bf was molested earlier, how to approach this?

>>16500209
Good on him keeping it in the family

>>16500209
has any legal action been taken?

also, take him to shrink so he doesn't flip some day and rape his kids should he have any
no offense.

>>16500209
i am talking out of experience here, just ask him if it still bothers him. ask him if it makes him feel insecure and such things. if you have problems in bed, this might be the cause you know?

>>16500534
Yes, he had like six years of court appeals and stuff with the sentencing. His stepfather got four years in prison, the sisters were also underaged but older so no legal action was taken.

>>16500642
wow that's horrible. :-(
has he seen anybody?

>>16500534
>also, take him to shrink so he doesn't flip some day and rape his kids
It's completely callous of you to jump to such a conclusion and of all the ways you could have worded your concern that was probably the worst.

OP I've got a few questions. How did you learn about it? What kind of guy is your boyfriend? Do you feel that it's something that affects him?

>>16500667
>It's completely callous of you to jump to such a conclusion

They could've worded it better I suppose but it's a fact that a large percentage of kiddie diddlers were sexually abused themselves as a child.

Why do you have to talk to him? Let him bring it up and when he does, listen. Thats it. I speak from experience. Talking brings back memories that he may or may not be ready for. Let him pick the time. If anything, twll him aometime you are talking deeply that you are here, unjudging if he wants to ever talk about it, then drop it abd let him bring it back up.

Tell him to stop being a punk ass bitch

>>16501497
I'd feel pretty shitty if my significant other found out about my being molested and just ignored the issue. Some people want to be approached on a subject first. It makes them feel like they matter. And others will say it themselves when they are comfortable. Others may never say anything.

Everyone is different anon.

>My boyfriend was molested by his sisters as a child.

Lucky.

In all honesty, the psychologically most damaging part about this is that society tells him it's a horrible thing, tells him that he should feel horrible about it, tells him he should mimic rape victims on CSI Miami, and basically tells him how he should feel about it, rather than how he actually naturally feels about it.

If he grew up in a society where this was normal, for example in Polynesia hundreds of years ago, he would think nothing of it. The most damaging thing is people like you thinking and telling him that he has to feel "damaged" by it.