. >>16884164
Feelings aren't an on/off switch. Every distraction helps though. Give it time. It might never go away, but it at least becomes bearable.

>>16884275
>Feelings aren't an on/off switch. Every distraction helps though. Give it time. It might never go away, but it at least becomes bearable

it just hurts a lot right now. I wish I could just end them.

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I'm very self conscious about my eyes.

I have alternating esotropia. Basically I can't see out of both eyes at once (true monocular vision) and can switch between which eye is "on". The off eye will be slightly crooked, but it's less pronounced when I use my left eye. Because of this I find it hard to look people in the face.

Here's a photo to illustrate.

Is this worse than wearing an eyepatch? What is more weird to a woman: guy wearing an eyepatch or guy with fucked up eyes?

>>16884255
then quit bitching and deal with it

>>16884284
Eyepatch is worse.

>>16884255
Then I don't know what you expect. There's nothing we can say that will help you lose your feelings.

>>16884285

I'm not bitching. I'm asking for legitament advice

>>16884284
Guy wearing eyepatch. It is barely noticeable. Really.
And you have super nice eyes.

>>16884287

Fuck

>>16884281
You and me both. Some things only time can heal. It won't be easy, but you can do it.

Is there a difference between attraction and sexual attraction?

I'm very interested in this girl who works across the street from where I work. She's soft spoken, polite, dresses very modestly, and she's a little shy. The thing is that I'm not sexually attracted to her whatsoever. She's very attractive aesthetically, but not once do lascivious thoughts cross my mind when I think of her.

Other women I've crushed over in my life usually have some sexual thoughts sprinkled in, but not for her. Despite this, I'm crushing on her tenfold what I would others.

Is this normal?

>>16884164
Why don´t you tell her?

How do I sleep with a hippie girl? She's your standard college graduate who is super SJW. Problem is I'm very right-winged. However, I'm going to her place on Saturday to just drink and hang out. How do I get it in? What do women like this find attractive?

>>16884299

she knows

>>16884310
>super SJW
>drinking
>sex

You're going to get accused of rape you dumb degenerate

>>16884311
then?? what´s the issue?

>>16882157
Well I'm not a woman, so...

>>16884317

I'm trying to turn my feelings off. She knows I like her. but things won't work with us..

>>16884297
>attraction vs sexual attraction
Think cute vs sexy. They can coexist, but they're not the same thing. You wouldn't be sexually attracted to a teddy bear, unless your fetish is really weird. And you wouldn't usually find a big ass cute. Either way, it's perfectly normal to have one and not the other.

>>16884323
Ok but anon, please just explain, why won´t it work? How does she know? Dude, girls are not that complicated!

>>16884310
Gonna say I'm a liberal, or would be if I was a Murican, but this sounds like a horrible idea.
>>16884323
Did she say why?

>>16884328
>>16884330

It's a long one. But this is why. She's afraid she will hurt me. She said I'm too important to her in her life. And she wouldn't be able to bare it if she hurt me emotionally.

"No. Believe me. I would not to be like that. But I am that kind of person who is full of enthusiasm at first. Then, When she gets used, she gets tired and wants to change. It is handy to have someone who loves you, who gives you attention. it is convenient to have many. So when you get tired of one, you can change. I speak good of others, say many beautiful things. But then, in fact, before there's me and my needs. Then, if there is time, there are others. My parents know this. I've always been a bit 'selfish. That's why I do not want relationships. I'd take advantage of it only. And friends ... well, I have several friends, but "at the right distance." The only one who knows how I am, is my friend in Vienna;) I do not know why I am so. Maybe because I do not feel happy, and I feel that I miss so many things. And you know, when you're not happy with yourself, you are not able to be happy even with others. Perhaps this is the reason. Because when I'm happy, my god, I feel I could lift the whole world for all of you! But who knows. Maybe it is so. Maybe not. I do not know."

So if you're 21 and still with your parents, it's probably a pretty good idea to just not date someone am I correct? I feel like the only girls I could date are the ones who also still live at home.

Oh well moving out when I can anyways

>>16884347

I don't know the answer to your question. But I'm 25 and live at my moms house. I have a good paying job and could definitely afford to buy my own house. But I choose not to right now. I think I'm going to wait a few more years and just save money

>>16884341
>The only one who knows how I am, is my friend in Vienn
DUDe what´s that bunch of text? is it related? do people really text this much?

>>16884354

Yes. its related. We were having a serious conversation about it, and I was at work so we couldn't talk on the phone.

>>16884341
That's a nice load of crap. So what kind of mental disease does she have?

>>16884361

:/

>>16884358
aw wELP buddy, your situation right now sucks.

>>16884347
>21 and still with your parents
This isn't the 80s. Being able to move out of your parent's house early and live on your own is getting harder and harder. No shame in it.
>I feel like the only girls I can date are the ones who also live at home
I don't think this comes up as much as you think it does.

>>16884347
not really a big deal. you're only 21. most girls your age are still in college or still living at home anyway. if she doesn't, you can go to her place, and it's ideal. i'm 24 and haven't moved out yet, though i have a job and savings. i just go to my boyfriend's place all the time.

>>16884341
Sounds like anxiety disorder to me. My friend has it and she says the same things.

>>16884365

That's exactly why I was asking how to turn my feelings off. Like I said, we can't be together. And it hurts bad

>>16884374

I think it could be that. She had a panic attack one time before and she called me while she was experiencing it. I spent 30minutes on the phone doing breathing excerises to help her calm down

>>16884380
Definitely anxiety.
I'm afraid this one is out of your hands for now. She needs professional help, and as much as it hurts, you can't do anything to help it.

>>16884375
Yes, are you guys long distance?

>>16884388

I have anxiety too. Which is something she's greatly helped me with. Just by talking with me. Fuck.

>>16884390

Yeah, friends

>>16884408
>>16884408
shit, and how long is that distance? i saw the vienna thing on the mail and got curious because i´m also from italy and in a similar

>>16884408
There's a difference in anxiety and anxiety disorder, and hers may be more severe or advanced than yours. You can still be there when she needs you, but a relationship in that state is virtually impossible for her, and she will need professional help if she ever hopes to have one. You're out of luck here.

>>16884414

Far

I was a texting a girl fairly late last night. She said we'll talk more tomorrow. I said I would look forward to it.
The thing is, I'm always the one starting conversations.

Since she said she'd like to talk tomorrow, should I wait for her to say something this time? Does it matter?

Girlfriend and I mutually broke up about a week ago. We had some compatibility issues so we decided we should break up but stay friends. She was asking me about how it's going datewise and I said "nah, not interested in anything new" and she was like "oh well lots of guys have already hit me up lol"

It's not even jealousy I'm feeling right now, I just feel kind of insignificant. Maybe she moves on quickly I don't know, I kinda regret staying friends, I don't want to hear about this stuff.

Should I go no contact? It really hurts to delete and block her contact but maybe it's for the best.

>>16884347
If you are living WITH them, then it's a completely different situation.

>>16884417

I know it won't work. That's why I'm asking for how to cancel my feelings. But still be there for her as a friend. It's hard because I really like her. But I know it can't be

>>16884442
Can't have both, man. Doesn't work like that. But hell, I got schizophrenia and depression, so I'm no expert on feelings, but I have seen the way it crushes men. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Like I said before, just give it time, man. Bad things happen to good people. It isn't fair, it isn't right, it's the worst thing in the world to watch happen, but there's nothing you, I or anyone else can do about it.

>>16883824
What? "The only thing wrong with her is that I'm not atttracted to her"? What? Dude. You're allowed to want to have a girlfriend you genuinely want to fuck, this isn't shallow and it also isn't rocket science. The whole fucking distinction between a buddy and a girlfriend is whether you want to rail her, if you don't she's great friend material.

Did you watch the Care Bears too much as a kid or something?

>>16884457

So what do I do? I don't understand

>>16884437
yes

>>16884437
>trying to stay friends with your ex
LOL
This is covered by like, page #1 of How To Not Be A Retard.

>>16884469
What can you do? Be there for her. Ride out the pain. Get used to that horrible wrench in your heart, because it's not going anywhere. It's never going to leave. You just learn to ignore it. You can't get rid of your feelings, and you shouldn't try. They're there for a reason, aren't they? As long as you love her you'll feel them. Do you want to stop loving her? If yes, I suggest you cut your losses where you are right now and stop talking to her unless she really needs it. But you don't want that. You still like her, and you don't want to because it hurts wanting to be more than a friend, right? The two are inextricably linked. It's an important part of your relationship. Whether you started off liking her or you grew to, it will always be there. You'll always feel it. You think you can separate the two? No one can give you advice on how to do that but you. To be honest I don't think you can, but I don't know your life. So which will it be? Will you cut her out to save yourself from your own suffering? Will you bear the pain of always being close to her, wanting to be with her, but never being able to? Or will you somehow Forge your own way between the two? None of them will be easy. But your original question, how do you stop feeling....... You don't.

>>16884511

God dammit..

Talking to guy and one day he is showering me with affection and we're having a good conversation then the next he's not responsive

I have a feeling he's just bored and not actually interested in anything

>>16884523

Hes probably having a bad day. Or maybe busy. Girl is texting me right now, and I can tell I'm not very responsive in my messages. I'm not doing it on purpose. Just, I am alittle upset over something at the moment. So I just can't engage in the conversation

>>16884516
Welcome to the real world. It sucks.

Hi guys! Any help and any replies would be so appreciated, I feel alone and embarrassed! P-in-V sex has always been hurtful for me, especially as my ex was 9 inches and very thick - we never had successful intercourse in our two years of dating, I hadn't had sex before. Even putting up a finger (I'm petite with tiny hands) or a tampon would be uncomfortable or even painful. Had sex with a few different guys afterwards who were smaller, but had to stop every time but once because it hurt - it wasn't enjoyable, but I just wanted to get it over with.

I then started dating a new guy, 10 years older than me, didn't tell him about my situation ("hey, my ex had a HUGE dick, so I was a virgin for a long time and I still can't have enjoyable intercourse, new lover!"). However, although his dick is normal (a bit over medium and completely perfect), it went so much better than usually. I had my period the first time, and it has gone relatively well since and actually feels nice! However I'm clueless about sex and still have to stop sometimes because it hurts, but I think it's embarrassing to explain I'm horribly inexperienced and have had these problems (I'm 20). I ESPECIALLY don't want it to sound like it's been a problem because the other guys were larger than him (which is only the case with my ex and I much prefer this guy's dick which is perfect and amazing). Do I tell him? How do I go about this?

Also needing some tips. I have no idea how to ride a guy. He says I do it a bit oddly, like side-to-side instead of up and down, and it's not very enjoyable. But I know a girl on top is a big turn on for him and enjoyable for many women. Any tips? Any instruction guide?

Also would it be hot to suck off a guy, then tell him how wet he made you, ride him a bit and then go back to the BJ and let him finish in your mouth? Or would it be weird?

I AM CLUELESS

>>16884533

Well I'm officially done with girls. I will never ever let myself get emotionally attached to someone again. I don't want to experience these feelings ever again

>>16884531
That's reasonable, he probably is busy but mentioned we would talk soon
We might have different definitions of soon though

>>16884541

Yeah I hear you. It can suck sometimes. Girls do the same thing. I know what you mean.

>>16884534
I'm a dude, so I can't help you with the bag stuff, but you could just bring it up since you said you had to stop sometimes because it hurts. Just leave out the parts where your ex had a bigger dick than him and discuss your problem and the fact that it's painful. Make it abundantly clear that you still want to try though. Maybe invest in some lube.

>>16884534
>I think it's embarrassing to explain I'm horribly inexperienced and have had these problems
Today I learned girls literally have no idea how men think. I always heard it was the other way around, but Christ. This is like the opposite of correct.

Okay check this one out super carefully: Men. Prefer. Inexperienced. Girlfriends. You get skills from practice, okay? They imply your girlfriend's been around the block a few times. This is not attractive. In other words, don't be embarrassed to admit you're horribly inexperienced in general. Specifically, he doesn't want to hurt you, so just tell him you need his help to figure out how to make it hurt less, or whatever.


As for the sex tips in general, just ask him to teach you. I can't even envision the guy who gets put off by his girlfriend asking him sweetly to teach her how to fuck well. My brain short-circuits when I try.


TL;DR nut up and say it, nothing bad will happen.

>>16884539
>Well I'm officially done with girls.
That's jumping the gun a little, no? Remember that this had little to do with you. Not your fault she has anxiety. Not your fault she can't handle a relationship. Not your fault she likes you too. This doesn't happen as often as you think, and in all likelihood your next potential relationship will not have the same pitfalls as this one. Nit saying it won't have any pitfalls whatsoever, all relationships have those. Next time, however, they'll be up to YOU.

>>16884547

Thanks for your reply! Yeah, he must think it's a bit weird that I stop and I might not enjoy the sex, which isn't the case, and I told him it just hurts sometimes, don't know if I should elaborate. And will definitely not include that my ex had a bigger dick, like I'm sure 90% of women would prefer his and I think his size is perfect, but I guess it would feel emasculating to mention it, so I won't!

We do have some lube that we usually use for anal (woo for the first time since I started dating at 16 that I can experiment sexually!), and I usually do get really wet. I think the pain might have been a psychological thing that made me tighten up to an extreme degree (I haven't been abused or anything but I heard some girls experience it), my gyno said there was no problem physically, but I'll try. Again thanks!!

>>16884556

no, i think I'm just done. "One and done" as they say it. I'm not generally a emotional person. My friends have called me emotionless. But this girl caused me to actually experience emotions. And it was just easier not having them all together

>>16884546
Yeah it does but I like him a lot so I'll get over it

Hope everything works it for you man

>>16884563
>I think the pain might have been a psychological thing that made me tighten up to an extreme degree (I haven't been abused or anything but I heard some girls experience it)
You don't have to have been abused, it can be just nervosity. Plus if it hurts one time, you expect it to hurt the next time so you tense up and your muscles clench, and guess what? It hurts. It's a self-reinforcing thing.

>>16884567

Good luck femanon

>>16884552

Haha, well I'm not all girls, but I am a bit clueless and inexperienced. I do have female friends who have been dumped for being virgins, though!!! At 18 years old by guys the same age. Those guys were huge assholes and apparently only after sex, but it made me so nervous. Especially because this guy is a lot older and more experienced than me, I thought it might made me seem very young and be a complete turn-off.

Your comment made me very happy and made me relax, so I really appreciate it, thank you for that. I told him I've only been with my ex, which I guess is a lie, but we did a bit of oral.

I'll have a few drinks, tell him the truth and that I do want to have sex with him (A LOT) but I just need a bit of directions and him to tell me if I do anything wrong/what I could do better. I did it when I gave him a BJ, I was clueless at first but when he guided me, he came so much faster! So I guess you're right. Thank you so much, I felt really alone and embarrassed about this, especially as I have many younger friends who are VERY experienced and I hear so often than guys prefer experienced girls. So thank you :)

Girls, 2 questions

1) is true y'all think of sex as much as guys?
2) what's more important: muscles/body or personality/sense of humor ?

>>16884570

Thank you, it makes sense, I researched it in my own language (am not American) and there's not a lot of information about it, so it seemed like I was the only girl that felt this way apart from rape and molestation victims, which made me freak out and feel so weird!!!

Yeah I was 16 when I got together with my first BF, he was pretty rough and tried to jam it in, it hurt so much. I wanted to do it and was clueless and thought it was supposed to hurt, so I tried many many times, and I think it might fucked up my body and nerves for a while. Thank you for your reply!!

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Can I hook up with a girl if I live with my mom.
Like is it too much to ask to go to her place. Im 24 so I do go to a few college parties, am I too old to go to girls dorms there? Im super thirsty right now and dont know how to close the deal

>>16884590

>I'm thirsty

God I fucking hate when people use this as sex slang

>>16884582

1) Depends. I'd like to think I think about it too much too.
2) Why not both.

>>16884601
Im incredibly horny...
Happy now

>>16884607

Yes that's better

>>16884582

1) For some, depends on the girl and the situation. I'm in a group chat with 3 girls, me and my friend are currently dating and having great sex, we talk about it CONSTANTLY and discuss sex, experiences, porn, positions etc all the time. 1 girl is a virgin and not very interested in sex, she masturbates regularly but it isn't on her mind constantly. Third girl has been in a committed relationship for 3 years with the same partner, enjoys discussing it and thinks about it quite a lot, but not as much as a horny 16-year old guy, y'know? Depends so much on the girl and her sex drive and situation. Some girls are complete horn dogs, and some guys don't think about it all that much.

2) Well, I could never imagine someone prioritizing muscles over personality, but I guess it depends on what you want out of the relationship. If you want a fuckbuddy, some guy with a nice body might be enough to satisfy you, as long as he's a great lay. If you want a long-term partner, personality and a sense of humour is definitively 100x more important. But you still have to be attracted to the guy, like I doubt any of my friends would casually fuck a guy with a nice body if he had a crappy personality. Muscles don't do shit for me though, not that I'm into chubby guys, I had a BF with a sixpack and it did nothing for me sexually, I love when I cuddle a guy with a bit of meat on his body, nothing is sexier. Washboard abs are even a turn off for me (and I'm not fat or anything lel, I also do like when a guy is strong enough to lift me up, throw me around etc but I'm very petite, so it doesn't take much).

>>16884566
Your decisions are your decisions, anon. While I may disagree with them, you are free to make them. 'Tis better to have loved and lost, et cetera.

>>16884590
sure why not, just hide your teddy bears and make sure she doesn't walk in on your mom cleaning your room

>>16884630
No Im not bring a girl back to my moms house to sleep with. My mom would rage and its just wrong on so many levels.

>>16884582
1. Nope, I'm pretty high libido generally but my libido can crash sometimes to where I don't even think about sex. I've talked extensively about sex with my girlfriends and some of them can honestly take it or leave it. I know a few who've never had an orgasm and some who think its a chore. I'm not trying to be a contrarian to the other ladies that responded either.

2. Personality
If you scare me or bore me you aren't putting anything in any of my holes

>>16884644
Well your mom wouldn't hesitate to get some dick while you're in the house. Anyways, well if you're really that against it

There's a solid chance the girl has a bed she sleeps in, inquire if thats a possibility.

OR

Get some money and get a hotel. although beware they'll either feel like a hooker, think you're going to go ted bundy on their ass, or they'll be perfectly fine with it

Want a girls opinion on this

So prom is coming and I've asked a girl to go with me as a friend (posters, flowers, creative asking, the whole shebang). She said yes and we're going to prom. However, another guy from a different school (so different date for prom) asked her (over chat, no posters or flowers or even no creative asking which she told me she really likes and wants) and she said yes to him. So she'll be going to two different proms on different dates with different dates. I just feel a bit disappointed and a bit jealous I suppose. I'm not sure if I like her in that way but I might, I don't know my feelings. It's funny, bc another girl from another school asked me to their prom too but I said no bc I didn't want to be unfair to the date from my schoo. What do you think ? Do you guys think I like her? Do I have a right to be jealous / a bit bothered?

>>16884644
wait you're 24 years old and you're using phrases like "My mom would rage"

Maybe a more important thing to ponder aside from "your thirst", is where exactly you are in life, and where a 24 year old man should be. In a short 6 years you'll be 30 please for your sake let that sink in.

>>16884649
>>16884663
Context. I graduated college and had a great cs job I quit to move back home because my mom is dying of stage 4 breast cancer. Im horny but I still respect my mother enough not to bring women to her house.

>>16884673
okay well that changes practically everything, my bad for being rude and my condolences on your mother.

Yeah, just see if their place is good, thats your only option really. It could be fun sneaking into a dorm, good story to tell kinky af

>>16884663
>>16884680
Kek, anon BTFO by reality

>>16884673
That's fucking rough man, sorry to hear that. You're a good guy though. Stay strong.

>>16884693
last time I assume an anon on 4chan is a loser.

:^)

>>16884704
Id rather be a loser than be in my situation. Its better to assume people arent in the rare incredibly tough situations. Leaving my job was a really tough call.

>>16884726
I agree anon, you'll get through it. You have to, for her.

I think sleeping with some sl00tz will help you take your mind off things. If not for 20 minutes.

>>16881971
>>16881998
>>16882021
Both sexes are equally as noncomittal.

The only difference is that guys sometimes brag to their friends about seeing/banging multiple chicks at once or one night stands because it's seen as impressive among dudebros, whereas women who engage in the same type of behavoir don't either don't actually sleep with all the guys their seeing or if they do they don't brag about it because it's generally not seen as impressive or looked down upon for them.