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Old Thread: >>16833512
Would a woman consider dating a guy whose been single for more than 3 years?
is being 6 feet and 170 lbs to fat?
So I've been hanging out with this guy for a little over a month.
When we were together on Thursday I saw three different girls text/snapchat him. Before I left, I asked him if he was talking to any other girls besides me and told him I wouldn't be mad if he was since we aren't dating. Of course he said he wasn't.
Since then we've barely talked. Did I fuck everything up?
This is one of those cases where we can't at all answer your question because it depends almost entirely on exactly HOW you brought it up (like how you acted, what tone of voice you used, how it fit in contextually, what your previous dynamic was, what your relationship was, and a slew of other factors).
Tbh, if i'm hanging out with a girl, but not dating, and she springs that on me, I'm probably going to be tripped up by that and assume she's the over-eager type that jumps ahead waaay too many steps at a time. Or maybe not, depending on her personal and our rapport.
So basically I lost 9 points on the BMI scale. I'm working towards losing another 5 points and I'll be where I want to be. Do you think it's worth trying to date in the interim or if I should just wait till I hit my goal weight.
I'll greentext it
>hang out with guy before he goes to work
>he has this thing where his phone is connected to his tv so when somebody texts him it shows it on the tv
>first girl texts him
>says it his friend's gf
>second girl snapchats him
>he doesn't reply to her or say anything about it
>about 30 minutes later a girl texts him "hey"
>doesn't reply or say anything about it again
>a few minutes before I have to leave
>"hey, can I ask you something?"
>"are you talking to any girls besides me? I know we aren't dating so I'm not mad, I just don't want to get involved with a player."
>"no. I promise I'm not."
I didn't bring it up after that. We don't talk much on the weekends because of his job so I wasn't worried, but he didn't text me at all today.
I'm in my first relationship since 2010 back when I was 18. Traded /v/-cards with this girl and now were dating.
How do you date someone that goes to therapy 5 days a week and is mentally ill enough to get free living and housing from the government?
I'm not trying to get her pregnant
I'm afraid cuz they claim were soul mates. What is love even? To be a boyfriend / girlfriend to someone?
I would date someone knowing it would only last a certain amount of time - then ending it as healthy as possible. But is it normal for people to go into relationships thinking "it will last forever?"
girls and fellow guys
This girl obviously likes me a lot. Even though we are just friends (a bit more actually, but we are not "dating") she does a ton for me and is just awesome. I enjoy every minute that we talk.
I don't know why though, but I'm starting to get a little intimidated. It's weird. Like I feel like I can open myself up with her. Normally I'm very closed around girls. But her I can be myself. And it's crazy, because I would think that would drive her away. But she likes me still! We skyped today for 3 hours after I got off work. I was laying in bed and she was laying in her bed close to the screen. So it seemed as if we were in bed together. I started to dose off during our convo and when I opened me eyes she was just laying there watching me with this huge sweet smile on her face. It was extremely cute. She then told me to get some sleep, blew me a kiss and then logged off.
I think I'm just intimidated because she likes me. I feel like I'm a weird person. I always stress over my appearance and feel bad with I see myself in the mirror (even though I'm getting in decent shape). I just don't like myself. So I always think after we Skype she will lose interest because I'm weird. But she DOESN'T. When I woke up I had a message from her that said "sleep well my beautiful. I will be sending you happy thoughts while you sleep. And I wish I could wake you up like this gif ;) "
Why do does she like me? I don't understand. I like her a ton. But don't get why she likes me (gif related)
Alright, ladies, be brutally honest with me:
Does a guy become more tempting to date when you know he has lots of money?
How about the other way, does a guy become less date-able when you know he's broke?
Depends on how he got the money. If he worked hard for it, then yes, especially if there's an inspirational story behind it. If it's daddy's money, then no, that's a complete turnoff. Money alone isn't going to win me over - I can earn my own money and I don't need to live an extravagant life to be happy.
All that matters is that you both communicate well enough to understand eachother's needs/desires. What do you want out of a partner? What do you need? What does your partner want/need? Relationships break down when those things don't line up anymore. The only way to know is to talk about it.
It's scientifically proven.
Go watch the Discovery Channel Documentary "The Science of sex appeal" it goes into detail how sexual attraction works. It's very interesting actually.
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8 1/4 inch long / 6 1/2 inch around penis that lasts for two minutes
5 1/2 inch long / 5 inch around penis that lasts for twenty minutes?
Presuming refractory periods for both are twenty minutes.
tl;dr is it really size of the boat or motion of the ocean?
Obviously the twenty-minute dick. It baffles me how you guys are all so afraid your dicks are too small. Any length is fine because it's about the quality of the person attached to it. Duh.
>It baffles me how you guys are all so afraid your dicks are too small.
It's not really surprising. Stupid, but unsurprising. I mean for perspective keep in mind we also have women here asking if they should be emo over their slightly different colored labia all the time.
You feel it, too, don't you?
>You feel it, too, don't you?
im being serious, my country is in the middle of a civil war and theres this new girl that has volunteered with us in the shelter and every time i see her i get this weird feeling and become too self conscious
I just wanna know if its love, the sound of mortar explosions or my gut instinct thats telling me she's a spy
GOOD LUCK ANON AND GIRL! I hope you guys don't get bombed.
how do i get her to like me when i'm 75% she isn't interested in me any more than as a friend
we talk practically all day everyday
also it's 100% online with skype/other shit l0l
just recently she began to open up to me more and talk about more personal stuff but i still don't know how i should continue considering the circumstances.
honestly the only reason i even still try at this point is because she's geniunly the only person I've been attracted (not just physically) to in a really long time.
I'm aware of how retarded this question is but I need to ask anyway.
If a woman starts wearing tight yoga pants and other clothes that show off the shape of her body (not necessarily see-through shirts or neckline-plunging cleavage, but body-hugging clothing), would you notice or be more attracted to her? Or would you now think she's a whore and she'd lose any chance of getting with you?
I have a feeling I'm starting to slip into the friendzone with the guy I like but I'm not sure I want to go so far as to ask him out. I want to get to know him a bit better first but I don't want to lose his interest while I'm taking a while to get to know him. I want to actually be in a relationship with him, not just fuck him (which of course I want to do as well) because I genuinely like him, but there are still some things I don't know about him yet which is why I haven't yet outright asked him out. I need more time getting to know him but feel like he isn't as interested as he used to be...or maybe he's just less over the top about it.
Will visually-whoring myself out keep a guy's interest while I get to know him better?
i'm not the person you should be taking advice from considering my experience with relationships are awful but I personally think they'd only see you as more attractive; IF your body actually looks nice in yoga pants/tights/etc
>would you notice or be more attracted to her? Or would you now think she's a whore and she'd lose any chance of getting with you?
Hard to say. Basically you can show off your assets but still not come off slutty, and it's a bit of a tight rope to walk. If you're not sure where you stand with him just ask him out though, him getting a good view of your camel toe won't change his no to a yes.
You don't need to dive straight into commitment, but just go on some casual dates.
I'm not more interested in a guy that has lots of money, but I am less interested in a guy that is broke.
We don't fucking know why she likes you, only she knows that. Stop asking stupid questions here.
20 minutes is too long to have sex, but 2 minutes is too short.
Short hair has more widespread appeal. Long hair is generally considered a more niche preference. If you're deciding on a hairstyle to get girls, it really doesn't fucking matter how you cut your hair, it's not getting you a girl.
You can't make people like you.
Yeah I know I can't make anyone like me, it's just that she's practically the only person who can make me happy and I just wish I can make her happy too.
I don't even know where I'm going with this desu
If he went to see a prostitute while we were together then that's obviously a deal breaker. If it was something in his past then I think I could get over it, but it wouldn't be easy.
How is that creepy? That sounds awesome. But anything with the word "research" in it sounds awesome because that's what I do for a living too (not animals though).
I have a question for both genders that is going to make me and my friends sound like huge bitches, so I'm going to apologize upfront for how this is gonna look.
So I'm a woman in her mid-20s and I've fallen really hard for a guy in his early 30's who is, by all accounts, objectively ugly. He's straight up weird looking. I've only told two of my friends how into this guy I am. And he's absolutely brilliant. He's fucking funny, incredibly smart, has a fantastic job he's really passionate about, and we make each other laugh like crazy. We just get along so well. I've never gotten along with someone so easily before. And he's the most witty son of a bitch. I have so much fun around him. He's a coworker though so I'm not going to make any moves because that would be awkward if things don't go well, and I'm still deciding if it's worth it (shitting where you sleep, etc).
Anyway, like I said, I told two of my friends how I feel about this guy, and they both think he's way too ugly for me to possibly date. These aren't shallow people. One is older than me and married, and the other is younger than me and engaged, and both "settled" for guys in the looks department because they're in love. Even so, they think this guy is just too appallingly unattractive to consider as as mate I guess, so I'm kind of wondering... the fact I like this guy so much despite his physical appearance must mean I have genuine feelings, right? The fact I'm so enamored with him despite his looks must mean it's "real" or whatever, doesn't it?
tl;dr If I'm falling hard for a guy who's crazy fugg, it must be love, right?
Depends on the guy, and your body type/fashion style.
Me personally, I might notice what you're wearing, but unless you pull off a very specific vibe or have a very specific personality, you'll probably come off as kind of trashy to me.
He's really nerdy but very extroverted and not shy at all. He doesn't put much thought into his clothing but I tend to try to dress more nicely in general because I have work after class on some days and he already knows that about me so it wouldn't seem totally out of the blue for me to start dressing slightly differently.
For what it's worth, I'm 5'7" B-cup and work out 4 days a week, so it's not like I'm going to shove my gross body in his face. I'm by no means the most attractive girl in a room but I feel like my body might make up for where my face lacks. But I am wondering if I'll just seem trashy like >>16837252 suggested. We're both engineering grad students and most of the girls we hang out with either roll into class in actual pajamas pants and a sweatshirt, or dress in loose jeans or other normal clothing that's not flattering (or they're in business formal for some event, which isn't necessarily attractive, just formal).
Basically, will seeing a girl show off her body intimidate you or make you more interested/willing to keep flirting?
Yeah, it sounds like you love him a lot. Just watch out because once the honeymoon phase is over you might no longer be blinded by love and be put off by his unattractiveness. At least that's what happened to me.
Personally I notice I become more attracted to a girl if she wears body hugging clothing and has the body for it (and it sounds like you do), but I can't speak for the guy you're interested in.
I'd notice only if she looked especially attractive in those clothes. No, it wouldn't negatively impact my opinion of her.
However I'm also the kind of guy who cuts straight to the chase if I'm interested in someone. If I were this guy of yours and hadn't made a move yet, it's because I'm not interested to begin with. Yoga pants aren't going to change that.
Shit you're right. I didn't think of that. Do you mind sharing what you went through? Did you start resenting him, or feeling weird about yourself being with someone you no longer found attractive? I can't imagine what it would be like to look back and go "wow I can't believe I slept with THAT" but the thought sounds horrifying.
But I've known him since August and started feeling this way about him in November... is that long enough?
There's not much to share. My guy wasn't nearly as unattractive as yours sounds, more of a case of not my type really. I loved him enough to not care, but after a couple of years (yes, years, sorry) together he just stopped being attractive to me and I couldn't help but think that it wouldn't have happened if I had found him attractive in the first place. He is a handsome person, so I didn't really feel bad about it. Just not for me.
The guy I'm talking about is so my type that I can't believe I met someone like him. The only other person who comes close is my other female friend who is much older than me and a very unique person. I feel like maybe the fact I know he's my type might prevent me from running into the situation you had? But I still think you have a really good point, that if I don't find him attractive now, I likely won't later. Thanks.
Take the advice of >>16837393
and know when to let him down gently when the honeymoon phase is over.
Because, frankly, there are other women out there who either will never give a damn how he physically looks (or even are attracted to how "unique" he looks) that are more may be a better fit for him than you are.
Before you run away with that, this depends entirely on your own personality.
I'm a different anon and a guy, but I do remember one particular person who I thought was just kind of average-ish the very first time I met her, but then later on, after spending a bit of one on one time, I actually realized was one of the most intoxicatingly beautiful women I've ever been with.
When I say that he wasn't my type I mean purely in a physical sense. I'm actually still good friends with my ex because we get along so well, but I'm just not attracted to him anymore. He still tries to get back with me every now and then, but I just can't do it. There's nothing romantic there for me. No problem, and good luck.
Are people only subtle if they're fucking? Like i.e Two friends pretend theyre married(jokingly) when theyve never been in a relationship and they're "best friends". I know its a weird question but i dont really know how else to phrase it. In my experience when Im fucking a guy he makes sure im not visible on his social media. But with this other girl its different.
The guy I'm dating admitted that he drunkenly told his best friend about me (for the first time) about a month ago.
They apparently proceeded to discuss double teaming me. He assures me 'he was probably too drunk to remember'.
I told him the idea doesn't bother me anymore (I was initially very upset about it) but I really, really can't shake the idea that he doesn't respect me or see me as anything other than an object. He's really sweet otherwise and he seems to really care about me. I don't know what to do. Thoughts from guys?
Yeah that flag is redder than China's. Respectable guys don't talk like that, at least not once they reach the age where it's legal to be drinking. This is the territory of 15 year olds talking shit over XBox voice chat.
To be fair, I spent almost the entirety of Valentine's day pissed off at him about it. He's apologized left and right and admitted that what he did was wrong, and he seems genuine. I just can't shake it, but there's no point in torturing him over it. :/
Well it's great that he's learned how not to act like that. However you don't learn to be a particular person. He's not going to magically be different now. And it was only a month ago anyway. Come on.
Actually, while I do agree with you,
has a point - my boyfriend is pretty open sexually, and not object to threesomes or anything like that. We're both open to the idea - it's just that it struck me that he'd discuss something like that when he supposedly cares so much about me, you know? It's just been my experience that guys who genuinely have feelings for me have a hard time acting upon their darker/kinkier fetishes with me ("I can't bring myself to hurt you", "No babe, I can't treat you like that, I love you") so this is very different.
I moved to California in November. I've been dating my girlfriend for about ten months. She lives in new York. She visited last week, it was amazing. She's such a great girl, and I enjoyed myself. I have a problem though. She has a great job, she won't be moving here for at least a year, if at all. We Havent talked about a hard date and it worries me. I'm 25 almost 26 and if this is going to stall out I don't want to waste time. Am I wrong in thinking that? What should I do? Thanks.
Could be guys do this too and I'm just being a dick, but just in case I'm not:
Is there any particular reason some of you girls are so on and off, on and off with your privacy on social media, particularly twitter and instagram?
And why so obsessed with "stalkers" and how do you come to realize you have one in the first place? And by using the word, do you usually mean people who are literally harassing you, or do you somehow get wind of someone checking out your pics and you'd rather they don't? If it's the latter, turn the privacy back on?
>I told him the idea doesn't bother me anymore (I was initially very upset about it) but I really, really can't shake the idea that he doesn't respect me or see me as anything other than an object.
You let feminists put too much shit in your head senpai. Wanting to fuck you or even jokingly talking about it doesn't reduce you to an object.
I get that - my actual preferred form of sex is degradation, submission, forced, etc. I'm very much into being objectified.
I just don't see 'I told my best friend about you last night... I showed him your pictures, especially the one I really love from halloween...and he said he'd totally be down to eiffel tower you sometime' as appropriate valentine's day conversation????? It's not about the actual objectification, it's the confusion on where I stand in his eyes. I apologize if it seems irrational or doesn't make sense, those are just my personal feelings.
There is this extremely outgoing girl, loves to talk a lot, party, etc.
For some reason she ignored me
I'm not even trying to get laid, she's cute and all but i've just tried some casual conversation.
But she doesn't look at me the eyes.
I don't understand, she isn't shy at all.
Yea she is very hot and popular, i would like to know her more, but the more she does this, i don't feel any attraction anymore.
Maybe she is trying to tell me she likes me? well it isn't working, at all.
I had a fling with a girl earlier this year. I met her brother/roommate on /fit/ about 2 weeks prior and sold them pot.
She was super affectionate, saying shit like "I love that you like to cook" and showing PDA around my roommates. We fucked like rabbits, 2-4 times per day, literally all night when we saw each other. The first time I made all the moves, but after that she initiated a surprising amount, probably 1/3 times I saw her over a few weeks. I was thinking about saying something to her about getting too BF+GF-y because I had just gone through a really bad breakup. Before I could she said she wasn't looking for anything serious, because she almost got married to her last BF to get him citizenship. Turns out she thought it was just for citizenship, he actually wanted marriage. I said I was totally on the same page and gave her the tl;dr of my last relationship. After that she texted me and said we should stop seeing each other.
I hit her up a couple weeks later to get a book I had lent her back. When I met her I told her it was good to see her and that we should get lunch sometime. She said "yeah we can hang out". When I texted her to go do something she said "I'm kind of seeing someone right now".
I've seen her around campus a few times with a dude thats not very different from me but maybe slightly less classically attractive.
I wasn't very attached to this chick but her going from 'maybe too clingy' to completely uninterested quite literally over night sent me for a loop, and I can't tell if she just fed me a line or not about not wanting a serious relationship. What would cause a girl to do this? Does this guy just have a massive cock or something?
I don't know what kind of giant spider fingers you have but a cervix is at the very end of the vaginal canal and if she's properly aroused the average is typically 5-7 inches long. The 3-4 inch measurement is from a non aroused state which would probably be painful to play with regardless.
What that he trusts you enough to have a fling with his best friend enough to give you a cordial invitation where he was nothing but praiseful of you.
Some girls would kill to be you.
>typically 5-7 inches long. The 3-4 inch measurement is from a non aroused state .
That is a myth they already did a study and the average is 64 mm or 2.4 inches.
Depends entirely on the person.
Me, nah. But I don't give a fuck because my business is my business, and I want you to know about it, you do, or you don't.
True bro's aren't bro's unless 'til joust for the first time. No homo.
For real though, maybe he's just kicky as fuck, maybe they're both bi, but that shit's weird.
30's and older tend to use dating paysites because it helps filter the weirdo's and crazies and matches quicker and based on more subjects than the hook up sites.
I'm going to explain this by analogy. If you don't understand the point I'm making with it, please don't reply. It would diminish my faith in humanity to deal with someone that stupid tonight.
Analogy: As it turns out I like getting punched. As an independently thinking individual who may or may not share that preference, my SO mulls over the idea of beating the shit out of me. What's wrong with this picture?
You do realize I essentially agreed with you/came to the same conclusion as you in the last post, right?
>The problem is not the idea of a threesome. It's that he's talking about you like a sex doll that he wants to share with his friend.
> It's not about the actual objectification, it's the confusion on where I stand in his eyes.
I'm not here to argue, go stir shit up elsewhere.
>study of 28 women
here's a study with 50 saying 9.6cm is the average
The definition of a creep is the aggressive ugly guy that you don't want to look at while he's making eyes at you.
>You won't know until you ask
Not gonna ask, just talk with her a bit, if she still does the same, i'm just going to assume as you say >Maybe she just doesn't like talking to you
And move on.
Also the part about the vaginal canal expanding wasn't debunked, it was the use of the correlation to desire/arousal levels.
>A study published in the International Urogynecolgy Journal in 2010 found that vaginal length and deepness had no correlation to women's desire, pleasure, arousal and/or sexual satisfaction. It said that the amount of sexual enjoyment felt was most strongly determined by the connection you feel with your sexual partners.
Whether or not I'm into someone isn't so mathematical as to say that common interests outweigh awkward approaches, or vice versa. If I'm into you, I'm into you. Common interests are important for a long term relationship, but not for the initial attraction.
We don't know what she's thinking.
Why do you think knowing is going to make you feel better? She already threw you away. Also, we don't fucking know.
Do what you want.
My ex is getting married. I looked her up randomly and just got incredibly sad. What the fuck. She went on a date and met the guy with an okcupid account a mere two weeks after we broke up. What the fuck. We went out for almost four years.
What do you expect to get from people that aren't involved? Talk to her about her plans. If she can't give you solid information, then she clearly doesn't want to move any time soon, and you should probably cut your losses.
Girls, Are there any things that just get you to notice a guy? Like fashion or attitude-wise? I have a girlfriend who gets noticed and hit on by guys a lot, but we're super solid so it isn't a big deal, and I see us as being pretty much on par with eachother in appearance, but sometimes i just want to get noticed, and it feels lame not to, like ever
So what do you people generally expect in terms of romance? I tend to be more of a guy who likes to cook and help with home projects, but I feel like the fact I'm not a fan of going out will bite me in the ass for instance.
Why do you think that LDRs are notorious for not working? If you two have different goals in your life, you're not compatible, and that's fine, break up. It's justifiable to break up for any reason.
He smells good. Not in the soapy clean or cologne way. With the way society is, you're not likely to get hit on girls, even if you were 10/10. Best you can do is be confident.
I notice guys, but it's not like I make a move. If it weren't for gender roles in society that say that men should be the ones to make a move on girls, then I'd wager that she wouldn't get hit on
That's nice. People move on, why haven't you?
Whatever you want to
According to my friends in their 30s, online dating is pretty much your only option if you don't know people irl
Anything and everything
No one is obliged to talk to you
Somewhat, but not super important. If we can have a conversation without getting bored, then there's no problem. To answer the second part of your question, no. There's no substitute for basic social skills
I don't know why some girls do this, but the girls who do this are not the girls you want to be dating. I think people in general tend to complain about others who annoy them on social media, but do nothing to deal with them
What do you want us to tell you? I don't understand what your question actually is
Different people want different things. Could you be a little more specific in your question?
Do you think using like nice smelling shaving cream and aftershave would contribute to that, usually i use scentless deodorant and all you can really smell is that stuff. I don't know why i'm so curious about this
>Could you be a little more specific in your question?
I'm an introverted guy, I tend to prefer staying home. I still try to do romantic things, but I hate the idea of making reservations for some overpriced restaurant for instance.
On the flipside, I always hear about how that's the kind of stuff women typically want. I'm trying to gauge how much of an issue that kind of thing would be since I'm somewhat lacking in experience.
Some girls like that, others don't. I think the majority want a guy who's okay with doing both though. I have a friend who was getting bored with the guy she was dating until they actually went out together
Are there any things that you specifically notice in confident people that you don't in unconfident people? I struggle with having confidence a lot and i hear that a good way to start is just to fake it at first.
>Why do you think knowing is going to make you feel better?
The only thing that keeps it in my mind is the fact that I can't figure it out. Is she just weird? Did I misinterpret something? Was Jupiter in the House of the Rising Sun? Did her brother get weird?
>she already threw you away
So? Do what makes you happy.
No, it's pheromones, not your product.
Not wanting to go out often and refusing to go out are different things. Sometimes I like to eat things that I can't make at home.
You're asking a question that we can't possibly answer because we are not her.
Confident people stand differently.
Ask her to do something with you.
I feel you. Do you have any tips for boosting confidence? Don't want to seem bitchy but just like the way i was raised I overthink so much, and have confidence issues and stuff, and I just find it hard not to think about what others think of me
I think what I notice around confident people is how they stand and that they maintain eye contact constantly, they just have an air of nonchalance and relaxedness around them which is very attractive, I think.
girls, theres this girl on my facebook i was going to talk to so i can try to fuck. unfortunately she posted someshit a while implying she's either in a relationship or starting to date someone or something. would it be a bad idea to message her out of nowhere asking if she has a bf? we havent talked for a good minute
also fun fact someshit autocorrects to lithesome
Not those guys but
>stand up straight or with chest out
>try not fidget or mess with clothes too much
>speak up and don't stutter or say "um" or "uhh" too much
>fake it til you make it
So i'm interested in a girl who has recently, about 3 weeks, broken up with her boyfriend. I'm interested in her and have told her as such. She has told me she is still wants to get back with her ex.
If they get back together I'll obviously be disappointing but i'll force myself get over it, however if this doesnt happen - how long should I try before moving on? How long after a breakup does it become perfectly clear that I don't have a snowball's chance in hell of success?
Shortly before my gf came over today, she messaged me 'leaving my house now', we didn't set a time so to clarify (so I could get ready, etc) she replied 'omg I said I was'. I called her out for being snappy, she said she wasn't being snappy/or annoyed. I didn't push it/ask for an apology because I did want to see her today and couldn't be bothered dealing with the drama over something so petty.
Was what she said snappy? Should have I called her out more for it or did I do the right thing (by just dropping it)?
When you say that you went through a breakup more than once during a private conversation, are you hinting? or am I overthinking it?
I have good chemistry with a girl from my study group and she said this while we were having coffee a few days ago.
Yeah I'm pretty sure she's hinting she's single. That or she thinks you're coming on to her and she's not ready for a relationship yet because she "just" broke up. Which one it is depends if she's coming on to you in the same conversation she mentions the breakup.
I think it's her way of saying she'll only fuck gringos. Only they can have access/open her box or whatever. She's trying to say whites-only without actually saying it.
Question for girls
I was with my gf last night ans she asked if I was ok with her being friends with some guy from college because he likes her. I told her i didnt mind as long as he understood she has a bf and shes not available to be anything but friends, she told me yeah but she wanted me to know to avoid any misunderstandings
Was that a shit test? How did I handle that? Should I worry about this situation?
This will sound semi fucked up. I've been dating my gf for about 3 years now, when we starting going out she was on the swim team in hs, solid 10. I was on the water Polo team and won nationals, I got a full ride to uc davis. Anyways about a year ago her dad died and to cope with it she started earing... not a little but ALOT. She also left the swim team ( see where I'm going here) she went from about.. 90 pounds to almost 160 in the time span of about a year.. and she's getting bigger. It's to the point where I won't have sex with her because I'm not attracted to her at all and Everytime I bring it up I get called an asshole and she brings up her dead dad.. so question is, how do I get her to lose weight and if I can't should I just dump her?
I think being blunt about it is the best option. Tell her you're not feeling it anymore and that you can go swimming together, but that you dont appreciate her not taking care of herself becausr thats very unattractive to you
>Yeah I'm pretty sure she's hinting she's single. That or she thinks you're coming on to her and she's not ready for a relationship yet because she "just" broke up. Which one it is depends if she's coming on to you in the same conversation she mentions the breakup
Its such opposite ends of the spectrum.
how does a clitoral orgasm feel? is it analagous to a penile orgasm while an anal orgasm is analagous to a vaginal orgasm??
Nothing wrong with it per se, I would just wonder why anyone would not masturbate and assume he has some (likely weird) reason to not masturbate.
Either no libido or very religious, both of which would be a turn-off to me personally.
>really bad breakup with ex gf and took a while to get over
>met current gf while still getting over ex
>we start dating once I feel better
>I still see ex on campus but don't talk to her
>current gf knows this
>day before yesterday have sex dream about ex and being with her
>without thinking tell gf when she asked how I slept
>been distant with me since
>came back from classes and she's been even more distant
>completely unreciprocating any affection
is she overreacting or how bad did I fuck up? how do I fix it?
she knows, I was the person I vented to about it for a while before we dated. we broke up because she wanted someone else and I pined after her for months.. my current gf knows this
My 25 y/o bf prefers this type of girl - flat, petite. Obviously, they're typically underage but he doesn't have moral issues as long as they're physically developed.
Here's the thing. I'm 18 and tall as fuck. We've been dating for a little over a year - around the year mark, he confessed that he cammed sexually with a girl on omegle. This girl matched his type, and I found out later she recently turned 15. I told him this, and he denied it but says he took no screenshots so it doesn't matter.
I'm feeling really awful. Like I can never be young and small enough for him. Is this even a big deal, though?
No its very common among men. It's just like that. Most don't ever admit it obviously because it's considered underage in the US. Here 15 is the limit. It's still taboo of course but it's not regarded as pedophilia because of the age, it's a judgement on appearance.
I don't know. I doubt he would get out of a relationship because of this. I also don't know if he would cheat with someone much younger given the chance.
But he had sexual contact really. I dunno if he perceives it as cheating. Very possible he just sees it as pornography as there's no thing physical going on and there's probably nothing emotional (because who really likes girls that age?). I would, at least without my partner consenting beforehand.
Tough call. Talk to him more about it.
He has a bunch of complexes around purity since he was rejected by women, watched cute girl anime etc. He says he likes my body which has become more womanly in a year. So I assume it's a typical male thing to be ok with fucking young teenagers, along with more developed females, is this wrong?
We each cammed with others before the relationships started so does cam really count as sexual contact? don't get me wrong it made me extremely upset, but it's not real touching, so I want to excuse it.
>my boyfriend likes barely pubescent scene girls
should've dumped him right there. he should go to a botdf concert, slutty underage scene pussy everywhere. might have fun before he gets locked up
It's hardly even a fetish, it's so incredibly common it's practically every man. Men are attracted bye youth as soon as they show signs of being appropriate for breeding.
There's a great presentation i'l link here, it's about the sexual preferences of men and women. It's a good watch in its entirety but if you just want to get through it quickly it explains methodology 0-8m then at ~11 minutes they start talking about sexual preferences among men and women more directly. Lots of interesting information. They talk about this age-attraction close to 11 minutes, but I think context is important so I'm not gonna be specific.
You're 18 and stupid. This guy is with you because he likes young girls. Yeah, most men are attracted to young girls, but the fact that he's dating you, and that he's admitted he's mostly attracted to young girls, and he has engaged with an actual underage girl in a sexual way, AND he has a complex about youth and purity and watches anime featuring underage girls, etc. etc.
I really don't know how much clearer this has to get. This guy is a loser. I guarantee you that once you age out of the jailbait mentality, once you're like 21, you're not going to want anything to do with this manchild. You should dump him ASAP.
This is not necessarily true. There's no evidence to support he only likes anon because she's young. And most men aren't going to throw a fit because they don't have exactly what they want.
I like red hair. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't picture myself entirely happy for life without a girl who has red hair. Hardly anybody works like that.
It's the cheating that's concerning.
I feel like his preferences are all skewed towards the younger side of typical male attraction because of all the complexes, women bitterness etc. There's a bit more if it helps.
>in the US the biggest legal gap in a state is 16 and 22, he was joking about how he wished he had a 16 y/o gf when he was 22
>jokes about leaving me once i pass 30, i ask why, he says "having to ask? lol"
>always faps to porn stars less than his age
>sexually cammed with 16+ knowingly
>asked him about childlike mentality in young teens and he didn't care, only emphasized that physical development means it's not pedo
>says he would only do 18+ IRL because of legality. when i hinted he was pedophilic for wanting younger, he got offended saying he's only ever done sexual things IRL with 18+, that camming with girls is just like going on a porn site and doesn't mean anything
idk senpai. i can see he cares about me more than my youth, but my youth and sexual inexperience is of prime importance to him. and those are traits that disappear with time.
I know guys like this. Grown adult men whose sexual energies are directed entirely at teenagers. Bad news. Unstable people. I've known girls who have been in similar situations, all of them say the same thing "I was young and stupid, now I realize that he was an abusive creep". It's not a novel case.
Nothing good will come out of your relationship with this person. All he can do is hurt you and himself.
He does sound rather obsessed from that description but not having l seen how these occurrences happen I can't judge.
Maybe it seems this way because you're probing him lots about it.
Was drunk with my girlfriend the other night and she started talking about some drama that's going on with her ex and another girl (she's still friends with her ex, which I don't really care about, but I also have absolutely zero interest in hearing any stories about it), and I basically said "I don't give a fuck about what's going on with your ex" and she flipped out on me, yelling and crying about how he's there to talk to her about our problems and advice and what-not. Naturally, it irks me that she'll talk to an ex about serious shit like this (I don't even give my friends details about our issues when we have them), but she was crying and I was drunk and felt bad so I dropped it.
Fast forward to today, and it's still bothering the hell out of me. I know I can be insecure, but I honestly don't think I'm in the wrong for not being okay with the situation, so I'm just wondering what a lady's opinion might be.
She was drunk and emotional. I wouldn't put too much thought into it unless she is bugging you about that stuff when she's sober while knowing you don't want to hear about her ex's. She should respect it's a topic you don't want to touch when she's in sound mind.
I try to be a bit more forgiving of drunk people since not everyone has good self control in that state.
Like, for coffee? Is it a date circumstance?
I don't think you need to do anything special aside from showing up on time (and hoping she does too) and having good hygiene. Giving her something like an overpriced flower if you're just sitting in a coffee shop might be a bit odd especially if she has to carry it around with her. If it's a casual meet up to spend time together I wouldn't over think it.
>not the best man on Earth
He's so great. I'd go gay and have chronic pain for him. How can you not like a guy like that? He's even proven to be a good diplomat occasionally.
The movie actor brought a charm to Tony, but from what I get he was sort of an alcoholic loser in the comics and it comes up a little in the movies.
Victor Von Doom is way better. I want to immigrate to Latveria and work for the state.
>Like things up my butt.
>Don't like guys.
>Girls tell me to get a guy or stop being gay.
I liked cat woman because I liked cats. One time I got sent to the Principle for clawing a bullies face. In hind sight not the best role model.
Cybersix was also cool.
Yeah I get that, but it's not the drunkenness that was bothering me so much as the fact that I now know that when things bother her about our relationship she goes to an ex-boyfriend for input, which seems mad inappropriate to me.
She might just be the sort of person who needs to bitch to relieve stress. Some people can handle their private problems, others need to unload them on everyone.
If it really bothers you you should try talking to her about it. She might get angry but it's understandable it bothers you since it's her ex and all.
Spiderman. Smart, charismatic when behind a mask, buff and agile.
I had a dream that I had the same powers when I was really young and thought it was reality. Dawned on me that evening that it was probably a dream so I tested and no web came out.
It's pretty crushing to live a day as a superhero secretly and then realize you don't have it.
>It's pretty crushing to live a day as a superhero secretly and then realize you don't have it
poor boy, kek
i always admired how calm, caring and ephatic leetah was. but she still stood her ground and was very protective. and i loved the realtionship she and cutter had, so there's that. also, she's fucking beautiful
The series I watched he didn't produce webbing "naturally" but used cartridges. The webbing was an invention I think. Kids used to use silly string and pretend they were him.
more probably, and It'll kind of suck for me, but I know I can hide it well. Obviously I'd rather be a proper girlfriend, but he said he didn't want anything serious now (hung up on an ex) and I'd rather be with him than not, so here I am.
If anyone has any advice on how to become a gf then I'll welcome it, but I'm not very hopeful
>If anyone has any advice on how to become a gf then I'll welcome it, but I'm not very hopeful
Agreeing to be FWB and nothing more is a step in the wrong direction if you have feelings for him. Don't settle for FWB because "it's better than nothing"
I have bad blood with this bitch who is friends with my boyfriend... But I've disliked this chick before I even met my bf.
His birthday is coming up and he knows I hate her but invited her anyway. I plan to hang with y boyfriend for most of the party probably. If she approached us to talk to my bro or anything I want to walk away from the situation so that neither of us blow up but would that be cowardly or seem unsupportive if I leave my boyfriends side to talk to someone else until they are done conversing?
What would you want if it were you guys? Btw the issue isn't jealousy so I have no problem letting them talk on their own.
he was very clear that he couldn't get into anything serious. we've been meeting up for a while now, eating together, watching movies, chatting about life, smoking, went to an art museum once, and we have great sex and sleep over at each other's places. Nobody has really labeled it in so many words, but that's pretty much how it is.
he is a really overly affectionate person so he seems to treat me in a way I would expect from a boyfriend, saying sweet things, kissing me on the forehead… stuff like that. He did accidentally say 'I love you' once right before we went to sleep one night, but then he quickly backpedaled saying that the situation made it slip out and something about his ex
Why do you HAVE to be stuck to his side for the whole party anyway? Why can't you hang out with other people? Walking away is just going to shit things up even more. Have you tried making amends with her for your boyfriend's sake?
Anon, the "I don't want anything serious I'm hung up about my ex" thing is the oldest trick in the book.
If you are okay with just sleeping with him, that's cool, but be aware that he might be sleeping with other girls as well and if you fall for him it will end in heartbreak.
So if you can feel yourself falling in love, proceed with caution.
If he knows you hate her he shouldn't expect you to want to hang around and talk with her so I don't think he'd be surprised about you going off to chat with someone else or occupied yourself some way. It's a better alternative then resisting being bitchy when she talks to him on his Birthday. You could try to just contain your emotions around her. Just treat her like that co-worker you hate but have to be civil with.
>What would you want if it were you guys?
Your BF doesn't seem like the kind of guy I am but I'd like for two adult women to be able to tolerate eachother even in conversation. I'd also question why you're not friends. There's quite a few questions here. I can't really imagine a situation where I'd want to know both of you and I'd understand the reasons both hate eachother.
Are you two politically opposed or something?
Sounds like a tough character because he's either having problems with commitment or he's pretending to have trouble with commitment. Can't think of a good way to find out which.
From what I know his ex was pretty abusive and it's partially just him being cautious and being aware that he's not ready to jump into something new just yet. He also knows that I don't know where i'll be living after i graduate, so that's part of it.
We understand each other on a deeper level as stupid as it sounds (same sense of humor and values and stuff), and he is much sweeter to me than anyone's been before.
>in a big class with a cute girl
>Fridays we have sections, but she always takes forever to leave so I never have a good chance to talk to her
>after class during the week, she's usually ahead of me outside of the building
How should I approach her after class? It's hard to find her in class and by the time I see her outside the building it doesn't feel as natural to talk to her.
Should I just walk up alongside her, nudge her with my arm to get attention (and break touch barrier thing) and say something like, "Hey Katie, what'd you think of class today?"
Well, I don't know him or you, it's just that FWB stuff usually ends with one of the friends wanting to be more than friends, and usually the girl.
Been there, done that. Just be prepared that he might just be playing you, and while it can be fun being played with it might also end in heartbreak, that's all I'm saying.
>he is much sweeter to me than anyone's been before
you know where that will lead you? being used for pleasure. just because he is nicer than others does not mean he has good intentions. it just means that you don't really have good people around. i STRONGLY advice you to walk away, work on your dignity and find better people. believe me. i was down that pit
Q:Is it a good idea to make yourself explicitly a 'backup'? Like if she (>>16839787) right now said she'd gladly spend her life with him but she understands he's having trouble right now and stuff? I mean if anon here can describe his disposition as affectionate more than anyone else. He slipped that he loves her and stuff. Sounds like not such a bad idea, to me anyway.
Thing is that it's not really about being a backup. That's just the risk. But is that worth it?
If you can handle being second best, then sure. The problem is, most people can't do that without some sort of negative impact on their emotional and psychological wellbeing
Would I be wrong in assuming that you have shit confidence and self esteem?
>But is that worth it?
i've had loveless realtionships, i had fwb things, i had ons's. its all not worth it. hell, if i could beat some sense into my younger self i would hit HARD.
you turn around and give those who want to use y ou the cold shoulder. you stay away from guys/girls untill you value yourself high enough to not let them use you for pleasure. because everything that's not a loving realationship will make you bitter and resentfull in the end.
Don't silently walk away from someone you don't like. It's such a shitty, immature thing to do. I mean, it's fine if you're in an argument and feel like it's going to escalate. Otherwise it comes across as passive-aggressive and suggests that you're too immature to resolve/handle conflict.
People like to be complimented. I have a horrible self esteem so sometimes a nice complement can improve my mood until I overthink it and wonder if it was sarcasm.
As for the feet thing... you'll probably weird women out. You could complement her shoes or something? If shes one of those girls who care about shoes she might like it but assume you're gay.
The two of you seem to work under assumptions of the worst case. Which is certainly bad I understand. But have you two seen this kind of behavior from a guy and it didn't work out? It's not even the case that she has to go with the guy that's just a claim. Sure that's a bit rude perhaps but still. If he relies on a backup that's a problem. And it's most certainly his.
You seem to underestimate how people degrade themselves when nervous.
>The two of you seem to work under assumptions of the worst case. Which is certainly bad I understand. But have you two seen this kind of behavior from a guy and it didn't work out? It's not even the case that she has to go with the guy that's just a claim. Sure that's a bit rude perhaps but still. If he relies on a backup that's a problem. And it's most certainly his.
Maybe I just haven't had enough sleep, but I'm really not quite sure what you're trying to say here.
My good female friend recently told me that she wants to try dating me. I've always had feelings for her and she revealed to me a couple years back that she liked me (but I didn't catch on). We're suppose to get dinner together later this week. Do you think there is a chance of this actually working? I've always heard stories about things like this not working out (I really want it to work out though).
>But have you two seen this kind of behavior from a guy and it didn't work out?
oh, fuck yes.
he behaved just like a bf (bought me gifts, introduced me to his family, was very affectionated, texted and called me all day, good morning/good night texts every day, did a lot of other activities besides being home and having sex), BUT he never commited. and was extremely defensive when i tried to talk about it with him. and yup, his excuse was his "ex that cheated on him".
he was so unbelievably immature. i mean, get the fuck over yourself. here's somebody willing to love you, threat you right and be with you but all you can do is still be hung up over a bitch that threated you badly because you have been a huge idiot (he was with his ex for 3 years DESPITE the fact that she openly has slept with her ex after they where together...).
let's just leave it at "i would do an awefull lot to go back in time and slap myself before meeting him the first time".
i wish i hadn't wasted so much time, effort and pain on this dumb and worthless piece of crap.
A guy caring about shoe fashion specifically is kind of weird.
If a girl gets angry about being called pretty she's probably some sort of femanazi. I tell other girls things like "they look nice today," "that's a pretty necklace," hairstyle, etc and they respond very positively. It might be more flirty for a guy to do it and if they think you're creepy they might not like it.
English is my second language. I'l rephrase:
She describes this guy as being in love with her pretty much. If it's the case that he's actually having trouble getting over his ex then she'd certainly want to stick around since she loves him back. This is the happy case. If it's not the case the risk is that he's using her, sleeping around and then if he doesn't find someone he just goes with her because she's good enough. That's what the sad case is.
But since she describes him like this (what I'd describe as love), it seems rather likely that the happy case is true. But I don't have experience with guys, being a guy. I'm also rather unsuccessful. So I don't know what to make of it.
Do you think the situation would be different if she was a boy and he was a girl? (plz no bias)
>shallow or making it sound like a woman just has to be pretty
context is important.
if you can only compliment a girl about her body then you should think twice. if you think she's intelligent, interesting and lovely all around, there's no way your compliment will sound superficial. if she knows you value her, telling her that you think she's beautiful will only make her feel like a godess.
Would exaggerating even more help? Like if I said your hair was nice. Then if you decided to not just take the compliment and move on start to compliment everything else about you, that's perhaps a bit forward nevermind.
Idea was that the excess of compliments would imply something has to be true.
Nah we had a political argument about birth control availability and I didn't say anything personal about her but she suddenly remarked that I had apparently fucked a bunch of guys(she posted this on my FB wall) even tho my bf
is honestly the only guy I've fucked then she said I was lying about my past which is none of her business so I usually avoid her because she is a lot of drama and loves stirring people up.
Damn I'm getting different responses and having a hard time figuring out which is more mature. I just don't know what I'd say if she shoots me some passive aggressive "hey anonette how you doin?" When she knows I have 0 desire to talk to her(I've told her before I'm not interested in interacting with her but she just used it to start more shit with me)
Female friend of mine regularly sends me half-naked photos with some lame-ass excuse-caption like "ugh I hate how this bra looks", says her boyfriend knows and doesn't care.
Am I friendzoned to HELL or does she kinda want the D (although presumably not enough to break it off with the other dude)? She once told me she previously crushed on me (that was the exact word used) but later took it back saying I'd misunderstood. Shit makes no sense.
Pic semi-related; not her but it's the type of stuff she sends.
>being in love with her pretty much
yeah, you know how many guys do and say whatever a girl want's to hear to get their dicks wet?
Do you think the situation would be different if she was a boy and he was a girl?
i think a girl would be more prone to "friendzone" a guy. girls usually aren't that eager to fuck a guy they don't also want to be involved with romantically.
If that image is accurate in the sense that she positions her arms like that then she clearly wants you. She's accentuating her bosom. Look for those kinds of things.
That said you shouldn't just let her have you like that. You're too easy then. Assuming you don't just want sex or whatever.
She may have still liked it, even crazy feminists have self esteem problems or can like when someone acknowledges something they did to try and look pretty. But if they're a known crazy it's probably best to be cautious in case she's nuts.
Personally I wouldn't over do it. Just saying something simple like "your hair looks nice today" if she did some weird thing that looks like it took some effort could go a long way. It's kind of hard to judge how a girl would take someone really praising their appearance. Like it could go to her head or you could over do it and come off as weird,
I don't really get what you guys mean by "let her have me", it's not like I respond to the pics with lavish praise or something, I usually brush it off with something neutral. I'm actually quite a dick to this girl in terms of our daily interactions but she takes it playfully and considers us to be very close.
Maybe ask bf why. He knows you don't like her and she's generally disliked so it's clearly his interest that's getting her invited. And how likely is it that she's a nice person to be with him. Sounds more like sexual attraction than anything.
Slandering you bf atm. But it's worth to consider.
>"let her have me"
i think that other anon has some problems with reading comprehension.
however, she's a girl. you're a guy. if she sends you picks of her boobs, she knows she can get you excited atleast to some extend. she probably hopes that you jerk it to her pics (which you probably do, right?).
it's some form of cucking you, really. and i use that term extremely sparingly.
It is. Don't do it. If a girl's pretty, she's probably heard it plenty of times before you.
IMO, telling a girl she's pretty is reserved for when you're dating or in a relationship. It shifts a lot of power to the girl when you say she's pretty, which isn't something you want before a relationship has gotten off the ground. It might imply that you aren't equals.
Much better off complimenting something she said (indirectly complimenting her mind), something she wears (indirectly complimenting her taste), etc.
>yeah, you know how many guys do and say whatever a girl want's to hear to get their dicks wet?
The thing is they already have a fwb relationship though. I don't see why that's required right now. If he doesn't want to lose what he has right now he'd just be a friend to her. Not tell her he loves her. Really girls tend to be the ones that "mess it up" it's common knowledge and I don't see how his dick has anything to do with it at this point.
A woman at work hated me for fixing her computer once after I explained to her how she broke her software (she literally deleted the programs folder, found it in the recycle bin). She was very passive aggressive towards me for over a year but I acted oblivious to her attitude and didn't get involved in the gossip she tried spreading and she eventually forgot and got over it.
You can either play their childish game or be a non-participant from their perspective. That said there's people I hate so much I won't go to gatherings if I know person X is there so that's not always a viable solution. It's really up to you. There isn't always a right way to handle these things. Just go for what gives you the least amount of head aches and doesn't make you look like a bitch.
>Not tell her he loves her
he said it "accidentially", then babbled some shit ybout "being used to" and his ex. what the ever living fuck?
it sounds as if he threw her a threat and let her wonder if he really said it by "accident" or if he DOES love her on some unconscious level. clever dude, real clever.
Yes exactly. That's why I proposed the 'test' of claiming to be a backup. He will say yes in both cases but as time passes certainty that he doesn't care increases (if time heals heartache).
I didn't ask cuz I didn't want to make it his issue even tho he knows I don't like her.
The thought of him being attracted to her makes me want to puke though. If that was the reason why though I doubt he would tell me.
why would she want to waste time and emotional energy on a dude that's "not sure what he want's"? there's a ton of guys out there that will do an awefull lot to have a gf. why not be with one like that and make TWO people happy? i don't get what makes him so special and entitled to string her along in hopes of awaking some more sincere feelings. it just seems a waste
it is. you have to stand over manipulative beings like that.
what you do, if she talks to you is remain calm, aloof, in controle and respectful. if she starts to get down and dirty, tell her that you won't let her drag you down to her level and walk away.
>there's a ton of guys out there that will do an awefull lot to have a gf.
>i don't get what makes him so special and entitled to string her along in hopes of awaking some more sincere feelings.
Certainly. I'm just saying that nobody else wants to be a second choice either. Right?
I'm just empathizing with the idea that she really really likes him a lot. It's very hard to get over that stuff, for me anyway.
Perhaps the best thing to do is look for other guys and just be fwb. Hope he gets there but keep doors open. As a guy I was thinking that wasn't an option but I guess it is?
Well if everyone knows you hate her then they'll understand why you walked away. But they'll also still know you two don't get along and that you're forcing yourself to try and play nice at what should be a fun occasion.
It's a lose-lose but walking away means you might enjoy your evening more. Your boyfriend won't implode if you aren't by his side the entire evening and it might be better for everyone not to create an awkward atmosphere. If it were me I'd get myself out of the situation if the blood was that bad. Unless your boyfriend is a baby he shouldn't get upset about it. Just don't ruin your night or his, and don't get mixed up in gossip.
you know there's a ground between being passive and being agressive. it's called assertive. it's when you don't let people threat you poorly but stay calm and walk away if they don't act reasonable.
>nobody else wants to be a second choice either. Right?
i didn't mean to tell her to fill the gap with the next best guy. i was thinking more of letting that place empty and search for somebody that fills it better.
that's why i wouldn't advice her to stay fwb's. it will make it harder to get over him and be ready for somebody else. she would just drag that rebound-shit along. this is a vicious cycle and she's in charge of breaking it.