I'm tall, thin and good looking. Girls hit on me when I go out. Last saturday it was three different groups of girls. Yet still I feel like shit and can't even imagine myself with any decent girl.
I'm not socially inept or anything. I don't have any problem socializing. I get along with everybody. But I have a real problem truly "connecting" with anyone. There hasn't ever been any person I felt I could totally comprehend, and that could totally comprehend me. Not even close.
And I feel stupid just by writting this, because I should just deal with my own stuff.
This. I'm 24, don't have trouble getting laid, and people tell me that I'm really friendly and make them feel at ease. I approach meeting new people with a lot of smiling and humor and that seems to work well with women. But I'm constantly encountering people (especially men) who seem to take that as a sign of submission. like I introduce myself to a guy around my age at a party/event and try to ask him about himself and make him feel comfortable and they make a grand effort to do the adult thing >how's your golf game >what do you do and other cliches
it's even worse at 24 now b/c now I meet many more married men. On Tuesday I meet a guy my age who immediately jumped to >"You married bro? "No" >"Good on ya bro. take it from this old dog, hold out as long as possible. I love her, but I'll be damned if the ol' ball and chain doesn't try my last nerve."
SERIOUSLY? YOU'RE 24, GOT MARRIED 7 MONTHS AGO, AND YOU'RE BITING LINES FROM MIDDLE-AGED CLICHE CHARACTERS IN 90'S SITCOMS. WHO DO YOU THINK YOU'RE FOOLING? DID YOU GET MARRIED JUST SO YOU COULD ACT LIKE A CONDESCENDING DICK TO PEOPLE YOUR OWN AGE?
When I was 18-22 I chocked it up to dickheads trying hard to look like the man and talk the talk. But the older I get I start feeling like I'm supposed to be more serious and distrusting in order to convey virility or confidence or something.
>>8515536 lmao sounds like u hang w dickheads those guys prolly feel the same and arent sure how to deal w being adults but arent as comfortable w it as u and try to hide it these lame facades manliness is ironically such a fragile concept some guys will make fools out of themselves to protect it dont mind it
>>8515536 It's the same behavior that married 18 year old girls have. I know this because I work with three of them. They usually got married too early if they're married by 24 and they're a man, so like the 18yo married girls they just try to talk in mature cliches in order to feel confident about their decision. Just avoid those kinds of people.
>>8515406 You sound a lot like me. I'm nice to everyone I meet but there a few people I really "like" or even want to be around at all. I'm not trying to be some faggot loner but I find it tiring trying to keep my composition around people and to have conversation flow freely without fear of saying something awkward that I'll regret.
I kind of hoped that as I became older I'd come into my own and naturally develop a sense of confidence around others but instead I've only further retracted and became more socially inept so much so that I hardly seek out the companionship of others anymore. I shouldn't let it faze me because it probably will only make things worse but I can't help but feel that I don't really know how to solve my own problems.
>used to be skinny as fuck >49KG >happy as fuck, good self esteem, got a few hunnies >later on diagnosed with life threatening illness >have to take steroids >they make you gain weight and retain water >65Kg now, face fat as fuck, stretch marks all over body >wardrobe barely fits me anymore, I look stupid as fuck in everything i wear >hate myself and want to die every single day >dont even want to see my fucking dumb ass face anymore
Should I treat myself as a brand and carefully design my personal traits and mannerisms to become /fa/? Nice clohes are not cutting it. I am still totally unaware of how I should act so I come across as an adult instead of a manbaby. I am 23, 5'11" and ottermode, but still feel like the rest of the world sees me like a child.
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