How many matches do you guys get on tinder? I read threads on bodybuilding.com where they state ridiculous numbers like 100 in a few days or 1500 overall...
Also post your photo if possible
I get probably 3-4 matches a day but I've only messaged one girl because I actually knew her other than that I'm socially retarded. Give me advice, critique, and for fucks sake someone teach me how to open
Swipe right on everything. Don't even look. Whoever you match with start talking to even if they are a hideous ghoul.
This gives you some exposure to the types of girls out there and what does and doesn't keep a convo going.
It also gives you an idea of the type of girls who are swiping right on you.
Oh Oh I just made one anyone wanna help.w mine (Mines usually not this blurry.)
somehow I already knew you were socially stunted just from these pics.. forced smile, weird poses, weird high school graduation photoshoot... the whole thing just screams shut-in. Maybe try some more natural photos?
recently met up with some tinder bitch
>got to know her, she's actually a bretty cool person
>a week after we met, we netflixed and chilled, she turned out to be a freak in the sheets (my fetish 2bh fayum)
>a week after we fucked, we go to this pizza place
>she pays for the whole tab, even after I offered to help pay for it
Tried texting her after that point, but she started to ignore me, or give me one worded texts.
Oh well lads, at least i've gotten laid+free food out of this.
Ok so here's mine,. Not a lot of photos as you can see and I'm not ready to go active until I've got a decent bio.
I decided against using my crappy general /soc/ pics and included ones with my cat and others socialising with actual people, those pics are four years old though =/
At least it doesn't look like I'm a NEET with no friends though.
I could probably do with some more pics, any tips?
If it's outdoor stuff, I'll need more time, like planning an event with someone I know and I'd prefer my hair to be a little longer than it is, I don't feel confident yet.
My process is about the same, if they're remotely attractive (like 6+/10) I check their page. No bio means anyone below an 9 gets the boot, bad bio means they get the boot regardless of looks, good bio even 6's get about a 70% chance of a like.
Oh, then I guess I swipe through the rest of the pics before making a final decision. If they have any of my red flag pictures (small children who I don't know the relation to is a big one. Not after any daddies) it's a no.
When I was on tinder I had about 900ish matches.
I'm /fit/ which helps massively on tinder and unconventionally attractive which results in chicks either being not interested in the slightest or think I'm really hot.
I just swiped right on everyone while I took a dump each morning.
It's a waste of time reading anyone's profiles you haven't matched with.
Check out who I've matched with, unmatch the dudes and the bots then see who's left. If it's anyone interesting then messege them.
If you're a guy it's a numbers game and it's not in your favour.
Stopped tinder after I met my current girlfriend on fetlife.
Here's a tip I learnt. Don't use a clear face pic as your main picture, use something a bit more ambiguous. It will draw people into your profile much more.
Remade mine about a week ago. At around 110 matches now. Over the two years I have been on it I have met up/slept with 2 girls. I mostly just mess around on it. Any advice for my profile would be appreciated.
Your profile will most likely turn a lot of women off.... anything mentioning "the sheets," although often what they're looking for, doesn't scream "swipe right" but instead "I want your pussy and don't care about anything else."
Idk I guess I just have that werid musician/artsy vibe some girls like.
I got decent matches when I last used tinder ~6 months ago, at least maybe 1 or 2 a day, and that was with the radius only set to about 12 miles.
Made a new profile on Monday, with better pictures and a far better bio (before it was just edgy as fuck bio, photos and selfies) and with the distance set to 30 miles.
Trouble is I've only got 2 matches so far, and both of those were pretty much straight away (maybe an hour) after I set it up.
I'm not using the latest version (because the newest on android fucks up the picture quality), that's got to be the reason, r-right g-guys?
I'm not even getting matched with the boring uggos and chubbies like I used to ;__;
Post your profile. I used to have a lot of matches on my old Tinder (a little over 500) but that was because I would basically say yes to anyone as long as they weren't like 300 lbs.
Any suggestions? Good or bad, everything appreciated. Bio too long?
I get matches, I talk to them a bit but usually just stall out. How to go from playful conversation to potential meetup? Also im going to start swiping right everytime.
forget about trying to get girls when youre actually talking to them, try only to amuse yourself but in a way that will draw them in. Try and get a picture of you having a good time with friends or something. anything with other people.
Here's my profile for you guys to maul
No idea why the picture quality has gone so shitty
Quality looks fine on my phone, but if I update to the latest version, every picture literally looks that pixelated.
I'm just gonna pretend that my lack of matches is down to me using an old version and it generally being shitty or whatever
>How many matches do you guys get on tinder?
My real me?
Between 0.1 and 10 per day, dont know what makes those come in waves, or makes for dry periods.
so I was also inclined to believe that those high numbers are bullshit. I'm certainly no 10/10, but from all girls IRL I have heard that I am fairly OK.
So I made a catfish account with some 10/10 models pic's, two of them topless on the beach, showing off his fantastic abs and such.
Put my GPS to a big city (LA, for that matter), and now I'm swimming in pussy! (That I cant use, but oh well).
Maybe not 100 per day, but when I swipe a lot, I easily get 50+ per day! And my model is 30+ and I get 18 year olds, as well as 70 year old ladies, both of which normally give me their number within 10 messages or so, and even when I try to go totally over the top, not all of them say stop, but I am a quite good talker.
I had girls admitting to me that they are into being choked and dominated (and then they realize what they just said, and that the coffee date they had agreed to an hour earlier probably would take a different turn), I had 18 year olds discussing possible clit piercings with me, and I managed to get 50 year olds to strip for me on kik.
So to sum up:
>(LA?)women are as shallow as us guys, you just gotta be 100% hot and you need to be able to sweet talk them.
If you are not 100%, well, you gotta work some more, but talking is important too.
632 in 2 months I've had it
Live in rural Britain so I don't get many matches unless I go to a city, that's when I get the majority of them. Makes me wonder how much better city life would be than farm life
yeah but you're using photos of a 10/10 model and I somehow doubt most miscers are such models, and the majority of them claim to be getting like 100 matches a day like it's something casual
>dude lmao why you get so few matches XD
Been using the Bateman routine for bio lately, seems to work just as fine as my old, normal bio which leads me to believe that no one really cares about your bio (provided it isn't edgy)
Like, one a week. But I'm also in Alaska, population is not in my favor.
What do you do if you get good matches but don't know how to set up decent dates and/or hookups? Wasn't super outgoing before graduating so I kinda missed out on learning the ropes of this stuff.
I get about 1-2 matches a month. It's not because I have a bad personality or are genetically shit, I am just really picky about people I talk to and I'm too set on the fact that I want a girl that is just my "type."
It's just my height with a witty remark about what I could do with my size.
Then I go off about only super liking Natalie Portman and we all know they aren't her, so not to get flattered.
>Trick is I always use my super likes on babes :^)
I'm picky as hell. If you aren't white, attractive, or dont have a clear photo I swipe left.
One issue, is I'm pretty sure I was more attractive when I had hair a few weeks ago and girls don't like me now that I'm bald
I have 100 matches over three weeks. A part of me is surprised because I half-assed my profile, and have had some really cute girls swipe first; still, it's starting to slow down. I'm more interested in harmless flirting and sharing a pint than sex, but the more people to talk with, the better.
What should I do?
Oh here's mine for reference I guess
Maybe. I'm not sure I fit the profile of average tinder girl (actually I know I dont) but that's just my process. I like the bios because A it gives me at least something to talk about and some idea of who you are, and B it allows me to get a better feel if you're a psycho rapist murderer or something. But for chicks who already know they just wanna bang some random dude and don't care who as long as theyre hot I can see only needing the one pic.
Wouldn't know. Never had one.
I would assume on the average/smaller side though, big ones in porn and shit actually turn me off just looking at them.
Tinder seems to have gotten kind of fucked up for me. I think I got bumped up in their ELO too much or something.
I used to get tons of average girls, and lots of matches. All of a sudden, 9/10 girls I see are really hot, and I can't get matches to save my life.
But the setting up dates part is somewhat easy to learn.
Just pick a date and a place and tell it to her. You dont need to be some alpha asshole, as in
>yo bitch, get your ass to 2nd street diner at 8 tonight
but you certainly shouldn't do something like
>well, I... I d-dont have anything to do all week, so we could like, err, m-meet, whereever and whenever you maybe have a little bit of time for me
Even if you have time all week, I'd still say something like
>How about we grab some beers at XX on thursday? I'm already busy on Wednesday. Or if you are spontaneous, we could also do tonight ;)
works most of the time.
My tinder, not even that buff
i would probably only go with one "women" joke. It kinda makes you sound like a misogynist...
I know you're not, but two jokes about it is gonna turn a whole bunch of women off. Get rid of the "i like my women ground up and in the freezer" line
I partied with this chick a few times. Never hit on her because she had a boyfriend. Also hooked up with her best friend twice.
Who the fuck does this on Tinder? Thinking I should drop it but she seems pretty cool and I wanna go for it now that she's single. What do?
I'm just gonna keep deluding myself and pretend that tinder is buggy.
I wanted to test this shit out by liking everyone, I'm not even getting matched with the actual gargoyles and half tonne land whales
dude just b urself ;))))
no seriously, I don't get why you aren't getting matches, because I think you should
can you post your non-blurry profile picture?
Here's a better version of that main profile pic. I've got other ones of me not looking at the camera, think those might be better?
Is this a good photo? Also, I'm making a tinder for the first time. Any tips?
p.s. will not having an instagram make me less attractive?
>>23278225 decent pic bro, background is kinda boring though. Try taking it in a different room with better lighting and no coat hanger in the back haha. And no, the no instagram thing has never stopped me from getting matches.
I haven't found matches in a long time.
If anyone has advice on what I should change I'd really appreciate it.
Also, would you say its better to have some witty comment as your bio or a list of everything that you like (like what I have rn)?
Are some my pics a right away turn off?
Be as critique as possible y'all
For reference sake, I'm not a lesbian
But I guess lesbian women and I have the same preferences right? Women?
Anyways your main pic isn't that good. I'd get rid of it. Put 4 or 6 in the main spot imo
I have things I like plus a little witty line so idk, just bee yrself
Straight guy here, I think you could choose better pictures. Not really into the sweater ones, from the dress pic you look like a beautiful girl, and the two sweater ones and hat one don't do you justice. That's just my opinion though.
As for the description thing, 9 out of 10 girls leave it blank which is annoying cause it gives less opportunity for a creative first message. So putting a list of stuff you like is fine, or just a quick description that encompasses your personality, goals, and hobbies/interests.
Anyway hope this helped at least a little :)
Location means more girls in your area and more girls on tinder. It's pretty straightforward. If a guy has a profile that's not working though, maybe location isn't the only problem.
This is the last screenshot I have of my match list from a few months ago, I haven't used it in a while because I have a gf now
So is this acceptable? I don't play hockey but I watch a lot of it. Not sure if it's okay to put that in there.
Ya that's good. I put in my description "definitely message me if you're down to grab sushi" and I don't really love sushi or anything but because of it I get first messages from girls like "lets go grab sushi :D"
Here's mine. The "let's climb trees together" line gets good responses too
I'm far from a Chad lads, I'm not that good looking. I'm just a funny guy and my profile stands out
How old are you? Also, is it necessary to have lots of pictures? Who takes those pictures anyway? You seem pretty outgoing. I don't think I'll get as many matches as you desu. You're everything a girl looks for in a man. I'm not :c
What's with all the travelling pics on euro-girls profiles? It doesn't seem that bad in the US, but here in Europe (or rather, Germany) every damn bitch has pictures of herself in front of famous international landmarks, and some shit like
>travelling is the only thing you can buy that makes you ritcher
in their bio. WTF is up with that? I want to see if you look hot or not, I dont want to calculate your CO2 balance from flying.
Or should I just give up and do the same? Havent looked at guys, but I guess if I start with a nice pic of my face in front of Gloden Gate bridge and add some other shit, from the arctic to asia, I at least could get those 'real traveller' points? Maybe even add in my bio that most of my flights are paid by my work?
Can you guys offer any advice?
Europe here, i have 300+ matches but as stated in my profile i'm not really taking it seriously.
yeah that was disappointing
thinking about my matches though I think there's at least a few cuties who have some nice common interests listed
I should message them at last
thinking of switching my 2nd pic with the one on the right... it works great, but i've used it for a while now
Does the door as a back drop work though? I know not in a bathroom itt
I get some OK matches but I'm hopeless at making them go anywhere. It's always the same random small talk for a day or two and then one of us loses interest.
I wish it were easier to actually find out what the fuck people on Tinder were like, every profile is pretty much a carbon copy of every other one, and nobody talks about anything except for super generic basic shit. It's especially bad here in LA because everybody's from somewhere else and trying so damn hard to be in the industry.
I don't even really know why I bother trying Tinder. I haven't gotten laid in a long time and would really like to, but don't really enjoy fucking girls I don't like at least a bit, and I'm horrible at this text chat thing.
Is there seriously still no similar app that doesn't require a fagbook?
I had mine for a few days and got about 25 matches 3 months ago, deleted that shit after I hooked up with a girl I know irl
I've had it for 5 days and have only gotten 30 matches what am I doing wrong
Couple of matches a week, doesn't help that I live outside of the city though.
Girls I match with are legit psychos though
You won't attract everyone with that profile, but I'd still think you'd get quite a lot of matches unless you're super picky
Unless you're humblebbragging, in which case fuck you. I've had 2 matches in the week since I got it m8
It's hopeless. ;_;
>15 or so matches since I started it last week
>5 of those were bots
>no replies from the humans
some pics that don't just contain one subject matter...ie not just your face looking awkward too close to the camera. Some that other people have taken are good...shows you have at least one friends. Some of you driving, or sports etc
Might just be horrible at taking pictures of myself.
I think you are wrong. I would say most woman actually spend more time than men using tinder. But no, its all about appealing to the broadest spectrum possible. In my photos, I'm a snappy dresser, no I'm a dirtbike hooligan, oh no I'm rich, oh no look now I'm into animals, shit now I'm into sports. Its about offering something to everyone. Regardless of if you actually surf etc. Do i surf? do i fuck. am i rich? nope
then its about finding out what they want and appearing as if you can offer it, again regardless of your actually ability to do so.
I will admit though, i use it to fuck random people. Not for love...although that has happened
if your face isn't your strong point then avoid it. Look at mine, only one picture of my face...the rest its hidden. use your strong points. I don't put lots of pictures of my face because i wouldn't get likes.
Good advice. Don't really have that many pictures of myself, might have to get some first.
And most pictures i have is from a while back, when I had some beard and longer hair, so can't really use those. Looked to much like a serial rapist.
I have ~1200 matches but that's probably explained by the fact I travel quite a lot.
What makes a good tinder pic?
Are indoor self-shots ever acceptable or are outdoor ones mandatory?
What about the rest of the profile?
loved that thread
yup, you look 100% socially retarded. Try to open with something funny or at least something they'll be inclined to answer, that they haven't already heard 15 times that day already. You'd be surprised how well "Hail Satan" has worked as an opening for me
Honestly it depends on other shit apart from your profile, like your location and if you actually show up for others. I heard something about tinder being selective about whom they show to whom but that might be bullshit.
I've convinced myself that my lack of matches is down to it being buggy. Ignorance is bliss, so long as I can keep lying to myself
When I was 17 I would swipe right to everyone (unlimited swipes) apart from the real uglies
I also travelled a fair bit so over a year I managed to get well over 1700 matches in total
Now that I've turned 18, and since deleted my old account and started anew, the limited swipes have come into place, as well as a tinder algorithm that seemed to be mostly missing in the under 18 version
Coupled with over 18 girls preferring to swipe right to older men (all the 16 and 17 yr old girls that I matched with in the past are unavailable), turning 18 has kinda screwed me over with tinder
Living in the countryside doesn't help either
Currently have 10 matches and I started this new account 4 days ago
Thanks for the reply. I read that you need several pics to really increase your number of matches, and I only have one (pic related). I live in Paris btw.
My profile is in French but it's basically saying I'm studying management and cinema.
just thinking here. what are most women on tinder for validation or sex. can some femanons clear it up for me.
I was at a party just yesterday next to two total stacies and they were laughing at matches they were getting and joking about how they would never hookup with anyone period, and I talked to them about it and they were all smiley and talking about how its just for self validation, and when I asked them to say it again they said the same thing, smiling at me and not skipping a beat.
And they weren't smiling in a devious way, but just a happy smile like if you were eating good food or something.
I just walked away from them.
My app won't load matches and I had just asked this girl if she wanted to get coffee on Friday.
Restarted phone, logged out on app, uninstalled app...
How do u fix it hanging on loading matches??
idk if it's bullshit
I live in Paris too and I had waves of "normal girls", "supermodels" and such.
If you're average and the apps only gives you 9/10 over and over, gl getting one
It's the truth, I'm not a woman but all I used it for so far was to see how many matches I could get and how many people I can recognize from my university.
The female friends of mine who are using it too said the same, or they are using it to actually find a boyfriend/relationship and not a quick fuck.
Maybe some of them would use it for sex too, but didn't want to admit it. I doubt that though, most of them are honest, pretty outgoing and open when it comes to sex, relationships and that stuff.
>that feel when only have selfies in my house
>that feel when still getting ok matches
my selfie game is stronk though
>having a good conversation with someone
>we are both writing mini essays to each other basically
>reply to her last message continuing the convo
>she just never replies again
Does Tinder just stop working at points, or did she just fuck off and stop caring?
Please do tell the story....
Plz Rate, I get about 1 Match per day, what am I doing wrong? am I just ugly?
This thread just depresses me, most of the people in here are above average or have great complexity. I'm fucking 5'8 skinny and have baby face and small hands. Don't think I'll ever have a dating life
the secret is actually not really to be good looking at all. There are a sea of good looking guys. They key is to be different and offer something the normal guy cant.
This is why i only have about maybe 70 matches right now after about a solid month and a half........but ive fucked 32 of them.
So even if you have thousands of matches, you still are only fucking a small portion of those. And i mean small portion. Maybe 10.
its about offering something else from the jump.
oh and 9 times out of ten my matches message me first. You just gotta find your own thing that always yields results.
My Chad friend wrote the modern romance line for me but idk how I feel about it.
>be asian male
>use the app a few times a day
>not even high standards, right swipe on anyone I find remotely qt
>it's been months and the only person I've matched with is the Deadpool advertisement
I want to die, lads. This is empirical evidence that I am unattractive to women.
Where the fuck do I take this? I always sprerg so damn hard in this app. Apparently she also likes anime and nerd shit too.
have over 400 matches but figured i'd post for fun since i never see girls
don't have hobbies or friends so selfie mania :-)
>don't have hobbies or friends so selfie mania :-)
That right there is what might make me misogynistic at some point. Even if we are good looking, us guys have to invest a lot into presenting us well in this app, and as a girl, you just have to show that you have a somewhat decent face and are not fat, and you get the matches rolling in.
Dammit, I hate you! Still, would totally swipe right...
And regarding that point:
>us guys have to invest a lot into presenting us well in this app
Should I add an office pic, of me in a suit and tie, sitting on my desk, being all busy, with all kinds of tables and curves on the wall behind me, yet smiling in the camera to my tinder?
Does this make me look like an uptight bore, or does this help, implying I have an important and well paying job? Plus, girls like a guy in a suit, right?
May as well post. I've been using this app for about six months now and I've matched with four legitimate girls (non-bots) who haven't unmatched me instantly. I've tried a billion different configurations and bios but I think Tinder just isn't the place for some people.
Getting to show people I met John Lynch was pretty cool though I suppose.
Well, you look like a douchy dudebro to me, but then, I am a guy, and I thought sorority girls eat those guys up, so can't help you, I am afraid.
Just gotta say your first pic makes it hard to see who the fuck you are, and the second one is a shitty selfie.
Yeah I've changed everything including the bio, I just didn't want to really upload the changes right now but maybe I'll post one later to see if its any better. And I guess I'm sending the wrong vibe, the selfie got taken out though I realized that was garbage.
They send you an instant first message with either a link to some website which I never click on or they send you a number instantly which tries to direct you to a cam site to rip you off. Idk they've gotten less prevalent recently though.
I've gotten four matches in the year and a half since I installed tinder.
Two didn't respond to my messages.
One just wanted me to model for her hairdressing final.
The last one hooked up with one of my friends.
I recently got a new phone.
I don't think I'll be reinstalling tinder.
Ask what they are looking for on tinder, if they say they don't know then tell them what you are looking for. They should get back to you on whether or not they are along the same lines. Some girls are lazy and stupid and will swipe on guys they aren't even attracted to, just to see who swipes back. You have to be straight forward about what you want, the rest should follow whether it works out or not.
All you guys bitching about how girls have it easy on tinder don't seem to realise that the reason behind this is because most guy using it are all super thirsty and with no standards.
Its not really a girls fault when she has a shitty profile and still matches with guys with, you salty faggots
I need advice on how to open and keep the conversation going at least a bit.
I always try to meet up ASAP with matches because if I don't the text conversation tends to die off
And here are my matches
Ive offered this advice before and i was met with a bunch of "oh thats too much" "thats too hard", "im lazy", "im not confident enough to do that". Which is why i think some of the guys here are stuck where they are because of themselves. You deserve to be ignored
Look at my profile. It defies the laws of everything you have taught each other. I have a shitty half face pic. Two body pics and a tied up woman in my main picture.
So whats the difference between your profile and mine? Its interesting, mysterious and it instantly catches the target audiences attention. The girls who match and message me will always know that with messaging or meeting me, they will get fucked. Your profiles are all the same. Just a guy or just a guy with friends. And if you are attractive, hey you just may fuck a bunch of bitches and have ok sex half the time. You offer no interesting mystery, no fantasy, nothing. You are BORING!
Wouldnt it be fun to have the sex YOU wanted? That fantastic rough facefucking sex where she dresses up and calls you daddy and sucks your cock like a whore?
My meets consist of two stages. Initial meet up to show you im a normal regular guy and the second you are on your knees starting a large cock in the face.
Find your balls and become an Alpha.
If you arent confident in it, then please dont fuck up a good curious girl with a shitty experience. You nerds research shit all day and know all the stats, well research this and become a fantasy for bitches.
Shall we dive deeper or are you Rage-quitting yet?
I had around 800 when I deleted the app, but keep in mind that I live in NYC. Whole lotta fish in this sea
I have seen you here quite a few times, and I think you are spot on with your assessment, apart from two points:
>You nerds research shit all day and know all the stats, well research this and become a fantasy for bitches.
Problem is, that shit is not really done just by research. Sure, I can read books about bondage and domination all day, but I would guess it'll take some "training" till I come off as a dominatnt alpha IRL.Also, you really need to be into it, to enjoy it, and to make it enjoyable for her. My ex fuckbuddy (whom I met off tinder) was into getting dominated and bound, but I am not, and I really couldn't force myself to get into it, so I would terribly fail at this approach.
I strongly belive that tinder puts folks into classes, and if you get rejected enough, you are in the bottom bin. I actually read some article about an interview with a tinder engineer, where he admitted that they had an attractivity rating algorithm, so there is some truth to it.
And if you "meet" the wrong girls with that approach (as in: girls that will go "what a creep" and swipe "no"), you will get flagged as unattractive, and your profile will never see the light of the day, and so you either give up, or reset and start new.
And since I am a nerd that researches everything: I actually tried a profile like that on a catfishing account, and I never got any matches, apart from the obvious first 5 "get you hooked" matches, so it definitely is a high risk strategy.
>You offer no interesting mystery, no fantasy, nothing. You are BORING!
is spot on!
If you are not gods gift to womanhood, try to find a niche like that!
I also have a 1-pic-faceless profile, and I manage to get dates with girls that have never even seen my face or body. Now I just need to become alpha enough to actually do anything with those fucking dates.,
i've considered doing this and could easily pull it off, but the only problem is that even a partial shot of my body or face could be easily recognizable (visible at a midsize uni)
would this work if none of the pictures were of me and I just say in my bio "ask for my snapchat"?
Depends on what you do there.
"Normal" tinder? No problem nowadays.
But a profile like that? I'm teaching at a university, and I certainly would not want my students swiping upon me with a profile like that, if they could easily recognize me.
I get the general point you're trying to make, but i already use my real pics on "actual" tinder for good results... however, for that specific kind of tinder, I could easily get some irl blowback
I understand your points. But to be honest everyone is into something. There is no way you like to fuck missionary silent and thats it. You have some kind of kink whether its feet, furry costumes or ass smeared in yogurt. You have a kink that can be used and exploited. This is an eye for an eye. Because it will be something you are really into that in turn makes it Genuine. Hell you could focus the entire play time on that alone. I had a chick suck me off for over an hour because thats what i wanted and thats all we did. I just threw in some spice with punishments for not going deep enough or moving her mouth away. You are finally gaining a subject who is willing to just do what you say. She simply wants to take orders. You are capable of this. Thats all she wants. In return you get to do ANYTHING you want. She may have requests but you are the one in charge and she only gets what you give her. Period. She wants control taken away and you can do anything you want as long as its not one of her Hard limits.
On point two though ive never heard of that but you may be correct and then you might want to be appealing from the start. Also im not sure what wording you used or how the profile was set up. There is a chance it just wasnt appealing or genuine. Id be interested in knowing
Thank you i like you too
Try a test pic. Take a half pic and show it to a friend and see if they can recognize you. I like to remain anonymous myself sort of. This is a good way to screen who im talking to. If you know them, unmatch and if you dont go for it.
Do you know how girls always say on their profile "Not into hooking up"?
Well that is bullshit. Especially with this approach. The reason is because they dont associate kinky sex with vanilla(normal) sex.
Observe this profile i was talking to today....
>There is no way you like to fuck missionary silent and thats it.
Actually, I do like to be silent, and too much moaning is a turn-off for me. maybe I am a lost case. My only non-vanilla fetish is that I am into intimate and tongue piercings, and when I am catfishing as Mr. Perfect, it is possible to get the discussion towards those, but I wouldn't know how to make a profile out of those, or how to use that fetish in a conversation when I am swiping as my normal me.
>She simply wants to take orders. You are capable of this.
thing, I already had, but it wasnt just my thing. so i guess that 'specific' approach aint for me, but in general, you got a lot of right ideas about that whole thing.
>On point two though ive never heard of that but you may be correct and then you might want to be appealing from the start
found the article:
>Also im not sure what wording you used or how the profile was set up.
Not sure anymore either, but it was more or less a carbon copy of a profile you posted here end of summer/autumn. did you use that profile from the start, or did you have a vanilla one that you exchanged the pictures in?
I am currently running a test, where I built myself into Mr. perfect, and if tomoroows date wont make me switch off tinder, I am going to swithc Mr. perfects location to my true location, and add in my real pics, and then I'll see if I get more attention than the same profile, that was Mr. Average from the beginning.
She talks like potato too
Great profile, but one has to have the look for it to pull it off, and that was all won or lost in the genetic lottery. Most people here fall in one of two camps: either tubs of lard, or thin frame that can't build an alpha-looking body despite eating 4k calories a day and hitting the gym regularly (I fall in the latter camp). Without having that body, you'd stand no chance. Also, it helps that you're not white, which a lot of women perceive as exotic.
For the genetically unfortunate ones, we have can't use your approach, since we'd be laughed off. No matter how confident one acts, when you look like Pee-wee Herman, you'll be a Pee-wee Herman in their eyes.
So we're stuck with tricks and other desperate attempts; for example, I lie about my age and pretend to be boyfriend material, which at least gets me some lay.
Need an opinion, is this picture too much for tinder?
What the hell do I put in my bio?
I'm doing my master's studies, working towards becoming a translator.
I like writing (used to be prose, nowadays I basically only write poetry), reading (not gonna lie, doing it far too rarely these days, I'm a faggot), learning languages, history and other assburger shit of various kinds, martial arts, sporadic working out
I'm not sure if any of those would be attractive to girls, though.
Studying to be a translator is cool as fuck. And the poetry things great for certain types of girls, if you're not super attractive it'll probably turn off some of the bimbo type but you probably wouldn't get them anyway.
Am I to harsh about the gym part? Feel like if meet someone who is out of shape or doesn't exercise that I'll immediately be less attracted to them. Also are the pics good?
I don't get many matches (Maybe one or two a day), but I've been making the most of them recently. Of the ones that responded to my opener, I've been able to close the deal 100% of the time, It seems.
Been on tinder for a little over a year, 91 matches a handfull of dates, could have gotten pussy maybe 3 times if a wasn't such a virgin back then, had a girlfriend during summer so I stopped using it for a few months,
Any tips on the profile? Talking to 4 girls atm, 2 dates setup, one with possibly a whale.
I really suck at pictures.
Add an extra digit at the end of your phone number. It will override whatever ban you have and send the SMS verification anyway.
Here's mine, want a second opinion. I've had it since last June. It says I've made about 56 matches, but I know that's not quite right; unmatched a lot, some unmatched me/deleted it, I moved to a different area etc. etc. I think it's closer to 100, maybe a little over that, but doesn't really matter.
Put that as the main because it's one of the better pictures of me and someone mentioned that it's good to have a good but odd picture to make them look at the rest. Seems to have worked a bit for me for the couple days I've tried, don't fucking know what to do with the bio, though.
I have another picture I was considering using of me on a boat tour in front of the Statue of Liberty when I visited NYC, kind of mediocre picture but it might make me look like I go outside and go places. Good idea?
I'm just kind of confused by the whole thing. People always tell me I'm attractive, I know I am attractive, and I can carry a conversation for hours, but none of it seems to apply to Tinder. Matches are rarer, though that might be because I'm in like an offshoot of a college town like 15-20 miles away, and most of the girls are there; I don't know if I'm just out of the default range to get shown or something, always seems to go better whenever I go to town.
I also really, really, really don't get why someone swipes right on you and when you open, either doesn't answer or talks for like ten minutes and just stops. Not like I say something creepy or be boring, I joke a lot, have fun, never have that problem or awkward exchange in real life. It just feels completely one sided. I don't know if literally everything I say needs to be a sexual innuendo or like a big ongoing flashy joke like I'm a totally rad 90's movie character with a skateboard, but it seems to be the only way to keep them engaged. It's absolutely fucking baffling to me.
>tfw probably a 7 out of 10 thats more like a 4 right now because my pics are old and I just went 4 months without shaving or a haircut and I look like hell so i can't take a good new picture
I wish it wasn't so damn cold so i could get all my hair cut off. I look like Joe Dirt mixed with the lead singer of Ram Jam.
People think you talk to much.
Also, gain some weight. I was as skinny as you
Any opinions on how to improve? I get maybe 1-3 matches a day.
10 matches in about 3 weeks. Funny thing is the only broads that match with me are hood rat type chola mexican girls. Not that I mind cause I love Latin chick's but I'm not a cholo dude. I'm a biker who is half Sicilian/Ukrainian. People always think I'm Mexican tho.
I'll try it. Used it for quite a while, worked well enough, I'll see if it is any better now.
Ha, tell me something I don't know. I like my weight, might work up some muscle though. I'm verbose, but I don't write paragraphs at a time in messages, I don't think that's it.
Help me out guys. Rarely get matches and even rarer do they reply.
Not really sure why, I'm not a fucking goblin and I don't have this issue in person.
just started today, got a couple matches but neither has responded. tried to mention something I found interesting in their profiles, but because I'm an autist it probably came out awkward. either that or they saw my shitty profile
It doesn't matter how many matches you get, it's how many hot girls you hook up with that matters.
That said, I've been using Tinder to find side chicks so I don't have a photo of my face on my profile. Just a photo of me standing in the desert so far that you can only see that it's a guy.
I have a good bio though, so I get a good amount of likes.
I wish I had more super likes, so useful for getting a hot girl to notice you. 90% of my super likes get liked back.
The only problem I have is that my place sucks for hooking up because I have a puppy that never stops barking if he's in his kennel and when he's out of it he chews on cords and cables.
I like hooking up with younger girls, but a lot of them live with their parents. I don't like bringing girls to my place while I still have to take care of my brother's puppy.
What do when a girl says that she lives with her parents and wants to hook up but don't think we'll have privacy? Should I ask to come over late at night while they're sleeping, or when she has the house to herself?
>I'm not a fucking goblin
But you do look like one. which is to say: you main pic is probably not your strong side. From what I have heard, chicks dig beards. Which is to say: beards. Not facial pubic hair. Also, your bio sounds negative.
>but because I'm an autist it probably came out awkward.
Well, found your problem…
I'm probably kinda autist too, and it took me months to finally get it how to talk to girls on tinder with moderate success, and I havent yet really figured out the IRL part, but I am getting there. Keep trying, try something new occasionally, and maybe even sometimes go at it with a total "fuck it" attitude and try something ballsy.
>it's how many hot girls you hook up with that matters.
This! And that is the hard part.
>I don't have a photo of my face on my profile. Just a photo of me standing in the desert so far that you can only see that it's a guy.
Same here. One pic, no face, but that one pic is totally great, and my bio is also probably quite funny. I dont pull dozens per day, but compared with all those "10 matches mper month" folks here, that have a totally fine, nice guy average profile, I guess I am doing quite good.
>I have a good bio though,
pls show it.
>I wish I had more super likes,
Well, tinder will gladly sell you some more...
>The only problem I have is that my place sucks for hooking up because I have a puppy
Dude, girls love puppies! Just remove your cords and cables and let it roam in the room you two are in and you'll melt every girls heart (and subsequently pussy). I really need to get a pic with me and a puppy…
>Find your balls and become an Alpha.
Muh sides. This has to be the cringest neckbeardy e-dom shit I've ever read. Posting cringe stuff like this, lying about how many girls you've been with, and posting on 4chan all day tells me that you have some kind of mental illness.
> "eyy bb wan sum fuk?"
Yeah, that's not going to work, but just sometimes go all
>Oh, well, I will probably never get her to agree on a date anyways, so what do I have to loose?
Pic very related. Unfortunately, I couldnt make her offers a reality, but, I figured,
>Oh, a nurse?
>Hm, she aint that great that I would be too afraid of loosing her, so lets just go for the bone joke
>worst that can happen, is she is going to unmatch me
And well, she didnt, and while I couldnt make the examination happen, we at least had some fun via kik…
anyone have tinder plus? I'm tempted to try it for a month but don't know if it will actually boost my matches
Let's see tinder matches, currently I have 4. I had 5 for a little bit, but I can only surmise she finally realized her mistake and unmatched me. If only I'd known online dating was literally worse then in person rejection I might of spared myself the heartache.
mostly. Sometimes tinder ignores that prefs. Even says so in the app!
>If only I'd known online dating was literally worse then in person rejection I might of spared myself the heartache.
I think it's easier than "normal" real life dating.
IRL, you think you are the only guy that had the courage to talk to her, so why would she loose interest in you?
On tinder, you know that she is talking to at least 20 other guys, so it is bound to happen to 19 of those guys she's talking to.
Dont get mad at me because you cant get any results. Its not fabricated at all. I could post a billion conversations on tinder with girls who want be banged. You are just mad because you think it cant happen. Thats your unfortunate life. Deal with it.
shameless, i'll let you know how it goes
hoping imitation is the best form of flattery... would you happen to have any contact info i could reach you with?
have too many questions about this that can be answered here; appreciate all that you've done so far though
I'm going to try this as well. I'm married (dead bedroom, can't get out of the marriage because kids) and I've been flirting with the idea of making an anonymous tinder for some time now. I'm into all kinds of kinky shit that a profile like that would actually be great for, and I'd be discreet enough for me to not get caught.
I should really take the time to set this up, I know shit about tinder though, so I guess I need to make a fake facebook profile, add these pictures I want on tinder and then go from there?
Also, I'm on a windows phone, does it even have tinder?
take it seriously? just tinder? or the concept of courting the fairer sex? im confused, how do you not take sex seriously? you want to fuck right? so are you just telling yourself that because you cant get pussy? why would you need to tell everyone how not serious you are taking the tinder account that you so seriously have anyway despite the fact you are so mellow and chill and cool that you dont even really care if nobody wants to fuck your fuckboy ass because you are so chill and you dont even take it seriously anyway... pssshh like you would ever take a bunch of girls seriously tchh nothing personnel
I had the app for over a month now, and swipe a few almost everyday. I've only gotten 1 match, and it was an asian girl. Sadly, she didn't respond to me.
I think I'm done with the app. No reason to keep it if I'm just unattractive anyways.
Have at it man and good profile. You have no limits when talking to them remember that. Lead the conversation and let them know you are the experienced one. have patience with matches. This approach takes time but they will come to you.
There is no reason for me to be full of shit i have too much proof.
email me at firstname.lastname@example.org thats my burner email
This would suit you very well and remember it will be a patient process. It wont happen over night. Your matches will be a bit slower but you will have higher chances of sleeping with them
These are the replies i live for. Always a cocky idiot who cant be open minded even if someone blew off your head with a 12 guage. Listen kid....This is no 50 shades of anything, i make that very clear when i talk to the girl. I can tell you are confident and might possess some skill in the art of Pick up but so do I and i have much more in my arsenal.
And Gimmick? I've been a DOM for 9 years. I am the real deal actually. You fuck bitches. Congratulations. I fuck about 10x the amount you do and the quality of my girls are better. So you lack the quality and the quantity to try to compare to me. Put it this way, if you and i fucked the same girl in the same night.....she would never call you again. Thats just the reality that you have to deal with.
Something that thoroughly pisses me off about Tinder is this. I'm an attractive guy, and I get a bunch of matches. Let's say I get 10 matches in a few days or something. Only likem 2/10 of the people I matched with respond, and it bothers me because it makes me wonder why the fuck people bother swiping right if they aren't going to respond to the person if they match?
Fuckin honestly. Any femanons that can share some insight to this shit?
Now that Tinder got rid of last active time, how long do I wait after a message before unmatching?
It pisses me off to message someone and get nothing back. Not a message or even a unmatch.
When swiping here in portland I get like 5-6 matches a day.
But As soon as I've started swiping in vegas I got 50 within the next day. But since then swiping in vegas I've been getting 7-8 a day.
Explains why im getting none not even by BBW's :/
This is the worst kind of girl and they're all too common.
A 7'6" NCAA swimming champion would turn up a few results on Google. I'm gonna chalk this profile up as a hoax.
why am i not surprised after 20 hours still no matches.
What's your profile look like?
Am I butterful?
Don't you have a photo that isn't, you know, a close-up of you looking very grumpy?
no. i'm a grumpy kinda guy they say there is someone out there for everyone i'm not trying to get laid hell you know how many females on tinder I hit the X on because they took a picture with another girl or were covering their eyes or had tattoo's I mean maybe that's why?
but eh! I was just looking for people to talk to at night when I'm bored out out places not looking to get laid.
grill here too. my thought process is the same. also even if the guy is hot if he comes off as a douche (club pictures, shirtless selfies) its a no. also a good bio is essential. I never swipe right without reading unless theyre my friend irl and I match them because we already know e/o
>girls don't like bad boys
Swiping right purely for the ego boost maybe? A lot of people have no intention of talking/meeting anyone. They could just be using it for Instagram followers or simply to confirm they're good looking
Another thing is the sheer amount of dudes messaging them. Think of how many swipes you do, imagine matching with every one of them and they all message you instantly
You're gonna reply to the most attractive ones, and the ones who stand out from the "hey what's up" messages
Thoughts on my profile please. Thinking of removing first part of bio.
I have baout 800 matches but I travel with my work which probaly pushes the numbers up.
my Url is gotinder.com/@archieabseil if any ladies are interested
Looks pretty good, but yeah bio should be short and snappy
Full retard. Just pretend like you're popular and know what the fuck you're doing
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I get about 3 matches on average, some days more some days less. Any tips for the profile?
isnt it important that the first picture shows your face? If the 1st pic is bad i have several others which i can use as a "face pic".
I dont want to put too much emphasis on the cat as its my mums and i live 1400kms away.