I have dated every other race but they have eluded me
I live in a small town where the only Asians are imports to go to college or small families that run the import stores
How do i even break the community shield here?
My ex is Korean and the girl I'm currently seeing is Japanese. My advice:
1. Hide your yellow fever. Asians can smell that shit from a mile away and they'll avoid you like the plague. They don't want to be with guys who like them just for their race, they want guys that like them for themselves.
2. Decide which Asian you want, they all have different standards. Thais, Viets and pinoys are easy as fuck. Koreans and chinks are more difficult and have higher standards. Japanese girls are conservative as fuck and require a lot of patience to crack.
3. Be forward and confident without being creepy. Asian men are typically beta as fuck which is why the women prefer white men.
Met my ex on the internet and met my current girl at my university.
Also, chinks are borderline impossible. When people say Chinese girls are easy they're referring to all the peasants trapped in China desperate for a green card. The Chinese girls at your local college have very rich parents and couldn't give two shits about your green card.
yeah I'm trying to flirt with a wealthy chinese girl in my class and its really fucking hard, it would probably take a year of friendship before she would go on a date with me and I dont have that kind of time around her
>collect Asian qt at local university
Would recommend. Dated a native Chinese girl for a while, too bad I had to leave the country. Very feminine personality, not bitter and jaded like lots of white women (not all but still too many).
I'm this guy and the girl was wealthy as well. Native Chinese, lived abroad for a couple of years cause her parents sent her to go to uni. I think the biggest problem is going to be meeting them more than attracting them. Native Chinese people tend to stick together.
Mandarin Chinese have a VERY hard time getting visas to come here unless they come from important families. Those families are almost always either really wealthy or part of the communist party (or both). They have very high expectations placed on them and arranged marriages are still common.
If you want a Chinese girl then either go for one that's settled here or stick to Taiwanese/Cantons. But other Asian ethnic groups tend to be a lot more open and polite than Mandarins.
For instance, I met my current lady through my Japanese class at university. A lot of Japanese exchange students came over to help us and started inviting us out for drinks. Because Mandarins and Indians are the most common Asians by far all the Koreans/Cantons hung out with the Japs as well so it was pretty much a party full of Asians who's only common tongue was English which made it perfect.
Idk about where she's from. She's not that rich, just upper middle class. I personally find Japs the hardest as their cultural background is so autistic and introvert. You never now if they are enjoying talking to you or just afraid to be unpolite. These girls let themselves get molested on subways so they don't make a scene ffs.
Indians seem generally chill too but mostly not very attractive. I like korean girls, slept with some but never got around to dating one. Filipinos are cool too as long as you get the non-crazy ones
Okay, this is one of the most time consuming, tedious things to try and do, and the pay off is truly subjective, because they aren't THAT much better than any other.
Look OP, first you're gonna need some balls. Not just regular balls either. I'd say you need some great balls, or even ultra balls. If you really want to up your odds, use dusk balls. Then keep in mind, this shit ain't easy. It's not just a matter of walking around, avoiding looking people in the eyes and getting grass on your jeans.
You need to know where to look, what grass to walk through. And don't try to take one that's already with someone else, they'll smack your balls right down.
Now, if you really want a shiny yellow one, you'll have to commit some serious time wandering around power plants at night. There's just no other way man.
Hope this helped.
This guy is very close.
This is spot on. Mainland Chinese from good families have huge egos and massive entitlement issues. Unless you're the son of s billionaire and you know Chinese cultural expectations a ruling class Chinese princess won't even talk to you.
The gold standard girls are Taiwanese. Seriously cool, smart, westernised with China girl values.
Indian girls are shit, though, unless they're third generation, with parents who grew up in the country you're in.
How to date Asians? Same like you would any girl, except Asians value hard work, intelligence, and mannerisms more. As well, if by Asian you mean Chinese/Japanese/Taiwanese/Korean, then you should know that unless you're scraping from the bottom of the barrel, they usually aren't easy lays. If you want easy lays, choose filipinas or thai girl(boy)s.
Shanghai people are culturally two faced. This isn't saying they're all bad or deceitful if anything, but being two faced is the culturally accepted norm, and it's actually encouraged there. The trick is to be their friend first, then after you see both sides of her, you'll have yourself an easy lay, if that's what you're looking for, or a loyal partner, if that's what you're looking for.
Basically what this anon said, if they're from Mainland China, they aren't worth your time. Date Taiwanese, they've got all the good Chinese cultural bits before communism took over, and they understand democracy, human rights, freedom of speech, etc. that sort of stuff.
regarding the shanghai girl, I dont know her that well to judge her on being twofaced but she has never even had a bf and is very reserved. she's shy and quiet most of the time but opens up when she feels comfortable. I feel like she would be a very loyal partner and its what attracts me to her, but she is so reserved that I feel like I'm running into a brick wall trying to get to know her better. she gives me nonverbal queues like prolonged eye contact and mirroring body language but she always scurries off before I can talk to her for too long.
>I feel like she would be a very loyal partner and its what attracts me to her, but she is so reserved that I feel like I'm running into a brick wall trying to get to know her better.
That's normal, that's how the dating culture is like in Shanghai. Also, because you probably aren't Asian from the sounds of it, this girl is a bit more wary, because there's just so many little things about cultural differences, that she's also worrying about whether or not she's giving YOU the right signals (maybe she likes you, maybe she doesn't; either way she's trying to hopefully convey that message to you without you misunderstanding).
Prolonged eye contact is already really a good start. Mirroring body language is too arbitrary for me to judge with the provided info you've supplied.
Just be her friend first, that makes it really easy for her to open up. As soon as they open up to you, I guarantee you'll see another side of her. And that might make you like her even more, or less, or it might not change anything for you.
>I feel like she would be a very loyal partner
Well then, loyal partnerships are better when the couples are also close friends, no? You don't HAVE to go >friends >gf/bf >waifu/husbando >close friend >best friend
You could go >friends >close friend >best friend >gf/bf >waifu/husbando if you want, or any other order.
The fact that she opens up when she feels comfortable means that it's not a brick wall, it's just a sensitive (not as in emotionally delicate, but just reacts to signals more) door, and you just need to make sure you aren't a stranger to that door, and it'll always be open for you :)
I'd be happy to slowly get to know her and become her friend over a long period of time before trying to make it into a relationship, but the context I know her is that we are both in the same graduate program at a school that is international for both of us. I'm from north america, she's from shanghai, and we are both in a program at oxbridge. the coursework for our class is ending in a little less than 2 weeks and at that point I'll stop seeing her every day.
I'm trying to get the relationship to the point where we can either be chatting or spending time together outside of the context of class, since we have several months of dissertation work where we'll both have free time and will be in the same city together. I keep trying to get her phone number or a text client but right when I'm about to ask she always finds a way to run away or get into a conversation with somebody else and we get cut off.
I need some way to move forward in the friendship in those 2 weeks so that I dont miss my only chance and never see her again.
Tell her how you feel?
Hey anon, you're a great person, I enjoy your company. The part of our program where we see each other often is coming to an end, but I'd really like to see you more. Any way I could get your email, or phone number? I really want to keep seeing you, you're really cool.
Also invite to lunch? invitations to lunch are generally all around more casual and less intimately seen as dinners.
Anyway, if this doesn't end up working well, I seriously suggest just try finding Taiwanese girls if Asians are your thing. In the long run you'll be better off. But good luck with this girl!
I guess I'll keep trying every day to find an opening to ask for her number. I'm hoping she'll open up more over text and we can chat easier that way, and I can also try to find some excuse to get together like studying or lunch. she's a very interesting person and once she starts talking there's always a lot to talk about, she's just very reserved and I think I make her nervous. I havent had too many chances to talk to her though I keep trying.
I wouldnt really say asians are my thing, just her in particular really struck a chord with me and honestly I kind of feel like I'm already falling in love with her. she's so smart and interesting as well as beautiful in a way that melts my heart. I dont even fantasize about doing sexual things with her I just want to come up behind her and put my arms around her and things like that.
This is all hilarious to me because my best friend is an extremely wealthy and pretty Chinese girl who has white guys with yellow fever chasing her at our university all the time. She comes back to me and tells me they're creepy and thirsty as fuck but still wouldn't mind dating a European guy because she's had bad experiences with Chinese men. Lastly, what she told me she likes in a white guy is for them to be reserved/quiet and not forward as fuck like most of you are, and not expect sex within 5 seconds.
Heck I'm Asian myself, but the middle eastern Asian, and I find myself avoiding a lot of white guys like the plague because once they hear I'm Persian they start asking me to "shake dat Persian booty" and mock my grammar when English is clearly my second language. Also when they try to grope me on the first date. Guys I've been with on dates from asia, both east and west, never tried to do stuff like that.
what area is your university? the universities I've been to have been so filled with asians that no individual girl will really feel yellow fever since there's so many to choose from.
I'm pretty sure you're just surrounded by degenerates, or black people who think white people are all racist and privileged.
I've only heard of and seen groping and those obscene and just plain bad taste rude comments from degenerate white guys, and all guys who follow "hip hop" or "rap" culture.
Persian girls do usually have nice butts, but only idiots would make comments so rude.
Honestly, try to surround yourself with better people.
You don't come off too strongly, you speak softly but audibly, you act gentle and courteous, and most importantly don't come off as desperate.
As for language barrier, just speak slowly, and with simpler vocab. Don't patronize them or speak to them as if they were children, though. Just slow enough to hear each syllable, but fast enough so that your train of thought isn't slowed down.
Also be neat and dress nice, but not poshy. Hygiene is a plus, and having a gentle smile is also a plus.
Good luck anon!