Change

You need to get out of the basement, off the internet, and into a new career in a field that's less stressful and more rewarding, such as carpentry. Learn to work with wood, and you'll find your life improves drastically.

>>16795856

the best way to start over for me has always been to simply start over. i grew up military, so im used to moving. whether its to a new state, new town, or new apartment, the change helps.

if thats not happening i tend to kinda purge my old life. sell or get rid of everything i can, re organize the major furniture, etc. big on dropping people out of my life when i ruined everything or simply cant continue with them too.

>>16795860
yeah I'm used to moving around to and I plan to move by May 1
But there's plenty of work that I need to get done before then and I just feel stuck right now, hard to get myself motivated and moving around

I'm not sure if there's a real "how" to the way I did it, but I just tossed everything around age 20 and tried again. That includes literally getting rid of material possessions as well as ignoring my certainties and convictions. If it worked for other people, I gave it a shot myself. I let reflection rather than dogma guide me. I had no choice when facing fear to push through it, to tell myself that tossing everything means tossing my mental barriers as well.

I'm still me. A lot of my values and tastes ended up roughly in the same place. But I also found that I was horribly misguided about a lot of things. I could never have been as happy as I am now had I continued down that path. All of this is easy to describe but I can't tell you "how." There's no magic to making a decision like this. You just do it big style.

>>16795933
Doing it big style

Thats what Im talking about man

Throwing away those mental barriers. Ive kind of caught myself in a cyclical problem with that that. There's no other way than just doing it but I wake up apathetic and lazy everyday
If someone or something isn't pushing me from the outside I just falter and end up procrastinating futher

Anyone ever use meditation to help these kinds of things?