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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Shaven, trimmed or full jungle?
Trimmed. Shaven is for fags, pornstars and faggy pornstars. Full jungle is for gorillas and 80s pornstars. When the shaver hits the hairs just right, the balls sing.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
What sort of stupid picture is that? No one's going to notice there's an Ask The Opposite Gender thread and someone else will going to make another one and then we'll get people whining like in the last thread.
You're either very new or very naive. These threads have attracted the most butthurt of people lately, it's best for everyone if you delete it and make it again with a proper picture
Attractive? Maybe 25%. Attractive enough? About 75%, including the first 25%. That leaves about 25% that I'm not really attracted to. They're the fat ones and genuinely ugly. I don't have too much of a problem with chubby guys, but actually fat guys are a no-go zone.
This is assuming we're only talking physical attraction, btw.
I have a boyfriend.
I talk often to maybe 7. Would consider dating two of them. Another one is my type physically, but not personality-wise.
I don't find any of them completely repulsive or anything, probably if their personality
Ladies, how do I make my dick less intimidating? Last measurement was 8.5x almost 7 inches, and I've gotten as far as when I take my pants off until women get scared and leave me high and dry.
Put giggly eyes on it.
I don't know, take you time.My boyfriend is 8 inches too and I was really scared when we started, especially because I am tight. Be sweet. Put effort in foreplay, make her dripping wet. Don't force her to do something she doesn't want to do (took me a while to give him head).
It took me a while to have sex with him, and it still hurts a bit every time we start, but he's great in bed and he's really loving and patient.
He's also pretty girthy, but I never asked him his measurements so I can't say exactly.Really, he is just patient an puts a lot of effort in foreplay. Hurts a bit sometimes, but at the end it's pleasurable for both of us.
No, no, I can't. He's surely over 6, maybe 6.5? I don't know. I never measured him, girth is not really intuitive.
But vaginas are pretty elastic, you can fit a big dick inside if you make her really aroused.
I dont think you realize just how big 6 is. A toilet roll is like 5.5 depending on where you are. I highly doubt you bf is soda can large.
Pornstars dont even take dicks at that size well.
Is there something fascinating about women putting on make-up?
Every morning when I start putting my make-up, my BF just sit a cross me watching me putting make-up.
I asked him about it he just said it's nothing.
>Is there something fascinating about women putting on make-up?
Sounds just like idle curiosity/he just likes watching you.
Same way I sometimes watch my girlfriend do the same, or sometimes she watches me shave, or concentrate while doing work, or read, or whatever else.
There is something kind of appealing about watching your S.O. while they're intensely focused some times.
bullshit dude. You just don't realize what makeup actually is. When used perfectly, it's basically not supposed to be noticed at all and just add small touches to ADD to (not replace) appeal.
That pic in the reply has at least eye shadow/mascara/foundation/no fucking idea whatever because I'm an ignorant guy too--but not deluded enough to think she's got nothing on.
Doesnt look natural to me. Or really beautiful but thats just my preference. But I dont trust images anyways since filters and camera tricks are so prevalent now.
The no make make up is really popular amongst men since we cant really tell the difference anyways.
Even hooker are probably going to turn him down.
You gotta let a woman know these things ahead of time.
>btw my dick is too big to fit into a vagina
Find girls into putting large objects in their vaginas like cucumbers and fisting and shit.
Well that might be the problem, since all of the girls I tried with were virgins but one.
I don't even get that far. It's foreplay on my end (mostly eating out) then I drop my pants and suddenly they look kind of terrified and make a hasty escape.
It is almost as thickas as a can of coke. Can't fit it into a toilet paper roll when it's soft either.
My fwb lately has said she thinks I'm funny and she likes my personality
Is now the time to ask about a relationship? Because I'd be interested in that. She also bought me a toothbrush to leave at her place
Go for it, but be prepared to potentially get shut down and for your current relations to end.
Honestly, at this point she probably has a pretty good idea whether she wants a relationship with you or not. If you want more than just sex, you may as well test the waters.
Like 2 months ago I brought it up and she said no, maybe not yet idk, then things were awkward for a couple weeks, then back to normal. Now she comes out with the I like your personality and a toothbrush which maybe I have bad breath but I took it as "you're welcome to stay over whenever"
My BF have this weird habit of disappearing for few days and then comes back.
He doesn't respond to any messages I send him even though I know he saw it.
When I call him he answers very briefly and end the call.
I've asked him about the subject he responded with being busy/tired/something came up/forgot to.
We've been together for 10 months now, Why is he doing this?
Is it a guy thing playing hard to catch?
>Is it a guy thing playing hard to catch?
You're already dating so no
Unless your relationship has been lame and sex has been lame he might be trying to win your affection further
More likely he has other things to do and you're not a priority
>Is it a guy thing playing hard to catch?
Sounds more like that's just how he is. He's probably hyper introverted and needs time by himself doing his own things to unwind and recharge.
That or he's a secret hitman/druglord/foreign spy/has a hidden family.
Choose to believe whichever you want.
I doubt, he's way too shy, and very honest to a fault.
He's a resident doctor, I'd understand if it was work, he disappears on his off days.
>He's probably hyper introverted
He's very introverted,have all these weird quirks like how certain things go certain ways.
Isn't time to let me in?
Also I'm kinda frustrated.
Women, here's a question.
How quickly is too quick when a guy asks you out? Like, I meet girls all the time and have these short five minute conversations and I know if I'm at least a little interested or not, but I feel weird asking them out after just a few minutes.
Do yall think most girls are turned off by that?
>Isn't time to let me in?
You seem have a fundamental misunderstanding as to what introversion is.
Introverted doesn't at all mean closed off or that he's OCD or whatever. It just means he needs his own private time to recharge.
That is a part of his nature as a human being. It is literally a part of his biology. He is brain is programmed to need certain types of stimulation at certain times, the same way yours is programmed to need certain other ones at other times.
This will not change if you're together for 1 month, 10 months, or 10 years.
I'm a girl. I'm introverted.
My boyfriend hates it, but sometimes I just really need to ignore him (and everyone). I read a book, I take my car and go for a ride, I listen to music, I plan a trip, I focus on my hobbies, I study.
While I have some people I truly love and they know everything about me and I'd do everything for them, human interaction to me is tiring and some days I just can't do it.
I try to text them (morning and evening usually, just to let them know I'm alive) but I mostly want to stay alone.
Thanks. I guess I need practice with that sort of thing. Most girls I've been out with are in my life prior due to school or work or something. When meeting new girls, I am learning how to get a number without seeming weird.
"We should grab coffee sometime, can I get your number?"
She'll be wet waiting for your text. Text her 2 days later, tell her when you're free, don't ask when she's free. Go for coffee, gauge how things go, then maybe text a bit more frequently but still play hard to get, then take her out for dinner a week later. Don't text her for a few more days and if she texts you first wait 30min to text back or longer without explanation
Get a movie date at yours or her place. Make a move and get laid.
I had this down pat when I was in school. Girl after girl, I felt like a vampire.
The girls crave BBC thing is a meme.
I dunno man , I thought it was the standard measurement or something. I don't usually measure my dick.
How do I identify them?
Yeah because the average size is like 4.75 erect girth. So a toilet roll just means you are above average, not a monster.
>The girls crave BBC thing is a meme.
I dont think you understand the difference between a BBC and what you have. Even in porn the dicks that are 'BBC' are 8.5-9x5.5-6. Which is way larger than the average of 5.5x4.75. Do the math. Volume wise you are like 100 times larger than average. A monster if you will.
Bluepill was the one hurting me in the long run. Spending my money, putting them on a pedestal, wondering why was it that even though I gave it my all I always ended up alone or cheated on. No, my friend, I don't think this hurts me. For the first time in years I feel confident and happy. Sure, I no longer want a relationship with them after what I know now, why would I?
>Bluepill was the one hurting me in the long run. Spending my money, putting them on a pedestal, wondering why was it that even though I gave it my all I always ended up alone or cheated
Yeah, that's not bluepill. That's just being a retarded Nice Guy™/Doormat.
You basically went from one polar opposite to the other. There's a middle ground dip shit.
>Guys (or girls)
>What are you willing to do for someone you love?
>I'm asking cuz my bf claims to love me... but he doesn't put much effort into making me feel special. Like at all...
I'm going to be blunt.
Young kinds take love for granted and confuse it with infatuation a lot of times. On top of that some people don't emote as much as other, and some people are needy as fuck and feel like they need constant attention.
Ask yourself how much of any/all of that applies to your situation.
From your tone, I'm guessing you're being melodramatic here, but your boyfriend is equally young and just is being kind of a shitty boyfriend.
Instead of posting here and looking for pityparty examples to get mad at him over, talk to him about it. Don't whine, don't accuse him anything, don't bitch at him, just sit him down and tell him how your feeling right now.
Communication is the backbone of a healthy relationship, even if it's over shit you don't want to talk about.
Funny, that's exactly what they called it. I'd hope to get another girl, but I've become noticeably more self conscious, and my confidence is pretty much shot. I can't spend all day fapping anymore, but I can't go on with the girls at work giving me looks because I popped a massive and obvious boner.
I wonder if there's dick reduction surgery?
I'm a (conventionally attractive) 28 year old woman attracted almost exclusively to 48-58 year old men. I get approached all the time by men my own age but almost never by the men I find attractive, despite seeing them check me out not infrequently.
My male friends say they probably just assume they don't have a chance and I'll just have to make the first move. Agree or disagree? If so, tips?
You hear so much about how you have to ask women out just the right way to avoid offending them. Personally this is alien to me as I am never offended unless a man is being intentionally rude or crass. But this scares me a bit since I am not used to making the first move. How does this sort of thing tend to shake out when the genders involved are reversed? Is it fine to try politely if he isnt obviously busy, isnt wearing a wedding ring, and smiled or checked me out, or can that still be perceived as rude?
(I am discussing asking people out in random daily situations like the library or the supermarket.)
>Instead of posting here and looking for pityparty examples to get mad at him over, talk to him about it. Don't whine, don't accuse him anything, don't bitch at him, just sit him down and tell him how your feeling right now.
You give good advice thanks.
He is being kind of shitty... but he's done good things for me too. I guess I'm just hurt because he forgets about me a lot. But bitching doesn't help...
Like I'm not on his mind much. We were supposed to hang out with all our friends in a studio this weekend. He told me he would call me when its time to go over there. When he got to the studio, he hung out with everyone and never called or texted me. So I waited and finally decided to text him, and he said they were hanging out alone and he was going home. Told me he got too "into it" and forgot about me.
He told me "sorry but shit happens". So I decided whatever, people make mistakes, I'll just forgive him.
Then the next day his friends were supposed to hang out but they weren't calling him back. So he decides to text me ranting about how his friends were "wasting his time" and how upset he was that they would blow him off. I felt upset because when he blew me off it was just "oh shit happens sry" but when it happens to HIM its a big deal... I don't feel like I matter as much to him.
Mainly this one
One useful technique to employ when trying to have an honest to goodness conversation that actually deals with shit among equals/partners is to keep negative, attacking remarks to a minimum (which, I obviously didn't at all employ with you or the poster I replied to, but I'm not trying to have a convo). And if you DO need to bring up something minimum, use the feedback sandwich method to try and blunt the impact, and prevent someone from becoming defensive.
The sandwhich method is simple. Give a positive remark/compliment (Honey, I love you and your an awesome guy) followed by a negative criticism (but when you blow me off for your frends and just say "shit happens" it makes me feel like you take me for granted and care about them more,), followed by a positive compliment and proposed solution or compromise/request, (I know you care and you're a nice guy. please just be more mindful).
This is not a universally applicable technique and hurts your credibility in some types of encounters, but it is useful for relationships where people are not quite as in tune with their ability to handle criticism and need to be eased in to it.
It also isn't a magic bullet to fix things. You will need to TALK--as in back and forth--about it. He will need to put in his bit, and you will BOTH eventually need to find a compromise. This will just help frame the convo so you hopefully don't get off to a hostile start.
Best of luck.
From the story you posted.
You sound very possessive, you have to let him have his space.
And he shouldn't left you neither since you went as a couple.
As I said you're young, you will make mistakes, and you will gain experience.
What do you do for living?
Girls, what is the male equivalent of a great pair of boobs?
For context - if I'm talking to a girl with nice breasts who's wearing a tight top or something that reveals cleavage, I can't help but be very aware of them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some creep/misogynist who deliberately objectifies women - but as someone who is attracted to breasts, I can't pretend they don't exist. Usually I get flustered and find it hard to focus in these situations. Does any male body part have the same effect on you?
>You hear so much about how you have to ask women out just the right way to avoid offending them.
That's also mostly from guys who tend to have no social aptitude to begin with, or don't know how to respect peoples space.
Real life example,
>Can I buy you a drink?
>No thanks. I'm gay by the way
>Oh really? Are you sure you just haven't met the right guy?
That's happens enough regularity to a friend that I started pretending I'm her boyfriend on a few occasions.
I'm your age, so I don't really know how someone twenty years older thinks, but I'm going to guess that it's not so much that they don't think they have a chance, it's more that they either just aren't attracted to someone that much younger, or that being as young as you are, you're just not at all in their consciousness as a potential partner (I know I sure as hell don't see girls that are 16-21~ as potential partners anymore. It's like my brain just mentally dismisses them as babies).
Since you are the outlier, it probably means it's on you to have the initiative.
My experience with women approaching me is, just don't come off as desperate, and your good. Go ahead and come off as playful and even aggressive if you want, just don't be desperate. If nothing else he'll just be flattered.
Fun fact for guys: this is true 75% of the time with women too--as long as you're not asking like a desperate sperg.
>Usually I get flustered and find it hard to focus in these situations. Does any male body part have the same effect on you?
I think that's just you dude...
Though on second thought... maybe not... I distinctly remember back in highschool waiting in line at an amusement park when a friend just burst out, "Duuuuuuuuude. OMIGOD OMIGOD.... her boobs are huuuuge.... she's sooo cuuuute! oh gawwwd... I can't take iiit"
We all just face palmed because he was spazzing out and she was within earshot, and clearly heard him.
In my head, you're now that guy :/.
Chill out bro, they're just tits. Literally half the world has them.
I like eyeliner because it emphasizes my eyes. Which is pretty much the only part of my face that isn't ugly as fuck. Other than that I don't wear much, occasionally I'll use it to cover up acne when I break out
Good job, you married a clown that does it for free
>he married someone else's used goods
I'm not a virgin, have fun dividing your shit in half when you turn 40 while she fucks Jamal on the side
I don't say things like that aloud, but it'd be a lie to say I'm completely indifferent to or didn't notice a girl with wonderful boobs, and I think most men would agree (as long as you asked them on an anonymous place like 4chan, and not in the real world where they'd be negatively judged for making those sorts of statements).
Do you live in a group home?
>Using two trips to troll
Terrible case of autism
Why do people keep thinking we're the same person?
My onahole is superior to your genetic meat void you call a vagina
>He unironically maintains two personalities on an anonymous Chinese cartoons image board
Alright then, I'll also claim to be a girl that will break the rules from now on
So I'm going out to lunch with a girl next week. We've been family friends for years, but I'm not 100% certain that she knows I'm interested. I want her to know I'm interested in her without saying it, so I can backpedal and maintain the friendship if I'm wrong about my assumption that she's into me too. What can I say or do, either during or before the date, that could help with this?
Also how do I know when it's the right time to kiss her? I'm fucking autistic, I know.
Look. There isn't a 'safety' area where you can show someone you're interested, but have no fallout if it turns out they're not interested either. Well, there is, but that involves a lot of mixed signs and fucking everyone around and no one knows what's going on. If you want to date her, you make it clear you're interested in her. If she doesn't reciprocate, then whether you can remain friends depends on how mature both of you are.
So I should just send her a message like "Hey, when I said I wanted to have lunch with you, I mean it like a date"? That seems way too forward and that makes me apprehensive. Surely it's more proper for me to just go to lunch with her and gauge her interest based on how she acts and responds at the time?
Can social awkwardness be excused if the other person has it just as badly?
Not asking from experience. Just curious if people like that get creeped out too if they're confronted with their own behaviour.
From what you've said, you've known her long enough to gauge her interest. You're just stalling for time if you take her out to lunch 'to know if she's interested', and perhaps there's a touch of wishful thinking in there too. Ask her out properly, you don't have to use those words you suggested exactly, but something that implies it's a date. Something like "Can I buy you dinner?"
I did ask her to go to lunch with me, and she accepted. My assumption is that if she weren't interested, she wouldn't have said she'd come. We're not that close, we've just known each other a long time.
Oh, so you're suggesting that she might only be interested in me as a friend? That would be disappointing. I feel like my interactions with her lately have suggested that she might be more interested than that, but I'm terrible at reading people so I'm worried that it's just wishful thinking on my part rather than an accurate assessment of reality.
And this is why I suggested that you ask her out properly instead of trying to find signs that she's interested. If you're terrible at reading signs, going out for lunch is only going to confuse you more.
>go out with girl
>Get drunk and fug in her car
>It was my first time
>We go get something to eat in the place we parked in front of
>Say its my first time in a place like this
>She asks if that's my only first this night
>still drunk and dont get what she is implying so I yes
>too nervous to bring it up again
how do I let her know that I am pretty much a virgin because next time it happens I probably wont be able to blame my confusion during sex on alcohol
dudes, is there a particular smell you like best on a girl?
you don't have to name a certain perfume or anything, but do you like flowery, or beachy, or sugary types of smells? asking for science reasons
My favourite is vanilla, when I smell a girl wearing vanilla, it's like one of those Warner Bro.s cartoons where the smell wafts under your nose and then turns into a hand and indicates toward the source, it's absolutely entrancing.
Bit of a silly question this but, do girls care if a guy apologies for being a drunken idiot.
I was at a party the other night and I got super wasted and starting acting like a bit of an asshole. Literally no one cared because I'm not the first drunken idiot at a party and I won't be the last but I seemed to piss some girl off to the point where she doesn't even look at me or say 'hi' back when I see her. Should I take that as a sign I should probably apologize to her and if so, how would I go about it.
Vanilla for sure. I don't mind the beachy or fruity scents, but there's something about vanilla that just gets to me. Like I can't resist.
How about we ask the ladies the same thing? My Cologne just ran out so it's on my mind now.
>want to know my new gf's past relationships to know if she is a slut or has constant breakups
>dont want to know in case it is bad and I start worrying about it
any other way to approach this
Is it strange if I take a genuine interest in the clothing and general style my girlfriend chooses for herself? If I'm with a woman that I've come to know deeply, I even like to get outfits for her myself that I think would bring out her personality. I've been told that this sometimes comes across like I'm trying to change the women that I'm with, because I like to see my girlfriends dressed in very particular styles that they wouldn't have otherwise ever chosen.
I like this guy. How do I made it obvious I like him without just blurting it out. I'm almost never alone with him since we only see each other in class but our class is small. No possibility for group work either. I tried to make eye contact across the room but I think I am just coming off as a creep. I'm not ugly or anything so that wouldn't be an immediate thought but I'm not sure it wouldn't be misunderstood.
Most often I'm just trying to help a woman I care about transition out of her adolescent style that she's clinging to and into an adult womans style. I've seen too many women reach their thirties without ever having gone through this transition
>I tried to make eye contact across the room but I think I am just coming off as a creep. I'm not ugly or anything so that wouldn't be an immediate thought but I'm not sure it wouldn't be misunderstood.
To this day--almost a decade later--I remember back in college there was this one girl that I had absolutely no fucking idea if she was interested in me or if I was just imagining it. I felt like I kept catching her glancing at me from across the room, and then at some point I started thinking she was just looking at me because maybe I had looked at her (she was admittedly fairly attractive). I thought about asking her what was up half a dozen times, but I always got distracted or just wrote it off as me just seeing things.
That glance stuff, definitely no guarantee of anything.
Just say hey. No ones going to give a shit unless you're in junior high.
So this girl tells me she's been skipping out on school for weeks because she doesn't feel like going. It's the only place we see each other, because we're too busy with it to go out for the moment. Those two details combined makes it safe to say she's not interested, right?
Dress it up however you want (pun intended), you're trying to change them. If you can't see why people wouldn't want to date someone who does that, you need to go away and think hard about it.
>When a woman starts talking to you, assume she is interested. Most women aren’t used to initiating conversations with guys. If she didn’t have some interest in you, she wouldn’t start a conversation. It’s as simple as that.
Is this true?
No, it's not, at least not in all circumstances. Surprisingly, sometimes we just want to be friends. If it's a club or bar or other situation where people randomly hit on someone else, you might be safer making the assumption, but not generally.
Man, I really wish I had some like minded women as genuine friends, just so I could have conversations about things I only ever get to talk about with other men or occasionally much older married women
I live in a pretty decent city. I've met a woman who lives about 20 minutes away. We aren't dating but we've hung out a few times, always in my city.
I'd kind of like to see her town (I'm a foreigner). Would it be weird to ask to meet her there next time?
Or, I guess, would it bore you to tears to show some dude your town? And then maybe he asks to date you after?
Essentially everything aimed at teen and young adult people, nothing with brand names or logos on it, nothing that is a novelty or something that one would wear ironically. I like an almost minimalist kind of style.
I suppose in the end, I like women who dress in what one might imagine a librarian would dress like
I realize that my anger was misplaced on you. I thought you were cheating, vile scum who deserved to die (which you are) but I realized that men are exactly the same.
It's not that women are shitty (no, I mean, they are, seriously), it's that humanity is shitty. If your best friend fucks your girlfriend, you realize that everybody is fucking shitty.
So I'm sorry about the misogyny. I now realize that it was wrong of me to hate on women, I should've been hating humanity as a whole.
Hey, fuck you, at least I'm not a misogynist.
You expect women to be okay with you trying to get them to dress in bland, boring clothes that a middle-aged woman would wear to a job that is traditionally thought of as dull and uninteresting?
>You expect women to be okay with you trying to get them to dress in bland, boring clothes that a middle-aged woman would wear to a job that is traditionally thought of as dull and uninteresting?
So much this.
So this girl asked me out and I turned her down the first time. However I just realized that I want to fuck her and since she already likes me, I think it'll be easy. What's the best way to re approach her without looking like an asshole and a beta who doesn't know what he wants? Should I just go for it, or maybe patch things up a bit before I get in there?
The style brings out a womanly authoritarian quality that I'm very attracted to. I think modesty in appearance is a virtue that is neglected in our society, and I feel like it's important in someway to maintain it. I dress in a similar way myself.
I'm drawn to a certain sense of traditional style most of the time. In general, I love it when a woman dresses to express a demeanor of power and authority rather than trying to express a sensual youthfulness
Oh I plan on showing her a good time and shit. Make sure the interactions is beneficial to us both. I'll say what she wants to hear. She's a chill chick, I just don't have any interest in her besides her physical qualities. She's clearly uncomfortable when around me and sometimes frustrated. How do I break the ice and court her back into my lap?
You sound like a spurned boy bitterly trying to impose the same feeling of worthlessness and rejection that you were made to feel by women throughout your life on this woman you've met in a misguided attempt at finding justice or reclaiming your sense of manhood. Don't do this.
Why would you want to be a liar and a manipulator that callously uses women for sex in the first place, honestly?
>being this much of a manipulative dick
Just fap man, it's easier and you won't fuck with some girl's feelings.
>Why would you want to be a liar and a manipulator that callously uses women for sex in the first place, honestly?
You're making me out to be some kind of psychopath. I just want to have some fun. I'm a young man. I'm not looking for something serious. I just know that if I let her know this, she definitely won't even bother anymore. It's not like I'm ganna pump her and dump her. I'll stick around until one of us gets bored.
Oh shut up
Men what do you think of this..
>went on two dates with someone
>seemed mutual, guy grabs my hands. would tell me i'm pretty. on the second date we made out for a bit, went to the park and ate some good food.
>tell him i'm gonna meet up with him the weekend after because exams. he says ok.
>never hear from him again
What did i do wrong?
Did you try contacting him and he just never responded? If so, there are a lot of potential reasons. An ex reentering his life rises to the top of the list for me, but he could have also had a family emergency and totally forgotten about you too.
You're trying at least I guess. Try to remember that humanity has its good sides too.
I just have a lofty idealization of womanhood and it's role in leadership and authority. I hold the women I'm with to a high standard, often times much higher than they held for themselves and I do what I can to help them actualize it.
The seeds of this mentality were likely planted by the relationship I had with my mother, who's a very smart woman, but is selfish and lazy and always loved playing the "I'm just a dumb girl" card to get oout of things or get other people to do things for her. It infuriated me deeply watching her do this over and over again.
Welcome to the world of dating.
Could you guys kissed and had zero chemistry
Could be something bad happened in his life
Could be he just met someone more interesting.
Could be absolutely anything.
Don't worry about it. Just move on to the next one.
>Did you try contacting him and he just never responded? If so, there are a lot of potential reasons. An ex reentering his life rises to the top of the list for me, but he could have also had a family emergency and totally forgotten about you too.
yea before the two weeks of totally vanishing, he would respond one time or two times when it came to texts. but he never called me even when i call him first. I do suspect it's an ex thing but i don't want to believe it.
>You are trying pretty hard to play off your using her for sex
I'm not. I've made my motivations for interest of pursuing this girl clear. I just thought that as long as I'm not forcing myself on her, we'd both be getting something of value with our interactions, thus not very controversial.
>implying there is anything wrong with that
As long as both parties are consenting, what's the problem?
>The seeds of this mentality were likely planted by the relationship I had with my mother, who's a very smart woman, but is selfish and lazy and always loved playing the "I'm just a dumb girl" card to get oout of things or get other people to do things for her. It infuriated me deeply watching her do this over and over again.
So "mommy issues"
You're projecting your dissatisfaction with your mother and the ideas that gave you about how women function on to the women you're dating and trying to change them to what you want to be.
Mask it with whatever "for their own good" logic you want, but that's not really what healthy normal people do, and doesn't necessarily come from a place of altruism at all.
>sigh i guess. I just wanted this one to be the one.
>dating can be exhausting sometimes.
Yup. I did online dating for about 2 years. Met a couple dozen women (I pretty quickly figured out I couldn't date more than 1 woman about every 3 weeks or i'd just confuse the fuck out of myself with names and events <.<). By the time I met my girlfriend, After a while I'd kind of completely stopped thinking of dates as dates. I just met people at places I wanted to go anyway, and just went to enjoy myself, and if they did too, awesome. If not, no big. It was at about the time where I'd gotten used to that that I met my girlfriend.
My 2c: It makes it easier and less exhuasting, if you don't invest too much right away and just go to have fun,
Best of luck
>I've been worried that I always initiate conversation with a girl, but as long as she's responding I guess we are good.
I don't mind if i initiate if i like someone. really i just want the guy to just like me back and for it to be mutual. during the date i would make jokes and talk about a lot of things. I tried not to be boring because i was very nervous. I don't date much and i'm super shy. maybe one day he will contact me. thanks for listening.
>Yup. I did online dating for about 2 years. Met a couple dozen women (I pretty quickly figured out I couldn't date more than 1 woman about every 3 weeks or i'd just confuse the fuck out of myself with names and events <.<). By the time I met my girlfriend, After a while I'd kind of completely stopped thinking of dates as dates. I just met people at places I wanted to go anyway, and just went to enjoy myself, and if they did too, awesome. If not, no big. It was at about the time where I'd gotten used to that that I met my girlfriend.
>My 2c: It makes it easier and less exhuasting, if you don't invest too much right away and just go to have fun,
>Best of luck
ok i get you. thanks i'll try just that.
Clear to you, not to her!
You said in >>16896523
>I'm not looking for something serious. I just know that if I let her know this, she definitely won't even bother anymore.
That's the controversial part. You value her for sex, but you believe she wants a relationship with you. You aren't giving her what she wants, you are lying to her to get what you want.
There's a checklist somewhere. Google it.
Of the top of my head:
You've had several serious fights and not only gotten over them, but resolved them.
You're comfortable with one another, both the good and the gross.
You've got a ballpark idea of each others finances and spending habits
You trust and rely on each other
You have an idea of how they live
You've taken an extended long distance trip with one another and survived with no problems.
Those are all I could remember. Seriously, google is your friend.
>You're comfortable with one another, both the good and the gross.
This one is important. Make sure you both can comfortably poop in the presence of one another. There's a lot of walls you're going to have to break down if you want to live together, like hearing your girlfriend have horrendous hang over diarrhea shits
>e she wants a relationship with you.You aren't giving her what she wants, you are lying to her to get what you want.
Except I already stated that I would show her a good time with me and tell her what she wants. So she would benefit from it so it doesn't matter whether I have any sort of special feelings towards her. Well both fell good at the end of the day. The only problem here lies within you people. I have no problem with it and she won't know. The universe gives no shits either way
I told this girl she looks cute with glasses, then told her she looks pretty without them too when she asked.
I didn't believe her when she told me she hates taking photos because she doesn't look good.
I jokingly told her once to stop flirting, because we had work to do and little time.
I linger a lot after my work is done and she's still on her break. We spend all that time talking for up to a few hours and sometimes I walk her home at the end.
When she's not in, I hit her up and ask how she's doing.
I text her regularly, with topics ranging from serious business to weird emoji shit I tapped in on the screen.
I show a lot of interest in her interests, remember the things she tells me and share a lot of her quirks and hobbies.
I ran my hand through her hair after she proudly told me she'd had her hair done.
I offer her my hand a lot to let her feel how cold it is outside
I once patted her head for a bit, because we were in an unserious mood and she just seemed so small.
I offered to go to an event together, and suggested it'd be fun to get a drink together sometime.
I'm not talking about whether she's interested or reciprocates. You don't need to read minds.
Girls, at what point would you personally get the hint?
>I have no problem with it and she won't know.
Completely different anon that's just jumping in,
But the funny thing is I've seen people justify cheating with those exact words on this board.
Femanons, how do I deal with a shy/introverted girl? I recently started dating a girl who has a history of being really skiddish and shy when it comes to dating, but tends to open up a lot around people who she's comfortable. We've gone on a couple dates, just she still seems kinda nervous about something.
just be patient with her. give her a lot of trust and tell her nice things. i'm pretty much the same way and i like for my future bf to be like this. as more time passes on she will slowly open up to you.
She's nervous because of you, dummy
So act like there's nothing the matter.
Smile, be confident, joke, laugh, talk strongly when she's quiet.
I dated a few girls like that.
You can totally make them love you in no time.
All you got to do is act like everything is fucking perfect.
You smile, you joke.
You're feeling faaaaantastic in her presence.
She may be quiet, but she's loving it.
Shy people are used to being ignored or, at best, treated like delicate china.
Instead, treat her quiet moments like nothing the matter.
I won't be cheating though. So there is literally know way she would be hurt by this. Only people who know are me and some anons.
Women are like horses dude. Their meant to be ridden and led. You found yourself a keeper. Most of the women around me are not at all shy. Very hard to control them. Be dominant and she will act accordingly.
I know its kind of a weird thing to ask but how would girls react to a guy who doesn't have testicles? I know reactions are probably going to be different from girl to girl but I'm hoping ANY input on the matter.
Hey, pretty boring question here but whatevs.
I'm a 23 year old man dating a 21 year old womanl. We've been going out for 5 months and are pretty much a couple, but both have busy schedules with work and stuff so we've been going very slowly. Physically we've not gone further than making out, we're both a little awkward so the physical side took some time to really come to shape.
Anyway she's coming over to stay the night this weekend, and predictably I don't know what to do about the fact that I'm a virgin. I know she's been in a few short lived relationships over the past year, very likely with men who were infinitely more alpha than me (she said she liked the fact I haven't rushed into things and that other men got physical too quickly) so chances are she's had a dick in her before.
I'm probably going to end up telling her because I want to be honest, but I don't know when I should do it. I've already come across as this goofy nervous wreck and I feel like this would just be the final piece of my tragic stereotype and I'd just be a fucking joke.
Five months is pretty long for people your age to go without having sex.
She is either similarly sexually retarded, or wanting to fucking jump your bones desperately.
Your best bet is to just tell her.
I'm a bit older than you and I lost my virginity a few years down the line even from you.
What I said was that I lost my virginity as a teenager and that it has been a long time since then.
That's a good lie to go with if you really feel like not being honest.
If you trust her, then say you're a virgin. It can be a delicate moment.
I have a penis still, and before you ask yes I still get boners. I had to have my testicles removed when I was 14 not because of cancer but after I got kicked so hard in the crotch by a girl with steel-toe boots that my testicles got mashed.
Bra, you're a eunuch.
Almost, since 14 is pretty late.
Do you still grow beards?
You should deffo cosplay as Varys from Game of Thrones.
I joshing you a bit.
To be 100% honest with your first question, I guess girls care if they only care about you for sex.
Surely your sexual performance is... different.
But if you're in a real relationship, then it won't matter.
Until you get married, then that's a different ship
>But if you're in a real relationship, then it won't matter.
Unless, you know, the girl wants kids.
Most girls would be freaked out if a guy had no balls. There's no point in sugarcoating it.
>23 year old virgin
It's not cute anymore dude. Just go for it. Don't tell her. You have to remember that what you find desirable in a mate isn't what women want. She probably already knows if you went five months without tapping that you dingus. Get it over with. Sex isn't a big deal so just get it over with.
Yeah, I kinda figured. I've had similar cases in the past with seemingly friendly girls gone shy, but those were because somewhere they probably realized I was miles out of their league, but they didn't really realize that I didn't care, and I was having a hard time showing that. Pretty boys come in two flavors, there are the cocky ones who have made good on their looks and as a result of such they know too well that they're hot shit, and then there are ones that are complete teddy bears. I find myself to be much more of the latter, and this new girl is really nice and pretty and seems like a lot of fun, so I decided that I could do the both of us a favor and put some more work into this one.
That's what I said in the marriage bit.
If you're just a 20 something, then it's fine.
Hell girls might like it more because there's no chance of an accident.
So here's the thing.
If you date a girl past her twenties into her 30s when he wants kids, then she'll love you enough to adopt or get in vitro.
If you date a girl in her 30s when she wants kids right off the bat, then she'll be desperate enough to desire you regardless.
Because 30+ year old single women are the most desperate people of all
Balls are the ears of the genitalia, they're aesthetically displeasing. If it doesn't affect your sexual performance, it might be a bit weird at first but she shouldn't mind too much.
If you're as handsome as you imply, if you deal with a shy girl, act like there's nothing the matter.
Be confident and act like you like them.
Because shyness is often the symptom of an inferiority complex.
Act like they're just as worth as anyone else.
You'll have to shoulder this.
Often the fact of being a man.
Doubly so when you're dealing with shy girls.
It'll be hard, honestly, but you can sustain yourself knowing that so long as they keep accepting your dates, you're making their day
*shrug* I lost my virginity at 24. I didn't give a fuck. I told her before we started and just asked her to let me know if there was in particular she wanted. She was just surprised and didn't really believe me.
If you don't give a fuck, she probably won't either.
Mom and dad were both models back in the 80's in LA, then they met and a few years later, after they had my sister, they moved to CT, which is where I was born. I will admit, I was a nerd growing up, only one of my friends to have a "girlfriend" in highschool, pretty much because she threw herself at me. I will admit, it is super hard getting dates. The only girls who aren't shocked by your approaching them are floozies at clubs, and I got together with one of them and I decided never again. Don't always pity the homely folks, at least they seem stable, and being attractive makes t hard to find someone who's interested in you as a person, not strictly physically.
nope, never had, never will
could be introverted, could be cheating. the world may never know
doing mundane shit like cleaning the apartment and cooking. love isn't about some grandioso display of affection.
fruity/sugary smells. I had a gf that had a perfume that smelled like sugar cookies, and years after we broke up I caught a smell of it at a mall and went to feeladelphia
blurt it out
WTF am I reading
Yeah there's a pretty good chance she's already figured it out, going by my personality/behaviour. But she knows that I've had relationships before, and that I've had some drunken encounters, so if I wanted to lie then there's always that. I'm worried if I don't tell her I'll spend the whole experience wanting to tell her, cos I'm neurotic like that, so I guess I will. In the most plain and non self deprecating way I can.
Girls: I'm 5'10 135lbs. If I gain weight (aside from the obvious confidence factor) would that up my worth in the dating scene? Girls if you see a smaller guy do you subconsciously place him lower on the dating pedestal?
Like if you take two guys exactly the same personalities, confidence level, looks etc. But ones on the smaller side would you choose the other guy?
I do have definition and i'm getting much stronger, but when im in clothes, i look so tiny. I guess I just have to really try to eat eat eat, I was told my apetite would increase with working out, they were wrong.
I called a girl today to confirm our date around 2.
Called again around 4.
It is now 6 and our date is at 7, still have heard nothing from her. Should I just give up, call again, or go to where I said I would meet her. Dont really want to do the last one because she is always over an hour late
I've been on 2 dates with this really shy reserved girl. She seems to really like me, told me as much, but wouldn't let me even kiss her on a second date(for clarification were both in our mid 20s) What can I do to make her comfortable?
I'm not asking for ways to trick her, just any do's/don'ts for this situation?
Why do you need to remind her? Are you her mother? Go to the fucking date and she'll turn up.
>What can I do to make her comfortable?
Wait. Girls like her need time, and if you get impatient it's going to take even longer
Guys, if I happen to remember your favorite kind of chocolate after you mentioned it in passing a decent while ago (I don't know, maybe 4 months ago?), is that creepy? Or just whatever?
I can explain further but I'd like an initial gut reaction response if possible.
Bruh, as a guy who does this all this time the ladies get wet to this. It means you pay attention.
That being said women find me attractive so I can get away with pretty much anything without being called creepy. If you are ugly I dont know.
if you're ugly - git gud at something so that she can consider you more valuable than other guys. Also play hard to get so that you dont seem desperate for the first girl to talk to you since youre a loser.
if you're average - go for average girls and do average things. Git gud at something but you can accept average girls without having to play hard to get
if you're hot - be yourself dude. You are already playing hard to get with girls and your looks make you valuable. You can be a nice guy without being trampled on.
Does being ugly mean you're a loser?
>Guys, if I happen to remember your favorite kind of chocolate after you mentioned it in passing a decent while ago (I don't know, maybe 4 months ago?),
Going to assume you're not my girlfriend and just some random person.
Just whatever. Unless you made a big deal of specifically pointing out that you remembered, at which point some flags might start going up.