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>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
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>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
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a friend tried to buy me a game from steam (a expensive one) but i thought it was weird and out of characted so i ignored it, he still found my steam account (i got no idea how) and tried to buy it, his card was denied, etc.
today i showed him my new ds case and he once again tried to buy me a game, i told him i felt a bit uncomfortable about it and maybe we could trade games instead.
so, what is going on? my birthday isn´t near, we haven´t seen each other in real life in quite a while, i got no idea why he might be trying to buy games now (especially expensive ones?) if never gave me stuff any other time of the year? (i did give him a loaf of bread once for christmas)
i also realized he knows both my birthday and zodiac sign?
Whats it like to be pregnant?
What does the thought of being impregnated make you feel?
Its for curiosities sake, I wants to makes my girl preggers one day and wonder what woman actually think about the whole thing.
I already answered your question
>Not a guy, but he's trying to buy your affections (with money he doesn't have, apparently). He'll later ask you out, and try to use all the nice things he's done for you, including this, as bargaining power. He's a Nice Guy. If you don't feel comfortable accepting expensive presents from him, tell him no and refuse to accept them even if he does buy them.
I was always curious about this as well, like if you can feel a big moving thing inside your stomach. Ive also wondered about contractions. Where does it hurt exactly? Is it the whole stomach, or closer to the cervix?
Imo being pregnant is fucking misery. I have slipped disks so it's a lot of back pain, I also effectively stop being able to poop normally, y ou ever taken a shit after over two weeks of constipation? It was worse than the birth. You can't drink, you can't eat sushi, you get these fake contractions that turn your belly into a giant hear Boulder. It's nice when you're really, really about to pop, and people smile at you. You can always get a place to sit or the front seat of the car, people hold doors open for you.
For me the best part was how wonderful my husband was to me, how proudly he looked at my belly, but it is 40 weeks of heartburn, hehmmeroids, shit sleep, sobriety, and nausea.
I do have a friend who actually likes being pregnant, but she is basically insane.
I will say that 'Trying to get pregnant' sex is the hottest
>but it is 40 weeks of heartburn, hehmmeroids, shit sleep, sobriety, and nausea
Jesus, I knew women's bodies derp up during pregnancy but i wasnt expecting this.
does it ever feel "good"? Like, warm and fuzzy knowing that you're nurturing that little thing inside of you?
I don't know what I was trying to say. My computer is busted so I am typing on this stupid tablet. The Braxton hicks contractions I would get made my preggo stomach feel like a huge boulder. Hard as a rock.
And trying to get pregnant sex is waaaaay hotter than pregnant sex, but I don't have a pregnancy fetish. My husband doesn't either, but he is very very amorous when I am pregnant and has no qualms about hitting it. My first doctor had a very heavy Asian accent, and he was adamant about us having sex 3 times a week in my last few weeks of pregnancy.
In heavy Asian accent:
>Monkey in the zoo is ready. You have the key, young man.
>Monkey in the zoo is ready. You have the key, young man
i kekd harder than i should have
Feeling the baby move inside you feels very weird and alien to me, but I definitely felt the love. It's a strange sensation to realize you love this thing inside you you can't even see, but I felt it once I felt her move, even though I was in the most extreme pain I've felt in my entire life for 3 solid months (that's including thebirth )
My skin cleared up, I didn't have a zit for 9 months, andididnthavean asthma attack forth along either. But as far as physically? Nothing about it ever felt physically good. Except maybe... Sometimesiorgasmed more or better.
But aside from feeling the love, so much warm and fuzzy just came from having a man who loved me, who was excited, who was willing to run out at all hours to get me snacks, who looked at my belly with pride and laughed when I had trouble moving around with the big belly, who put together the crib and the swing and the stroller. That was wonderful wonderful
Not all women, and even when it does, it's only for a limited amount of time towards the end. You should have a woman that's down to fuck you 2-3 times a week no matter what, though. That's the only way to live
>Sometimesiorgasmed more or better.
I see. Just because its pressed up against vagina, or can it be a turn on for you?
>even though I was in the most extreme pain I've felt in my entire life for 3 solid months
Loads of back pain i imagine?
i know it seems VERY obvious but still...he is a close friend and i have a boyfriend and feel next to nothing for him so i need some kind of confirmation so i can figure out how to approach the whole deal (besides denying the games)
I want to ask this girl out, but I really have no idea what to do with her. Neither of us have a car. I live in an uneventful shithole with decent public transport, while she lives in a slightly less quiet place with a horrible connection. I've tried cycling, but there are next to no places to leave your bike safely so that didn't work either.
Then there's little that actually seems interesting to do. Both of us are the quiet bookish type, but I don't want to spend our date inside of a book. She also cracked down on a library already when I brought it up, so not going to bother asking. We also already went to watch a movie recently, so let's not do that again tooo soon.
Any help on what to do? I really can't think of anything.
Sciatica. Imagine if you will, 10/10 pain shooting from the bottom of your spinal cord moving through your hip, ass and all the way down your leg into your little toe every time you move your hip. And you don't realize how often you use your hip. That little bow you take when you spit your toothpaste into the sink, wiping your ass, coughing, forget about mobility. I was in anywhere from 8-12/10 pain in my waking hours for three solid months before physical therapy did its thing. But like I said, on the up side the birth was a breeze.
He's trying to cozy up to you through gifts. It's a stupid strategy but it's a common one.
One of my friends is something like 7 months pregnant, and its hilarious when she drops something because a wave of sadness just hits her face.
I know a boy and he is very depressed and tired, however he keeps making an effort to be beyond good to me.
I want to know how i could help him, i have asked him but he never answers, we don´t live nearby so i can´t see him in person. I have offered a few times to do his school work but he never takes that up.
A few weeks ago i told him i had a few hours between some classes and he started saying how it was perfect for going to the movies and even suggested one and i took the invitation but then he started talking shit about himself and how he doesn´t have a car, i told him we could use a bus or a taxi and split the count and he disappeared for some hours.
I want to help him with this situation but i have never been in that place so idk what to do.
>Friends with this woman for 3 years
>She gets a boyfriend, starts acting weird and brushes me off
>Straight up says it's not worth the effort to keep anyone in the loop, says this situation is true with almost everyone she knows
>Back off with the hopes she mellows out
It's been a month now, should I just run with the assumption that this is going to be a permanent thing with her?
Just because he's rarely happy doesn't mean he's incapable of finding happiness in anything. However that also doesn't mean that he wants your help or involvement in his life. Your compassion is nice but I think you're expecting too much from this situation.
Serious question, is sex hard? Like even basic positions like missionary while holding a girls legs up?
I'm a virgin but I want to get in a serious relationship soon and I see porn with some guy beating up some pussy missionary and I feel like my hips won't be nearly as maneuverable
I met a girl I really like while still in my process of getting into shape. I look fat with my shirt off but she hasn't seen it and she seems to like me. Should I still ask her out? Girls, would you date a guy who looked kind of fat (muffin top etc)/well built at the same time? I am still working out, I wish I met her months from now
I wouldn't wish sciatica even to my worst enemy. I've had days I couldn't get out of bed without help. And it was still so painful I'd cry. Luckily mine didn't go beyond the hip but oh boy did that hip hurt when it started. The feel when you're lying on the bed and know that any movement will shoot up your hip is awful.
Then I started lifting and haven't had a single problem with sciatica after it. And I'll recommend lifting to anyone who's ever had sciatica. Not only does keeping your core fot seem to help with it but it also helps with ton of other stuff.
Avoidance? So this one guy in my small major makes me extremely uncomfortable, because he has a thing for me, and is clingy about it even though he knows I dont want him. Everyone else likes him a lot. How can i avoid him the most without causing drama? We are all going to have to study together. If people ask, should i say 'i get the feeling he still likes me' and he would probably deny and bring up the fact that he now has a gf (who is his recent 14th gf...) everyone including him still thinks we're friends.
We were really good friends before he decided he wanted me, and he knows some things about me that I'd rather not be public knowledge. Like some of my mental health history.
Talk to him privately. Prob in a semi non public scene. If he leaks your history out of spite he'll seem like an asshole. If you're gonna have to spend time with him make it clear that you're not interested. It's likely he won't give up easily but just keep putting your foot down. If you can salvage the friendship that might lessom the tension.
I definitely hide my power level though unless I'm talking to my redpilled romantic interest (not bf, taking things slow)
Isn't that "bear mode" ? If so that is pretty good on a guy, at least to me
I have a question for the ladies but here's me:
>physically fit and active
>six feet tall
>have a job
>live with two of my best friends by choice
>can actually hold a conversation
>have a big heart but am not that "nice guy"
>have a great sense of humor
I live in the seattle area and I have the worst time finding a gf. It's been five years since and I haven't even had sex in that time. Let me tell you, what lies beneath is getting impatient but sex isn't what I'm after. I want companionship, somebody to cuddle with and share my victories with, and yet all the girls I meet are flakey, self absorbed, disrespectful, demanding, or completely disinterested. I only have one female friend and she's my roomie. I'm bitter or angry, just confused. I can cook, quite well actually and I love providing and taking care of people and I embrace my masculinity as an essential part of me. Tell me, what's a guy gotta do? I'm at my wit's end with this, I want to make somebody feel beautiful and nobody seems to want that from me and I have no idea why.
I wouldn't leave someone if they got handicapped while we were together.
Starting a new relationship with a handicapped person would depend on how they're handicapped. Something like a having lost an arm or a leg or being deaf wouldn't matter much as long as they could function somewhat normally without me. Being bound to a wheelchair would be quite certainly a no go.
I also have short hair, a big chest, really broad shoulders and a beard and mustache so I think bear mode is quite a good way of describing it. I'll keep trying to tone up though so I at least look muscular/bearlike.
you probably come across as needy or desperate
Solution: i know it's hard BUT take pussy off pedestal
Method: tinder and online dating and general club skanks will satisfy your thirst for pussy thereby making you subconsciously act more confident & desirable with dateable women
Is the internet the easiest/only place to find BDSM fetishists that are interested in BDSM stuff?
I can't just strap on my latex and ask around either, well I could but its freezing outside at the moment.
Because I like hiking and all kinds of outdoorsy stuff. Being bound to a wheelchair would limit their ability to do those things a lot. And being able to walk just makes everyday life so much easier.
I'm not saying it will never happen but I don't see it happening right now. Who knows if I happen to meet the perfect girl who is in a wheelchair.
It certainly is the easiest way.
As long as she has a boyfriend, yes. I did this with my male friends when I entered a relationship.
In other words, I'm happy that we're friends, but I am currently building trust with a man that I am dating and want things to work out with, so I'm going to have to stop hanging with you before he gets the wrong impression.
Let's face it, almost everyone gets the wrong impression by cross gendered friends. Not a good look when you just start dating someone.
How do you feel about a guy who ejaculates very quickly, but doesn't go limp and can continue as long as necessary. Always been a weird issue for me, but most of my partners haven't seemed to care. I'm 28, this has been a long-time thing.
Not female, but that's an issue with condom use. Basically it's more apt to slip off or for something to leak out if you keep going after you finish. If she is on the pill and you're both clean it shouldn't matter, but keep that in mind.
If I'm wearing a condom I always change it and feel a little awkward having to pause the action for a switch. Haven't used one with the last few girls and it's been a little more bearable I guess. Thanks man.
>he's always dating some hottie.
>Inb4 pitty dating/sex
is pitty dating/sex extremely immoral?
I mean we're talking like turning children into woman raping mass murdering turbo psychopath tier immoral?
Surely this is the edgiest thing in all of Edge to do in any and all possible multiversal dating scenarios.
God damn even North Koreans are more civil than this shit.
Is dating a ditzy blonde air head bimbo babe who knows jack shit about jack shits jack shit considered immoral?
Its immoral to date someone you clearly have no respect for. She may look like one but shes not a doll to carry on your arm. If you think shes a stupid bimbo why do you want to spend time with her?
Ladies, what are your thoughts on MMF threesomes when you aren't in a relationship? Would you be upset if you had one then got into a relationship, he found out and dumped you.or would you understand?
Is it respectful if I like blonde ditzy bimbos and want to spend my life with one and have them as one of my greatest kinks and fetishes and sexual fantasies?
Not a nice guy since I have opinions, etc.
Guys: Absolutely hideous breasts that are soft, or fake breasts that look amazing but are firmer?
I'm probably going to go forward with the surgery either way, but I'm curious about what's actually preferred. By hideous, I mean they're moderately saggy, have no fullness in the upper pole, and are asymmetrical with one areola stretched. It's bad.
Guys and girls.
Do you still remember your first sexual experience?
Doesn't have to be the first time you had sex or not. But your first real sexual experience.
My friend says that it's not important and that everyone forgets sooner or later, and that he can't remember his. Found out my GF lied to me, said she never did anything before me, but actually got drunk and fooled around at a party and almost had sex with a guy but ended with oral before we met.
She says her first real sexual experience was with me, and that she regrets that night and hates herself for it because it was so out of character, and that the guy was mega pushy.
But she also doesn't really remember any of our first times together, just says she remembers the emotion. But she seems to remember that night just fine. So I feel kinda hurt. She doesn't remember something that to me was an important memory between us.
I've seen some pretty flawed breasts but I care about the face more than anything and I can get over the issue easily. I hope your operation is a modest one at least. Can't stand super firm grapefruits or anything too round. Either way, best of luck with your surgery.
Carrying people is really hard. Especially if you want it to be comfy for both of them. Yeah you could throw them to your shoulder but travelling like that would be awful. And if either has to hold onto anything it gets tiring really fast. You'd really need some sort of a carrying device where they could sit kinda hugging you. And then have a backpack for all the required stuff. Or maybe have the girl on the backpack facing forward and so that they can see over my shoulder/head while carrying a equipment upfront.
Now that I think about is it doesn't sound impossible as long as they're petite. Let's give 55 kg for the girl and backback combo. That leaves another 10 - 15 kg worth of stuff you could carry with you comfortably. That would make daytrips easily possible and with some packing magic maybe even overnight journeys.
Shit that sounds kinda romantic desu.
I do, not because it was anything special but because it just stuck in my memory. There's nothing about what she's saying that sounds strange to me. To elaborate, I don't remember any of the other few early experiences that I had with the same person. None were less special or meaningful.
Going on a second date with a girl Friday. I honestly could see myself dating this girl so I don't want to blow it. How can I "make the move" on her (make out, etc)? It seems like with previous relationships it was always the girl that started it.
I've been diagnosed with depression and it is very likely it will be another permanent part of my life, will dating become more difficult from now on?
Should I ever lie about this to my dates, or should I be 200% Honest about it at all times?
Does being 5'6 making finding girls difficult in America?
Also does being this short and having like 7-8/10 facial aesthetics and fit body get canceled out, so you become say average looking or below?
I'm 5'6" in America. It could be difficult for me if I went to specific places and tried hitting on specific women. By places I'm not even talking about geographical areas, but rather specific venues and settings. I could make "bad luck" for myself if I went hunting for it. Alternatively I could just live the fun and varied life that I do. Under those conditions I've never had a problem getting along with women. Being good looking and fit always help though.
Boys and girls, I really don't know what to do. I would appreciate your insight:
>Have a date (last week) with a girl I met on a party
>We make out. She looks very into me, but we don't have sex because she'd on her period.
>We sort of say to meet again and fuck, but we don't go in detail. I have to spend the weekend studying so I'm busy
>Following day she writes me saying shewas really turned on by me, but that she wasnt feeling right.
> I tell her i'll write her when i'm no longerbusy
I just finished that exam, and I don't know why i'm not really feeling like writing her... girl is cute, but I don't really enjoy her company much. I don't know what to do, i'm having this feeling of really not caring much about it and I don't know if its lazyness or just a gut feeling
What should I do, guys?
Sex is easy. Instinct has made sure we manage for millenias.
The less you learn from porn, the better. Do what comes naturally, and focus on getting good at what part of that she likes.
>I just finished that exam, and I don't know why i'm not really feeling like writing her... girl is cute, but I don't really enjoy her company much. I don't know what to do, i'm having this feeling of really not caring much about it and I don't know if its lazyness or just a gut feeling
tell her that, be honest.
You say it as if she could have feelings towards me.
She's 10 years older and lives in another city. She's kind of coming around from time to time, andfrom the way she talks and the things she says, she just doesn't seem interested in anything serious
I was talking to a girl on Tinder and I said
>so how's your night?
>probably not better than yours
That was last night. She answered when I was in bed.
How should I procceded? I can't get stuck here. I don't care if a guy or girls replies I'm just gathering ideas.
I'm slim, kinda goodlooking, confident (sometimes more, sometimes less) and all of that.
But from time to time, I feel ugly and I also have this weird feel of not being "in".
Like, literally, every picture of a girl with a boy (he's dating) it's usually the same kind of guy: Kinda tall, messy hair, beard. Sometimes it's piercings or tattoos, or both things. PERIOD.
I tell you, It's like a copy-pasted model I see everywhere. It's kind of weird. But that makes me feel unwanted or not "in". Now I'm the last guy that would want to be cool, I don't care about that shit. I like who I am, I like my weirdness, I like how my face looks shaved instead of with beard, I like my clothes... but sometimes I just feel like I don't fit anywhere, and in the wrong sense. I usually take pride on the fact I'm not like the rest, so it's really weird to feel like this when I start noticing this pattern on girls dating guys...
I don't know, maybe this is something stupid, I just don't feel well about it. not gonna change who I am, of course. It's just that sometimes I do feel good aboutbeing different, and sometimes not
What does it mean when your best friend, the person who took care of you when everything seemed bad, kisses you and touches you intimately? I don't know of any other girls that do... that, but she told me it was okay, and that I was beautiful and that she is only playing around.
I'm really confused because she never made any advances at me like that before, only innocent things, like licking ice cream off my nose, etc.
>I totally suck at sports (I'm not fat or skinny, I just completely lack reflex and agility)
>I'm quite shy
>I don't play guitar, neither am I artistic in any other way (can't even draw a straight line without using tools)
>I can't really seem funny to anybody else than my closest male friends
All of these more or less explain why I can't find a girlfriend, right?
Hey fems, long question short. I have a long standing crush on a coworker who left months ago but will be coming back. (I think)
Is it better to express my feelings/intentions in person or through text (how I've been keeping in touch with her)?
>getting called daddy.
Weird as fuck. Instant mood killer.
>dating someone who's handicapped
Maybe? I'd probably go out for a date, but like anyone else I've seen more than once or thrice, they'd have to be a pretty amazing person. Thus far I've only met two of those.
Guys: Absolutely hideous breasts that are soft, or fake breasts that look amazing but are firmer?
No fucks given really.Probably prefer natural I guess?
>Do you still remember your first sexual experience?
Nope. Mine was a throw away. I remember my first kiss intensely vividly though--years later I can recall every single detail and minutia. She was the first girl I ever cared about though.
Truth be told though, it's kind of awkward to admit this... I love my girlfriend, but my memory of our first kiss and our first time having sex is a TON more blurry.
>Does being 5'6 making finding girls difficult in America?
I'm 5'7". My girlfriend is an inch or two taller than me and likes wearing tall boots. No fucks given on either of our parts. I get plenty of looks, numbers, and dated plenty of women
Read the OP: Having a complex about being short is what makes things difficult.
>All of these more or less explain why I can't find a girlfriend, right?
Nope. Just from what you wrote it sounds like you're just insecure and have no idea how to market your interests to other people.
THAT is why you can't find a girlfriend.
Go get more experience and stop making self-punishing/pitying excuses for yourself.
>What does it mean when your best friend, the person who took care of you when everything seemed bad, kisses you and touches you intimately?
Does it really matter what her intent is? If you're interested and you need the confirmation that she's interested too before you make a move, you're probably never going to do anything, and knowing is useless to you.
If you're not interested, you're not interested.
Knowing is irrelevant. Either take action or don't. Stop wasting time thinking about stupid shit.
Start playing guitar and get in shape. You're obviously interested in both or you wouldn't have brought it up. Guitar is easy to pick up on with the internet and /fit/ has proven beginner routines so just pick one.
Say you male best friend who you have confide in all the time comes to you with a secret.
Say he told you he has or had ED and is deathly afraid of ever getting a gf or sex in general because he doesnt want to be crushed again by not getting it up. If he asked you to help him and build his confidence with women again by doing sexy time with him would you. Of course you arent in a relationship and have no one of particular interest you are seeing right now.
I'm a dude who likes meeting new people, been on a lot of first dates, and only ever been turned for a second date once (and she literally told me it was because she could see herself falling for me too easy so she couldn't handle anything casual with me, and wasn't at all ready for anything serious yet)
Just be genuine to who you are.*
Don't try to go out of your way to impress people and feel like you have to force things to be perfect. That shit all just comes off as fake, inorganic, and awkward as fuck. Just be natural, easy to be around, and try to do things that you find fun.
One of the most attractive things when you meet someone is seeing them genuinely enjoying themselves, because it tends to suck you in and make you enjoy yourself too.
*P.S. being genuine to who you are doesn't mean roll up in ratty jeans with holes in your shirt, farting, and being a total douche, it just means don't try to act like some fake persona you copied because you saw it work in some movie or some shit.
Yes... it does matter. She is my friend, and I value her company, advise, everything, a lot. But, I don't think it is just friendship to act so... drastic? I only kissed her back because I didn't know what to do, but now I don't know if I made a mistake...
>you're obviously interested in both
Guitar? Not really, I just brought it up because my friend plays it and he gets all the pussy despite being short and kinda ugly.
Fitness? I'm already working on it, but my strength or endurence isn't really a problem.
I just never could play any team sports, you know, all that stuff that always impresses girls.
You'll say that I'm making excuses, but it has always been that way - since I was a kid I couldn't understand why fatter guys or skinnier guys could do much better than me. Did they train more? No, many of them trained even less.
It's not that I'm not even trying.
Long story short, I'm just feeling that it's really hard to attract females if you can't impress them by any "physical" activity, even though you look normal. It seems to be related to the primal instincts - male has to be able to protect you.
gonna ask this girl via tinder to meet up, after exchanging messages all day yesterday and hitting it off, we stopped chatting around midnight last night, I assume she just went to bed.
I think she's cool and she seems like a person I could connect with, she's really different from most of the girls in this fucking hick town I go to school in, as I've found it really hard to find an opposite sex that I actually feel good about talking to (ironically I found this person through tinder).
I don't wanna fuck this up, she's really attractive. At the same time I'm good at being honest and I have a good amount of self confidence (for the most part). Could a femanon tell me how this sounds? I haven't messaged her since our conversation ended, so I'm planning on sending it in a couple hours.
>Hey I've got a bit of an emergency to go back home this weekend, but I want to meet up. You seem cool and different from people around here.
She already mentioned meeting up with me, my gut tells me I have nothing to worry about but god damn, the females in this town are so fucking basic and this is like the first girl I've found who seems really cool.
I'm neither of those, though. I don't put that sort of thing on a pedestal, honestly. I hate feeling or acting desperate or needy so I try to be as self-sufficient as possible.
Online dating did nothing.
That shits passive and weak as fuck though. Stop dragging things out and get to the point.
Kind of funny, my girlfriend's best friend is going through the whole dating phase right now, and she finally met a guy she really liked, thought was hot as fuck, and was charming as heck, but literally the morning after their first kiss she got a good morning text from him and realized SHE was the one making ALL the moves, and she instantly went from head over heels for it, to totally turned off.
You said you like things short and sweet, so if you already going to ask her out anyway, you may as well just do it now while she's interested. Strike while the iron is hot.
This is doubly true for Tinder and online dating of all things where more dead time means more time for someone else to come along and take their interest.
When a woman spends most of dinner talking about how you remind her of her dead father, that's the sign for being in the friendzone, right?
Eh, maybe not.
My GF sometimes says I share a lot of similar traits with her Dad. But she has a healthy relationship with him and just respects him as a hard working man who loves her and her mom. You can value traits in a partner that a parent had without it being weird. So long as its not blatant parental issues or trying to fill some hole.
Very fun, I like to hold and squish them to imagine how it feels for my partner when he touches them. I very much enjoy nipple play and can start myself off just by brushing them lightly. It feels great to go out in public with a low-cut shirt and push-up bra and know I look sexy. During sex, the only way I can orgasm is with simultaneous clit and nipple stimulation, and my partner has that down pat so it just feels fucking incredible.
10/10 would recommend.
It can be really fun. When I first started getting boobs (and I was a late bloomer) I used to jump up and down in front of my bathroom mirror because it cheered me up.
Nipples especially can get really sensitive though, which can be really good but also almost hurtful sometimes (thanks, period).
I definitely agree with this, nipple stimulation is freaking 10/10. I'd do nothing else all day erry day if I could.
Question to women
>Gf told me shes thinking about texting her ex for closure
Her ex just abandoned her and fell out of contact after 3 years of dating. She realized he wasnt coming back and moved on by january of 2014.
>the mutual friends they had as a couple keep trying to invite her out and get her to talk to him.
She ignores them mostly. But the ex apparently still thinks he has hope.
I told her that its a bad idea and contacting him will only give him more hope. (and I think that she knows this)
What should I do? We left it at she will respect my wishes and not text him. She follows orders pretty well. But i dont want her to think Im trying to control her and dont trust her.
Maybe she anticipated that I'd eventually feel bad for thinking i made her feel like i dont trust her, and change my mind?
Idk what to do? I've always had trust issues and I'm afraid of getting cucked.
She has sensitivity issues in general. It's not easy to get her aroused let alone get her off.
It's annoying and has ruined the moment quite a few times and made me feel insecure at others.
But I love her so whatever.
I dont approach, im shy. while we're on the topic...
girls, when do you actually want a guy to talk to you? cause I dont want to be the type that hits on girls and makes them uncomfortable or creeped out. im fit, dress well, and well educated, but dont want to give off that "pua" vibe.
Honestly I'm almost 100% certain this is the issue, but I don't know how to approach the issue.
She's convinced its just the way she is. That she's not a sexual person, low sex drive, doesn't feel lust towards people but is attracted to personalities(thought she can still visually appreciate attractiveness, just not in a lustfull way). She enjoys sex, it feels good. But getting her actually aroused takes ages, penetration sometimes just can't happen.
Going down on her I get her squirming and shaking and then she says everything gets too sensitive and pushes me off and tells me to stop.
Sometimes we have to stop because she starts to get so frustrated and says its just not working and that her body isn't feeling it and that she wants to have sex with me but her body just won't co-operate. Sometimes she gets really insecure and thinks she's broken.
She WAS raised catholic so that's probably got some role in it. She also never masturbates and can easily go 2-3 months without sex and wouldn't even notice.
This is just me, but honestly I get annoyed when guys try to hit on me in cafés, bookstores, at the uni etc. I'm not usually there to flirt or even to meet people, if you want to hit on people go to a bar or club.
That's weird, but not unheard of. As someone going to a Catholic school as well and having been unable to have an orgasm until I was 17 and accepted my homosexuality, this sort of thing is often mental.
Though I have to say its odd that she takes a lot of stimulation to get aroused and then is also too sensitive quickly?
For me it just "clicked" one day, maybe because it got too frustrating or I was just really horny, might happen to her too. Best of luck anyway.
I don't think its that she gets too sensitive, its that I think she won't let the orgasm take over so to speak. Or that the increased sensitivity feels like too much for her so instead of letting it go she stops it prematurely.
At least thats what my one female friend thinks. That if I just held her down and kept going it would work. Unfortunaltety my GF would not take too kindly to that.
That actually makes sense, I've heard from a friend something similar (not about orgasming in general, about being able to let herself go) and as un-feminist as that sounds, maybe holding her down and fucking her silly would actually do her some good.
I bet the actual orgasm would be incredible, damn.
I remember mine.
It was with the girl I shared every interest with. We did absolutely everything together and was always 100% for doing whatever the other one wanted. We were actually so in common that we both started co-writing a novel together.
Then six months after our first time I found out she was secretly meeting up with some gas station manager and was cheating on me.
So I guess remembering my first time doesn't count because it's attached to something that was extremely traumatic.
My question for the thread I guess is: Girls, how do I go about trusting women again? Every girl that has had an attraction to me I have questioned their motivations and regarded them with suspicion. After losing the girl who I thought was my soulmate I just can't bring myself to trust a woman.
Yes. It was at a skiing trip with school when I was 17, incredibly romantic and incredibly clumsy. I wasn't even really aware I liked girls until then (thought I was simply asexual) but it was wonderful. Not really "successful" at first, sexually, but very relaxed and romantic and just fun.
>what are usually your intentions when you approach women? Like in a club, at work or at college?
>It's not always something sexual, right?
I'm an admittedly weird guy (according to every girl how's ever been close to me, including my best friend and my girlfriend) but, it really depends on the context. In general, if I approach you, more often than not it's not something sexual, especially at work.
Back when I was at school (in my mid/late 20's now) if I approached you, it might have been because I was interested in you, but it could also be because I just wanted to borrow your notes or something.
At a bar when I'm single, it's a coinflip. I'm probably not going to approach you unless I think you're attractive, but it could also just be I think you're wearing something interesting and I just thought i'd compliment you, and that's all I wanted to do (I've gotten so many bemused looks from women over the years because I'd pay them a compliment in passing about their earnings or dress or whatever, and then walk away without hitting on them lol).
Every guy is different. It really depends on your age, the context, and their maturity.
I could probably have a relationship without sex if I really, really loved my partner and they just happened to be asexual, that's what vibrators are for.
But I wouldn't be very happy about it.
I'm a different anon, and my girlfriend cums pretty easily, but I've noticed a trend when she cums hardest, she unknowingly tries to get me to hold her down, and will always push back with as much as she can. Something about feeling that tension, that weight push back against her, makes her climaxes and releases be all that much more explosive when she finally lets go.
>Would you want to be in a Relationship without sex?
I'm a dude.
To be honest, I value intellectual conversations, and communication is a MASSIVE part of what I value in relationships, don't think I could even be in a relationship with low amounts of sex (at least once every day or every other day would be my preference)
Luckily my girlfriend has a drive to match mine.
Sexual compatibility is as important as anything else.
I can definitely understand that. I'm homosexual but when I'm close to cumming I basically dig into my girlfriend, wrap my legs around her or actually dig my nails into her and such. I think it's wanting to feel really close in that special moment, instinctively almost.
>or actually dig my nails into her and such.
Ah... yeah... that too... My chest and my back in particular... She always ends up apologizing profusely when she sees the scratches afterwards xD. I just think it's funny.
Why do cute, quiet, modest, conservative girls transform into promiscuous, loud, ditzy girls? They start caking on the make-up, wearing revealing clothes, get tons of acquaintances. What's the psychology behind this?
>>Monkey in the zoo is ready. You have the key, young
I wonder how many here really know what he means. I love that line though and I'm gunna use it often.
FYI for those who need it. When gestation is complete and baby is ready for birth then one of the best ways to induce labour is to have vigorous intercourse with deep ejaculation and female orgasm.
There are compounds in semen (prostaglandins) that stimulate the cervix to 'ripen' and let the waters break.
Here.... One of many links.
Same concept behind when quiet, dorky, Nice Guys™ turn in to raging douche bags.
They feel like they want to rebel and end up feeling like they can only go in the polar opposite direction.
>It really depends on your age, the context, and their maturity.
>acquaintances at best, we attend the same college/same courses
He always talks to me for no reason, sometimes commenting on what I did earlier or makes some jokes or something
And I have no idea if he is flirting with me or not since he has a gf (already commented on that in the crush general thread) so I thought he is just being friendly.
Don't know about his maturity tho
*shrug* may be he just likes you as a person.
Do you know if he's like that with other co-workers/classmates/whatever and if he has many female friends?
I'm generally a pretty friendly person to strangers because that's just how I am and like to be (I like paying compliments because, who doesn't like a compliment? You never know, some times that's all it takes to turn a shitty day around). I can also be jokingly flirty because that's just my sense of humor (my girlfriend sometimes calls me an alien from the planet smooth, sometimes a employee of kraft Cheese). I have one friend in particular where we trade raunchy/flirty jokes and compliments 24/7, but I see her like a little sister.
Maybe he's similar, maybe he's not.
If it bugs you, you could always ask what's up. That's really the only way to know for sure.
For girls, but guys feel free to answer:
If you have a good friend who you know is lesbian/gay, does it feel at all weird spending time with them, do you feel as if they might hit on you or does it make you uncomfortable in any way?
You do sound very sweet and it could be possible that he is similar (especially because of that friendly, weird guy thing you mentioned earlier)
>Do you know if he's like that with other co-workers/classmates/whatever
He definitely isn't. He gets sort of.. extremely friendly around me. Other people noticed it too.
>and if he has many female friends?
When we first met at college, he didn't. And since he and his gf got together he occassionally does some small talk with her friends, but he usually hangs out with guys.
>If it bugs you, you could always ask what's up. That's really the only way to know for sure.
You're right, but... I have no idea how without making it sound too weird and embarassing
Girls: How would you think if a guy asked you out but sort of gave you a choice of activity? Like if I ask this girl out for "coffee or a movie or something" does it sound like I'm sperging or is that acceptable? I'm asking her out for the first time and I'm not sure if a movie is too serious.
I'm a guy and my best childhood friend is gay.
I don't even think about it anymore. He's told me I'm too much like a brother to him that he could ever find me attractive (th-thanks). Can't say it was really a concern to me even before he opened up about it.
I would say that's acceptable but generally I like it if my date picks something, even if it's just what café we'll go to, but I'm uncreative and lazy.
I suppose it's different if you've known each other forever?
I'm asking because a good friend of mine recently told me she finds my lesbianism, quote, confusing, and would rather not have me "act like it" if we're out together.
So I'm wondering if she's being a huge bitch or if heterosexuals generally feel a sort of...cautionary distaste/wariness about homos.
>You do sound very sweet
Ahh... no joke... literally every single girl I've ever dated has at one point called me this rofl.
My best friend once said i'm simultaneously the most effeminately masculine guy she's ever met, and she's a lesbian who hangs around a lot of gay guys lol.
Anyway, it sounds like you guys have history? (as in you've known each other for months/years). That kind of makes the just friendly thing a bit more likely.
If you spent any time with my friend and I (the one I think of like a little sister), it's pretty obvious I adore her (she's like a bottled sunshine and kittens). I treat her differently than I do my best friend, or even my girlfriend, but I don't really think of her at all in terms of relationship or even sexually because I just... can't. Like... I love her, but even if I tried, all I'd get is like a mental white noise.
Maybe he's platonically fond of you? I'm a weirdo, but I guess I'm also living proof it can happen.
Anyway, anything is only as awkward as you make it out to be.
You could just ask, "Hey, tell me if I'm wrong, but you see me as just a friend right?"
He'll probably say yes regardless, but it will also help quash some of the advances that are apparently making you uncomfortable.
For girls, but guys feel free to answer:
If you have a good friend who you know is lesbian/gay, does it feel at all weird spending time with them, do you feel as if they might hit on you or does it make you uncomfortable in any way?
I'm a dude, my best friend is a lesbian. We actually were FWB's for a little bit in the past (both bored, drunk, and lonely). We stopped though and actuallly became better friends afterwards. Now she's just like a bro.
I've also got a long time childhood friend (as a part of a group of friends that we've been close ever since middschool, we're in our mid/late 20's now) that came out as gay a few years ago the final year of college. When he did it, it was more like, "finally, jeez, we've all suspected since highschool". I think we probably knew before he did lol.
One of my friends in the same social circle is pretty homophobic about him. He constantly jokes about not wanting to sleep in the same bed and end up getting molested.
Me personally, IDGAF. Actually, there was this one time when we were sleeping in the same bed, and he started trying to make out with me and unbuckle my belt (we both passed out after a pretty heavy night of drinking). I just pushed him off and told him that I loved him, but not in that way.
I am in a similar situation. I'm a bi dude who is so close with my best friend that on average 3/5 people assume we're in a relationship . . . including his mother. His homophobic, fat, lonely, middle-aged mother. Yesterday when she saw a dog wearing a pink scarf, she mocked my best friend's defense of my bisexuality by saying "now that dog isn't gay, it just happens to have had gay sex"
Guess what? We make the best of the situation by embracing the comedy of it all. We swap stories of people's homophobia or bigotry towards us and laugh together about it, and so the assholes around us only manage to make our friendship stronger.
It just seems like you're a cute, free spirit who likes to spread love. It gives some sort of an innocent vibe, but I know you guys aren't really innocent haha (although your feelings towards your little sister friend sounds absolutely adorable)
We've known eachother for two years. He used to approach me a lot back then, then he and his gf got together, which is honestly still a mystery for me how exactly. She is in the same course as we are, but the both of them never really talked until another guy ditched her and she started to show interest in my crush.
After they got together he stopped talking to me for roughly a year until recently when we randomly met at our local gym. That's when it all started again.
>Maybe he's platonically fond of you? I'm a weirdo, but I guess I'm also living proof it can happen.
It could be? We share a lot of similar interests and I'm sort of tomboyish in my manners (looks not so much)
He also tends to befriend with introverts much more, despite him being an extrovert..
But why does he have to show it in such a weird way?
Can I ask him why he acts like a weirdo all the time or would this be considered as rude?
>be considerate, compassionate and very caring towards this girl
>she becomes this ice-cold bitch who takes me for granted with anything
>make her the butt of every joke and (unseriously) talk shit to her every chance I get
>she radiates with pleasure and melts in my arms
I don't get that. She freely switches between the two if I change it up too.
> It gives some sort of an innocent vibe, but I know you guys aren't really innocent haha
Ha... apparently that's what my girlfriend thought at beginning too, she pretty surprised (and delighted) to learn first hand that wasn't the case ;)
>both of them never really talked until another guy ditched her and she started to show interest in my crush
Ah, so you WANT him to be interested in you? I was under the impression you wanted the opposite.
>Can I ask him why he acts like a weirdo all the time or would this be considered as rude?
You could, but without context, I guarantee you he'll just confused as heck, and potentially slightly offended. That's way too ambiguous and open ended a question.
The question you should ask yourself before you ask him anything, is what is it that YOU would want to accomplish by saying anything? What are your motives in all this? Is it just idle curiosity? Because you still like him? Something else?
>I am in a similar situation. I'm a bi dude who is so close with my best friend that on average 3/5 people assume we're in a relationship . . . including his mother. His homophobic, fat, lonely, middle-aged mother.
That's actually similar to what goes on with my best friend's mother. She at least tries to put on a good face about it, but you can always tell she's insanely uncomfortable about it. For the longest time I think she was hoping that we were secretly a couple haha (most people did).
I honestly suspect that's part of why we ended up hooking up, because she had just gone through a massive car accident (the paramedics said looking at the wreckage, she should have died) was feeling shitty about her life, the pressure of not fitting in, and she met me--who was quickly becoming one of the closest friends she'd ever had--and thought maybe she might have a shot of normal with me (of course, at the time, I didn't realize ANY of that, and thought we were just having sex).
Sucks to hear you were bearing your soul and she crushed it.
Having healthy skepticism to save yourself from further hurt is okay (ie. to watch for truly suspicious behaviors) but it sounds a bit like you're projecting the girl and past hurt onto future possibilities for partners. I think recognizing this inherent bias as well as your desire to have a female partner is important, like weighing out how much you want a partner vs. how willing you are to take a chance for something good or bad to happen rather than having nothing happen at all.
Also, the pictures we paint in our minds always tend to be more malicious than reality and the longer you dwell on the trauma and let it rule over your life, the more trepidation you'll likely have for going out there again.
Can never control the actions of others, only the actions you take for yourself.
What's important is that you give her A STONE COLD STUNNER
Usually the only guys who actually like tits more are dudebros anyway. Unless you're trying to get some fratboy it's fine to have small tits. And fake ones look like shit anyway so there's nothing you can do about it.
You can always do squats for the ass though plus make it look better with underwear/jeans/skirts/yoga pants/whatever
Weird how you give off that vibe through your writing style too tho, your gf seems really sweet btw, good catch.
But now I'm definitely sure you and him are similiar in your behaviour.
>Ah, so you WANT him to be interested in you? I was under the impression you wanted the opposite.
No, no. I really like him, but I have a hard time expressing my emotions. I actually started to avoid him, since I couldn't feel relaxed around him anymore.
I have no idea how he still got the courage to talk to me again and again, despite me being so weird and cold.
>What are your motives in all this? Is it just idle curiosity? Because you still like him? Something else?
No ideaaaaaaaa. If I have to be completely honest, I would probably want a relationship with him. But one part of me says "He has a gf, what are you doing" while the other part says "I was there first, fuck her".
And everyone around me told me that being friends won't work, so.. idk.. but I would like to know his intentions at least.
What a stupid generalization
Asses are for ape-thinking niggers obsessed with useless meat flanks
Boobs are wonderful fluffy soft milky wonders you can sleep on and hug
only if they're fairly independent throughout their daily life. I want to be a partner, not a nurse
it'll make life harder, but be up-front with it to your dates
not for everyone
mostly sex, sometimes romantically
Girls, not sure how to handle this situation.
Beginning of last summer a bunch of coworkers and I got shitted up after final exams and this girl ended up suffering from (what I think was?) alcohol poisoning - I spent three hours in the bathroom with her making sure she was pulling through. Might have been better to call an ambulance, but I was drunk as well.
Fast forward a couple weeks, she wants to talk and thank me for everything - we end up really clicking and see each other again; we end up getting tipsy and having sex. We sort of fall out immediately after that and go the rest of the summer without seeing each other.
Classes start back up and we talk through things after we realize we'll have to sort everything out. Kinda agree to keep our relationship platonic.
A few months ago we go to see a movie together and there was a lot of tension/excitement/etc. I invited her out to dinner afterward and she didn't respond for a couple weeks; when she did, she said that she panicked and didn't want things to get awkward since we'd be working on shift together for the next few months.
Every time we talk I can tell there's that spark. I want nothing more than the opportunity to try at a relationship with this girl. We have a shit ton in common (which is really rare for me) and we both find each other attractive (even more rare). What do you guys/gals think I should do? Wait it out until summer? Let her know how I feel? Any similar experiences?
As a guy, I've had girls be into me, at bars, friends, what ever. Mutual friends would tell me they are into me, or they would themselves after they got over it. Or even worse, I've been in situations where it's clear that I am expected to act.
Every so often I do the "right" thing, but it's too rare. I'm usually too worried about messing up our friendship, our group's friendships, or feeling like a sleaze. (I take it slow, even if it's just for hanky panky.) Also, what if me being more "active" is a turn off, and my "charm" is how I seem oblivious?
How can I get over this problem, without being a creep or being a turn off?
Women are confusing. When you act one way, they act another. All you can do is walk in between the two ways.
Maybe the reason she doesn't like the compassion and care is because she is not emotionally ready for that. It might seem like potential commitment to her.
You have to be able to risk being wrong in order to also risk doing it right. One of my family members lives by the mantra of "I was afraid of doing something wrong" and it's the reason why she's pretty helpless with most things. She can't seem to understand that when she comes to me for help, I'm also afraid of doing something wrong. Doubly so because I'd be screwing something up for her. Yet I try anyway because that's the only way for me to do it correctly and maybe even get better at it. My answer to the possibility of screwing up is simply that I guess I had better not screw up. There's a big hole in the respect I have for her as an adult when she finds that idea incomprehensible.
Everyone-silly thing, but do you think it was most likely my basket and i shouldnt worry so much? I dont want to go down a bad road
>one day come back from class and my bike(locked to itself) has been moved and is missing the basket
>fuck i needed the basket
>2 weeks later i go to unlock my bike after class and see the exact same model bike and basket locked next to mine
>the basket is sorta janky like mine was(cuz I ran over it) and i'm pretty sure its mine
>fuck this thief im taking my shit back, so i did
> your gf seems really sweet btw, good catch.
I like to think so ^_^.
>And everyone around me told me that being friends won't work, so.. idk.. but I would like to know his intentions at least.
I get this impulse, but if you're not ready to act, this is one of those things that's better left unsaid.
Consider his position. The reality is, by confronting him about it, you'd be pushing in him to a corner where he'd have to act, and he'd only have exactly two choices: It'd either force him to give up her or (more likely as she's the actually in the relationship) you.
There are times when forcing that kind drastic of decision is warranted, but that is not at all a fair position to put him in when you yourself don't even know what you feel.
But you seem like a smart enough girl that you probably already realize that, so I'm just reminding you of what you already know ;).
I see your point. I will actively do this. But how can I do it without being too much? I don't think always being a Don Juan would work for me, since that's not who I am - I'm a little more reserved. When it works out for me it's when I've been relaxed, and then go in. But it just kind of happens, usually due to me having had some booze.
What is the balance, how do you apply it?
So like last night (around 11pm), a big group of my friends and some course mates went out for late dinner/supper and I was sitting in front of a girl that I wasn't really close to, but I did talk to her a few times but just on assignments and barely on anything else.
After awhile she was on the phone as I was talking to my other friends then she suddenly slam her phone on the table and started crying. I wanted to ask her if she's ok and cheer her up but I felt too beta and awkward when it's in public and there's a big group. But a few of my friends tried to cheer her up although she was still upset and no one knows why she's upset.
And after everyone's left I texted her at 4am (because I was dealing with another friend as well), I messaged her on Messenger that if she feels terrible or what not still she could talk to me and if not it's good. Then I just went to sleep afterwards.
And after awhile I saw her seeing the message 4 hours later. So I am assuming she's okay already/don't really want to talk about it.
The problem for me now is that I actually felt kind of shy(?) I guess although I was genuinely worried and I felt kind of embarrassed when she didn't reply but I guess she still needs some alone time maybe. But yeah what does everyone think/did I do the right thing or did I just embarrassed myself. (I am bad in social things at times)
>But yeah what does everyone think/did I do the right thing or did I just embarrassed myself. (I am bad in social things at times)
Nah, what you did was fine. No need to think about it again.
This question is really for both sexes but it's quick so i figured i'd ask here.
My girlfriend constantly reminds herself of things I said or did that upset her, even if they're weeks or months in the past, and then she'll become despondent about it. Like she won't talk to me because of something I said weeks ago even though we were happy for the weeks in between.
This is a bad habit she has, right? In the past she's said that "girls dwell on things" but I don't think that's true.
This is true. Women tend to forgive, but never forget. Guys tend to just forget and let live, or else never forgive.
That's why a lot of guy arguments are about one major incident, where as with women it's arguments about a trend of incidents.
That's also why I think the best policy is to just deal with shit as it happens, then and there, in way where it can never be brought up again.
Seriously talk to her about it, tell her that you truly want to help, but that she's not letting you, and it's not fair of her to do that.
Don't be a prick that gives on nothing, but don't coddle the behavior.Work together.
Is it okay to ask a girl out again if she canceled your date last minute?
>girl texts me all day on day of date
>hour before our date ask if she is still free to meet
>says she promised her friends she'd go to senior night and she forgot about it
>say no worries, another time
This was yesterday. She really did go to senior night I'm pretty sure. When and how do I ask her out again?
Alright heres another question. Say you were a girl. And a virgin. And you liked a guy. But you found out he had ED. Would you be okay with that. And by ED I mean boner doesnt last for any extended period of time. Seconds at best after penetration.
I let the girl of my dreams go because of this and I just want it to be over.
That's what's confusing. She texted me first yesterday and seemed really interested in getting to know me.
I'm going to text her and ask her out again, but don't know when I should or what to say
I am in a campus club. Theres guy A who I really like, we get along well and etc etc but i just met him, not sure how he feels or anything. There is guy B who i dont know but am friendly with , and I really want to fuck him. I think he wants to fuck me too, there is sexual attraction that I havent felt in ages.
What are my options? I dont think i can go for guy B and then go flirt with guy A. Fucckkk i havent had sex in 1 year...help me?
How do I stop being an oppressive white male? I need to start appreciating large and experienced women. Unfortunately I have these delusions of being with a girl of a healthy weight who's a virgin . I know, I'm awful, maybe you gents can help me
I am going to rephrase my question with a little background:
>met guy when abroad
>chatted for months on end
>good chem, too good
>both stupid so talked about feelings
>ldr gets a chance
>break up because it hurts to be away
>keep talking on a daily basis anyway
>meet again, amazing day
>oh-oh, still love him
>Valentines: I explode and ask for answers
>he says "we are good friends and, if things were different, we could probably be more than just that"
Question: should I bail or keep on going until I get a chance to move near him again?
I'm applying for a scholarship closer to him (for other reasons), but maybe I should just cut him off entirely?
Same anon, btw
Bail unless/until you actually get that scholarship and move there. You already know first hand that LDR doesn't work for you guys. It's not fair to either of you.
Don't put your life on hold for half a chance at nothing.
> got mad crush on this qt
> asked her out a few months back
> got a vague 'no'
>can't bring myself to cut contact, she is also part of social group
> We talked last night till midnight
>I am monstrously bad at picking up signals
> last time I saw her she kept staring me in the eyes
> like, uncomfortably staring
> I'm a retard
What do I do
What the heck is a "vague no"?
Anyway, best policy when you're dense as fuck, just admit your dense as fuck and ask what's up and if you're misreading things.
If she's in to you, you'll know, if you're misreading things, you'll know. That you won't waste your time obsessing about this dumb shit and can just move on, or move forward.
> hey let's go do <thing>
>> oh sorry I'm totally swamped at work
Even if I did come out I wouldn't be able to get over it I don't think. I'm all fucked up. I guess I posted because I wanted sympathy or something. Frankly I'm positive she isn't interested but I can't get over it
Maybe that's something young women should keep in mind if someone makes a pass at them; be blunt about telling them to kick rocks
I'd agree with you, except there are legit guys who will get butt-hurt about getting rejected like that (I once was late to meet my GF at a bar and a guy started trying to hit on her, and she told him she was waiting for someone and declined the drink he offered her, so he bought it anyway and put in front of her, and then as I got there I saw a look of being insanely butt on his face and he just ghosted).
Also there are guys that will respond like they did with the girl in this thread:
> Be nice to a guy
> Not remotely interested in him whatsoever
> Give him various hints to this, don't respond to flirting, call him "friend" etc
> He asks me out
> "BUT YOU WERE NICE TO ME SO THAT MEANS YOU LIKE ME"
>Holy hell do I need to start being mean because of this? Then they get upset with you because you don't want to go out with them.
>I can understand why bitches are such a common thing now.
I think straight forward honesty is the best policy, but some people are just fucked up and I get why people have be careful sometimes.
it's not like I'm a stranger though. Hell at this point a fucking text or something along the lines of "Hey I know you want my lady like rolls but I think you're ugly, please stop talking to me" would be very welcome.
Fuck it. Next time I see her I'll just ask her out again and go shitpost /r9k/ when she says no
>(not sure the /r9k/ shit)
why not? I already know exactly how it will go
>let's go shoot guns tomorrow
> our groups 'mom' catches wind im harassing her and i get told to gtfo
>now have no date and no friends
Ladies, gents, whoever, feel free to answer.
I'm officially the only guy in my friend group that is single.Everyone thinks I'm funny and cool so they like to have me around but I feel like I'm tagging along, fucking up their double date.
I also appreciate my friends telling me I'm handsome, fit and I'll find someone but it feels like they pity me, which I never invite them to do. I never let them see me sweat; it's just obvious to everyone when we're together that I don't have a date.
Due to taking care of my invalid parents and having no wheels of my own at the moment, it seems I will be single for a while. How can I enjoy time with my happily dating friends without feeling like shit?
eh, just get over it and enjoy yourself.
For a myriad of reasons (>>16822379) I was single and never had a gf 'til I was 26 so I know where you're coming from.
Just do you. Just believe in the fact that you'll find someone when you find someone, and that if they didn't want you around, they wouldn't have invited you out in the first place (I know for a fact that when my girlfriend and I want private time, we certainly don't let anyone get in our way lol).
i'm sure this has been asked before, but what could it possibly mean when a guy goes out of his way to brag about sexual stuff in front of you? i was at work the other day and some girl came up to mine and my coworkers' table at lunch and started talking about this random girl that wanted a threesome from her and her bf. when she walked off, one coworker laughed it off but the other one (i kind of have a crush on, i always catch him glancing at me/going out of his way to see me) started talking about how he was in a threesome once. it was relevant to the convo i guess but still, i thought it was a little weird he would just insert his personal story in there. is he trying to convey a message or do you think he was just saying it to say it? this isn't the first time he's talked about his sex life in front of me, either. we're not close/good friends so there isn't any reason i'd think he'd be so open about something so personal.
He's both bragging and making conversation. It's a shocking thing to speak so casually about, so it's bound to lend some electricity to the conversation.
I say this because I'm a guy and I do the same thing. Usually gets laughs and gets people talking.
If you're interested, ask him out.
That's the only thing that matters. Him talking about this thing or that thing by itself is is no indication of anything whatsoever (short of him that thing being him directly telling you he wants to put his dick inside of you in those EXACT words anyway)
Dislike it. I probably wouldn't want to date someone who does.
Varies. At college? Decent chance of it being platonic, especially if we're in the same class. But who the fuck pretends people are just out to make friends at a club at 3 am?
I'm more of a thicker gal with tits man, but everything is nice. Thighs are also my weak spot.
I'd pursue person A if I was in a similar position. You're right in that fucking someone in his social circle then trying to date him is a terrible idea. Ultimately, you need to decide if a couple of easy lays immediately or a potential relationship is more valuable.
This is petty as fuck, I apologise.
I wanted a fitbit for whatever reason. I don't give a fuck if they're expensive, they help me keep fit and they're fun. It's my birthday in a month.
>gf asks what I'd like for birthday, say I've got everything I already need so anything will be great, I'm buying the new fitbit when it comes out. Do not bother with that though because they're too pricey
>gf hears this and starts looking at similar things
>explain to her it's fine, let me get it because there's a specific one I want
>gf ended up buying one for me
>a Sony SmartWatch 3 which is way more expensive and not even close to what I wanted
>have to wear this thing now and I'm pretty sure it doesn't even record steps properly
Why? I mean it's cool and all but I specifically explained I was after a certain variety. If she had told me she wanted a particular brand of makeup and I purposely said 'nah you'll like this better, have this one,' I'm sure she'd be irritated.
I'm sure I'll get used to it, just really wanted a Fitbit Blaze.
Question for the guys:
If you have a crush on someone, have you ever jacked off thinking about them, either on purpose or it just popped into your head while masturbating? Was it a regular thing for you to do when you had the crush on this person?
This question came up in a game of "have you ever". Everyone but one person in our group of (all female) friends admitted this is something we have done/still do.
Kind of the opposite for me actually. If I had a crush on someone i'd actually not masturbate to them because it felt kind of like objectifying them + creating some weird pussy-on-pedestal association or something.
I've definitely masturbated to memories of my girlfriends ass doing reverse cowgirl or watching her masturbate though lol. I guess the difference there is that pussy is already mine? *shrug*
The girl in our group who thought it was weird was saying that masturbating to someone you know in real life is different than thinking of a celebrity or looking at a picture of someone you've never met, because somehow it's less intrusive or some shit? I have no idea what she was on about. Almost all of us were drunk by that point.
We told her that if a guy liked her, he was probably jacking off while thinking about her. I just thought all guys did that anyway. But I had to ask /adv/ to confirm.
You feel guilt from the love-wank, or guilty from the lust-wank?
That's interesting. So if this is someone you haven't been in a relationship with/haven't actually fucked, you don't want to fantasize about them? It does make sense.
>That's interesting. So if this is someone you haven't been in a relationship with/haven't actually fucked, you don't want to fantasize about them? It does make sense.
Yeah. Same thing applies towards my female friends too. I'll also sometimes avoid thinking of female friends that way if I have any inkling I might be attracted to them on any level.
Actually, thinking about it, I think the only female friend I've masturbated to is probably one of the ones I've slept with. The other, I don't think I ever masturbated to her, because while we've had a one night stand, I felt like we had real potential and insane chemistry--the only problem was we lived like half a thousand miles away from each other lol.
There's even this one girl that in particular that i objectively think is attractive, but she's kind of completely off limits in my head (>>16821721).
Guy here with a large dick and a large amount of random boners per day.
Are women bothered by dick imprints and boners. Obviously not at a formal meeting or anything, but maybe in a cafeteria or at some random activity.
If you're acting normal and not being overly friendly, tryhard funny, or flirty (aka not seeming creepy and just chilling throughout your day) then no, it wouldn't be creepy. Most people probably wouldn't even notice.
I've skied and hiked hundreds of miles with over 70 kg of gear. Once you get it on and get yourself upright moving around isn't that bad desu. You'll just need a good backpack for it.
>wouldn't even notice
The only way they'd not notice is by not even glancing in the general direction of that crotch.
Not that person but Im the same way. Im male, like to keep my sexual partners to the amount you can count on 1 hand though. You cant have special sex with someone after casual sex.
>no child support/custody
Take that part off and you could have your prenup up held in court. The court will automatically dismiss anything that could possibly hurt a child. Secondly you cant have no alimony and no 1/2 belongings if she doesnt have a job.
Its really sad but I didnt marry a woman I really loved because there was no way for me not to get screwed over as she was really poor and I have a business.
Lol no. First of all, that doesn't protect me from him claiming any of my shit, and secondly, if we have children together, he's paying child support. They're his children too, and I should hope he would want to provide for his children.
One of my best friends is gay. He actually helps me a lot with women, since he has introduced me to a lot of the women I've dated, and from time to time, I give him relationship advice as well. Not weird at all, since I'm not his "type", and I'm too much of a "brother" to him. We regularly get drunk and high together and there's never been an issue.
Just got a text from a guy i had some contact a few years ago. We once watched a movie and made out at his place. I have a bf now. The text was just saying hello and asking how i am. How do i react? Ignore it, answer, or answer and say "i have a bf"? Cause i don't want to lead him on, but just not responding seems a bit rude
This girl I'm dating is sending really weird mixed signals.
We've been on two dates so far, both went great. After each date she seemed really eager to see eachother again, text etc.
Then when I ask her out for the next one /both times/ she's suddenly "busy" for 2+ weeks, but proceeds to text me every other day, just to take a literal day to respond back to me.
What the fuck? This is annoying the crap out of me and I really don't know if I should even bother anymore.
Can a guy or girl try to explain what the hell is going on with her?
You see RL equivalent of >pic related.
What do you think?
Girls, how do I find a cute and innocent girl to cuddle and watch anime with?
I got this chick I've been smashing sleeping at my house more and more lately
We're not even fucking some nights but she gets naked sleeps and cuddles with me and leaves in the morning
She makes more money than me and has her own place down the block it's just a bit strange I've been sleeping better now that she's over.
Would it be safe to move in and ask her into a actual relationship?
Aw man, sucks to know that you're right.
I really wish I had told him about my feelings much earlier. Guess I have to move on, but thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it.
Girls would you say body language is an indicator? Stuff like sitting close to a guy and copying his moves because you like him, etc.
Also, is it possible that a girl turns down a date out of shyness? Someone told me this but I still find it weird for someone to turn down a date unless they simply don't like the guy and see no potential in him at all (besides personal unrelated issues, etc.)
If they are bold enough to tell you that they are "too shy to go on a date" it's a lie. If you find out from someone else that this was the reason, then it's legitimate.
For bodylanguage: sure, if i pick the seat next to you all the time, make bodycontact, eyecontact, and so on, that's definitely flirty
>Girls would you say body language is an indicator?
>Stuff like sitting close to a guy and copying his moves because you like him, etc.
What the fuck?
>Also, is it possible that a girl turns down a date out of shyness?
Absolutely. But also because she probably doesn't like that person very much.
"Are you doing anything on Saturday?" Send.
First time in one of these threads. Are they usually this one-sided?
I don't punch back or respond back to assholes/jelly faggots mouthing off and ignore drunken blurs, is this a turnoff?
I will avoid fights if I can but I'm not a roid raging berserker or some shit like that who cracks skulls and ribs in every fight I could get into.
Animal attacks are self explanatory obviously.
Hell fucking no, dont ignore him.
Be a normal human being. Dont assume he only wants sex. Dont assume he gives a fuck if you have a boyfriend or not. And above all, have the "balls" to answer him.
It's not like he can say "well she told me how she is, i bet she wants to fuck now". And if he does he sucks a basic social communication.
Just tell him how you are, generic shit and if the opportunity arises, mention your boyfriend. If he is only in it for the sex he will drop the ball immediately. Don't be to eager to play the " i have a bf" card, ive seen too many girls say that out of the blue and only makes them look paranoid and obsessed.
Well, i didn't take the other anons adv and wrote back cause i felt like a paranoid and rude bitch otherwise.
We exchanged some superficial smalltalk but it didn't take too long untill he asked me to meet up. I told him that we could meet for a coffee or smth, but that i'm not down to go to his apt and watch a movie with him alone since i have a bf and it would be weird. He was quick to tell me that we can just hang out, no need to make out again. Meh, i then told him that i think it's better we don't meet up. I don't want to friendzone him. Feels like i did the right thing.
My girflriend became disrespectful and goes radio silence after approx a year. This is second girl it happened with. 90% interactions are initiated by me. What am I doing wrong? I cannot really figure it out
Sorry but I wouldn't agree.
You shouldn't decide for him if he should meet with you or not. He decides that.
The only thing you are supposed to do is decide if he's worth your time.
If he is a boring piece of shit and you only ever wanted him for a bit of tongue, that's fine, just tell him you aren't interested. If he wanted to know you a bit and maybe grab coffee and talk about life, you aren't in a position to assert that he doesn't want to be your friend.
But well, no biggie either way.
Spanish guys yes, they like to flirt, as italians or french guys, we're used to flirt a lot.
of course but honestly i didnt did it in a long time.
he's confident with his sexuality and is not afraid to speak about it, because sex is fun and fun to speak about it.
What's she do in life? People get busy, not everyone is glued to their phone 24/7, not everyone has the same habits when it comes to texting.
Could be she's playing games, but it could legit be she's busy
You're going at it kind of backwards, generally you move in AFTER you have a relationship for a while. Who knows though, maybe she's a weirdo like you.
>Girls would you say body language is an indicator? Stuff like sitting close to a guy and copying his moves because you like him, etc.
I'm a dude, but having been on a shit ton of dates sitting across from women, which probably puts me in a better position to answer this over most women (you know, unless they're gay)?
Body language is a thing, but it's not a obvious 1 to 1, if any girls does this, it means exactly that interpretation. Every person is different and every one has different habits and idiosyncrasies.
There is a general trend, like mirroring MIGHT mean she likes you, proximity MIGHT mean she likes you, or it could also just be they're used to a closer sense of personal space than you are, or they're subconsciously just nervously mirroring, or whatever.
You need to take in to account the context of who the person is to be able to intuit--not by wrote read and compare--what each "sign" means. And the only way anything gets logged in to your intuition, is by having enough experience under your belt that recognizing the different patterns and trends just becomes second nature.
>do hispanic guys like to flirt?
Probably about as much as any guy from any other race
He was quick to tell me that we can just hang out, no need to make out again. Meh, i then told him that i think it's better we don't meet up. I don't want to friendzone him. Feels like i did the right thing.
Lol, "no need to make out again", sure buddy, sure.
>"no need to make out again"
Yup, he made some other coment before. But when i told him i'm in a relationship he pulled the "nobody needs to know" shit. That's where i dropped the ball.
Guy going to a new city here, there's a girl I really like and she knows the city well. Is it ok to text her and ask her for some advice on stuff she warned me about, then maybe ask where I can get the best hot chocolate in the city - then I'll be like "Any chance you want to come with?"
Is this cringeworthy
6/10 on the cringe scale. That execution is friken terrible.
If you can't more organically ask her out, you may as well just ask her out to begin with rather than going on some massive round about where you (un)smoothly try to hit on her.
Yeah, you're right. I do actually need to text her and about that shit anyway though, it's not just to hit on her. So what do you suggest? I be like "What are you doing this weekend? Do you to grab a hot chocolate at MacFucko's Chocolate Cafe, it looked good on trip advisor"
I have to do this shit via text because I 't see her in person for 3 weeks
Yeah that's way better, I actually need someone to do that with me. Do I ask her if/when she's free first or say Hey, I'm not sure what your schedule's like but when you're free would you mind XYZ"
Sure. Just remember that when you're approaching that cold, your odds are going to be like 1 in 10.
That's fine I gues.... but I have no idea why you feel like you have to throw in a bunch apologetic qualifiers in there.
>texting with girl till late at night as always
>she falls asleep, doesn't read my last messages
>24 hours pass, she still didn't read them, even though she was active on facebook several times during the day
I-is it possible she just didn't notice them? Should I write to her so she sees the yesterday's messages too? Or just wait till she reads and answers on her own?
Alright, so I'm going to text her next week, ask her how she is, then see if she would mind showing me around town a bit. I'm cool with this. I wonder if I can get any money out of betting that she won't text back - do betting sites take bets like that still?
> women don't outright reject men
> opt to ignore them or '''le friend zone meme'''
> essentially string a man along by refusing to actually communicate
> cite possible violence for doing so
> despite the fact that doing the above is infinitely more enraging than a simple no
I don't buy it. Am I not understanding, or are women retarded? I mean I woould be disappointed if I was told I didn't get a job, but I would be angry if they didn't even have the decency to contact me after submitting an application
She's a maelstrom of conflicting emotions and she doesn't want to fuck her life up. Instead of telling us, tell her. This is a situation where the only solution is to sit down in a non judgmental environment and lay it all out.
Go have a picnic or something and talk to each other
If you were in her position, asking to see her like that wouldn't seem too forward or intrusive?
I dunno, guess I'm paranoid as well. But that's good advice, and probably the only way to get anything accomplished.
alright lads i laid it all out there
i told her how i feel about her
i'm washing my hands of this woman
now i get to sit back and watch the fallout
no more wondering about mixed signals or letting hormones get in the way. i am ascending to a higher plane of existence