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Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
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>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
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Let's say there is a guy you really like. You've never seen him with a shirt off before. So you ask for a picture. He sends you requested picture. If he doesn't have rock hard abs and a toned chest, or just whatever your dream body is. Would this in anyway shape or form change your view of him? If he doesn't have a sexy body. Would this cause you to lose your "attraction" toward him. Or would you see past it and still like him for who he is?
Girl just asked for a picture. I'm a skinny guy. But I'm very self conscious and I think I look like shit. She said that she won't make fun of me, but I just worry. I want to send her a picture to make her happy. Because I like her. I'm just worried I can't deliver what she would like....
>find ladylike women attractive
>modesty, prudishness, wears dresses
>kept hair with a normal color
>no piercings or tattoos
I told a female friend I find these characteristics attractive and she called me sexist. Am I?
How big of a deal is having no car at 26? I'm male, by the way.
I work from home manufacturing candles. I go to the post office daily to mail them out and the post office is a 10 minute walk away. I live near the main strip in my city so placed like restaurants, grocers, entertainment, bars, etc is all within a 5 minute walk. My gym is next door to my apartment, too, as is laundry. My apartment isn't out of the way of the city, so I never felt the need to get a car.
Provided I meet a woman who lives within 5min walk of me, is there a point in getting a vehicle? In the seven years I've lived here, maybe 2 or 3 times in total have I went "if I had a car this would be easier".
Just a little on top but bald on the sides and below..
I like to see the pussy I'm about to eat, and I don't want to keep parting a bush to get to the good stuff.
In regards to the hair on top, keep it trimmed short with clippers (no.2 or no.3 is fine) but not shaved.
If you're riding a guy and sliding your pussy/clit over the shaft/head of his cock (without insertion) then growback from shaving hurts the head of my cock like a motherfucker, as can really long thick hair.
ie. Keep it neat and tidy, and let us see your labia, clit, hood easily.
I work as a violinist in a restaurant. I work every day around 6-8 hours, I'm a fulltime employee. I play during late lunch and dinner service. I've been doing this for four years.
A few days ago, someone from the Toronto Symphony Orchestra heard me play and offered me a job. The pay is $82,000 a year vs. the $27,000 I make now. My hours would become shorter and I'm guaranteed income for the next ten years via contract.
The caveat is that I need to move to Toronto. I live in Alberta (I'm not sure exactly but like an eight hour flight away). My girlfriend owns a company here and cannot relocate (we've discussed it before but unrelated to this new job).
Do I leave my girlfriend to pursue an extremely lucrative career? We've been together for five years. I haven't talked to her about it yet but I know with absolutely certainty she wouldn't be able to come with me. Neither of us could handle a LDR or anything. I wanted to marry this woman but this has been my dream for literally my entire life. I could die a happy man if I had this job.
>I wanted to marry this woman but this has been my dream for literally my entire life. I could die a happy man if I had this job.
So the question becomes, could you die a happy man with HER?
Look. Let's be real here. No matter what anyone says or tells you, the first thing you should do is go to your girlfriend, tell her what happened, and have a serious discussion.
You don't know for a 100% fact that she would NEVER consider moving, and even if you do, you at least owe it to her to leave that choice to her, instead of making it for her.
That being said, my 2c.
I personally would stay with her, but I don't have anything I'm passionate or dream about enough to feel like it outweighs a potential wife (in fact, if I actually HAVE any dream, it's always been to have a family).
But in your case, if this truly is your dream job, I think you should take it--unless you love her enough and are certain enough that want to spend the rest of your life with her and have that be fulfilling enough for you, that you think you will never resent her for it.
This may sound nasty, but I think if the girl was worth it you'd already BE married.
You might be lonely for a while but that job will set you up with a good life and personal satisfaction and you'll find someone else. Gf's are plentiful, 82k jobs that are relevant to your dream are not.
Though maybe she'd sell the company to be with you, idk. But the fact that you're not married and you think you'd pick your job over her AND you think she'd pick her job over you- doesn't sound like a marriage is in the future to me.
Doesnt sound like a fun situation to be in. Even if she's faithful, there's always going to be that nagging reminder she wants to sleep with other people. I'd probably take a step back in your shoes.
I'd still talk to her and see what could be done. That said, I'd take the job regardless. The fact you're considering indicates that you arent sure if she's the "one" at the very least.
Could use some feedback here, from either gender.
I find that I easily attract overweight females more than average/skinny ones. Why is that?
Is it because I'm also overweight, therefore more relatable?
Or is it because they have low confidence, and they're just acknowledging their limits?
I honestly cannot answer these questions myself, because I've never had confidence issues due to my weight, and I've never hesitated to ask normal chicks out because of it.
Help me understand this:
She's very kind and affectionate, I really want to be with her, she's my ideal woman. However, I have almost no sexual attraction to her. This is a woman I'd be happy spending the rest of my life with.
I am full on diamond-hard lust-mode for her. Her personality is trash but for some reason I can't keep away.
How can I be attracted to someone (Girl A) without any sexual attraction?
I don't think you read my post correctly, or maybe I'm not reading your answer correctly.
I'm asking why fat chicks like *me*. Never said I like 'em myself (I primarily like skinny/average chicks, although there are a few cute chunkies out there).
Is it because I'm a fellow fatty, or is it because they know they can't do better?
What if i don't really have many good friends in uni but I want to date.
I'm a freshman and there's this girl who clearly thinks I'm attractive who's always saying hi to me and smiling.
We flirted a lot at the start of the school year but I never did anything with her and our contact is now just when we pass each other on our dorm.
I don't have many friends, not that people don't like me but I tend to be a loner by nature, so I often spend my weekends doing things I enjoy (reading, writing, skiing).
This girl is in a sorority so she goes out every weekend with friends, and I have no problem with thay but I want to ask her out to coffee.
I had a near death experience a few days back that made me realize I need to take chance if I want to be happy.
But it asking out a sorrority girl when I'm not in a frat just a waste?
How could you be happy spending the rest of your life with a woman you have almost no sexual attraction to? Do you plan on cheating on her? I don't understand this.
If you don't want your dick in her, her personality doesn't matter.
Question for the ladies:
If we were dating, how involved would you want to be with my social circle?
It's natural for you to want to meet my family and friends, but me personally, I'm not too keen on that idea.
The reason I say that is because most of my friends are dirtbags. I personally enjoy their company, but otherwise they're rather crass and uncouth. If I were to isolate you from my friends, it's not you, it's them.
How would you feel if your boyfriend was excluding you from his admittedly tactless social circle?
>they're just acknowledging their limits
Probably this. It's not necessarily a confidence thing, but a similarity thing. I wouldn't say this logic always follows, but it might in your case.
Go to Toronto, anon. It's your dream, and as a fellow violinist I think you deserve to live this out for yourself. DO IT!
I'd like to meet them just so I know who they are and what they're like, because otherwise it seems kind of sketch like you're hiding something, but I definitely don't need to be included when you hang out with them.
One of my friends has the most annoying boyfriend who always wants to hang out with us. I don't know why. I figure he's just bored, because we're not the type to go out and party or be a bad influence on her. But it's so awkward having to include this person who has a different personality and doesn't necessarily fit in with our group dynamic just for the sake of "oh they're a couple". I think she would probably understand that. You have your friends, she has her friends. You should introduce the important people in your life to her, but that doesn't mean having to actually hang out.
How can i tell if a girl has a boyfriend?
I don't tend to see her with any specific guys and she doesn't seem to have any social media accounts.
Should I just ask her out to coffee?
Will she realize its a date and tell me if she has a boyfriend.
Ok when I do ask her out should I have a plan?
Like say if I ask her out on sunday be like "We should meet at blah blah for coffee on Wednesday?"
Then ask for her numvber? Should I text her any time in between the date or stay silent until then and only talk to her if I see her in person?
My dear sisters, how am I supposed to interpret when you never initiate a conversation but, when I do, we chat normally? Basically my question is: does not starting the talk always implies that you are not interested? Thanks.
Natural is the best, in my opinion, but I think I'm a exception. All in all, I love all kinds of shaves. I don't like it fully shaved that much, but it's not a dealbreaker or anything.
If I text a girl every day, without professional reasons or something like that, I'm interested.
If monogamy is as important and special to you as it is to me, yeah that would pretty much be a deal-breaker. Having the mutual DESIRE (not just practice) of monogamy is crucial for my relationship.
9 times out of 10 that's usually what it means. She could be socially awkward or worried about coming off as clingy. To me the girl you're interested in just isn't into you that way.
Conflicting answers. I don't know senpai, she is so quiet I've never seen her talking in public without someone talking to her first, so maybe she is just awkward. Guess I'll have to try to see where it goes. Thanks for your help!
This one is for men. And women.
Is there a way to filter out all the goddamn "youtuber", "lets Play", "reaction video" from youtube search results? I don't give a fuck what these neck bearded autist think about a trailer, I just want to watch the goddamn trailer, not watch it and hear some fat fuck desperately attempt to be relevant.
These fucking kids aren't funny and need to go die.
>Is there a way to filter out all the goddamn "youtuber", "lets Play", "reaction video" from youtube search results?
Just keep disliking them and they go away.
If memory serves if you dislike a guys video once his stuff stops popping up altogether unless you're subscribed to him.
Being a swede (because we jerk off when we see a popular person from our country apparently, so much stupid shit trending) YouTube frequently recommended me pewdiepie. Practically every day. Enough that I knew what games he was playing and it's pretty annoying. I found the 'video blocker' extension for Chrome. It allows you to specify a lot of different ways to block people. It allows for wildcards so you can probably do '*let's play*' or something.
Guys, do you ever get a boner randomly in public? How do you compensate for that? Fake coughing? Throat clearing? Think about gross people? Did you have to be thinking of someone near you or does it just happen? I've always been curious
I don't have sex with others. I like my FwB too much.. honestly, this seems more like a relationship than anything else. Like the way we care for each other. I've brought up recently about being official. But she said she isn't ready for commitment. But she does so much for me. And she goes way out of her way all of the time to do sweet things for me just to make me smile. But she doesn't want a relationship. I know she has a few guy friends.. And suspect she might be having sex with them but can't prove it.
I'm 193cm tall with wide shoulders and my girlfriend is 151cm. I don't mind it, I just have that weird urge or fear to just snap her in half sometimes when we hug or when I'm holding her in my arms, the same feeling that you get with small animals sometimes. How do I tell her without freaking her out?
I put one of my hands into my pockets so I can claim any bulge is my hand. From there just walking around will lose the boner in about a minute or two.
Why would you think we would make noises with our mouths? That would just draw more unwanted attention to us.
Maybe she wants an open relationship. Or a polyandrist relationship. I'd ask her what the deal is. If you're not ok with her sleeping with others without your approval. If everything is fine then just leave it. Just don't come off sounding like you're accusing her. And not like you're not satisfied. It's pretty hard. But wondering what your relationship is like is natural when it's outside of norms.
Most happen for reasons. Usually you get accustomed to how lewd some girls dress so it's usually not that. Usually it's your crush looking amazing or you being mentally stimulated in some way. But seemingly random boners do happen. It's the most awkward when you're in a public shower. So rough.
Well usually it dies naturally. I would text her about plans for going out and whatnot, back and forth etc then we chat a little more. Sometimes she would say goodnight and I would say goodnight back or say we'll talk later, sometimes when there are no more topics to talk about I/she will stop replying.
But the thing here is she's never texted me first. Could it be because I'm not showing much interest via text?
Was an issue in puberty (obviously) but it's really rare now and only happens when it's cold for some reason. And no, you don't need to see someone sexy or think about something lewd, it just happens. I just tense my stomach muscles and it usually stops that way, I don't really have to care though since I'm wearing a coat whenever it happens.
>Why would you think we would make noises with our mouths? That would just draw more unwanted attention to us.
Kek, and I'm not sure. Probably because those are things people do when they're nervous sometimes.
So, guys get them with relative frequency? Do you need to be romantically or sexually interested in a girl for that to happen or is it just any random thing? Would you ever pursue someone who gave you one or does the attraction fade after it stops?
I would randomly get boners when I had to take a piss, or in the middle of calc lecture. Boners are random, but generally accompany attraction.
Don't use them as a judge of intentions.
>So, guys get them with relative frequency?
Some do, some don't.
>Do you need to be romantically or sexually interested in a girl for that to happen or is it just any random thing?
No, not at all. You can be waiting for the bus without anything happening that is even remotely sexual and it might still happen, even if there isn't even anither person or even an image of another person nearby.
>Would you ever pursue someone who gave you one or does the attraction fade after it stops?
That's one hell of a stupid reason to go after someone. And it's not attraction, it's just a boner that might not even be related to the girl.
>do you need to be romantically or sexually interested in a girl for that to happen or is it just any random
Not always. I've gotten boners from just being extremely relaxed. I wasn't "horny" but I still got a boner.
and I have to think about the person to get horny. I don't get boners from just seeing a hot chick in the mall. Lately for me, I only get excited over girls I have feelings for
Sometimes it's because I'm checking a girl out, sometimes it's because I was sleepy and stood up too quickly, sometimes they happen when I exercise. It's generally a random thing. I would say it happens around once every one or two months depending on what activities I'm doing.
Generally a girl gives me one because I'm already attracted to her, not on a first sighting so I would probably pursue her.
So when did this guy get a boner in your presence?
It's hard to tell really. Some girls you have trouble not getting a boner from interacting with, that's a very strong sexual and emotional attraction in my case. Other times its just an irrelevant boner, you can tell it came because you saw that girl but it doesn't really mean anything. I wouldn't try and deduce much from a single boner. If you're flirting with the guy it's a pretty sure sign he's sexually attracted, but if it was just normal interaction then you can't really tell.
Depends on the scar really. I don't think most are a problem. No scar is better but it's not a big deal. Some scars can look really ugly of course.
Are these self inflicted? I'd be concerned if she's over that or not.
I have several, but the most noticeable ones are from surgery. One above my chest, one below and one under my left boob.
>Are these self inflicted? I'd be concerned if she's over that or not.
No, but I did wonder if guys thought it was all the same anyway. Like, if scars were a turn-off.
Doesnt sound too bad. One of the big reasons I hate self harm scars is because it basically represents poor mental health.
Pictures would help, but I'm still inclined to say it's no big deal.
guy here. I don't really have this problem. I have an average size dick, 6 or so when hard. Maybe you have a big dick? and you have leftover pee in your pee hole? no homo. I wouldn't know though, i never have the problem. Maybe try not shaking from the base of your dick, that sounds like it would be ineffective and sloppyu. personally, i shake about midway down my dick.
to grills from guy: what would prevent a girl who likes you from going out with you?
*To give some reference, I am a senior in highschool. Yes, I am 18.
Sorry if that is confusingly phrased. Anyway, last year I asked this chick out to lunch, and she rejected me. I had been talking to her for a while, and we got along just fine, and I kind of thought that she liked me.
>inb4 autist and doesn't understand social dynamics.
that isn't the case here. I had previously been in a relationship, albeit a short one, and I had other experiences with girls. So hopefully you believe me when I say that I at least can tell if a girl has a thing for me or not. That was the situation with this one girl. I didn't really rush anything, and I liked her as a person, and she liked me as a person, and I found her attractive, and I thought that she found me attractive. So why didn't she accept my offer? I have two possible explanations: One being that her being from afghanistan, and being muslim, is somehow her reason for not dating me. And two being that this is some immature thing she is doing. Because, she IS really immature, that's something I have realized after I kind of stopped regarding her in oneitus mode. What kind of pisses me of though, is that I have stopped paying attention to her, and started talking to other girls, but she keeps trying to get my attention. I swear this chick acts like she is in elementary school, with her immature and childish mannerisms. Fuckin poking me and shit.
Anyway, that's the situation I am in. I just wanted some female insight as to why someone might do this. If that is even possible. This chick is just so damn confusing and irritating that maybe no one can understand her.
Not sure if thread related but..
How do I (male, older) make attempts to get along with my sister's BF? It's something that she wants, but desu we're both a bit too "just ignore each other" to make it happen.
I think it would be odd to try to force things like that. I'd understand if the two of you don't get along. But as it sounds you two just don't really care about each other and that's fine. You don't need to be BFF's. Even if your sister would like that.
Gender-neutral moral question that I've always wondered for shits and giggles:
Imagine two introverted shut-ins. One told you they like to pay hookers for lots of sex, and another person told you they liked to be single and didn't bother looking to hookup. Who would you think is the more 'wrong' person? The sexually charged whore or the shut-in that doesn't do anything?
This question is for grills. I'm sure it's been asked before, but I don't care. What does it feel like when a guy cums inside you? My gf always described it as a sudden feeling of warmth and a noticable increase in wetness. Is this similar to your experience?
>My gf always described it as a sudden feeling of warmth and a noticable increase in wetness
But that's what it literally is.
There is warm liquid entering her, so it goes without saying that there's a sudden feeling of warmth and an increase in wetness.
Sort of. They look better than penises.
Guys, what can a girl do to make your day better? Like something small? Would talking to you about one of your interests and cracking a few jokes be enough? Or would you rather have something tangible like bringing you some coffee?
What is a good reason for asking someone out or going on a date? I realize now that I'm in my mid 20s and have zero experience (kv). I've been asked out a couple times by decent guys, but I haven't felt seriously attracted to them. I'm not delusional and waiting for "the one" or anything. I mostly seem apathetic to dating because up til now my life has been all about school then college and now work.
Should I just start dating for the hell of it?
You don't have that much to lose, really. Especially if you've spent all this time getting all the other life stuff sorted, you're probably in a better place than most people.
Best reason to do it is because you want it. Unless you've got any particular objections to it, just test the waters with a bunch of guys and see which ones stick.
There's girl at work I'm into. Now before you say don't date coworkers she's not in my group and works on another floor. We're in a fairly large building of about a thousand employees.
She also happens to live in my apartment complex and I've spoken to her a whopping one time before. How is it best to approach her? I actually ran into her im the parking lot after work and even looked at her and I was too dumb to recognize it was her to say anything. Her hair was a different color and for some reason I didn't remember her face but I remember her smile from the first time I saw her. She wasn't smiling in the parking lot when I saw her last and only realized it was her after I recognized her car when she drove off.
is it bad to ask her out next time I see her? I'm thinking of flirting a bit to see if she reciprocates but if she does do I just ask her out then?
24 yo here and still hella awkward but slowly getting fit.
Hmm it's game over if I come across that way.
How will i get to know her if i don't ask her out? thing is I almost never run into her and playing the waiting game for the next time we meet after the next time i talk to her won't get me anywhere. I'm not going to actively look for her but next time I see her I want to at least express that I'm interested.
I have a question, there's a girl I recently met at uni, a few months ago, and she's really touchy and open with me. Like, we'd just have coffee and she would often randomly touch my hand or hold hands when we're walking somewhere and such.
Now, I'm a girl too so I'm really not sure if that implies any romantic interest. Maybe I'm arrogant to even think so but it feels like she's much "closer" than friends usually are. She's told me she is attracted to girls and since then I've been thinking about it often. I really like her and I don't want to do anything to hurt her or make it weird.
Thanks you guys
Could i have handled it differently? I feel kind of bad
>be on tinder, guy asks if im dtf basically
>pic is cute so i say yeah and go to his place
>i show up, he opens the door and i dont even recognize him
>acne everywhere, and hes really fucking awkward
>keeps making jokes on stealing my bike and will not stop
>he keeps laughing awkwardly
>i just want to leave, i panic and say 'um, you dont look like your picture, sorry!" And leave
>he looked crushed
>he blocked me after
Oh, is it really? I just got tinder and this was the first dude i met. Well damn it. I look a bit better than my pics irl, this is some bullshit, i just want to fuck around but this catfishing is bullshit
Agg ok yeah I'll just go to a bar I guess. I'm lazy and dont like talking to people and pretending i care when i just wanna fuck, people say I'm cold and distant. But bars can be fun
Like I said I've never tried tinder or any online dating service but since it's really easy to lie and catfish and pretend to be something you're not. Seems fishy at best, and dangerous at worst.
If you're good friends, she won't be scared off. If she feels your question comes too close, she will probably excuse it off with some half-lame reason.
But, I mean, it's not that weird that BFF's hold hands or are close. But, if she's told you that she's into girls, that makes it somewhat dubious.
Just don't end up like me, with your 'BFF' kissing your neck when you think you're watching a movie while spooning... yeah
>>i show up, he opens the door and i dont even recognize him
>he keeps laughing awkwardly
>i just want to leave, i panic and say 'um, you dont look like your picture, sorry!" And leave
>he looked crushed
*shrug* First rule: Safety first. If you're not feeling it or feel like you're getting played, bounce the fuck out.
Yeah we are pretty close but if she just says some half-assed cop-out and feels like I'm pushing her away?
I've been close with BFFs before but not like this. It feels romantic in a way, sexually charged, but maybe I'm really just imagining things. I'm not sure.
The worst part is I kind of like it, all the attention she's giving me. I've recently sorta kinda fantasized about her so I'm really confused and unsure how to even handle this, ugh.
Depends entirely on how you ask her. Like, if you ask her nonchalant like, as if it's more like a "Btw, do you think it's weird that we hold hands all the time?"
Depending on how she answers and in what tone, it should be fairly revealing. Not to mention, if you say it in a more innocent tone, she won't think that you dislike it, but simply curious. If she's really into you she won't run over the hill screaming, lol.
But, with that said, I think you need to think about what YOU want. Because, it's really dangerous if you lead her on and do something you will regret after. It could destroy your friendship, or whatever it is you guys have. No matter how you look at it, you have to talk to her about it eventually.
Thanks Anon, you're right I guess. I'm just really afraid of fucking this up, I've never really taken the initiative in these things and I'm not even sure if I feel similarly for her as she does for me (if she even does).
I definitely don't want to lead her on or do anything to hurt her, she's really amazing. I'm just honestly not sure how I feel about all this.
Sadly, me neither. I guess all you can do is be honest. Clarifying that you like the unique bond you share with her, and the closeness will make her understand that you aren't adverse to her subtle advances. But, if she really is romantically interested in you, she'll make her move eventually, either by making her intentions painfully obvious, or finding someone else. Because she can't be in love with you and never get anywhere, she'll be really messed up.
>Because she can't be in love with you and never get anywhere, she'll be really messed up.
Yeah that's exactly what I want to avoid, I care deeply about her and I don't want to hurt her. She's a wonderful person and really sweet and I feel very comfortable around her (and I think she likes being around me, too)
If I like you doing anything with you is nice. Especially if it's out of the ordinary. I really like talking about stupid stuff for a really long time. Or explain something I know. But it's probably very specific to the guy what he enjoys.
I dunno. Maybe try and spread the problems more (now he just thinks he looks bad). Maybe say you really don't wanna do it with a liar. Emotional reasons that hinges on the lie is good because when he's done with the lie his problems aren't there, so no self-esteem issues.
Can't be expecting you to think this through in the moment though. It's was a very fair attempt.
My gf shuts out information about a lot of things that upset or embarrass her. She's very trusting because she doesn't like to think that anyone could have dishonest intentions. Sometimes she takes risks that worry me but she doesn't think are risky. At first I found her lack of cynicism refreshing, but not so much now. It can be a barrier to honest conversation because there are a lot of things she doesn't want to talk about and she doesn't like to hear me giving critical opinions.
Obviously I'd like her to change, but I can't expect her to. What do you think I should do?
Not married, but I work as an expo with a shit ton of female servers. The conversations I've overheard strongly lean towards yes. They all have different approaches for who to talk to and how in couple situations so they can maximize tips.
>break up with her tell her youre sorry and you love her
>go to toronto
>buy her company
>tell her you love her
there's more than one way to skin a sheep to the mountain, or something like that.
Some of the most uplifting moments for me are small gifts from someone I care about. A lot of them are trivial in value, but I still use them more or save them longer. Coffee is a good bet.
>phimosis (Working on it, frenulum some times aches when masturbating GOTTA GO FAST tier)
>Less than 5 inches
>not a fan of humiliation
>obsessed with the concept oral sex and from knowledge about oral sex
>consider PiV sex the same as drinking water
>paranoid of STD's
I'm going to have a hard time finding a woman who likes a man like me.
Or is it as hard for all of us dinguses?
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Girls, would you worry after two dates and no kiss?
There's been a decent amount of physical contact and we already planned for a third one, but I'm really inexperienced and just didn't know when to make a move.
That "love languages" concept is valuable. Knowing what makes a person feel loved. For my husband, his mom was always yelling to make her more coffee--just a stupid annoying thing--so the fact that I make the coffee every day without saying a word makes him happy. It's knowing and responding to the little things. I'm personally delighted with gifts. Give me a fucking pebble and I'm pleased. GL
She's not worth it. She's asking you for a shirtless picture, isn't that giving you any clues into what kind of person she is? She's either a whore or wants it to laugh at you with her friends. Either way not gf material.
>does it make a difference if the girl is pretty
Yes, but rather if I like her or not. Not just how pretty she is.
Hard to tell. But generally since girls aren't initiators it's less so than when a guy does it. If you want to make your interests clear make naughty faces and stuff. (use common sense, don't rub phallic objects in public unless he's the only one who can see)
Maybe. If the girl doesn't look normal I might. Alt girls or excessively plain girls are more prone to cause this interpretation.
>how do you feel about it
I've had it happen, she eventually started flirting and got together. It didn't last long, she lost interest but it was nice.
I certainly like when girls check me out in general. I find that looking straight into my eyes is a cozy feel. Checking out my body when she knows I'm looking is a flirt. It doesn't happen enough that I'd be bothered, doubt it happens enough for that to anyone really. Right now I wouldn't really mind if every girl did. But that'd get weird quick probably.
As a guy:
Yes. In fact my crush is just like that. All her pictures are ms paint pictures. Only appears in others photos. Doesn't post at all really.
It's not a big deal to me. But I'm also not that into social media, I do keep a Facebook account and have it mail me if I'm mentioned. So I'm probably not a good person to ask.
Anyone ever experience the feeling that even after getting affection from their partner its just not enough to make you feel loved?
My partner isn't the most affectionate but he does give me affection when I ask for it. But thats it, he doesn't initiate unless I ask usually. Sometimes it makes me doubt how much he cares about me.
I feel like I shouldn't doubt his care for me because he does things like listen to me and pays for my food sometimes and takes me out when I ask. But it always feels like its just below what I need to feel assured...
Mostly I think its because the first thing I do when he comes over is say "hey babe how are you?" and then I listen to him vent(which he does a lot). When he finishes venting theres no "what about you, how have you been?"... he almost never asks how I'm doing. I guess if I felt bad I would tell him but he doesn't ask in the first place.
Anyone experience these feelings and know what I can do about it to not feel neglected?
Thanks- these answers help me understand some things. I'm hoping it isn't just a random thing with this guy. It seemed to make him really nervous, which was cute.
If you've been cheated on once then you will always have that doubt in your mind.
I'd ask my partner that if they ever cheat they message me before it happens, just message not required to discuss it. Just that little gesture can make a big difference in how you deal with the situation. After breakup or in a continued relationship.
Not the same person but getting boners seems horrific in the wrong situation. I feel like if I were a guy I'd always be worried that it'd happen and someone would see lel.
I'm just happy I can think about anything and not have it show.
Need advice on sex.
My new GF told me she can't have an orgasm. No one has ever been able to make her come, not even herself.
She told me she feel pleasure from penetration and clit stimulation, but she gets to a point where everything hurts and she needs to stop completely.
She tried masturbation but 1) she can do it only if she's watching porn and 2) she can't come by herself.
What should I do to make her feel better? Should I try penetration and external stimulation
at the same time? I really want her to be satisfied. I never experienced this kind of problem with my exes, I'm really clueless...
I was like that in secondary school. Then eventually I realized I'm smart enough to talk myself out of a situation like that if it were to be a problem. Explaining random boners isn't hard. Having them accept I got a boner for a reason isn't hard.
Hardly any point in hiding it other than decency. Eventually I just pulled it upwards, had tight enough jeans that it didn't matter really. Almost popped it out of the pants once when it just kept getting harder. That was scary.
Watch cunnilingus instruction videos. It's unlikely you're a pro. Here's something someone here posted earlier. Looks pretty solid.
That's probably pretty fair.
She doesn't pay attention to the news because it gets her down. She's totally happy to walk in notoriously sketchy areas of town alone at night, take naps in public, leave her laptop unattended in cafes and things like that, thinking that no one would be unkind enough to take advantage of her. Maybe I'm being overprotective, but those things seem like common sense to me. I don't know anyone else who would do them.
Another thing is that she finds sex very embarrassing, so she's always avoided it. 6 months ago she'd cover her eyes when there was nudity in a film and she couldn't even look at nude paintings. She's not quite so squeamish about it now. I had to explain things like which bit my foreskin is. She's totally oblivious when people flirt or make dirty jokes. From time to time guys hit on her and she strings them along a bit thinking they're just being nice.
to the women itt
if you were living with another guy and you wear stuff that makes you comfy but is kind of revealing, would you get offended or whatever if the guy asked you to wear more clothes at least when he's around?
What is so hard to understand? It's basic biology -- females like males who look good and are dominating. Are beta males either? No. Are alpha males? Yes.
When we see something high quality we will go out of our way to get it and do things we normally won't.
Yes if he's my boyfriend lol. If he's a roommate who I don't like in that way or relative then no. It's just being polite.
If you tell her say something along the lines of "don't you think it's a bit inappropriate to be wearing such revealing things around me?"
Sometimes girls just don't know that's it's weird though. Like some are used to wearing yoga pants, short shorts and stuff in public so it seems normal to them.
Well if I text a girl everyday just to talk, not needing anything, then yes i'm interested.
But it really depends though. Some guys just like to talk because she likes the person as a friend and likes to talk to her.
Definitely. No problem at all. I mainly prioritize other things but if I'm attracted to her she's good looking enough regardless of other people. I'd rather not associate with people who couldn't deal with that. I'm of course concerned for her, how she feels about it. And I'd help her if I can.
I think your premise doesn't make sense. I might find attractive a person who is otherwise widely considered average or unremarkable. I can't conceive of a way that I'd think a genuinely unattractive (broad opinion) person was attractive (my opinion). At least I can't remember that ever happening.
So with that in mind, I would date an person with modest looks and I wouldn't be embarrassed.
How do you handle dating a guy with a huge ego and a lot of pride? He's no narcissist or anything like that but its so irritating when he is constantly bragging about things that aren't even remotely impressive, or comparing himself to other men. Other than that, very caring guy who listens to my needs but sheesh if not for this one thing he'd be perfect... I'm kind of disgusted by it but don't wanna throw away everything else he does for me.
The worst thing is that it makes my ego inflate in retaliation sometimes. The bigger he puffs his chest out the more I want to bring him down to the average person's level sometimes. I noticed its one of the reasons he likes me though is I'm not afraid to do that...
I'm sorta in that situation too.
It's not every day, more like 2-3 times a week but he texts me about his life, like his job, studies, interests, family, etc and asks me questions about myself too.
But I'm being an idiot and I still get doubts that he's just playing me and just wants to get in my pants. I mean he has a ton of friends why would he choose to talk to me about his life and worries and shit?
For me I keep getting crushes on guys that are average or below average. It's like I first meet them and write them off because of their looks but when I get to know them I start getting attracted for some reason and that crush "brings" their looks up if that makes sense. Like their face looks exactly the same but it's more attractive to me. More attractive than someone better looking because I like them so much. Suddenly I don't mind that their ears stick out or nose is too big or they have a weird hairline.
Until my friends are like "lol what c'mon".
to either sex: my girlfriend has depression and sometimes she ignores my calls and texts for days. how do i know if that's her depression acting up or if she's genuinely lost interest in me?
It's one thing to have an unattractive quality or two, like the overbite which the Anon who replied above you mentioned. That doesn't make a person unattractive on the whole per se. Think of Owen Wilson's nose.
But if the whole picture taken together is one that's unattractive--no net physical desire--and your feelings then somehow manifest based on personality/familiarity, that sounds pretty fucked to me. I get having a platonic admiration for a person like that but crushes and relationships tend not to get very far with this underlying truth that you're not physically "into" this person. There are only so many times you can wake up next to that observation before your fondness for their personality loses its magic effect.
Thats sad but try not to let it bother you because you have no reason of knowing anyways, and she shouldn't expect you to have a concern if she never brings it up in the first place.
I pee in the shower. Does that count?>>16857663
No, why should i care?
Bummer. Maybe talk openly about how this makes you feel. Tell her that you understand that she needs some alone time (i can absolutely feel her, been there, done that) but that you sometime can't tell if she really wants you around anymore. Tell her that you need some reassurance. Maybe she can tell you that she feels a hermit-stage coming up, that she loves you and will be there for you again when she feels better.
I think my bf's going to ask for some nudes pretty soon. What do? I mean, i'd be down with HIM having some lewd pics of me, but i think sending out nudes is a really bad idea in general. I love and trust him. We are in a (temporary) ldr, so we see each other very little. I don't just want to brush him off, but i'm in a bit of a mental and moral conflict.
There's no hard and fast answer beyond the points you already addressed in your question. I've received lots of racy photos over the years, from candid lingerie shots to full-frame sex toy action. Never shared a single one. Never even told people (apart from anonymously, like this) that I had even received them in the first place. I have no doubt that there are plenty of guys out there who are just like me in that respect. But I've also met and known tons of guys who I wouldn't even trust with a few dirty words in a text message, let alone a photograph.
I love it when a girl feels sexy enough around me to take and share nudes. I enjoy the hell out of them both for the sexual aspect and how they make me feel for having received them. I also recognize on a thoughtful level that it's a totally crazy risk that these girls are taking and that none of them in their right minds should be doing it. It's not like I'd cut ties and run just because they didn't deliver. So I guess it's up to you to decide whether the optional but tremendously appreciated rewards are worth the risk.
Thanks for that answer anon. My bf's a really good guy. Like, seriously. I can't imagine him handle any pics in an inappropriate way. And i would keep them as anonymous as possible (no face and so). I know that's not half the fun but safety first.
However, i have NO idea how to even take appealing nudes... Can you tell me which ones you liked the most and why? That would be very helpfull!
Not that anon, but go and look in the camwhore threads in /soc/. Most of the girls pose in a way that flatters their body, so look for some poses you like and then replicate them.
>I don't have sex with others. I like my FwB too much.. honestly, this seems more like a relationship than anything else. Like the way we care for each other. I've brought up recently about being official. But she said she isn't ready for commitment
This is exactly me. I brought up relationship she said yes, then 2vweek later we talked about it again and agreed to just be fwb again, except now she swallows my cum whereas before she wouldn't
Having the face in frame, at least for me, really isn't a significant part. It's not like I'm unaware whose body it is or that I have to prove that to anyone. The sexy aspect (apart from her body, of course) is the intention. Don't look at it as an undue sacrifice to keep your face out in name of safety. The same applies to reconsidering hitting that send button at the last minute, too. Nothing trumps your decision about the risks.
As for the poses themselves, I most enjoyed the ones which accentuated my favorite qualities about their bodies. If you pay much attention to his words (or his eyes and hands when he's around) then I'm sure there's little mystery there. If you're willing to put in the time then a set with a gradual reveal is great. Slideshows are the poor man's live action video. Presentation counts for a lot too. If you send one unexpectedly late at night with an accompanying "I want you so badly right now," the rush of those words comes back every time he looks at the photo and adds so much to it. All in all it's hard to go wrong as long as you're completely uninhibited about it.
Those are some awesome pieces of advice anon! I've considered making gif's rather than just pics. For example that thing where you lift your shirr and let yiur boobs bounce out. I always thought that looks sexy af. And he's pretty obsessed with my boobs so i'd prob keep the focus on them. Also because i'm more comfortable to share them in comparison to some even more private body parts.
Is it a turn-off if the pics look as if they weren't just random and spontaneous shots? Cause i guess i'd have to take some in advance. I need to be in the right mood or i won't do it...
It just sorta happens. I think about this one overweight girl I saw in a cringe video and the boner's gone in a minute or two. I hide it by scooting in to my desk, putting my hands in my lap or pockets, and maybe even leaning forward a lot.
Once they pop out, give them a little squeeze and/or a nipple pinch. That's hot.
No, at least for me it's never been a turn-off for the photos to look composed. Off the top of my head I'd say that the slight majority of ones I've received have been like that anyway. As I alluded to before, the mood (and the fact that they could get into that mood in relation to me) is the valuable part anyway. How or when you get there doesn't play into that. Now having said that if you should happen to spontaneously feel that urge or comfort one day, consider at least snapping a photo to see how it turns out. It might be foolish to consider taking risks in the moment but what makes those photos special is not how they look but how they were taken and sent without request. That gets back to what I was saying earlier about presentation. Just something to consider.
Since you are going to be planning this out and applying a bit of polish to the results, though, please take the opportunity to be honest about any reluctance or insecurity sneaking into the shot. It would be such a turnoff to think "I wish I had never asked her to do this, she looks so fucking uncomfortable" when looking at your pics. It's better to just not send anything at that rate. If you are going to go through with it, be bold. Get those tits out there in a full 4K shot. Stand right up next to that camera, face it straight on and spread those limbs. Put it all out there. You've got nothing to be ashamed of. He craves your body with all of its little details, whether or not they're details you're fond of. Be confidently sexy for him because that's way hotter than any bit of flesh will ever be.
Is it still cheating if you were un-medicated/out of your mind and fucked someone?
My ex claimed that when he fucked another girl in the very start of our relationship he was not on the right meds for his mental health and therefore it was not his fault. I think that's a load of shit. I don't know though, anyone with a mental illness want t o take on this question?
Explanations for bad things are useful to us individually because they help us to avoid repeating our bad choices, which is a very important part of contrition. If I do something bad while on inappropriate or ineffective meds, I need to know this for myself so that I can get the right meds for the future and not risk being bad again.
But that information is not part of my excuse or explanation. That's the part of your story which worries me. It's great that he can explain TO HIMSELF what happened, but it doesn't factor into his explanation TO YOU. His dialog with you should have simply been that he cheated and that's just fucking horrid for him to have done. Whatever the reason, the point is that it happened. By bringing in the explanation, he's trying to wiggle out of some responsibility for it. Well what happens the next time there's an opportunity for him to cheat? He's basically showing you now that he might cheat once again as long as a sufficient circumstance exists upon which he can shift some responsibility. He'll do this believing that you'll forgive him because that's exactly what you did the first time he tried that blame shifting approach.
So yeah, it's cheating. Worse yet it's cheating with no strong basis for trusting him in the future. That's how I see it anyway.
They're personal, as in I won't tell you unless we're friends on fetlife or thinking about fucking.
Nah, skinny is ok too.
It's just the first two because those aren't personality descriptors the same way saying a 'girly girl' is redundant and stereotyping.
Your market is basically non existent. Let me show you the parameters you put on yourself:
>Lives within 5 miles walking distance of you
>Can and will actually desire to walk/bike 5 miles to visit you and expects the same of you
>Will walk to places in harsh weather conditions, even for dates
>Desires to stay where she is, move in with you, or stay within 5 miles of you
>is attracted to you
>Thinks candle craftsmanship is a cool job and is ok with you being likely poor
(It's not going to happen)
Suspicious because I can handle crass and hold my own as a big girl.
They're fun to mush.
I do have some physical attraction to slight imperfections like scars/injuries.
Just don't. If you're not at that stage to trust him with those kinds of pictures then don't.
If that's the case then he should have taken meds. If he's that fucked without it then it's still his responsibility.
Treat it like drunk sex. You should know better. Even if you're intoxicated you shouldn't drink like that if you can't control yourself.
I don't hate him for what he done, because I can understand what he means.. I've done some shit things when I was out of my mind too, but I never physically got with anyone while I was in a relationship. It's like, what happened (when I found out) we were having a really BAD fight because I had lied to him a lot - it started off as little things, "Nah I'm OK!" (when I really wasn't) to what I was eating or drinking. I got carried away, basically.
I was crying and upset because I felt TERRIBLE for what I was doing and what I had done, when he calls me back saying (in a nutshell) I fucked someone but forgot because he was not in his right mind. At first I wasn't upset because it got the spotlight off of me for a moment, but at the same time I felt sick because what if he gave me something? I knew I was clean when we started getting physical, but you know the fears that come with finding out said news.
I'm not perfect, not by a long shot. But we both said that physical cheating was going to be a deal-breaker for this relationship and it was my fault that I let it roll on as long as it did afterward. I let him think that it was okay because I didn't want to be lonely, I didn't want him to kill himself, etc etc.
I thought it was total shit because as I told the above anon (in my reply) that physical cheating was a legit dealbreaker for both of us. Not because that he has a mental illness, because I've done shit things while un-medicated too. I wanted opinions from other mentally ill people to get insight, and to gather comfort knowing that I wasn't a heartless bitch.... Even if right now I appear to be.
We both have Schizoaffective. If he has something else other, I do not know.
For the girls:
Would you date an *intentional* virgin?
The difference being that an ordinary virgin is just someone who happened to never have sex before, and an intentional virgin has a specific reason for not having sex (religion, saving it for marriage, wants to lose it to the right person, wants to be a wizard, etc.).
That's what I honestly thought.
No shit, s'how I feel too! I know that if I do not take my medication, I turn into a cynical, and psycho cunt. My actions during the unmedicated time are mine and so are the reactions from my family and friends.
Absolutely not. When I am in a relationship with someone, I am on the prowl constantly for their ass. If there is privacy around, then I expect the sex to be on tap.
While I think it's precious to want to last until marriage, or respectful for religious reasons.. I just can't. I'm sorry, OP.
There's some situations where I wouldn't blame him. Like if he had a sleepwalking disorder or literally no way of curing himself and it's an observed phenomena to have involuntary sex.
But if he can blame meds then it's not that.
I miss my ex girl friend so much I had sex with her two weeks ago but we broke up months ago... Shes moving away I think by today and I can't move on. I am literally destroying myself over her... I got wasted and went to a concert because I thought she was going to be there said some dumb shit got punch in the face and Iam sitting here in regret. And the fucked up thing is I could have made things right but I got very drunk a week ago and we met at a friends house got pissed at her and we fought. I followed her home in my car and started arguing with her mom. The next day after I went off roading I went back to her house with flowers and her dad basically told me to fuck off. I can't live with out this girl guys....
>I followed her home in my car and started arguing with her mom. The next day after I went off roading I went back to her house with flowers and her dad basically told me to fuck off.
You are literally a psychopath
Just cut the chase and murder her
Literally depends on dependent dependencies.
Yes it has happened with some woman sleep walking, banging some dude, not sure if the story was actually legit or it was some extremely Edy NTR Cuckold's fetish story.
My gf isnt the most mentally stable person but afaik shes not on meds.
If she went and fucked one of her other guy friends, no matter what she claimed, Id be just as angry as if she grinded on him and asked to be fucked
Hair is nasty but a little bush is still cute.
Im not saving be 100% hairless all the time, if you dont want to shave you dont really have to. You can have mild leg hair even, not a big deal.
But at least try to keep up on it, show that you have basic grooming habits.
A close female friend of mine (well, more than just a friend I guess) jokes about other guys a lot. Like celebrities crushes and stuff. That doesn't bother me because we all have a celeb crush. But she told me she thinks it would be so fun for her and her friends to take a vacation to California with 2 bi guys..... Sometimes. I can't tell if she's joking or being serious. And this kind of pisses me off.
How can I tell?
so I told her "I can't tell if you are joking or serious half the time"
And she just said "it's because you can't see my face right now hahaha :D"
God damn. This shit is fucking cruel. Girls why do you do this?
Go with what's comfortable. An ex once sent me some risque pics but I later found out it was making her uncomfortable so I deleted them.
If I was still attracted to them even if they were a plain jane, I wouldnt really mind. I don't really understand why people get embarrassed by their SOs
>Because talking shit to alpha males usually lands you a broken jaw?
I really love how Alpha is just codeword for violent in some circles.
My fwb who I tried to start a relationship with, but then ended that because it didn't feel right, just sent me this with no explanation.
Is this a sign?
It's an interesting character I'd say. But it's very typical med drama it seems. You don't really feel much for the characters because they're all the smart doctors with little personality. House himself is witty and a nice character with lots of flaws. He's cocky and really if the show was just that character on a road trip of whatever it'd be a much better show. The show is mostly
>person get sick mysteriously
>house makes presumptions about what it is and would be fired several times over for neglect
>they hear about a new symptom
>symptom triggers house in some way and he gives orders the others disapprove of
>turns out it wasn't what he thought or it was what he thought
>if it wasn't what he thought he asks the patient questions and concludes they're not telling everything/lying (like the one episode mentioned here there was also a black senator who's nervous system was shutting down or whatever. He hid he had seizures and that was extremely relevant somehow. He also had aids because that's a thing black people have in the US apparently. I dunno I'm European.
>if it was what he thought there's some medical politics instead
Watch Dexter, The venture Bros and Burn notice before that.
They're not the best but I found then ok. Burn notice was the kind of interesting where it's very formulaic but it has a lot of different situations. The narration makes it great.
The venture Bros is just great.
Dexter is pretty tense most of the time. You feel things are happening. Rare in TV shows.
I'm assuming you've watched the most popular stuff.
So I finally worked up the courage for the first time in my life and chatted up a girl in the club.
It was going quite well until she dropped a bomb that she was engaged and she was 10 years older than me.
I was drunk as fuck and did not care so I kept trying and still seemed interested.
We ended up exchanging numbers and she asked me to message her.
I have decided not to because she is probably just wanting attention and I won't get sex out of it and if I do I may get murdered by her fiance.
Am I doing the right thing?
Ask yourself. Do you want to let a guy marry a girl who would cheat?
You can either attempt to find her fiancé or you can cheat with her. She's the one doing the amoral bit. I really don't see any reasonable argument that would suggest that you being single could be morally responsible in this kind of situation. It simply isn't sustainable. If we had that kind of norm against cheaters the wives would just not tell you.
So go with your gut anon. If you'd feel guilty don't do it.
There's someone I'm planning to ask out. I want to date this person specifically.
But if I get rejected, I'm gauging people I know for if I -could-ask them. I don't even know if I want to, but I want to be able to want to.
Is that weird?
I'm tired or crushing hard on one person and then dropping the idea of ever dating for months/years until I start crushing again.
So contact him anonymously and tell him you can set up a cheating scenario. It's important to this guy. You might make a friend anon. And a wingman can get you laid. He will be single.
So, a very close/special female friend of mine has said before, and said today that she's "anti-romance" as she wanted to take a girls trip with a friend to Paris. The thing is, she's "anti romance" but she talks about kissing me all the time. She said tonight "I wish I could hold you close and kiss you softly all night before I fall asleep". It's just confusing I guess.
And yes, before you tell me. I had asked her out twice before. Although that was months ago. Her response was she doesn't want to be emotionally involved with anybody. Yet, in a sense it seems like we are..
Not a girl but shes an edge lord drama queen who enjoys your attention but does not find you sexually attractive in any way.
You're like her brother that she can torment without any long term consequences.
Ditch the bitch, ignore her, move on and find a new girl.
You're probably a catch, theres plenty of fish in the sea who are not cunts and when it comes to girls there is never a maybe or lets see.
She either wants you or she does not.
We are acquaintances and I either like you as a friend and don't talk to you enough or I want you to be my girlfriend. I think it would be weird if I told you which category you fit in since I am very inexperienced in these kinds of relationships because I have asperger's syndrome. I always assume you want another guy as your boyfriend and never think I'm the one you want, anyway my question is do I let you know I like you as a friend indirectly or obviously through the way I act and leave that be while I let the girl I want as my girlfriend know that I'm interested? I don't know how I can do this because I don't have any real friends only acquaintances so how can I let you know that I like you?
>who enjoys your attention but does not find you sexually attractive in any way.
I know this is not true. Dude, the amount of things this girl has done for me disproves that. She's extremely sweet to me and has put in a lot of effort and done things for me. It's not like I'm a simple person for her to flirt with. She actually has put in time. Gone out of her way to do things she didn't need to do.
what's the normal amount of time to move on from a serious relationship?
I was with this girl for 8 years. She is now with someone else just after 6 weeks or so
I think she spent the last 2 months of our relationship already moving on, but isn't this sudden?
I don't want her back, but I thought it would be harder for her. In my case I don't see myself in a relationship again for a long time.
I met a qt on tinder we're meeting up Thursday. Didn't specify coffee or anything in particular. Just asked "hey wanna chill Thursday", to which she enthusiastically responded yes.
I'm aware tinder is, especially for college kids, a hookup app.
I'm also aware of the meme date
>netflix and chill
Can someone tell me if it sounds like I just set up a meme date with this girl?
so there a nice young girl I've been working with, we get along fairly well. There was a function the other night and we exchanged snap info and have been messaging fairly regularly.
I am very socially awkward and have trouble determining the difference between being friendly and being interested. Any way to figure it out?
shes specifically mentioned that shes single, spent valentines day alone.
This is literally all we texted after exchanging tinder messages.
>Hey it's anon. U wanna chill Tuesday or Thursday?
Prior to this, we hit it off via tinder. Talked all day about music and shit, found out we listen to a lot of similar shit, told her she seemed different from a lot of the people at this school, and asked her to meet up, she said yes after she gets back from spring break and I said cool and got her number. Didn't text her during spring break cause I'm (for the most part) not a beta.
Social retard here. Was out on a walk and ran into an acquaintance. They realized they didn't have my number and asked for it so I gave it to them. Then they sent me a text saying who they are. Do I respond to this? I don't wanna be rude and lose more potential friends than I already have.
Oops, I already made a thread for this question.
But does this guy look friendzoned to you? pic related
Are you serious mate?
The "friendzone" is in your head, it doesn't really exist.
How the fuck are we supposed to know with some picture?
If there were some way for us to know, that's one shitty picture to use.
>See me after class
That picture is
I broke up with my girlfriend in October, started talking again in January because I didn't say anything on her birthday and she came to me. After a few weeks I fucked up again, didn't improve on the things I was supposed to.
Then this last week I texted her and told her I wanted to talk with her face-to-face, she recused then 2 days later she said she was "open to hear what I have to say". Then I kinda fucked up again
Okay, so what exact response should I give? Like obviously a conversation won't start from this because we just saw each other like fifteen minutes ago but I feel like a one word response might be a little rude especially since I'm bad with expressing anything other than apathy over text. I mean, I'll see her again at some point this week so it's not like we'll go weeks without talking or anything.
Depends. My number will useless to you. not including foreplay about 30-40+ minutes minimum. My girlfriend has ever gotten me to cum (or been able to keep up; everyone other stopped after they came or got tired).
>what's the normal amount of time to move on from a serious relationship?
>I was with this girl for 8 years. She is now with someone else just after 6 weeks or so
>I think she spent the last 2 months of our relationship already moving on
There you go.
Women and men recover from and process breakups differently.
Guys usually hold shit in, ignore it, and keep it to themselves, until the moment shit goes down, and from there they start to process.
Girls sometime do similar things, but in a lot of case they'll be stressed about it, they'll cry about it, they'll talk to friends about it, all along so that by the time shit happens, they've already processed almost all of it, made up their minds, broken up and moved on long before.
How attractive is it to be a fast food manager at 18yo? Does it look good for excelling so quickly and so early or bad because hue hue fast food.
This is a rather touchy problem but, how do I grow close to a woman who was sexually traumatized in the past? I believe shes testing me out right now, shes super nice, Id love to get to know her better, and Im taking her out to dinner. My problem is given the circumstances I dont want to come on too strong or give her the wrong idea either.
I figured as much. Oh well. Money's money.
Just let her know that communication is key and to let you know as soon as she feels uncomfortable with something. It'll show you care and you'll know when to back off. That's just my take.
I know this is entirely subjective but I do still need an opinon
What is more attractive to you:
Sense Of Humor
I have recently gotten out of a 4 year relationship and am looking to just kind of enjoy myself for a while. My biggest problem is I am a bit of a scattergun approach when it comes to women. I am above average intelligence with a degree in engineering and am very well read. I am considered by my friends to be the funny one in a group that is fully of generally funny people. My interests are relatively niche but aren't lacking in women with similar interests and I am about a 6/10 since I let myself go a bit while in a relationship but with some effort I could pull myself up to about an 8 out of 10 (at least body wise since I am naturally fairly athletic and was pretty muscular before).
I am simply asking since if I am aiming for mainly sex I would like to focus more on an individual aspect of myself to incease my chances. I know it sounds pretty dumb but i feel like in terms of sexual partners they're not gonna care about the whole package, more an individual thing they find particularly attractive.
If you just want some fun for a while then get in shape, I'm sorry but for a ONS most girls don't care too much about your interests or intelligence, although humour might help.
I'd say looks>>humour>intelligence>>interests in your case.
I've known and loved two women who were survivors.
Be patient, let things go at her pace, but don't treat her like she's made of glass. She's a person, not a victim. If she's ready, she's ready. If she's not, she's not.
First girl I knew, she wasn't ready. She hadn't dealt, and it wouldn't be 'til years later and a complete life change that she'd be where she needed to be happy
The second (who I'm currently with) long before I met her she'd dealt with most all of it and come to understand that it all wasn't something that defined her, but just a part of her life. She's gotten past most all of it, and all I really do is be there for her the way I would with anyone else.
I know this is subjective and maybe comes under the context of "do girls like <certain look>?" or whatever but do any of the women of /adv/ find intelligence intimidating?
I have recently started dating again after a bit of a dry spell and haven't found much success. I'm fairly good looking and it was troubling me that most girls would go on one or two dates with me and then step away. I still talk to a couple of them and worked up the courage to ask them where they felt I went wrong. 3 of them told me I was "too smart" or something to that effect. However, in the nicest way possible, none of them were exactly the brightest of people.
I am not boasting in any way since I find people who boast about their intelligence to be insufferable but I went to a school for gifted children when I was younger, was fast tracked through college and when I was tested 3 years ago my IQ was found to be 164. I am now worried that women will largely find my intelligence off putting or unattractive and if that is the case (however dishonest this may be) I would be willing to make a conscious effort to "dumb myself down" so to speak if it meant I could make a connection with someone before acting more like myself.
A couple of my thoughts about what could be going on
>you're condescending or somehow make them feel stupid. It could be that you just use big words or it could be something else
>you're not very good at talking to people like many intelligent people tend to be
>they just don't like you and they're using your intelligence as an out
>you think that being smart will make up for any other flaws
>you flaunt or boast about your intelligence
I'm not saying that any or all of these are the reasons for your failures, but I'm saying they're possibilities. Remember, you might be doing them without even realising it.
If you brag about your academic accomplishments or make fun of her for not understanding what you're talking about, women will walk away. Or if you're unable to make conversation about normal things and can only talk about high level concepts (aka can't small talk).
My boyfriend got his PhD at 24 in engineering but all he talks about to other people is movies and TV shows unless they mention his field by name. As far as I know, none of his past gfs have ever told him he's too smart even though he is insanely gifted. My uncle is the same way actually and is a literal genius mathematician but he's outgoing and makes friends with everyone he meets. I think personality is a turn off, but extreme intelligence is not. The personality that manifests due to your intelligence may be the problem, or these women might just be making shit up because you perhaps planted the idea in their heads by directly asking "was it my intelligence?"
So me and this girl like each other. She doesn't know that I know that she likes me, but I do. I hear from a friend that she dreams about me, really loves me, you get the gist of it. Every time we hangout we get closer and closer, so it's just a matter of time till we are a couple. Now, my problem:
I am uncomfortable showing affection. While most of my friends really appreciate what I do for them and consider me a "nice guy", I think everything is so corny/uncomfortable when talking about love. I love this girl, I really do, but I struggle to say it out loud. I can't even hug her to say bye (nor can I do it with other girl friends). While we are both sexually attracted to each other, I get so nervous even about thinking of making out and such (virgin here).
Anyone been there?
But I think anon means a girl hasn't talked to is flirting with him. Happened to me, my poor male brain couldn't quite fathom it(mainly because I considered myself ugly) and I wish I had the advice from a thread like this.