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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Old Thread: >>16848577
Probably women who don't have much luck and are looking for a pretend relationship rather than just sex. Alternatively they just wanna have sex with hot guys. That seems to be the case based on that one vice (shit bias news source with little credibility, but they cover taboo) documentary I saw.
>not one of the most interesting conversations because it's incredibly hard to be right
It's like the most complex system in the world because all the abstractions you can make while accounting for relevant factors are so far down. It's a huge time waster but it's just so much fun.
It's just a meme. The only reason I've fapped this month is because of interpersonal reasons. Before then I did 3-4 times a day and eventually during the last days before this month I couldn't ejaculate no matter how hard I tried.
So I've been the worst case and it's not hard for me. I don't see why others would have a problem. I think it's just a habit for most.
I wouldn't say it's difficult, but if I'm not in a relationship, I can't really see the point in deciding to nofap.
It's a quick, harmless, free thing to do after I get back from work that makes me feel good.
I can stop anytime and if I'm in a situation where I can't fap for a few days then so be it I can live without it, but otherwise what's the harm.
Drink, do cocaine, shoot heroin, exit bag and take a dangerous ride down the wrong side of the highway.
If I love her.
If I didn't really know and just wanted to date and figure out what she's like (because I've judged that she seems alright on the surface) I don't do that stuff. Disappointed mostly. For a few days.
"Oh...ok ! F-fair enough"
i just feel sad, and i move on.
Well, i could probably stop masturbating, but it's hard because you have some hormone urge sometimes. When i was in relationship with regular sex, i wasnt masturbating, thought.
The one time I asked someone out in RL, she ended up being a lesbian, so there was some mild embarrassment, but I was already laughing about by the time I told my friends later that night.
I get more pissed off at people who ghost after we've talked online or met up in person. At least give me the courtesy of telling me you're not interested.
Sexual tension builds up and I just get irritable. The only benefits are glorified bro science, so why bother?
I say alright, try to defuse the situation, and move on with my life. I mean it's not like I'm going to change her mind. Maybe I'll get bummed out but that's easy enough to sort out over the weekend generally.
Japan has something similar, minus the sex. Basically the guy just goes to a bar with them and pretends to care about the minutia of their day.
I look pretty good clothed and in pictures. My face is pretty average, I'm not Brad Pitt but I've been called handsome. I've been doing the Tinder thing and getting a decent amount of matches. I have a date planned for tomorrow.
Here's my question: if you were talking to me, went out with me and had a decent time, things intensified and we got to the bedroom and I took off my shirt and you saw my body [pic related], would you be completely turned off / disgusted / repulsed and reject me? Be honest - if I need to hit the gym harder and lose 30lbs before I should start dating, I get it.
I have a really big fear that I'm going to hit it off with someone and when we go to have sex she's going to see my moobs and fat stomach and reject me, then I'm going to be crushed and start feeling suicidal again.
oddly, on a oooold blog platform called (Skyblog) at the time, i've let her some comments, get her numbers and met her :)
She was pretty, but now she's fucking pretty ! I regret trying to look alpha at the time, and by looking alpha i mean treat her like shit...
I was 15... my dumb 15 self.
Dental hygiene is very important to me personally, I don't even know why but it's the single biggest turn-off if someone has yellow teeth, it's disgusting and shows he doesn't much care about himself (to me).
But that might really just be me overreacting.
13 i think. She's my only gf. We were together for 2 years. I keep way higher standard because of her. She was amazing, even for a 13 year old I'd date her as an adult right now. You know, ignoring the body maturity. Seriously haven't found a more mature girl than her back then. We broke up poorly and she removed me on Facebook (because I was being clingy) so I have no way of contacting her really. Not that I think she'd want me to.
girls fuck pretty much anyone who they find attractive, that not mean they'll only fuck chad thundercock and is amazing six pack.
They'll fuck little guys, lean, fit, a bif of chub, tall, whatever men.
If she's already charmed, she'll fuck you, no matter what :) and she'll be extremely surprised if you're a god in bed !
I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 25. Even then, we were never "official", but it was the most amazing few months of my life. We had sex every day and just made out and rolled around in bed and cuddled. For the first time in my life I felt a taste of happiness. Then she left me and went back to her ex-boyfriend (who she talked shit about every time I was with her) and I was crushed. I spent the next year in a serious depression, thinking about her constantly. I could not get the longing for her to return out of my head. Eventually it went away for the most part, but I still wish I had her back, as embarrassing as it is I still look at her Facebook page a couple times a week (we're not friends)... at least I got a little bit of confidence and experience out of it. It just sucks now because I finally felt what it was like to have someone in my arms and it was better than I could've imagined and now I'm alone again and every day just hurts.
It depends on the girl.
But, to me, your body is very out of shape. You could definitely do with some exercise. Not to mention, it's good for your overall health! Good luck, Anon
Junior year of high school. I then came to find out that I had lost my virginity before a lot of the guys who I thought were "better" than me. That's when I realized that I was actually going to do just fine in life. I did.
Not often really, unless I'm trying on new clothes. Not randomly, at least. But I'm not a huge fan of my butt I guess.
>And do you have sexual thoughts while doing so?
No, not really.
Do guys check their ass or dick in the mirror and think "Damn booooy, looking hot today?"
Dick yeah. I measure repeatedly because I'm 8 inches and really happy about that. Don't look at my ass though, poor mirror location for that. I don't even know what a good ass is like.
Do females discuss how the sex with their boyfriend is with other female friends? If so how in depth do you get?
For reference: yes I'm asking this with girlfriend in mind, we're both 18 if age plays a factor.
I'm a dyke but my friends do talk about their boyfriends. It's never mean spirited though, but it can be detailed.
More "I wish he'd spend more time on foreplay" and less "wow his dick is like sooo small", you know? Nothing horrible, just a normal chat about sex.
Girls and guys
I feel like my heart is going to explode. I was having a flirty conversation with a female friend living overseas and she said
"You can have a conversation with any part of me, my dear beautiful... you can converse with me as long as you want... It would be, a intense conversation"
Goddd... There is so many things I want to tell her, that she already knows. But I must resist. I don't really know what I'm asking you all. Just, I don't have anyone to tell about this. And I'm like freaking out from excitiment, resistance, and impatientcy.
What race of women are into white men? Im in college getting a science degree and im curious which ones ill have success with? Normally id go for white girls, but they are not loyal and fuck all races of men. I dont really see white men with other races of women though, so do women not like us?
I googled this dont post that okcupid pic, i need real life not internet memes.
>i need real life not internet memes
>actual genuine study
>opinion of someone on /adv/
When i was in my teens/early 20s, i stumbled over myself and blushed, and apologized for bothering them
Now, "ok. No worries." and go about my day.
26. She didn't really change the course of my life, she merely added to what was there to make it better.
There was a girl years before who did change my life(my first kiss, and the first girl i ever truly cared for) but we were never in a relationship. Before her I kind of didn't think relationships were for me because I had low enough confidence I thought I wasn't worth one, and that I couldn't even feel in love in the first palce. After meeting her I just decided to live my life and not let random excuses hold me back.
Females in the 20-24 range:
Would you date a guy your age with a kid? I'm only 23, and I have a 3 year old daughter from my failed marriage. My ex-wife and I are on good terms for the sake of our child, and I'm a very involved and loving father. Everything else in my life, school, work, etc, is fairly well settled.
...Would all this be a massive red flag, or more simply overlooked than I'm making it out to be in my head? I suppose the divorce is also a relevant bit of info. Haven't quite gotten to the dating point, yet, but I'm just trying to gauge the reactions I might get to such disclosure.
>I do like him
I get you might have common interests. But why get involved with someone 20 years older than you? hes old enough to be your father. Imagine going out with him and people thinking you are his daughter. Or just, what if you got serious. And when you turn 30 he'll be in his 50s and starting to really age? What then?
No offense. But it just seems like a bad decision to me.
23 year old female here.
I'd be okay with dating someone with a kid. Sure it's not something I'd actively seek out, but I'd be okay with it. Overall, it comes down to the girl you're dating because everyone is different. Some would be okay with it and others would end the relationship before it really begins.
>imagine if other people presume shit
Not her but.
I don't see the problem really. Why would you care if someone makes that mistake? How is that a major problem in a relationship?
I fantasise, like 99% of the time. Most porn is so bad. Sure there's some good amateur stuff that might get me going but honestly it's not worth the effort for me. Fantasies are much nicer.
I also like sex sounds, so audio recordings are hot as well. But I usually just think about my ex or fantasize about people I know, I need some sort of "narration" to get off.
I understand all that but at this time we're not involved enough (or at all) to think about stuff so far away. I understand it's not the wisest thing I can do right now, but I don't see the issue with trying things out and seeing where it goes.
How many of you guys would flirt with someone you can't have just because it's the only way you can interact with her?
>every M/W this guy and I take our coffee break together
>He's not my boss, but he's a boss
>company has strict rules about fraternizing and shit
>We both get along really well, clearly both find each other attractive
Now I'm wondering if this is all he wants, the really obvious flirting a few days a week for his self esteem and enjoyment, or if he might genuinely like hanging out with me. He seems very caring towards me, wanting to always help me fix whatever problem I mention, even if it's something tiny he always wants to help me find a solution and looks genuinely upset if I say I'm not doing well when we talk about life stuff.
>But I usually just think about my ex or fantasize about people I know, I need some sort of "narration" to get off.
Ok. I was just curious. There is a girl that I've been crushing on hard. And we flirt, a lot over text. she tells me how she wants to kiss me everyday. God, I get boners just form seeing "you have a new message from *****" before I even read it I get hard. Even if it's not lewd, just talking to her and seeing her name gives me boners. I'm just wondering if she fantasizes about me. She's told me many times "I want you here, come take me".
It would just be really cool if she does.
I never fantasize about people I know. Ever. I don't want to imagine them being a way that they might not actually be. I feel like it would be really unhealthy for me to fantasize about someone I like, because not only is it creepy but it turns my feelings into just that: a fantasy. And I want being with him to be a reality.
And to answer your question, I pretty much just fap to imagining a faceless guy with a great body fucking me.
the point is: is so difficult to have a positive conversation in politic that if you don't have a good person to talk to you'll just end up with a big "you don't understand" or something similar which is a huge turn off
it's easier to start with something more common like TV series
>girl: "i like Game of Thrones and the walking dead"
ok, next one.
I had the impression that girls who read Erotica tend to be the more isolated kind. Just based on how I've known girls.
I don't think you're a particularly normal person given that description you gave but thanks.
A lot of women are going to say no. Think back to when you were single before the marriage, would you want to date a single mom? Think about why it was unappealing.
Some will say yes, but it seems only logical to go for single mothers yourself since they could relate to the issues being a single parent causes.
>Feel good about yourself, you're somebody's reason to masturbate!
Lol, I hope you're right. But your compliment has me feeling a bit flattered. Why do you say that?
we do flirt a ton, but I feel too shy to ask that question..
>Why do you say that?
Well, from what you've said it seems she's flirtatious and into you as well, and if she actively texts you how she wants you in her bed and whatever, why wouldn't she get off to you? I assume you get off to her, surprise, girls aren't all that different. We're human too.
I enjoy politics as a test almost, I also just enjoy it. If you can't get engaged in that or simply can't enjoy a person that can face you intellectually then I just shut off. I don't even wanna be with that kind of person anymore. It's not just politics obviously. Most people are bigots so I don't judge too harshly but it's important to me to be able to talk about complicated things with people without major problems. If you can't handle things like that what hope do you have of handling a situation you're more heavily invested in? It's like the perfect person for pointless arguing that becomes big fights.
I don't want that.
She sent me this gif and said "we are being watched". She does this a lot too. So maybe you're right
I always try and do the morally correct thing, so I wouldn't be adverse to the notion of a child.
But, I would be concerned about the child, depending on its age. If it is still very young, I feel it will be easier to create a family together. If she is somewhat older, however, I fear that she may come to abhor me. I wouldn't be her actual mother, after all.
My mother dated several men after my father left us, and it can be very difficult to accept someone who wants to act and behave as your father, but you know isn't.
Question for girls and guys
I just found out the guy I like fucking hates spiders. It would be funny if it weren't so weird. Like I thought I saw a spider on the wall near him and when it turned out it was just some mark, he looked genuinely pissed that I was wrong, almost like I had said that just to get a rise out of him. I didn't fucking know he'd react like that, and obviously I thought there was an actual spider on the wall.
I'm not sure how to feel about a grown man in his 30s having such a strong reaction to arachnids. Thoughts/opinions?
Anon I don't comprehend why you're asking this to us. Don't you ever think before you go here? He has an irrational fear of spiders. It's a phobia. It's among the most common of phobias. It's a pretty damn irrelevant detail also.
What am I even supposed to think here? Of course you should dump him.
Is it a mistake to tell my gf that I absolutely hate when she looks at my message but doesn't reply? Or is this one of those "better to bite your tongue and move along" situations. I mean things always work out in the end, there is no problems in our relationship or anything.
I'm worried I'm bugging this girl but she always responds and is generally pleasant.
But I also know I'm the kind of person who would be nice even if someone was annoying me, too.
Do you guys ever get that feeling?
I'm afraid she's going to think it's petty. Our relationship is based on talking to each other about everything, but I'm inclined to think this is something that could be better off going unsaid.
i have a really weird complex where i can only eat foods that are their own containers, and where those containers are also edible. (see: fruits, vegetables, i can chew gum but only if it has a paper wrapper that will dissolve in my mouth as i chew it) in order to cope i drink a lot of like protein/vitamin shakes, as i don't have an issue with bevarages -- it's only things i have to chew that this applies to. tomato soup is ok but other soups are usually not.
because of this, when i go to restaurants or the movies or wherever where people traditionally eat or snack, i'll typically bring a few apples or something with me and explain to the waiter or bouncer (ticket taker? whatever the movie guys are called) about my condition. they're usually cool with it.
should i be up front about this? most girls seem kind of weirded out about it when we go out for like dinner or something. should i explain it to them prior to the date?
>our relationship is based on communication
>this might be better left unsaid
Pick one, because those aren't the same. Has she ever dismissed something you brought up, or have you never discussed small annoyances like this?
She's never dismissed anything, although it's usually bigger topics than this. But I feel like this is something that I view as a little more important than she does. I guess after sitting down and thinking about it, I feel like maybe I'm just being irrational like >>16852553 said to another Anon, I mean she does have a life.
Ok so need help. I tend to like males bc of their chest and facial features. I don't like dicks tho, I rather fuck a girl. Girls are adorable and sweet(I feel a more dominant) I like them but sometimes I wanna get in a relationship with a guy.
Extra info: I'm a girl and I've only dated 1 girl before and it didn't last long. I'm decent looking its just that I have 4 guys that like me rn and idk if I wanna hit it off with any of them.
Thanks, all, that's something to think on. I know it varies from person to person, of course. Still, gives me some insight. I wouldn't ever really want or expect any woman in my life to become my daughter's 'mother', since she already has one, but maybe that's even more awkward.
Anyway, thanks again.
Well, that's not good.
From my understanding of men, if you date them, they will expect to penetrate you. If this isn't something you feel comfortable with, then I wouldn't recommend it.
I'm sorry to hear about your experience with another girl. Sometimes it's difficult to find the one that makes you happy, that stuff's universal, heh. But, don't let it get to you. I am sure you can find a girl who won't mind your more dominant side. If you are okay with penetration, but not a real penis, strap-on sex toys can be a nice alternative. Good luck!
Maybe I worded it in a wrong way.
I guess what I was trying to say is that I would want to be on good terms with your daughter, as your new girlfriend. I don't know why, but I always considered a mother to be someone you could confide in, someone you could see as a role model. So, naturally that's what I'd want. But, maybe I'm the one who's awkward in that regard.
Bad idea, the average male will be frustrated and come to resent you. Maybe some poly shit would work but that would still limit your options significantly.
People have gotten cancer younger. If shit is acting funny, go see a doctor.
Phobias are by definition irrational. I used to be afraid of dark outside, doesn't mean I could just logic it away.
Doesnt really appeal to me desu. But I know other people love it.
Well, I think it's awkward either way. No matter what, as a father, those are two parts of my life I must inevitably bridge at some point in the future, so the relationship between daughter and love interest would have to come up. I'm just not sure what I'd prefer that relationship to be.
I've done it once, at a skiing trip with two friends I had to share a room with for a week when I was 16. No porn, though, we just masturbated.
Never really did it again or even talked about it.
Mmm, I don't want to impose any of my own notions on you, but I suppose I would wish for her happiness?
That's why I suggested that, if she was younger, it would be easier to build a good relationship between the two. It isn't necessarily about acting as a new mother figure, but about your daughter's happiness.
Teens and older children can easily come to resent the new family addition, and that can create a tremor in not only your daughter's relationship with your new love interest, but also between you and your love interest.
And between me and my daughter, at that. Yeah, I think I have it luckier in that regard in that she's only 3½. My parents stayed together until I became an adult, so I lack a lot of firsthand context with this sort of thing.
A positive relationship is something I'd foster, for certain.
Orgasms are for niggers
They'll take over soon enough anyways
I do this too. I realize now that I have never actually asked anyone out though. I've asked them if they'd be up for walking with me to another place on campus, or studying together later, but I've always intended for those things to be innocent.
I'm such a beta fuck.
When I was probably in the 8th or 9th grade (19 now) I was at a friends house with said friend and another one of our mutual friends. One of them was playing some sort of adult flash game on the computer where the goal was to complete a level, unlock a set of pornographic pictures. That led us to some other interesting websites, but never have I actual masturbated with another dude present.
No matter the age I can't see a time where that wouldn't be awkward as fuck.
How do you guys deal with random boners? I get a chub during any contact with women really and it's a real problem when you're trying to console a friend who's crying, wants a hug, and you have something growing down under.
If you got a boner and some clear space, stand and flex your quads and glutes as hard as you can.
You direct blood from your dick in your muscles.
Should kill a boner in under a minute
How would one go about attempting to date someone in an authority position at not a job, but a day-center? He's a van driver and staff, and I am a member. We're both legal age, and both single.
Women, a question that is not relationship advice or about sex for a change: why is it that (based from my observations, friends, partners, family) most women aren't as dedicated/invested in hobbies as men? It seems to be somewhat rare for a woman to have a real hobbie in general, let alone be super invested in it. Am I missing something? Do women not have that drive to become amazing at a specific thing and show the world? Lack of competitive spirit/drive?
And yes, this is a gross generalization, of course, but it's what I experienced throughout my 20-something years on this earth.
Be upfront about, but do what you can to help yourself (but I assume that you're already doing that). Hiding it won't do you any good and doesn't make sense. Yes, it's weird, but it's nothing that suddenly makes you unattractive or undesirable.
Perhaps you and the majority of women consider different things "real hobbies". I agree thought that, on average, women are less ambitious. It makes sense on a basic, natural level.
Question for both genders.
I love my gf, almost going out for a year. We've been long distance for like three months. She came to visit last week and it was really nice. Problem is this, there's no real plans for her to move here and I will be here for a long time. How do I handle this? I'm trying my best, but there's no substitute for her being here. I don't even know how to work through this mentally, because the relationship is good. The only downside is she isn't the best looking person I've been with but her personality is by far the best.
Question for girls.
Is it normal for girls to put loose hairs that fall off of your head and stick them to shower walls and just leave them on hairbrushes and on my bathroom counter and in the sink?
I just had a shave tonight and had to peel some of my girlfriend's hair from my face because it was sitting in the sink from this morning before I began to fill the basin.
Do you girls have a method for disposing and handling loose hair? Is my girlfriend a slob for disposing of it by sticking it to walls and the sink ?
To be fair her hair is pretty long. Down to the lower part of her shoulders.
I don't think it's a shame. I think it just means the sexes have different strengths and are better at different roles (generally of course). It helps us keep balance.
I'd consider my relationship with my partner one of my greatest passions, even though many people wouldn't consider that a "real" passion or ambition. Or maybe other girls have makeup and fashion as a hobby. That sort of thing.
>Is it normal
Yes. People are constantly shedding a small amount of hair. For girls with longer hair, it looks more dramatic, as it just seems like more hair and it usually comes out all at once during brushing or showering.
>Do you girls have a method for disposing and handling loose hair? Is my girlfriend a slob for disposing of it by sticking it to walls and the sink ?
Yes, she's being a slob. My hair is down to my butt. I stick it to the shower wall during the shower so that it doesn't clog the drain, and then throw the hair all away once I'm out. I clean my hairbrush every few brushings.
would you make fun of a guy if you were cuddling in bed with him. And he starting having happy tears run down his face?
I'm texting with a girl I really like, she's telling me wonderful things. And I have a tears of joy running down my face. I'm just smiling and have some tears.
I'm worried I'll do this when we cuddle in a few days. I don't want to seem like a bitch or weird. But she just makes me feel so happy I can't help it
If I didn't know him well, I'd probably think he was a fucking weirdo and make any excuse never to cuddle again, to be honest. If I knew him better, I'd probably tease him about it. Not in a mean spirited way, but in a light hearted way.
My eyes tear up like fucking crazy if I go for a run. After running I've had people say "dude are you ok? You're crying". But i feel perfectly fine. They just tear. I don't know why
It just makes it harder to find something interesting to talk about with women in many cases. With most men you just talk about stuff you have in common or your hobbies, either things will be (at the very least) somewhat interesting to talk about. With many women you're either stuck telling them about your hobbies without any real input from them (boring) or you end up talking about something that you really don't care about (fashion, etc.)
I'm just rambling at this point, but it can be frustrating sometimes not only in relationships or dating but also when you just want to be friends with a woman.
Hmm I understand. However, I haven't had much difficultly finding friends of both sexes all with shared interests. I think it's a numbers game, like anything else in life. You're bound to find a girl who is into the same stuff as you as long as you keep looking.
Boys & girls:
My main hobby is memorizing the scripts of classic Ice Cube films. I've got Friday (1995), Boyz n the Hood (1991), Barbershop (2002), and Are We There Yet? (2005) completely on lockdown. I thought this would be good for dating (I can maintain a steady hour and a half of conversation with literally no necessary input on your half by reciting any one of these, making for no awkward silences [unless called for by the film]) but I rarely score second dates.
I'm a fairly introverted guy with very little dating experience, and while I'd kinda like to be involved with someone, dating just frankly kind of seems like a chore to me and I just don't think I could keep up the pace of dating that I see with most new couples I know/have known. Generally speaking, what would you say is the minimum appropriate amount/frequency of dating for the start of a relationship?
I'd say it depends on the amount of classic Ice Cube films you have memorized. There are 7 days in a week. It's inversely proportional. If you only know one by heart, you'll have to recite it several times in a week (several dates) to maintain her interest. However, once you know multiple you can cut that number down... they're always interested in the next movie (the suspense of what it will be will kill them! Will it be Next Friday ? Will it be Friday After Next ?) and will be willing to wait a little longer in between.
You tear up because you are sensitive. You need to experience emotions far more extreme than you are accustom to in order to desensitize yourself.
Personally, I'd recommend classic Ice Cube films. Nothing strokes the heart quite like Barbershop II: Back In Business (2004). Things like cuddling will be insignificant after you've seen it.
He is not referring to an ex-girlfriend, or an ex-boyfriend: he is referring to the classic Ice Cube film, xXx: State of the Union (2005). Like most classic Ice Cube films, a healthy relationship needs to be pursued with it to properly enjoy it. I wouldn't blame him/her for taking that trip again.
Yes, you can always find love. Much like the plot of the classic Ice Cube film Are We Done Yet? (2007), even the most damaged buildings can be repaired. Love can work its way through the most broken foundation.
No, no, no. Classic Ice Cube films teach that revenge is cold; to quote Boyz 'n the Hood (1991: "It just contributes to the killing of anotha brotha."
Happiness is not to be found in the misery of others. That is external, and unsustainable.
Bring up something topical in an appropriate environment. Before class, before work, after class, after work, etc. Talk about the class, or homework, or a popular show.
Here's a small anecdote about a creepy guy: I'm at a movie store looking for a movie. Guy comes up to me and just plainly asks "you got a 3d tv?" I say I don't, and he just starts talking about his new 3d TV he has for no reason. I thought it was a creeper, and I'm a dude so it was even weirder to me. That's not how you should approach people.
But at some point you just have to forget if people will call you a creeper, because it really doesn't matter if they do anyways, you just wanted to talk to them.
of course i'd be happy. Bad people deserve bad situation in their life, that's only justice. I don't wish her to be killed or getting sick, but getting poor with no future, unloved and such, hell yeah
Then why am I afraid I'll accidentally make more enemies than friends?
I don't want an entire city to hate me or some shit.
or I think too much about it/I'm too paranoid about it.
I really do believe I'll get beaten up/killed by talking to people as a person.
Because your mind is lazy and is shortcutting any kind of rational thought. You want to make friends, your mind is telling you all these excuses of why you shouldn't approach people, but your mind is wrong because it doesn't really have experience talking to people yet.
I was very disheartened and disappointed, but I went in expecting to be rejected. Occasional thoughts about her came up in the following days, which I quickly remedied with reminding myself that I didn't really expect her to accept and general insulting myself. I was over her in about five days.
Yes, I would be disappointed but it depends on context, if they were a self sufficient adult then it's awful but if they were a poor or ill teen/child themselves, it's different or they may have been exploited by con artists. So it depends
It might give some level of base satisfaction, but it won't really change my general life. When my ex was dumped by the guy she left me for and had a miscarriage because she was irresponsible, I rolled my eyes more than anything honestly.
Bummed out, kept myself busy so I wouldnt wallow in my piss, and moved on with my life.
I dumped a woman once because she was a picky eater if that counts.
My bf just slept over and we fucked 4 times. I was absolutely enjoying myself but didn't feel like orgasming. Now he left and suddenly i'm horny af and have the urgent need to fap. What the hell /adv/?
I know that feeling, I don't deserve any fun, or happiness, or anything really. I stopped eating for a week because I thought I didn't deserve that either. I apologize when somebody helps me or takes their time to talk to me, etc.
A guy rejected me and said my eyes were too big
A different guy rejected me because he said my boobs were too small (I know they're small, but I thought at least he'd say something else and save me the embarrassment)
I rejected a guy for being too optimistic and he acted like that black, hyper UPS guy from mad tv and it eventually got really annoying.
Maybe your boobs are too small for your eyes.
let's say, a Light Speed Galaxy faring Lobster cut my dick off and it is sent to outer space, I amazingly survive because at that speeds my wounds are obviously cauterized, but I lose my dick.
Would you girls ever be with a man who has balls but no Johnson?
Also, is penis transplantation even a remote possibility at all?
Given that the penis is really just a hose and not part of the reproductive system that much. You could have a rod installed basically. You'd feel practically nothing but skin contact at most but maybe she would be happy. Not sure they can do ejaculation, seems difficult. And you'd have to be pleasured without one of the primary ways of pleasuring a guy.
You can do artifical insemination probably, not sure how they'd extract the stuff. But I don't see why not.
I have hannah minx eyes and no boobs to follow through with it.
Probably makes me look ill and fragile and incapable of birthing babies.
How do girls even be romantic witheout it being corny and overly sweet?
My bf's really into cute gestures and stuff. I, on the other hand have a rather dry approach when it comes to romantic gestures. I wouldn't mind doing some stuff to shiw him that i care but i actually have no clue how. Any ideas that aren't very cringey /adv/?
Why are women such hypocrites? Online and on television, I always read and hear them rushing to the defense of rejects or those with embarrassing conditions, but when I try talking to them in real life, it seems like they're shy or threatened by me and just respond as much as they have to until I go away. Oh, and I just love when women have their kids with them and they can't take and hold them close fast enough when I talk to them; keep quick telling them to stay behind her when if they were any closer to her, they'd be back in her womb.
I've never been good at talking to people. I wasn't allowed to go places, enjoy what everyone else got to enjoy, or visit people growing up, and I can never think of anything to say to people. I've never had friends; I've had acquaintances in school at best. It's easy for me to just be alone but turns out you can't get a job or home that way.
I'm just trying to meet people and learn to speak, but it doesn't help when I try and women act like I'm some rapist when I'm no worse than those they rush to the aid of on tv or the Internet.
>phimosis (Working on it, frenulum some times aches when masturbating GOTTA GO FAST tier)
>Less than 5 inches
>not a fan of humiliation
>obsessed with the concept oral sex and from knowledge about oral sex
>consider PiV sex the same as drinking water
>paranoid of STD's
I'm going to have a hard time finding a woman who likes a man like me.
Or is it as hard for all of us dinguses?
I've heard guys complain about it before. Not sure how it works but I'm guessing IRL our eyes compensate for lighting conditions that make some guys look worse and it doesn't work for photos since you aren't actually there.
I don't have much sense in Clothing. I figured I'd ask you because /fa/ sucks.
Do you all like when guys wear these shirts? What if I rolled up the sleeves to just below my elbow? With a nice set of jeans. I'm a skinny guy btw
I don't own a lot of clothes. And I'm trying to find stuff for Spring and Summer. Typically I just wear the same 2 tshirts.
>What condition do you actually have?
Oh, so I need to carry around papers and shit to show women I have some documented condition? Ok, so what's the condition called where you aren't given the same shot at life as everyone else and can't even fit in with those who claim they support those who don't fit in? I'd go file the paperwork right away.
It never was a memorable thing to me, but with my bf it's - mindblowing. Like holly shit i almost cum from him inserting his dick alone. It's a warm and full feeling. He usually has to work his way in with a few thrusts to get my wetness all over and that first balls deep thrust is amazing. it might be my favorit thing about sleeping with him. It might sound cheesy, but something about him actually being inside me with a part of his body feels so right. I mean, he can't be any nearer to me than that and i love it.
As for the alpha/beta thing: i've had crushes on both and for me it's not a difference. If i have a crush on you you have the ability to make my juices flow, regardless of being beta/alpha.
Well, i frequent /fa/ and you're right, that might work if you are an edgy art student in a big city. Otherwise i'd strongly advice you to find out what colors fit you. Then go for clean cuts, pls no "funny" shirts and childish prints. Hoodies, shirts and jeans are GOAT for a casual look. The moat important thing is that you learn to figure out if somethong actually fits you. For exmple: the seam of the sleeves should rest exactly on top and end of your shoulders and so on. There are guides for what to look for to find fitting clothes. Read them. Find a color palette and try to somewhat stick to it. That way you have a lot pf possible combinations to choose from. For example: black is too harsh for me so my "neutrals" are greys and clean white. I then buy some things in blue and green tones since they fit me way better than reds and yellows. For you it might be black and browns with additions of burgundy and blue, who knows. Find that out, it will make your life easier.
I've never thought it felt very good, with my fingers or other stuff (hairbrush handle, etc) but when I bought my first actual sex toy I got really into it.
Hard to describe, it's a rather content, full feeling and you can kind of feel your walls contracting a bit around whatever you insert, it feels really nice even if you don't orgasm from it.
What I meant was just the type of shirts.
I have a solid black and a navy blue T shirt (not print or designs) that a i wore almost every day last year. I wanted to get some shirts that are nicer than Tshirts
But i feel cringey doing somw overly cheesy stuff like writing a love letter or something. On the other side i thought about handwritting out the cutest texts we have sent each other so they don't get lost (we text a lot because he's out of the country for education atm).
>Only if vagina enlargement becomes affordable at the same rate.
Clearly you mean clitoral, which is already naturally possible.
>mfw I want to literally give head to a large clitoris while fingering the G-Spot
You fuckers will call this cringe but you're just proving me right here
I see shit like >>16854417 and it enforces that it's impossible to tell who to trust
Also why are you girls so judgmental? So I'm not talkative and I can't make banter. I still talk and answer questions in class, I'm not a fedorafag or anything. I don't dress weird. I don't say creepy or weird shit. I'm just blunt. If I need a pencil I turn around and ask everybody
>Hey does anyone have a pencil?
That doesn't mean you need to look terrified when you're in your car and I pass by you 30 feet away, minding my own business. I asked you for a pencil dammit, what's fucking creepy about that? What the fuck did I even do wrong? I don't want to fucking rape you. ffs I don't even want to talk to you. You all just hate me for no fucking reason while I mind my own business and then tell people I'm creepy to make my life harder. I don't dress like I'm creepy, I don't say creepy shit, I don't fucking smell and I'm fairly fit. Did I not meet your quota of fucking tapout shirts?
tl;dr Introverted = creepy and it's fucking dumb
Out of the blue in the midst of a texting conversation a girl asked if I was a virgin. I consider the relationship platonic and we're both in our 20s, so that's kind of weird.
Does she want the d, is she making fun of me saying I act immature, or is something else going on
You don't have to "bring it up". You prpbably will be one of those guys that will kiss my feets when doing "missionary with feets on your chest". If your girl isn't absolutely clueless she will figure it out on her own. Just casually include her feet.
I'm a guy, I think I have autism so I have trouble approaching girls. Eg last girl I talked to I walked up behind her while she was listening to music and waved my arms so she could see me. How do I improve?
Also I talk about stuff like how gravity works or dinosaurs or whatever is cool people like me at first but they devaluate me? Like I don't bitch about mundane things like gossip I kinda get back seated in groups?
How often do you see your girlfriend? Am I justified for getting upset that I only see my boyfriend of 2 years once every 2-3 weeks?
I don't ask to see him on a daily basis or anything, but instead we agree on days that neither of us will be busy, and he always breaks our dates because "something came up". It hasn't always been like this. The excuse is always that his midterms/projects/whatever are too much for him. If I get sad, then he comes back and says I don't care about his education and blames me for ruining nights by being upset over it. Ugh. We hang out every night (on Skype, lmao) and he still seems interested and I know I'm not the other girl, but I'm sick of never physically seeing him.
I see my gf 2 or 3x a week and stay over maybe once every other week
Been dating a year
But we live like a 1hour commute away from each other, although I work closer to where she lives.
if you've been dating that long and it's not a long distance relationship arrangement or were not aware that 8 months out of the year he would be MIA, then you're rightfully upset/disappointed
Talk about it with him more, or do something to make him jealous like go on a trip with your girlfriends for a weekend or a week and don't tell him what you did
Boys and girls, what do you do when you don't feel like you belong elsewhere?
I just, I just don't know how to explain it because it's really contradictory. I don't like to settle down for one thing, like those people who act like mods and dress like mods and never listen to anything but soul. I like many things, so I wanna hang out with the rockers, the mods, the punks... I love people, I hate labels.
But at the same time, I don't feel I belong anywhere. and it concerns me in many ways, specially in the love sense, because I feel people meet their partners from common friends and stuff. Like, you know, "they met at their friends party"
I have many friends but I don't belong to any group of people. I hang out with many people casually and I'm sure they like me, but at the end of the day I don't feel I belong anywhere. I think we could go and get to know each other well because as I said I think they like me and would be glad to get to know me better. but for now I feel all I am is this very outsider-kind of person. Very friendly, but doesn't wanna marry to any faction
Maybe i'm feeling like this because I gotten out of a very weird friend relationship with someone very toxic, very negative, that I used to exclusively hang out with because of fear of not being accepted by the rest... and now that I ditched that fella I'm really taking my time going out with a lot of different people and getting to kno them better slowly
I just don't know what to do, /adv/... You been on a similar situation?
Not a guy, but my boyfriend and I have been dating each other for a similar amount of time, and we see each other once a week. We're always happy to see each other and do make an effort to see each other outside of our once a week time.
Your boyfriend sounds like he either sucks are prioritising his time, or he's just plain neglecting you. It's not wrong for you to want to spend more time with him. In fact, he's wrong for making you feel bad about wanting to spend time with him. If you've done the usual 'go talk to him', then I suggest that you have a good think about where this relationship is going. By the two year mark, most couples have some sort of plan for the future (assuming that you're right and you're not the side chick). If you do, think about whether this behaviour is something you want to deal with for who knows how long. If you don't, have a serious talk to him about it. If he seems evasive or otherwise dismissive, then I do suggest thinking about whether you actually want to be with him.
My boyfriend literally lives across the street from me, which is hilarious. There is 0 commute for us to see each other. If I didn't live on a much higher floor in my building, we could wave to each other from our bedrooms. We're both in university and both have somewhat busy schedules, so I don't really push it because I'm busy too. Last semester we saw each other 1-2 times a week.
But yeah, I agree. I can't help that I get upset about it. We have the same argument every time he breaks off a date. I guess I'll try just talking to him about it directly instead of my usual get upset>be quiet> eventually talk it out.
I'm sure. It's hard to explain, but I know I'm not the side chick.
He's happy when he sees me, but the effort is definitely one sided. I completely agree with you, so thank you. He is AWFUL at prioritizing his time, and he spends 3-4 hours a day at the gym with his pals, which was the deal before we started dating, but I am definitely not a priority when you add in school and homework. I know those things are important, but not an afternoon off in 2-3 weeks? No one is that busy. I guess I do have to reflect on it and figure out if I can keep dealing with this.
Just ask him if he would like to try this new position that you found online or something. Or you can spice things up too, not just letting him do the work (eg start by dressing up or wearing sexy lingerie)
I know this question has been asked to eternity, but ok seriously where the f*** do I meet you.
I'm a pretty decent dude, working two jobs, going to college, and lifting. I have my shit together.
I go to a very small campus in a computer science program. There isn't a single girl in my classes. The rare girl I do meet with on campus is usually not compatible.
I've tried POF, but it's dire on there. Every profile I click on seems to be a single mom or says something about being a country girl.
I don't drink so bars aren't really a thing for me.
I don't really know where to look at this point. Even if I do start chatting with someone real or online, the girls I have talked to just seem uninspired to me. Like they have no ambitions or drives and generally just seem flat to me.
I guess it's just part of living in a small town?
I met my bf trough friends. That seems to be the single best way to approach it. You surely know a few guys. One of thwm might have a sister. This sister might have some friends, and so on.
In my case it was my best female friends brothers friend. We casually met on some get togethers. We had amazing chemistry from the first moment, but took 2 years to actually make a move. But i kind of like that. We had ample time to find out if we are compatible. I'd say going to gatherings where you might meet friends/family of your friends is your best bet. If there are no such things, make your own. Throw a bbq-party and tell everybody to bring somebody with them. In the end it doesn't matter if they are male or female, single or married, or how old they are. Everybody is a potential way to meet your future gf/wife
I guess it's because I can't seem to orgasm. I do my best to make him ejaculate in all kinds of ways, and he seems happier and happier each time, but I just feel dissatisfied. He does his best, but it's just not good enough and we already tried toys and stuff.
Explain? I avoid the single moms like the plague. In my age bracket, I think it kinda signifies problems, and also I'm not really at the point in my life to deal with children. It's not that I don't like kids, it's more of I'm still mostly a kid myself. I mean I'm still in school, albeit post-secondary.
So, the problem is that you can't orgasm. Do you think it's because of his skills/effort or do you just have a difficult time getting off? If so, you can just tell him that you enjoy sleeping with him but are frustrated about your lacking orgasms. i know this shit sucks. I never had an orgasm besides when masturbating untill i was 27. And even now it is a rare occurance. In the end, it never really was lacking skills or determination. It was just be not being able to relax and let go. Think about that. Long and hard.
I know I have trouble letting go, I`m never sure what to think about or what to do, and I`m scared of making a mess. I`m disgusted with touching my clit or any part of my vulva, including fingering. I`m just awful.
I stopped masturbating this year since other guys still masturbate, you probably couldn't tell the difference between us so I guess they really don't know why they should stop masturbating