Hit the post limit for images. This thread will now be motivational text and general life improvement advice. To keep it /fa/ related, I will be posting Room Inspo.
Pretty much a healthy room inspo thread. Please enjoy.
>LAMBDA SIERRA ALPHA
You keep coming back to the internet because it fills a void in your life. For the past 6 years you have formed your daily life and habits around your internet addiction. Understandably, it is very difficult to break habits when they have been such a huge part of your life.
However, the reason you keep coming back to the internet does not have to do with the internet itself, rather your life besides the internet. You can block websites all you want, break your router, or even your computer and you will still find a way to come back to the internet because there is nothing else in your life to fill that void. You have molded your entire life to make time to surf the web and play games, it's all you really know so of course you will go back to it, because it is the easiest option. It doesn't take any willpower to go back to the internet, so you sit there miserable watching your grades slip, your friends have fun, and you justify it by claiming addiction.
So what's the solution? Find that club, passion, person, job, study, etc, to fill that void in your life. Will this be as easy as saying fuck it and going back on this site? Nope. It's going to take some initial motivation, but that's okay. Find something to envelop your life and you won't feel the urge to go back on internet. Doing online schoolwork won't be an issue because you will be on the computer to do that, not browse the internet. The most important thing is that your priorities change, and they will, you just have to go out there. Talk to some people, look into your universities clubs, build accountability. In the end, it won't be a problem, you will look back at your internet "addiction" and wonder why you thought it was so great in the first place.
I lived and breathed the internet for the better part of 7 years, same time frame as you and everything, went to university and changed my priorities in life. All it took was that initial motivation. You have to want it though. Don't let your brain trick you into thinking a night of moping on the computer is better than anything else.
I know you can do it, anyone can!
You really think you're broken? You think it's possible for a person to become so downtrodden that he can never recover? You're fucking wrong. So you fucked up some thing with a chick a few years ago? So you were awkward through school and didn't have friends? Big fucking deal. Those aren't aspects of who you are because those are stories. What you are has nothing to do with the past. There is only the present and there is no self. Resolve to be something and that is what you are.
If you feel inadequate, it's as simple as deciding not to. Being sad is only natural, but there's nothing commendable about wallowing in self-pity. In any given situation, don't think about what's happened in the past. Think about what you are, what you have learned, and how you're going to be better in the future than you ever have been before. At any given moment in time, you're the most mature you've ever been. Don't let what happened in the past bring you down, because it's irrelevant in regards to what you are in the present.
You are the only one stopping yourself from getting what you want.
•Learn to cook. REALLY LEARN. Bake bread every day. Tweak your recipe until it becomes FANTASTIC. Make yourself a hot breakfast every morning. (Bonus: Excellent skill for post-sexytimes.)
•Draw for 10 minutes/day. There are some good internet tutorials. Learn to write with your non-dominant hand.
•Start a blog. Write for 1 hour/week. Or 20 minutes/day.
•Practice public speaking. Toastmasters has great resources online. Just grab an empty room in the library and videotape yourself. Write a 5 minute speech, or give a 2 minute impromtu response to the most recent askreddit question.
•Learn a language - others gave some online resources for this.
•Basic programming - codeacademy and many others available to teach you online. Even if you just spend 2 hours/weekday coding, this will really set you ahead in future opportunities/jobs.
•Basic graphic design. Design a menu for that catering event someone forgot to print out signs for. Design a logo so you know how when you start a kickass business in 3 years.
•Exercise. I could write for hours on exercise. Take dance lessons, or go to the salsa club with free ones. I don't care what kind of dance - ballet/modern/ballroom/whatever. The key here is regular practice. When you're good, your coordination and confidence will show in everything you do. You said you weightlift - that's great. Keep up the good work! I wouldn't worry about tiring yourself out - human bodies are really good at adapting to being really active. Get yourself in fantastic shape this summer. Go biking, running, dancing, swimming AND weightlifting. Or whatever you find fun. Start slow, know your limits and don't get hurt :)
•Learn poi / juggling / staff spinning / other prop spinning arts. Youtube has great tutorials and you can make sock poi or a basic staff for < $5.
•Magic tricks. Get a deck of cards and youtube. My roommate has only been practicing for 2 months and is fantastic. Learn to please an audience. Practice with everyone you know.
• Talk to EVERYONE. The cashier, the girl on the subway, the bank teller. You aren't good enough at engaging people until you're on the phone with your bank to cancel your credit card and end up talking about travel plans in Russia. (My friend is this good. He started by opening conversation with EVERYONE.)
•Watch 2 Ted talks every day.
•Learn shit. Whatever you want - Khanacademy,
•Build stuff. You didn't mention your major, so maybe this is irrelevant. Learn to use basic
•Volunteer. That could be a whole separate post.
•Learn to run events. This is a pretty crucial life skill as well, and most organizations are lacking event planners. Host a dinner party to fund-raise for a charity/One Fund Boston/whatever is dear to you.
•Learn a musical instrument(s)
•Busk. With the dancing/musical instruments/prop spinning and awesome public speaking skills you now have, you should be set to try it out! Check our your local laws - sometimes they require you to have a permit. Even if you suck (which you will at first, but you'll get better), you should be able to break even in a few days in a busy city.
Now, we don't stop here. Pick 10 things you want to try once, and 3 things you want to really learn. Write them down. Now make a schedule. Get out your calendar, and schedule them in.
Here's what I recommend. Since you’re a bartender who gets off work at 3, so you'll sleep from 4-noon. Not much you can do about that. Get up before noon every day. Schedule out those 6 hours. Personally I use google calendar.
Here's an example:
1230 make hot breakfast
1-3 work time. alternate between watching lectures (ted talks, khanacedemy, etc), learning a language, and coding.
3-5 weightlifting/biking/insert exercise here. You could weightlift MWF and bike/run TRS.
5-6 free time
Now you follow your schedule. Always move on the next thing at the specified time, even if you're not done with your current task. You'll pick it up the next day, and you want to make sure you get to everything. As you proceed, you may find you need more or less time for certain activities, and you can adjust your schedule accordingly. And remember to schedule in time for fun. Don't be too disciplined you don't have fun, get laid and do what you want. You can allow for veg-out-time in the schedule. You can relax knowing that you'll be productive at the appropriate times.
Instead of being anti war, be pro peace. Instead of focusing on how much debt you're in, focus on becoming more prosperous. In this case, instead of being anti PMO, be pro abstinence. The more you focus on PMO, whether you're for it or against it, the more you think about PMO and that sends the wrong signals to your subconscious mind. Another way of putting it: Rather than trying NOT to be unhappy, try to be happy. Be pro positive, not anti negative. Anti negative is still negative. Negative thought patterns are what PMO feeds off. What you resist will persist. Trying to resist PMO will just keep it hanging around. Instead, focus on something other than PMO. If you're single and you want a girlfriend do not focus on how much you want a girlfriend. That will lead to focusing on the lack of a girlfriend and then it will lead to bad thoughts. Focus instead on what you *do* feel good about and what you have an abundance of: how great you feel after having a shower, and how great it feels to play sport, go to the gym, connect with friends, talk to strangers, do well at your job, buy a present for your Mom, fix your bike, whatever. Before you know it you're a much more positive person and you've attracted a girlfriend/new job/new friends.
Mix Taoism and Epicureanism with some Heidegger and Stoicism, and you get a pretty beautiful philosophy of living.
The Buddha and Epictetus-Discourses and Selected Writings
Epicurus, and Aristotle-The Art of Rhetoric
Personally I would also argue Camus even if people hate on absurdism.
Less philosophy more life affirmation maybe Alan Watts or Terance Mckenna or even Herman Hesse.
Julius Evola is life affirming with a masculine touch
You should also start with The Upanishads
For one of the best books for Taoism
You know who you could actually read for one of those wow moments, and I'm proffering delusion here, but Chris Langan. His use of language, getting you to accept certain phrases with reference to things they usually wouldn't go with (eg. free will -> random, meaning -> mechanics), really does generate a sort of epiphanic experience (I've seen it and corrected it, lol), it's marvelously insightful even if it is complete bullshit. Meh, I ruined it, but I've seen intelligent people fall victim to it, thinking they'd stumbled upon an actual logical proof of god's existence, and as good, where Langan only really hoodwinks you, it was impressive.
lady chatterly’s lover
Epicurus, Mencius and maybe Heraclitus, depending on how you read him.
Epicurus is basically a direct rejection of Nihilism. The Emotion Machine by Marvin Minsky
Mencius is all about humanity's innate good, plus he's fun to read and not all abstract and boring.
I found Heraclitus to be sort of uplifting because his central idea is the inevitability and naturalness of change.
Seneca's thoughts on expectations
Chesterton is pretty cool.
The Bhagavad Gita. You don't have to read it as a religious text, just read it as philosophy. There are a lot of translations out there, but my favorite is "The Illustrated Bhavagad Gita" by Ranchor Prime. You can pick up a used copy for around $3 at Amazon or Powell's.
Buddha was been a fairly good one.
General life reflection never hurts either.
If you research a bit on the works of Socrates, Aristotle, and Nietzsche they too can help with some comforting facts.
In fact almost any philosopher has good advice on how to get through the bad times, learn how to be happy and content.
Pick up a philosophy book and give it a good read, a good one is: "Philosophy: 100 hundred essential thinkers"
Or if you're lazy and want something simple and a bit funny, Three Minute Philosophy on Youtube is a good basic start.
Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
The Satyricon by Petronius
Ovid's Remedia Amoris (cures for love) has stoic overtones, and instructs, through elegy, how to get over or fall out of love (and calls out people who kill themselves over it).
It's all here:
Then read Amores, because it's hilarious.
Ovid is so much more than just Metamorphoses.
Anything by Seneca
Anything by Lucretius
Anything by Confucius (learn about the Zhuangzi)
But nobody can teach you to meditate but you, focus on the within.
If you follow anyone other than you, you betray not only yourself but also humanity as a whole.
Thanks for the bump, Gordon.
>But nobody can teach you to meditate but you, focus on the within.
If you follow anyone other than you, you betray not only yourself but also humanity as a whole.
1. Do not drink or do drugs. If drink regularly and you find yourself here and broke, there's your problem. You need to deal with that before you can fix your money problems. No thrifty living tip will keep you wealthy and drunk or high, ever.
2. Use reusable house ware items. Do not use paper towel or plastic wrap. Ikea has kitchen towels for $0.50 each. Get about 5 and use them to wipe messes, blow your nose, everything. Get some cheap plastic containers to store food.
3. Shop around and identify the value retailers. Some grocery stores cater to the middle and upper class, and others lower, so find the lower. Depending on your location, there might be small family-run markets that sell fruits and vegetables a little cheaper.
4. Break the spending habit. Stop the psychological justifications your have to buy games, clothes, computer shit, etc. You may need to give all your money for a trusted friend/partner. You should be buying groceries each week and that's all.
5. Always be learning. You can go from zero to a $50k job in a few months if you commit yourself to learning software development online. This may take a large lifestyle change that means no more Omegle, Youtube, chans, etc. For starters, see Codecademy and CS50.
6. Don't drive a car. Ride the bus or bike and move if necessary.
Here's a 1 week shopping list (priced from an expensive region, store brand stuff):
2 loaves of bread = $3
500g sliced bologna - $4
24 sliced cheese - $3
Mustard or mayo - $2
3kg of Apples - $6
Chicken soup mix - $2
Only take $20 to the store and go once a week. Notice no frozen pizzas, soda, chips or other kids junk food. Do not buy bulk either. I also suggest but wipes ($3) over toilet paper. You'll need dish soap ($2) and laundry detergent ($4), and learn to use as little as possible. If you don't replace those for months, you're doing it right.
Utilities: T-Mobile has a $40 plan (USA) and Koodo has a $35 plan (Canada). Cancel the Netflix and downgrade the Internet. See part 5 for all you need to be doing online anyway.
With phone, your monthly expenses can be $120 - $130 this way. This should only be a temporary way of life as you develop your skills (part 5). Email if you need help.
Meet ups and social
Science & Math
Tech support/issues with computers
https://startpage.com/ or https://duckduckgo.com (i.e., google it)
Read short stories. Nothing to wake up the soul of wit like a nice clever short story. Saki and Wilde in English, Marcel Aymé in French, provide accessible and enjoyable stories with smart humor. They also manage to be wry without being exactly cynical.
Read Henry Miller. Might depress you a bit on surface because he likes to talk about women, but seriously Henry Miller rolling is like a cheerful trainwreck of healthy energy.
Classical tragedy could provide the much hyped catharsis, or at the very least switch your focus towards a purer, more alien suffering. Try Prometheus Unbound, Oresteia, Seven Against Thebes, or even Persians by Eschyles. Try Racine's Britannicus.
You could try to cheer you up (while wisening) with a good comedy-if no Shakspeare or Molière, have a least some Marivaux. Boulgakov's Diaboliad is funny, in a crazier and more dizzying way.
Cervantes' s Exemplar are a particular kind of brilliant, light and entertaining and effortlessly getting points accross, you might dig it.
Finally, you might want a sobering take on your plight, or even face the hard test of introspection and assessig your own failure as well as complacency. That much is hard, but Stoic literature (Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius), as well as religious (Bhagavad Gita, book of Job, Eclesiastes, Song of Song for a love distant enough not to put salt on your wounds, Pascal's Thoughts and Kierkegaard's works), and non-religious philosopher inspired by religion or criticism of it (Rousseau, Schopenhauer, Nietzsche), might help you.
Various of the authors I mentioned have relatively short works, so you could do almost one every day.
But most importantly: don't forget to go outside. Exercise you mental faculties. Go to the best looking place in town (alternatively the own with most trees) and walk around there for about an hour. Think, look, breath, and don't be afraid of treading unknown streets. Then go home and write a rendition of what you just saw (or play music, draw, product).
>mfw this was my dorm room at the beginning of the year
I live in a new one now, but same kind of concept.
Glad I could lend some inspiration
Yes, anon, I remember your image. I liked it so much I saved it. I like your taste. And thanks for bumping! Hope you check out the thread I made before this one.
Always glad to hear the positive feedback.
Reddit tier advice that is extremely helpful, but written in a juvenile format. Take it gradually.
Thank you, anon. And yet there is still more to come.
>tumblrina post, but it has a positive outlook on sex
Sex is not a goddamn performance.
Sex should feel as natural as drinking water.
It should not require confidence.
Sex should happen, because the moment is ripe.
Ripening lips, ripening labia, ripening cock, and ripening pupils, ripening state of being. Ripe and augmented and brimming. Your energy goes to your pumping heart, then to every external nerve, then to theirs, on fire.
You bask, roll, and play in it. You sigh, moan, and laugh.
It’s not about being “good in bed.”
It’s about being happy.
One should never worry if they’re doing it “correctly.” Sex is not factual. I don’t want your cookie-cutter sex; I don’t want your meticulously crafted, calculated, foolproof fuck. I don’t want a show. I want you. Let your instincts, urges and whims define that. It’s enough.
What do most girls like? Forget about it. Statistics are meaningless when there’s only one. Hello, here am I. Here you are.
Don’t worry about taking it too slow. We got time. We got infinite rhythms, combinations, and possibilities. Explore each fuck. Take our time. We can do a different one later.
Don’t worry about making me come. I’m here. Right where I want to be.
Wanting overwhelms me; you don’t have to convince me. I want you because I like you. So don’t put on a front. Don’t taint this.
I’m frustrated—it’s just authenticity I want.
Don’t say that something I like is ugly. Don’t compare yourself to the rest. You will live and die with and within your experiences like everyone else. If someone thinks you are amazing, they are not wrong. Their universe is as real as any other; it is forged through perception.
I don’t care if you accidentally slammed my head into the wall, if you slipped out, if my arm cracked, if the delightful pressure of your wet lips on my anything made a silly sound. There is no right way and no wrong way.
“Good in bed,” what.
You’re good in my bed. I’m pleased you’re there. I feel it suits you.
Shove your technique. Let your memory swallow it. Fuck me like you’d fuck me, fuck me like you feel.
This isn’t a test.
Citing research studies that involve people is what makes you wrong. It doesn’t matter what you ay. There’s other researchers arguing the complete opposite of what you have to claim, with the same exact scientific method you used, to achieve their own anecdotal evidence. In the end no one will know for sure because we humans, always put emotional and cultural bias into our scientific research. And don’t forget, when money I involved, your data is thrown out of credible sources. There are corporations that always pay researchers to make a false study that consists of pseudo claims, so they can cite it for their own agenda to make whatever statements they make to be true. What you’re saying is completely wrong, biased, and downright ignorant. There is no way of telling what body type is more attractive than the other. And before you start regurgitating whatever that researcher has to say, statistics are never accurate. Marginal errors go into play all the time. Each person is different due to all the various cultural, gender, philosophical, economic, and lifestyle influences.
I’ll use an example for you. A research study that gathered 17,000 random women to determine what type of man is the ideal epitome of attractiveness is going to be wrong, all the time. All of those opinions come from various backgrounds. And those 17,000 different women do not speak for all the 3.5 billion women that exist. Let’s take one small variable, out of the thousands there are, and use it in this example.
You can take the cultural element and put it into play. What if 15k women out of the 17k research study were American and the remainder 2k were European and Asian. How would the survey be different as to putting it vice versa? Or what if one of those women is on her menopause and got rear-ended by a car full of fat guys on the way to a research clinic? Now she has an emotional and irrational hate for every obese male she thinks or sees of that day. All these variables come into play and skewer whatever conclusion is derived from the study.
This room is kind of weak.I enjoy that they've cleraly done a lot with a small studio space, but less is more in almost every circumstance. The mismatch dressers makes me believe that it's an American apartment and I can't imagine asking guests to understand seiza when they ask where to sit.
Better, but that wiring is a clusterfuck. One would be better off snaking one extension cord from the outlet around behind the couch.
Wasted electricity desu.
Claustrophobic. Not even comfy.
This is nice as well.
I just hate animal hide rugs because they're not symmetric. The coverage on the floor just doesn't make sense; less purposeful than it is aesthetic.
Good use of open air structure.
Not too shabby.
Cold and uninviting.
Meh, but I like your cat.
Ideal if you don't have closets.
I’m not discrediting science; I’m only pointing out the falsehood of research studies that include people, the unstable variable in research experiments, because every person is different. You can’t generalize an entire collective group of more than a billion people based on one attribute or one question, because there are variables to every rule. And each answer is more dynamic than you think, instead of just having a yes or no reasoning behind it. Maybe one woman prefers muscular guys, but as long as they are kind and not licentious. That is never taken into consideration or labeled with an asterisk. Just because she said she likes muscular guys, doesn’t mean she likes ALL muscular men. Or one woman says she likes skinny guys the most, but never fully explains that she is excluding ginger and oriental skinny guys, because their facial features don’t do it for her. So the researcher will blindly mark down a yes for all skinny men without intuitively examining the full picture due to the grained out “circle one option” styled question.
It’s undeniably true how there is no such a thing as a “majority consensus”. I can pull out a rebuttal for any argument you give, due to the multitude of other people who think differently to what you say. Simply put because each and every person is inherently different.
I appreciate the bump and insightful critique.
Introverts, just because you don't get too often and don't like socializing all that much, you do not have Schizoid Personality Disorder. In fact, the classification is being removed from the new DSM in 2013. People who truly have anything resembling the disorder truly spend 98% of their time alone, and most likely in the prodromal stages of schizophrenia.
Just because you're an asshole and don't have that much empathy, you do not have Antisocial Personality Disorder. You're most likely a teenager who thinks that, because he acts like a douche to people and "feels no regret", you're a sociopath and therefore a "badass". You're not a real sociopath. A real sociopath would not be lurking around on the Internet. He/she would most likely be manipulating someone in an extremely social-savvy manner, stealing something, or going out and getting what he/she wants in life, with no anxiety whatsoever, at this very moment instead of chatting about pointless shit with insecure people.
Also, stop labeling yourself as peculiar, just because you have poor social skills. You're just a coward who's too afraid to face a little rejection and failure here and there until you become better socially adjusted.
The vast majority of us are normal. Just because your interests are little obscure and you live like a dweller, that doesn't make you "special". You are all fools of the highest caliber.
I appreciate this thread, and all the content within. It's useful for those who essentially live on the internet, neglecting the real world. It's useful for those who have been warped into a cynical husk. I wish I could retool this for somewhere like r9k, but that board wears these issues as a badge of honor.
Believe it or not, some of these posts came from /r9k/. However, the way the collective mentality of that board runs itself into the ground, is a lost effort in an attempt to advise them towards improvement. You got it on point, they wear it like a badge of honor. Anyways, thanks for dropping your thoughts. Enjoy the thread.
This site has nothing to offer anybody. There is no quality content you cannot get more quickly and efficiently elsewhere. This is an addiction which reduces your productivity, attention span, and free-time. You are becoming more bitter, narrow-minded, haughty, and old. Leave now and block this site. There is nothing here but slow, lonely suicide.
People do not have arguments here. Posters do not engage one another on key points, they nitpick with greentext and mock each other. Nobody is interested in the truth; people are battling for fleeting moments of superiority. Active commenters are loud jackasses who tumble into one internet fight after another, anxiously keeping ten tabs open to ensure they keep the last word in all of them. An insightful post is one in ten thousand, and no matter how hard you filter this place you are still searching for diamonds in a garbage dump.
This place is not making you happy. You are not having fun. You are not gathering stories to tell, learning, or growing as a person. Instead you chuckle every thirty minutes and are occasionally spurred to masturbation by libidinal posts or pictures. You are addicted to readily available information and pressure free social interaction. This place is slowly poisoning you with misogyny, narcissism, a false dichotomy surrounding normalfags, and insecurity.
I'm not telling you to be yourself. I'm not telling you to go outside. I'm not even telling you to make friends. Just leave 4chan. Do anything else.
"You're here forever." 4chan is addictive, and many, if not the majority, of people who post here are deeply addicted. People can come up with justifications as to why 4chan is better than other internet communities, but no matter where you go you're basically reducing human interaction to internet comments.
It's like if I'm smoking ounces of weed a week and saying "at least I'm not a drunk." Don't try to justify what 4chan is, you're getting even less out of it if you do.
I'm a drunk. Does alcohol help me in some ways? Absolutely. Is it also a deleterious way of coping with life? Absolutely. Don't go out of your way to defend 4chan, it doesn't care about you.
Appreciate the thread and beautiful photos anon. I hope it doesn't disappear any time soon, more positivity in this dark place is very nice to see.
Reuben Tishkoff: The moment you become embarrassed of who you are, you lose yourself. I changed my house, the way I dressed, the way I ate - for what? For nothing.
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”
How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
The sticky is divided like so:
>Some tips to get your life back on track.
>Study and Career.
>To-do list habit.rpg (If you’re TOTALLY Lost. Start with this one)
>Focus and meditation
>Have a productivity Framework that is flexible. A mindset that gets you going.
>Use a calendar, like google calendar. Hours and shit for things YOU WILL DO.
>Learn to focus.
>Do routines for things you should do periodically/daily, this should cover daily things or weekly chores such as laundry, cleaning, shopping.
>Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself.
>Focus on identifying the time wasters in your life and eliminate them.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.
>This is a good ‘sticky’ for self-development
>This one is a good blog for resources of this kind. I’ve seen anons give good feedback.
As time goes, the /SIG/ has had a couple of books recommended. I’ve done my best to try to get talks of the authors of such books so you can get a ‘piece’ before you commit.
Google a bit about the book, if you think you can get something out of it, watch the talk.
In my opinion, try getting the books “for free”.
If you read it and get something out of it, consider paying for the book.
>Michael Mauboussin, "The Success Equation”
>Susan Cain, Quiet: The power of Introverts
>The Brain That Changes Itself, Norman Doidge
>Antifragile, Nassim Taleb
>One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way, Robert Maurer
>Mentally Tough, James E. Loehr & Peter J. McLaughlin
>Practicing the Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
Reading material needs to be added/edited
Some free books for you to grab
The Way of The Seal
The Code of the Warrior - Rick Fields
The Story of Civilization - Will Durant
The Story of Philosophy - WIll Durant
Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein 1959 (actually has a lot of really powerful character building stuff in there)
Bravo Two Zero - Andy McNab
Immediate Action - ^
Seven Troop - ^
Also, Project Gutenberg has Thousands of free books.
You could do lot worse than browsing their top 100
>Freedom is having control of your life
You should at least have 3 hobbies/activities.
-One that will pay the bills, gets food on your table
-One that will keep you in shape. (lower you faggot)
-One that you're passionate about and might be able to develop into a career.
If you're into lifting, taking the tips to better yourself should be simple; as you already have built some self-discipline.
Make peace with yourself and the way things are right now.
Stop thinking the world owes you, how destiny ‘fucked you over’, how those guys have it easier.
Accept things as they are, realize that life is cruel and your circumstances are the ones you were given. You can’t do shit about the starting point, but you can move forward.
Don’t focus in what was given to you, focus in what you’ll achieve.
Eliminate the things you dislike about yourself, about your life. Is as simple as, do you enjoy your job? No? Take steps to change the feeling.
How are you gonna make that? You either make your job more enjoyable, or you change jobs. Simple.
You want a girl? how do you plan to achieve that? Are you too socially inept? Work on that.
Are you piss poor and can’t afford a decent living? Work on that too.
No matter who you are, where you are in your life, or how fucked up you think you are.
You can improve your life. Take control. Move forward.
Dreams keeps us alive, fighting for them makes us feel alive.
About 5-7 years ago, I was a fucking train-wreck.
Right now, I'm doing fairly well.
Get some discipline, set some goals and a way to achieve them.
Cultivate yourself, learn stuff, get your shit together.
And realize, understand. None is coming to save you.
You got to make your way through.
You NEED to take CONTROL.
If you're still in School. For fuck sake pay attention.
MORE than half of actually doing good in school is attending, the other half is paying attention in class. So then do it.
Or stop it altogether.
If you’re in college and you’re not feeling it, take a semester to think things through.
If you’re in high school, don’t think YOU NEED to enter college to be successful. There are other ways…
Google just started hiring people who never went to college.
WATCH this talk:
Some learning resources, focusing in code since I’m an ‘IT’ guy:
First and foremost. Free language learning tool with a really robust app. THIS IS A MUST. Learning a new language will help you out no matter who you are.
Teaches you the basics, from the ground up.
Similar to codeacademy.
Personal favorite. This guy step by step, learns a shit-ton of programing languages. Give this a check and start watching something you’re interested in.
This one I really like, once you get your shit going, it puts you ‘objectives’ to solve through code, last batch are really complex.
It’s a really nice online-course platform. There are really good things here as well.
>openprocessing.org / processing.org / codepen.io
These sites display some really cool stuff, where you can also check the source code and modify it to see what happens.
As for career options.
Choose anything you want, If you want to go into Philosophy or Social studies, That's fucking great. As long as you’re passionate about it, you’ll find a way.
You can always become a teacher or a writer.
BUT BE FUCKING AWARE THAT YOU WILL HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING MONEY. Don't get a loan to study shit that will be expensive to repay.
Other than that, don't enter into something soulless just because 'I'll get money'.
You only got one fucking life, don’t waste it doing something you hate.
You must have a to-do list, it's pretty essential.
As for which, there are several options
Google Keep, Evernote or whatever suits you.
But currently I suggest you use:
There’s even a /fit/ guild created to keep us in check.
It’s certainly geeky as fuck. But Gamification has been proven to work when applied to certain aspects of human psyche. Helps you stay in check and keeping your eyes on the trophy.
Stupid trivial things I used to do, I stopped once I placed them as ‘Bad habits’.
It also has a mobile app, while it’s a bit limited and on construction, it is free.
There are three main categories.
>Habits. These are things you do by impulse, not under a schedule. Can be good or bad.
+Go for a jog
+Sleep early/on time Sun-Thu
+Walk the dog
+Go for a ride
+Cook something new
+Go out and socialize
+Spend time at the shelter
-Eat Junk/Dirty bulk
-Stay up late Sun-Thu
-Play 1.5+ Hours vidya a day
>Dailies are things you ALWAYS do. Every day or certain days of the week. Planned, they are only good.
+Lift (m - w - f)
+Eat your macros(daily)
+Buy Groceries (Sa)
+Read 30 min (daily)
+Practice the Guitar 30 Min(daily)
+Study Video Editing 40 Min (daily)
+Cook (We, Sa)
+Do your daily points in duolingo
>To-Do are, well, things you must do. You can have a checklist within one To-Do.
()Fix the shelf
()Go to the post office and send the package
()Buy the ticket to the concert
()Pay the landlord
()Organize my trip to the moon
—()Get the rocket tickets
—()Get the reservation for the moon Hostel
—()Buy some moonars to have some local money
—()Buy a map of moon city
Seeing the numbers go up (or health go down) is a weird sort of motivation. I can vouch for it. Give it a try, if you have no idea where to start, This is a good one.
Fill your bad habits, put the to-do’s and take it from there.
Meditation and focus is taking a Long fucking while. While I do meditate, It's not my strongpoint, so It doesn't come as easy.
Boils down to, meditation is really advisable in today's world of instant gratification.
It's important to listen to your own voice from time to time.
Mediation will help you focus on the long run, as you gain control of yourself.
Some (non-curated)resources I've been mentioned on the way:
If you have any recommendation, idea or something along the lines, Please reply to this post. I'll check them out.
As for Finance. That's also under construction.
But managing your own money is fucking important.
I'm just scratching the surface on it. I advice you check this:
And read the following advice from finacebrah
To get started, you obviously need to get an income sorted, now, there are 2 main ways to make money, work for somebody else, or earn money yourself.
Working for somebody else is self explanatory, you go out and get a job, busting your balls, normally for peanuts if you don't have a great career, and doing that day after day, year after year. Is this always a bad thing? No, most people start here in fact, it tends to be a good, at least consistent way to make money. People do it there whole lives, and that's up to them.
BUT SHIT FINANCEBRAH, I DON'T WANT TO BE BUSTING MY BALLS TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE A LOAD OF MONEY, I hear you say.
Earning money for yourself.
Again, there are two ways to do this. Firstly, is ACTIVELY earning it, creating a business, that you work at and it provides you with profit, and PASSIVELY earning it, meaning you put money you already have to work.
I can't possible cover off every single way to actively make money in 1 post, but if it interests you, look into it. You can start an online business while you already have a job, if you still want the security. You can start a side gig on the weekends, you can import and sell at markets or online.You can jack it all in, and start a physical business (please don't do that without serious thought) Actively earning money is one of the most rewarding things you can do, IMHO
>Low start up cost businesses/part time
There are hundreds of articles out there, have a look, see what you think, and do your research.
BUT SHIT FINANCEBRAH, NOW I'M EARNING ALL THIS MONEY, WHAT DO I DO WITH IT, SHOULD I BUY A FERRARI?
You save it, live within your means, don't go into high interest debt, keep expenses low, the more you save, the more you can put to work, and the more you can earn.
Passively earning money.
I like to call this putting your money to work for you, it's takes money you have saved, investing it, and getting a return on it.
I CAN MAKE MONEY WITHOUT WORKING FINANCEBRAH? ARE YOU FOR REAL.
Yes. This is how most people become wealthy, saving money, and getting a big return on it. How do you do that? Again, there are hundreds of ways. As a general rule, the higher the risk, the higher the reward. What you invest in depends on your investment strategy.
Read it and create one, it should tie in to your long term goals that you set and have written down.
Again, too many different kind of investments to cover in one post, here is a good overview of them.
This is the risk order:
I personally prefer Real estate, forex trading, and stocks. There is so much information out there, I can just encourage you to read and learn as much as possible. See what suits your life and where you live. And never stop learning.
FINANCEBRAHS RULES ON HOW TO BE FINANCIALLY SMART
>PAYING OFF HIGH INTEREST DEBT IS THE BEST FORM OF SAVING THERE IS, payday loans first,credit cards, ect.
>NEVER GO INTO DEBT TO BUY THINGS THAT DEPRECIATE, IF YOU CAN MANAGE IT
>LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS. THE BRAND NAME BAKED BEANS COME AFTER ALL THE HARD WORK
>AVOID ALL LATE PENALITIES ON DEBT
and finally, the most important one.
TRY AND SAVE SOMETHING EVERY PAY PERIOD. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF ITS $1, SET A GOAL OF HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO SAVE AND FUCKING HIT IT, PUT IT INTO AN ACCOUNT TO BE USED ONLY FOR INVESTING.
If you really are having trouble talking to girls, take the following steps:
avoid all pornography
avoid all advertising
avoid all television
avoid all modern music
avoid all modern film
avoid websites where women are depicted as godesses, and where men think have the "get laid", "virgins are losers" mindset that they got from television
All of these emasculate you and make the woman seem more than she is. Especially those Romantic Comedy films and SitComs that depict awkward men bumbling over their words trying to talk to The Perfect Woman.
get a religion with patriarchal values
think that exercising and taking protein shakes is going to make you The Alpha Male. The Alpha Male is another one of those spooks. Exercising is good, but if you are exercising with a view of attracting women you have already failed because you've taken women more seriously than you should.
Do not take women seriously. I've taken them more seriously than I should just by talking about them this much.
I started with a criminal record for petty narcotics pos and a 'computer tresspassing' record guaranteeing me unemployment almost everywhere except manual labor. I was also living in a SRO in the worst area you can ever imagine, had no money, huge debt and couldn't even finish university so washed out in the second year due to poverty. STEP 1 - GET A FUCKING JOB Any job will do. Some shitty manual labor position is great because then you also get some activity in so you aren't a fat bastard. Easy jobs to get are landscaping (usually pays under the table cash), construction clean up, warehouse, or whatever you can find on your local Craigslist 'gigs' section. Alternatively there's the dreaded nightshift tech support. Look around for these on CL, or move to somewhere in your country where the jobs are. In Canada this means terribad mining and oilfiend work but it pays like $40/hr and there's nothing else to do up there, perfect for studying. For me, I got a job at the post office and delivered mail, which meant I got off early and had lot's of time for school. Also consider institutions that will pay you to learn a trade, such as telephone companies and whatever else. STEP 2 - START SAVING MONEY Basic income budget rule is 70/20/10 70% of your money goes to rent, food, clothing, your essentials. 20% goes to short term savings, like buying a multi core box with 32G+ ram for compiling programs (we'll get to this later) 10% goes to long term savings, like hookers in Thailand, emergency savings if you're ever laid off, I dunno. To accomplish this I simply log into online banking after I'm paid and just move 30% of the money out of my account to savings like clockwork to prevent me blowing it on bullshit and impulse garbage.
STEP 3 - GET A CREDIT CARD BUT NEVER GO INTO DEBT Use this card for everything like groceries, gas whatever. Always, ALWAYS pay off the entire amount at the end of the month. This builds your credit to god like levels. You will need this later when you launch your own startup and need funding. STEP 4 - TAKE FREE ONLINE SCHOOL http://www.khanacademy.org/ - retake Grade 11/12 math and make sure you're solid in algorithms and precalculus. They're only a few minute long lectures that's all you need. Physics are also online. http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/#electrical-engineering-and-computer-science Take some of these courses, follow a plan like the one's laid out for regular students: http://www.eecs.mit.edu/academics-admissions/undergraduate-programs I took 6-3 and a few 6-2 courses, the one's I could do without needing physical access to a lab. You considerably shorten the time it takes to finish these courses from a regular student. I would get off work @ 2pm, make some food and stream a lecture while eating it. Afterwards I'd do the assigned work. Then I'd fuck around with whatever, and do another lecture. Then go hang out with my girl. I did this everyday M-Friday while working. Weekends I took off. Regular university they split up classes 2x a week or 3x a week, you're doing it 2x a day and will blast through it in less than a few weeks, forget entire semesters. IF YOU DO THE WORK/LABS ASSIGNED, YOU WON'T FORGET THE MATERIAL. Keep doing this and progress through the courses until you have basically given yourself an undergraduate degree in Eng/CompSci.
STEP 5 - BUILD A PORTFOLIO Now you have the knowledge, prove it to people. Start a security blog/status.net and write about whatever 0-day hacks you found in the Android source code. Write about game theory, contribute to the Tor project, or just contract yourself out to build websites for clients. In my case I would modify AOSP for security, build it with SEandroid and sold my own devices. This is where your multi core 32G+ Ram box comes in handy because building AOSP takes forever otherwise. I created ultra secure handsets and sold them on craigslist probably to drug dealers, but nevertheless no longer needed to do my old job anymore. STEP 6 - EITHER GET A $70k+ ENTRY JOB CODING WITH YOUR PORTFOLIO AND SKILLZ, OR START YOUR OWN COMPANY The problem with coding F/T for a startup is that they will overwork you to death to push out their release and often never pay any overtime or extra benefits. You also have to do fucking queer team bulding corporate society faggot tree. Possibly, MAYBE if the company is bought out you may see some share profits but unlikely. More likely they will buy the company, screw you and move the coding to India or Ireland or somewhere else leaving you unemployed. You'll also have to contribute serious time to some other guy's project so he can make millions. If you're going to work that much, be your own boss. If you want to startup your own company this is where your platinum credit rating comes in handy. Nobody will turn you down for funding. Startup any bullshit cloud application or anything to do with the medical/heath industry such as adapting CryptDB to a product that can be used for medical offices or other sensitive data. Build it up and shop it for a takeover, you will sell your company quickly.
STEP ???? - PROFIT Now you have money from your sold startup, saved money from all your work either bulding sites or whatever you decided to do, and a platinum credit rating. You're ready to bankroll your own startup something you can truly 100% own and build from scratch however you want. Maybe you want to bankroll an open source project and don't care about the money because you already have enough from selling your last company. Maybe you want to design and build your own handsets and the operating system that they come with (because the AOSP kernel is fucking ridiculously huge and full of bugs) Success!
FAQ: - But I must have a piece of paper from a recognized University! No coding or startup looking for partners gives a fuck about paper, they care about proof like portfolios and demonstrations. Moxie Marlinspike has zero post secondary and sold his mobile security project to Twitter for a shitload of money, and now even works for them on a contract basis. No paper. - I want to be a doctor can I do it online for free? Fuck no obviously. But you can take most of the required courses online for free then go apply directly into second year, once again showing them proof you know what you're doing through demonstration/auditing courses. - Can I get some sort of certs for all this? If you must, stanford university offers certs for their online courses. Can always pay for all those bullshit online security certs as well. The business I started for myself (after I sold the other one) is awesome and I hardly have to work since most of it is automated. I don't do any 'team building events', I don't have to worry about release dealines and dealing with slipshod coworker code, I don't have to answer to anybody (even my customers I don't have to answer to, my software is sold as-is and there's never been any problems, esp no security problems from all the proper coding I learned from 6-3 courses) and the way I've set it up I don't even have to offer customer support since I built it correctly the first time so any idiot can use it. No reason you can't do this too. Do you have 2 years to spare? Good 2go.
http://online.stanford.edu/courses They give you actual certs for completing some of them, like the crypto courses. Seriously fuck corporate school, fuck going into debt just to get a piece of paper and spend all your time boning sluts at the student union pub. You can do this by going to any regular bar
Coursera.org now has hundreds of free courses from Algorithms to Discrete Math. If you want to learn how to code properly take MIT 6.001 SICP course. It will take a few months but is well worth it. There's also codeacademy, udacity and many other free univ classes popping up. Just read a post on HN other day about a homeless guy who taught himself how to build apps http://nypost.com/2013/12/11/homeless-man-learns-to-code-releases-app/ Granted some guy helped him but coding is easy if you take SICP course. All materials are free for it. If you don't like coding do it anyways just to get easy income because thousands of jobs avail. Save your money and go to university to take whatever you want or do your art/music on the side. Nobody is going to help you, you can only help yourself.
Here is exactly what I did: First, math. Starting with Pre-Calculus a decent refresher on shit you forgot in highschool, or maybe haven't taken yet. It's easy. https://www.coursera.org/course/precalculus More math. We need to take Calculus 18.01 or any single variable calculus course so you learn about differential equations. You will use these to refine code you come across in the wild, the first thing I do is look for differential equations the orig software author didn't solve and solve them. Now I've just optimized the fuck out of the program. http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/mathematics/18-01-single-variable-calculus-fall-2006/ More math again! Now that we have a solid calculus background time to learn Math for Computer Science. It's easy, actually. http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/electrical-engineering-and-computer-science/6-042j-mathematics-for-computer-science-fall-2010/ You just need pre-calc to start, then can take any programming class at the same time as doing 18.01 or 6.042 Now let's learn to code. SICP, is the only choice here. Remember you are learning to code, language doesn't matter. Scheme has no syntax really and you spend the whole time learning about functional programming. You will need this course later for Scala, and it's the best course ever designed. Every sentence matters, every assignment is important so do everything.
http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/electrical-engineering-and-computer-science/6-001-structure-and-interpretation-of-computer-programs-spring-2005/ Those Sussman video lectures are awesome too. Now you have a real, solid fundamentals of computer science. So let's learn a language you will actually use IRL Scala complete functional programming course: https://www.coursera.org/course/progfun note how it lists SICP as a recommended prereq or to learn more about concepts taught in this course. Take the second Scala course https://www.coursera.org/course/reactive I also took 6.005 Elements of Software Construction for Android app building, with scala back ends. http://stellar.mit.edu/S/course/6/ all the lecture notes, reading materials, slides and tests are there for the 2013 class. Probably the best course that exists for "industry" programming though you've already done most of this course in SICP and Scala but lecture notes on version controls, debugging and GUI were awesome. Congrats you're now a software engineer and you paid $0.00 to get this education, so long as you completed all assignments (the more you code the better) and understood the material. You can get a jr. software dev position anywhere just show them your git or hg repository full of all the software you made for these classes, and shit you made on your own. Starting wages for a zero experience Scala dev is $70/hr
Lot's of new resources now. http://www.mysliderule.com/web-dev This is a sequence of courses put together to teach you modern web dev. It concentrates on theory and python/django instead of rails but you can easily learn ruby after you learn python. http://www.buildyourownlisp.com/ This teaches you C, and you make your own c-like Lisp. http://www.nand2tetris.org/ This teaches you modern computer architecture. It was developed by an IRL jew at an Israeli university because too many CS grads he met didn't know anything about computer arch. Prob one of the best courses I've taken, you just need to know some basic programming from any Comp 101 class or SICP book. http://commonsware.com/ For $45, you subscribe for a year to this Android book that teaches everything there is to know about Android. For Math, I've found the best books are one's done by Sheldon Axler (omg another jew!) both his PreCalculus Book and his book "Linear Algerbrae done right" are the best books I've ever read about math. There is a huge push right now to restructure Math classes in North America since we've never actually been taught math. You spend all of highschool learning pointless Trig calculations you never fully understand. His calculus book actually teaches you what real math is, same with the algebrae book. Of course you don't need math to program, but it helps.
Always be learning. You can go from zero to a $50k job in a few months if you commit yourself to learning software development online. This may take a large lifestyle change that means no more LoL, Youtube, chans, etc. For starters, see Codecademy and CS50.
"I have a problem...my best talent is writing (wining some contests included) and communicating with people, I've also worked as a successful commercial in the middle of a mental illness and I managed to close a contract every day (shit was thought nonetheless). These are my skills but I don't find any course that is related to them in the pages.
Do you know some page where I can find any free courses related to this? I don't trust corporated systems of teaching and I'm tired of begging money from my parents. Plz help an anon to form and be successful"
Writing the only resources I know about is to read all of George Orwell's advice https://www.mtholyoke.edu/acad/intrel/orwell46.htm note the 6 "rules for writers" at the end of that essay. Live by those and you should be fine. Christopher Hitchens also has a lot of workshops he filmed talking about writing for a living. His advice is "if you feel you NEED to write, instead of want to write, then you'll do OK".
here's how it goes for your resume: 1. Portfolio of finished projects: games, utilities, robots, web applications, whatever. 2. Your actual skills. 3. Education. 4. People skills and connections. School is important, but not the most important thing that will completely block you.
Buy silver when it is less than $19/oz. and sell when it is over $22/oz. Ideally, you want to buy silver when it's really low, I mean less than $12/oz. If you want to make money fast, look through your old change. If you are in the U.S., you can still find silver coins. Half dollars, quarter dollars and dimes dated 1964 and older contain 90% silver. Half dollars from 1965-1969 contain 40% silver, Nickels from 1942-1945 contain 35% silver and they will have the mint marks on the back. You should also start researching coins online, bookstore, public library or a coin store. Never go to a pawn shop to buy or sell, they will always try to rip you off. Some coins are actually worth more than face value, if you know what to look for. I suggest you look for some coin groups/forums online and join them for the free info. People in these groups like to link/share their finds and will help newcomers with tips, advice and some will be willing to trade (as long as you aren't a rude asshat, who is trying to rip them off to make a quick buck).
You should also try to develop some sort of relationship with your coinshop dealer and some of the other customers. Strike up a converstaion to see what they like to buy or collect, you may never know when you will have someone who wants to unload some stuff on you or if they want to buy what you have. If you do business with them enough times you might get discounts, special deals and they might even start to hold merchandise for you. Stay away from Craigslist, Pennysaver or newspaper ads, at least until you get more experiece and always meet in a very safe and public place. Set up to meet at your bank or at your local coinstore, that way there is less chance of getting robbed and once the deal is done, you deposit your money. You have no excuse not too -- you are already at the bank. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask away. I will check back in a bit.
It's a long term investment, you'd also need a large amount of money to buy an amount of silver or gold to make a decent profit that's worth your time.
I hear its value is controlled by the Rothschilds for profit as they hold the largest reserves in the world. All I know is in the past Silver has crashed, but I honestly don't know anything beyond that. I'm expecting if Google makes good on it's shitty promise to mine asteroids for precious metals the prices will all drop, but that's some years into the future to worry about.
What this person said. I bought 30 or so rounds of silver leading up to it's 50 something dollar price. It then tumbled and has settled at around the 20ish mark in the States. I lost quite a bit of money, because I had to sell it. If you ARE going to buy it, find out what the spot price is for that day. Most legit dealers I came across sold at 2 - 4 dollars about spot (ex: $21 spot for the day + dealer commission of 3$ = $23). Do you see the problem there? The price of silver doesn't change dramatically up 3 dollars in a day. Sometimes not even for months. To make a profit, the future price you sell it for has to account for that original dealer commission. So, my suggestion for you. If you can get it at spot price or less, then by all means. You'll make a few bucks here in a few months. Maybe enough to get you a decent meal, but that's about it.
There are a plethora of alternatives to coffee and tea for a morning drink.
Heat up some syrup.
Well you're kinda shooting yourself in the foot there by saying no to decaf
What about tea without caffeine? Ginger tea aids digestion and is naturally caffeine free. Tasty, too.
There are loads of 'teas' that are caffeine free like rooibos, or chrysanthemum, which don't taste like typical fruity herbal teas, if that's what you dislike about them.
Tough question. Why not try herbal teas? So many options, including fruit teas. Some people drink hot lemon water.
Also, you could sip blended veggie soups from a cup.
hot lemon drink
The other thing you posted before this was good, but this is shitty advice.
>If they friendzone you, stop talking to them at once
This is not how you conduct human relationships. This is not how you be the kind of person women, or anyone, wants to talk to for anything.
You made a new friend? You have a rapport with someone? Oh, they don't want to fuck you? STOP TALKING CUT THEM OUT NO VALUE
Like, that's fucked up and counter to any kind of human flourishing. You want a real connection to someone? Don't instrumentalize your relationship. Be with them, share your life with them and vice versa, for its own sake.
Friends, lovers, whatever.
>Don't doubt yourself, ever
NEVER GROW OR DEVELOP ACTUAL CONFIDENCE
>Never ask for permission
For starters, this assumes your will and the other person's will are incompatible or at odds. Real dialogues about what people want in mutually supportive relationships (sexual, not, whatever) develop actions and desires together. It's not about "permission." It's about figuring out what the both of you actually want together.
There's nothing wrong with the phrasing "I'm free tomorrow, let's hangout" or with "do you want to do something this weekend." What is wrong is doing either with an eye to have power over the other person.
These are just generally garbage, there's one or two okay things in there, but holy fucking shit, /fa/, just ignore these.
You develop meaningful, enjoyable relationships - sexual or not, "serious" or not - with people by actually relating to them. It's that simple.
Note "simple," not easy. You need to be emotionally aware, of yourself and others. You need to build a strong human core, because that's both where actual confidence comes from and what people with similar cores will be drawn to. (Read "On Self-Respect' by Joan Didion.) And you need to learn that life exceeds all kind of measure or control, and trying to dictate to it what happens is not how you actually get anywhere you want to be. Be present and respond to the world, situation, relation you're actually in.
Thanks anon, I like the discourse. It's always healthy to hold a light on different views so you can come to a real-world objective solution.
Alternatively, drink hot almond milk.
Hot water with a splash of lemon juice.
Very refreshing.Second rooibos, also recommend rosehip and wild berry.
like apple cider. Warm, fruity, easy to make at home or you can buy it in packets or already in liquid form in the fall.
Lemon and ginger
In the UK we have blackcurrent squash, you pour a tiny bit from the bottle in a glass and make the rest up with water and it's a refreshing fruit drink. Some people call it cordial I think?
Anyway, I know people who like making that mixture up of the blackcurrent squash and water however using boiling water instead of cold to have it as a hot drink. It's quite popular but I don't like black current so don't drink it.
There are so many fucking plants with so many different tastes that aren't bitter and taste fruity, or even savory.
You can also try a glass of warm honey (1-3 spoonfulls). Honey changes taste depending on the flowers bees use to make it. Depending on where you live you can get honey made from the pollen of wildflowers, cranberries, blueberries, sage, and even more. Check local farms or just order it online.
Also, fill a small milk pan with some water, add one sliced lemon and boil it for about 5 minutes until the lemon is really starting to infuse into the water. Then add three or so big tablespoons of honey, might need to taste it to make sure it's not too sweet or lemony bitter and get it right. Let it gently simmer for like 5 more minutes then pour some into a mug. It's really sweet and a bit bitter at the same time, I drink it when I have a bad cold.
Squash, any supermarket has a menagerie of flavors blackcurrant, orange, mixed fruits. They usually have lots of offers so getting a good selection doesn't cost too much.
Hot Coca Cola..
Good enough for Space people, good enough for you
costco had two gallons of mango juice on sale recently, it's very good to wake up to
Boil dried hibiscus flowers with added sugar for taste
What about Inka? it's a coffee replacement that is made from roasted barley.
Quite tasty, have it with some almond milk and sugar. That way you cut out the dairy too.
Green and black (yorkshire) teas aren't considered herbal because they're made from actual tea. Stuff soaked in hot water that's not tea (herbs, fruit, flowers) is considered herbal tea.
Chamomile is indeed herbal, though I dislike it myself. Are you sure you looked into herbal teas before writing them off? I also have an aversion to bitter, so I'll list some tips. They helped me acquire a taste for unsweetened teas.
Fruit blends: These tend to be a little tangier (sour) than expected so you may need some honey to even it out. Expect them to taste pretty much like heated juice. Come in lemon, cherry, wild berry, and others. They usually include hibiscus. There's also some...dessert? blends like "apple cinnamon" you may want to try.
Flowers: Chrysanthemum and rose tea. Rose is a little perfumey and can take getting used to while chrys is more standard. There are also rose blends with black tea so make sure you know which you're trying.
Red Rooibos and Honeybush. These two taste similar, with Honeybush being a little sweeter. Rooibos can be described as similar to black tea less/not bitter vaguely naturally sweet. It took me a while to get used to it since it tastes a little unique.
Mint. Mint was the one tea that I didn't feel the need to add sugar to when I started drinking it. It's not bitter at all, nor is it spicy like peppermint candy, even if it's peppermint tea. It's not sweet in the slightest; it's a very neutral and great flavor. May help wake you up in the morning.
Spice teas: Most common are Chai and Ginger. These aren't sweet at all and Chai actually is a black tea blend commonly cut with milk, though you can sub almond or soy. Almost like the hot cocoa of the tea world. Chai would be more bitter than ginger because of the tea, but ginger is a lot spicier. I'd avoid them for now, unless you're okay with adding a fair bit of sugar, which it seems you're avoiding.
Giving up dairy without a real medical reason is a sure fire way to tell you body to stop producing digestive enzymes for lactose. You'll 100% become intolerant to dairy. So, think about if you really need to eliminate whole food groups, and how in future you might wish you didn't get diarrhea from a few bites of cheese or ice cream. Hot mexican chocolate can be made into "drinking chocolate" with basic water, not necessarily with dairy.
Hot cider is delicious. Go ahead and experiment with cider from various apple varieties. Galaveau and honeycrisp are my favorites. You can add a simple teaspoon of mulling spices if you wish to simmer it awhile, or reheat an already mulled cider in the microwave. Even a couple minutes of steeping is enough to add some orange zest or cinnamon punch.
Also, you could sip blended veggie soups from a cup. The Lipton cup of soup in the "Creamy Chicken" variety is pretty yummy, even has a few croutons on top. You can certainly heat up some V8. For something economical, the big jars of Bouillon granules from Mexico come in flavors like chicken with lime, or chicken with tomato. It's got a little more punch than just salty broth. College Inn stocks have a thai stock flavor with lovely lemongrass and ginger.
This is also bad.
Right, because being sexually frustrated and out of touch with your own body is going to help you with anything.
>avoid all pornography
Generally porn gives you shitty, fucked up ideas and attitudes, so yeah.
>the rest of it
You're just not on the good stuff.
>and where men think have the "get laid", "virgins are losers" mindset that they got from television
>All of these emasculate you and make the woman seem more than she is. Especially those Romantic Comedy films and SitComs that depict awkward men bumbling over their words trying to talk to The Perfect Woman.
You're making the same mistake. It's not taking women seriously that's the mistake, you should take everyone exactly as seriously as they take their life, the mistake here is the same instrumentalized, objectified view of people in general. Yourself, women, everyone.
>The Alpha Male is another one of those spooks.
This is actually really true. But so is the idea of "emasculation," or of "women," or any of that.
Hot apple cider
Microwaved Baileys Irish crème with some sugar in it
Ferment juice with a bit of yeast until it starts to taste a little sour and gets bubbly, not too long or it’ll start to produce more alcohol. Warm it up, drink it, that’s it.
Warmed up Dr. Pepper
Cold mate made with lemonade or OJ
Hot apple cider is the best hot drink that’s not any of those things.
But why not mint tea? It’s delicious, you can add honey, and it’s good for digestion.
Nestle Abuelita Authentic Mexican Chocolate Drink Mix
If you want to warm up, heat some red wine with cinnamon, an orange slice and some black pepper.
Hot Tang with nutmeg
Some atole. It’s the cornmeal drink. Blue corn with a little bit of honey is good in the morning.
"Nerd culture is the product of a late capitalist conspiracy, designed to infantilize the consumer as a means of a non-aggressive control." _Simon Pegg
"I don’t think they are making [comic book movies] an elevated art form, I think it’s still just Batman running around in a stupid cape. I just don’t think it’s elevated. Christopher Nolan’s best movie is Memento, and that is an interesting movie. I don’t think his Batman movies are half as interesting, though they’re 20 million times the expense. A superhero movie, by definition, you know, it’s comic book. It’s for kids; it’s adolescent in its core. That has always been its appeal, and I think people who are saying, you know, Dark Knight Rises is supreme cinema art, I don’t think they know what the fuck they’re talking about." _David Cronenberg
"I don’t see a lot of current films, but that’s just me. Obviously the public loves the American films that are being made…I’m interested in people that contain within themselves parts of good and evil. I don’t want to see or make films about super heroes that fly around in spandex and a cape solving the problems of the world. I just don’t believe that exists. I think it’s fine for children, children of all ages by the way, but it’s not for me." _William Friedkin
"They have been poison, this cultural genocide,” he added. "Because the audience is so overexposed to plot and explosions and shit that doesn’t mean nothing about the experience of being human." _Alejandro González Iñárritu
"Superman makes me vomit, Batman and all of that. That whole empire…this religion…It is so important that superheroes suffer…I don’t give a damn, I shit on the United States." _Alejandro Jodorowsky
Now we’re essentially all consuming very childish things - comic books, superheroes… Adults are watching this stuff, and taking it seriously! It is a kind of dumbing down in a way. It’s taking our focus away from real-world issues. Films used to be about challenging, emotional journeys or moral questions that might make you walk away and re-evaluate how you felt about…whatever. Now we’re walking out of the cinema really not thinking about anything other than the fact that the Hulk just had a fight with a robot.
“A sweet-faced boy of 12 told me proudly that he had seen Star Wars over a hundred times. I said, ‘do you think you could promise never to see Star Wars again?’ He burst into tears. I just hope the lad, now in his thirties, is not living in a fantasy world of secondhand, childish banalities” _Alec Guiness
“To my mind, this embracing of what were unambiguously children’s characters at their mid-20th century inception seems to indicate a retreat from the admittedly overwhelming complexities of modern existence” _Alan Moore
>old thread from /r9k/
I’m 40 and my daughter is 18. She cheats on her boyfriend with 3 guys. I find out. I call her a fucking whore and tell her to get out of my house and I won't give a dirty slut a place to live. I give her $100 and tell her to get a fucking motel and the rest is up to her.
Fuck. Where did I go wrong? I always taught her to be faithful and not to be a fucking slut. Yet she cheated on her boyfriend with 3 different men. What the fuck? What a little slut. I’m going to disown her. I can't support a slut. She is no longer getting help to go through college. Fuck. I feel so disgusted with myself; she's just like her whore of a mother who I divorced. She can go live with her slut of a mother, I thought raising her myself would change her but I guess not. Her mother is an addict and a slut. She can go with live with her. I don't even care any more.
(In response to that…)
Yet you would have no problem fucking 3 girls at once?
You're the piece of shit man. That’s your daughter. I mean holy shit.
People take this shit WAY too seriously. It is sex, skin on skin. It feels fucking good and it’s the reason you are even breathing.
All you are saying is: "But its wrong for girls to do it" which doesn’t make sense at all.
(Later, someone responds to the poster above…)
“People take this shit WAY too seriously.”
“It is sex, skin on skin.”
You underestimate how big of a responsibility sex is, especially at a young age where neither party is prepared mentally, emotionally and definitely and not financially to deal with the repercussions of a mishap should anything go wrong (which is frequent enough for it to be a problem).
Not to mention the fact that there is a moral issue with the entire scenario in the way that, presumably, a committed and expectant party in the form of her "boyfriend" (did you forget about this part, you fucking scag?) was cheated on. By her. With three other men.
“It feels fucking good and it’s the reason you are even breathing.”
“It feels GOOD though!" is not a justification for people to behave like senseless fucking animals and get their jollies off at any cost or the cost of others. Pull your delusional head out of your gloomy fucking asshole, you scumbag hedonist. We are people living in a society where the idea of civility should at the very LEAST be feigned as a common courtesy, not chimps in the wild that fuck anything alive or dead just cause it "Feels GREAT man!" She IS a slut, and it IS serious because sex is a responsibility dealing with issues of morality, commitment, deception and the raising of a child. I definitely would not want to learn that I was the product of a three-man orgy because my dumb slut of a mother has shitty values and didn't conceive me with a father to look after me and be my role model.
At least you got ONE thing through your thick fucking skull. That kids happen when you fuck. And that's why it's a bad idea to fuck a slew of guys on the side of your chump boyfriend who's there none the wiser thinking you're his respectable, committed girlfriend.
Go fuck yourself, seriously.
Dale Carnegie books tend to be well-rated, though perhaps a little over-relied upon these days.
What are you seeking to improve? I've found over the years that self-improvement is more about doing and less about reading, but that's kinda because I'm an emotionless robot. Of course, educating yourself is never a bad thing.
Some stuff I've found particularly helpful:
- For fitness, Starting Strength is a phenomenal read, but DO NOT RELY ON IT EXCLUSIVELY.
- For general scientific knowledge, I like to buy used college textbooks and read them. Highly recommended if you can deal with the price/poor quality.
- For general menswear knowledge, tailoring books are kinda cool, though of limited value.
- Documentaries, while not strictly a book, are a good way to gain broad knowledge when you're working out/etc.
The High-Conflict Couple by Alan E. Fruzzetti is the best relationship advice book I've come across. It's designed to go along with DBT, a therapy system for people with borderline personality disorder but the lessons can help improve any relationship, romantic or otherwise.
I dunno if it makes me uncool to admit or whatever, but I read The 4 Hour Body back in January which sure made me a better person. have since gone from a pants size 32 to 29, had visible muscles for the first time in my life, got some motivation to pick up my old language studies... give it a shot!
Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante Gunaratana is another great read
Antifragile is a good book
so is Zero to One
And this is another must read: Life Is What You Make It by Peter Buffett
For books on happiness:
The Importance of Living by Lin Yutang
The Book by Alan Watts
Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman
Any book by the Dalai Lama
Any book by Leo Buscaglia
The Teachings of Buddha
Emotional Intelligence 2.0
Walden by Henry David Thoreau
For political literature (#'s 1-5 are all Hitchens)
For the Sake of Argument
Love, Poverty, and War
The Soul of Man Under Socialism by Oscar Wilde
Well Kafka was a surrealist. You might like The Brief and Frightening Reign of Phil by George Saunders, that was quite strange on the surface. If on a winter's night a traveler was also pretty trippy. I think Pynchon is pretty trippy as well but he's not for everyone.
Cannery Row by John Steinbeck
Jimbo in Purgatory by Gary Panter
Les Chants de Maldoror by ol' boy Lautréamont
The Cube leaned down and kiss the Square, the kiss felt empty and light, he could find the extra dimension he was looking for in her.
Nadja by André Breton
House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski
check out After man, The new dinosaurs and for the most odd imagery Man After Man.
Valerie and Her Week of Wonders is a pretty good read but the film is more popular.
Pretty much everything from Twisted Spoon Press
Calvino, more recent Eco, Burroughs, Richard Brautigan, Borges, Pynchon, Robert Anton Wilson...
The Book of the New Sun
Anything by Gene Wolfe or Kafka.
Calvino writes fables, heavily allegorical stories, for adults, Symbolism =/= surrealism.
The Third Policeman
I'm an English major (I'll wait for the laughter to die down). I know how much you guys make fun of English majors, but I'm wondering who here actually is one. I've been going through a (probably typical) crisis, realizing that my career plans (teaching) are probably not as feasible as I thought.
I’m just looking for advice and/or stories. How many of you are or were English majors? What are your plans? What did you do, what should I do?
Before you simply say "change to a STEM major," I'll say that English is the only field I'm interested enough in to work in -- hell, it's nearly the only reason I get out of bed in the morning.
(Another question: Are there any of you who planned on teaching but ended up successfully getting into something else?
If you are still in university, become a tutor. Tutor in English.
Any tips for people with legitmate diagnosed mental illnesses? I'm on 20mg prozac daily for my depression and social anxiety and its definetly helped what else can I do to boost it
Go to an archive site that auto saves threads from /fa/ (like warosu)
Save a post number from this thread
Search for it on the site
Bookmark the thread
And you're set
With a BA you can get teaching credentials and be certified to teach ESL. While gaining these skills you keep tutoring, which will pay above minimum wage. With that you should be fine. You'll be paid above minimum wage, you'll have vacation, and you can teach abroad.
You can also take the GRE's whenever and go back to graduate school. You don't have to, obviously, but you have that option. I think you are taking a very vocal minority on a Chinese cartoon image board too seriously. You have it far better than quite a lot of other people.
English majors don't get jobs based on their degree. I wouldn't be thinking about the career paths you're embarking on. You should be concentrating on learning as much as you can and then going into writing. Or just go up the ladder, get a PhD and get a cushy professorship.
It's a difficult degree to work with, so you've got to be determined to set yourself apart from the crowd. I'm about to finish an undergraduate English degree, and I have tried to give myself a few potential options for the next few years.
Currently, I'm waiting to hear back for an internship from Penguin, so if that works out I'll see how long I can stay in a corporate position. After that, I'm planning on graduate work and eventually moving towards academia (an unwise decision, as anybody will tell you, but I'm pretty set on it).
If you're planning on grad work, there are a few things you should try to do as an undergraduate.
1. As other people mentioned, develop strong relationships with faculty, particularly those who may be well-published or renowned in their field. These will be your referees/potential connections to graduate programs.
2. Develop reading-level skills in one or two languages. Most graduate programs are going to seek candidates who don't have to put too much time into securing language proficiency before their exams.
3. Conduct interdisciplinary studies. Don't just do English work (even if you do it very well); show that you are working on the boundaries of multiple disciplines. Graduate research is increasingly relying on various academic departments. Think Computer Science, Anthropology, Linguistics, Psychology, Art History/Cinema Studies. This doesn't require you to undertake a dual major--asking professors if they could be assisted with research is suitable, or even forming an independent study.
4. Do shit with your honor society. They can e a lot more than just a fancy couple of Greek letters on a resume. I was funded by mine for a semester at Oxford University, and I have the chance to present at its international convention next week.
5. On that note, conference work is helpful. Nothing prestigious (they're not expecting anybody to be a Keynote at a Shakespearean Conference or something), but some experience with undergraduate literature conferences can be really helpful, plus it may allow you to network with other scholars.
6. Nail the hell out of the GRE Subject Test. Top tier unis look for 165+.
Hope this has been useful to you, or to anybody else who is in the process of applying for graduate work. I'll be doing it at the end of this year (taking a gap year).
LIFE AFFIRMING READINGS
What should I read to fill my heart with love, optimism and wisdom?
Tao Te Ching
In Praise of Older Women: the amorous recollections of András Vajda by Stephen Vizinczey
(it’s about an overly confident teenager having amazing mature relationships with older women)
The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera
Gospel of John
.. But John is esoteric. Don't you mean Luke?
Except it's not. The New Testament is the only piece of literature that really makes me optimistic. Everything else fails.
Matthew > Mark > Luke > John
Mark> Matthew > Luke > John
Hate to be a hipster but the chronological order is best here.
surprisingly (actually not) epistles are more racial tolerant than gospels
the equality of all the races for the god wasn't the words of jesus who treated jews as the best race but of pavel
Siddhartha or some of the Redwall books.
i mean paul
what a weird transcription, almost as bad as jesus for the name which never sounded even nearly as jesus
Voltaires's Candide, ou L'optimisme. It even had optimism right in the title.
oh, sorry, i'm so annoyed today when people ask me sources which they already know
i mostly meant this https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Mark+7:25-30&version=ESV
and this https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians+3%3A11&version=ESV
also i didn't want to undermine your belief, it can have multiple explanations
Doing great things will be forever > Reading great things
Go out and live.
Love is found from other people.
anything by Miyamoto Musashi
Kant and Schopenhauer
Whatever stoicism books you can find.
Seneca, Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, etc
On the Heights of Despair
don't let the title or first hundred pages throw you off
let me tell you a story my grandfather told me,
Its about a pharaoh.See the pharaoh was quite a rich and powerful one, so one day he goes out to buy himself a ring from the greatest jeweler in all of egypt. The pharaoh goes to the jeweler, and makes a request for "a ring that will make me happy when I am sad, and sad when I am happy".The jeweler cannot obviously refuse the pharaoh, but he has no idea how he can make such a ring. He ponders over it for a minute or two, and he finally agrees to the pharaoh's request. Days go by, the jeweler is finally done crafting the ring, and the pharaoh arrives to collect it. When the pharaoh comes the jeweler is nervous. He feels that his ring might not appease his king, but hands it to him anyway. When he does a great smile comes across the pharaohs face as he reads the inscription on the ring
"and this too shall pass"
Watch paul thomas anderson movies. pre-there will be blood. If you recognize that all characters in the master were written sympathetically and with love, then maybe that too. Maybe even there will be blood, it helped me let go of hate and rivalry and the need for competition and other such things holding me back.
Read Spinoza's Ethics. It's life affirming as hell if you can understand it
“I am utterly amazed, utterly enchanted! I have a precursor, and what a precursor! I hardly knew Spinoza: that I should have turned to him just now, was inspired by “instinct.” Not only is his overtendency like mine—namely to make all knowledge the most powerful affect—but in five main points of his doctrine I recognize myself; this most unusual and loneliest thinker is closest to me precisely in these matters: he denies the freedom of the will, teleology, the moral world-order, the unegoistic, and evil. Even though the divergencies are admittedly tremendous, they are due more to the difference in time, culture, and science. In summa: my lonesomeness, which, as on very high mountains, often made it hard for me to breathe and make my blood rush out, is now at least a twosomeness. Strange! Incidentally, I am not at all as well as I had hoped. Exceptional weather here too! Eternal change of atmospheric conditions!—that will yet drive me out of Europe! I must have clear skies for months, else I get nowhere. Already six severe attacks of two or three days each!! — With affectionate love, Your friend”
– Friedrich Nietzsche, in a postcard to Franz Overbeck, Sils-Maria, July 30, 1881
^Reading rigid rules
I don’t know about that.
Nah, you've got the wrong idea. Spinoza’s system is rigid in its metaphysics, but his ethics sits as a guide to achieving joy that's certainly not as set in stone as you make it seem. Even if you don't read the geometric proof parts, the parts at the end of each section are gold.
The Hearing Trumpet by Leonora Carrington
(Exactly what you are looking for, I promise!)
Leonora Carrington is neat as neat can be; I'm glad she appeals to you - I'm taking that as a good sign. So another great (and relatively unknown) book that cannot fail to fill your heart with love and optimism is Jaime de Angulo's "Indian Tales." I won't say much about it other than, "Please, please buy it." Again, you won't regret this one either.
There's another one I'm thinking you might like, but it's not quite as top-shelf as de Angulo and Carrington. It's called "A Book of Surrealist Games." A long lost friend and I once found a copy at BookBuyers. Anyway, I think it's semi-commonplace now, 'cause it was reprinted five or ten years ago. I don't know, I found it fun.
The Man Who Planted Trees, by Jean Giono (1953). Hell, just watch the incredible animated adaptation:
It's fiction/allegory, but it's one of the truly inspiring works I know.
The Collected Rumi. Nothing comes close.
The Importance of Living by Lin Yutang
The answer is a who, not a what.
Ralph Waldo "everyone's wise-old grandfather" Emerson.
For those who haven't touched him since high school, I suggest you just start reading ANY of his essays.
I cannot however recommend his poetry, but I'm not a poetry expert.
If you would prefer more stringent instruction, I recommend you start with "Friendship".
if it were a kind of romantic love then wisdom would be embracing the transitory nature of love
on the other hand if it were a kind of metaphysical love, a kind of unconscious magnetism of sorts, then that is pretty much "knowing thyself" in which case read some existentialism, eastern philosophy and the pre socratics
read osho, alan watts, krishnamurti, nietzsche, freud, joseph campbell
a part of love, optimism and wisdom is facing the reality of the world, and that can be pretty shattering for your ego sometimes
East of Eden by John Steinbeck. Not entirely uplifting, but it is optimistic. Just like the Old Man and The Sea by Ernest Hemingway.
Gentlemen, this is our fight. Let’s be men about it. Let’s do what it takes. Let’s walk through the fire, even though we know it will burn. The cravings will come. There is no way around it. But the more the cravings come, the weaker they get. The more we endure, the more we control. We all have it within us to control our destiny. Don’t let the beast control yours. Addiction is all in your head, but not in your soul.
On Bullshit (1986) by philosopher Harry G. Frankfurt
Discourses by Machiavelli
COMPETITION LITERATURE AND WRITERS
Cato the Younger
robert Greene's boks
Sun and Steel
Kant's Critique of Pure Reason
The 4 Hour Workbook: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (2007) is a self help book by Timothy Ferriss
Early Retirement Extreme by Jacob Lund Fisker
This is one of the best for starters. It is very simple and direct: the author is more concerned in actually making the reader form a meditation habit and stick to it thorough his life than of showing of some esoteric knowledge of the thing:
The same author has written this other book, which is also great (is more detailed):
But this one book…this is perhaps the greatest of all. Read the introduction in the Amazon preview. Read just the first tree pages: it is enough for you to see how great this book is:
Mindfulness in plain english is a free ebook because material gains are meaningless
Are you familiar with Dr. Leary's map of consciousness?
If not your comment is understandable, if so- you need to "drop out" more.
So you haven't read his map?
You should, without the bias of thinking LSD addles your brain- protip: it does, yet not in a "permament" manner.
The government tried everything they could during MK Ultra, and while LSD had potential- not in the reprogramming sense, more in the metaprogramming sense.
I'll break down 8 circuit consciousness briefly, and poorly- your brain is a physical computer with the mind being the operating system. It goes through 8 "circuits" advancing in complexity- the first being bio-survival. Either something helps the organism or harms it, this is the first "binary" decision the organism can make.
Insert 25cents to continue.
Nor do I, attempts can be made- but the maps are only as good as what the cartographer has seen of the territory, I digress.
So, bio-survival right?
The original map says this circuit is activated in the womb, that floating consciousness- that warmth which can hardly be described. To activate it chemically easily- morphine. There is always a chemical map so you can understand the lingistic map.
Next is the emotional territorial circuit. This is the circuit of dominance and submission. It's imprinted during the toddler stage when the little person starts to make demands to see what they get away with. Alcohol works here.
This is your basic alpha pack mentality- are you imprinted to be more assertive?
Now Dr. Leary figured most people were stuck up on these two levels.
The third is mental dexterity. This gets imprinted during language development- it relates how well you deal with symbolism, how you analyze and interpret it. This is where we get our maps. It adds the dimension of time, ie compounding knowledge.
Try some caffine, or other legal stimulants.
I'm getting lazyyyy and don't think I'm getting the progession as smooth as I could
So the fourth circuit is the social sexual circuit. IE what culture says and what empathy is. It's about working in social networks, balancing whats good for the individual vs the needs of the tribe.
Empathogens for the win, Leary never suggested MDMA or Cacti- but they seem to be some of the best bets.
Dr. Leary suggested the first four cicruits were geared for life on a terrestial planet (we go from single cell potential to tribes and larger societies,) and that the second four circuits were geared towards life in space.
IE this is where evolution is naturally headed.
But, through particular chemicals these "higher" circuits are activated.
Still with me thus far?
The fifth circuit is neurosomatic. Were talking about bliss: pure, unadulterated bliss. Euclidian geometry goes out the window, this is consciousness of the body- of sensory rapture. Hedonistic turn on.
It "resets" the first four circuits.
Cannabis, zen meditation, and tantra.
It's thought this will become active during zero gravity states.
The neuroelectric or metaprogramming is sixth, or seventh. Several sources have compounded upon the theory with Dr. Leary's graces...
Anyways, it has to do with reimprinting the other circuits. How "reality" is relative, it is the nervous system becoming aware of itself and thus begans seeking an optimum state. Leary thinks this enables telepathy.
Low doses of LSD, peyote, or mushrooms to activate.
Neurogenetic- circuit seven.
DNA RNA interaction. Genetic memories. Jung's unconscious.
Basically knowing dna, knowing your place in its evolution. There's a reason why six and seven can be, and are, switched.
Same drugs yo. Plus meditation, nom.
Ah, circuit eight. The psychoatomic.
Becoming aware of atoms, of the subatomic quantum level. Non-localized awareness. Thd Buddhist concept of Indra's net. Alot of this one is about potential- you see infinity before it arises.
DMT, 1000 plus ug lsd, ketamine.
Damn, I wish I could try some Vitamin K.
Prometheus Rising is a great book. So is Angel Tech: A Modern Shaman's guide to reality selection.
Deoxy is a good website.
The higher circuits have to be experienced to be understood- so I suggest a mind body practice if you're unwilling to try the chemical route. Tantra or meditation, or both. Yoga is fucking great.
SPIRIT ENLIGHTENMENT LITERATURE
The saddest thing is how the public no longer understands that the Bible and other religious texts are symbolic, not literal.
Once you accept that the Bible may or may not be true, but that it is certainly a book of stories, it opens up an entire new worldview of acceptance and personal tranformation through religious practice.
The Snow Leopard by Peter Matthiesen
The Ego and Its own
The Phenomenology of Spirit by Hegel
I recommend libertarian atheist literature if you want the red pill. Read Stefan Molyneux.
"Against the Gods?: A Concise Guide to Atheism and Agnosticism" by Stefan Molyneux
Probably Chuang Tzu. Doubles as great poetry, too.
The Lotus Sutra
Dialogues – Platon
Georges Bataille - Inner Experience
Dante's Divine Comedy had a big impact on me. I read it when I was like 15 and didn't understand nearly anything, but it was definitely enlightening.
the Art of War
Eroticism by Georges Bataille
Kusamakura by Natsume Soseki
Siddhartha, The Myth of Sisyphus
Zuang Zui, Don Quixote, the Inferno, Ecclesiastes, and for personal reasons that are tough to explain over an image board, Plato's Republic.
Hagakure: The Book of the Samurai by Yamamoto Tsunetomo
Soulcraft by Plotkin
New Self New World by Phil Sheppard
Rumi: Selected Poems
The Phenomenology and Philosophy of History
Be careful how you tread and explore the uncharted territories of the esoteric world. That’s how you approach this subject.
religion is not ideology: a marketplace of cheap statements where you pick and choose whatever's cool at the moment
if you have a few years on your back you already have a few things worth living for and a few things you love. You've already seen a few things and have a few opinions. Go from there and find what already suits you - yourself. Someone else can not tell you that.
Search for meaning in life is not just a phase and can not be 'dealt with' by throwing a few philosophies at it, maybe add some yoga in the mix, stir, and ready is your soup of fulfillment. It's a common mistake here.
Study the philosophies, I like Socrates.
Study the religions. I like Taoism/Buddhism
Study the mystics. Gnostic material is good
Study the occult. The Kybalion is good.
If none of this satisfies then I'm sorry you'll have to read Zen from the Bodhidharma lineage. This is not a philosophy, a religion, a mystical teaching or an occult practice. There is nothing to accept and you will find that your only purpose is studying more Zen.
What a waste of time that would be.
Read the myth a Sisyphus, and maybe some other related work.
Sufi metaphysics really fit in proper, I'd suggest you to read Ibn Arabi, I like reading Spinoza alongside it, and they’re very similar
accept yourself. let this be your meaning and purpose.
trying to throw yourself into a doctrine that you've little cultural relation to and no traditional and ritual knowledge of in your formative years can work out for you but for many it's just a quick-fix that disillusioned secular society people out of desperation. and because they throw themselves into it and make a goal of it they never attain what they're after.
don't make goals in matters like these.
just stay interested in everything for the time being. there's no need to rush into something.
Find a Tariqa
or become a neo-platonist
It is always up to you to find your purpose. Finding it in some ancient theism is finding someone else's idea of purpose, and often a lie or partial lie.
Nihilism is the truth, it gets a bad rap, because it's nothingness. (How very zen) I will always recommend Epicurus, but Stirner if you're weak willed and need that boost.
"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function." So welcome dissonance, but don’t overdose on it.
Koans is a meditation technique to train your brain to stop worrying. You're not supposed to focus on answering the riddle but the feeling the riddle gives. A sort of emptying of the mind. Buddhism and arguably, all religion, are about training the mind. Hell, a famous Buddhist monk once said there's no difference between enlightenment and heroin.
Buddhism is intellectual. It gives you answers on why you want meaning and purpose, why you crave it. If you just want meaning and purpose, you can that on your own. Most people find it in family. The purpose is to stop wallowing in samsara.
Read the Bhagavad Gita. Also, The Power of Now. Yes, it is a bit new-agey, but the general principle is a spot on way to be happier and feel more meaningful.
All religion is about focuses on training the mind. If you want to find "meaning and purpose" and empathy in Buddhism, then just look at Mahayana. People there use a meditative practice where they train themselves to love all life so they don't eat meat and won't harm a single ant.
If you want Animism
Soulcraft by Bill Plotkin is a good intro
Practical Existentialism: all you need to know or understand is that there's no reason or purpose for us to be here.
In that you're liberated to do anything you can conceive of.
Personally I think the greatest thing we can do as a species is get off this rock and populate others.
I may not live to do so but if I live my life in a way that furthers this goal I think I can exist happily.
The thing people miss in the search for meaning is that personal satisfaction or achievement means little after you're gone, it's making way for those that come that matter.
If you ask me.
Late Heidegger did it for me. "The death of God and the meaning of life" by Julian Young is a good introduction if you're new to existentialism.
Schoppy. He has a beautiful well rounded system and treats everything. It's also both edgy and anti-edgy in a way that will cater to all your posturing cravings.
Slavic and Dacian paganism
Almost hitting the image limit. After that it will be the end here. Look out for /x/ and /out/, those will be the boards I will perform an image dump on during this month.
It's quite simple. The Beatles would have been another irrelevant 60's pop rock, boy band for eternity if it wasn't for the intervention of drugs from Bob Dylan and other musicians that had influenced their music. The changing of culture from the 60's to 70's was all about going from mainstream consumerist conservatism, to the rebellious liberal reaction of the 70's. For them it then was about separating from what the producers wanted and finding their own sound. Thankfully, the drugs came into their music at the right time: at the height of their boy band success. If it had come too soon, their juvenile fan base would throw them out for another corporate produced boy band. If it had came too late, it would be an embarrassing story of an amateur boy band who became washed out hacks and then resorted to psychedelics for attention and inspiration.
It wasn't until Yoko came along and became the splitting force of the group. Each of them became too individualistic, and couldn't hold each other together as the unified corporate boy band they once were. Their final works, Don't Let Me Down / Get Back, was a testimonial sound to their already weakened relationship as a united group. The sounds were reminiscent of the American hard rock scene, with heavy blues influence and rough aesthetics. The only thing that kept the Beatles alive for so long was someone along the way, came at the right time, and injected their own sense of persona to strengthen the group. Many others besides Bob Dylan did this, too many to list. And of course, Yoko was the end of them. The Beatles are nothing more than overrated charlatans who have always been the key adoration of the music industry, as being the only successful boy band to "come up with their own sound". An over glorified band that surprisingly had the right amount of marketing and sheer luck to not only be the flavor of the month, but also turn into the flavor of the decades, and float by through many well deserving artists that never got their payday, without actually contributing anything valuable to music itself as an art form. Their lyrics are unimaginative and completely broken into a rut, constantly repeated until they could no longer succeed. The hacks themselves realized they couldn't go on fooling the world that they had talent; it was surely the end for a satire to the music world. People who regard them as an actual vitality to the genre of rock, well of course that is nothing short of a sick farce and an illusory lie to the overwhelming hyped up fanatics of plebeian underage cockfucks who deem them to be the greatest band of all time.
I apologize to all the mods of /fa/ if this may have been a bit off topic. But then again, with all the shitposting going on, I think some quality discussion and advice goes a long way. And look! Room inspo, for half of the thread. Pls no ban admin-sama ;_;
AND WE'RE DONE! What a pleasure it has been to post all this helpful info, which I'm sure will do justice to those in need of it. I want to thank the janitors and mods for being slightly more permissible than usual for posting slightly off topic content. Be on the look out for dumps on other boards such as /out/ and /x/. Happy New Years to you /fa/.
>avoid all television
>avoid all modern music
>avoid all modern film
this is the lifeblood of the basic girl. if you're cutting yourself off of all these you'll have an even tougher time tbqh
I think the key is using drugs responsibly. Like, instead of getting that euphoria from drugs, ONLY get it from exercise and success. But psychedelics and other drugs like benzos are crucial if you use them to learn. Such as spiritual trips, weed for creativity but no reliance, and Xanax for anxiety but not reliance. A band aid slash "let's see how I act on it so I can emulate it sober"
Yea it would be crazy to use this as a rulebook, but I think it's more meant for people who need to know some first steps to get started and then allow themselves to become more comfortable in those situations and from there understand that its not really as bad as it seems.
Well put but, i'm just imagining someone thinking these rules are the solutions to insecurity and anxiety and picturing the worst of it. Hard to tell if it would do any damage but I have seen people I know (and myself at one point) crash and burn attempting to apply philosophies to socialising like they can 'solve' it.
OP here again! I am so glad to see all the positive feedback for the two threads I made. I realized that I left in a hurry without giving a proper rundown of how to approach all this information.
Understand that you will probably return to this information again in the future, which means you will need to save these threads. To do so there are several ways.
1) Google an auto-archival website that exists for 4chan. Find one that saves /fa/. The one I use is warosu.org
2) In post number search, type any post number in this thread and hit search. You will find this thread immediately.
3) Click to enlarge all the images at a visible size.
4) Save as a PDF file to keep in your storage or bookmark the webpage.
And you're done!
I strongly recommend you save it as a PDF file because you never know when an archive site could die out at any moment. Look at what happened to archive.moe
Now, as for all the information presented to you in the two threads, remember to take it all in with measure. Don't go out trying to build the Great Wall in a week. You will probably overload yourself and go back to shitposting, while keeping this in some folder as you tell yourself "I'll read it tomorrow".
Find one activity to self-improve on and work it into your routine. Add on as slowly as you ease into a lifestyle change. Now, in all honesty, you don't need any of this. The only true advice I can offer to you is this:
That's it. No, seriously, that's all there is.
>BUT I ALREADY DO THAT
Well then now you know you are capable of sticking to a routine and doing it, day by day. At first, routines may seem like daunting, monotonous checklists. I promise you that once you adhere yourself to one you like, you will go on from there and start having fun through this journey of self improvement. Dopamine rushes in with the novelty of a lifestyle change, especially one that is healthy to you.
And about showering, once in a while you should use the time for showering in the tranquility of early morning as your ceremonial ritual. Preferably with the lights off in the bathroom, stand underneath the cold water and stay there with your eyes closed, as you take in the moment. Some may say this is meditation, I call it self-awareness. Cold showers may be a meme on /fit/ but no one explains as to how beneficial they are to your psyche.
A cold shower brings self-awareness, which is something we cannot live without. Self-awareness brings discipline and the ability to accept. The cold will be harsh on your skin, just as the troubles of life come at you, but you have to accept it. See how those Taoist monks walk across hot coal without flinching? It isn't superhuman, it is possible because they accept the pain. Over time, you learn to control it, instead of reacting to it. And as I said about self-awareness, you learn to tune out what matters. When you get used to the cold shower, you focus on yourself, and not on the cold sensation. This helped me lose care over what people said and thought about me, because I learned to tune out the "harsh feelings" and instead focus within to what matters. How people see you will change, but how you see yourself will remain constant. And lastly, the self-awareness will have you focus on yourself which will reduce an enormous amount of anxiety. Usually anxiety comes about when we choose to ignore our problems or thoughts that give us discomfort. Listen to your mind. Listen closely. You know what you need to do. In every situation that you confront, your mind knows what you should do and what you shouldn't do. All it takes is making the right decision.
I hope this helped. And remember, to take it easy. I suggest saving this and taking a break off this website for at least 3 weeks. I'm not saying to leave 4chan completely, but take a break. Decompress. Relax. It will be okay. Enjoy yourselves.
But most importantly, self awareness will bring about the one true question that you will ask yourself from time to time:
What could I be doing right now to better myself?
So ask yourself, whatever you may be doing at the moment, is this going to make me a better version of myself? I'm sure you know the answer.
You know, you may ramble but you have quite a way of crafting methods for tackling these issues. You prepping for a career in therapy or are you just here to express a passion for self-improvement?
Forgive me for the rambling, but I do appreciate your compliment. To answer your question, the reason I came back to 4chan was so I could post all the information I have garnered over time, into two concise threads for anyone to read. I used to be a sleepless overweight shut-in until I started reading up and saving all the helpful posts I saw along the way. In the end, I have completely changed my life for the better, and I hope everything here will do the same for someone else.
Everything in moderation.
My apologies, I meant to say to enlarge it here. If this thread dies out and warosu is your only way of getting there, then you'll have to save as PDF and save the images separately.
It's meant to be taken as an example, not a rule book. Of course veggies and fruits are welcomed in if you want them, since they're healthy and cheap. As for the previous thread, I stated how not all the advice you want may be of use or relevance to you. I hope you find something else that helps.
Thank you, anon. You know since this is still alive, I'll post the remainder text help I have with me.
Sorry to hear that, anon. I have a guide for shitters, you need it?