How to Stop Thinking About Her

>>16863393
I am in the same boat I am trying to forget but every time I see her in college I start thinking about her for the whole day it's starting to affect my life

Meditate

Adderal and cigarettes

>>16863418
I did a solid no-contact, and I'm still fucked.

>>16863446
Already do, every day

>>16863449
I won't lie, I would be picking up some Adderall right now if I had a connect.

>>16863456
Meditate better

>>16863456
Just ask the kid in your class that asks 50 questions at a time and seems unrealistically intersted in the subject for some. Not worth it imo. The crash will make you feel insanely depressed and anxious and you'll feel like all that confidence and motivation was fake

>>16863491
There's no class; it's independent (don't ask, I don't want to give details)

>>16863479
Given that I started meditating some 12 or 13 years ago, I feel I have a fairly good grasp of it, but thanks for the reductive advice anyway.

Think of her, think of her along with all the reasons why you or she ended the relationship, if any.
You will find your peace once you go over the reasons for not having her in your life anymore.
Take a deep breath, remind yourself that time does not go backwards and move on.
Right now for a few hours this exam is more important, you can day dream about her after the exam to your hearts content.
Be more disciplined and remember you think and do what you want to, no one forces you to think or do things a certain way.
Its all just a state of mind, of which you are in total control

>>16863533
This is probably the best advice here, helpful and reasonable.

And it frustrates me that, despite applying logic and reason to it and even getting some semblance of closure, reason fails to prevail. I'm a reasonable person, so it maddens me when I can't just be reasonable, and this is one of those times.

Thank you.

>>16863393
>an exam that, if I pass, could feasibly launch an extremely lucrative career for me
Jesus Christ. Stop thinking that a degree will entitle you to a job.

Millennials seem to believe that if they get good marks and graduate they'll get a killer job just for that piece of paper.

Off topic as all hell but this sense of entitlement is fucking ridiculous and needs to die.

>>16863393
Fuck off normiefag piece of sHit fuck you

Honestly, it takes time. Unless you broke up with her a year ago (or never dated her at all, or never had much of a chance) you're in the normal. I had a really messy breakup with a girl I didn't even like - who I knew I'd break up with for about six months before I did - and it still took me almost two years to be able to date again. Sometimes it's just a long process.

>>16863726
It's not school, it's for the job itself.

>>16863738
Thank you, froggie; maybe I'll fuck your oneitis to get over mine.

>>16863739
I don't want to get into the story but, on the range from good solid relationship to not much of a chance, it's somewhere in the middle. It's just taking way longer than I expected...like longer than girls I dated for a while.

>>16863746
If you dated her, were close friends and then turned down, or flirted with her or something for a while and got turned down, it's understandable to be upset for a while. If it's been less than a month, you're well within normal range for any of that.

If it's longer than that, just acknowledge the issue. You're being obsessive, especially if she didn't date you. You need to move on. Eventually, you probably will. Don't wallow in it, and every time you think of her, ignore it. Just keep trucking on.

>>16863774
>If you [...]
Yes

>If it's been less than a month
>If it's longer than that
It's been longer

>You're being obsessive
>You need to move on
Agreed, and that's what I'm trying desperately to do, hence the exercise, hobbies, going out with friends, flirting with other girls, etc

>every time you think of her, ignore it
I've actually developed mental redirection exercises, but they only last for a couple of minutes at most. Now I'm just beginning to wonder what the fuck is wrong with me because I've never been this way before.

>>16863911
Sometimes it happens, but you won't be like that forever. Acknowleding you're over reacting, being weird, and it's an issue are all important steps. It's a pain in the ass, but eventually you'll stop thinking about her and not even realize you did, until you realize you're functioning normally.

Just keep trying those exercises and keep filling up your time. It'll pass.

>>16863911
>what the fuck is wrong with me
You're a hopeless romantic, OP. But lemme tell you it's been a month since I last saw my crush. Week 1 was okay. Week 2 was agony. Week 3 was agony. Week 4 is back and forth.

Here's what I tell myself:
>She doesn't give a shit about you
>If she cared, she'd let you know
>No, she's not secretly in love with you
>She's not available
>She's cute but not the one for you
>Forget it and move on
>etc

The point of no contact is not any given period of time. No contact is ongoing up until the time you feel like you have gotten over then.