Not sure where else to write this, but I deserve some chastising. So where else would a masochist go other than 4chan.
I spilled my purse all over a guy I'd been hooking up with since May. I've never met anyone like him, not that he's special. But I've never met someone as similarly wired, down to the strangest random quirks he did shit I thought only I did. It isn't the end of the world, but I've never felt such a legitimate attraction to someone for the right reasons. I deleted his contact to spare myself from embarrassing myself further. shit sucks. More specifically: I suck. I guess it was the first guy I went beyond my comfort zone, and the first time I actually pursued someone. Low self esteem yields to dating losers.
I lost a fuck buddy and I'm legitimately saddened. Honestly, I should stick to losers. I'm totally just as akin to them.
He'll never know how much he pulled me from a depressive state, or made me feel like I could attain things I didn't previously think I could. And I'll just look like a total dingis if I shared that with him. Fuck me.
eh, i asked if he wanted me to stop talking to him and i never heard back. i figure that's a pretty solid answer
this is me spilling my purse. i basically didn't comprehend that casual meant sex only
Jeez, sounds like he's fucking done.
Ok, so move on.
Truth be told I went through a hard break up last year. "Break up" is a strong word. We went on a couple dates. Really wanted her but she didn't.
It hurt when she stopped responding.
But that's happened to me before. It'll happen again.
That's life, right? It hurts until it doesn't.
Keep going on. Try to forget him.
The thing that I've always found expedite that situation is to find someone new.
Go out there and find someone.
Oh My GOD, I did not know what you meant by "spilling your purse", and certainly didn't take it to mean "fucking everything up with a scorched earth policy and imposing nuclear winter on the victims that not even cockroaches are likely to survive and that, in any event, shall leave the living envying the dead".
Is that in Urban Dictionary?
i was quoting pokebridged, i totally took it as a chide. i'm seriously bummed but it's not the end of the world. i have a job interview on friday for a senior artist job! so there's that! that's basically my reoccurring theme: successful-ish career/terrible romance life.
If you had it the other way around, you'd be in some great romantic tragedy and dying by Act III. Good luck in the interview (bet you nail it) and in your love life. Pro tip: you can do better than this loser anyway.
ayy You're drunk.
You're doing it, anon.
Booze is one of the pillars of successful adult life.
Because shit is too much to deal with on its own.
But trust me on this, don't get too attached to the sauce.
You may find yourself unable to give it up.
i'm going to imagine there's a parallel variant to myself currently experiencing that, and suddenly i feel much better!
seriously though anons, thank you. this totally wasn't the response i was expecting, but it really has helped
There's nothing wrong with developing feelings. However this is one of the reasons why I don't like dealing with fuck buddy situations, because it makes everything all unclear and uncomfortable.
You'll meet someone else, and try to be more straightforward with your intentions from the get go. Just focus on yourself till you move on from this situation.
The joke is that by tradition, when 4chan folk want the "source" of a (porn) image macro, we say "sauce" (like "guise" for "guys") - so when you're actually on the sauce, that should correspond to "source"
I'm sorry your first time was awful, and I'm sorry you lost this guy. It sounds like be was special, despite your protests. Do his memory proud and learn what you can from this. Which could be anything from don't over share to keep fuck buddies in their boxes. And don't drink too much, building up a tolerance sucks when you need to numb up.
You're shit out of luck.
Go a couple hundred miles north, and then we talk.
You gotta buy your booze on your own.
I know a true nigga in Chicago. You'll never meet him, probably, but they exist there.
We're all in this shit together.
May god have mercy on my hangover tomorrow.
Oh I get it now. It's a bit of a stretch ,but I get it.
Saying "I'm on the source" makes you sound like fucking Neo or some shit
i know i'm a little buzzed, but you folks are collectively my best friend right now. i wish i could give you people hugs.
i need to screen this thread so i don't forget the amazing advice.
If you're still in this thread. It's over. You showed feelings and he's definitely not interested. You might be able to hit him up in like a few weeks or something though. BUT JUST CASUAL. If you're saying "sorry" then it's not casual. stop giving a fuck
As someone who has been in a relationship with a woman who has kids(who were not that much younger than me [she is 12 years my senior]) this is not heavy purse dumping. I dealt with far heavier stuff...although it was a relationship, not casual. I don't mean to blow your head up op, but if it was me I would not have freaked. I think he was looking for an easy out for whatever reason. His loss.
This, absolutely. It's not uncommon for people in a relationship to feel uneven amounts of affection for each other, but it becomes magnitudes more profound and hurtful when one side feels none at all and the other does, and it almost always happens.
Best wishes, OP. Others have already given good advice, so I'll just reiterate that you deserve to have someone in your life that makes you happy in a reciprocal way. Be kind to yourself, okay?
I agree with this guy OP. That response was not proportionate to what you asked as was borderline cruel. But yeah, next time maybe consider "I'm new to a casual arrangement and if you want to make it more serious I'm down for that" rather than a essay. Again, it looks to me that he was just using it as an out.